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How are you managing these days? You know, parenting is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. Some days I get it right, and well, some days I don't.
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Welcome, my friend! I am so happy to see you here...thank you for spending a few minutes with us! Can you believe this is our Fall edition already? Where does the time go?
I put together this community of Parent Coaches to help me with the days I don't get it right. Their ideas and guidance give me space to find tools and strategies to connect with my kids and find calm in my home, but it isn't just that...they also remind me that my bad days don't define me, and I am definitely not alone. I hope you find their words and ideas helpful. I know I do. But let me back up a bit. Do you even know what a Parent Coach does? If not, you are in the right place to explore what a Parent Coach can do for you and your family. To me, they are everything! Keep reading because I will: We aren’t here to preach and tell you what to do we are here to love and encourage you on your journey your unique journey. See you inside, you awesome parent, you!
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THANK YOU! 519 645 7342 | info@parentguide ca Jennifer McCallum Founder of the Parent Coach Club I don't even know where to start when I think about how grateful I am to be here, with you, doing what I love, day in and day out! This issue is all about the people that help us help our kids to grow into the independent, incredible adults they are destined to be. I am lucky enough to work with the best Parent Coaches from across the world as they make it their life mission to transform families from chaos to connection. Please join me as I celebrate each and every one of them in this special issue! And, if you are raising or working with kids and struggle with anything, please reach out to these Parent Coaches...they are here for you! Are you a Parent Coach? Consider becoming a Parent Coach Club Member! We meet for monthly Mastermind Calls, Case Study Calls, and Business Training sessions where you gain the skills to grow your business along with others doing this valuable work https://www.jenmccallum.com/jointheclub 2⎟ WWW.PARENTCOACH.CLUB Let's Connect www parentcoach club
WHO & WHAT'S INSIDE 50 PATH TO PEACE WHAT IS A PARENT COACH? Our Story CONFLICT RESOLUTION Ashley Ladouceur Deborah Porter Dr. Juliet Marciano KIDS' MOTIVATION Cai Graham MORNING RUSH Leslie Josel Sonja Montiel Amy Soloner Linda Bolinger Deanne Barrett GOOD PARENTS Kate Garzón TANTRUMS VS. MELTDOWNS Aparna Venkataraman Kim Muench Wanda Robichaud Janet Taylor 28 54 50 519 645 7342 | info@parentguide ca www.parentcoach.club WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟03 04 05 06 10 14 16 18 22 26 28 32 34 36 42 46 50 52 54 56 58 62 64 10 22
Take time to identify what is holding you back from peace in your home. 1S T E P 3 Find a Parent Coach. Our Parent Coaches specialize in all areas from tantrums to paying for college and everything in between. 2 IDENTIFY WHAT YOU NEED S T E P S T E P FIND A PARENT COACH TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE Transform your life and relationships. Implementing just one small idea can have a huge impact in your life. YOUR PARENTING PATH TO PEACE
Successfully achieve your parenting goals by asking the right Implementquestions a step-by-step action plan to handle challenges Find new possibilities by sharing new perspectives and strategies to shift behaviour and family dynamics Behavioural concerns Family changes or crisis PositiveMentalChildSelf-caredevelopmenthealthparentingpractices Parent coaches are experts trained to handle many different parenting issues... ...with positive, practical solutions. Unlike therapists who treat diagnosed mental health conditions, parent coaches are consultants who provide tools, activities, guidance and support to parents and families. A parent coach can help you individually or in a group setting by giving you the means to help you and your child: Parent coaches offer proactive yet practical solutions to a long list of parenting issues, including: As you can see in the articles in this magazine, they specialize in these topics and many more. Find a Parent Coach to give you and your family the help you need. We are one click away! Parent coaches offer proactive yet practical solutions WHAT IS A PARENT COACH? FIND A PARENT COACH SEARCH WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟05
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I guess you could say I was a typical first time mom. I wanted to do it all perfectly and never mess up. I wanted to show the world that I could do it all and do it well. And then my first child was born. That was almost 23 years ago. Bringing home our baby was terrifying. I was lost. I was tired. I was frustrated. I needed help but I didn't know where to go to get it. I had trouble with everything breastfeeding, dealing with the lack of sleep, maintaining my relationships and having enough confidence to know what I was doing was right...the whole gambit! At the time, I was sent home from the hospital with bags and bags of pamphlets and fliers. I was expected to sift through and find the resources I needed. Well, this tired mom couldn't find them at all..there were so many pamphlets to go through and each time I would call a listed organization, they would send me to another one. It was like a wild goose chase just to get a straight answer. There was no Google to go to when I needed help with one specific thing like breastfeeding, first foods for baby, diapering, and daycare
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"THERE HAD TO BE A BETTER WAY...I KNEW I WASN'T ALONE."
We ended up back in the hospital with our new baby a few days after the birth. It was a traumatic experience for all of us and thanks to the fabulous nurses, we were able to make it through and leave a few days later with a healthy baby Fast forward a few months later when I found it difficult to find information about things like: cloth diapering, organic food, community playgroups, and daycare options I felt like it was a full time job to research all the choices I had to make as a parent, and in the process was saddened by the time I was missing out on just enjoying my new baby. There had to be a better way...and I knew I wasn't alone. If I was going through this, there must be other parents out there who had the same trouble finding information. I spent the next two years researching in a fog of worry, stress, confusion, and the ever present overwhelm. I tried to go back to work and wondered if I would ever find any work as rewarding as raising my baby It seemed like life had gone on for everyone else and I was still trying to figure out this new mom gig and failing And then, one day, it became clear what I needed to do I needed to help other new parents so they didn't have to go through what I did
How could I help other parents? Maybe a pamphlet would help...one that listed all the community resources something like the phone book (remember them?) but just for parents??? I called the maternal newborn care units at the local hospitals and asked them if they would hand out a pamphlet of resources if I put it together Without question, they agreed That pamphlet ended up being a 100 page book!
That first year, with a toddler and 5 month old baby, we delivered our first edition of the books to the hospitals as promised For 18 years, I printed parenting resource books that went to every new parent after their baby was born. 16 of those years I also printed a School Age edition for parents of kids starting school. I expanded to new cities and before I knew it, we had printed 59 editions! What a ride.
ITSEEMEDLIKELIFE HADGONEONFOR EVERYONEELSE ANDIWASSTILL TRYINGTOFIGURE OUTTHISNEWMOM GIG...ANDFAILING. JENNIFER MCCALLUM
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And, then my kids grew up and became teens. It was yet another stage I wasn't prepared for. When my first baby was born, I created resource books...when the first two kids entered school, I created a school age book...but teens...this was a whole new area to navigate...and I wasn't ready! I felt like I was always the last one to the party the party of understanding teens I struggled with the everyday things that teens go through, not willing to give up control, and adding a lot of stress, shame, and guilt, onto both my teens and myself In the midst of this, we also adopted twins I knew I needed to be better than I was. I knew that if I just had the key to the answers, I would be the best mom ever. I had four kids counting on me now. That is when I discovered Parent Coaches. They changed my life. I began working with them and my relationship with my kids became better. I also felt better about myself and that forward positive motion really does create more peace at home. They gave me tools and strategies to use to build our relationship. In fact, one small idea created the biggest impact....and I got this in a 30 minute chat with a Parent Coach! At the same time, I was also pivoting my business and wondering what I could do next to continue to help parents, without printing thousands of books each year Google was a much better, environmentally friendly way to find resources now The answer was right in front of me. Parent Coaches! I could help Parent Coaches grow their business so they could help more parents, like me. But, there was a problem not many parents had even heard of what a Parent Coach could do for their family. I set out with one main mission: Create awareness of Parent Coaches so that families could find the joy and peace that we were experiencing. Now, this is a very short overview of how we got here It was not easy and some days I even wondered if I was cut out to be a mom. There is a link below if you want to read more, but I want to leave you with one thing to consider.... What do you want your relationship to be like when your kids are adults? I wanted mine to be better, and thanks to Parent Coaches, this is exactly what I got. My kids are now 22, 20, 15, and 15. I may be a bit biased, but I think they are the best kids in the world and I am grateful that I worked with Parent Coaches so I could be the mom they needed me to be. It's a work in process, but I am getting there!
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STEP-IN OR STEP ASIDE? THE PARENTAL ROLE IN CONFLICT RESOLUTION B Y : L A L A I N E F R A N K E L , P A R E N T I N G W I T H L A L A I N E , I N C .
Adults can also help to add clarity to the situation by facilitating language for toddlers.
As children get older and more skilled, begin weaning parental involvement in disagreements, step away, and trust in their abilities to figure things out for themselves
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Remember, it is not your job to “fix” conflicts for your children but rather to “coach” them towards being able to eventually resolve conflicts on their own.
If your kids' fighting triggers your ugly side, here is permission for you to step aside and find your inner calm during the chaos.
Problem solving, brainstorming, listening to another perspective, advocating for oneself, negotiating, compromising, weighing benefits and consequences, trying ideas, failing, succeeding, making amends just a sampling of important life skills that go unpracticed and underdeveloped when parents intervene in the learning process too hastily. Of course, very young children will need guidance in navigating conflict resolution so stay close to teach them the basics and to keep everyone safe from physical harm
Stepping in too quickly when children have squabbles deprives them of much needed practice in valuable conflict resolution skills.
Practice means progress. Every skill takes practice to master. Without experience, skills and confidence in those skills take longer to develop So, be clear about the rules of engagement and then step aside and give children room to practice what is needed for them to become confident problem solvers. If you must step in, be a curious bystander rather than a referee Ask leading questions that provide clarity to the situation and redirect the focus if necessary. For example, if the kids are stuck on assigning "blame/shame" or focusing on "who’s right/who's wrong " , the curious bystander may inquire about the problem they are trying to solve to get things back on track and away from assigning fault.
Practice means progress. Every skill takes practice to master. Your silent presence can also serve as a visual reminder that physical and verbal abuse is never tolerated. Conflict in life is inevitable. So, becoming skilled in problem solving and knowing how to work through disagreements is important Mistakes will happen along the way and are actually wonderful opportunities to fully learn emerging skills. With this in mind, refrain from getting in the way of progress. Let your children work together to find their own mutually agreed upon solutions and you can work on techniques to maintain your own inner peace.
Lalaine Frankel is an educator and parent coach who specializes in improving sibling relationships within the family She works with parents to help them reduce sibling rivalry, manage sibling conflict, and strengthen sibling bonds She does this through 1:1 coaching, group coaching, and parent education. She is also the mother of four grown children and the founder of Parenting With Lalaine, Inc.
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Ashley Ladouceur G . R . E . A . T . P A R E N T I N G P A R E N T C O A C H What do you do? I coach parents of children age 1 to 10 helping them move from questioning their parenting to being the confident parent they are meant to be. I do this through 1:1 Coaching Sessions and a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership. What issues do you deal with? Parental overwhelm Setting and implementing routines Setting and holding boundaries Finding confidence in your parenting choices How can you help? I offer a 6 week 1:1 coaching program as well as a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership tailored specific to the members needs and concerns. How can you help? I offer a free 20-minute discovery call to chat more about your goals as a parent and as a family. We will then move ahead and book our first of six one hour a week sessions. In the membership you will find many resources, webinars and access to our monthly meet-ups!
I highly recommend Ashley to any parent that is struggling or just needs support! She helped me realize how important some "me" time is and that I'm not the only one that has tough days with their little ones. My mornings are way less stressful thanks to the simple solutions Ashley helped me come up with. Thank you Ashley! K. M.
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Deborah Porter M O M C O A C H What do you do? I support moms who feel overwhelmed and lost in motherhood and at times wonder who they are. The girl you were before having kids, her dreams and goals still matter. We get to work creating the strategies and systems that will support you in creating the atmosphere you want and a life that you love. What issues do you deal with? Overwhelm, Faith, Confidence, Finding Peace, Raising Daughters/Sons How can you help? I provide strategies and systems to help you gain the clarity you seeking on what needs to be done, building confidence in yourself and your instincts as a mom and woman and finding the courage to determine what it is you need and how to get it. What can I expect? I offer a FREE 30 min. strategy call after filling out the application to work with me. If we decide to work together, we will begin scheduling calls and I will provide you access to the curriculum. Apply here: bit.ly/letschatmom
I am the wife of my college sweetheart Clif, for 30 years and mother of 3 adult children 29, 25, 23 and a bonus son. Currently, a regular guest contributor on Virginia This Morning on CBS WTVR and you can read my guest blogs on CollegiateParent here https://www.collegiateparent.com/author/debor ah-porter/ . We are enjoying the empty nest phase and love when we get to spend time with our adult children. All about Deborah! About me... How can I find you?
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What do you do? As a Mindset Coach for Parents and a PCI Certified Parent Coach®, I help parents gather the information and develop the skills they need to reclaim the joy of parenting, no matter what challenges they face or struggles they encounter, and then lead their family to thrive!
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What issues do you deal with? I support parents of children with special needs and extra needs. This includes any child with a physical, mental, emotional, behavioral, or learning difference or a family going through a challenging situation such as a divorce. How can you help? My coaching is a strength based, positive focused process. Using my 6 step “Path to Possibility” I incorporate general parenting topics as well as exploring the concepts of mindfulness, neuroscience, resilience, conscious parenting, problem solving, motivation, self care, managing a healthy relationship with digital media and screen technology, and more! The first step involves a shift in mindset and perspective, and we go from there!
“I wish I had met her 10 years ago! She ‘gets it’ and she understands my struggles and doesn’t judge me for my mistakes.” C. U. parent of 2 "After working with Juliet, for the first time in a long time, I’m not afraid of our future and I’m enjoying my children!” J. H. parent of 2 “Working with Juliet gave me hope that my children will be ok, even with all the challenges we are facing as a family.” S. M. Parent of 2 “Before we finished the first call, I was feeling better already!” M H “Juliet has always been so helpful, caring, and knowledgeable when guiding me through some challenging parenting times She has helped me to understand, that my job is to help my kids figure out who they are, at their core, and to support them in being the best version of themselves With Jul’s coaching, I have become a more confident parent ” H P Mother of 2 We start with a 20 minute complimentary consultation call to discuss your family’s challenges and how your family will benefit from coaching. I offer coaching through phone or video calls in a variety of situations from a 2-hour focused call to a 12-week individual coaching program. As your coach, I am a compassionate, non judgmental partner who works with you to bring about your family’s transformation! After working with me, parents enjoy their parenting experience more. Not only are they calmer, but they are better able to accept and embrace their children for who they are, build and maintain connection with their children, and feel confident as they face any challenges that arise. All about Dr. Juliet!
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GOTKIDS? worried?struggling?lookingforanswers? YOUARENOTALONE!
By Kimberlynn Lavelle, Your Parent Help OUR KIDS' NATURAL MOTIVATION
Yesterday, I asked my 2 year old to grab my shoes for me. She excitedly ran and grabbed them. Later, she grabbed a dry washcloth to clean up some spilled water (without being asked). And about a dozen times, she came up to me asking to read various books. She loves to help and she loves to read. I don’t ever want her to lose either of those things. And because of my years of experience and research, I’m very aware that most kids lose their motivation for reading and Parentscleaning.want their kids to have intrinsic motivation, and yet, it is what we, daycares, and schools do that kills motivation! The three motivation killers are: punishment, rewards, and praise! (A bit shocking, isn’t it?)
Reading, writing, mathematics, athletic endeavors, and playing music are wonderful and pleasurable activities for people to engage in. If we start rewarding a child for engaging in any of these, we are sending the message that they are not inherently enjoyable. We are telling kids that they shouldn’t like these activities. They should only like TV, tablets, candy, etc.
send the message that you believe the child has willfully chosen to do the “wrong thing” create a power struggle between child and adult can cause kids to feel like they are bad or dumb
Punishment Most punishment in schools these days is usually about taking something away from a child: “You didn't do your work, you don't get to go out to recess.” “You didn't do well enough, you get an Similarly,F.” at home we will take things “Youaway:yelled at me, you don’t get to watch TV today” (or ride your bike, or play on the tablet, etc) All of these punishments: Rewards We can also flip some punishments to be rewards or bribes: “if you do your homework, then you can watch “IfTV!”you read this page to me, you get an M&M!” … leading to all the same problems. We’re letting kids know that doing the homework or reading is not worth doing unless they are being “paid” to do it. “If you do A, I’ll give you B” lets the child know that A is a bad thing and B is a good thing. If they already like A, they quickly start to realize that they’re not supposed to. If your kid loved eating broccoli, you could kill that love pretty quickly by telling them they only get ice cream if they eat their broccoli.
Praise Praise is a specific type of reward. Saying, “good job” tells a child that they are being evaluated. It lets the child know that there is a right and wrong way to do things and that they had better be careful not to do the wrong thing.
If a child is working on writing, and they’re told, “great sentence!”, they’re likely to use a similar sentence in their next piece of writing.
Many famous, award-winning authors were rejected by dozens of publishers before being published and recognized for greatness. Those professional publishers didn’t think the book was good enough but now it’s being taught in classes on literature. Another person’s judgment doesn’t really matter. It does matter whether or not your child is able to learn and grow from what they are doing. It does matter how they feel about their writing. So, ask them questions: “How do you feel about the paragraph?”
“What are you going to work on improving next time?”
You can guide and teach without your child feeling evaluated.
Studies have proven that this can kill creativity. If a child is told that their drawing is beautiful, they’re less likely to risk drawing something different because they’ve gotten the message that some are beautiful and some aren’t, and they already know what is safe and approved.
“What part do you feel you really nailed?”
“Are you aware of the conventions around dialogue? May I show you how dialogue is marked in a text?” OR “Do you know how most English writers show when characters are speaking to each other? May I show you?”
Cai Graham M U M , P A R E N T I N G E X P E R T , A U T H O R & S P E A K E R What do you do? I help Parents Support their Children - so that Together we can Build a Mentally Healthier and Happier Generation of Young People. What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, Confidence, Communication, Discipline, Motivation, Self Care, Self Harm. How can you help? The TEEN Toolbox™ series is basically the Umbrella under which I work. It is my collection of products and services that are specifically geared towards parents and their teenagers. These include: courses, consultations, in home visits, and retreats What can I expect? Well that all depends on what product or service you are using. Above all I want to leave you with takeaways. Practical techniques and tools that will equip you with the challenges that you are dealing with. I offer a free 30 minute call www.caigraham.com/discovery
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There is also the opportunity to be part of our online community Join me and other like-minded parents where questions and challenges can be shared and addressed Take this course your kids will, thank you, one day! : This is the opportunity to work with me personally ( from hourly calls to coaching packages ) I love these sessions, as they are a fantastic opportunity for me to connect with you at a deeper level and a great way for us to work together more closely; without judgement and with a sprinkling of humour! with me directly will help you achieve your parenting goals faster. We can address the issues that are unique to family deal with everyone’s challenges child teen
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HELP YOUR KIDS HELP THEMSELVES FOR A SMOOTHER START TO THE DAY " G E T T I N G K I D S O U T T H E D O O R I N T H E M O R N I N G I S A P E R E N N I A L P A R E N T I N G C H A L L E N G E — A N D A D H D D O E S N ’ T M A K E I T A N Y E A S I E R . O U R O R G A N I Z I N G C O A C H E X P L A I N S H O W T O H E L P Y O U R K I D S H E L P T H E M S E L V E S F O R A S M O O T H E R S T A R T T O T H E D A Y . " Q: How Can I Manage the Morning Rush? by Leslie Josel ADHD Academic Coach Q: “Mornings are tough. We’re on time or close most days but only with a Herculean effort to keep our daughter on track. I struggle with wondering how much we’re enabling versus supporting. How can we help her be more self sufficient?” ADHD Mom Wishing For Good Mornings
Pack lunches and snacks. To make mornings less hectic, prepare school lunches the night before. Have your daughter help you and build it into her evening routine. Hi ADHD Mom: Ah, mornings. They’re always stressful because, unfortunately, they come with a deadline. Which is why my rule of thumb is this: Anything that can be done the night before should be! Since I don’t know exactly where the breakdown is (does your daughter have a hard time getting out of bed, or does it take her too long to pick out her clothes?), here are a few of my general suggestions to help create a smooth morning routine. Lay out clothes and toiletries for the next day. This includes everything from accessories to undergarments to shoes and coats to toothbrushes and soap. Take all of tomorrow’s clothing out of the bedroom and leave it either in the kitchen or the bathroom closest to the kitchen. By removing clothing, you’re also removing the temptation for your daughter to make time wasting trips back to her bedroom.
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Set up a launching pad. This is a designated place in your home to keep the belongings that go back and forth to school everyday. A launching pad removed the stressful “I can’t find my notebook” or “Where are my gym sneakers?” from the morning equation. Pick a heavily trafficked location; it could be by your front door, in the mudroom, or outside your daughter’s bedroom. Backpacks, completed homework, library books, and musical instruments should all be stored here.
Make a reminder checklist. List items such as keys, lunchboxes, homework, instruments, and sports equipment that you know your daughter will need. (Pictures work well for younger children.) Tack the list to a corkboard or clipboard and hang it right by the launching pad for her to see. In the evenings we have the luxury of time, which allows children to make decisions without feeling rushed and pressured. For a 10 year old, that’s a wonderful way to promote self-sufficiency. If you’re looking for more tips and tools for smoother mornings, please check out my book, What’s the Deal with Teens and Time Management? A Parents’ Guide to Helping Your Child Succeed. I devote an entire chapter to creating calm and cooperative mornings for everyone!
Order Out of Chaos is built on the philosophy that the coaching process is a journey that begins and ends with YOU. Our process is organic it evolves as we figure out TOGETHER what needs changing and what works best for you. The end results are tailor made to fit your needs. We will focus you and help you, but YOU set the pace and the tone. D E R O U T O F C H A O S What do you do?
Order Out of Chaos’ mission is to provide hands on education, guidance and coaching to parents and their students through our customized products and programs, so all children both mainstream and with learning issues – can develop the necessary skills they need to experience success in learning and in life. Knowing how to help your child develop the skills they need doesn’t come naturally for everyone.
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Academic Planners now on sale Buy the book Time Management for our Teens How can I find you? You can connect with me here. What can I expect? You can expect to be supported, guided and nurtured. The Order Out of Chaos community is a robust and active community. We provide workshops and webinars, products and programs, group and one on one coaching for both parents and their students. Everything is available virtually. So you choose how and to what extent you need support and coaching. How can you help? We coach both parents and students to help with study skills, ADHD management, executive functioning skills, time management, procrastination and so much more. What issues do you deal with?
Sonja Montiel, M.A. C O L L E G E C O N F I D E N C E What do you do? While maintaining a compassionate relationship, I train parents to become the best educator for their teens so they can feel confident about plans after high school. What issues do you deal with? I focus on communication skills and knowledge specific to helping your teens create a plan ready to implement as they approach high school graduation. Topics include college affordability, college admissions options, career training, identifying the right majors for teens, building the college list, college essay writing strategies, and so much more! What can I expect? Let’s schedule a 30-minute call to talk about your needs and your starting point! We will determine which service plan is best for you which can include our: comprehensive workbook with action plans, templates, and agenda samples, online podcast training program if you are always on the go, 10 session online parent course, and/or one to one coaching
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“I have been working with College Confidence for years and I truly will not work with anyone else. Sonja's experience is unmatched. She is professional and an expert in college admissions. She will not only advocate for your child, but will be a critical pillar in your family's journey. She's that good!”
“Thank you again for your wonderful presentation/talk for our group. I feel we all (parents and students) learned quite a bit from you that night My daughter and I both agreed the way you presented the college process, was with a lot of positive influence and enthusiasm You made it sound challenging about writing ‘your story’ but in a way that made the girls feel special and that it is ok to like yourself and tell college why they would benefit from the you as the applicant To go for it!”
“Sonja gave me the communication tools to allow me to take charge of the college process I was familiar with the college application process, however was clueless on how to have impactful and meaningful conversations with my teen. My daughter and I are so much more closer! Thank you so much!”
Helping teens plan their paths after high school can create tension and conflict in the home mostly because families are waiting too late to begin, or there isn’t enough information on what the options are, what requirements fulfill each option, and how to engage with teens to ignite their motivation to be active in making a plan. As an expert in the field of college admissions for 20 years, I will provide training and coaching that places teens at the center of planning. Parents and teens will no longer have to face this educational journey with uncertainty, worry, and confusion! How can you help?
PARENT AND TEEN COACH What do you do?
I am a parent and teen coach specializing in teens and tweens, especially those preparing to graduate from high school. What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, depression, eating disorders, life skills, sports/dance nutrition and well being. How can you help?
I offer 1:1 and family coaching, classes and support groups for both parents and teens. I offer comprehensive assessments for both mental and nutritional health as needed, including blood work and physical evaluations. What can I expect? I offer a 20 minute free consultation to assess your teen and families needs. From there we determine what the most supportive approach will be for your family.
Amy Saloner
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Teens Rites of Passage, Parent Coaching and Teen Coaching with Amy Saloner, LCSW FNTP How can I find you? You can connect with me here: 1- Put your hand on your heart and take three slow, deep breaths 2- Envision a peaceful, connected moment with your teen in your mind’s eye 3- Send love out to your teen. Visualise pink light radiating out from your heart and enveloping your teen. Three things you can do right now to create an energetic connection with your teen. WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟37
The Resilient Family Course was a lifeline in the midst of the pandemic for me and Amy’s guidance was a gift. This class taught strategies to keep my family balanced and well both physically and emotionally during times of stress. Katherine E. Amy is an experienced educator with a wealth of knowledge in so many areas. She listens attentively to students, uses a variety of innovated learning and teaching styles, and guides them through the curricula with clear and articulated instruction. Amy has a way of teaching which motivates students to believe in themselves and make changes in their lives. Dr. DeLaney I got a better understanding of how to properly fuel my body and what consists of a “well rounded” meal. Most of all, I got a general idea of how to become more resilient. Dance Student
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Linda Bolinger I N T U I T I V E M E N T O R & T H E T A H E A L I N G P R A C T I T I O N E R What do you do? I help parents and teens strengthen their relationship with SELF. How is this accomplished? I utilize my intuition to navigate to the origin of emotional blocks, negative experiences and beliefs that are negatively impacting your current relationship with self and others. Together we will peel the layers, with clarity, intent and new perspective, to release what no longer serves you and your teen. What can I expect? Results. Clarity & new perspective. Resolution to undesired situations & experiences that will leave you feeling light, without carrying the emotional “load.” How do I get started? I invite you to connect with me via email or social media to book your FREE 30 min clarity call to chat about the specific needs and changes you are looking for in your current relationship. Once enrolled in my mentorship, we will create a plan that is tailored to your specific needs and schedule weekly sessions to jump into desired change.
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You will strengthen your intuition and align to #BYObestself in this 10hr FLEXIBLE program. Let your weekly sessions be tailored to you and the needs of your teen. If you are READY to shift out of your current situation and create change that lasts, this program is for you. Step into joy, positivity and a future that excites you, with the tips, exercises and healing that comes with this program! Invest in SELF to experience the change you are longing for.
Linda is my absolute go to person when I need support, clarity and direction She has helped me find my way through many moments I have felt lost Linda has also helped my teen age daughter through many typical teen age struggles My daughter is a much happier person after her sessions with Linda She works with Linda on a regular basis now and is doing amazing!! Thank you Linda for the work you do. My family is very grateful to have you on our side. Jennifer Funnell (Ontario, Canada) Linda is a gifted healer - she intuitively gets to the source of my obstacles and answers questions I didn't even know how to ask. I know that I can get on a call with her and I can trust that I'll feel better in just 60 minutes. She's helped guide me ….to follow my intuition and trust how to be in the flow. Before our session today, I felt untethered, lost in space, disconnected from my body anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed and definitely not creative! After our session I felt re inspired, like a weight was lifted off my shoulders and I felt connected to myself again I highly recommend you go to Linda when you need help that you can't always put words to she'll figure it out! Jen Pillow (British Columbia, Canada) Working with Linda is a great experience overall Coming in to sessions and working with Linda helped me clear my mind and really think rationally after As well it calms and relaxes your mind and body during sessions Working with Linda really helped me think about different aspects of situations, and working on finding out more about myself After leaving I felt very positive and clear minded always looking forward to the next session Nicholas ~ 18 years old (Ontario, Canada)
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Deanne Barrett R A D I A N T L E A D E R S H I P C O A C H I N G F O R M O M S What do you do? I offer online coaching to sensitive, empathic moms who want to be a strong leader for their pre teens and teens What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, resentment, frustration, energy leaks, boundaries. How can you help? I help moms connect to deeply sourced LOVE energy to be the compassionate and strong leader their teen needs. What can I expect? I offer a free 30 minute call to see if we are good fit for one of my private or group coaching programs. Private calls happen once a week over the phone. Group coaching happens over the phone and video conferencing. Ask me how to gain access to my library of resources, and my monthly Radiant Mom Tribe calls!
This work has transformed the way I see my teens and it has given me a gift to help them develop their confidence and achieve their goals.” –Deb Hemmaway
I find that Deanne presents topics in a very positive, mindful and deliberate way. After the coaching calls I feel grounded and inspired to connect with my daughter in a new way. This is in contrast to some presentations when I leave feeling deflated and thinking “I should do this” or “I should be this”. – Jutta Shaw “This is really working! I’m glad I chose this coaching over therapy, because instead of ruminating over what’s not working, I have some clear, practical things that I can try” – Rebecca, mom of a high school aged son
How to be a Leader for your Teen How can I find you? You can connect with me here: 1- Put your hand on your heart and take three slow, deep breaths 2- Envision a peaceful, connected moment with your teen in your mind’s eye 3- Send love out to your teen. Visualise pink light radiating out from your heart and enveloping your teen. Three things you can do right now to create an energetic connection with your teen. WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟47
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By Kate Garzon Guided Parenting Support
Good parents don't let their children behave badly in public
Good parents apply consequences when their children break the rules, throw a tantrum, or are disrespectful
Good parents remove privileges when children don't listen and follow through on instructions immediately
Good parents don't listen to arguments or excuses, because the rules are the rules With the recent wave of "news" articles and social media memes about young Prince Louis's "tantrum" at the Queen's Platinum Jubilee celebrations, it has me thinking about the pressure and scrutiny that parents are under every time they leave the house. For this generation of parents, it's far worse than simply having the older ladies in church or the supermarket cashier whisper behind their backs. Today's parents have to deal with being photographed, recorded, and posted online, usually without any understanding of context. This creates the unrealistic expectation that parents and children have to be perfect at all times, or they risk public scandal
During my more than 30 years of working with kids, teens, and families I've heard A LOT of opinions about "good parents," and how they raise their children; these are some of the more popular:
Good parents have polite, respectful, and obedient children
Good parents understand that behavior is communication and they use that communication to lead with curiosity and ask themselves, "What does my child need from me IN THIS MOMENT?"
The assumption, of course, is that if you're NOT doing these things, or if your children do appear to be impolite, disrespectful, disobedient, or having a tantrum in public, then you are in fact NOT a good parent. So today, I'd like to share MY opinion on what else "good parents" do:
Good parents give themselves permission not to respond right away, or not to apply consequences immediately (if at all), because they aren't worried about appearing like they have control over everything all the time
Whether you're a parent working from the first list, or the second, I have news for you: you ARE a good parent. If you wake up in the morning thinking about raising your kids the best way you know how, you’re a good parent. If you make mistakes, you're a good parent. If you're trying to keep your kids safe, to keep them fed and clothed and sheltered in whatever way you can, you're a good parent If you're slogging through your own trauma, fear, shame, guilt, and uncertainty and also trying to do the best you can with the resources you have, you're a good parent. There's no such thing as a perfect parent, and your kids don't need you to be… because if YOU'RE striving for perfection, then they'll think they have to too. And that's too much pressure for any family to bear in the spotlight or at home To
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Good parents comfort children who are overwhelmed and unable to respond in a “socially acceptable” way
Good parents hold established boundaries firmly and lovingly, while also understanding that sometimes circumstances alter the situation and flexibility is required
Good parents sometimes lose their $#*t, and then they apologize and repair the rupture
Kate Garzón, M.Ed. GUIDED PARENTING SUPPORT--GPS How can you help? I offer online and in person private coaching sessions, and both virtual and live parent education courses and workshops. What can I expect? We will begin with a complimentary, 30 minute Discovery Call to get to know each other. Following that, we will use a simple and collaborative five step process to identify and prioritize your concerns and create a roadmap for success that keeps YOU in the driver's seat of your family.
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“Simply put, Kate is the Child Whisperer. She has an innate ability to zero in on root cause and proposes easy, no stress solutions for managing challenging situations." -Parent of 2- and 4-year-olds
"Kate Garzón is a gifted educator—both of children and parents. By the end of our first conversation, she had provided me with a concrete and helpful plan that I could implement immediately. It’s difficult to say, ‘I feel like I’m missing something here. This is my kid, but I just can’t see the solution.’ Kate made me feel heard, empowered, supported. I left our conversation feeling better about myself as a parent and confident in the road ahead.” Parent of three children ages 8, 6, and 10 months “As a mother of two teenagers, the landscape of parenting is ever changing. Kate is an incredible resource who always makes me feel equipped with the tools during this period. Most importantly she provides guidance and an understanding of their needs and development. Her coaching is approachable and always empowering as a parent I feel more confident in my role thanks to her.” Parent of 13 and 15 year olds Healthy Screen Time Habits How can I find you? What other parents are saying about GPS...
By Aparna Venkataraman, Beauty In Parenting
A good rule of thumb I use with mamas who are overwhelmed with their child’s daily emotions (usually around toddler age but can apply to teens) is to recognize when a behavior is a tantrum versus a meltdown.
How do we let go on tough days with kiddos and see the bigger picture?
Understanding
Meltdowns are sensory overwhelm this is when our emotional needs to FEEL safe, appreciated and comforted are not met. A child can be too tired, unwell, overwhelmed by the presence of others or the pressure to have to do something that feels like a huge struggle to them They can last for a longer time (as you would know!) Your Child's Real Need
WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟55 vs. Tantrums happen as a quick fit, stress or fury a way to resolve them is to quickly meet a need of, say, snacks, toys, etc. usually this depends on the immediate situation happening When we get to know our child and learn to recognize the cues and of a meltdown and tantrum and how their needs like to be met for example: When do they like hugs vs. space? What do they start to do when they get hungry or too tired? Do they kick and scream, ask for something, need a comfort object or task or lash out at you? How do they calm down when feeling frustrated? Asking them what they NEED right now vs. punishing them or setting consequences for an inappropriate behavior is key this is where respectful, more positive parenting happens and is felt as a ripple between parent and child and the whole family. If you’d like to learn more about understanding your child’s behaviors and emotions, I’ve got options for you for 1-on-1 and family support! Reach out to me for a Free 30 Minute Consultation here to learn more
Aparna Venkataraman P A R E N T C O A C H W E L L N E S S E D U C A T O R M O T I V A T I O N A L S P E A K E R M I N D F U L N E S S E D U C A T O R What do you do? I offer 1 on 1 online parent coaching and guided meditation sessions to parents and teens, as well as e-guides and essential oil education. What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, depression, self worth, communication, mindfulness, academic focus, leadership skills. How can you help? I offer practical techniques and tips for self care, emotion self regulation, communication and overall confidence to help you feel more flow, joy, ease and connection! What can I expect? I offer a free 30 minute consultation to discuss your needs and we meet either weekly or bi weekly. You will also have access to all of my mindfulness and essential oil resources.
What other parents say about me It was really lovely having direct phrases to communicate more with my child and partner, as I felt less stress and more equipped to manage things in the future and love myself more in the I—process.EdithD.reallyloved hearing her perspective and experiences and how she could relate to what I was going through with my daughter - she’s very compassionate and helped me to be more mindful. — Kelly A. After working with her, my children and I saw a huge shift in how we thought about and connected with one another. Now we all have a loving, fun relationship! — Andrea M. Self Care, Confidence & Leadership for Teens and Their Parents How can I find you? You can connect with me here. Book a FREE session here WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟57
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"You heard and understood where sometimes I don't feel my wife gets where I'm coming from. Just hearing myself talk out loud and you're asking me the right questions brought me so much peace of mind. Thank you, Kim, for doing this work!" David, stepdad of three
Deb, mom of twin teen boys and college-age girl "Best investment I ever made for our family!" Jennifer, mom of four teens
"You helped me understand my kids aren't acting and saying things just to hurt me, it is there way of showing me they are growing up and making decisions for themselves. I don't take their statements as personally anymore, I know that this is how teenagers express there need for a feeling of independence."
5 Essential Elements of Parenting Teens How can I find you? WWW PARENTCOACH CLUB ⎟59
"Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed buttons just enough to get stuff out and done but not enough to create dread." Carmen, mom of two
What other parents say about Kim "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed enough buttons to get stuff out and done, but not enough to cause dread. I am a better parent for having worked with you." ~Carmen, mom of two
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Create a contract to include items you want to keep as you move out of isolation Have everyone from the family sign it Once the world opens up fully again you may forget the things that you liked; writing it down will help keep you on track Be careful. Encourage your kids to continue to wash their hands frequently for at least 20 seconds Notice how often they are touching their face and help them recognize when they are doing this Be kind. Not everyone will be ready to integrate into 'normal' activities Never judge or shame someone that is not ready to interact and participate in daily life activities like they did before the pandemic Stay in touch with your older kids that will be heading back to college or university These are unprecedented times and they will be doing their best to 'get back to normal' but may need your support to navigate their emotions Think about how you were not prepared for this pandemic and make a decision to be prepared if it happens again. Pandemic proof your work, stay healthy, and create a savings account and put money away each month for emergencies such as this. We are heading into the 6th month of the pandemic and it may not be over for some time yet. If you are wondering how to navigate life right now, please know that we are here for you. Our community of qualified Parent Coaches are ready to support you and walk with you through this challenging time. Reach out to them for a free 30 minute confidential call here! Some Ideas to support your family during the pandemic...
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Hold Family Meetings weekly to stay connected and talk about what you like and what you don't like about your time together during the pandemic
If you are struggling with how your life has been affected by the pandemic, reach out for support. Our Parent Coaches can help you work through a range of emotions. They specialize in everything from newborn care, to college success, from toddler tantrums to marriage support and more. Most offer a 30 minute free confidential chat to help you through life during and after the pandemic. Together we will be stronger and more prepared for our new and improved post pandemic lives. Just don't forget that you have all the power and control to create what that life will look like. It is, and always has been, in your hands. Sending love and strength and wisdom to you all! We have learned so much and now it is time to collectively make sure we live our best lives in our own unique way!
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Many of us didn’t grow up with a model of what conscious parenting looks like. This makes it really difficult to stay calm and know what to do when we feel triggered by our child’s big emotions. I help the Mom’s I work with to release the mom guilt, parent with confidence and have a better a relationship with their kids by mastering behaviour management, communication skills and mindset. What can I expect?
I offer a free 30 minute call to map out your needs and see if we are a good fit. If we go forward you can expect weekly zoom calls and ongoing email support. I offer both four weeks and eight weeks 1:1 coaching packages.
What do you do? I support parents of spirited children under six to discover their inner Zen Master What issues do you deal with? Conscious parenting, behaviour and tantrums, parent and child connection, siblings How can you help?
Wanda Robichaud
What they say about me... How can I find you?
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Marta
My background includes a Bachelor of Education and Twenty years of rewarding experience working with children with developmental disabilities, with a focus on Autism. In 2011 I earned a certification in Hatha Yoga Teacher Training and later took the MBSR Mindfulness training Mental Wellness is a passion of mine and I’ve taken on roles supporting and educating adults experiencing anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. The transition into parent coaching through Academy for Coaching Parents International came after meeting my greatest teachers, my two beautiful, energetic boys.
"I have reached out to Wanda to get some parenting advice and support in my parenting journey of 4 boys under 10. Not only she was extremely understanding and kind, but she has also provided me with tons of resources and very helpful advice on how to deal with the tantrums and lovingly support my youngest through them. I have learned a lot from Wanda. She would be an invaluable support for any parent!" Dealing with Tantrums
What do you do? I empower parents dealing with youth struggling with mental health and addiction issues to focus on the present situation. What issues do you deal with? I deal with parent's feelings of guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, other relationships that get affected by the stress; and overall mental health of the parent. How can you help?
Janet Taylor P A R E N T C O A C H
I offer training I have learned over a period of 6 years in a 6 week program to empower parents in dealing with the areas within themselves that they can control to keep them in a healthy mindset allows parents to be the role model their child needs and wants and allows the parent to deal with longer term issues one step at a time.
The secret to raising happy kids How can I find you? You can connect with me here: What other parents say about me: "She helped me tap into my strength and courage and reminded me who I truly am. I felt empowered and stronger after our session. I loved the questions she asked me and enjoyed finding the answers to those questions." Natalia S. I use Zoom video to connect with you face to face in a confidential space you can come alone or with your partner. This call is not time sensitive and we will get to talk about your situation, we will focus on the outcome you desire and I will share with you the 6 week program outline and the outcome you can achieve. I also offer a three week intensive course if that applies to your situation. What can I expect?
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