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ay Fougnier, an inspiring 74-year-old powerlifter and member of the Oneida Indian Nation, recently set four world records at the 2017 A AU (Amateur Athletic Union) North American Powerlifting, Weightlifting, Feats of Strength, Strongman & Mas

Wrestling Championships. Based on his age, weight and overall performance, Fougnier was also named Best Lifter among all competing men at the April 7 to 9 event held in Laughlin, Nevada.

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What to Do, Where to Go, What to See, on Long Island and the Surrounding Area (Send event info to Frank@50plusny.com. Deadline 15th of the month)

June 3 Concert for the Environment. 6:30 p.m. Alley Pond Environmental Center, Douglaston. www.alleypond.com.

June 3 “Ye Olde Fashioned Tag Sale”. Village of Islandia Village Hall from 10 a.m. 631-348-1133, or visit www.newvillageofislandia.com.

June 4 Senior Pops Concert. 2 p.m. at Levittown Hall, 201 Levittown Parkway, Hicksville. 516-414-1831 or visit seniorpops.org.

June 7 Long Beach Art League Meeting. Long Beach Library, 111 West Park Ave., at 7:30 p.m www.longbeachartleague.com.

June 14 Loving Hands Knit & Crochet for Charity Mtg. Infinite Yarns, 34 Hempstead Tpke., Farmingdale. RSVP to 516-246-9552.

June 15 Audubon Outdoor Program. Brookside County Park, Sayville. www.gsbas.org. 631-563-7716.

June 17 Exhibition Dahlia Sale. 516-578-7699. www.longislanddahlia.org.

June 19 Conversation with Suffolk Police Commissioner Timothy D. Sini; 7p.m. Sachem Public Library, Holbrook. 631-588-5024.

June 21 Strawberry and Ice Cream Social. Sponsored by Valley Stream Historical Society, at the Firemen's Field Clubhouse, Valley Stream. 516-825-7157.

June 26 Swinging for the Sisters. Golf outing to benefit the Ursuline Sisters of Tildonk. At the Knowllwood Country Club, Elmsford, NY. Info at 631363-2422 (x2060).

Strawberry and Ice Cream Social.

June 21. Firemen's Field Clubhouse, 120 Abermarle Avenue, Valley Stream.

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Brookhaven Town Job Fair

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he Town of Brookhaven’s Division of Economic Development and the Brookhaven Business Advisory Council (BBAC) will hold the sixth annual Job Fair on Tuesday, June 6 from 5:30 to 8 p.m. in the second floor auditorium of Brookhaven Town Hall, located at One Independence Hill in Farmingville.

The Brookhaven Job Fair gives job hunters the chance to meet face-to-face with representatives from companies in and around Brookhaven who are looking to hire qualified candidates for a wide range of positions. Last year, the event was attended by more than 600 people and representatives from over 100 companies. There are already more than 50 businesses registered to participate in industries ranging from banking to child care to engineering to sales.

Attendees are encouraged to bring their resumes and be ready to talk with prospective employers. To view the list of participating companies, reserve your company recruitment table, watch a video from Job Fair 2016 or to learn more about the 2017 Job Fair, go to www.brookhavenbac.org/Events/Calendar-of-Events/Job-Fair or call Brookhaven Town’s Office of Economic Development at 631-451-6563 for more info. 50+

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ong Island Autism Communities, Inc., a not for profit, 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to developing supportive integrated communities for adults with autism, has issued a call for volunteers.

The young organization is at a critical stage in its development and is looking for individuals with a variety of skills.

Given the high incidence of autism on Long Island, the group is hopeful that individuals whose families have been impacted by autism or who have friends with family members on the spectrum, will be willing to devote some of their time to help Long Island Autism Communities reach its goal of developing supportive, integrated housing options across Long Island.

Among the tasks volunteers can assist with are: community relations, administrative projects, fundraising, events, research and marketing.

Retirees are welcome and college students on summer break can earn community service credits while gaining valuable experience in nonprofit operations. Some volunteer assignments could be handled remotely.

Volunteer hours are flexible. Assignments that must be performed in the office will take place at the organization’s Deer Park, NY headquarters. To volunteer or for more info, contact: Silvana LaFerlita Gullo, Executive Director at: Silvana@licommunity.org or call: 631-302-0095. 50+

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Grandparents & Grandkids Water Fun Safety Tips

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t’s fun at the beach, river, lake, pool time again. And that means it’s time for grandparents to pick it up a notch when you’re watching the kids around the water. Although the older grandkids may be more comfortable around the water than the younger ones, if you’re watching them…it’s you’re responsibility to make sure they’re safe.

Boats Repeat the word lifejacket about 100 times. In New York, children under 12 on a boat without a cabin MUST have lifejackets on. The USCG and boating safety organizations all recommend everyone wear a life jacket while on their boat.

On larger boats — this means you, especially if you’re working up on the bow for any reason.

Bowriding (sitting up forward with your legs hanging over) is a big no-no. Remember …there are no brakes on a boat.When towing people, make sure someone is the designated spotter, responsible solely for watching the person being towed.

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Take a boating safety class. Now. Yes, we know you were friends of Captain Ahab back in the day, but look how that turned out for him! Get the New York State Boater’s Guide. A PDF can be had at parks.ny.gov/recreation/boating/documents/NYSBoatersGuide.pdf.

Pool chemicals can be dangerous if used improperly. Ensure proper chemical balance by testing the water twice a week. Remove any chlorine tab feeders and in-pool vacuums before using the pool. If the kids can’t swim there are programs to teach them regardless of age. Take advantage of them. Use life vests as needed.

Pools Here are some pool opening/safety suggestions from the owners of Anthony and Sylvan Pools (www.anthonysylvan.com).Safety starts with the pool-opening process. Remember to check the stability of any pool fences, decks, chairs, fixtures (including pool ladders, railings, diving boards, etc.) and pool maintenance equipment.

Install a safety fence if small children or pets will be present and use appropriate pool or spa covers when not in use.

Set rules in place for all pool users to follow including no running or diving in shallow areas.

Ensure all drain covers are up to VGB standards and teach children to avoid them. It’s also an excellent idea to learn CPR!

Beach, Moving Water Put the book, Kindle, iPhone, iPad, crossword puzzle, whatever, down. Your job is to keep your eyes on the kids, because it takes but a moment of inattention for trouble to happen …especially if there is moving water, whether ocean or river.

Make sure to only let the kids swim in lifeguard staffed areas (that still doesn’t mean you can look away). If you’re new to rivers, remember this cardinal rule: when floating downriver intentionally or accidentally, do so with your feet up. Never try to stand in an unfamiliar river until you’re on the beach. There’s ton of fun to be had in the summer, and the best way to have it, is to do it safely. 50+

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Veterans

91-year-old member of U.S. Nurse Cadet Corps Receives Congressional Proclamation At just 17-years old, Adele Danon was determined to do her part to support her country during World War II. U.S. hospitals, already facing a nursing shortage, were on the verge of collapse as doctors and nurses shipped out overseas to support combat operations. The year was 1943 and President Franklin Delano Roosevelt had just signed into law the Bolton Act to recruit young women to train and serve as nurses stateside in the newly formed U.S. Nurse Cadet Corps. Answering the call of duty, Adele enlisted in the Corps, kicking-off a 68year career as a nurse.

As a U.S. Nurse Cadet Corps trainee, Adele and her fellow nurses-in-training pledged to actively serve in stateside hospitals for the duration of the war in exchange for an accelerated education and on-site training. These unsung heroes were credited by The American Hospital Association with having helped prevent the

News breakdown of the healthcare system during World War II. In fact, Thomas Parran, Jr., the U.S. Surgeon General in 1945 stated, “We cannot measure what the loss to the country would have been if civilian nursing service had collapsed, any more than we could measure the cost of failure at the Normandy beachheads.”

Despite this acknowledgement of their vital contributions, Nurse Cadets never received veteran’s benefits or recognition for their dedication and years of service. Nearly 70 years after first donning her Nurse Cadet Corps uniform, Adele received a Congressional Proclamation from Congressman Lee Zeldin, recognizing her service during WWII. Surrounded by other veterans, staff and family at Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center where she currently resides, Adele thanked the Congressman saying that the proclamation was not only for her but “for all of us who served in the Cadet Corps.”

Veterans Testimonial Project Assemblyman Chad A. Lupinacci (R,C,I-South Huntington) recently joined the Half Hollow Hills Community Library to recognize and commend 25 veteran participants in the Veterans Testimonial Project.

The testimonial videos, coordinated by librarian Edna Susman, have been preserved at the Library of Congress’ American Folklife Center.

For three years, the library has been collecting personal narratives from local veterans, which tell each soldier’s unique wartime experience. This year’s reception honored veterans from World War II, the Korean War, Vietnam, and Operation Iraqi Freedom.

“President Reagan once said, ‘freedom is only one generation away from extinction,’ and it is individuals like each of you, who took tremendous risks to preserve the liberties we enjoy each day,” said Lupinacci.

“Too often does this extraordinary service go unnoticed, and today we gather to recognize that contribution and learn from those experiences. I also commend the American Folklife Center for their efforts to preserve this valuable information for future generations to come.”

Greenlawn War Memorial Restored and Updated A combined effort by the Town of Huntington, American Legion Greenlawn Post 1244, Greenlawn Fire District and Greenlawn Fire Department has resulted in the refurbishment of the Greenlawn Monument.

A special thanks to Art Stone for the restoration and the Greenlawn Civic Association for their support in this effort.

The monument, now located in Greenlawn Memorial Park, was originally dedicated as a memorial to those Greenlawn residents who fought in World War I. Rededicated in 1960 as a monument to “All Those Who Made the Supreme Sacrifice,” the landmark has been in its present location since 1996 at the corner of Pulaski Road and Broadway, Greenlawn. The original World War I Plaque and the 1960 dedication plaque have been refinished to their original condition.

In addition four smaller plaques have been added to the sides of the monument, commemorating those who served in World War II, Korea, Vietnam and the current Global War on Terror. A beautiful new eagle has replaced the monument’s existing eagle. 50+ 50+ LifeStyles June 2017 • www.50PlusNY.com

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4 Tips to Sleep Better During Allergy Season

By Max Wiseberg

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pring is the season of renewal. Plants and trees start to rebound from the harsh winter that claimed most of their leaves and vegetation.

Birds return from their Southern vacations, serenade us with their morning songs and rebuild their nests in preparation for new arrivals.

Unfortunately, there is another renewal that many people don’t look forward to in the spring: the return of hay fever season along with symptoms such as sneezing and sniffling that can give you sleepless nights.

In an allergy survey conducted by HayMax (www.haymax.us), 92 percent of respondents said their hay fever symptoms affect their work, school or daily routine, which includes sleep patterns.

“The trick to sleeping well when you suffer from hay fever is to reduce the amount of pollen getting into your body at night,” says Max Wiseberg, creator of HayMax Allergen Barrier Balm.

People can tolerate a certain amount of pollen without reaction, he says, but once this amount is exceeded – called the trigger level – hay fever symptoms start to occur. Stay below this level at night, you won’t get the symptoms and your sleep won’t be affected. Go above it and that’s when the trouble starts. Wiseberg offers a few tips on how to avoid reaching that trigger level, allowing you to rest easy at night.

• Keep bedding and fabrics clean. Vacuum the house regularly, especially beds and fabrics, such as bed covers and curtains, to remove pollen, dust and pet allergen particles. Wash bedding regularly to remove allergens and dry them indoors rather than on a clothes line to prevent pollen particles being blown onto them by the wind.

• Keep the house closed from the outside world. Close windows and

use an air conditioner, preferably with a HEPA (High Efficiency Particle Arresting) filter to capture pollen and dust particles, as well as cool and circulate the air.

• Have a nightly routine before bed.

Shower at night before sleeping to remove pollen particles and pet hair from your hair and body. Clear the nasal passages with water, or use a saline nasal spray, to clear pollen from the nose. Finally, apply an allergen barrier balm to the nostrils and around the bones of the eyes to trap pollen, dust and pet allergens before they enter the body.

• Ensure that pets are well groomed.

If you own a pet, shampoo it as much as possible to remove pet allergens and pollen particles, or ban it from the bedroom completely.

“Loss of sleep because of hay fever is very significant, as it can impact how a person functions the next day at school or at work,” Wiseberg says.

“The effect of sleep deprivation on productivity and health loses costs companies billions of dollars each year.” 50+ Max Wiseberg is the creator of HayMax (www.haymax.us), a natural, organic balm that traps allergens when applied to the nostrils.

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2017 Fireworks Schedule May 28, 2017 (Rain Date June 3, 2017) 9 p.m. Brookhaven Annual Fair at Bald Hill Fireworks Pennysaver Amphitheatre Farmingville June 17, 2017 9:15 p.m. Cherry Grove Pride Weekend Great South Bay, Cherry Grove June 28, 2017 9:15 p.m.

Bayside’s Independence Celebration at Fort Totten, Little Neck Bay, Bayside June 29, 2017 9:20 p.m. New York Salutes America - Fireworks Extravaganza, Orchard Beach Bronx June 29, 2017 9:15 p.m. Astoria'sIndependence Celebration Astoria Park June 29, 2017 9:15 p.m.

Connetquot River Independence Fireworks Connetquot River, Oakdale

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June 30, 2017 (Rain Date July 2, 2017) 9:15 p.m. Southampton Fresh Air Home American Picnic with Fireworks by Grucci, Shinnecock Bay, Southampton July 1, 2017 (Rain Date July 2, 2017) 9:30 p.m. Sag Harbor’s Independence Celebration Sag Harbor July 2, 2017 (Rain Date July 3, 2017) 9:15 p.m. Orient's Independence Celebration Orient Harbor Orient

July 4, 2017 (Rain Date July 5, 2017) 9:30 p.m. Spark the Sound Fireworks Five Island Park, New Rochelle July 4, 2017 (Rain Date July 5, 2017) 9:30 p.m. Fireworks at Bald Hill Pennysaver Amphitheatre, Farmingville July 8, 2017 (Rain Date July 9, 2017) 9:30 p.m. 60th Annual Shelter Island Fireworks Crescent Beach, Shelter Island

July 4, 2017 (Rain Date July 5, 2017) 9:30 p.m. 4th Annual Freedom & Fireworks Festival, Liberty State Park, Jersey City, NJ

July 15, 2017 10 p.m. Islip Arts Council - Annual Concert Honor our Hometown Heroes, Heckscher State Park, East Islip

July 4, 2017 (Rain Date July 5, 2017) 9:00 p.m. Montauk’s Independence Day Umbrella Beach, Montauk

July 11, 2017 9:45 p.m. Oyster Bay’s Salute to America John J. Burns Park, Massapequa

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Cover Story - 74-Year-Old Powerlifter Competing in the 181-pound weight class, Fougnier set new world records in the squat (286 pounds) bench press (201 pounds), deadlift (419 pounds), and in the total score for the three categories (906 pounds). The new benchmarks replace the records previously set by Fougnier at the 2016 event.

Fougnier’s sponsor, the Oneida Indian Nation, congratulated him on this latest in his incredible string of athletic achievements and will continue to proudly support his mission of inspiring and motivating all Native Americans to lead a healthy lifestyle and embrace exercise regardless of age. Even though Ray didn’t join powerlifting until his 70s, the self-trained phenom has achieved great success in the sport, set-

ting numerous state and world records across multiple weight divisions.

Last year, Ray set three world records at the 2016 A AU World Powerlifting Championship in Las Vegas, Nevada, where he competed in a higher 198-pound weight class.

A retired teacher and former head of the American Indian program at Cornell University, Fougnier grew up on the Oneida Indian Nation’s homelands located in Central New York. He now splits his time living in suburban Detroit, Michigan and Pigeon Forge, Tennessee.

The Oneida Indian Nation is a federally recognized Indian nation in Central New York. A founding member of the Haudenosaunee Confederacy (also known as the Six Nations or Iro-

quois Confederacy), the Oneida Indian Nation sided with the Americans in the Revolutionary War and was thanked by Congress and President George Washington for its loyalty and assistance.

For more information, visit the Nation’s website www.OneidaIndianNation.com. 50+

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Easy Breezy Cruises

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asy Breezy Cruises, Inc. is an independently owned and operated home-based franchise, and is part of the American Express Travel Representative network. Cruise Planners, is the nation’s largest home-based travel agent franchise company in the industry.

Robin Aloisio is a Travel Specialist who books amazing vacation and travel experiences for her clients in New York, Florida and around the globe. There are literally thousands of travel agencies out there, but she differentiates herself from the pack with top-notch customer service. “I am trying to take it back to the old days, when you knew your travel agent and they knew you,” Robin said. “A website does not ask you the right questions. What do you like or dislike? Where have you been?

Where do you what to go? What are your interests? How is your family?

How is your day going?” she said, “I try to personalize the experience.

You will never be a reservation number with me, you and I will get to know each other at a personal level, just the way it should be. That is how I run my business.”

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Around The Towns...

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1) Congressman Lee Zeldin (R, NY-1) attended the Hope Walk for Addiction at Cedar Beach in Mt. Sinai, NY.

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2) Town of Oyster Bay Supervisor Joseph S. Saladino (left), Town Councilman Louis B. Imbroto (right), and Town Clerk James Altadonna Jr. (third from left) congratulated two Town of Oyster Bay Constables Rob Walles (second from left) and Jim Altadonna III (second from right), and local Clammer Jeffrey Muglia of Amity Harbor at John J. Burns Town Park in Massapequa for their recent heroic efforts in rescuing two kayakers.

3) Hundreds of attendees from the Long Island medical and corporate community came out to the Garden City Hotel in Garden City.

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4) Supervisor Ed Romaine (at podium) and Councilman Dan Panico (right) helped to kick off the Town of Brookhaven’s 2017 Senior Softball program at the Moriches Athletic Complex.

5) The Long Island Autism Communities announced today the appointment of Silvana LaFerlita Gullo as its new Executive Director.

6) Suffolk Federal is proud to welcome Mary Warren-Mancini of Babylon as Branch Manager of the credit union’s West Babylon Branch at 50-108 Route 109. 50+

Child Safety Day, Promoting a Safe and Healthy Environment for Children and their Families

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YS Senator Tom Croci will host a FREE family fun day that will feature events and activities to promote a safe environment for children and their families. Croci’s annual event is returning to Patchogue’s Shore Front Park on Saturday, June 17, 2017, from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m.This year’s event will provide numerous programs and services to help keep children safe, including: Car Seat Inspections - Child ID Cards - Bike Safety - Self Defense Exhibitions and, Demonstrations by Local fire Departments and Ambulance Companies. There will also be face painting, free light refreshments, giveaways and much more. This FREE event is open to all. For additional info call 631-360-3356. 50+

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Paulette Ofrias: NY State Senate

“Woman of Distinction”

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enator Ken LaValle announced that Paulette Ofrias of Southold was selected as the 2017 NY State Senate’s Woman of Distinction from the First Senate District. Mrs. Ofrias was officially recognized at a NY State Senate ceremony in Albany.

Senator LaValle said, “Paulette Ofrias has been a tireless advocate, devoting her time and talents to improve her community. She is a business leader, educational advocate and volunteer for local civic organizations.

Paulette now joins other notable women of New York State who have been selected for this special recognition.”

Mrs. Ofrias has been a member of the Southold School Board of Education for 14 years, serving as President for the past five. Paulette has been instrumental in fostering a successful relationship between Southold and Greenport School Districts. Her efforts have led to the sharing of programs, administrators and sports teams, creating greater opportunities for students and savings for taxpayers. Under Paulette’s leadership, the Southold-Greenport concept has overcome geographical and social barriers to become a shared services model for the rest of the state.

Mrs. Ofrias has been active in the School Athletic Association, Building and Grounds Committee, and a member of the Board of Directors of the Southold School Educational Foundation. Paulette has volunteered for St.

Patrick's Church CCD religious education and CYO Basketball programs. She has received the St. Pius award of Rockville Center, for service and commitment.

A member of the Southold Rotary Club, Paulette has also supported the work of the Chamber of Commerce.

Her efforts on behalf of the Southold Town Annual Fourth of July parade have made it a success for residents and business owners on the North Fork. Paulette is a Trustee of the East End Health Plan and Serves on the East End Financial Group Advisory Board.

She was honored by the North Fork Chamber of Commerce in 2014 with the Business Award on behalf of the Scott Family Pharmacy. Now, Paulette can add “Woman of Distinction” to her many recognitions. Paulette and her husband, Greg, own the Southold and Shelter Island Pharmacies, and have two adult children, Scott, an attorney, and Patrick, a police officer. Paulette’s civic-minded contributions have positively affected her community, and established a legacy for future generations. 50+

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Ten Tips for Effective Communication With Your Doctor

By Dr. Karen Trollope-Kumar ometimes my work as a family doctor the days don’t always go as expected. On a busy day, I feel like I’ll never catch up, and it’s frustrating that I can’t give adequate time to each individual patient.

There are 10 quick tips to communicate better with your family doctor, and to make your office visit more effective: 1. If you are seeing the doctor for a complicated issue (like Jimmy’s problem) ask the receptionist to book you a longer appointment.

2. Prepare what you’re going to say ahead of time, and keep it concise and focused.

3. If you’ve done some research on the Internet about your problem and want to share it with your doctor, make sure you use reputable sites to get that information. Doctors get frustrated when patients bring in reams of information of dubious value.

4. Avoid coming into the doctor’s office with a list of unrelated problems – focus on your main concern for that visit.

5. If you are going in to get results of an important test, bring a friend or relative with you. Sometimes it can be hard to remember what the doctor has said, especially when the topic is emotionally laden.

6. If you have a particular worry about a symptom (for example, Could this be cancer?), express that concern to the doctor.

7. If the doctor advises a treatment you don’t feel comfortable with, explain your reasons, and see if an alternative approach would be possible.

8. Keep your follow up appointment, and at that time let the doctor know how well (or not) the treatment has worked.

9. If you’re not happy with the service you’re getting, communicate this clearly but politely, using “I” statements. (for example, “I feel concerned about how long it took to receive these test results.”)

10. If you’re happy with the service you’re getting from your doctor, a word of thanks or a card is always appreciated. Doctors are human too!

Improving communication requires work on the part of both the doctor and the patient. Thinking back on this appointment with Beth and Jimmy, I realized my faults: I was tired and also frustrated because the issue was complex and difficult to address during a short appointment. Yet still, I could have done a better job at communicating with compassion. On Beth’s part, she could have prepared for this appointment by thinking ahead about what information might be useful for the doctor. Working together, patients and family doctors can form great partnerships if they keep communication at the forefront of their relationship.

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Dr. Karen Trollope-Kumar is a family physician and author of Cloud Messenger: Love and Loss in the Indian Himalayas. For more information, please visit www.karentrollopekumar.com. 50+ 50+ LifeStyles June 2017 • www.50PlusNY.com

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Poets Corner 65th Anniversary

By Madeline Lipton Searching for a card for my parent's 65th anniversary year, Found up to 60th, silly to add a five in there, Settled on a sentimental type adorned with just the right words, Then again after six decades, there is probably no wish they've not ever hear, Picturing my parents as quite young people that March so long ago,(It was not the greatest weather as Mom told me there was snow!),Starting out their life together in a New York restaurant one day, Dancing to Love is a Many Splendored Thing then floating out the door on their merry way, Picturing a couple who could not have foreseen,Three children, five grandsons, beloved family, friends,pets too,The love,laughter, joy and yes sorrows throughout and in between, That would lead

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to their milestone and standing before some cards, Reflecting on a marriage, A couple I will always wish the best for, Hoping they stay as they are, An example of love forevermore.

Dad’s Stray (In memory of Gerard Fischetti) Susan Marie Davniero of Lindenhurst My Dad was at the work cafeteria one day, When escaping indoors was a small stray, There in the corner hidden in the shadows, A stray kitten with grey stripes shows, Glowing green yellow eyes seem to plea, Starring at Dad for something to eat, Kindhearted Dad shares his lunch, Watching the small kitten munch, Apparently this lost kitten was left to roam, So Dad thought he would take it home, The stray kitten with coat of stripes, Fit into the family just right. 50+

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