Parent Coach Magazine - Spring 2022 by Parent Coach Club

FIND A Parent Coach

SPRING 2022

PARENTCOACH

WELCOME

Welcome, my friend! I am so happy to see you here...thank you for spending a few minutes with us! Can you believe this is our Winter edition already? Where does the time go? How are you managing these days? You know, parenting is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. Some days I get it right, and well, some days I don't. I put together this community of Parent Coaches to help me with the days I don't get it right. Their ideas and guidance give me space to find tools and strategies to connect with my kids and find calm in my home, but it isn't just that...they also remind me that my bad days don't define me, and I am definitely not alone. I hope you find their words and ideas helpful. I know I do. But let me back up a bit. Do you even know what a Parent Coach does? If not, you are in the right place to explore what a Parent Coach can do for you and your family. To me, they are everything! Keep reading because I will: tell you what a Parent Coach can do for your family introduce you to Parent Coaches from around the world share advice from these trusted Parent Coaches give you the next steps if you need help right now We aren’t here to preach and tell you what to do - we are here to love and encourage you on your journey - your unique journey. See you inside, you awesome parent, you!

Jennifer XOXO

Jennifer McCallum, Mom, and Founder of the Parent Coach Club

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THANK YOU!

I don't even know where to start when I think about how grateful I am to be here, with you, doing what I love, day in and day out! This issue is all about the people that help us help our kids to grow into the independent, incredible adults they are destined to be. I am lucky enough to work with the best Parent Coaches from across the world as they make it their life mission to transform families from chaos to connection. Please join me as I celebrate each and every one of them in this special issue! And, if you are raising or working with kids and struggle with anything, please reach out to these Parent Coaches...they are here for you!

Jennifer McCallum Founder of the Parent Coach Club

Are you a Parent Coach? Consider becoming a Parent Coach Club Member! We meet for monthly Mastermind Calls, Case Study Calls, and Business Training sessions where you gain the skills to grow your business along with others doing this valuable work www.parentcoach.club/join

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WHO & WHAT'S INSIDE 04

PATH TO PEACE

WHAT IS A PARENT COACH?

Our Story

HOLDING SPACE/TANTRUMS

Ashley Ladouceur

Deborah Porter

Dr. Juliet Marciano

PARENTING / SAME PAGE

Cai Graham

COLOR AND MEMORY

Leslie Josel

Sonja Montiel

Amy Soloner

Linda Bolinger

Deanne Barrett

Doreen Steenland

SUPPORTING TEENS

Kate Garzón

FEAR-LESS PARENTING

Aparna Venkataraman

Kim Muench

Wanda Robichaud

Janet Taylor

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YOUR PARENTING PATH TO PEACE

STEP

1 2 3

IDENTIFY

STEP

WHAT YOU NEED

FIND

A PARENT COACH

TRANSFORM

Take time to identify what is holding you back from peace in your home.

Find a Parent Coach. Our Parent Coaches specialize in all areas from tantrums to paying for college and everything in between.

Transform your life and relationships. Implementing just one small idea can have a huge impact in your life.

YOUR LIFE

WHAT IS A PARENT COACH?

Parent coaches are experts trained to handle many different parenting issues... ...with positive, practical solutions. Unlike therapists who treat diagnosed mental health conditions, parent coaches are consultants who provide tools, activities, guidance and support to parents and families.

A parent coach can help you individually or in a group setting by giving you the means to help you and your child: Successfully achieve your parenting goals by asking the right questions Implement a step-by-step action plan to handle challenges Find new possibilities by sharing new perspectives and strategies to shift behaviour and family dynamics

FIND

A PARENT COACH Parent coaches offer proactive yet practical solutions

Parent coaches offer proactive yet practical solutions to a long list of parenting issues, including: Behavioural concerns Family changes or crisis Self-care Child development Mental health Positive parenting practices As you can see in the articles in this magazine, they specialize in these topics and many more. Find a Parent Coach to give you and your family the help you need. We are one click away! WWW.PARENTCOACH.CLUB ⎟05

OUR STORY

By Jennifer McCallum, Founder of the Parent Coach Club

THE ROAD HAS BEEN WINDING AND SOME DAYS WE COULDN'T EVEN FIND THE PATH...UNTIL I DISCOVERED PARENT COACHES. I guess you could say I was a typical first-time mom. I wanted to do it all perfectly and never mess up. I wanted to show the world that I could do it all and do it well.

And then my first child was born. That was almost 23 years ago. Bringing home our baby was terrifying. I was lost. I was tired. I was frustrated. I needed help but I didn't know where to go to get it. I had trouble with everything - breastfeeding, dealing with the lack of sleep, maintaining my relationships and having enough confidence to know what I was doing was right...the whole gambit! At the time, I was sent home from the hospital with bags and bags of pamphlets and fliers. I was expected to sift through and find the resources I needed. Well, this tired mom couldn't find them at all..there were so many pamphlets to go through and each time I would call a listed organization, they would send me to another one. It was like a wild goose chase just to get a straight answer. There was no Google to go to when I needed help with one specific thing like breastfeeding, first foods for baby, diapering, and daycare.

We ended up back in the hospital with our new baby a few days after the birth. It was a traumatic experience for all of us and thanks to the fabulous nurses, we were able to make it through and leave a few days later with a healthy baby. Fast forward a few months later when I found it difficult to find information about things like: cloth diapering, organic food, community playgroups, and daycare options. I felt like it was a full-time job to research all the choices I had to make as a parent, and in the process was saddened by the time I was missing out on just enjoying my new baby.

There had to be a better way...and I knew I wasn't alone. If I was going through this, there must be other parents out there who had the same trouble finding information.

How could I help other parents? Maybe a pamphlet would help...one that listed all the community resources – something like the phone book (remember them?) but just for parents??? I called the maternal newborn care units at the local hospitals and asked them if they would hand out a pamphlet of resources if I put it together. Without question, they agreed. That pamphlet ended up being a 100-page book! That first year, with a toddler and 5 month-old baby, we delivered our first edition of the books to the hospitals as promised. For 18 years, I printed parenting resource books that went to every new parent after their baby was born. 16 of those years I also printed a School-Age edition for parents of kids starting school. I expanded to new cities and before I knew it, we had printed 59 editions! What a ride.

I spent the next two years researching in a fog of worry, stress, confusion, and the ever-present overwhelm. I tried to go back to work and wondered if I would ever find any work as rewarding as raising my baby. It seemed like life had gone on for everyone else and I was still trying to figure out this new mom gig...and failing. And then, one day, it became clear what I needed to do. I needed to help other new parents so they didn't have to go through what I did.

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IT SEEMED LIKE LIFE HAD GONE ON FOR EVERYONE ELSE AND I WAS STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT THIS NEW MOM GIG...AND FAILING. JENNIFER MCCALLUM

And, then my kids grew up and became teens. It was yet another stage I wasn't prepared for. When my first baby was born, I created resource books...when the first two kids entered school, I created a school-age book...but teens...this was a whole new area to navigate...and I wasn't ready! I felt like I was always the last one to the party...the party of understanding teens. I struggled with the everyday things that teens go through, not willing to give up control, and adding a lot of stress, shame, and guilt, onto both my teens and myself. In the midst of this, we also adopted twins. I knew I needed to be better than I was. I knew that if I just had the key to the answers, I would be the best mom ever. I had four kids counting on me now.

That is when I discovered Parent Coaches. They changed my life. I began working with them and my relationship with my kids became better. I also felt better about myself and that forward positive motion really does create more peace at home. They gave me tools and strategies to use to build our relationship. In fact, one small idea created the biggest impact....and I got this in a 30-minute chat with a Parent Coach!

Read our full story & lessons learned

At the same time, I was also pivoting my business and wondering what I could do next to continue to help parents, without printing thousands of books each year. Google was a much better, environmentally friendly way to find resources now. The answer was right in front of me. Parent Coaches! I could help Parent Coaches grow their business so they could help more parents, like me. But, there was a problem - not many parents had even heard of what a Parent Coach could do for their family.

I set out with one main mission: Create awareness of Parent Coaches so that families could find the joy and peace that we were experiencing. Now, this is a very short overview of how we got here. It was not easy and some days I even wondered if I was cut out to be a mom. There is a link below if you want to read more, but I want to leave you with one thing to consider.... What do you want your relationship to be like when your kids are adults? I wanted mine to be better, and thanks to Parent Coaches, this is exactly what I got. My kids are now 22, 20, 15, and 15. I may be a bit biased, but I think they are the best kids in the world and I am grateful that I worked with Parent Coaches so I could be the mom they needed me to be. It's a work in process, but I am getting there! XOXO Jennifer

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FIVE THINGS YOUR CHILD LEARNS WHEN YOU 'HOLD SPACE' FOR THEIR TANTRUM BY: WANDA ROBICHAUD, WANDA ZEN MAMA

The blue cup is in the dishwasher. Fear grips

First, you might be wondering What does

hold of you. "Oh no. Not another tantrum. This

“Holding space” even mean?

has got to be the third time this morning!"

Holding space simply means accepting your child’s big emotions and staying with them

It feels like your entire day is being

without judgment as they move through a

sidetracked by tantrums. But what if your

tantrum.

child was supposed to be doing this? What if

Just as you would stay with a grieving friend

they were actually learning something with

as they experience a wave of sadness, you

each tantrum. What they are learning

can stay with our child as each wave of

depends on how you can help them manage

emotion passes.

these big feelings. If you can "hold space" for

When you can do this your child grows their

these hurricanes of emotion you can be a

emotional intelligence and learns all kinds of

superstar at supporting their developing

positive things. Here are five important things

emotional intelligence.

your child learns when you can hold space for their tantrums.

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1. Their emotions are accepted.

3. All emotions pass.

If you can breathe and stay calm through

Have you ever stayed with a painful emotion?

your little's tantrum or meltdown they will

Have you ever tried to move towards the painful

grow up knowing that all their emotions are

emotion instead of pushing it away? (for

ok. Not just the “positive” ones.

example, when we allow ourselves to grieve) Eventually, the feeling always passes. It might

2. You love them unconditionally.

shift and come back again but each wave of emotion passes like clouds in the sky. They don’t

When you hold space for them, they know

stay forever. So when your child is allowed to

you will love them NO MATTER WHAT, not

move through their emotions they will learn not to

just when they are “being quiet” or “being

push them away but to let them move through

good” or behaving in ways that are

and pass.

convenient to you.

The world has limits and they are learning what those limits are!

4. When you allow them to feel they learn to regulate their emotions.

5. They learn how the world works and that you will set boundaries and keep them safe.

Often because WE are uncomfortable with our little tornado's negative emotions we:

If you aren’t afraid of big feelings you can say no and be ok with it being hard for your

- try to distract them during a tantrum

child. For example, your child has a tantrum because they had one cookie and you say no

- try to talk them out of the tantrum

to more cookies. Over time, they learn that you will set and hold boundaries that are

- give in partway through the tantrum and

going to keep them safe and healthy. Even

let them have the thing that we originally

though it’s hard at that moment, as a child, it

said no to which started the tantrum.

feels good to know that you care about their well-being enough to set boundaries.

So if YOU can learn to stay with uncomfortable emotions, they can begin to

Even when the tantrum is about the blue cup

regulate their emotions by mirroring your

in the dishwasher, they are learning they

acceptance of them. You got this. You

can’t always have everything they want! The

won’t leave them alone with their big

world has limits and they are learning what

feelings and you won’t try to make those

those limits are!

feelings go away.

Have you been able to accept those big feelings when they feel like a semitruck coming towards you? What happens when you breathe through them whether they're yours or if they're your child's? If this is something you need support with reach out and book your free Melt the Meltdown call here https://calendly.com/wandazenmama/30-min

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r u e c u o d a L y e l G.R.E.A.T. PARENTING Ash PARENT COACH

What do you do? I coach parents of children age 1 to 10 helping them move from questioning their parenting to being the confident parent they are meant to be. I do this through 1:1 Coaching Sessions and a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership.

What issues do you deal with?

Parental overwhelm - Setting and implementing routines - Setting and holding boundaries - Finding confidence in your parenting choices

How can you help? I offer a 6 week 1:1 coaching program as well as a G.R.E.A.T. Parenting Membership tailored specific to the members needs and concerns.

How can you help? I offer a free 20-minute discovery call to chat more about your goals as a parent and as a family. We will then move ahead and book our first of six one hour a week sessions. In the membership you will find many resources, webinars and access to our monthly meet-ups!

What my client's say about me... I highly recommend Ashley to any parent that is struggling or just needs support! She helped me realize how important some "me" time is and that I'm not the only one that has tough days with their little ones. My mornings are way less stressful thanks to the simple solutions Ashley helped me come up with. Thank you Ashley! ~ K. M. ~ I reached out to Ashley after having our third baby, and I’m so glad that I did! She really listened to me, when I was all over the place with areas that I was struggling, and she was able to give me tools to use to get our household back on track. She makes it so easy to open up to her, and it is obvious that she really cares and wants to help. I am so excited to have this resource, knowing that Ashley is not only well educated in working with children, but also has so much experience of working with them, and being a parent herself is on the same journey. ~ A. V. ~

How to Hold Parenting Boundaries, Ashley Ladouceur, Parent Coach, G.R.E.A.T. Parenting

How can I find you?

Book a Call! Click here!

r e t r o P h Debora MOM COACH

What do you do? I support moms who feel overwhelmed and lost in motherhood and at times wonder who they are. The girl you were before having kids, her dreams and goals still matter. We get to work creating the strategies and systems that will support you in creating the atmosphere you want and a life that you love.

What issues do you deal with? Overwhelm, Faith, Confidence, Finding Peace, Raising Daughters/Sons

How can you help? I provide strategies and systems to help you gain the clarity you seeking on what needs to be done, building confidence in yourself and your instincts as a mom and woman and finding the courage to determine what it is you need and how to get it.

What can I expect? I offer a FREE 30 min. strategy call after filling out the application to work with me. If we decide to work together, we will begin scheduling calls and I will provide you access to the curriculum. Apply here: bit.ly/letschatmom

About me... I am the wife of my college sweetheart Clif, for 30 years and mother of 3 adult children 29, 25, 23 and a bonus son. Currently, a regular guest contributor on Virginia This Morning on CBS WTVR and you can read my guest blogs on CollegiateParent here https://www.collegiateparent.com/author/debor ah-porter/ . We are enjoying the empty nest phase and love when we get to spend time with our adult children.

All about Deborah! How can I find you?

o n a i c r a M t e i l u J Dr. MINDSET COACH FOR PARENTS

What do you do? As a Mindset Coach for Parents and a PCI Certified Parent Coach®️, I help parents gather the information and develop the skills they need to reclaim the joy of parenting, no matter what challenges they face or struggles they encounter, and then lead their family to thrive!

What issues do you deal with?

I support parents of children with special needs and extra needs. This includes any child with a physical, mental, emotional, behavioral, or learning difference or a family going through a challenging situation such as a divorce.

How can you help? My coaching is a strength-based, positive focused process. Using my 6 step “Path to Possibility” I incorporate general parenting topics as well as exploring the concepts of mindfulness, neuroscience, resilience, conscious parenting, problemsolving, motivation, self-care, managing a healthy relationship with digital media and screen technology, and more! The first step involves a shift in mindset and perspective, and we go from there!

What can I expect? We start with a 20 minute complimentary consultation call to discuss your family’s challenges and how your family will benefit from coaching. I offer coaching through phone or video calls in a variety of situations from a 2-hour focused call to a 12-week individual coaching program. As your coach, I am a compassionate, non-judgmental partner who works with you to bring about your family’s transformation! After working with me, parents enjoy their parenting experience more. Not only are they calmer, but they are better able to accept and embrace their children for who they are, build and maintain connection with their children, and feel confident as they face any challenges that arise.

What my client's say about me...

“I wish I had met her 10 years ago! She ‘gets it’ and she understands my struggles and doesn’t judge me for my mistakes.” C. U. -parent of 2 "After working with Juliet, for the first time in a long time, I’m not afraid of our future and I’m enjoying my children!” J. H.- parent of 2 “Working with Juliet gave me hope that my children will be ok, even with all the challenges we are facing as a family.” S. M. Parent of 2 “Before we finished the first call, I was feeling better already!” M.H. “Juliet has always been so helpful, caring, and knowledgeable when guiding me through some challenging parenting times. She has helped me to understand, that my job is to help my kids figure out who they are, at their core, and to support them in being the best version of themselves. With Jul’s coaching, I have become a more confident parent.” - H.P. - Mother of 2

All about Dr. Juliet! How can I find you?

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GOT KIDS? worried? struggling? looking for answers?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

3 KEYS FOR PARENTING ON THE SAME PAGE By Kate Garzon, Guided Parenting Support

Parenting is hard. Co-parenting is hard. Even if you're happily partnered with the person with whom you're parenting, even if you love/respect/trust the people with whom you're co-parenting…it's really, really hard. WHY IS IT SO HARD?!?!? The answer to that question is simple… but the solutions to that problem are complex. Everyone comes into the parenting game with their own…let's call them "souvenirs"…from how they were parented. Then add the decades they spent saying "When I have children I'll never____," or "When I have children I'll always____.” Toss in a dash of hopes and dreams for their children's futures; the welcome or annoying advice from well-meaning family and friends; and the ever-present opinions on social media; and trying to agree on how to raise children can easily become a logistical and emotional nightmare. Everyone wants what's best for their kids—but what do you do when you can't agree on "What's best"?

Although by no means an exhaustive list, here are 3 keys for Parenting on the Same Page to get you started: 1. Parenting from a Place of Shared Values Let's explore a common scenario: Parent A wants everyone to have dinner together every night because that's how their family always did things. Parent B wants to be a good provider because they didn't grow up with much, so they end up working late several nights a week and missing those family dinners, sometimes with very little notice. The kids also have activities on a couple of evenings that cut into the family dinner time, so Parent A is upset that their plan for collective dinners is derailed, and Parent B feels guilty for missing dinners AND activities.

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This can easily lead to hurt feelings, resentment, and a chorus of "We never spend time together as a family!" Followed closely by, "All you do is work!" and, "You don't appreciate all the hours I put in so we can have nice things!" Sound familiar? It's really easy to jump on the merry-go-round of anger and accusations when holding onto what each person thinks is "best" for the family. But here's the thing…it's not about DINNER, and it's not about WORK… it's about CONNECTION. The shared value is connection, so rather than focusing on what isn’t working (dinner together every night), take the opportunity to collectively brainstorm and problem-solve ways that the family can connect. Breakfast together a couple of mornings a week? An evening walk after everyone is home from activities? Pizza and a board game on Friday night? Saturday morning raking and jumping in piles of leaves? It doesn't have to be the same activity every day or every week, because when the focus is on the shared value, then parents are automatically on the same team and can more easily work together to come up with flexible solutions that support parenting from a place of shared values.

2. Parenting from Place of Authenticity (a.k.a. you don't all have to do things the same way) Even if you're madly in love with your parenting partner(s), you don't share a brain! You each have your own personalities and ways of relating to, and interacting with, your kiddos. And that's a beautiful thing! Kids need to learn how to interact with all sorts of different humans, and a wonderful way to start doing that is by having authentic relationships with their parents and learning to respect and appreciate a variety of different ways of doing things. If you're a "rough-and-tumble" parent, be that! If you're a "prefers things quiet and calm" parent, be that! If you're a planner, if you're spontaneous, if you're an explainer, if you're a "doer"…be that! As long as the family’s shared values are being respected, then how you get there leaves room for you to be authentically you. For example, if a shared value for your family is getting adequate sleep, then it's likely that you've decided what an appropriate bedtime is for your child's age and developmental stage. If bedtime for your 5-year-old with Parent A looks like "PJ's, teeth brushed, two stories, one song, a hug and lights out" and bedtime with Parent B looks like "PJ's, chase around the house, teeth brushed, look for lost teddy bear, six stories, 'I need a drink of water,' 'Just one more song please, Mommy,' and finally the door is closed," that’s okay! Kids are SMART and they'll very quickly figure out what's acceptable with each parent. You aren't responsible for your parenting partner's relationship with the children, just as they aren't responsible for yours. Provided, of course, that the shared value of getting adequate sleep is being met. If it isn't, then it's time for more collaborative problem-solving so that the children are getting what they need, and the family is working towards shared values. And this connects directly to Key #3!

3. Parenting with the Child as the Focus It can be really easy to pick a position (my way is the right way, of course) and then firmly entrench ourselves regardless of evidence to the contrary. Humans don't like to admit when we're wrong, and we DEFINITELY don't like admitting that someone else is right! To parent on the same page, focus on what the child needs in a given scenario, and allow that to be your guide for decision making. To use the example from above, even if Parent B’s bedtime routine drives you nuts, as long as the child is in bed by the agreed-upon time, it's really none of your business. Even if that means Parent B has to start the routine an hour earlier to fit everything in, the shared value is adequate sleep, not a ten-minute bedtime routine so you really don't get to have a say. However, if the routine is consistently dragging on past bedtime and the child isn't getting adequate sleep, it's time for a conversation. This is another opportunity to collaboratively brainstorm solutions to the problem, not an opportunity to try to convince your parenting partner that your way is better than theirs. Keep the focus on what the child needs (to be asleep by 7:30pm, for example) and the observation that that isn't happening every night. Be open and flexible to ideas that work towards the shared value, even if you’d do it differently.

Every parenting and co-parenting situation is unique, and benefits from trust, respect, and open communication. And no matter how amazing your parenting partnership(s), there will be bumps in the road. By focusing on shared values; giving yourselves and your parenting partner(s) permission to be their own authentic selves who are responsible for their own parent-child relationships; and making decisions with the child as the focus; you can hopefully spend more time "Parenting on the Same Page." **If you're curious about how parent coaching with GPS can help you "Parent on the Same Page," book a Connect with Kate call today!

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GOT KIDS? worried? struggling? looking for answers?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

m a h a r G i Ca MUM, PARENTING EXPERT, AUTHOR & SPEAKER

What do you do? I help Parents Support their Children - so that Together we can Build a Mentally Healthier and Happier Generation of Young People.

What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, Confidence, Communication, Discipline, Motivation, Self-Care, Self-Harm.

How can you help? The TEEN Toolbox™ series is basically the Umbrella under which I work. It is my collection of products and services that are specifically geared towards parents and their teenagers. These include: courses, consultations, in-home visits, and retreats

What can I expect? Well that all depends on what product or service you are using. Above all - I want to leave you with takeaways. Practical techniques and tools that will equip you with the challenges that you are dealing with. I offer a free 30 minute call www.caigraham.com/discovery

More on what I offer... Spotlight Course : These courses give you an in depth insight into the specific challenges you are experiencing. You are provided with a deeper understanding and a clear-cut exercises designed to help you conquer these particular obstacles. Many of these courses can be completed in an hour or so. They are child-friendly and are designed to gain rapid results. Flagship Course : Let’s face it - you are your child’s best Role Model. So this course is designed to help you support your child to the very best of your ability. It is a detailed blueprint to help you build both your parenting expertise and confidence. The course is broken down into 8 modules and requires an investment of your time and commitment. There is also the opportunity to be part of our online community. Join me and other like-minded parents where your questions and challenges can be shared and addressed. Take this course - your kids will, thank you, one day! 1-2-1 Consultations : This is the opportunity to work with me personally ( from hourly calls to coaching packages ) I love these sessions, as they are a fantastic opportunity for me to connect with you at a deeper level and a great way for us to work together more closely; without judgement and with a sprinkling of humour! Working with me directly will help you achieve your parenting goals faster. We can address the issues that are unique to your family and deal with everyone’s challenges individually : ✔️Identify the obstacles that are currently holding you back. ✔️Get pointers to will help you better connect with your child. ✔️Understand how to build stronger relationships with the whole family. ✔️Learn new ways to communicate – so that you and your teen can talk more freely. ✔️Free App : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Signposts you to my social media channels and some quick exercises that will help you support you immediately. www.caigraham.com/app

All About Teen Anxiety

✔️My Book : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Keep this on your nightstand! It’s a valuable point of reference when you need to gain some parenting answers. www.caigraham.com/book

How can I find you?

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HOW COLOR ENHANCES YOUR MEMORY by Leslie Josel - ADHD Academic Coach

Q: My Disorganized Teen Hates Checklists and Charts “COLOR PLAYS A SIGNIFICANT ROLE IN ENHANCING MEMORY PERFORMANCE… WHEN WE ARRANGE INFORMATION — TO-DO LISTS, CALENDARS, SHOPPING LISTS — INTO COLOR BLOCKS, OUR BRAINS CAN MORE QUICKLY PROCESS THE INFORMATION, INCREASING OUR LIKELIHOOD OF COMPLETING TASKS.” Q: “I’m at my wit’s end setting up organizational systems for my 13-yearold daughter. Checklists and charts don’t work for her. She says she doesn’t like them, and they take her too long to read. So they get completely ignored, and none of her chores get done. I also have to remind her where all her stuff in the house goes. Any ideas for what I can do to help her be more organized at home and at school? Thanks.” — WitsEndMom

Hi WitsEndmom: Have you tried color-coding techniques to help your daughter be more organized at home and school? In my work as an ADHD family coach and at home with my own kids, I have had much success using colorcoding systems (especially for young children) for to-do lists, school supplies, and reminders.

Color Coding Improves Memory HERE’S WHY IT WORKS. Color plays a significant role in enhancing memory performance. A 2013 study in the Malaysian Journal of Medical Sciences, revealed that color increases the chance for environmental stimuli to be encoded, stored, and retrieved successfully. When we arrange information — to-do lists, calendars, shopping lists — into color blocks, our brains can more quickly process the information, increasing our likelihood of completing tasks. But apart from the science, color coding is a fun and easy way to help children get and stay organized! 1. Color code your child’s to-dos. Use different-colored sticky notes to help your child track when to do specific tasks like schoolwork or household responsibilities. You can also use the color of the sticky note to indicate the urgency of an assignment or responsibility. For example, anything highlighted in green, written in green pen, or on a green sticky note means “Go!” or top priority.

2. Color code to distinguish class notes from home-study notes. Some of my students find it helpful to separate what they learned in class from what they learned while studying or reviewing at home. Perhaps your daughter can take class notes with a blue pen and use a black pen for notes taken at home. This system can be helpful if she has a question about the material she is learning. She will know where she learned it and can quickly relay that information or question back to her teacher. WWW.PARENTCOACH.CLUB ⎟31

3. Color code school supplies. Have your daughter designate a color for each of her subjects. Then use that specific color for every binder, folder, notebook, etc., needed for that class. If your child uses a homework station, follow the color scheme for storage bins for classspecific supplies. For example, say blue is the designated math color. Then calculators and rulers get placed in the blue container to accompany her blue math notebook. 4. Use colored bracelets for reminders. Once your daughter assigns every subject a color, buy her a set of colored bracelets. (Inexpensive varieties are easy to find online.) She can wear these as a reminder to hand in an assignment or if she has homework in a specific class. 5. Organize your daughter’s activities by color. Use large totes in different colors to store athletic and extracurricular gear (dance in red, tennis in blue, and so on). This will keep everything organized in one spot and easy to grab when heading out the door to a lesson or game. You can also customize each bag with the name of the activity right on it. No more tap shoes hiding with the lacrosse stick.

6. Color code towels. Have your daughter select a color for her towels. Sew colored loops onto the edge of white towels, or purchase towels in that color so she can instantly identify them. This helps tremendously when it’s time to do or put away laundry. 7. Color code chargers, cables, and cords. Chargers, cables, and cords were always disappearing at my house – until I color-coded them per child. No more stealing chargers! It’s a win-win! 8. Use colored bins to store personal items. Have your daughter assign different colors to her stuff (hair care and make-up can go in a white bin, photos in blue, etc.). When it’s clean-up time, she will know what goes into each specific color bin. Knowing where everything is will takes the guesswork and agony out of cleaning up!

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What do you do? Order Out of Chaos’ mission is to provide hands-on education, guidance and coaching to parents and their students through our customized products and programs, so all children – both mainstream and with learning issues – can develop the necessary skills they need to experience success in learning and in life. Knowing how to help your child develop the skills they need doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Order Out of Chaos is built on the philosophy that the coaching process is a journey that begins and ends with YOU. Our process is organic – it evolves as we figure out TOGETHER what needs changing and what works best for you. The end results are tailor-made to fit your needs. We will focus you and help you, but YOU set the pace and the tone.

What issues do you deal with? We coach both parents and students to help with study skills, ADHD management, executive functioning skills, time management, procrastination and so much more.

How can you help? We provide workshops and webinars, products and programs, group and one-on-one coaching for both parents and their students. Everything is available virtually. So you choose how and to what extent you need support and coaching.

What can I expect? You can expect to be supported, guided and nurtured. The Order Out of Chaos community is a robust and active community.

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. A . M , l e i t n o M Sonja COLLEGE CONFIDENCE What do you do?

While maintaining a compassionate relationship, I train parents to become the best educator for their teens so they can feel confident about plans after high school.

What issues do you deal with?

I focus on communication skills and knowledge specific to helping your teens create a plan ready to implement as they approach high school graduation. Topics include college affordability, college admissions options, career training, identifying the right majors for teens, building the college list, college essay writing strategies, and so much more!

What can I expect? Let’s schedule a 30-minute call to talk about your needs and your starting point! We will determine which service plan is best for you which can include our: comprehensive workbook with action plans, templates, and agenda samples, online podcast training program if you are always on the go, 10-session online parent course, and/or one-to-one coaching

How can you help?

Helping teens plan their paths after high school can create tension and conflict in the home mostly because families are waiting too late to begin, or there isn’t enough information on what the options are, what requirements fulfill each option, and how to engage with teens to ignite their motivation to be active in making a plan. As an expert in the field of college admissions for 20 years, I will provide training and coaching that places teens at the center of planning. Parents and teens will no longer have to face this educational journey with uncertainty, worry, and confusion!

What other parents say about me “Sonja gave me the communication tools to allow me to take charge of the college process. I was familiar with the college application process, however was clueless on how to have impactful and meaningful conversations with my teen. My daughter and I are so much more closer! Thank you so much!” “I have been working with College Confidence for years and I truly will not work with anyone else. Sonja's experience is unmatched. She is professional and an expert in college admissions. She will not only advocate for your child, but will be a critical pillar in your family's journey. She's that good!” “Thank you again for your wonderful presentation/talk for our group. I feel we all (parents and students) learned quite a bit from you that night. My daughter and I both agreed the way you presented the college process, was with a lot of positive influence and enthusiasm. You made it sound challenging about writing ‘your story’ but in a way that made the girls feel special and that it is ok to like yourself and tell college why they would benefit from the you as the applicant. To go for it!”

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r e n o l a S AmyP A R E N T A N D TEEN COACH

What do you do?

I am a parent and teen coach specializing in teens and tweens, especially those preparing to graduate from high school.

What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, depression, eating disorders, life skills, sports/dance nutrition and well-being.

How can you help? I offer 1:1 and family coaching, classes and support groups for both parents and teens. I offer comprehensive assessments for both mental and nutritional health as needed, including blood work and physical evaluations.

What can I expect? I offer a 20 minute free consultation to assess your teen and families needs. From there we determine what the most supportive approach will be for your family.

What other parents say about Amy... The Resilient Family Course was a lifeline in the midst of the pandemic for me and Amy’s guidance was a gift. This class taught strategies to keep my family balanced and well both physically and emotionally during times of stress. Katherine E. Amy is an experienced educator with a wealth of knowledge in so many areas. She listens attentively to students, uses a variety of innovated learning and teaching styles, and guides them through the curricula with clear and articulated instruction. Amy has a way of teaching which motivates students to believe in themselves and make changes in their lives. Dr. DeLaney I got a better understanding of how to properly fuel my body and what consists of a “well rounded” meal. Most of all, I got a general idea of how to become more resilient. Dance Student

Three things you can do right now to create an energetic connection with your teen. 1- Put your hand on your heart and take three slow, deep breaths 2- Envision a peaceful, connected moment with your teen in your mind’s eye 3- Send love out to your teen. Visualise pink light radiating out from your heart and enveloping your teen.

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r e g n i l o Linda B

INTUITIVE MENTOR & THETAHEALING PRACTITIONER

What do you do?

I help parents and teens strengthen their relationship with SELF.

How is this accomplished? I utilize my intuition to navigate to the origin of emotional blocks, negative experiences and beliefs that are negatively impacting your current relationship with self and others. Together we will peel the layers, with clarity, intent and new perspective, to release what no longer serves you and your teen.

What can I expect? Results. Clarity & new perspective. Resolution to undesired situations & experiences that will leave you feeling light, without carrying the emotional “load.”

How do I get started? I invite you to connect with me via email or social media to book your FREE 30-min clarity call to chat about the specific needs and changes you are looking for in your current relationship. Once enrolled in my mentorship, we will create a plan that is tailored to your specific needs and schedule weekly sessions to jump into desired change.

What can be expected by investing in MYSELF and TEEN via your Mentorship?

You will strengthen your intuition and align to #BYObestself in this 10hr FLEXIBLE program. Let your weekly sessions be tailored to you and the needs of your teen. If you are READY to shift out of your current situation and create change that lasts, this program is for you. Step into joy, positivity and a future that excites you, with the tips, exercises and healing that comes with this program! Invest in SELF to experience the change you are longing for.

Hear it from others who have invested in self & committed to CHANGE in their relationship:

Linda is my absolute go-to person when I need support, clarity and direction. She has helped me find my way through many moments I have felt lost. Linda has also helped my teen-age daughter through many typical teen-age struggles. My daughter is a much happier person after her sessions with Linda. She works with Linda on a regular basis now and is doing amazing!! Thank you Linda for the work you do. My family is very grateful to have you on our side.️Jennifer Funnell (Ontario, Canada) Linda is a gifted healer - she intuitively gets to the source of my obstacles and answers questions I didn't even know how to ask. I know that I can get on a call with her and I can trust that I'll feel better in just 60 minutes. She's helped guide me ….to follow my intuition and trust how to be in the flow. Before our session today, I felt untethered, lost in space, disconnected from my body - anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed - and definitely not creative! After our session I felt re-inspired, like a weight was lifted off my shoulders - and I felt connected to myself again. I highly recommend you go to Linda when you need help that you can't always put words to - she'll figure it out! -Jen Pillow (British Columbia, Canada) Working with Linda is a great experience overall. Coming in to sessions and working with Linda helped me clear my mind and really think rationally after. As well it calms and relaxes your mind and body during sessions. Working with Linda really helped me think about different aspects of situations, and working on finding out more about myself. After leaving I felt very positive and clear minded always looking forward to the next session. Nicholas ~ 18 years old (Ontario, Canada)

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t t e r r a B e n n a e D RADIANT LEADERSHIP COACHING FOR MOMS

What do you do?

I offer online coaching to sensitive, empathic moms who want to be a strong leader for their pre-teens and teens

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, resentment, frustration, energy leaks, boundaries.

How can you help? I help moms connect to deeply sourced LOVE energy to be the compassionate and strong leader their teen needs.

What can I expect? I offer a free 30 minute call to see if we are good fit for one of my private or group coaching programs. Private calls happen once a week over the phone. Group coaching happens over the phone and video conferencing. Ask me how to gain access to my library of resources, and my monthly Radiant Mom Tribe calls!

What other parents say about Deanne This work has transformed the way I see my teens and it has given me a gift to help them develop their confidence and achieve their goals.” –Deb Hemmaway I find that Deanne presents topics in a very positive, mindful and deliberate way. After the coaching calls I feel grounded and inspired to connect with my daughter in a new way. This is in contrast to some presentations when I leave feeling deflated and thinking “I should do this” or “I should be this”. – Jutta Shaw “This is really working! I’m glad I chose this coaching over therapy, because instead of ruminating over what’s not working, I have some clear, practical things that I can try” – Rebecca, mom of a high school aged son

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d n a l n e e t Doreen S RELATIONSHIP COACH

What do you do? I offer the Parenting with Intention Workshop online and coach parents of teens to help them navigate their changing relationship, married couples who desire to deepen their relationship, and teens who desire to grow in resilience.

What issues do you deal with? Relationship-Managing EmotionsNeuroplasticity-Creating ResilienceDevelopment of Powerful world changing teens

How can you help? I help create awareness, and provide tools and strategies for developing deep, meaningful relationships with your teen, self and God, through coaching and transformational neuroscience.

What can I expect? The Parenting With Intention Workshop is a four week workshop done on Zoom and runs quarterly. For one on one coaching, our calls usually last 45 minutes (30 minutes for teens) and can be done from anywhere in the world. I offer a free inquiry call to see if I’m the right coach for you and your family.

What other parents say about Doreen “After applying the new things I learned, I have figured out ways to defuse situations before they ignite - which avoids unproductive arguing and I'm focused on the message I want to teach her. This class was amazing!” Jennifer Neilson “We learned techniques to bring down the escalated emotions and instead begin productive communication where we can all learn and think constructively. More importantly, we learned great techniques on how to have healthy communication with our kids! sign up...you will not be disappointed.” Elizabeth Renna “Many times, we reacted abruptly from our own emotions. It was eye-opening to learn that we could handle situations in a completely different way. It was also helpful to learn from the other parents that we were not alone in our challenges to better connect with our teens. We learned tools that provided us with the ability to pause before reacting and to look at situations from both sides.” Elizabeth Pilla

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By Kate Garzon Guided Parenting Support Talking with kids about things that are going on in the world, or within your own family, is crucial for supporting them during crises. But talking can also feel like a "reactive" response, once things have already happened. And the bottom line is that the kids you're raising are facing very real, and very scary, challenges. Updates on the war are on a constant loop thanks to a 24-hour news cycle that won't let us rest; we're just starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel after a 2-year global pandemic that has impacted every aspect of life as we know it; climate change has reached crisis levels with consequences that will fall squarely on the shoulders of the next generation; racism, homophobia and attempts by those in positions of privilege to claw back basic human rights are a daily occurrence; and that's on top of the "normal" life challenges of family illness and death, parental job losses, moving, and the everyday upsand-downs of being a kid. Life has always been hard, unpredictable and unfair—and it seems like it's going to be even more so for the youngest among us as they grow. So, if all we're doing as adults is talking, we're missing the boat on incredible opportunities to support children and teens before, during, and after those hard times.

As parents, it would be very easy to feel powerless, hopeless, angry, and resentful. Easy, and totally understandable. Lying in bed with the blankets over your head, thinking about the dumpster fire of a world that you're leaving to your children and grandchildren while mainlining Girl Scout cookies is a perfectly reasonable response to the overwhelming task you're being asked to undertake: raising children, who become adults, who are prepared to be successful in an unknown future. Except you're not powerless. You, as parents, have more power than anyone to shape the way your children will face their unknown futures. You get to decide whether they choose the path of despair, seeking blame, resentment and revenge; or whether they choose resilience, optimism, compassion, curiosity, and the desire to change the world.

In case you decide to go for option two, here's a short list of suggestions to get you started: Play. A lot. "Play allows pretend rehearsals for the challenges and ambiguities of life, a rehearsal in which life and death are not at stake" (Bob Fagan, play researcher). It develops resilience, calms the nervous system (especially when there's fresh air and movement involved); develops social and emotional skills; and it inoculates against stress by introducing "micro-doses" of stress at manageable levels, through the anticipation-action-resolution cycle of games like hide-and-seek, tag, or even Peek-a-Boo with babies and toddlers. Most importantly, it's how children process things that they don't understand. Rough and tumble play lets out anger, frustration and aggression in a safe way; imaginary play lets kids "talk through" situations that are scary or worrisome, and "good guy-bad guy" fantasy play helps kids feel less powerless because they can imagine themselves as having agency and control in scary situations, and enables them to feel like protectors. Child led play is best, so let them take the lead and match their tone, their pace, their energy level, and don't change their narrative if they create an imaginary scenario that makes you uncomfortable. If an issue comes up during their play, then you can bet that issue is on their minds and by being privy to their play you get to see inside their worlds. Take a glance at your family's schedules and if there isn't ample "blank space" in the calendar for children to play, see where you can free up extra hours every week for this critical developmental need.

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Sleep. A lot. When humans don't sleep enough, levels of anxiety and depression increase—there's a reason why sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture. Sleep is when the body heals and grows; when the brain consolidates memories and processes everything that happened during the day; cleans out the junk and prunes synapses; regulates hormones; and those last few hours in the morning when dreams typically take place provide emotional processing and regulation. Ample, high-quality sleep is essential for healthy development over the long term, and in the short term the old adage of, "Things will look better in the morning" is definitely accurate (and so is, "Nothing good happens after 2am" for the How I Met Your Mother fans out there). Get in the habit of watching the news with intention. Rather than doom scrolling or keeping things on a constant cycle, choose reputable news sources and watch or read at specific times of day. Try to avoid having news on in the background while your children are around, as little ears pick up on far more than we realize. Know that they’ll take their cues from you. Understand that even if your children are too young to know there's a war going on, the glaciers are melting, and books are being banned across the country, they'll definitely be picking up on your vibes of tension, anxiety, or despair. You can offset this by finding additional ways to connect with them—whether that's giving extra snuggles, playing at the park after dinner now that days are getting longer, or choosing feel-good things to do together like having ice cream and a movie night. It will benefit your nervous system and emotions, as well as, strengthen the bond between you and your children that acts as a protective factor and promotes resilience. Get outside in nature, get enough sleep, and move your bodies as often as you can to keep your own system in balance. Look for the helpers, and be the helpers. Donate, be of service to your neighbors or the local community, make someone's life better today so you and your children feel less helpless. The service doesn't have to be related to the war in Ukraine, it doesn't have to be large-scale and grand; it's the process of thinking about what others need, then putting those thoughts into action, that helps kids develop compassion, perspective-taking, and a sense of agency that will benefit them throughout their entire lives. You're never powerless when you have the power to change someone else's life, even in small ways.

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While this is by no means a comprehensive list, I hope that it offers some practical optimism—if you decide to put down the cookies and come out from under your blanket fort, that is—for supporting your children and teens during hard times. And if you'd rather stay under the covers a little while longer, no one will blame you for that, either. If you'd like to talk about what your family needs, based on your specific circumstances, book a complimentary Connect with Kate call today. https://calendly.com/gpsforparents

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. d E . M , n zó Kate Gar GUIDED PARENTING SUPPORT--GPS

How can you help? I offer online and in-person private coaching sessions, and both virtual and live parent education courses and workshops.

What can I expect? We will begin with a complimentary, 30-minute Discovery Call to get to know each other. Following that, we will use a simple and collaborative five-step process to identify and prioritize your concerns and create a roadmap for success that keeps YOU in the driver's seat of your family.

What other parents are saying about GPS... “Simply put, Kate is the Child Whisperer. She has an innate ability to zero in on root cause – and proposes easy, no-stress solutions for managing challenging situations." -Parent of 2- and 4-year-olds "Kate Garzón is a gifted educator—both of children and parents. By the end of our first conversation, she had provided me with a concrete and helpful plan that I could implement immediately. It’s difficult to say, ‘I feel like I’m missing something here. This is my kid, but I just can’t see the solution.’ Kate made me feel heard, empowered, supported. I left our conversation feeling better about myself as a parent and confident in the road ahead.” -Parent of three children ages 8, 6, and 10 months “As a mother of two teenagers, the landscape of parenting is everchanging. Kate is an incredible resource who always makes me feel equipped with the tools during this period. Most importantly she provides guidance and an understanding of their needs and development. Her coaching is approachable and always empowering - as a parent I feel more confident in my role thanks to her.”-Parent of 13- and 15-year-olds

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By Elisabeth Harrod, Purpose Parenting

Once we eliminate fear from our parenting, only unconditional love remains.

"Fear is the mind-killer. I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass through me. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." Frank Herbert, Dune I teach parenting skills. Why am I blogging about fear? When I think back on the thousands of conversations I've had with parents, so many of the struggles and challenges they experience every day come down to fear. One of the truths I share with parents: "Once we eliminate fear from our parenting, only unconditional love remains."

WHAT DO PARENTS FEAR? (I MEAN, ALL OF US PARENTS COULD MAKE THIS LIST): Bad grades Feeling unchallenged No friends Wrong friends Too much time with friends Too much screen time* Too much time alone in their room Smoking weed Eating too much sugar Not eating enough broccoli Having sex Breaking up Physical safety Getting kicked off a team Forgetting backpacks Not doing homework Over-achieving Under-achieving Getting bullied Being a bully Too lazy Too hyper... The list of parents' fears is endless. Before I go on, I want to say I HAVE FEARS FOR MY KIDS TOO! I have to fight every day to keep my fears for my kids out of my parenting. It's work. It takes discipline. It can be exhausting. It can feel impossible. I'm not perfect. My fears for my kids creep in. The point of working on parenting skills is NOT to be perfect (Just like we don't want our kids to feel like they have to be perfect. We model not being perfect every day!) The point is to understand why parenting from a place of fear is something to TRY to eliminate from our parenting. Then, when it creeps in once in a while, we notice it, we name it, we change it. So why do we fear for our kids? Simplest answer: We love our kids more than anything else in our lives. Period. Nothing comes close.

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We feel this responsibility for how they "turn out." We want them to be happy, to feel purposeful, to be successful, to find love... We have all these expectations, hopes for our kids. I could go into brain research and the amygdala... That's for other people to write about. Google amygdala if you want to know why we fear for our kids.

I want to write about 2 things: 1. How does parenting from a place of fear affect our relationship with our kids? 2. How do we do the work to minimize parenting from a place of fear (because to eliminate it just isn't possible, IMO)? How does parenting from a place of fear affect our relationship with our kids? Rather than blah, blah, blah, I'll give two scenarios (fill-in the activity that matches your kid).

FEAR-BASED PARENTING SCENARIO: Nine-year-old son. Rides horses. Mom constantly brings up falling off his horse. "I'm terrified every time you ride. What if you fall off?" "Christopher Reeves became paralyzed because of a fall from his horse and eventually died!" "It's just not safe." As mom drops her son off at the barn, she says, "Be safe! Don't fall off!" As the son is riding his horse, all he hears is "Don't fall off!" Just as he's hearing that distracting voice in his head, the horse starts cantering unexpectedly, and the son falls off the horse and breaks his arm. Now Mom is even more terrified of her son riding horses!

CONSCIOUSLY REDIRECT FEAR SCENARIO: Nine-year-old son. Rides horses. Mom has periodic internal fear of her son falling off his horse and being injured. When the fear comes over her, she takes a deep breath. She remembers all the safety measures she knows the instructor has in place. She reminds herself of how his instructor never lets him move on to the next skill/level of difficulty until he has mastered the one before. She remembers all the times her son has gone riding and never been injured.

She reminds herself that he doesn't want to fall and he is a very strong and skillful rider. She brings up her worst fear: He falls and becomes very injured. That's terrible! No! Her worst fear is letting her own fears either keep him from riding or cause him so much fear he actually does fall. As she's driving her son to the barn - EVEN THOUGH SHE'S AFRAID - she makes the CHOICE to push down the fear and pull up the CONFIDENCE. She keeps her voice light, laughs often, asks questions, tells a good story. When she drops him off at the barn, she casually says, "Have a great time! I hope you learn something new today. Give Holly a special hug from me." And then she drives off and hopes for the best. ONE of the zillions of times her son rode horses, he sprained his wrist. She took him to Urgent Care. Got it patched up. Reminded her son (and herself) that it's natural to have injuries in life. The worse injury her son could have is being locked away "safe" in his room. Breathe Deep Mama. (Okay. Did you figure out that's my son? I had to work - HAVE to work every day on keeping my fears for my sons out of my parenting.) The way we parents talk to our kids, BECOMES the voice in our children's heads. The TONE and MOOD we set in our homes, become their inner tone and mood. When we lay down fearful, anxious patterns in the ways we relate to our kids, their brains develop in anxious, fearful ways. If they already have anxious brain-wiring of their own, our fears reinforce their fears. Try noticing FEAR this week and taking a step or two towards a different response. See what happens. Share what happens. If you'd like to learn how to remove fear from your parenting, set up a Transformational Session with me today. purposeparenting.net

When we fear, it's hard to hear.

~ Elisabeth Harrod, Purpose Parenting

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Aparna Venkataraman PARENT COACH WELLNESS EDUCATOR MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER MINDFULNESS EDUCATOR

What do you do? I offer 1-on-1 online parent coaching and guided meditation sessions to parents and teens, as well as e-guides and essential oil education.

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, depression, self-worth, communication, mindfulness, academic focus, leadership skills.

How can you help?

I offer practical techniques and tips for self-care, emotion self-regulation, communication and overall confidence to help you feel more flow, joy, ease and connection!

What can I expect? I offer a free 30-minute consultation to discuss your needs and we meet either weekly or biweekly. You will also have access to all of my mindfulness and essential oil resources.

What other parents say about me It was really lovely having direct phrases to communicate more with my child and partner, as I felt less stress and more equipped to manage things in the future and love myself more in the process. — Edith D. I really loved hearing her perspective and experiences and how she could relate to what I was going through with my daughter - she’s very compassionate and helped me to be more mindful. — Kelly A. After working with her, my children and I saw a huge shift in how we thought about and connected with one another. Now we all have a loving, fun relationship! — Andrea M.

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PARENT & TEEN GUIDE

What do you do? I specialize in helping parents of kids ages 10-25 enjoy peaceful homes and relationships within their family. I do this with compassion and without judgment. This work is not about quick strategies, it's about working with the parent to create lasting, generational change in the family environment.

What issues do you deal with?

I have personally experienced and worked with teen pregnancy, adolescent addiction, anxiety, and depression.

How can you help? Together we work to identify the limiting beliefs your child's behavior is triggering inside of you and work through them to discover new beliefs that will better serve the parent/child relationship you are in. We work on parenting with rather than over your child.

What can I expect?

I always offer a 20-minute complimentary consultation in order to learn more about your unique family situation and to help you get to me and how I work with parents. I have a reasonable hourly rate, weekly custom packages, and I also offer an 8-week online course I will personally guide you through one module per week.

How can I find you?

I am on Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide, you can text me anytime at 972-689-0250 to schedule our complimentary consultation.

What other parents say about Kim "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed enough buttons to get stuff out and done, but not enough to cause dread. I am a better parent for having worked with you." ~Carmen, mom of two "You helped me understand my kids aren't acting and saying things just to hurt me, it is there way of showing me they are growing up and making decisions for themselves. I don't take their statements as personally anymore, I know that this is how teenagers express there need for a feeling of independence." Deb, mom of twin teen boys and college-age girl "Best investment I ever made for our family!" Jennifer, mom of four teens "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed buttons just enough to get stuff out and done but not enough to create dread." Carmen, mom of two "You heard and understood where sometimes I don't feel my wife gets where I'm coming from. Just hearing myself talk out loud and you're asking me the right questions brought me so much peace of mind. Thank you, Kim, for doing this work!" David, stepdad of three

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We are here for you! We are heading into the 6th month of the pandemic and it may not be over for some time yet. If you are wondering how to navigate life right now, please know that we are here for you. Our community of qualified Parent Coaches are ready to support you and walk with you through this challenging time. Reach out to them for a free 30-minute confidential call here!

Some Ideas to support your family during the pandemic... 1. Hold Family Meetings weekly to stay connected and talk about what you like and what you don't like about your time together during the pandemic. 2. Create a contract to include items you want to keep as you move out of isolation. Have everyone from the family sign it. Once the world opens up fully again you may forget the things that you liked; writing it down will help keep you on track. 3. Be careful. Encourage your kids to continue to wash their hands frequently for at least 20 seconds. Notice how often they are touching their face and help them recognize when they are doing this. 4. Be kind. Not everyone will be ready to integrate into 'normal' activities. Never judge or shame someone that is not ready to interact and participate in daily life activities like they did before the pandemic. 5. Stay in touch with your older kids that will be heading back to college or university. These are unprecedented times and they will be doing their best to 'get back to normal' but may need your support to navigate their emotions. 6. Think about how you were not prepared for this pandemic and make a decision to be prepared if it happens again. Pandemic-proof your work, stay healthy, and create a savings account and put money away each month for emergencies such as this.

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If you are struggling with how your life has been affected by the pandemic, reach out for support. Our Parent Coaches can help you work through a range of emotions. They specialize in everything from newborn care, to college success, from toddler tantrums to marriage support and more. Most offer a 30-minute free confidential chat to help you through life during and after the pandemic. Together we will be stronger and more prepared for our new and improved postpandemic lives. Just don't forget that you have all the power and control to create what that life will look like. It is, and always has been, in your hands. Sending love and strength and wisdom to you all! We have learned so much and now it is time to collectively make sure we live our best lives - in our own unique way!

GOT TEENS? worried? struggling? looking for answers?

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d u a h c i b o Wanda R WANDA ZEN MAMA, PARENT COACH

What do you do? I support parents of spirited children under six to discover their inner Zen Master

What issues do you deal with? Conscious parenting, behaviour and tantrums, parent and child connection, siblings

How can you help? Many of us didn’t grow up with a model of what conscious parenting looks like. This makes it really difficult to stay calm and know what to do when we feel triggered by our child’s big emotions. I help the Mom’s I work with to release the mom guilt, parent with confidence and have a better a relationship with their kids by mastering behaviour management, communication skills and mindset.

What can I expect? I offer a free 30-minute call to map out your needs and see if we are a good fit. If we go forward you can expect weekly zoom calls and ongoing email support. I offer both four weeks and eight weeks 1:1 coaching packages.

What they say about me... "I have reached out to Wanda to get some parenting advice and support in my parenting journey of 4 boys under 10. Not only she was extremely understanding and kind, but she has also provided me with tons of resources and very helpful advice on how to deal with the tantrums and lovingly support my youngest through them. I have learned a lot from Wanda. She would be an invaluable support for any parent!" Marta

My background includes a Bachelor of Education and Twenty years of rewarding experience working with children with developmental disabilities, with a focus on Autism. In 2011 I earned a certification in Hatha Yoga Teacher Training and later took the MBSR Mindfulness training. Mental Wellness is a passion of mine and I’ve taken on roles supporting and educating adults experiencing anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. The transition into parent coaching through Academy for Coaching Parents International came after meeting my greatest teachers, my two beautiful, energetic boys.

Dealing with Tantrums How can I find you?

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PARENT COACH

What do you do? I empower parents dealing with youth struggling with mental health and addiction issues to focus on the present situation.

What issues do you deal with? I deal with parent's feelings of guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, other relationships that get affected by the stress; and overall mental health of the parent.

How can you help? I offer training I have learned over a period of 6 years in a 6 week program to empower parents in dealing with the areas within themselves that they can control to keep them in a healthy mindset - allows parents to be the role model their child needs and wants and allows the parent to deal with longer term issues one step at a time.

What can I expect? I use Zoom video to connect with you face to face in a confidential space - you can come alone or with your partner. This call is not time sensitive and we will get to talk about your situation, we will focus on the outcome you desire and I will share with you the 6 week program outline and the outcome you can achieve. I also offer a three week intensive course if that applies to your situation.

What other parents say about me: "She helped me tap into my strength and courage and reminded me who I truly am. I felt empowered and stronger after our session. I loved the questions she asked me and enjoyed finding the answers to those questions." Natalia S.

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How can I find you? You can connect with me here:

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