Parent Coach Magazine - Winter 2022 by Parent Coach Club

WINTER 2022

PARENTCOACH

help, my kid

FIND A Parent Coach

WELCOME

Welcome, my friend! I am so happy to see you here...thank you for spending a few minutes with us! Can you believe this is our Winter edition already? Where does the time go? How are you managing these days? You know, parenting is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. Some days I get it right, and well, some days I don't. I put together this community of Parent Coaches to help me with the days I don't get it right. Their ideas and guidance give me space to find tools and strategies to connect with my kids and find calm in my home, but it isn't just that...they also remind me that my bad days don't define me, and I am definitely not alone. I hope you find their words and ideas helpful. I know I do. But let me back up a bit. Do you even know what a Parent Coach does? If not, you are in the right place to explore what a Parent Coach can do for you and your family. To me, they are everything! Keep reading because I will: tell you what a Parent Coach can do for your family introduce you to Parent Coaches from around the world share advice from these trusted Parent Coaches give you the next steps if you need help right now We aren’t here to preach and tell you what to do - we are here to love and encourage you on your journey - your unique journey. See you inside, you awesome parent, you!

Jennifer XOXO

Jennifer McCallum, Mom, and Founder of the Parent Coach Club

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THANK YOU!

I don't even know where to start when I think about how grateful I am to be here, with you, doing what I love, day in and day out! This issue is all about the people that help us help our kids to grow into the independent, incredible adults they are destined to be. I am lucky enough to work with the best Parent Coaches from across the world as they make it their life mission to transform families from chaos to connection. Please join me as I celebrate each and every one of them in this special issue! And, if you are raising or working with kids and struggle with anything, please reach out to these Parent Coaches...they are here for you!

Jennifer McCallum Founder of the Parent Coach Club

Are you a Parent Coach? Consider becoming a Parent Coach Club Member! We meet for monthly Mastermind Calls, Case Study Calls, and Business Training sessions where you gain the skills to grow your business along with others doing this valuable work www.parentcoach.club/join

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WHO & WHAT'S INSIDE 04

PATH TO PEACE

WHAT IS A PARENT COACH?

Our Story

WHEN YOU LOSE IT!

Ashley Ladouceur

Deborah Porter

Dr. Juliet Marciano

9 WAYS TO RESILIENCE

Cai Graham

MY KID HATES SCHOOL

Leslie Josel

Sonja Montiel

Amy Soloner

Linda Bolinger

Deanne Barrett

Doreen Steenland

DO YOUR KIDS FEEL SEEN?

Kate Garzón

FEAR-LESS PARENTING

Aparna Venkataraman

Kim Muench

Wanda Robichaud

Janet Taylor

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YOUR PARENTING PATH TO PEACE

STEP

1 2 3

IDENTIFY

STEP

WHAT YOU NEED

FIND

A PARENT COACH

TRANSFORM

Take time to identify what is holding you back from peace in your home.

Find a Parent Coach. Our Parent Coaches specialize in all areas from tantrums to paying for college and everything in between.

Transform your life and relationships. Implementing just one small idea can have a huge impact in your life.

YOUR LIFE

WHAT IS A PARENT COACH?

Parent coaches are experts trained to handle many different parenting issues... ...with positive, practical solutions. Unlike therapists who treat diagnosed mental health conditions, parent coaches are consultants who provide tools, activities, guidance and support to parents and families.

A parent coach can help you individually or in a group setting by giving you the means to help you and your child: Successfully achieve your parenting goals by asking the right questions Implement a step-by-step action plan to handle challenges Find new possibilities by sharing new perspectives and strategies to shift behaviour and family dynamics

FIND

A PARENT COACH Parent coaches offer proactive yet practical solutions

Parent coaches offer proactive yet practical solutions to a long list of parenting issues, including: Behavioural concerns Family changes or crisis Self-care Child development Mental health Positive parenting practices As you can see in the articles in this magazine, they specialize in these topics and many more. Find a Parent Coach to give you and your family the help you need. We are one click away! WWW.PARENTCOACH.CLUB ⎟05

OUR STORY

By Jennifer McCallum, Founder of the Parent Coach Club

THE ROAD HAS BEEN WINDING AND SOME DAYS WE COULDN'T EVEN FIND THE PATH...UNTIL I DISCOVERED PARENT COACHES. I guess you could say I was a typical first-time mom. I wanted to do it all perfectly and never mess up. I wanted to show the world that I could do it all and do it well.

And then my first child was born. That was almost 23 years ago. Bringing home our baby was terrifying. I was lost. I was tired. I was frustrated. I needed help but I didn't know where to go to get it. I had trouble with everything - breastfeeding, dealing with the lack of sleep, maintaining my relationships and having enough confidence to know what I was doing was right...the whole gambit! At the time, I was sent home from the hospital with bags and bags of pamphlets and fliers. I was expected to sift through and find the resources I needed. Well, this tired mom couldn't find them at all..there were so many pamphlets to go through and each time I would call a listed organization, they would send me to another one. It was like a wild goose chase just to get a straight answer. There was no Google to go to when I needed help with one specific thing like breastfeeding, first foods for baby, diapering, and daycare.

We ended up back in the hospital with our new baby a few days after the birth. It was a traumatic experience for all of us and thanks to the fabulous nurses, we were able to make it through and leave a few days later with a healthy baby. Fast forward a few months later when I found it difficult to find information about things like: cloth diapering, organic food, community playgroups, and daycare options. I felt like it was a full-time job to research all the choices I had to make as a parent, and in the process was saddened by the time I was missing out on just enjoying my new baby.

There had to be a better way...and I knew I wasn't alone. If I was going through this, there must be other parents out there who had the same trouble finding information.

How could I help other parents? Maybe a pamphlet would help...one that listed all the community resources – something like the phone book (remember them?) but just for parents??? I called the maternal newborn care units at the local hospitals and asked them if they would hand out a pamphlet of resources if I put it together. Without question, they agreed. That pamphlet ended up being a 100-page book! That first year, with a toddler and 5 month-old baby, we delivered our first edition of the books to the hospitals as promised. For 18 years, I printed parenting resource books that went to every new parent after their baby was born. 16 of those years I also printed a School-Age edition for parents of kids starting school. I expanded to new cities and before I knew it, we had printed 59 editions! What a ride.

I spent the next two years researching in a fog of worry, stress, confusion, and the ever-present overwhelm. I tried to go back to work and wondered if I would ever find any work as rewarding as raising my baby. It seemed like life had gone on for everyone else and I was still trying to figure out this new mom gig...and failing. And then, one day, it became clear what I needed to do. I needed to help other new parents so they didn't have to go through what I did.

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IT SEEMED LIKE LIFE HAD GONE ON FOR EVERYONE ELSE AND I WAS STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT THIS NEW MOM GIG...AND FAILING. JENNIFER MCCALLUM

And, then my kids grew up and became teens. It was yet another stage I wasn't prepared for. When my first baby was born, I created resource books...when the first two kids entered school, I created a school-age book...but teens...this was a whole new area to navigate...and I wasn't ready! I felt like I was always the last one to the party...the party of understanding teens. I struggled with the everyday things that teens go through, not willing to give up control, and adding a lot of stress, shame, and guilt, onto both my teens and myself. In the midst of this, we also adopted twins. I knew I needed to be better than I was. I knew that if I just had the key to the answers, I would be the best mom ever. I had four kids counting on me now.

That is when I discovered Parent Coaches. They changed my life. I began working with them and my relationship with my kids became better. I also felt better about myself and that forward positive motion really does create more peace at home. They gave me tools and strategies to use to build our relationship. In fact, one small idea created the biggest impact....and I got this in a 30-minute chat with a Parent Coach!

Read our full story & lessons learned

At the same time, I was also pivoting my business and wondering what I could do next to continue to help parents, without printing thousands of books each year. Google was a much better, environmentally friendly way to find resources now. The answer was right in front of me. Parent Coaches! I could help Parent Coaches grow their business so they could help more parents, like me. But, there was a problem - not many parents had even heard of what a Parent Coach could do for their family.

I set out with one main mission: Create awareness of Parent Coaches so that families could find the joy and peace that we were experiencing. Now, this is a very short overview of how we got here. It was not easy and some days I even wondered if I was cut out to be a mom. There is a link below if you want to read more, but I want to leave you with one thing to consider.... What do you want your relationship to be like when your kids are adults? I wanted mine to be better, and thanks to Parent Coaches, this is exactly what I got. My kids are now 22, 20, 15, and 15. I may be a bit biased, but I think they are the best kids in the world and I am grateful that I worked with Parent Coaches so I could be the mom they needed me to be. It's a work in process, but I am getting there! XOXO Jennifer

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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FINALLY LOSE IT!

BY: ASHLEY LADOUCEUR, G.R.E.A.T. PARENTING

We have all had those moments when the straw

but like I said I lost it. Lost control of myself, the

breaks the camel's back and we just lose it. You

situation and definitely any ability I had to make a

have every intention of keeping your cool. You

rational decision. Obviously this made him very

walk away, you take deep breaths, you say all the

upset and did not actually teach him anything,

right things but nothing seems to be helping and

other than mom is.

you lose it. You are normal.

I know the way I "should" have handled it. I know

Let me tell you how I lost it. Here in Ontario

that children actually behave better when they

schools have been virtual on and off for a while.

feel better. I know that for a consequence to be

One day within the virtual weeks, my son's

effective it has to be directly correlated with the

"behaviours" were next level and my patience was

behaviour. At that moment all that information

nowhere to be found. I felt like I had connected

was nowhere to be found. Why? Why in that

with him, used all of my tricks and stayed calmed

moment did I forget everything helpful and react

the best I could have. Finally I lost it. I took away

so poorly? My only explanation is that I am human.

T.V. for the night and threatened for him to not go

I am a parent who is trying to do her best in a

to hockey. Both "consequences" made zero sense

tough situation. I had not been filling my cup up

for dealing with his behaviour, mean.

as much as I needed to be and many other factors that we all deal with on a daily basis. Again I am normal.

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So now what? I felt awful, my son felt

talked about what we both needed to get

awful and no learning or connection came

through the rest of the day and how we would

from the way I handled it.

handle it if one of us started to feel out of

I walked away, he eventually calmed down

control.

and went on playing. I let myself feel the guilt from how it was handled and took

The controversial thought here is that yes, I went

some deep breaths. When I had truly

back on my "consequence". But honestly it wasn't

calmed down, and not a moment before, I

a very effective one in the first place. In that

walked over to where he was calmly

moment my son learned more from me calming

playing and touched him on the shoulder

down and repairing my actions then he ever

and asked him if we could talk. He agreed.

would from me sticking it to him and following

I sat down beside him and very to the point

through with a consequence that had no

apologized for my reactions, it sounded

connection to the behaviour. So while I do always

something like "I am sorry that I did not

recommend parents say what they mean and

control my feelings before. Saying you

follow through, there is a lot of grey area where

could not watch T.V. or go to hockey was a

we slip up, we make mistakes, and we model how

way my body was letting out my feelings. I

to learn from them. There is a lot of power in the

am noticing that you are having a hard

repair. When it is done calmly, sincerely, and

time today with your feelings too. Is there a

respectful our children learn how to approach

way we can help each other?" Together we

their own future mix ups, a trait many adults still struggle with.

I know that children actually behave better when they feel better.

TIPS WHEN REPAIRING 1. Make sure you and your child are fully calmed down and regulated following the behaviors. 2. Be sincere in your apology without assigning blame. Keep it about you, not them.

DON'T "I am sorry for yelling at you, but you made me angry when you hit me." 4. DO " I am sorry for yelling at you. I lost control of my feelings." 3.

5. Work together to solve the problem. Try asking your child what will help them listen or finish the task. 6. Give yourself a pat on the back for repairing and allow yourself to move on from the guilt.

If you are looking for more click HERE to chat more with me or join our Parents Seeking Patience Facebook group HERE for lots of strategies and connections. I support committed parents of children aged 1 to 10 who find more patience and ditch the yelling while empowering their kiddos. I do this by providing one-to-one coaching and GREAT Parenting Membership. You got this!

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r u e c u o d a L y e l G.R.E.A.T. PARENTING Ash PARENT COACH

What do you do? I coach parents of children age 1 to 10 helping them move from questioning their parenting to being the confident parent they are meant to be. I do this through 1:1 Coaching Sessions and a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership.

What issues do you deal with?

Parental overwhelm - Setting and implementing routines - Setting and holding boundaries - Finding confidence in your parenting choices

How can you help? I offer a 6 week 1:1 coaching program as well as a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership tailored specific to the members needs and concerns.

How can you help? I offer a free 20-minute discovery call to chat more about your goals as a parent and as a family. We will then move ahead and book our first of six one hour a week sessions. In the membership you will find many resources, webinars and access to our monthly meet-ups!

What my client's say about me... I highly recommend Ashley to any parent that is struggling or just needs support! She helped me realize how important some "me" time is and that I'm not the only one that has tough days with their little ones. My mornings are way less stressful thanks to the simple solutions Ashley helped me come up with. Thank you Ashley! ~ K. M. ~ I reached out to Ashley after having our third baby, and I’m so glad that I did! She really listened to me, when I was all over the place with areas that I was struggling, and she was able to give me tools to use to get our household back on track. She makes it so easy to open up to her, and it is obvious that she really cares and wants to help. I am so excited to have this resource, knowing that Ashley is not only well educated in working with children, but also has so much experience of working with them, and being a parent herself is on the same journey. ~ A. V. ~

How to Hold Parenting Boundaries, Ashley Ladouceur, Parent Coach, G.R.E.A.T. Parenting

How can I find you?

Book a Call! Click here!

r e t r o P h Debora MOM COACH

What do you do? I support moms who feel overwhelmed and lost in motherhood and at times wonder who they are. The girl you were before having kids, her dreams and goals still matter. We get to work creating the strategies and systems that will support you in creating the atmosphere you want and a life that you love.

What issues do you deal with? Overwhelm, Faith, Confidence, Finding Peace, Raising Daughters/Sons

How can you help? I provide strategies and systems to help you gain the clarity you seeking on what needs to be done, building confidence in yourself and your instincts as a mom and woman and finding the courage to determine what it is you need and how to get it.

What can I expect? I offer a FREE 30 min. strategy call after filling out the application to work with me. If we decide to work together, we will begin scheduling calls and I will provide you access to the curriculum. Apply here: bit.ly/letschatmom

About me... I am the wife of my college sweetheart Clif, for 30 years and mother of 3 adult children 29, 25, 23 and a bonus son. Currently, a regular guest contributor on Virginia This Morning on CBS WTVR and you can read my guest blogs on CollegiateParent here https://www.collegiateparent.com/author/debor ah-porter/ . We are enjoying the empty nest phase and love when we get to spend time with our adult children.

All about Deborah! How can I find you?

o n a i c r a M t e i l u J Dr. MINDSET COACH FOR PARENTS

What do you do? As a Mindset Coach for Parents and a PCI Certified Parent Coach®️, I help parents gather the information and develop the skills they need to reclaim the joy of parenting, no matter what challenges they face or struggles they encounter, and then lead their family to thrive!

What issues do you deal with?

I support parents of children with special needs and extra needs. This includes any child with a physical, mental, emotional, behavioral, or learning difference or a family going through a challenging situation such as a divorce.

How can you help? My coaching is a strength-based, positive focused process. Using my 6 step “Path to Possibility” I incorporate general parenting topics as well as exploring the concepts of mindfulness, neuroscience, resilience, conscious parenting, problemsolving, motivation, self-care, managing a healthy relationship with digital media and screen technology, and more! The first step involves a shift in mindset and perspective, and we go from there!

What can I expect? We start with a 20 minute complimentary consultation call to discuss your family’s challenges and how your family will benefit from coaching. I offer coaching through phone or video calls in a variety of situations from a 2-hour focused call to a 12-week individual coaching program. As your coach, I am a compassionate, non-judgmental partner who works with you to bring about your family’s transformation! After working with me, parents enjoy their parenting experience more. Not only are they calmer, but they are better able to accept and embrace their children for who they are, build and maintain connection with their children, and feel confident as they face any challenges that arise.

What my client's say about me...

“I wish I had met her 10 years ago! She ‘gets it’ and she understands my struggles and doesn’t judge me for my mistakes.” C. U. -parent of 2 "After working with Juliet, for the first time in a long time, I’m not afraid of our future and I’m enjoying my children!” J. H.- parent of 2 “Working with Juliet gave me hope that my children will be ok, even with all the challenges we are facing as a family.” S. M. Parent of 2 “Before we finished the first call, I was feeling better already!” M.H. “Juliet has always been so helpful, caring, and knowledgeable when guiding me through some challenging parenting times. She has helped me to understand, that my job is to help my kids figure out who they are, at their core, and to support them in being the best version of themselves. With Jul’s coaching, I have become a more confident parent.” - H.P. - Mother of 2

All about Dr. Juliet! How can I find you?

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GOT KIDS? worried? struggling? looking for answers?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

9 THINGS CHILDREN NEED TO BE RESILIENT Michael Ungar, Ph.D.

The best parenting advice I’ve ever heard came from a six-year old girl named Trina who went to school with uncombed hair and mismatched socks. Trina was caught stealing candy from a corner store next to her school, pilfering gummy worms and sour tarts so she’d have something to give the other children on the playground to make them want to play with her. When gently asked what changed when she stole the candy, in a small voice she said, “I have friends.” It was a simple answer that reminds us what the research on resilience has been telling us for decades. Change a child’s world and give her what she needs to do well and she will almost always accept our invitation. In Trina’s case, the solution was to give her a space in her school where she was needed and others could see her as important. Once a week, Trina’s consequence for stealing was helping teach younger children their numbers in the Kindergarten. It might not have looked like a very serious consequence, but it was really a strategy to help Trina find many of the sources of resilience other children already had in their lives.

Here are nine things that all children need to succeed: 1. Structure: Our children feel most safe when they experience reasonable expectations and the structure that makes their lives predictable. Overwhelm a child with choices before she is ready and able to make decisions, and we create an anxious child who would prefer to throw a tantrum than admit she is feeling uneasy. A good parent provides just enough age-appropriate structure for a child to feel safe while offering the child opportunities to make decisions about things that matter. A younger child, for example, may not be able to choose what she eats, but she can choose between eating cucumbers (which she likes) and tomatoes (which she doesn’t).

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2. Consequences: Children need their caregivers to let them make mistakes, then help them to correct what they’ve done wrong. Good consequences let children fix problems they have the means to fix. I’ve seen children suggest clever ways of sharing toys, or asking for time alone, as solutions. The point is that children need opportunities to be held accountable for what they’ve done wrong and caregivers who are patient enough to let children find solutions everyone can live with. 3. A close and caring relationship with a parent: Children do best when they have someone in their life to whom they really matter. It may be a parent, but it can also be a grandparent or other extended family member. Too often, though, we think this person has to be the child’s mother, or father. When a family is in crisis because of some terrible news, it is unreasonable to put all that responsibility on a parent alone.

4. Lots and lots of positive relationships: After Wanda and Peter’s divorce and move to different cities, they needed to decide where their eight-year-old son was going to live. When I was asked to help, I took the time to find out which relationships meant the most to the boy. He was close to both his parents, but his school, his hockey team, and his extended family were much nearer to his Dad’s home than his mom’s. I recommended the boy spend as much time with his father as possible, not for the sake of his relationships just with his father, but also to ensure the boy didn’t lose other important sources of support. It was a very tough decision to make, but in the aftermath of a divorce or any other family crisis, children have taught me they can weather a crisis as long as they have plenty of people in their life who can help. Coaches, uncles and aunts, peers, and other adults can all play a role in ensuring a child’s resilience.

5. A sense of control: According to ten-year-olds like Caitlin, a little say over our lives goes a long way. As Caitlin became progressively more visually impaired, her parents insisted she change schools. However, it was Caitlin who made the choice to stay right where she’d been all along and fight for a learning support worker to help her. 6. A powerful identity. After moving to a new community, fiveyear-old Ethan insisted on wearing his Halloween moose costume to school, to church and to bed every day for six weeks. A little inconvenient, but Ethan had found a way to get himself noticed and to tell everyone, “Hey, I’m here!” Children need powerful identities if they are going to feel good about themselves. Eventually the moose costume came off, just in time for the Santa hat.

7. Fair treatment: Let’s hear it for strong-willed little girls who remind the boys that they can play the same games they do. Let’s celebrate the child who challenges racial and ethnic stereotypes. I am awed by children like these, and others besides, who fight for their rights and social justice for all. 8. A sense of belonging. Five-year-old Alicia stopped her temper tantrums about the same time her mother asked her to start taking some genuine responsibility for her baby brother. A child who feels she belongs at home, at school, or within a faith community, is a child who is likely to feel good about herself and her contribution to the welfare of others. Belonging can also give a child a sense of her culture. Eight-year-old Amber was embarrassed to wear her traditional Pakistani clothes to school the day her grandfather drove her. She did it to please him, but she was dreading what her classmates would say. She needn’t have worried. That afternoon she proudly told her grandfather the other girls had thought she looked like a storybook princess. Offering children an opportunity to feel proud of their culture and heritage is a buffer against threats to their selfesteem.

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9. Safety. Even a delinquent 12-year-old like Campbell, whom I met after he’d run away from home, can be enticed to his parents’ dinner table by the promise of a good meal and the security of knowing he’s safe when he’s at home in bed. A child who gets his basic needs met is one that is going to feel good about himself even if he never says thank you to the adults in his life who make him feel that way.

Call it a nudge, or subtle manipulation, but the research is clear. When children’s caregivers provide them with nine essential ingredients for resilience, they are more likely to thrive.

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Michael Ungar, Ph.D., author of upcoming book, Change Your World: The Science of Resilience and the Path to Success (Sutherland House Books, May 2019) is a Family Therapist and the Canada Research Chair in Child, Family and Community Resilience at Dalhousie University. For the past two decades, Dr. Ungar’s work has influenced the way resilience is understood globally, helping to improve the capacity of children and adults to cope when faced with serious challenges. Dr. Ungar has written 15 books for parents, educators, researchers and policy makers, and authored more than 150 scholarly papers, all based on his research and clinical practice that has taken him to more than 40 countries. His blog, Nurturing Resilience, can be read on Psychology Today’s website.

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m a h a r G i Ca MUM, PARENTING EXPERT, AUTHOR & SPEAKER

What do you do? I help Parents Support their Children - so that Together we can Build a Mentally Healthier and Happier Generation of Young People.

What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, Confidence, Communication, Discipline, Motivation, Self-Care, Self-Harm.

How can you help? The TEEN Toolbox™ series is basically the Umbrella under which I work. It is my collection of products and services that are specifically geared towards parents and their teenagers. These include: courses, consultations, in-home visits, and retreats

What can I expect? Well that all depends on what product or service you are using. Above all - I want to leave you with takeaways. Practical techniques and tools that will equip you with the challenges that you are dealing with. I offer a free 30 minute call www.caigraham.com/discovery

More on what I offer... Spotlight Course : These courses give you an in depth insight into the specific challenges you are experiencing. You are provided with a deeper understanding and a clear-cut exercises designed to help you conquer these particular obstacles. Many of these courses can be completed in an hour or so. They are child-friendly and are designed to gain rapid results. Flagship Course : Let’s face it - you are your child’s best Role Model. So this course is designed to help you support your child to the very best of your ability. It is a detailed blueprint to help you build both your parenting expertise and confidence. The course is broken down into 8 modules and requires an investment of your time and commitment. There is also the opportunity to be part of our online community. Join me and other like-minded parents where your questions and challenges can be shared and addressed. Take this course - your kids will, thank you, one day! 1-2-1 Consultations : This is the opportunity to work with me personally ( from hourly calls to coaching packages ) I love these sessions, as they are a fantastic opportunity for me to connect with you at a deeper level and a great way for us to work together more closely; without judgement and with a sprinkling of humour! Working with me directly will help you achieve your parenting goals faster. We can address the issues that are unique to your family and deal with everyone’s challenges individually : ✔️Identify the obstacles that are currently holding you back. ✔️Get pointers to will help you better connect with your child. ✔️Understand how to build stronger relationships with the whole family. ✔️Learn new ways to communicate – so that you and your teen can talk more freely. ✔️Free App : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Signposts you to my social media channels and some quick exercises that will help you support you immediately. www.caigraham.com/app

All About Teen Anxiety

✔️My Book : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Keep this on your nightstand! It’s a valuable point of reference when you need to gain some parenting answers. www.caigraham.com/book

How can I find you?

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Help...my kid hates school

Q: Can I Help My Reluctant Learner See the Benefits of College? by Leslie Josel - ADHD Academic Coach

YOUR ADOLESCENT SAYS HE HATES SCHOOL AND WON’T ATTEND COLLEGE. BEFORE TRYING TO CHANGE HIS MIND, STOP TO ASK: IS SOMETHING IMPEDING HIS LEARNING? Q: “I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until age 44. My husband (who likely has undiagnosed with ADHD) and I were both college dropouts. In hindsight, I wish I had graduated. My husband couldn’t care less about earning a college degree. This sends a message to my 11-year-old son that higher education is unnecessary. He has already said that he won’t attend college and hates school. How can I get my reluctant learner to see the benefits of a college education without my husband’s support? I want to help him see that college might sound difficult, but moving through the adult world successfully without a degree could be even harder.” – FullhouseADHD

Hi FullhouseADHD, As an academic and life coach for teens and college students with ADHD, I spend my days talking with high school students about their future plans. Truth be told, I never assume their plans after high school include college. Instead of asking, “What colleges are you thinking of attending?” I prefer to ask, “What are your plans for after graduation?” Plans is the operative word. [READ: Q: I’m Feeling Hopeless About My Child’s Future (and Ashamed to Acknowledge It)] I don’t believe that college is for everyone. But I do believe in having a plan. A wise man once told me that experiencing life, working toward a goal, taking care of oneself, learning to problem solve, and becoming a critical thinker were all components of a well-rounded “education.” I absolutely agree.

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Now I’m not saying that college can’t provide that. Quite the opposite. However, there are many other avenues to explore. Trade school, internships, military service, employment, travel, community service, and entrepreneurship can yield the same results. It’s tempting to lecture our children about the importance of education. Remember, your son is only 11. He’s years away from making any long-term decisions. More importantly, he has many years of learning ahead of him. You mention that he hates school and is a reluctant learner. Let’s shift your energy and focus on figuring out what is getting in his way. [READ: Q: How Do I Convince My Teen She Needs an ADHD or EF Coach?]

Does your son communicate the sources of his struggles to you? What do you notice when he’s doing homework? Have you discussed your concerns with your son’s teachers? Does your son have a 504 Plan or IEP? And, if so, are his accommodations being followed at school? If not, I would set up a meeting immediately with the school. Here’s my advice: Put the college conversation on the back burner for the next few years. Instead, focus on ensuring that your son has the support and scaffolding he needs to be an avid and successful learner. Focus his learning on his natural interests and energy, and promote life skills over school skills. And, most importantly, understand that his future won’t be determined solely by this moment. Good Luck!

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What do you do? Order Out of Chaos’ mission is to provide hands-on education, guidance and coaching to parents and their students through our customized products and programs, so all children – both mainstream and with learning issues – can develop the necessary skills they need to experience success in learning and in life. Knowing how to help your child develop the skills they need doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Order Out of Chaos is built on the philosophy that the coaching process is a journey that begins and ends with YOU. Our process is organic – it evolves as we figure out TOGETHER what needs changing and what works best for you. The end results are tailor-made to fit your needs. We will focus you and help you, but YOU set the pace and the tone.

What issues do you deal with? We coach both parents and students to help with study skills, ADHD management, executive functioning skills, time management, procrastination and so much more.

How can you help? We provide workshops and webinars, products and programs, group and one-on-one coaching for both parents and their students. Everything is available virtually. So you choose how and to what extent you need support and coaching.

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. A . M , l e i t n o M Sonja COLLEGE CONFIDENCE What do you do?

While maintaining a compassionate relationship, I train parents to become the best educator for their teens so they can feel confident about plans after high school.

What issues do you deal with?

I focus on communication skills and knowledge specific to helping your teens create a plan ready to implement as they approach high school graduation. Topics include college affordability, college admissions options, career training, identifying the right majors for teens, building the college list, college essay writing strategies, and so much more!

What can I expect? Let’s schedule a 30-minute call to talk about your needs and your starting point! We will determine which service plan is best for you which can include our: comprehensive workbook with action plans, templates, and agenda samples, online podcast training program if you are always on the go, 10-session online parent course, and/or one-to-one coaching

How can you help?

Helping teens plan their paths after high school can create tension and conflict in the home mostly because families are waiting too late to begin, or there isn’t enough information on what the options are, what requirements fulfill each option, and how to engage with teens to ignite their motivation to be active in making a plan. As an expert in the field of college admissions for 20 years, I will provide training and coaching that places teens at the center of planning. Parents and teens will no longer have to face this educational journey with uncertainty, worry, and confusion!

What other parents say about me “Sonja gave me the communication tools to allow me to take charge of the college process. I was familiar with the college application process, however was clueless on how to have impactful and meaningful conversations with my teen. My daughter and I are so much more closer! Thank you so much!” “I have been working with College Confidence for years and I truly will not work with anyone else. Sonja's experience is unmatched. She is professional and an expert in college admissions. She will not only advocate for your child, but will be a critical pillar in your family's journey. She's that good!” “Thank you again for your wonderful presentation/talk for our group. I feel we all (parents and students) learned quite a bit from you that night. My daughter and I both agreed the way you presented the college process, was with a lot of positive influence and enthusiasm. You made it sound challenging about writing ‘your story’ but in a way that made the girls feel special and that it is ok to like yourself and tell college why they would benefit from the you as the applicant. To go for it!”

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r e n o l a S AmyP A R E N T A N D TEEN COACH

What do you do?

I am a parent and teen coach specializing in teens and tweens, especially those preparing to graduate from high school.

What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, depression, eating disorders, life skills, sports/dance nutrition and well-being.

How can you help? I offer 1:1 and family coaching, classes and support groups for both parents and teens. I offer comprehensive assessments for both mental and nutritional health as needed, including blood work and physical evaluations.

What can I expect? I offer a 20 minute free consultation to assess your teen and families needs. From there we determine what the most supportive approach will be for your family.

What other parents say about Amy... The Resilient Family Course was a lifeline in the midst of the pandemic for me and Amy’s guidance was a gift. This class taught strategies to keep my family balanced and well both physically and emotionally during times of stress. Katherine E. Amy is an experienced educator with a wealth of knowledge in so many areas. She listens attentively to students, uses a variety of innovated learning and teaching styles, and guides them through the curricula with clear and articulated instruction. Amy has a way of teaching which motivates students to believe in themselves and make changes in their lives. Dr. DeLaney I got a better understanding of how to properly fuel my body and what consists of a “well rounded” meal. Most of all, I got a general idea of how to become more resilient. Dance Student

Three things you can do right now to create an energetic connection with your teen. 1- Put your hand on your heart and take three slow, deep breaths 2- Envision a peaceful, connected moment with your teen in your mind’s eye 3- Send love out to your teen. Visualise pink light radiating out from your heart and enveloping your teen.

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r e g n i l o Linda B

INTUITIVE MENTOR & THETAHEALING PRACTITIONER

What do you do?

I help parents and teens strengthen their relationship with SELF.

How is this accomplished? I utilize my intuition to navigate to the origin of emotional blocks, negative experiences and beliefs that are negatively impacting your current relationship with self and others. Together we will peel the layers, with clarity, intent and new perspective, to release what no longer serves you and your teen.

What can I expect? Results. Clarity & new perspective. Resolution to undesired situations & experiences that will leave you feeling light, without carrying the emotional “load.”

How do I get started? I invite you to connect with me via email or social media to book your FREE 30-min clarity call to chat about the specific needs and changes you are looking for in your current relationship. Once enrolled in my mentorship, we will create a plan that is tailored to your specific needs and schedule weekly sessions to jump into desired change.

What can be expected by investing in MYSELF and TEEN via your Mentorship?

You will strengthen your intuition and align to #BYObestself in this 10hr FLEXIBLE program. Let your weekly sessions be tailored to you and the needs of your teen. If you are READY to shift out of your current situation and create change that lasts, this program is for you. Step into joy, positivity and a future that excites you, with the tips, exercises and healing that comes with this program! Invest in SELF to experience the change you are longing for.

Hear it from others who have invested in self & committed to CHANGE in their relationship:

Linda is my absolute go-to person when I need support, clarity and direction. She has helped me find my way through many moments I have felt lost. Linda has also helped my teen-age daughter through many typical teen-age struggles. My daughter is a much happier person after her sessions with Linda. She works with Linda on a regular basis now and is doing amazing!! Thank you Linda for the work you do. My family is very grateful to have you on our side.️Jennifer Funnell (Ontario, Canada) Linda is a gifted healer - she intuitively gets to the source of my obstacles and answers questions I didn't even know how to ask. I know that I can get on a call with her and I can trust that I'll feel better in just 60 minutes. She's helped guide me ….to follow my intuition and trust how to be in the flow. Before our session today, I felt untethered, lost in space, disconnected from my body - anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed - and definitely not creative! After our session I felt re-inspired, like a weight was lifted off my shoulders - and I felt connected to myself again. I highly recommend you go to Linda when you need help that you can't always put words to - she'll figure it out! -Jen Pillow (British Columbia, Canada) Working with Linda is a great experience overall. Coming in to sessions and working with Linda helped me clear my mind and really think rationally after. As well it calms and relaxes your mind and body during sessions. Working with Linda really helped me think about different aspects of situations, and working on finding out more about myself. After leaving I felt very positive and clear minded always looking forward to the next session. Nicholas ~ 18 years old (Ontario, Canada)

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t t e r r a B e n n a e D RADIANT LEADERSHIP COACHING FOR MOMS

What do you do?

I offer online coaching to sensitive, empathic moms who want to be a strong leader for their pre-teens and teens

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, resentment, frustration, energy leaks, boundaries.

How can you help? I help moms connect to deeply sourced LOVE energy to be the compassionate and strong leader their teen needs.

What can I expect? I offer a free 30 minute call to see if we are good fit for one of my private or group coaching programs. Private calls happen once a week over the phone. Group coaching happens over the phone and video conferencing. Ask me how to gain access to my library of resources, and my monthly Radiant Mom Tribe calls!

What other parents say about Deanne This work has transformed the way I see my teens and it has given me a gift to help them develop their confidence and achieve their goals.” –Deb Hemmaway I find that Deanne presents topics in a very positive, mindful and deliberate way. After the coaching calls I feel grounded and inspired to connect with my daughter in a new way. This is in contrast to some presentations when I leave feeling deflated and thinking “I should do this” or “I should be this”. – Jutta Shaw “This is really working! I’m glad I chose this coaching over therapy, because instead of ruminating over what’s not working, I have some clear, practical things that I can try” – Rebecca, mom of a high school aged son

How to be a Leader for your Teen How can I find you? You can connect with me here:

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I'm guilty of this - sitting here on a snow day, the kids playing outside and I am on my computer. The pressures of work deadlines, getting the bills paid today, replying to emails that are weighing down my inbox, and all the while thinking about how I will get out of my lane to get groceries, get dinner started and make it to my youth group that I mentor this evening. And this is a slow day. How can I be present when as soon as I complete one of these tasks, two more pop up? Do you ever feel like this? Overwhelm. True heavy overwhelm. My answer today - take one task at a time and complete it. Set aside time for the kids when nothing else can distract me, and go easy on myself. Some things can wait until tomorrow...but my kids won't always have a snow day.

How can I be present when there is so much to do? If you are anything like me, I am really hard on myself. I want to be able to do it all...and do it well. The truth is, I can't do it all alone. Today, I will be kind to myself and surround myself with people that lift me up. Will you join me? Let's connect in our Facebook Group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/parent guideacademy/ Wishing you moments of peace and presence today. Jennifer XOXO

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What do you do? I offer the Parenting with Intention Workshop online and coach parents of teens to help them navigate their changing relationship, married couples who desire to deepen their relationship, and teens who desire to grow in resilience.

What issues do you deal with? Relationship-Managing EmotionsNeuroplasticity-Creating ResilienceDevelopment of Powerful world changing teens

How can you help? I help create awareness, and provide tools and strategies for developing deep, meaningful relationships with your teen, self and God, through coaching and transformational neuroscience.

What can I expect? The Parenting With Intention Workshop is a four week workshop done on Zoom and runs quarterly. For one on one coaching, our calls usually last 45 minutes (30 minutes for teens) and can be done from anywhere in the world. I offer a free inquiry call to see if I’m the right coach for you and your family.

What other parents say about Doreen “After applying the new things I learned, I have figured out ways to defuse situations before they ignite - which avoids unproductive arguing and I'm focused on the message I want to teach her. This class was amazing!” Jennifer Neilson “We learned techniques to bring down the escalated emotions and instead begin productive communication where we can all learn and think constructively. More importantly, we learned great techniques on how to have healthy communication with our kids! sign up...you will not be disappointed.” Elizabeth Renna “Many times, we reacted abruptly from our own emotions. It was eye-opening to learn that we could handle situations in a completely different way. It was also helpful to learn from the other parents that we were not alone in our challenges to better connect with our teens. We learned tools that provided us with the ability to pause before reacting and to look at situations from both sides.” Elizabeth Pilla

Christian Coaching How can I find you? You can connect with me here:

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By Sonja Montiel featuring Hilary Bilbrey, co-founder of The DH Effect As a college counselor and parent coach, parents and caregivers come to me feeling big emotions – excitement, anxiousness, worry, frustration, elation, a combination of some, and a combination of all. Ever since their child started walking, they have been curious about this particular moment in time navigating the options after high school. Often times, the feelings are overwhelming and questions like these take over the parenting mind: “Have we done enough for our child to be ready for adulthood?” “How will my child succeed as a young adult?” “What will my child do to find happiness?” “What does my child need to have access to all of life’s opportunities?” “What can I do? What should I do?”

Raising my now 21- and 13-year-old daughters, I can relate! Although we cannot eliminate all of our worries as parents, there is something we can do to feel confident about our children’s readiness for their adult world. For this particular article, I would like to focus on how we can create habits where our children are truly being seen. What does that mean? Cofounder of The DH Effect, Hilary Bilbrey, writes: “We live in a society that is caught up with titles, awards and status. But when our focus is on these things, we often miss the very essence of who we are, who our children are. Being seen and truly seeing is about going past the extrinsic value of things and looking for who people are – their character, their uniqueness. It is appreciating someone for the energy they bring, not what they do.” Before sharing how to acknowledge children for the energy they bring, let’s describe how parents are unintentionally acknowledging what their children are doing rather than being. The use of compliments and praise are given to help others feel good about themselves. In the case of parenting, in order to remain positive influences in their children’s lives, I hear parent rely on compliments and praise for what their children are doing.

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“Wow honey, I am proud of you for being the highest-achieving student in your class!” “You got an A on your test?! You are so smart!” “Get that championship trophy so we can celebrate!” These statements that focus on grades, awards, certificates, and other measurements of achievement are intended to motivate children, however, they are instead of letting children know that they are valued and worthy when they earn these outcomes. Thus, what they do to get to an outcome is more valued than the characteristics and abilities it took to get to the outcome. Basically, compliments and praise communicate that the outcome is all that matters. As a result, children are not being seen for the characteristics, energy, and abilities that it takes to get to the outcome, like endurance, discipline, resilience, tenacity, etc. When children understand that they are celebrated for what they do, they will create habits to engage in life experiences that lead to quick outcomes to get the reward promised. Oftentimes, this means that children will avoid experiences that require resilience, grit, and endurance because 1) it will take too long to receive acknowledgment of their worth, and 2) they may likely experience mistakes that will question their worth.

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Going back to college counseling, amongst very successful teens who have done well throughout high school, it’s evident on those teens who achieved only for the sake of the outcome. When I ask teens why they have engaged in impressive academic and extracurricular experiences, teens who have been raised under compliments and praise cannot respond to this question well. They become flustered on finding their reasons, and admit to being stressed and uncertain about who they are. They just hope that their achievements will lead to what they thought was promised – “Is what I did good enough to get into college?” On the other hand, teens who were seen for their characteristics and abilities do not depend on college admissions results to determine who they are. They usually respond to my question with a zest for learning and curiosity about their world. So how can we change our habits from compliments and praise to truly seeing our children for who they are? Bilbrey offers the first step: learn to use virtue acknowledgments that celebrate who your children are and how they show up. And don’t just acknowledge an achievement, but instead, include every experience that shines a light on their character. Bilbrey shares that “in a powerful way, not only are we modeling gratitude, we are also appreciating our children for who they are not what they are doing.”

EXAMPLES Praise for chores: “You were super-fast in getting your chores done!” Virtue Acknowledgement: “I appreciate your helpfulness in getting the chores done. It feels so great that you are so reliable.” Praise for grades: “It’s so cool that you got an A on your test. You are so smart!” Virtue Acknowledgement: “Wow. I see how focused you are on your studies. Your determination was really inspiring.” Praise for caring for sibling: “You are such a nice sister!” Virtue Acknowledgement: “Gosh, the way you listened to your brother with gentleness and care was beautiful to see.”

For a list of virtue words and their meanings, please reach out to The DH Effect at thedheffect@gmail.com. They are also hosting a masterclass on “Being Seen with a Decided Heart” this month through their membership program. For more information, go to www.thedheffect.com/membership.

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. d E . M , n zó Kate Gar GUIDED PARENTING SUPPORT--GPS

How can you help? I offer online and in-person private coaching sessions, and both virtual and live parent education courses and workshops.

What can I expect? We will begin with a complimentary, 30-minute Discovery Call to get to know each other. Following that, we will use a simple and collaborative five-step process to identify and prioritize your concerns and create a roadmap for success that keeps YOU in the driver's seat of your family.

What other parents are saying about GPS... “Simply put, Kate is the Child Whisperer. She has an innate ability to zero in on root cause – and proposes easy, no-stress solutions for managing challenging situations." -Parent of 2- and 4-year-olds "Kate Garzón is a gifted educator—both of children and parents. By the end of our first conversation, she had provided me with a concrete and helpful plan that I could implement immediately. It’s difficult to say, ‘I feel like I’m missing something here. This is my kid, but I just can’t see the solution.’ Kate made me feel heard, empowered, supported. I left our conversation feeling better about myself as a parent and confident in the road ahead.” -Parent of three children ages 8, 6, and 10 months “As a mother of two teenagers, the landscape of parenting is everchanging. Kate is an incredible resource who always makes me feel equipped with the tools during this period. Most importantly she provides guidance and an understanding of their needs and development. Her coaching is approachable and always empowering - as a parent I feel more confident in my role thanks to her.”-Parent of 13- and 15-year-olds

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By Elisabeth Harrod, Purpose Parenting

Once we eliminate fear from our parenting, only unconditional love remains.

"Fear is the mind-killer. I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass through me. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." Frank Herbert, Dune I teach parenting skills. Why am I blogging about fear? When I think back on the thousands of conversations I've had with parents, so many of the struggles and challenges they experience every day come down to fear. One of the truths I share with parents: "Once we eliminate fear from our parenting, only unconditional love remains."

WHAT DO PARENTS FEAR? (I MEAN, ALL OF US PARENTS COULD MAKE THIS LIST): Bad grades Feeling unchallenged No friends Wrong friends Too much time with friends Too much screen time* Too much time alone in their room Smoking weed Eating too much sugar Not eating enough broccoli Having sex Breaking up Physical safety Getting kicked off a team Forgetting backpacks Not doing homework Over-achieving Under-achieving Getting bullied Being a bully Too lazy Too hyper... The list of parents' fears is endless. Before I go on, I want to say I HAVE FEARS FOR MY KIDS TOO! I have to fight every day to keep my fears for my kids out of my parenting. It's work. It takes discipline. It can be exhausting. It can feel impossible. I'm not perfect. My fears for my kids creep in. The point of working on parenting skills is NOT to be perfect (Just like we don't want our kids to feel like they have to be perfect. We model not being perfect every day!) The point is to understand why parenting from a place of fear is something to TRY to eliminate from our parenting. Then, when it creeps in once in a while, we notice it, we name it, we change it. So why do we fear for our kids? Simplest answer: We love our kids more than anything else in our lives. Period. Nothing comes close.

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We feel this responsibility for how they "turn out." We want them to be happy, to feel purposeful, to be successful, to find love... We have all these expectations, hopes for our kids. I could go into brain research and the amygdala... That's for other people to write about. Google amygdala if you want to know why we fear for our kids.

I want to write about 2 things: 1. How does parenting from a place of fear affect our relationship with our kids? 2. How do we do the work to minimize parenting from a place of fear (because to eliminate it just isn't possible, IMO)? How does parenting from a place of fear affect our relationship with our kids? Rather than blah, blah, blah, I'll give two scenarios (fill-in the activity that matches your kid).

FEAR-BASED PARENTING SCENARIO: Nine-year-old son. Rides horses. Mom constantly brings up falling off his horse. "I'm terrified every time you ride. What if you fall off?" "Christopher Reeves became paralyzed because of a fall from his horse and eventually died!" "It's just not safe." As mom drops her son off at the barn, she says, "Be safe! Don't fall off!" As the son is riding his horse, all he hears is "Don't fall off!" Just as he's hearing that distracting voice in his head, the horse starts cantering unexpectedly, and the son falls off the horse and breaks his arm. Now Mom is even more terrified of her son riding horses!

CONSCIOUSLY REDIRECT FEAR SCENARIO: Nine-year-old son. Rides horses. Mom has periodic internal fear of her son falling off his horse and being injured. When the fear comes over her, she takes a deep breath. She remembers all the safety measures she knows the instructor has in place. She reminds herself of how his instructor never lets him move on to the next skill/level of difficulty until he has mastered the one before. She remembers all the times her son has gone riding and never been injured.

She reminds herself that he doesn't want to fall and he is a very strong and skillful rider. She brings up her worst fear: He falls and becomes very injured. That's terrible! No! Her worst fear is letting her own fears either keep him from riding or cause him so much fear he actually does fall. As she's driving her son to the barn - EVEN THOUGH SHE'S AFRAID - she makes the CHOICE to push down the fear and pull up the CONFIDENCE. She keeps her voice light, laughs often, asks questions, tells a good story. When she drops him off at the barn, she casually says, "Have a great time! I hope you learn something new today. Give Holly a special hug from me." And then she drives off and hopes for the best. ONE of the zillions of times her son rode horses, he sprained his wrist. She took him to Urgent Care. Got it patched up. Reminded her son (and herself) that it's natural to have injuries in life. The worse injury her son could have is being locked away "safe" in his room. Breathe Deep Mama. (Okay. Did you figure out that's my son? I had to work - HAVE to work every day on keeping my fears for my sons out of my parenting.) The way we parents talk to our kids, BECOMES the voice in our children's heads. The TONE and MOOD we set in our homes, become their inner tone and mood. When we lay down fearful, anxious patterns in the ways we relate to our kids, their brains develop in anxious, fearful ways. If they already have anxious brain-wiring of their own, our fears reinforce their fears. Try noticing FEAR this week and taking a step or two towards a different response. See what happens. Share what happens. If you'd like to learn how to remove fear from your parenting, set up a Transformational Session with me today. purposeparenting.net

When we fear, it's hard to hear.

~ Elisabeth Harrod, Purpose Parenting

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Aparna Venkataraman PARENT COACH WELLNESS EDUCATOR MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER MINDFULNESS EDUCATOR

What do you do? I offer 1-on-1 online parent coaching and guided meditation sessions to parents and teens, as well as e-guides and essential oil education.

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, depression, self-worth, communication, mindfulness, academic focus, leadership skills.

How can you help?

I offer practical techniques and tips for self-care, emotion self-regulation, communication and overall confidence to help you feel more flow, joy, ease and connection!

What can I expect? I offer a free 30-minute consultation to discuss your needs and we meet either weekly or biweekly. You will also have access to all of my mindfulness and essential oil resources.

What other parents say about me It was really lovely having direct phrases to communicate more with my child and partner, as I felt less stress and more equipped to manage things in the future and love myself more in the process. — Edith D. I really loved hearing her perspective and experiences and how she could relate to what I was going through with my daughter - she’s very compassionate and helped me to be more mindful. — Kelly A. After working with her, my children and I saw a huge shift in how we thought about and connected with one another. Now we all have a loving, fun relationship! — Andrea M.

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How can I find you?

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PARENT & TEEN GUIDE

What do you do? I specialize in helping parents of kids ages 10-25 enjoy peaceful homes and relationships within their family. I do this with compassion and without judgment. This work is not about quick strategies, it's about working with the parent to create lasting, generational change in the family environment.

What issues do you deal with?

I have personally experienced and worked with teen pregnancy, adolescent addiction, anxiety, and depression.

How can you help? Together we work to identify the limiting beliefs your child's behavior is triggering inside of you and work through them to discover new beliefs that will better serve the parent/child relationship you are in. We work on parenting with rather than over your child.

What can I expect?

I always offer a 20-minute complimentary consultation in order to learn more about your unique family situation and to help you get to me and how I work with parents. I have a reasonable hourly rate, weekly custom packages, and I also offer an 8-week online course I will personally guide you through one module per week.

How can I find you?

I am on Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide, you can text me anytime at 972-689-0250 to schedule our complimentary consultation.

What other parents say about Kim "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed enough buttons to get stuff out and done, but not enough to cause dread. I am a better parent for having worked with you." ~Carmen, mom of two "You helped me understand my kids aren't acting and saying things just to hurt me, it is there way of showing me they are growing up and making decisions for themselves. I don't take their statements as personally anymore, I know that this is how teenagers express there need for a feeling of independence." Deb, mom of twin teen boys and college-age girl "Best investment I ever made for our family!" Jennifer, mom of four teens "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed buttons just enough to get stuff out and done but not enough to create dread." Carmen, mom of two "You heard and understood where sometimes I don't feel my wife gets where I'm coming from. Just hearing myself talk out loud and you're asking me the right questions brought me so much peace of mind. Thank you, Kim, for doing this work!" David, stepdad of three

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We are here for you! We are heading into the 6th month of the pandemic and it may not be over for some time yet. If you are wondering how to navigate life right now, please know that we are here for you. Our community of qualified Parent Coaches are ready to support you and walk with you through this challenging time. Reach out to them for a free 30-minute confidential call here!

Some Ideas to support your family during the pandemic... 1. Hold Family Meetings weekly to stay connected and talk about what you like and what you don't like about your time together during the pandemic. 2. Create a contract to include items you want to keep as you move out of isolation. Have everyone from the family sign it. Once the world opens up fully again you may forget the things that you liked; writing it down will help keep you on track. 3. Be careful. Encourage your kids to continue to wash their hands frequently for at least 20 seconds. Notice how often they are touching their face and help them recognize when they are doing this. 4. Be kind. Not everyone will be ready to integrate into 'normal' activities. Never judge or shame someone that is not ready to interact and participate in daily life activities like they did before the pandemic. 5. Stay in touch with your older kids that will be heading back to college or university. These are unprecedented times and they will be doing their best to 'get back to normal' but may need your support to navigate their emotions. 6. Think about how you were not prepared for this pandemic and make a decision to be prepared if it happens again. Pandemic-proof your work, stay healthy, and create a savings account and put money away each month for emergencies such as this.

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If you are struggling with how your life has been affected by the pandemic, reach out for support. Our Parent Coaches can help you work through a range of emotions. They specialize in everything from newborn care, to college success, from toddler tantrums to marriage support and more. Most offer a 30-minute free confidential chat to help you through life during and after the pandemic. Together we will be stronger and more prepared for our new and improved postpandemic lives. Just don't forget that you have all the power and control to create what that life will look like. It is, and always has been, in your hands. Sending love and strength and wisdom to you all! We have learned so much and now it is time to collectively make sure we live our best lives - in our own unique way!

GOT TEENS? worried? struggling? looking for answers?

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d u a h c i b o Wanda R WANDA ZEN MAMA, PARENT COACH

What do you do? I support parents of spirited children under six to discover their inner Zen Master

What issues do you deal with? Conscious parenting, behaviour and tantrums, parent and child connection, siblings

How can you help? Many of us didn’t grow up with a model of what conscious parenting looks like. This makes it really difficult to stay calm and know what to do when we feel triggered by our child’s big emotions. I help the Mom’s I work with to release the mom guilt, parent with confidence and have a better a relationship with their kids by mastering behaviour management, communication skills and mindset.

What can I expect? I offer a free 30-minute call to map out your needs and see if we are a good fit. If we go forward you can expect weekly zoom calls and ongoing email support. I offer both four weeks and eight weeks 1:1 coaching packages.

What they say about me... "I have reached out to Wanda to get some parenting advice and support in my parenting journey of 4 boys under 10. Not only she was extremely understanding and kind, but she has also provided me with tons of resources and very helpful advice on how to deal with the tantrums and lovingly support my youngest through them. I have learned a lot from Wanda. She would be an invaluable support for any parent!" Marta

My background includes a Bachelor of Education and Twenty years of rewarding experience working with children with developmental disabilities, with a focus on Autism. In 2011 I earned a certification in Hatha Yoga Teacher Training and later took the MBSR Mindfulness training. Mental Wellness is a passion of mine and I’ve taken on roles supporting and educating adults experiencing anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. The transition into parent coaching through Academy for Coaching Parents International came after meeting my greatest teachers, my two beautiful, energetic boys.

Dealing with Tantrums How can I find you?

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r o l y a T t e n Ja

PARENT COACH

What do you do? I empower parents dealing with youth struggling with mental health and addiction issues to focus on the present situation.

What issues do you deal with? I deal with parent's feelings of guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, other relationships that get affected by the stress; and overall mental health of the parent.

How can you help? I offer training I have learned over a period of 6 years in a 6 week program to empower parents in dealing with the areas within themselves that they can control to keep them in a healthy mindset - allows parents to be the role model their child needs and wants and allows the parent to deal with longer term issues one step at a time.

What can I expect? I use Zoom video to connect with you face to face in a confidential space - you can come alone or with your partner. This call is not time sensitive and we will get to talk about your situation, we will focus on the outcome you desire and I will share with you the 6 week program outline and the outcome you can achieve. I also offer a three week intensive course if that applies to your situation.

What other parents say about me: "She helped me tap into my strength and courage and reminded me who I truly am. I felt empowered and stronger after our session. I loved the questions she asked me and enjoyed finding the answers to those questions." Natalia S.

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