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“Life doesn’t end with age, it deepens.” September 2018

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Calendar September Clutterers Anonymous (CLA). A 12-step selfhelp group, offers help and support to those who have clutter problems. Ethical Humanist Society, Garden City on the first and third Thurs afternoon: 1:30 -3 p.m. No dues or fees. Info 866-8003881. www.ClutterersAnonymous.net. September 1 & 2 Dahlia Exhibition. Long Island Dahlia Society 1 to 4 p.m. on Saturday and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Sunday in the Lower Carriage House of the Bayard Cutting Arboretum, Great River. www.LongIslandDahlia.org or call 516-578-7699. September 5 Long Beach Art League Meeting. Long Beach Public Library, 7 p.m. Gallery winners and a review by judge. Info: Longbeachartleague.com. September 6 Remembrance Ceremony. For the victims of the September 11 attacks. 7 p.m. at Tobay Beach, Town of Oyster Bay. For info contact the Town’s Department of Community and Youth Services at 516-797-7900. September 9 Best of Tony Bennett, Nat King Cole & Bobby Darin. Sachem Public Library, Holbrook, 2 p.m. Led by keyboardist and lead vocalist Everett Green, the Evergreen Orchestra tribute performance will perform the hits. More info call 631-588-5024. September 12 Blood Pressure Screening. At the Copiague Library.11 to 11:30 a.m. Registration is not necessary; 631-691 1111 ext. 135. September 12 Bereavement Support Group. St. Mary’s Parish, East Islip is offering a free eight-week support group for adults struggling to cope with the death of a loved one. Registration required.

7 to 9 p.m. pm. 631-581-4266, x-100. Death must have occurred prior to 6/12/18. September 13 (plus) Brain Fitness. Keep you thinking and feeling your very best. September 13, 27 and October 11 and 25; 11 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at the Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. $60. Info: 516=634-4169 or lcharschan@friedbergjcc.org. September 14 Suffolk County JOB FAIR. Presented by the One-Stop Employment Center at Smithtown Library, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Job candidates in need of proper attire for an interview should contact Career Couture at 631-853-6769.

SeptEvents September 1 & 2. Dahlia Exhibition.

(Send event info to Frank@50plusny.com. Deadline 15th of the month)

September 14-15 POW MIA Vigil. Sgt. John Sardiello American Legion Post 1634, West Babylon in conjunction with Boy Scouts of America will be sponsoring the POW-MIA Vigil at Babylon Town Hall on September 14 and 15, from 7:30 p.m. to 8:00 a.m.

Legal Breakfast Seminar

Sep 26, 2018 - 9:30 a.m. FREE BREAKFAST SEMINAR with David R. Okrent, Esq., CPA 10 Most Common Estate Planning Mistakes and How to Avoid Them.At the Candlelight Diner in Commack. Reservations Required: 631.427.4600. Thursday, October 4th 2018 5th Annual Farewell to Summer Concert Patchogue Theatre for the Performimg Arts. Featuring Taradewinds the Band. Get your FREE ticket at www.PatchogueTheatre.org. Questions? Call Suffolk County Office for the Aging at 631-853-8200.

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Congratulations to our Hidin’ Harry Winners! Congratulations to our Hidin’ Harry winners from the August issue. This month we chose four of you …and the winners are Barbara Crawford of North Babylon, Linda Blair of Glendale, Donna Fountain of Sound Beach and Barbara Morris of Laurelton. All four will be receiving a pair of Theatre Three tickets in the mail. Find Hidin’ Harry somewhere in the pages of 50+ LifeStyles and send your answer — including your name and address to Hidin’ Harry, 146 So. Country Road, Bellport, NY 11713. Or e-mail to: editor@50plusny.com. ONLY ONE ENTRY PER PERSON, PER MONTH, PLEASE!

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Beach Contest Winner Thank you for the big response we received from our “Favorite Beach” contest. Our congratulations to Florence Wenger, whose favorite beach is Sandspit in Patchogue. Florence will receive 2 tickets to the Gateway Performing Arts Center or the NTCB Theater at Westbury. See page 3 for this months contest and let us know what your favorite food to cook or go out for is.

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HISPANIC Heritage Month

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ach year Americans observe National Hispanic Heritage Month by celebrating the histories, cultures and contributions of American citizens whose ancestors came from Spain, Mexico, Portugal, the Caribbean and Central and South America. The observation started in 1968

SUFFOLK COUNTY CAFÉ HAVANA BAR & GRILL: 944 W Jericho Tpke, Smithtown, NY 11787, (631) 670-6277 MARIA’S: 211 Smithtown Blvd, Nesconset, NY 11767, (631) 979-7724 BABALUNY: 286 New York Ave, Huntington, NY 11743, (631) 683-4666 CASA DEL CAMPO DOMINICAN: 1159 Deer Park Ave, N Babylon, NY 11703, (631) 586-1171 RINCON CRIOLLO: 16 W Jericho Tpke, Huntington Sta, NY 11746, (631) 271-2277 EMPANADAVILLE: 347 Neighborhood Rd, Mastic Beach, NY 11951, (631) 399-3526 AZULEJOS FINE MEXICAN CUISINE: 368 E Main St, Smithtown, NY 11787, (631) 257-5033 ISLAND EMPANADA: 601 Portion Rd, Ste 13, Lake Ronkonkoma, NY 11779, (631) 617-6427 LA FONDA LATINO GRILL: 426 Hawkins Ave, Ronkonkoma, NY 11779, (631) 467-3278 SANGRIA: 1095 Jericho Tpke, Commack, NY 11725, (631) 670-7606 MARGARITA’S CAFÉ: 581-583 Smithtown Bypass, Smithtown, NY 11788, (631) 257-5999 VICKYS CASA DEL SABOR: 771 Wellwood Ave, Lindenhurst, NY 11757, (631) 225-5040 GALLO RESTAURANT: 3 E. Main St, Patchogue, NY 11772, (631) 475-4667 DON QUIJOTE: 507 W Main St, Patchogue, NY 11772, (631) 569-5416 CAFÉ BUENOS AIRES: 23 Wall St, Huntington, NY 11743, (631) 603-3600 EATCETERA DELI CAFÉ: 1120 Smithtown Ave, Bohemia, NY 11716, (631) 750-6750 DON QUIJOTE: 275 Rt 25A, Miller Place, NY 11764, (631) 928-3864 MI TIERRITA RESTAURANT: 769 Suffolk Ave, Brentwood, NY 11717, (631) 231-1916

as Hispanic Heritage Week under President Lydon Johnson and was expanded by President Ronald Reagan in 1988. In honor of this celebration we encourage you to try some of the local cuisine of these parts of the world and expand your palet and your cultural horizons. Enjoy!

EL RANCHITO: 64 Larkfield Rd, E Northport, NY 11731, (631) 262-9704 POLLOS MARIO STEAK & SEAFOOD: 78 Wicks Rd, Brentwood, NY 11717, (631) 617-5140 MI TIERRITA: 340 E Main St, Patchogue, NY 11772, (631) 687-3400 DOMINICAN 4 RESTAURANT: 305 Main, Farmingdale, NY 11735, (516) 586-6005 MEXICAN GRILL: 703 Medford Ave, Patchogue, NY 11772, (631) 207-6554 POLLO RICO LATIN BISTRO: 2435 Middle Country Rd, Centereach, NY 11720, (631) 471-0585 PLAZA MARGARITA: 2055 Middle Country Rd, Centereach, NY 11720, (631) 648-8614 CHICHIMECAS: 169 Main St, Farmingdale, NY 11735, (516) 586-8646 VIVA LAVIDA MEXICAN: 1611 Montauk Hwy, Oakdale, NY 11769, (631) 589-2300 CASA VIEJA: 1768 Brentwood Rd, Brentwood, NY 11717, (631) 434-8255 VERDE KITCHEN & COCKTAILS: 70 E Main St, Bay Shore, NY 11706, (631) 665-6300 BLUE TORTILLA: 1070 Middle Ctry Rd, Ste 4, Selden, NY 11784, (631) 451-0100 VIVA JUAN MEXICAN: 280 Middle Country Rd, Suite B, Selden, NY 11784, (631) 698-8172 TACOS GUACAMOLA: 617 E Main St Ste A, Bay Shore NY 11706, (631) 859-9662

NASSAU COUNTY POLLOS EL PAISA: 998 Old Country Rd, Westbury, NY 11590, (516) 338-5858 BESITO MEXICAN RESTAURANT: 1516 Old Northern Blvd, Ste 18, Roslyn , NY, (516) 484-3001 HAVANA CENTRAL: 630 Old Country Rd, Roosevelt Field, Garden City NY 11530, (516) 739-7900

THE CUBAN: 987 Stewart Ave, Garden City, NY 11530, (516) 222-0295 CORAZON DE CUBA: 26 E. Park Ave, Long Beach, NY 11561, (516) 272-4200 TONY CUBANS: 507 Guy Lombardo Ave, Freeport, NY 11520, (516) 644-0280 SANGRIA 71: 71 Hillside Ave, Williston Park, NY 11596, (516) 246-9778 LITTLE MEXICO: 280 Post Ave, Westbury, NY 11590, (516) 333-2038 MESITA: 212B Merrick Rd, Rockville Center, NY 11570, (516) 282-9900 MARGARITA’S CAFÉ: 1868 Front St, East Meadow, NY 11554, (516) 745-0033 SALSA MEXICANA: 13 N. Village Ave, Rockville Centre, NY 11570, (516) 544-2526 CHICKENS ROAD: 2975 Merrick Rd, Bellmore, NY 11710, (516) 221-5222 ESCORZA’S MEXICAN RESTAURANT: 2715 Hempstead Tpke, Levittown, NY 11756, (516) 597-5600 DOMINICAN: 1019 Front St, Uniondale NY 11553, (516) 292-5700 THE CUBAN CROCODILE: 26 E Park Ave, Long Beach, NY 11561, (516) 442-2444 NELLY’S TAQUERIA: 356 W Old Country Rd, Hicksville, NY 11801, (516) 595-2845 SABOR A COLUMBIA: 26 Division Ave, Levittown, NY 11756, (516) 513-1520 SAZON DOMINICANO: 13 Atlantic Ave, Freeport, NY 11520, (516) 665-9993 MITIERRITA RESTAURANT: 31 N Franklin St, Hempstead, NY 11550, (516) 292-2666 EL COYOTE LOCO: 3545 Merrick Rd, Seaford, NY 11783, (516) 785-9087 SENOR NACHO: 31 S Middle Neck RD, Great Neck, NY 11021, (516) 466-0011 MARGARITA’S CAFÉ: 753 Wantagh Ave, Wantagh, NY 11793, (516) 595-7278

Rewards for Becoming a School Bus Driver or Monitor

n exciting part-time or full time job is available right in your backyard — as a school bus driver or bus monitor!

• Deeply rewarding experiences • Competitive pay and exceptional benefits are available • Free Training • No prior education or experience needed Is Bus Driving Right for You? The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) states students are 70 times more likely to get to school safely on a school bus than in a car. Therefore becoming a professional school bus driver would allow you to serve an important civic safety role. You love making people happy If you follow this career route, you will provide a generation of smiling faces with a friend they will never forget. Becoming a bus driver will offer you the perfect path to personal fulfillment. Your job as a school bus driver or bus monitor won’t even feel like work. The Retired or Stay-at-home parents A bus driver offers perfect work for retirees or people requiring a flexible schedule. For seniors who want to remain active or a parent who watches their kids after school, a school bus driver provides an ideal compromise. You can work morning shift, afternoon shift or both. There is also the option of driving to and from field trips or other school activities for extra hours. Those in need of an extra job In today’s economy people may not earn enough money with their current job or have enough retirement income saved. Part-time or full time work as a school bus driver can help you overcome this common employment obstacle. Increase your bank account with great pay by doing a job you will love. Driver Training At East End Bus, we align our training programs to each driver’s experience, the needs of their passengers and any geographic- or location-specific issues or risk factors. As the industry’s safety leader, we understand that new and experienced drivers require different training, and we have developed comprehensive programs targeting each level of experience.

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School Bus Driver Job Fairs East End Bus Line, Inc. 631-471-0000 Date & Time: Saturday Sept 8th 12PM - 6 PM Place: Patchogue’s Italian Festival Date & Time: Saturday Oct 13th 11AM - 5 PM Place: Patchogue’s Fall Festival Patchogue Village off River & Main Streets Now Hiring: Bus Drivers, Monitors , Fuelers & More ● No experience necessary. ● Part-Time or Full Time Schedules

Take on Today with AARP on Long Island

id you know Long Island is home to nearly 600,000 A ARP members, the largest concentration of suburban A ARP members in the nation? And also, the largest concentration of active volunteers! As A ARP’s Associate State Director, I lead our work on Long Island. That includes engaging our members and the Long Island community around issues and programs important to people 50 and older. A ARP is a leader in creating positive change via local community service and advocacy, and we do this with the help of hundreds of volunteers, right here on Long Island. If you want an opportunity to make a difference in someone’s life and in your community, join us! A ARP’s founder, Dr. Ethel Percy Andrus, called volunteers “America in action.” Our A ARP volunteers serve in a wide variety of ways. Volunteers take part in fighting for local advocacy and local issues on behalf of people 50 and over and their families. They get involved in community outreach by taking part in days of service, like food drives and meal-packing events for families and seniors throughout the year. Whether it’s fun, free events like movie screenings and discounted concerts, or important education to help

people prepare for retirement, A ARP Long Island volunteers across Nassau and Suffolk Counties are right there and beside you to help you get the most of out of life. So volunteer today— and get that good feeling for yourself. You've got exactly what it takes to make a real difference in someone else's life. Members who become our volunteers are part of a very important team, improving and enhancing our communities through various programs and outreach activities every year: • Helping others and giving back to the community • Learning new skills and training opportunities • Making new friends and social interaction • Sharing talents, abilities and experiences • Gaining access to special local events, benefits and advantages I hope you’ll join us or learn more by calling 866-227-7442 or visiting aarp.org/longisland to discover Real Possibilities across Long Island.

Bernard Macias

Bernard Macias Associate State Director A ARP Long Island

Dependable Relief Now Available for Chromic Migraines Suﬀers By Dr. Mehran Golpariani

igraines are a common neurological issue that affects more than 39 million men, women, and children in the United States. Migraines cause severe throbbing or pulsing pain. The pain can be so intense, that you also become nauseated, start vomiting, or become overly sensitive to light and sound. In extreme cases, migraine attacks last for several days. Dr. M. Golpariani Migraines aren’t well understood, but medical experts have identified certain common triggers for migraine attacks. Common factors can include: Genetics, Food additives, Hormonal fluctuations, Emotional stress & Sudden weather changes. Unlike tension and cluster headaches which are consider acute headaches and respond to medication after the onset of a headache, migraines are different and must be treated differently. Once a chronic migraine comes on it is already too late for medicine used for acute types of headaches. Preventive medicine is the only solution. In our practice we have found that even for patients that have 20 or more uncontrollable migraines a month, injections of Botox, a purified form of protein and the first FDA – approved preventive chronic migraine treatment have effectively provided migraine free living right away for up to 12 weeks at a time! For more information about this subject see our see our advertisement on page 16 or call my office for a consultation at 631-474-2300 or visit our website PainmanagementMD.com 50+ LifeStyles September 2018 • www.50PlusNY.com 7

“Don’t Worry… He Sees Us” By Randal C. Hill

ollywood gossip columnist Hedda Hopper once saw James Dean as an obnoxious attention-seeker in the Marlon Brando vein (she abhorred Brando) and even labeled Dean “another dirty shirttail actor.” Then she saw East of Eden, underwent an instant conversion and enthused, “I couldn’t remember ever having seen a young man with such power.” James Byron Dean was born in Marion, Indiana, on February 8, 1931, the only child of Winton and Mildred Dean. The family moved to Santa Monica, California, where Mr. Dean worked as a dental technician. Mildred died of cancer in 1940, and Winton sent his young son back to Indiana to live with his grandparents on their Fairmount farm. At Fairmount High School, Dean excelled in dramatics and public speaking, and lettered in baseball and basketball. After his 1949 graduation he returned to California to live with his father and stepmother. Dean considered becoming a lawyer but eventually pursued a stronger passion when he enrolled at UCLA to study drama. Early in 1951 he left school to chase his acting dreams. He moved to New York, won some minor TV roles, and studied method acting in Lee Strasberg’s Actors Studio, where Dean’s idol Marlon Brandon had once been a student. In 1954 Director Elia Kazan sought “a Brando” for the role of Cal Trask in Kazan’s forthcoming movie East of Eden, based on John Steinbeck’s novel. Kazan hired the churlish actor, later allowing him to improvise a few East of Eden scenes. (Steinbeck had instantly disliked the sullen superstar-to-be when they first met.) Two more Dean films followed. Rebel without a Cause, his ticket to stardom, had him (at age 24) playing troubled adolescent Jim Stark. In

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Hot Autumn Nights returns to NYCB Theatre at Westbury

ot Autumn Nights, one of Westbury’s favorite shows returns to the venue on September 29th. Headlining is English pop sensations Herman’s Hermits starring Peter Noone. Herman’s Hermits was definitely into something good when they started racking up the hits in 1964. In addition to their two number one hits, “Mrs. Brown You’ve Got A Lovely Daughter” and “Im Henry VIII, I Am,” audiences can expect to hear all the great songs such as “Can’t You Hear My Heartbeat,” “A Must to Avoid,” “Dandy,” and “There’s A Kind of Hush.” Also appearing are The Grass Roots, who are best known for hits such as “Midnight Confessions,” “I’d Wait A Million Years,” “Temptation Eyes,” and “Two Divided By Love,” and The Buckinghams performing songs like “Kind of a Drag,” “Lawdy Miss Clawdy,” “Don’t You Care,” “Hey Baby They’re Playing Our Song” and “Susan.” Tickets can be purchased at the NYCB Theatre at Westbury Box Office or online at www.Ticketmaster.com. This is one Autumn night you won’t want to miss!

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(James Dean... continued from page 8) Giant Dean portrayed Jett Rink, a Texas ranch hand who strikes oil and becomes rich. Away from the movie set, Dean nurtured a second passion: auto racing. On September 30, 1955, he and Porsche mechanic pal Rolf Wutherich roared north from Los Angeles, bound for a race in Salinas, near the Bay Area. Dean was behind the wheel of his powerful new Porsche 550 Spyder. That afternoon, at a deserted intersection near the central California village of Cholame, Dean ran his car into a 1950 Ford being driven by college student Donald Turnupseed, who had turned into the Porsche’s path. Turnupseed and Wutherich survived the crash, but Dean broke his neck and died at the scene. His ironic final words to Wutherich: “Don’t worry, that guy’ll stop. He sees us.” At the time only East of Eden had been released, and Dean wasn’t famous yet. Rebel Without a Cause — his best-known work — premiered three days after his demise, and Giant wouldn’t open until 1956. But his death created a tsunami of posthumous worship, and he remains to this day one of the iconic Tinseltown superstars of the 1950s. James Dean once said, “If a man can bridge the gap between life and death, I mean, if he can live on after he’s died, then maybe he was a great man.” 50+

50+ Idol Postponed for 2018

he 50+ Idol Competition scheduled for November 11, 2018 and all auditions already scheduled for September have been postponed indefinitely due to unforeseen circumstances. We are hoping to reschedule for 2019 and future details will be available in 50plus Lifestyles. Anyone who applied for the competition will be receiving a full refund by the end of September. On behalf of the committee, we apologize for any inconvenience this may have caused. 50+

NYS #1 on the Women’s Equality Index

ith Women’s Equality Day having passed in August and the US ranking 49 out of 144 countries on the Global Gender Gap Index – falling four spots since the previous year – the personal-finance website WalletHub released its report on 2018’s “Best & Worst States for Women's Equality.” New York State ranked number one overall with a total score of 68.66 In order to determine where women receive the most equal treatment in American society, WalletHub compared the 50 states across 16 key metrics.

Women’s Equality in New York (1=Best; 25=Avg.): 8th – Earnings Gap 11th – Work Hours Gap 1st – Educational Attainment Gap (Among Advanced Degree Holders) 2nd – Minimum-Wage Workers Gap 1st – Unemployment Rate Gap 2nd – Political Representation Gap For the full report, please visit: wallethub.com/edu/best-and-worststates-for-women-equality/5835. 50+ 50+ LifeStyles September 2018 • www.50PlusNY.com 13

Reader Spotlight

Q: “Color My World,” because it was playing at my high school senior prom when I danced with my boyfriend, Kenny. I was standing on a chair because I was four-foot-10, and he was six-foot-five! — Linda Bakal, Baldwin

By Mary Malloy

“What song makes those old memories come ﬂooding back to you?

I fell in love with the movie and the song “A Summer Place” when I was 11-years old. I had such a crush on Sandra Dee! I was living in Long Beach at the time, and that song and the beach setting sent me on my way to the world of romance. — Ray Kerr, East Rockaway

“Those Were the Days,” by Mary Hopkin, reminds me of my childhood. It always seems to be playing at family parties. When I hear it, I think ‘Yes, those really were the days!’ — Michael Sherwood, Babylon

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The song that conjures up great memories for me is Elton John's “Crocodile Rock.” Yes, my wife Sue and I “have so much fun” in “my old gold Chevy” and “a place of my own.” All that is true! — Joe Satriano, Oceanside

“Joy To the World” by Three Dog Night reminds me of hanging out at Robert Moses with my friends at the beach with our radio blasting, and wearing our neon-colored bikinis. — Lee Ann Brill, Lake Ronkonkoma

I love the version of “My Way” sung by Il Divo, the Italian male group whose members sing in both English and Italian. I’ve always done things my way, and this version elicits intense emotion — that’s who I am! — Elisabeth Zamarelli, Stony Brook

Making life easier and safer for seniors with Low Vision ye diseases like macular degeneration, cataracts, glaucoma and diabetic retinopathy can have a significant impact on a senior’s functional abilities and quality of life. For some, impaired vision may even result in depression, withdrawal and inactivity. The National Eye Institute (NEI), reports older adults represent the majority of the visually impaired population in the United States. It can be particularly difficult for seniors to accept and adapt to.

Keeping an Eye on Visual Health One of the first steps to leading a safe and active life with impaired vision is to understand the degree and underlying cause of this loss. If you or loved one has been diagnosed with one of the above conditions or is experiencing blurry objects, blind spot areas, and excessive glare due to lighting or feel you are not seeing the best you can achieve, then you may like to visit Dr. Schoenbart. Improving Senior Vision Is Our Mission! “People do not know that there are doctors who are very experienced

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in Low Vision care”. For example, Dr. Schoenbart has been practicing LowVision care and has been New York State Certified in Low Vision-Rehabilitative Optometry for more than thirty years. Macular Degeneration is the most common eye disease among seniors. The macula is one small part of the entire retina, but it is the most sensitive. When it degenerates, ARMD leaves a blind spot right in the center of vision making is difficult to recognize faces, read a book or pass DMV’s vision test. Today advances in low vision technology can overcome the crippling effects of diseases. Dr. Steven Schoenbart, Clinical Director of the Schoenbart Low Vision Center serving patients from Manhattan to Montauk can help. Using special prescription optics and miniature mounted telescopic glasses, he has helped patients improve their ability to read, watch TV and in some case continue to drive. Dr. Schoenbart would like to do the same for you. To schedule a FREE Low Vision phone consultation with Dr. Schoenbart or make an appointment for a Low Vision exam call (516) 219-8690 or visit LowVisionofNY.com

A MyNotiﬁ Memo: Staying Independent

t 82, Sylvia was independent, but she was also careful. She had already fallen twice, so she avoided unnecessary risks. When she needed something from a high shelf, she asked her husband to get it for her. She drove instead of walking most places. She was determined to stay on her feet. So, when she fell the third time, it took her by surprise. As she pointed out, “It wasn’t like I was out climbing Mount Everest.” She’d simply parked near the library and was walking toward the door when she fell. Her biggest fear had always been falling at home, when nobody was around. “This was in the middle of the day, in a public place,” she told us. “You’d think it wouldn’t be hard to get help.” But Sylvia ended up lying on the ground for a long time before someone noticed. It was a hot day, and people driving by were running air conditioning, and had their windows closed. Nobody saw her on the ground or heard her cries for help. Two hours passed. Finally, a neighbor saw her and called the paramedics. Sylvia was taken to the hospital for a broken wrist and dehydration. Sylvia’s story is actually a compilation of stories based on the lifestyles of our senior popula-

tion. Stories like this happen every day. The National Council on Aging reports that falls result in more than 2.8 million injuries treated in emergency departments annually, including over 800,000 hospitalizations.

When there is a long wait for help after a fall, complications can arise from untended injuries, including pressure sores, shock, dehydration, anxiety, elevated blood pressure, kidney failure, lung infections, confusion, hypothermia and more. Automatic fall detection technology or even a button wearable can make a big difference in alleviating the time spent on the floor

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waiting for assistance. MyNotifi is an automatic fall detection device. It clips to your waistband, or is worn on your wrist. It connects to a free smartphone app, so it goes with you, to the library, Mount Everest, or wherever you go. When a fall is detected, it automatically notifies a list of selected loved ones, family or friends, even if you’re unable to reach your phone. You can use MyNotifi to summon help any time, even if you haven’t fallen, by simply tapping it repeatedly. There are no monthly fees, and no call centers. And it comes with a guided exercise plan developed to help with fall prevention. MyNotifi provides peace of mind for seniors and their families. Get your exclusive and limited time $10 discount today, using code: 50LIFESTYLES10 www.mynotifi.com info@mynotifi.com For HIPA A and security purposes, this scenario is based upon stories and lifestyles of the 50+ population. All names and identifying details have been changed.

Stony Brook Pathologist and Colleagues Publish Colorectal Cancer Findings

y genetically manipulating and removing the most common mutant form of the p53 gene that promotes colorectal cancer in humans, an international team of scientists demonstrated that this therapy reduces tumor growth and tissue invasion. Led by Ute Moll, MD, Professor and cancer biologist in the Department of Pathology at Stony Brook University School of Medicine, the findings are published in Cancer Cell. Specific ‘hotspot’ mutations of p53 have recently been recognized as strong promoters of cancer in humans. About 60 percent of colorectal cancers harbor p53 mutations. The challenge for scientists has been discovering whether and which mutant forms of p53 are best to target — and in which tumor entity — in order to halt the cancer process or slow it down. In this study, Dr. Moll and colleagues assessed one of the three most common p53 mutants in colorectal cancer — mutp53 R248Q, exchanging an Arginine (R) for a Glutamine (Q) - in a high fidelity genetic mouse model of the disease. The researchers found that therapeutically ablating the mutant p53 gene in mice that had de-

veloped colorectal cancer markedly inhibited tumor growth and reduced tumor invasiveness by 50 percent. Moreover, the researchers found that genetic deletion of mutant p53 was only one way to slow down tumor growth and progression. They also discovered that inhibiting the folding chaperone enzyme Hsp90 - which they discovered earlier to be responsible for mutant p53 protein stabilization - by a small molecule drug called 17A AG, Stat3 signaling, tumor growth and progression of mutp53-driven tumors were equally stopped. “We discovered that in p53-mediated colorectal cancer driven by the most common mutant form of p53, there is an exploitable tumor dependence on continued expression of the mutant protein for the tumors to thrive,” said Dr. Moll. “Our data suggest that this and similar p53 mutants represent actionable drug targets responsive to treatment by removal, for example with Hsp90 inhibitors,” she summarized. Dr. Moll will expand on this research and conduct experiments in other tumor entities in her new cancer lab located in Stony Brook Univer-

Ute Moll, MD, in her Stony Brook cancer laboratory sity’s soon-to-open Medical and Research Translation (MART) Building. Co-authors of the paper include researchers from the Institute of Molecular Oncology, Department of Pathology, and Department of General, Visceral, and Pediatric Surgery at the University Medical Center in Göttingen, Germany. The research is supported in part by the National Cancer Institute and the German National Science Foundation (DFG). 50+

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How to Prevent Falls in the Home By Lisa M Cini

ach year in the U.S. one in four people over 65 experiences a fall. It’s a common problem and can lead to a loss of independence, hospitalization, lack of confidence, and in some cases death. Avoiding falls in the first place is a vital aspect of living independently. Here's how to prevent accidents in the home and make living independently a positive experience. Assess Your Living Space. Take a minute to answer the following questions: Is there a phone within easy reach? Are there rugs on a polished floor surface? How easy is it to get around your room? Is clutter posing a hazard? Get Safe Flooring. Invest in anti-slip tiles for bathrooms and kitchens to avoid sliding on water spillages or polished surfaces. Make sure any rugs have anti-slip fixtures underneath. Consider a contrasting color for steps and rails to make them easier to see. Since your feet spend so much time on the floor, make sure you have well-fitting shoes and slippers. Avoid flip-flops and flimsy footwear as these easily lead to trips and slips.

Consider the Lighting. Lighting equipped with sensors to come on when movement is detected are very helpful for stairs and bathrooms or any room. Amber colored night lights help you see around the home at night and should be placed in stairs and bathrooms. Install Handrails to Keep You Steady. Having a handrail in all high-risk places, such as the shower or stairs. Make the Garden Safe. Clear moss and old leaves from the paths to minimize the risk of slipping. When icy, make sure you lay some grit and have someone clear your paths. Avoid too many pots and ornaments. Install lighting so you can see your way along paths in the dark. Remember, you can get help from others to do the heavier jobs, which lessens your risk of falling. Remove Clutter. Clear clutter from steps and floors. Don't leave things lying around on the floor where they can cause a hazard. And avoid trailing wires when using electrical items.

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Keep Things Within Reach. Don’t stretch or balance on step ladders to get things on high shelves or awkward places, as it leads to falls. Make sure you organize your living space so things you use frequently are within easy reach and you don't need to climb on steps. Avoid carrying too much at one time as this can set you off balance, resulting in a fall. Do Some Posture Exercises. Join a Pilates or Yoga class or other exercise programs designed to help you avoid falling by maintaining good balance, core strength and posture techniques. Some exercises are chair-based, but most are gentle and set at a pace that the group can follow. Footwear is important in the prevention of falls. Give yourself time to adjust when moving from a sitting position. This helps avoid dizziness from changes in blood pressure. Taking these few steps to make your living space safer will help you avoid falls and stay independent. 50+ Lisa Cini ASID, IIDA, is an award-winning, internationally-recognized designer with more than 25 years’ experience developing interiors that improve quality of life for seniors.

How to Build Mutual Respect in the Dentist-Patient Relationship Dr. Ami Bakarat

here is a wealth of information available to dentists on how to build a better relationship with their patients – but precious little about how patients can build a better relationship with their dentists. Like any relationship, it will be stronger if it is a two-way street where both parties are striving for better communication. “Respect and common courtesy go a long way on both ends of the dentist-patient relationship,” says Dr. Ami Bakarat, author of Perfecting Smiles, Changing Lives. “Establishing a solid relationship with your dentist opens up more lines of communication.” A healthy dentist-patient relationship comes with a variety of advantages and makes dental visits less stressful. Developing a relationship with the family dentist as not only a professional but a caring human being has many benefits and will result in less stress, he says. Barakat offers these suggestions: •Be punctual. For the patient and the dentist, the best way to start a relationship is with the common courtesy of punctuality. The patient needs to arrive on time and the dentist needs to see the patient on time. Sometimes delays can-

not be helped, but an effort should be made by both parties to be on time. •Be honest. For the patient, be honest about your expectations, your dental history (including being honest when the dentist asks if you floss regularly) and any dental issues you have had in the past that your dentist may be unaware of. The dentist needs to be honest about all the potential outcomes of the procedure. •Be prepared. Let the dentist know what your issues and concerns are. Make sure he or she has your most up-to-date dental records and let him know if you have seen a different dentist recently. •Express gratitude. A simple thank you can go a long way in building a relationship for both the dentist and the patient. •Don’t use profanity or dress inappropriately. Don’t dress like you are on your way to the beach, and don’t curse. It is unprofessional, unbecoming and can distract other patients. •When warranted, offer sincere praise. Everybody likes to hear about it when they have done a good job, even dentists. “Dentists are trained on how to work with patients,” Barakat says, “but a little mutual respect will go a long way toward making the visit to the

dentist a little more enjoyable for everybody.” Dr. Ami Barakat, author of Perfecting Smiles, Changing Lives(www.villanovadental.com), is a general dentist who has trained extensively in orthodontics. 50+

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L.I.’s Nikola Tesla Lab Added to the National Register

n July 27, 2018, the National Park Service approved the historic Wardenclyffe property in Shoreham, New York, for inclusion on the National Historic Register (NHR). Wardenclyffe was submitted for listing on the NHR by the Tesla Science Center at Wardenclyffe (TSCW), a non-profit organization dedicated to preserving and renovating the 16-acre site, which contains a brick laboratory and tower base (right: the tower which is no longer in existence) built by inventor and humanitarian Nikola Tesla. Wardenclyffe’s application for inclusion on the State and National Historic Registers received a record number of endorsements: over 9,500 within the week just prior to review by the NY State Division of Historic Preservation, who voted unanimously to recommend Wardenclyffe for nomination. Wardenclyffe was approved and placed on the State Historic Register on June 24, 2018; and approval for listing on the NHR was recently granted by the National Park Service on July 27, 2018. Listing on the NHR is based on Wardenclyffe’s historic importance as the only remaining laboratory of Nikola Tesla, whose discoveries led to significant advancements in science and

technology. Tesla’s invention for alternating current (A/C) electricity is the basis of the modern electric grid, and he holds almost 300 patents for concepts such as the induction motor, x-ray, fluorescent lighting, radio and wireless technology. This last invention was the focus of Tesla’s work

at Wardenclyffe from 1901 to 1906 and culminated in the construction of a 187-foot wireless transmitting tower. Both the brick laboratory and tower were built by renowned architect Stanford White, a connection that enhances the site’s historic value. Although the tower was dismantled in 1917, the large octagonal tower base remains, as does the original brick lab building.

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According to TSCW’s Executive Director Marc Alessi, “Listing on the National Historic Register not only helps preserve Nikola Tesla’s last remaining laboratory, but it allows us to move forward with renovations and plans to develop Wardenclyffe into a world class science and innovation center. NHR listing also opens doors for funding, as many grants require official historic status.” TSCW financial support has come from numerous sources, including a global following that generated over a million dollars in a 2012 crowdfunding campaign that still holds a record for donations, second only to a Hurricane Sandy campaign. Substantial contributions made by Silicon Valley entrepreneurs and technology leaders from around the world sustain TSCW’s efforts, with additional funding being sought for required renovations. Tesla Science Center at Wardenclyffe is a nonprofit 501(c) organization dedicated to preserving Nikola Tesla’s last laboratory and developing it into a science center focused on education, research and entrepreneurship. TSCW at 631-886-2632 or info@teslasciencecenter.org, or www.teslasciencecenter.org. 50+

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1. Oyster Bay Town Supervisor Joseph Saladino and Councilman Thomas Hand recently hosted a ceremonial street renaming dedication ceremony in honor of Shirlee Gerstein for her decades of remarkable community service. For 46 years, Shirlee served as the face of the Youth and Family Counseling Agency of Oyster Bay-East Norwich. 2. Legislator Tom Muratore recently attended a meeting at AMVETS Post 48 in Ronkonkoma in honor of the Post’s 20th anniversary. Muratore presented them with a proclamation to commemorate the occasion. “The American Veterans organization has a long history in our nation. It was founded in 1944 and chartered through an act of Congress,” stated Legislator Tom Muratore. “I am proud to represent the district where AMVETS Post 48 serves the community, and I congratulate them on their 20th anniversary. I offer thanks to Commander Karl Sundquist and the entire AMVETS membership for their patriotism, service, and community spirit.” 3. (Left to right): Patrick Mitchell Immediate Past Commander NYS Sons of AMVETS; Andrea Mazzola 3rd Vice President Ladies Auxiliary AMVETS Post 48; Mike Dickson Past Commander AMVETS Post 48; Brookhaven Town Councilman Kevin LaValle; AMVETS Immediate Past National Commander Harold Chapman; Karl Sundquist Commander AMVETS Post 48; George Stondell Commander NYS AMVETS; SC Legislator Leslie Kennedy; SC Comptroller John Kennedy; Debbie Stondell 1st Vice President NYS Ladies Auxiliary; and Brian O’Keefe Commander Sons of AMVETS Post 48. 4. Congressman Lee Zeldin (R, NY-1) surprised several NY-1 constituents while delivering Meals on Wheels prepared meals alongside Brookhaven Town Supervisor Ed Romaine, as part of “Undercover Congressman”, during which Rep. Zeldin works local jobs in NY-1. Meals on Wheels is a nonprofit organization that delivers nutritious meals to seniors directly to their homes.

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SOCIAL SECURITY COLUMN

Working While Disabled Social Security Can Help By John Biundo; Social Security Assistant District Manager in Patchogue

hile it may be best known for retirement, Social Security is also here to help you get back to work if you are disabled. For millions of people, work isn’t just a source of income, it’s a vital part of who they are — it gives them purpose and pride — it’s a connection to community. If you’re getting Social Security disability benefits, we have good news for you. Social Security’s work incentives and Ticket to Work programs can help you if you’re interested in working. Special rules make it possible for people receiving Social Security disability benefits or Supplemental Security Income (SSI) to work and still receive monthly payments. The Ticket to Work program may help you if you’d like to work. You can receive:

• Free vocational rehabilitation • Training • Job referrals • Other employment support You can read more about working while collecting disability benefits at www.socialsecurity.gov/work. Work incentives include:

• Continued cash benefits for a time while you work • Continued Medicare or Medicaid while you work • Help with education, training, and rehabilitation to start a new line of work If you’re receiving Social Security disability benefits or SSI, let us know right away when you start or stop working, or if any other change occurs that could affect your benefits. If you returned to work, but you can’t continue working because of your medical condition, your benefits can start again — you may not have to file a new application. You can read more about the Ticket to Work program in the publication titled “Working While Disabled: How We Can Help” at www.socialsecurity.gov/pubs/EN-05-10095.pdf. Part of securing today and tomorrow is giving you the tools to create a fulfilling life. Getting back to work might be part of that. We’re here with a ticket to a secure tomorrow. 50+

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500 Fall Special at Catholic Cemeteries

atholic Cemeteries which includes St. Johm, Mt. St. Mary, Holy Cross, St. Charles/Resurrection announced that they will be running a fall special from Saturday October 13th - Saturday October 27th, in which they will offer up to a $500 Visa card, with the purchase of select cremation niche, grave or crypt purchases. This is a limited time offer. our Catholic faith teaches us that our bodies are a sacred part of God’s creation, and therefore the human body is worthy of great reverence. The Church has always taught that the living human body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. In keeping with this belief, the Church has directed that sacred and blessed places be provided for the burial of the faithful departed, including the cremated body. Our choice of a final resting place should reflect our life and devotions, our journey toward eternal salvation. The statuary, shrines and symbolism throughout our beautiful grounds serve as constant reminders of the sacredness of this holy place, providing faith, hope and comfort. The preference of the Church is that every Catholic be buried in a Catholic Cemetery characterized by these evident signs of faith. A Catholic Cemetery reflects the doctrine and

liturgy of the Church and is forever a consolation to the bereaved and an inspiration to the living.

Free Tickets are Available for Reservation Tradewinds Band to Headline Concert for Suﬀolk’s Senior Citizens

By Ryan Eaglin

Free Tickets to the 5th Annual Farewell To Summer Concert uffolk County Executive Steve Bellone today announced the fifth annual Farewell to Summer Concert in Patchogue. The concert, which is free of charge to the general public, will be held on Thursday, October 4, 2018 from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM at the Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts. Each year, the Suffolk County Office for the Aging holds the Farewell to Summer Concert as an outreach event to introduce older residents to the office and services available to them through Suffolk County. “This event has become a summer staple for our senior citizens who come out in droves to enjoy an evening of music and entertainment in beautiful downtown Patchogue,” said Suffolk County Executive Bellone. “I encourage everyone to come out, bring the family, and enjoy an evening of some of our favorite time-honored hits." Tradewinds is scheduled to perform hits dating from the 1970s to some of the most popular tunes from today. Since 2014, more than 5,000

When Retirement is Just Around the Corner, 3 Steps to Help You Prepare

tickets have been distributed for the Farewell to Summer Senior Concert series. In past years, concerts have been held in the Patchogue Theater for the Performing Arts, the Suffolk Theater in Riverhead, and the Pennysaver Amphitheater at Bald Hill in Farmingville. All attendees must have a ticket for admission. Residents can obtain their free tickets to the concert starting on August 21 by visiting www.patchoguetheatre.org or by calling the Suffolk County Office for the Aging at 631-853-8200. Please note that seating is limited, and reservations will be made on a first-come, first-served basis. 50+

f looking ahead to retirement makes you a little nervous, you’re not alone. Nearly half of Americans (46 percent) who haven’t reached retirement predict that they won’t be financially comfortable once they get there, according to a Gallup survey. Just what does it take to be prepared? “Many Baby Boomers measure their preparedness in terms of assets,” says Ryan Eaglin, founder and chief advisor of America’s Annuity. “They’re trying to hit a certain number or account balance. Asset accumulation is an important part of retirement planning, but it’s not the only component. There are a few other steps you need to take to make sure you enjoy a stable retirement.” Prepare not just one, but two budgets. Most Americans don’t use a budget, even though it’s a handy tool – especially in retirement. “It helps you see where you’re spending your money, how much money you can afford to spend and what adjustment you should make,” Eaglin says. He recommends creating two budgets. One would be for your remaining years before retirement so you can look for ways to cut spending and save more. The other would be for after you retire. “Think of ways to live while also staying within your income,” Eaglin says. Project your income. While your budget will help you understand how you are spending your money, you also need to have a good grip on what your potential retirement income will be. For most people, that’s a combination of Social Security, personal savings and possibly employer pensions. Social Security has an income estimator tool on its website, and an employer should be able to provide a pension-benefit projection. “Your financial professional should be able to help you project how much you should be able to take from your savings each year,” Eaglin says. Once you compare your projected income to your spending budget, he says, you’ll know whether you need to save more or rethink retirement spending. Plan for long-term care. As much as people don’t want to hear this, the average 65year-old has a 70 percent chance of needing long-term care in retirement, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. “It’s possible you or your spouse may need care either in your home or in a facility,” Eaglin says. “That care can be expensive. It’s usually not covered by Medicare, and it’s covered by Medicaid only after you’ve depleted much of your assets.” 50+

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Plan and Plant this Fall for Three Months of Spring Color By Melinda Myers

t’s time to think spring and get busy planning and planting for months of colorful blooms. The key to getting a continuous parade of spring flowers is to plant bulbs that bloom at different times. Include some early, mid and late spring bloomers. You’ll enjoy the burst of color and sustained beauty that spring-flowering bulbs can provide. Enlist some help in planning your extended spring-blooming garden with Longfield Gardens’ Bloom Time Guide to Spring and Summer Bulbs (longfield-gardens.com). When you think early spring, crocus may be the first bulb that comes to mind, but there are so many colorful choices to welcome spring. Consider adding some cheery periwinkle blue and white Chionodoxa, also known as glory-ofthe-snow. Each of these bulbs produces six to ten blossoms, and best of all, you can watch them grow and multiply for years to come. Brighten wooded areas, rock gardens or any garden bed with the dainty Elwesii snowdrops. These are deer resistant and naturalize readily, so you’ll enjoy more blossoms every spring. Winter aconites add a splash of yellow, while Siberian squill and Harmony netted iris (Iris

reticulata) bring a touch of blue and white. Be sure to include some early-blooming daffodils along with Early Double, Emperor, Flair, Kaufmanniana and Greigii tulips – all perfect for any garden or spring bouquet. Add a surprising element with checkered lily (Fritillaria meleagris). The petals of these nodding, bell-shaped flowers are covered with an intricate pattern in cream, lavender, purple and burgundy. Perfume the air with an array of white, red, purple, blue or pink hyacinths. And buy a few extra to force and enjoy indoors. For mid-spring, include some mood-lifting daffodils like creamy white and yellow Cheerfulness or yellow Double Smiles along with Darwin and Triumph tulips. Mix these with lower-growing grape hyacinths or ground-hugging Grecian windflowers (Anemone blanda) for an extra layer of beauty. Add some pizzazz with Anemone de Caen Sylphide. These hot-pink flowers with blue-black centers will attract bees, butterflies and second looks from passersby. Continue your spring extravaganza with lateseason tulips. Choose some with unusual flower styles like fringed, parrot, and lily as well as

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other single and double late-blooming varieties. Don’t stop there. Alliums provide a colorful bridge between spring bulbs and early summer perennials. The flowers can be as big as basketballs and stand up to four-feet tall. Incorporate a bit of unique beauty with Gravetye Giant leucojums. The blossoms of these long-lived bulbs resemble white Victorian lampshades trimmed with green dots. Fill shady areas with sky blue, white and pink Spanish bluebells, also known as wood hyacinths. Dangling clusters of bell-shaped flowers adorn these 12- to 15-inch tall plants. You may also want to include one of the world’s most popular cut flowers, the Dutch iris. Buy these bulbs in bulk to ensure you have plenty of blooms for arrangements. Now is the time to plan for an extended, colorful spring display. Order your bulbs early for the best selection and plant them any time from mid to late fall. Months of spring beauty ahead! Melinda Myers has written more than 20 gardening books, including Small Space Gardening. She hosts The Great Courses “How to Grow Anything” DVD series and the nationally syndicated Melinda’s Garden Moment TV & radio segments. Her web site is www.MelindaMyers.com. 50+

Cover Story - Candice Bergen

An interview with T.V.’s Murphy Brown

C Bergen andice

Candice, you speak a lot of languages, right? Well, I speak French, English and German. I have this thing for languages. And I love to travel the world. Your character in “Book Club” is having a lot of fun with a dating app. Is that something you would ever try in real life? No. I have been married for almost 20 years. It’s not on my horizon anymore. I don’t even know how I feel about friends doing it. I love faceto- face contact, and that is not being nurtured anymore. But I do know which way to swipe if I really had to. You miss the old romantic way of being courted? Well, as I said, I am happily married. But there is something to be said about the way men used to court women in a romantic way, right? Nowadays it just seems as if something is lost with modern technology. But isn’t it kind of scary to have to “face” your potential partner in an open setting. At least an app is safe? I think it’s more interesting to meet, there is more risk and there is more of a game. And I used to enjoy that a lot. You said you are happily married for almost 20 years. So, what is the secret of a good marriage? You have to marry the right guy. And a man has to have a good sense of humor, that’s very important. He needs to make me laugh. And my husband is not in this business. He does real estate. That helps as well. What is your take on the MeToo movement going forward? Things have already changed a bit. And I think it’s up to the women to keep moving it forward. And it’s up to us to find a forum for dialogue between men and women. Men need to be included in this conversation. What is your insider knowledge to understanding men? Oh, they are much simpler creatures. I love men, but they are just so much simpler. They just need to eat, good sex and football. That’s simplistic, but a lot of men are blessed about not agonizing about as much stuff as I do. How are you different today as an actor? I am more at peace with my mind. When I was younger I feared this age,

but now I am here and I am still working. I am happy. It’s unusual that we are working. I still enjoy it. A lot of much younger women than us don’t get work anymore. Is it a taboo to talk about “older” people having sex? Old people have sex. It’s just a fact. It’s not a taboo. Life doesn’t end with age, it deepens. We don’t want to die before we are actually dying. Who is a person that you admire? I am in awe of Jane Fonda. She is in a league of her own. She is an utter inspiration to be around.It’s crazy to see that she is 80. The energy she has is unreal. She always self examines, she pays attention like a hawk. She really is one of the most incredible people I have ever met. So, Murphy Brown revival is happening? Yes, it is happening. We are doing another season. I think of the reaction we’ve been getting. People seem to be very excited. Can you tell us a bit of what the show might look like now? Oh, we have so much to work with now, there is so much going on politically in this country. `I think you will find a reflection of that in our show. There is a lot of fuel. Candice, do you mind getting older on television? Of course I mind, what woman would not mind? – But there is nothing you can do about it. It comes with the package. And all you can do is try to cope with it as good as you can. I am pretty content where I am in my life right now, so that’s a good thing. 50+ 50+ LifeStyles September 2018 • www.50PlusNY.com 27

Writing for a Cause

s most people approach retirement, they dream about how the luxury of extra time will set them free to do the things postponed for so many years. For some, it’s endless walks on the beach or travel to exotic places. For others, limitless rounds of golf or weekend sails to the Cape. And, for many, some form of charitable work is also a part of the plan. Fortunately, when Stephen Medici retired from a 30-year career on Wall Street, his local firehouse was looking for daytime EMT’s and firefighters. So, after six months of training at the Suffolk County Fire Academy, he became a volunteer firefighter and EMT. A few years later he became a Lieutenant. Still, there were worthwhile charities he Author Stephen Medici wanted to support financially, but not necessarily by dipping into his retirement nest egg. That’s when his wife suggested he finish writing the book he’d begun so many years ago and donate the royalties to charity. The idea alone was enough catalyst to jumpstart his story-telling passion and he published his first novel in 2007, donating all the proceeds to the Harry Chapin Food Bank. Today, at 65, he’s still a firefighter and EMT but has written three more books which supported St. Jude Children’s Hospital and the Fresh Air Fund. 100 percent of the royalties from his most recent novel, Wellington Redemption, go to the Suffolk County Volunteer Firefighters Burn Center at Stony Brook University Hospital. “I still hate asking people for money,” Medici says. “Even when it goes to a charity. It’s a lot easier asking people to buy a book. They get an interesting novel and the charity gets the cash. Winners all around.” 50+

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Brookhaven Town to Hold Women’s Conference & Expo

he Town of Brookhaven’s Division of Women’s Services will hold the 12th annual Conference and Expo on Saturday, October 13, 2018, from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. This year’s conference, entitled “Women Empowering Women – Inspire, Educate and Motivate,” will feature guest speakers, vendor booths and workshops that promote wellness and personal growth in the lives of women in the community. Advance registration is required at www.brookhavenny.gov. Sign-in and breakfast starts at 8:30 a.m. Registration deadline is October 10. The Keynote Speaker will be Regina Calcaterra, Author of the number one international bestseller: Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island and co-author of Girl Unbroken: A Sister’s Harrowing Journey from the Streets of Long Island to the Farms of Idaho. The first 75 registrants for the Conference and Expo will receive a free copy of Ms. Calcaterra’s book, Etched in Sand, compliments of the Division of Women’s Services. The workshops will include: Wealthy Woman Within: Katherine Dean, CFP and Founder of Living your Worth, Inc. As women we still earn between $500,000-$850,000 less than men over our lifetimes. The pay gap is real. What is even more real is that we let self-doubt interfere with earning the income we deserve and rarely negotiate for our success. In this powerful workshop, you will learn to take charge of money in all areas of your life. You will get the tips and tools to negotiate for success, get your money working for you, debt busting tips, boosting your bank account, and plug the leaks in your finances to be the Wealthy Woman we all have been dreaming about and deserve. You Are What You Wear: Presented by Melanie Lippman, Style Consultant First impressions are based seven percent on what we say, 38 percent on how we sound, and 55 percent on how we look. This workshop will teach you what to wear, how to wear it, where to find it and when to save and when to splurge. By editing your wardrobe and identifying the pieces that make the most impact on your look, you will have less clutter, more styled options and no frustration. This fun and interactive workshop will leave you excited about getting dressed every morning. For more info about the Women’s Conference and Expo, please visit www.brookhavenny.gov, e-mail womenservices@brookhavenny.gov or call the Division of Women’s Services at 631-451-6146. 50+

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2018 Best and Worst Places to Retire

To help Americans plan for a comfortable retirement without break- and availability of recreational activities. The data set ranges from ing the bank, WalletHub.com compared more than 180 U.S. cities cost of living to retired taxpayer-friendliness to share of the popuacross 46 key measures of affordability, quality of life, health care lation aged 65 and older.

BEST CITIES TO RETIRE

WORST CITIES TO RETIRE

1 Orlando, FL 2 Scottsdale, AZ 3 Tampa, FL 4 Denver, CO 5 Fort Lauderdale, FL 6 Charleston, SC 7 Miami, FL 8 Austin, TX 9 Cape Coral, FL 10 Tempe, AZ

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Fresno, CA Modesto, CA Jersey City, NJ Bakersfield, CA Providence, RI Stockton, CA Baltimore, MD Warwick, RI Bridgeport, CT Newark, NJ

Best vs. Worst Scottsdale, Arizona, has the highest share of the population aged 65 and older, 22.4 percent, which is 3.3 times higher than in Fontana, California, the city with the lowest at 6.8 percent. Laredo, Texas, has the lowest adjusted cost-of-living index for retirees, 76.51, which is 2.5 times lower than in San Francisco, the city with the highest at 192.09. Columbia, Maryland, has the highest share of workers aged 65 and older,

26.86 percent, which is 2.9 times higher than in Hialeah, Florida, the city with the lowest at 9.31 percent. St. Louis, Missouri has the most home health care facilities (per 100,000 residents), 45.25, which is 31 times more than in Fontana, California, the city with the fewest at 1.46. To view the full report and your cityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s rank, please visit: wallethub.com/edu/best-places-to-retire/6165.

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Age of Elegance Joan Allen

Marleen Schuss

There Is A New Star in The Galaxy!!

n July 29, 2018, New York Senior America presented the 33rd annual Pageant at Molloy College in Rockville Centre. The pageant celebrates women of achievement, age 60-and-over who, with their talent, abilities and positive projection of aging, best exemplify what the senior women can accomplish. The women are judged in four categories: Personal Interview, Philosophy of Life, Evening Gown and Stage Presence and Talent. The five judges look for that special candidate who will serve as a role model to represent the modern senior woman of today. AND THE WINNER IS… Queen Maureen Griffin-Damone, Ms. New York Senior America 2018. Maureen also won the title of Ms. Congeniality! Known by her peers as the most friendly, helpful, genuine and outgoing contestant in the pageant. This award is judged by the other contestants.

Canin, Carol D’Amato, Alicia Moss and Theresa Walton. A BIG THANK YOU to all the contestants who helped make this pageant a huge success. The judges had great difficulty making their final decision, because anyone of the contestants had the qualifications to be the winner. Following the pageant, the Queens Gala/Dinner Dance was enjoyed at the Rockville Links Club, Rockville Centre. The music was furnished by one of our own Cameo Club members, Celeste Belletti. A wonderful time was shared by all. A welcoming luncheon for the new members was held at Pompei Restaurant, West Hempstead. At this time we would like to thank our loyal sponsors for their continued support. We are most grateful for the generosity of individuals and businesses for assisting us in our endeavor to inspire seniors to live life to the fullest. It is never too early to become a part of the NY Senior America family. We already have several prospective contestants for the 2019 Pageant. If you are interested in participating in next year’s Pageant, please call Marleen Schuss, State Administrator, at 516.761-7503 or e-mail marleenschuss@aol.com. (See coupon below.) 50+ Today’s words of wisdom….”The only real failure is not to try” Until next time, Joan and Marleen COUPON

Women Must Be 60 Years or Over I would like to compete in the 2019 Ms. New York Senior America Pageant. Name Address Telephone E-mail Address

Photos by Susan Grieco 1st Runner-up, Laura Lorenzo 2nd Runner-up, Joan Darragh 3rd Runner-up, Esther Beckman 4th Runner-up, Marie Quigley In alphabetical order 2the other contestants were Sabra Brock, Susan

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