ISSUE #12
CAREER CORNER WITH
AUG-SEP 2022 For Teen Girls Only!
SHoDoL
FREE
CoSMETICS
OUR thing SKY’S
FEEL GOOD
PLAYLIST
Loving Ourselves Good Vibes Being Healthy
OUR thing Negativity Shisha Overthinking
DIY
TIE AND DYE
I pledge to be true
I will trust my choices,
to myself
and I will not
and what
let anyone else
I believe in.
determine who I am.
I �il� rise Success,
to m eet m y
making friends and dancing?
That’s
my THING. Jealousy,
gossip and
SMOKING
Take THE
pledge
That’s not
my thing.
To take the pledge, visit the SKY Point at Arcades or our Facebook Page.
I will
make choices
according
to my character.
20 - 21 How to TIE and DYE
22 Top 10 KILLER Confidence Tips
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Heyyy SKY Girlies!
23 SKY PUSH Becoming A Social Media Influencer
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24 - 25 Get the look
This issue’s contributors 6-7
THE TRENDOMETER
SKY Merch 26 10 Simple ways you can romanticise your life!
8-9
Get the look Colour Me Happy
27
10 - 11
Body Beautiful:
The Value of Saying NO
#SoulOnFleek
28 - 29
12 - 13
Letter to my 14 year old self by Rose Sibisi 14
Positive Thinking for Success
SKY Cover Girls 30
Movies Reviews 31
True Life Feature: The New Kid: Finding My Way
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Career Corner Make Up Queen: Mudolo Shoshani
32 - 33
16 - 17
Happiness Quiz
18 - 19
SKY Girls Feel Good Playlist
SKY ADVICE 34
SKY Spotted 35
We want to hear from you!
Heyyy
SKY girlies! We're finally entering summer and ya’ll I’m excited to get out of the cold season, it was freezing #ClimateChangeIsReal. Are you as thrilled as I am for another issue of SKY magazine? This issue is all about having a positive mindset. We all
have bad days and it's okay to go through them, it’s okay to make mistakes but what’s most important is how we deal with them. We have loads of content to pick up your mood and make you feel good. One of my faves in this issue is Positive Thinking. It's important to stay positive, which helps with a good mindset as well as how to deal with difficult emotions, there’s even a quiz on defining happiness inside!
This issue is all about self-care baby! Namely, the article ‘Ways to Show Yourself Love’ and our Feel Good playlist by DJ Milky Way. Not forgetting killer confidence tips, they help in boosting your self-esteem, trust me they do! As usual, we have the Letter to My 14-year-old Self. This month we have Rose Sibisi, a successful TV host (she’s on Honey, the pan-African lifestyle channel meaning, she is seen in countries all over Africa), and she is the first female CEO of a privately owned Zambian television station!! How cool is that?! If makeup is your thing we got to interview Emma Mudolo Shoshani owner of Sho’dol makeup! You got that right! Check out how she built one of the best Zambian beauty brands.
In this issue we got TWO Get the Looks!!
Yes, sis two. One is all about the popping colours that you can add to your wardrobe to make you look good and feel happy, and the other one features our awesome new merch for y'all!! We have a couple of tips on how to style your SKY merch. Please make sure to take lots of photos of how you styled your merch and tag us on Social Media @skygirlszed on Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok There’s so much to love in this issue, but my personal fave is the how-to series, and this time around it's how to tie n dye! It's really creative and fun to do, made even easier with a step-by-step tutorial. I hope you enjoy this issue as much as I did!
Xoxo
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Nomsa ng’ambi
This Issue’s Contributors Writers
Natasha Malama
MY thing
Music, Movies, Dancing
my thing Untidiness, Clingy people, Cussing
Chanda Chibale
MY thing
Piercings, Books, Food
my thing
Hot weather, Negative energy
Louisa Kasalika
Trust Mulenga Zhane Cunningham
MY thing
Music, Ice-cream, Movies
my thing
MY thing
MY thing
Being me no matter what society will say
Photography, Graphic design, Meeting new people
my thing
my thing
Talking ill about a fellow woman
Liars, Bullies, Lack of teamwork
Bullies, Gossip, Fake friends
Thoko Kalinda Lincia Mabo
MY thing
MY thing
Chicken, Sour candy, Floral and sweet scents
my thing
Strawberries, Piercings, Milkshake
Sports, Creativity, Current affairs
Idle minds, Unproductivity, Selfishness
my thing
Precious Mwansa
MY thing
Food, Books, Family
my thing
Creepy crawlies, Bullies
Ruth Nzipa
MY thing
Listening to Music, Taking pictures, Writing
Namasiku Kayama
Rudeness, Panicking, Extremely loud environments
Water, Music
my thing
MY thing my thing
Disrespect, Walking long distances, Negative vibes
5
Things
That Make Us
Happy
1.Hugs - it's the quickest �ay to make us �eel�better. 2.Sel�-care Sunday - Our minds and bodies need to charge up so that �e can take on the �eek. Clean up your space, put on a �ace mask� and jot down the plans you have �or the �eek.
3.Good �ood - the �astest �ay to a SKY girl's heart is through her stomach. We have a soft spot �or good �ood and the �oodie in us cannot resist a �holesome meal.
OUR THING
4.Music - This is our number
one mood �uplifter. �laying our �avourite jams is our vibe.
5.Road trips - no matter �here �e're heading, road trips are so much �un. Not to mention the beautiful� scenery of�the outskirts of�busy cities.
6.Money - Money can't buy you happiness,
but �hen you have it, you are able to purchase 7.Books something you've al�ays �anted. One of�our �avourite �ays to escape the real�world
and al� the burdens that come �ith it, is to have our nose in a good book.
8.Clear skin
Taking good care of�our skin is top-tier sel�-care �or us, and that's �hy �e put in extra ef�ort to make sure our skin is wel� taken care of.
9.Good TV shows
A great show�can �ork�wonders on your mood and make you happy.
10.Standing out - A SKY girl�loves to be dif�erent.
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We are bold and brave enough to stay true to ourselves.
Things That Don't Make Us Happy 1.Gaslighting - manipulating us into second-guessing our sanity is not �elcome. Instead of�asking me �hy we react a certain �ay, ask�yourselves �hat you did wrong to make us react �ike that.
3.Anxiety - It is �nown that moderate anxiety is good; it helps you stay alert and aware. However, too much often causes extreme uneasiness and distress. Which is in no �ay �un.
5.Not being punctual - Even though the saying goes
'better �ate than never’, showing up �ate gives the impres sion that you don't value that commitment and other people’s time.
7.Ironing - this has to be the most tedious chore. We �ould rather change our outfits altogether than iron.
2.Overstepping boundaries - We put our mental� health �irst by communicating �imits; not only the ones �e set �or ourselves but others around us as �el�. Overstepping these �imits drives us out of�our comfort zone.
4.Lies
- better hurt us �ith the truth than comfort us �ith a �ie. �evertheless, the truth al�ays reveals itsel�. 6.Lack�of�confidence - It goes �ithout saying that �e value confidence here at SKY, but sometimes confidence is hard to find! We hope this issue of�SKY Magazine helps �ith that.
8.Last -minute plans- We’re al�ays down to �ink� with our �riends and have a good time but an invitation at the �ast minute can be stressful!
9.Hormonal�acne - �e hate it �hen �e use skin care products but our skin doesn’t care. Sometimes the problem is not the skin itsel� but the hormones, and that's the �orst.
10.Girls not supporting each other
a sisterhood is awesome because it creates a community �or support in every aspect of�our �ives. We ain’t about pul�ing each other down.
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By Thoko Kalinda
When you look good, you feel good! So let's play dress-up with colour psychology. This article looks at how specific colours impact our mood. Yep, I’m speaking facts! There is a science to this. When you see bright colours, it triggers the release of the happy hormone known as dopamine. So feeling low? Here are some looks to turn that frown upside down!
YELLOW:
Some positive emotions associated with yellow include happiness, excitement, originality, enthusiasm, confidence, hope, and creativity. How to style it: Happiness and comfort go hand in hand and I don't know anything more comfortable than joggers! Let's pair this statement piece with a chilled graphic T-shirt and white sneakers, and you will be beaming with joy!
LILAC:
The colour lilac is frequently associated with qualities such as friendliness, open-mindedness and extroversion. The colour is said to help reduce antisocial behaviour and aggression by encouraging emotional expression. Lilac is such a soft colour and a definite wardrobe must-have. How to style it: A lilac two-piece would be perfect for a picnic or any other gathering. You can pair this with a cute denim jacket and white sneakers or sandals.
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PEACH:
Light pastel peaches are often seen as sweet, pleasant, and friendly. Bright and intense peach colours, on the other hand, can symbolize vitality, energy, playfulness, and encouragement. How to style it: A cute cropped peach shirt with your fav denim jeans it gives off a playful casual happy vibe!
PINK:
Beyond being a bomb colour, did you know that pink soothes the nerves and is often used for anger management? How to style it: Grab a pink dress; it definitely says elegant and bright. Put it together with a denim jacket or black bomber. This look gives boujee for those semi-formal vibes.
Depending on what feeling, vibe or energy you're trying to go for, you now know what colours will help you achieve that!
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Being kind to yourself is a great way to nurture your body and soul; follow our top 5 tips on being kind to yourself, and you will truly glow! #SoulOnFleek
Fill yourself up
with good stuff! Your body is an amazing machine that carries you through life, and YOU decide what fuel to put in it. If you fill it with sugar, or with not enough food, or with too much food, that machine will be under strain and you’ll start to feel less than your best. Adding toxins to your body (such as junk food, cigarettes and sugary foods) is def one thing to avoid. If you fill yourself with good things (veggies, healthy fats, protein, whole grains) you will notice the benefits, and your body will carry you further.
Get a
healthy mind, for a healthy body! Try to self-reflect for 20 minutes a day. Think about your reactions to things – why did you react badly to something, and how could you improve that? The power of the mind is amazing, and getting to know your personality and who you are as a person can really improve your overall wellbeing. That maturity will shine through physically if you learn to self-reflect, too!
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Do nice things
for the future you!
It's so helpful to do little things that your future self will feel proud and happy about. Try going to bed a little earlier (the 'morning you ' will feel fresh and grateful!), or swapping an unhealthy snack for a healthy one. Also, avoid doing things that your future self would be disappointed about. This usually is something that doesn’t allow you to stay true to yourself - like doing or participating in anything that is not your thing.
Be your
own
cheerleader!
If your friend came to you upset and disappointed about something, you would hug her, tell her she’s amazing, and list all the ways that she makes the world a better place, wouldn’t you? The strange thing is that we forget to do that for ourselves when things go wrong. Next time you are unhappy, and doubting your worth, give yourself a big hug and remember all the things that make you amazing (sis there are lots of them!), and the achievements you are most proud of!
Give your flaws
a high five! Nobody is physically ‘perfect’! But in a world where all celebrities are airbrushed or have even undergone surgery to change their bodies, it’s easy to forget that ‘normal’ doesn’t mean booty-popping, tiny-waisted, flawless-skinned super heroines. Normal means you, with your gorgeous chocolate skin tone. It means you, with the curvaceous feminine thighs. It means you, with the wild, kinky hair. The sad thing about women is that so often ‘the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’. While you’re busy being jealous of your friend’s green eyes, she’s probably busy being jealous of your waist! It’s time to appreciate the blessings we have; compliment each other but ultimately, love yourself <3
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by
Rose Sibisi MY thing
Reading, Fashion & Style Ideas, Travel and discovering new places
my thing Negative self talk, Bringing others down, Not keeping time
Rose Sibisi is a Media Entrepreneur who is passionate about reimagining economic-driven development for African women and young African female creatives. As a full time entrepreneur for 10 years, she is the founder of her own media, events and PR corporate consultancy, StylewithRoseS, that focuses on women entrepreneurial growth and aims to provide creative solutions for youth unemployment through media. The Media pillar has evolved into a fully fledged licenced 24 hour Media Broadcasting TV Station - Maluba TV.
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Hello, Rose. How are you doing, my girl? I'm thinking about you because I imagine how you must be going through a lot of crazy mood swings right now. Let me start by reminding you that you are beautiful and special, just as you are. I know that at 14, it doesn’t feel like it, when you look in the mirror every day and see those pimples on your forehead; and wishing that you had smoother, lighter and fairer skin like your classmates. It’s important to know that girls at this age are also very impressionable. As a teenager, you’ll start being so conscious of the desire to “fit in”, so I needed to tell you not to stress. We are all different in our unique ways. In the meantime, be careful not to put all your energy into stressing over “stuff” and what people think of you. Use that “me” time to laugh, love your friends and family and just have FUN. This is the best worry-free time of your life – in between being a child and a young adult; so ENJOY discovering WHO you are! Soooo, here are a couple of clues to help you blossom into the real you - to make the burden feel a little less heavy and the next day brighter than the last.
Trust you: Regardless of what others say or how they portray themselves, everybody is as terrified as you are. Actually, all the other cool-looking girls are also battling to “fit in” and “stand out”. Always trust your intuition; as a growing girl – your gut feeling is there to guide you when even your friends cannot; you are the subject you know best. Never give in to peer pressure and do what you think is “cool” when it doesn’t feel right to you. Your strength is in you: I know that you are often surrounded by friends who seemingly have more than you: better and prettier dresses: they get dropped off by fancier expensive cars that their parents bring them in, and they also live in houses that look nothing like yours. Use that fairy-tale picture in your mind to carve a life for yourself by focusing on getting that good education and follow through on your own creative gifts and passions. Dig deep for the strength inside to do this - it is what will make you an independent, successful grown-up that can flourish in any environment. Having the expertise and capacity to do this will set you in a strong situation until the end of your life. Make your own decisions: Go ahead and give yourself permission to make decisions that you feel will be best for YOU. Granted, most of your decisions will need your parent's support and approval. You should respect that, because they always have your best interests at heart. BUT - learn to question yourself often, and your free spirit will let you know whether you are happy with the girl you are becoming or not. Do not ever be afraid to switch lanes and try something new that makes you comfortable. Always remember, "Never sail with the crowd”. THINK! Just because most are going that popular way doesn't mean it's the right route for you. Why fit in when you were born to stand out? Enjoy being a teenager and watch yourself, bud, blossom and flourish!
e s o R r e d l o r You
, e v o l h t i W
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Have you noticed that whenever you try something new, you get nervous and scared? This is your brain’s way of telling you that it doesn’t recognise the new task and needs more information. The first time you learned how to ride a bicycle, you may have been anxious and even wanted to give up after falling a few times. You’d tell yourself when to pedal, when to press on the brakes, when to turn etc. This was because your brain had no neural pathway for how to ride a bike. A neural pathway is like a road that takes you from point A to point B. Your brain has millions of these for every experience that you’ve had. Every time you repeat the experience, the neural pathway gets stronger until you don’t even have to think about it. Going back to the bicycle example, now whenever you ride a bike you don’t have to think about which foot to pedal with, you just get on the bike and ride it because your neural pathway for riding a bike is strong. Neural pathways are like muscles we have to keep flexing to keep them strong. This is why consistent and continuous study is better than cramming before an exam; you strengthen your neural pathways for those topics so that when it comes to exam time, you’re not stressing yourself out trying to remember what you studied because the road network (neural pathway) to get you from what you learned to passing the exam already exists. The interesting thing about our brains is they can’t tell the difference between something that is imagined and something that is real. A cool trick to try whenever you get nervous about doing something new, is to imagine yourself already having done the thing so that you already have a neural pathway for that new thing before you’re actually doing it. This works the same for things we want for ourselves. Normally we would look at things from a ‘have, do, be’ perspective. So let's say your goal is to be happy at school. You may think you have to be popular, so you go out of your way to do things to become popular, and you hope this will make you happy. But when you do this you’re wiring your brain to think you can only be happy by having popularity. But if we flip it around and focus first on being what you want (happy), you do things that happy people do - be kind, helpful etc, then you will attract genuine friendships because people will naturally be drawn to you. This works with anything in your life because your brain is always looking for ways to confirm what you’re telling it. The more you live from this perspective the more neural pathways you create to take you to have the kind of life you want to lead. So instead of ‘have, do, be’ live from ‘be, do, have’.
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You can reinforce this by creating daily habits that keep your self-talk and beliefs positive. Great ways of doing this are: Setting at least one positive intention when you wake up every morning. Having a gratitude journal where you write at least 3 things you are grateful for, before you go to sleep at night. Gratitude is one of the fastest ways to lift your mood. Being kind to yourself and people around you (even those that you don’t know). The more you use positive ‘self-talk’ and supportive beliefs, the stronger your neural pathways will be to help you build success in your life.
Make Up
Queen Emma Mudolo Shoshani Sho’dol Founder
If makeup is your thing and you would like to make a career out of it then this article is for you! Our big sis Emma Mudolo Shoshani founded Sho’dolCosmetics a ground-breaking make-up brand and beauty store, with the aim for inclusivity not only for African women but women of all races and skin tones.
Over the past 9 years Emma has been transforming the beauty industry in Zambia. Emma is a businesswoman in the beauty sector with a vision that will change and solidify the sector in Zambia for years to come. So what made her go into the beauty industry? “I suffered from acne for many years, and finding skin care products that were suitable for dark skin tones and could cover up my acne spots was a struggle. If I did find something, it would be a replica (i.e. gonga) product that's ultimately bad for your skin. My dream was to see every woman freely find their make-up and skin care products in a shop that would not give them limited choices but a variety to choose from. When starting the business, I made mistakes that I learnt from. I did not do any research on the ground on what the market was, what the demand was, or what was actually needed on the ground, so the first time I opened the first store, which was a beauty store, I focused more on the problem I had as opposed to what the community wanted. We invested a lot and experienced a lot of losses; we brought in products that the market was not ready for. The stock was meant to finish in about 6 months according to our plan, but because we bought the wrong product, we ended up having the stock for 3 years. This was a huge loss because we were not making enough sales in a month to cover for the operating expenses and other expenses. My education laid down the right foundations; without the knowledge I gained in accounts, IT and Beauty Therapy, I wouldn't be where I am today. I got my ACCA, Information Technology and Beauty Therapy certification in that order,
MY thing
Consistency, Discipline, Loyalty.
MY thing
Dishonesty, Laziness, Being treated unfairly.
and I continue to gain the necessary qualifications to push me forward. I love that beauty is personal and infinite; it has no one definition or look, and anyone can be who they want to be. I have always had a passion for helping people, and initially, nursing seemed like the way to go, but as I was attending nursing school admission interviews across the country (I attended over 7), I realized that there was more than one way of helping people and skin care and makeup just felt right. And to the girls that want to get into beauty, do these things: Do some research; there are a lot of articles written online, and no research in my related fields has cost me a lot. Ask yourself what your professional goals are. Ask yourself, does job security matter to you? If it does, do some research, you can ask beauty professionals which beauty professions have the best job security. Emma had her sister Vera join her in running the business and today the sisters have built Sho’dol as a leading Zambian cosmetics brand, and have now expanded into a successful beauty store. Sho’dol offers affordable cosmetics and if you’d like to get a facebeat or purchase some goodies you’ll find Sho’dol beauty stores at East Park Mall and Novare Pinnacle in Woodlands. Their thousands of Facebook and Instagram followers can view their work and merchandise there and purchase it online from their official website.
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Did you know that how you feel about yourself is one of the biggest influences on your happiness and how you tackle living life? A lot of people look for happiness from external things; new clothes, how many likes they get on their Instagram post, how many followers they have. But none of this lasts. Your happiness depends on how you see yourself, what you want from life and how well you relate with others. But you need to know yourself and what makes you happy. Take this quiz to see where you rate yourself and remember there’s no right or wrong answer. The most important opinion about you, is your own.
Take this quiz by answering A, B, or C. You’ll add up the points at the end and see what makes you happy!
Relationship A I enjoy exercising and keeping fit at least three times per week. B I’m not that into exercise but I still do it at least one or two times per week. C I hardly ever exercise. A I eat a healthy balanced diet. B I know a healthy balanced diet is important, so I eat well some of the time. C I hardly ever think about my health and eat whatever I want.
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A I enjoy being at school most of the time.
B I enjoy being at school some of the time. C I hardly ever enjoy being at school.
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with Self
A I am my own BFF (best friend forever), I’m always hyping myself and I speak to myself with love. B I speak to myself with love only some of the time. C I rarely speak to myself with love, I never hype myself and I’m always criticizing myself. When it comes to life, school, friends, and family… A I make great decisions and trust the decisions I make most of the time. B I make good decisions and trust the decisions I make some of the time. C I hardly ever make good decisions and don’t trust the decisions I make A I take time to do things that put me in a happy uplifting mood most of the time (this could be a favourite hobby, play music, read, journal, etc.). B I take time to do things that put me in a happy uplifting mood some of the time. C I hardly ever make time for myself.
FAMILY
Self-Co nfiDence A I am extremely confident in my life and willing to try new things most of the time. B I am somewhat confident in my life and willing to try new things some of the time. C I am hardly ever confident in my life, and I don’t like to try new things.
A I have a family that I love being around most of the time. B I have a family that I love being around some of the time. C I hardly ever enjoy being around my family.
StanDing Up for Yourself
worry anxiety A I’m hardly ever worried or anxious about things in my life. B I sometimes worry and feel anxious about certain things in my life. C I worry and feel anxious frequently in my life.
Self-Esteem A I feel good about myself most of the time. B I feel good about myself some of the time. C I hardly ever feel good about myself.
A I can say “No” to others and “Yes” to myself without feeling guilty. B I can say “No” to others and “Yes” to myself, but I feel guilty some of the time. C I hardly say “No” to others and “Yes” to myself.
FrienDs A I have friends who I trust and can confide in. I can be myself around my friends. B I have good friends but sometimes I feel I can’t be myself around them. C I don’t have friends who I trust and can confide in. I’m afraid of being myself around my peers.
Add up your points.
Less than 33 Points
You deserve to have more happiness in your life. You’re an amazing unique person and soon you’ll be able to see that for yourself. Read through some old SKY coaching articles – Staying True to Myself (October 2020), Learning to Love Yourself (February 2021) Honouring Your Uniqueness (April 2022) and Practical Tips for Unstoppable Self-Esteem (February 2022). Follow the exercises and tips. Read the article in this issue on Positive Thinking for Success, it takes some practice, but I know you can do it. Stay true to yourself and we love you sis!
Each A = 5 points Each B = 3 points Each C = 1 point
33 to 44 Points
You are happy most of the time. You might need to look at the areas in your life where you’re unhappy and see what changes you would like to make. Read through some old SKY coaching articles – Honouring Your Uniqueness (April 2022) and Practical Tips for Unstoppable Self-Esteem (February 2022). You’re on the right track, keep it up!
45+ Points
You are a happy person; you know your values and what you stand for. Keep doing what you’re doing! Also, as a happy person full of confidence and self-love, please help those around you who struggle to achieve what you have achieved. Look out for friends who seem unhappy and guide them in the right direction; give them tips about what has helped you, and use YOUR strength to lift them up too.
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Is it just me or does music just transform your mood? Neurosurgeons have found that listening to music ‘heightens positive emotion’ that can make us feel good and even elated. So we asked our big sis Milky Way the DJ (you remember she did a banging set at SKY Fest last year) to share with us her feel good playlist. These are her go-to feel good beats.
PL AYLIST
Now we know what beats make Milky Way the DJ keep her positive vibes, write your own top 10 tracks that make up your feel good playlist. Pull these out to stick on your wall and remind you what to listen to whenever you need a pick-me-up.
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by Zhane Cunningham
T-shirts and Hoodies Tie and die is totally our thing, it’s just a whole mood changer because it brings out vibrant colours and striking designs. It's one of those nostalgic crafts that never goes out of style. Plus yours will be one of a kind. So let's get to it guys
What you will neeD: Plastic sheeting or garbage bag Squirt bottle
One small bucket for each colour
Plastic gloves
T-shirt or hoodie
Rubber bands or strings
Fabric tie-dye colours Soapy water 20
(you can find these at The Art Shop Ltd near Rhodespark Cafe or any home essentials)
Step One: Prep
Wash your tee or hoodie in hot water before dyeing; this ensures that any potential oils or stains that will resist the dye are completely washed out. You can either dye outdoors or indoors but outdoors is better because there is less chance of you staining or dyeing something by mistake. Place your garbage bag or plastic sheeting on a flat area and place a bucket of soapy water nearby so you can clean up any accidental spills, because if the dye spills it will dry quickly and it will be hard to remove.
Step Two: Dyeing
Twist the tee in any form or way then tie it with the rubber bands or strings to make an original pattern. Before you start dying make sure to put on rubber gloves, because the chemicals could be harmful to your skin. Dunk sections of your shirt in different dyes, but try to avoid mixing too many colours together because it starts to make an ugly colour. If you want you can use a squirt bottle to apply the dye this way you can add the dye more precisely than just dunking.
Step Three: After dyeing
After dyeing, allow it to dry and make sure the excess dye drips off the fabric. Do not repeat, do not unwrap it or you'll disturb the process. Seal it in a plastic bag for 8 hours. Thereafter you can rinse it out under warm water, and fully rinse it while untying. Then run it under cool water until the water runs clear. Once that’s done you can wring it out.
Step Four: Final touches
You can now wash it with some soap and warm water, but be sure to wash it alone or other colours from other clothes will mix. Let the hoodie or tee completely air dry and you’re good to go.
Share your tie dye looks on our socials! We’d love to see what you make!
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KiLLER
Top
Confidence Tips
Confidence is something that more often than we like we lack. It would be great if we just woke up and were as confident as celebrities we see on TV or look up to. Celebrities are always in the spotlight and as they walk red carpets, take part in interviews and attend movie premieres and press conferences, one thing they exude is confidence.
“When I’m not feeling my best I ask myself, “What are you gonna do about it?” I use the negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me.” Beyoncé Knowles
Their words can also act as positive affirmations so we hope that these will give you the extra boost that you need.
“Find your centre; ignore the noise and do your own thing.” Bonang Matheba “You need to know and believe that you deserve to take up space.” Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
“Everything you want to be, you already are. You’re simply on the path to discovering it.” Alicia Keys
“Change is uncomfortable. It's not about being ready. It's about having the confidence to do things that you want to do.” Mihlali Ndamase “Confidence is not an act, it truly comes from how you feel about yourself. So you have to do what makes you happy. Do what makes you feel loved and makes you feel beautiful. There have been so many times where people thought they had to do this or that to feel confident or beautiful and think: Maybe if I looked like this person this will make me feel way more confident. But if you do what makes you happy, that's where confidence comes from. It connects to self-care as well.” Marsai Martin
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Confidence is one thing that we have to work on because it is important to be confident; it will help you speak up for yourself and excel in your everyday life. We searched the internet to find out how our faves build their confidence, what motivates them and how they shine through.
“I just want the world to know that I'm that girl. Every time I step on the track, I'm gonna try to do what it is that me, my coach, my support team believe I can do . . . I'm never gonna take an opportunity to perform in vain.” Sha’Carri Richardson
“I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values and follow my own moral compass, then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.” Michelle Obama
“There have been so many people who have said to me, “You can’t do that”, but I’ve had an innate belief that they were wrong. Be unwavering and relentless in your approach.” Halle Berry
“People will say whatever they have to say, but as long as you feel good and you feel confident and you're taking those steps to feel comfortable with yourself, then you're good!” Zendaya Coleman
All in all, it is important to stay true to yourself and not try to be like somebody else. What do you tell yourself to boost your confidence? Every day we build our confidence, it’s a journey, you may not have it now, but you will get it. You got this sis!
Becoming A Social Media Influencer
Social Media influencers are the craze worldwide. It seems everyone wants to be an influencer! But just how easy is it to become one, and is it worth it? To answer that, we asked Masiliso to share her experience as one of Zambia’s top influencers with millions of global followers.
WHAT IS SOCIAL MEDIA? This is a website or application that enables users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. What that definition doesn't tell you is that social media is as good as a gold mine if used wisely. Types of People on Social Media There are two types of people : 1. Creators (business) also known as ‘influencers’ 2. Consumers (customers) If you want to be a creator to make money from it, here are some tips to help you get started :)
CREATING TIPS You must be consistent. This shows your supporters that you are always there and have not forgotten about them. You need to show personality for your kind of people to locate you. Show emotion because the people who are watching you are human beings and as much as you are this icon to them, they want to know that you are relatable and have feelings. Use your stories on Instagram wisely, for example in Russia they say a minimum of 10 stories per day if you are working with an agency. You can share your breakfast, your shopping, your daily routine, your new hairstyle, and your attempt to learn a new skill. It could seem dry to you but others find it interesting to see what you are up to. Posting photos - you need to make sure you are on top of your game with posing and taking photos, this is all part of consistency. Use trending songs and hashtags if you are growing on TikTok. Interact with your audience and answer questions. Find a balance between being yourself and being a role model! That may mean refraining from posting certain things that would make you a bad influence on people. Always strive to be a good influence! Hard work and consistency are the only way you will see results.
Hi there, my name is Masiliso Mutumba. I am an engineer, model, influencer, actress, social media manager and English tutor! I currently have 2.2 million followers on my verified TikTok account. All of who I am today began during my studies when I was pursuing my bachelor's degree. I was so sure that there was much more I could do outside the classroom so I took advantage of all the opportunities I could find and let me tell you, social media has been the centre of it all!
BENEFITS OF BEING AN INFLUENCER I am finally enjoying the fruits of my hard work on social media. I have worked with brands such as Sbermarket, Papa Johns, Bobe fashion, SHEIN and just recently I joined Qatar airline's affiliate program! Did you know, since January 2021 I haven't bought any clothes? Every month I receive new clothes - because of the huge platform many people send me free perfumes, clothes, and makeup to advertise. I can effectively market my own English tutoring business and these are the funds I've been living off for 2 years now. Some of the amazing things I have received are: Getting paid to advertise for brands and businesses on my platforms Free dinner: At least twice a month from Papa John's pizza Filming in a reality show that allowed me to tour 8 different cities in Russia for free Free diamond jewellery that I gifted my sweet mum The biggest testimony yet is landing me a master's scholarship at RUDN UNIVERSITY in Moscow in return for one simple advert! This was such a big win!
Social media presence is now an asset that no one can take away from you. It can bring so much good to your life if used wisely! Now that I have mastered TikTok I offer business in Zambia my skills to grow their pages in return for a monthly salary. For those who have the passion, I urge you to start today, and run before it becomes harder and harder to grow! TikTok is the easiest platform to grow on right now. Feel free to get in touch with me if you have any questions, I'll be happy to help! Find me on Social Media : Tiktok: Masiliso Mutumba Instagram : Masiliso_Mutumba Facebook: Masiliso Mutumba
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WAYS TO FALL IN
by Trust Mulenga
LOVE WITH YOURSELF
Hey Sky girls! We know being happy and loving yourself can be a challenge sometimes with how busy life gets but it’s important to take out some time to make yourself genuinely happy. Fall in love with yourself and who you are becoming. Here are a few simple day to day tips to help you love you and be the best version of yourself.
1 Journaling Write down your thoughts and feelings. This helps release stress and allows you to see what’s going on in your life, impacting your feelings.
2Sunday
Self-Care
Girl, these are so important and should be taken often, they help you reset your mind for the week. Spend the day doing little things that make you happy i.e. taking nice long baths, staying indoors, eating your favourite meal.
3BINGE TV
7Affirmations Write down 10 affirmations for yourself. Read them out loud every day. Affirmations can help us stay positive, even when things aren’t going so great. Remember, positive vibes = happiness sis! (Check out our fave affirmations in SKY Magazine Issue 9)
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LEARN
Learning something new always gives you a sense of accomplishment. You could learn a new craft or a new recipe. You could also ask a friend to teach you something new!
9 date yourself
Watch your favourite TV show, whether you’re a sucker for a good rom-com or just reality TV. It gives you a time out to just chill.
Sis! Find a cute outfit, do your hair, do your nails. Take some nice pictures, then plan a really cute day out by yourself.
Comfort food is one of the best mood lifters. Just make sure it’s your favourite and you’re sure to be happy. (It may not be healthy but you’re allowed treats every once in a while!).
To love ourselves we also need to feel loved by the people we love. It’s important to spend time with the people you love and have a good laugh. It could be family or friends, make time to be around them.
4 Eat! 5 READ
Put your phone down for a little, log off social media, grab a great book. A good fiction book helps you escape reality for a bit.
6 Listen Walk and
Taking walks is so refreshing, especially if it’s paired with some good music. Go out in the sun and take in the smell of fresh air while listening to your favourite playlist/podcast. Nature naturally lifts our spirits.
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LOVE
There you go SKY girls, you can love yourself and make yourself happy so easily. We believe in your power and mind to make every situation great. Try out these tips and tell us how you feel about yourself after! We would love to hear your story!
The Value OF
Saying
No No No No
No
For the longest time, I had trouble saying no. I would say yes to doing extra tasks, running errands, volunteering for school activities, even when I knew I was stretched for time and had a to-do list of my own to finish. In our society, even with all the advancements towards gender equity and equality, it's still tacitly implied that women and girls should do things above and beyond what is minimally required of us. These are often ‘small’ things that don’t raise eyebrows for those conditioned in ‘our ways’. This conditioning starts at household level, and is mirrored through the school system, the workplace and even in the political system. As it is, girls seem to have less opportunities than boys, so saying yes to whatever is asked appears to be the best way to gain more opportunities and to get ahead in life, or it's simply how things are. Always saying yes means constantly putting others’ needs ahead of our own. While this is something we have been conditioned to do, it’s not a sustainable way to live. We eventually become unproductive and stray from our goals. Things are always being half done and never have our full commitment. Sticking to our values shows others how we want to be treated. If we say yes, when we really mean no, we aren’t being true to ourselves. I’m not saying we should never say yes. There are times when saying yes is very powerful. But when we say yes just for the sake of pleasing others, we end up taking on too much which leads to burnout and becoming unreliable and untrustworthy. We also end up judging ourselves harshly and using negative self-talk, which is not good for our mental, emotional, or physical health.
No
No No
No
No
You can stop this cycle by setting clear boundaries. This way you’ll be more effective and be able to produce better results. Think about it as saying yes to yourself, yes to the things that really matter and no to things that aren’t aligned with your values. It takes time to hone any skill.
Saying no isn’t easy, but you’ll get there with practice and using some of these tips. Choose integrity – be honest with yourself and others about what you can and cannot do – you want to be trustworthy and standing in your integrity is the best way to do this Know your values – in line with integrity, knowing what you believe in and what your values are will make it easier to say no to anything that goes against your values and beliefs Plan your no – sometimes you may be in situations where you know what request is coming, so prepare how you will say no, and stick to it If you have to say yes – you may be in a situation where you’re unable to say no, so explain what your yes means (for example you may not be able to fulfil the request right then and there but can do it later) Offer an alternative – you may not be able to help but can suggest someone else or share an alternative resource. For more tips check the November 2021 SKY Magazine article ‘How to say no like a boss’. Contact details: info@innersafariquest.com www.innersafariquest.com Instagram: innersafariquest_ISQ FaceBook: InnnerSafriQuestISQ Twitter: @innersafari_ISQ
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Meet our fabulous cover girls and find out how they manage to stay happy even during chaotic teenage life.
Nazneen Dalal, 14
MY thing
Singing, listening to music and playing sports
my thing
Gossiping, bad energy and spreading rumours
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Standing my ground and doing things that make me happy is how I manage to stay true to myself. In the near future I see myself being a GIRL BOSS and inspiring girls to be the best version of themselves, as SKY has done for me. Mental health is something I believe is not discussed enough in our communities; there are so many ways that it can affect your well-being without realizing it. In my opinion, the only way to control the situation is to stay positive. Some of the things that keep me positive include: Singing Listening to music Playing sports Cooking. I stay true to myself by standing with my friend group and doing the things that make me happy.
Jasmine Greace, 14
MY thing
authenticity, being with family and hanging out with my best friends
my thing
being fake, negative people and toxicity I'm still trying to figure out my identity, but the process has been fun. However, in the process, it's easy to stray away and get overwhelmed. Being happy is an important personal goal for me; I'm sure most SKY girls can relate to that. Here's my advice for staying happy: Surround yourself with positive people Be around people who accept you for who you are Love yourself
Lembela Bwalya, 14
MY thing Tallinn Adnan Amer, 12
MY thing
Singing, music and modelling
my thing
Arguments, gossiping and starting drama I am a certified animal lover because they bring joy and happiness, especially pets. I've dreamt of becoming a model from a very young age. My parents are my biggest supporters, and I often model for them at home; this brings me happiness. My tips on staying happy are: Don’t listen to other’s opinions about you Spend time with people you love Help others in need Go outside often Get a pet
Sports, fashion, family and friends
my thing
Peas, writing articles/ essays and jelly At our age, it's common to get stressed about school or other things. It can be hard to stay happy, but from my experience, the key is to keep a positive mindset. Negative thoughts will only drain and depress you. I keep myself positive by doing the following: Listening to motivational speeches Finding positive environments around people that’ll make me smile Self-love
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MOVIE REVIEWS Marie Ndhlovu
My favourite movie is Norbit because I find it so funny, it lifts my spirits. I love how Eddie Murphy transitions from one character to another and plays each so well. I've already watched that movie more than twenty times, so that should speak for itself.
Leona Victoria Rignanese When it comes to movies, I enjoy fun-filled ones. For instance, I love every Marvel movie because it genuinely makes me happy without scaring me. On the other hand, The Mirrors [2008] is the only horror that gave me chills. And last but not least, Maleficent because of Angelina Jolie. She is a great actor, and I love her movies.
We asked our Tikula cast and SKY hosts to share what movies make them happy, and this is what they had to say:
Chisanga Taylor
I tend to watch visually exciting fantasy movies when I'm sad; they pull me out of my slump and give me something to help distract me from real-world pressures. I love Fantastic Mr Fox; this movie is the perfect escapism for those times when my life gets overwhelming. The quirky characters, fantastic set, and world design are great. Being from a theatre/film background, I greatly appreciate the many details I can find within a movie. I also love The Princess Diaries; I love a good makeover scene, and this movie has the most classic one in film history. It's about a girl discovering she's a princess, and I can't lie, I've had that dream too.
Abigail Nkhoma
My top go-to movies that makes me happy is Charlie's Angels, because the ladies unite and fight for what's right.
Makoni Sinkala
My all-time favourite movie would probably be The Notebook because I've watched it many times. It’s never failed to make me cry since I was young. I don’t think I’ve ever gotten tired of watching it, and I don't think I will anytime soon.
Tatiana Kalanda When J.K. Rowling wrote the first
book of Harry Potter under a female name (Joanne Rowling), none of them got sold. So, she changed her name to J.K. Rowling so that her name would appear more masculine, and people finally bought her books and went on to get the movie. Moreover, they are old movies, but the graphics are still amazing and reflect her creativity. This movie is very timeless because people still love it.
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Tafara Sakala
My favourites are about love, and probably my favourite is You Don’t Know Me. I like how it depicts how love conquers everything in all situations.
Raewyn Menahil
I love the movie To all the Boys I Ever Loved because, funny enough, it’s the
story of my life. I had quite the crushes, and somehow, I got to know each of them and figured out exactly who I liked. It’s a crazy twisted story I could relate to. I also love Mean Girls; most high school girls can relate to this movie like crazy. We’ve all experienced it one way or another. Funny enough, when I was in school, I was what you’d consider part of the cool squad. So, most of the time, things would come easy for me. But most people thought I was mean because of my best friend then, and most people were scared to even speak to me, so I can relate.
True Life Feature
The New Kid: Finding My Way We’ve all been the new kid before and some may say that it’s not the best experience. I remember when I was the new kid. I had just left my old school and joined a new school in the third term (towards the end of the school year). At this point, everyone already had their friend groups and there was no room for me. I would try to talk to people but I always felt left out and I'd just leave. At break, I'd eat by myself, feeling like crying because of how lonely I was. I'd see everyone talking to their friends and I'd just be there all alone, feeling sad and lonely. I hated school because of this. School sucks when you don't have friends. I would cry alone in the bathroom every day because the feelings were just too much to bear.
One day a girl approached me and we started talking, she introduced me to her friends and soon after I became part of that friend group. I was really happy about that. At some point, I realized that I and the people I had befriended were different and we had completely different interests. The things that made me happy were weird to them, like anime and K-pop. They'd often judge me for it and make me feel bad for liking it. Anime and K-pop were what made me happy. Because of the need to fit in, I ended up stopping those things. Was I happy? No. But my friends liked me now and that's what mattered right? Wrong. Later on, I realized that If something makes me happy then I should stick to it, I shouldn’t have to care about what others think of it. It’s my happiness that’s on the line at the end of the day. I spoke to my friends about it and they still didn’t want to understand that those were the things that made me happy. Instead they continued to make me feel bad for liking what I liked. I decided to leave those guys and to my surprise, I was way happier without them than I was with them, because I had ended up miserable and couldn't share the real me with them. I became content with being by myself and sticking to my interests. When I started to enjoy my own company I found happiness within myself and that brought the right friends to me. I was able to talk about K-pop and anime without being judged, and so I realized these were my real friends. What makes you happy doesn't have to make other people happy too. That's your thing and you shouldn't let people make you feel bad for it. In this life we need to hang on to all the happiness we can get, that's what keeps us going.
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My Mental Health! Help! Hey SKY Girls! You have had some questions related to mental health and we asked one of our fave mental health doctors Dr. Dalal Naeem to answer your burning questions! Read on for the answers to the questions you sent to us through our socials.
1.Is being sad and being depressed the same thing? If not, what’s the difference? Being sad and being depressed is not the same thing. Sad is an emotion. Emotion is how we feel. You can feel sad due to many different reasons. Due to a person, a place, or a thing. You can also be sad because of a thought. On the other hand, being depressed is a persistent feeling. Depression is a persistent low mood. A mood stays for longer. It lingers on for a long time, unlike an emotion that is there for a shorter period and goes away when the moment passes. A metaphor I can use to explain 'sad', an emotion, and 'depressed', a mood, is the weather pattern. When you are asked how the weather is today, you might say, 'it is hot, it is windy or cold.' When you are asked what season are you in? You will say it's November, and November through to April; this is the rainy season. This means that in the rainy season, you have persistent rain, but you will still have days when it won't rain, and it will be cold or sunny whilst still in the rainy season. Further, with depression, we also have other actions and thoughts such as feeling helpless, hopeless, guilty, irritable, and no energy or the hope to go about your daily routine. Depression can be managed. If you think you might be depressed, seek help from a trained, licensed mental health professional.
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2.How do I know if I'm suffering from mental
illness? Can I self-diagnose?
The short answer is no. You can be aware of how you are feeling mentally and emotionally, however, you can not self-diagnose. For you to be diagnosed with a mental illness, you need to be assessed by a trained licensed mental health professional such as a mental health nurse, a mental health clinician, a psychiatrist (a medical doctor who specialises in brain and mental health) a psychologist (a mental health provider who understand the mind) or a medical doctor. To understand mental health, you need to know what it involves. Mental health deals with brain health. The brain is the master organ responsible for how we feel, how we see and interpret our environment and relationships, how we hear and listen, how we behave and our actions, including our thoughts. It involves the day-to-day ability for us to survive and thrive in our lives. When any of the above changes, then you can say your mental wellness may need help. There are times when we feel overwhelmed by our day-to-day life, this may affect our mental health; but this does not mean you are mentally unwell or have an illness. This is normal mental well-being. For us to diagnose a mental illness, we need to explore many factors from your family genetics, your physical well-being, your environment and your social life. This can help us understand and further guide us in diagnosing you. If you or a loved one feel you have a mental illness, do visit a licensed professional mental health care provider, and you will be helped.
3.How can I prevent mental health problems? Prevention can happen in many ways. 1- Mood: your mood explains how you feel. A feeling is something inside your heart. Sad, happy, irritable, upset etc. Knowing how you feel and why you are feeling that way is very important. Your mood guides you and can guide your actions. Because when you are sad or happy, you carry out certain actions and behaviours that may make you feel better or worse. So being aware of your mood and knowing why you’re feeling a certain way is very important. 2- Sleep: the brain is the master organ that helps you think, feel, see, listen, behave, think and so forth, just like every gadget we use, like a phone or a car that runs on batteries and needs to be charged, our brains, too, need to be charged daily. And this is through sleep. It is very important to sleep an average of 8-10 hours a day for your brain to function and be productive. When you sleep, your brain can update itself and get rid of certain unwanted things, which also helps improve your memory and concentration. So make sure to get a good night's sleep. 3: Diet: There is a direct nutrition-brain pathway. You need to make sure you eat healthy meals: breakfast, lunch and supper, as your brain needs the energy and nutrients to function and process your everyday activities. It's extremely important. Other ingredients for brain well-being are good coping habits such as, - Exercise and being active. Taking healthy walks or jogging for 15-25 minutes a day is good. - Journaling or talking about your day with friends, family and loved ones. Communicating how you feel on both good and bad days helps you process your well-being better. - Having a hobby that you enjoy such as reading, being creative, sports etc. Doing that and scheduling it every week is very key.
4.Why are mental health cases rising among young people today? So, mental health issues are very common among young people. We know that because mental health and illness are not understood well, we often miss them. However, due to the increase in understanding and awareness in today's young people, there are more young people seeking mental health support. Also, before, we had limited exposure and the ability to communicate. Today with radio, TV and social media, more and more people are getting information quicker and hence more awareness.
5.Are mental health disorders terminal
illnesses? Can someone die of depression?
No, mental illnesses are not terminal. We have treatment and care where people with mental illnesses are on treatment and live normal active lives. Being diagnosed (by a trained and licensed mental health professional) with a mental illness such as depression does not mean the person is terminal or the person will die of depression. Mental illnesses such as depression occur due to many factors such as genetics, where it may be inherited. Or life traumatic experiences: trauma simply means to experience or witness a situation where you or someone you know is threatened for their safety and life. Having multiple life stressors on a daily basis that you are unable to cope with can lead you to feel guilty, worthless or hopeless and have low energy. All these are unique to every one of us, and life is very different for us all. All this guides us on how we can support, care and treat conditions such as depression. Mental illnesses can lead to self-neglect or death when someone gives up and stops taking care of themselves. Also, due to the lack of awareness and stigma around mental illness, people living with mental illnesses are misunderstood, and this disadvantages them and may lead to other physical illnesses.
If you feel you need help, you can reach out to a trained and licensed mental health professional, or call Lifeline Zambia on 116 or tweet/FB Dr. Dalal Naeem. Dr Dalal is a mental health specialist who has a special interest in youth brain health. He is a graduate from the University of Zambia and represents Zambia on many advisories. He is currently working to stengthen mental health service in Zambia.
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