SKY Magazine, Issue 3, SKY Girls Zed

ISSUE #3 FEBRUARY- MARCH 2021 For Teen Girls Only!

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Safari Chic on A BuDget on A BuDget

HOW TO DO YOUR OWN

MANI&PEDI AT HOME GROUp

STUDy

TipS

My thing

Self- love, Confidence, friendship

Not my thing

Insecurities, Loneline , Negativity

Reviews,

Quizzes

and Recipes

I pledge to be true to myself and what I believe in.

I will trust my choices, and I will not let anyone else determine who I am.

Standing up for myself and others, and achieving my goals?

That’s My Thing.

Negative vibes and gossiping?

That’s Not My Thing.

I will make choices according to my characters.

I will rise to meet my SKY.

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Hi SKY Girls!

This Issue’s Contributors

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SKY Spotted How To Tell Your Crush You Like Him 24

Get the look

20 Things You Love About Yourself 8

Body Beautiful 10

Letter To My 14 Year Old Self

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Study Tips

How To Have The Best Group Study Experience In 4 Easy Steps

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My First Heartbreak Career Corner

How Much Do You Love Yourself Reviews 32

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Meraki Red Velvet Cupcakes

SKY Girl

Rudo Malukutu

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We Want To Hear From You! 18

Learning To Love Yourself

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My Thing Not My Thing

Hi SKY Girls!

Wagwan! Happy New Year! How was your 2020? With the corona pandemic, my social life suffered as I’m sure yours did, we had to adapt to wearing a face mask and let me not get started on limiting our movements bro! I know corona has brought a lot of suffering and pain, especially for underprivileged people. I tried to stay as positive as I could and eventually learnt how to have fun even with this pandemic; I got in contact with old friends and joined TikTok, explored the internet and taught myself how to be calm and relax.

What did 2020 teach you?

2021 came with a bang! Do you have any hopes and dreams for the New Year? My aspirations this year are to get accepted to my dream university, and to discover self-love in me, yes my imperfectly perfect self. Anyway, Valentine’s is here, AKA the month of love. The sending of letters, gifts, and chocolate to crushes in hope of receiving them back comes with so much pressure! But what if you're like me and you don't have a Valentine? This my gee is where SELF LOVE comes in. The secret to true happiness is to fall in love with yourself just the way you are. Diana the Princess of Wales once said, "Every one of us needs

to show how much we care for each other and in the process care for ourselves." Check out our covergirl Joyce Nyandowo who

explains how she shows her self love in this issue, while Bwalya Penza gives us practical tips on how we can be our own Valentine.

Continuing with the theme of love BTW we have yummy red velvet cupcakes recipe from Meraki for you to try at home, plus a guide on giving yourself a Valentine-inspired Mani-Pedi. Check out our review sections for love-inspired shows and a book to read.

Vama love is nice, but sometimes it doesn't work out and our hearts get broken. In our true-life feature, our writer shares her experience of how she dealt with her first heartbreak. Her advice? Time heals all wounds! So that means you can't die exe!

As always we have so much content you'll love, like study tips, fashion, career and more. And let us know how you show yourself self-love on our socials, that’s what’s up!

Love,

Raewyn Menahil 4

This Issue’s Contributors Louisa Kasalika

Writers

Thoko Kalinda Chanda Chibale

Raewyn Menahil Goveya

Precious Mwansa Chisha

Akatoka Kayama

Photography Unikue Moda

Makeup Artist Miss Tee

SKY Big Sister: Bwalya Penza

Hair

Jackie’s Glam 5

Get the look Safari Chic on a Budget Have you ever been on a Zambian safari? When going into nature, it is advisable to wear colors like brown, khaki and dark green shades to blend in with nature. This is so that animals will not see you as a threat as you will look like part of the surroundings. Never been on safari, but want to try the safari chic trend? The emerald season is currently in full swing, which means the bush is green and lush, providing the perfect time to take inspiration from nature and try the safari trend for yourself!

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Color Palette White Cami

Khaki Pants

Stick to earth-inspired colors such as light and dark brown, and dark green.

Fabric

Cotton and linen are breathable fabrics for warm and sunny days.

Look 1

Pair khaki trousers with Chelsea boots and a white top for a relaxed look.

Chelsea Boots

Look 2

Green Parka

For cool evenings, a jacket like this green hooded parka will keep you comfortable and looking cute. A cute pair of shorts paired with a crop top finish off the look.

Crop Top

Shorts

Sneakers

Headband

Jumpsuit

Look 3

You won’t have to stress about finding a matching top and bottom with this jumpsuit. Accessorize with an animal print headband and pair with sneakers.

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Body

Beautiful

by Louisa Kasalika

How To Give Yourself a Valentine’s Inspired Mani and Pedi at Home Hey there Queens, here at SKY, we love a mani or pedi. However, getting your nails done every few weeks isn’t cheap. Here’s how to do your own mani and pedi at home without spending lots of kwachas.

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1. ASSEMBLE YOUR TOOLS. You’ll need: a nail cutter with a cuticle pusher, a nail file, nail polish remover, your favorite nail polish (we recommend red, or red and white for a Valentine’s inspired look), nail stickers (optional), cotton wool, dried petals (optional), essential oils (optional), foot scrub, primer and a base coat.

2. SOAK UP. Get a large bowl, basin or preferably a tub. Add hot water, then add essential oils (lavender etc.), roses or your favorite bubble bath to the hot water. If you have a favorite place within your home, set yourself there, in a comfortable chair. Grab a magazine, listen to a podcast or anything you enjoy reading to help you relax and enjoy the moment, then soak your feet and hands for twenty minutes.

3. FILE YOUR NAILS into the shape you like.

You can look up some ideas on Instagram, YouTube or Pinterest.

4. APPLY CUTICLE CREAM over your nails or moisturizer to help remove rough dead skin cells.

Push the cuticle back with a cuticle pusher or your fingers from the set.

5. EXFOLIATE your feet by using a foot scrub

6. Finally, APPLY NAIL POLISH. Firstly, apply primer. You can get a suitable primer for yourself from a supermarket like Pick N Pay or pharmacies. Then use a base coat to help the polish last longer. After all this, coat off with your favorite hand paint (nail polish).

Remember, you don’t have to go to extreme measures to make yourself happy. You can spend less, with less effort and still manage to spoil yourself.

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By

Monica Musonda

Monica Musonda is the Founder and CEO of Java Foods, a food processing company in Zambia. She is a lawyer turned entrepreneur and sits on various boards including Zambia Sugar PLC , Dangote Industries Zambia and Airtel Zambia.

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Dear Katebe, Hi beautiful, how are you? Just thought I’d drop you a line because I know that you’ve been having

a bit of a tough time lately, and I wanted to tell you not to worry because everything is going to be OK. I promise you this! I wanted to share a few lessons to help you along the way, to ease your burden and help you out of that dark place you go to sometimes. So here they are.

Lesson 1: Despite what others might say, everyone is scared on the inside as you are. The truth is that we are all struggling to fit in. It’s true that we all have that feeling on the inside of not really fitting in or feeling like we are different than everyone else. Many of us continue to have this feeling as adults – they just give things a fancier title —‘imposter syndrome’. But listen to your inner voice (yes, your inner cheerleader) which keeps saying you are exactly where you need to be at this time and you deserve to reach even greater heights.

Lesson 2: You are SOMEBODY. Say this again and again… YOU ARE SOMEBODY. You are in this world for a reason. It may not seem evident at 14 but it will become clear with time. The thing is to live your life with purpose & intent and not waste time doubting yourself. Trust the process & the journey.

Remember. You. Are. Enough.

Lesson 3: It really doesn’t matter what you look like.

Acne does not last forever and crooked teeth can be corrected! Jokes aside, anyone who decides that they like or dislike you because of the way you look is not someone who deserves your friendship. Beauty is on the inside and not on the outside. Remember that and also learn to be kind to others who also battle with self-esteem or body image– all caterpillars become beautiful butterflies, in their own time. All flowers bloom in their own time. Remember that.

Lesson 4: Find Your Tribe. The greatest journey of being a teenager is the journey that leads you to find your friends – your tribe. They will love you despite your strange sense of humour and they will be your champions and your confidantes. You will learn from one another how to be a good friend and how to be a good person. But remember friends come in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. C’est la vie!

Lesson 5: The things that are worth it take time and effort. “Uku tangila te kufika”. Remember the tale of the Hare and Tortoise, it’s so easy to feel defeated because you think others are further ahead of us.

Don’t – it is a recipe for killing dreams. Successful people that we all aspire to be like took time, energy, and sacrifice to get where they are today. So work hard, keep focused and believe in your abilities – nothing is impossible.

Lesson 6: Dream BIG & Aim HIGH all day, every day.

The first step toward dreaming big is to let your thoughts move freely. There are no restrictions on what you can achieve or possess in your life. Therefore, imagine all you want out of life with no limits to your resources and capabilities. Think about all your deepest desires in almost all spheres of your life.

Have a positive mindset and expect things to happen.

This approach will help you achieve your goals.

It’s going to be OK, you are going to do great my baby girl!

Love, Your Future Self.

Every issue of SKY magazine, one inspirational woman writes a letter to herself aged 14, reflecting on her teenage years and giving much-needed advice.

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True Life

My First We all react differently to a breakup.

Some people bawl their eyes out crying to the skies saying, “Why me,” others continue with their everyday life like it’s nothing. But if you are like me, you are definitely part of the first Whatsapp group.

The Crybabies . Created Feb 2018. Description: My Boyfriend broke up with me and I didn’t know why. Group Admin: Chanda Chibale When my ex-boyfriend, for the sake of this article we’ll call him Mwila broke up with me, I was devastated. Everything was going well so it came as a shock to me. Mwila was my best friend, confidante, my everything at the time. Even though we did not see each other every day, we talked every day. Whenever something happened, whether good or bad, he was the only person that I wanted to tell but he wasn’t there.

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Ah Mwila! I missed him a lot. I cried a lot too with a big tub of chocolate and vanilla ice cream sitting next to me on the couch. I could not remember who I was before him. He was my world. And I realised too late that it’s not healthy to lose yourself in a relationship, to let someone else become your world. I had to start rediscovering myself and figuring out what I loved to do before he was in my life. The new journey of self-discovery was important for myself and my growth. It helped me learn to love myself again.

The feelings I had for my ex-boyfriend did not disappear completely because believe it or not, I. STILL. LIKED. HIM. Here I was scrolling through texts and pictures, asking myself, "Why me?" "What did I do?" I had moments where I questioned myself and I was convinced something was wrong with me because “why didn’t he want me anymore?”.

by Chanda Chibale

These moments were the worst because they made me question my self-worth and see myself in a negative light.

I started to process my feelings and think about how I was feeling. If I had a bad day, I would try and listen to music to uplift my mood. I eventually got over my ex-boyfriend. I started to think about him less and less. I did miss him from time to time but not in a way that I wanted him back or anything, we just shared something and they were moments where he made me very happy.

Talking to my friends helped because we shared experiences and that helped me cope with my feelings. I started to spend more quality time with them and that was actually very beneficial. Being around people also helped distract me from what I was dealing with.

Heartbreak is very painful but I promise you, the pain will eventually pass. It may feel like you will be sad forever, but you will be OK after some time. It is important to remember that people may not want to be with you anymore but that has nothing to do with your self-worth or who you are. It is OK to feel sad about it but you will eventually feel better and be able to move on.

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Career Corner

By Precious Mwansa

Meet

Nkhonde

Nyankata Fumbeshi: Lawyer, Business Strategist, Media Specialist, Co- Founder and CEO of Money FM and Co-Founder of Fairworld Properties Limited.

Amazing right?

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As a young girl, Nkhonde had big dreams. While most of us dream about one career, she wanted to be both a journalist… AND a lawyer. Her father owned a production studio where she spent her time and that inspired her journalism goal even more. Nkhonde decided to first study Mass Communication at the University of Zambia and then went on to do her postgraduate Diploma at Cavendish University. Later, she studied law at the University of Lusaka and sat for the bar exams at ZIALE, which she cleared on her first attempt. Go girl!

I’m sure you’re wondering how she manages to balance both careers, sounds crazy right? Nkhonde says they work well together because her media background gives her the skills to inform and educate people, while her career in law gives her the knowledge she needs in her transactions and contracts. To her, being a lawyer is an opportunity to make a difference, to look at the laws that affect journalists and make sure they are treated fairly.

Nkhonde says that her journey through ZIALE was hard, but she received comfort from the Bible verse Philippians 4:13 which states, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” This gave her the confidence she needed to get through. She also says her friends and family supported her and this allowed her to focus on her studies.

At Money FM, Nkhonde hosts a show called Women@Money that helps women lead and succeed in their businesses, workplaces, and other aspects of their lives. She encourages young girls to have a mentor and to look up to older women – she thinks mentorship should be our thing!

To SKY Girls out there Nkhonde says, “There is no hard and fast rule to life. You need to invest in yourself. Whatever you want to achieve, you need to work towards it. As a young girl, you need to know what you want to do and make a plan to achieve it. You may be struggling to figure out what you want to be, don’t worry, you can still discover yourself”. She also advises girls to manage their time wisely and always focus on the bigger picture.

As you can tell, Nkhonde is like a superhero because she is able to do it all. With so much passion and dedication for her work, she is still a great mom and wife, and believes her family should have values such as hard work, integrity, respect,excellence and dedication.

What does this amazing career woman do for fun? Even superheroes have to relax right? She loves to cook, swim, watch action movies and take pictures because she loves to create memories.

So, what’s her Thing?

Spending time with her family.

Not her Thing?

People who bring others down.

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SKY Cover Girl

How I Show

Myself Love

By Rudo Malukutu

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My name is Rudo Malukutu and I am 17 years old. I live in Chamba Valley and completed my high school education last year.

Here is how I show myself self-love.

Self-love is having high regard for your own wellbeing and happiness. It is taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your wellbeing to please others. For me, self-love isn’t just a state of feeling good but an appreciation of myself that grows from actions that support my physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows through actions that mature us.

I practice self-love by putting myself first because it is only when I am at my best that I can serve others. I also compliment myself without feeling guilty, arrogant or entitled. I try to love and accept myself for who I am despite my flaws.

In conclusion, self-love is the most rewarding and priceless thing one could ever have.

When we begin to love ourselves we no longer send out negative energy. When we no longer seek outside validation, we become a powerful source within ourselves.

My Thing

Music, spending time with family and friends, watching movies, food.

Not My Thing

Negativity, gossiping and judgemental people.

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Learning to

Love

yourself

by Bwalya Penza

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Feeling down after scrolling through social media and seeing your friends posting pictures of the Valentine’s gifts they received? Learning how to love yourself is

even more important when Valentine’s day has you feeling you have to be in a romantic relationship. Here are our top tips on how to have a healthy love relationship with yourself.

A few days ago, my thirteen-year-old niece posted a really glamorous picture of my nineteen-year-old daughter on her WhatsApp status. Under the picture she captioned it ‘What happened to some of us, only God knows (crying face emoji)’. By comparing herself to this photo of her cousin, she obviously felt inadequate. This made me think about how as girls, we tend to compare ourselves to one another, often putting ourselves down and lauding praise on the people we are making the comparison with.

My response to her was ‘You’re still blossoming, babe’. I likened her to a flower, which looks different according to what stage of development it’s at. The growth of flowers occurs over several weeks from the germination of seeds planted, to the time in which flowers bloom. This happens in about five stages: sprout, bud, leaf, beginning of blossom & then bloom. It wouldn’t make sense to compare a budding rose to one that is in full bloom, nor a lily to a sunflower; so why do we do it to each other all the time?

In this era of social media platforms where Zoomers (Generation Z) spend a lot of your time, you may find that you constantly compare yourself to others. You look at their hairstyles, what clothes they wear, how many likes they get, the list is endless. After this, you find yourself looking in the mirror and not liking what you see. Cue Valentine’s day and you start wondering why your crush hasn’t acknowledged you by giving you a gift or posting you on his status as his woman crush.

The answer to getting out of this feeling, not only on Valentine’s day, but every day of your life, is self-love. ‘Self-love’ is defined as ‘regard for one’s own well-being and happiness’. This means being aware of how you feel and knowing what makes you happy. Use these tools to practice self-love everyday: Speak kindly to yourself. Practice positive self-talk; every time you look in the mirror, tell yourself something nice about yourself. Start a journal and every morning write three things you love about yourself or are grateful for.

Embrace who you are now. Whatever stage of the development cycle you’re in is where you’re meant to be.

Learn more about yourself by exploring your interests and hobbies.

Feel your feelings. Suppressing or avoiding your feelings can be detrimental. Allow yourself to wallow in self-pity for a few minutes or to be sad.

Give yourself a time limit for ‘sad time’ and when that time passes, think positive thoughts.

Listen to how you talk to yourself. Whenever you hear negative talk, ask yourself if it’s true? If it’s not true, tell yourself it isn’t and move on. If it is true, learn from it, then turn the lesson into something positive.

Open up yourself to possibilities by trying something new that’s out of your comfort zone.

Visualise the kind of person that you want to be.

Embody this vision and take steps everyday towards realising it.

Self-love is about becoming your own BFF. You don’t need to have extra money to have it, or get it from something that is outside of you. As the old adage goes ‘you’ll never be happy with someone until you’re happy with yourself’. So SKY girl, stay true to YOU!

About the author: Bwalya Penza is a certified Adventures in Wisdom™ Coach & founder of Just B. She provides various life coaching packages for children aged 7 and upwards. She is very passionate about coaching children to become the best that they can be, to be their real selves and to create the life they desire!

Contact details: info@justbcoaching.net bwalya@justbcoaching.net www.justbcoaching.net Twitter: @coachingJustb Instagram: justb_coaching FaceBook: JustB Coaching

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How to te your Crush

you like Him

by Thoko Kalinda

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“Hi my name is Thoko and I like you.”

Butterflies? Smiling at your phone when he texts? Yep, you probably have a crush on him.

But now how do you tell him without fainting… don’t worry, we’ve got some tips.

1. Get to know him Is he short tempered? A bad texter? Does he not like ice cream? Is he an anime fan? Get all your info girl! Use social media (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. — if he has one—to find out what his hobbies and interests are.

Social media is a good way to see what he’s all about, and if it aligns with things you believe in or not.

2. Ask yourself why you like him Do you actually like him or you like his drip?

Honestly, what do you actually like about this guy? Is it his smile, his jokes or both? Once you’ve established good enough reasons, then YOU CAN SHOOT YOUR SHOT!

3. Drop hints Time to apply some finesse here. Drop a few hints that will at least spark the idea in his head that you like him. You’re responding to texts in the group chat? Send him extra emojis.

4. Be CONFIDENT You’re gonna have to be ready to say it all with your chest honey. So make sure you’ll do it in a way that makes you feel the best about yourself.

5. Be COMFORTABLE Say it in a way that makes you comfortable.

How best do you express yourself? Use that!

Do you love to give gifts? Maybe that’s a good place to start. Don’t forget the note.

6. COMMUNICATE! (Use words, as much as you can) This dude must know what’s cutting, let’s not leave room for any grey areas, okay? So be sure to clearly tell him what you feel in a way that he too will understand. Remember he might be surprised and not have the words to reply, give him time if he needs it.

7. Rejection is okay, that doesn’t take away from you or what you are.

So he doesn’t feel the same way… That’s his loss, nivi life chabe (it’s life). Allow yourself a small cry session, then pick yourself back up.

You are still amazing!

8. Remember to affirm.

Remind yourself that no matter the outcome.

You’re still a QUEEN. YASSSSS GIRL! You gotta keep that head up, your crown might fall. Constantly remind yourself of the beautiful, smart and kind person that you are.

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Things

You Love About Yourself Hi SKY Girls! There are plenty of things to love about oneself. Remember it’s more

important to value who you are, rather than what you look like. For example, ‘I am funny, I am patient, I am kind’ is better than ‘my eyes are pretty’ because they are attributes you control!

Use this list to fill out what you love about yourself, and stick it up somewhere you can see it (like your mirror or your wall) every day. It works as a little daily boost towards self-love, giving you confidence in your characteristics and abilities!

And because it’s always nice to find out what value you bring to the world, ask your friends and family members what they admire about you, and fill in on the other side too. You might be surprised to hear what they have to say!

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Things

I love About Myself

Things

My Friends

and Family Love about me

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How To Have The Best Group

Study Experience

In 4 Easy Steps

by Akatoka Kayama

Group presentations are an inevitable part of our school experience. However, most of us dread group work because of possible conflict (especially when some people aren’t pulling their weight). Here are some tips on how to have an effective group study experience with your classmates.

Step 1:

How to form a study group Selection: If your teacher allows you to pick your own team members, make sure you pick people you have worked with well before, as that will lead to less chances of conflict and you will know their work ethic.

Set rules together: For example, each individual should be committed to achieving a good grade.

Longevity: Set a timer to monitor how long the group study session will last.

Where to meet: Select an appropriate meeting place. This should be somewhere quiet like a library if working together face-to-face, or a space at home if working together virtually.

Make sure doors are closed for privacy and minimal distractions from noisy siblings.

Leadership: Nominate a group leader who is confident to take charge. Take a vote if multiple people want to be group leader or ask for a volunteer.

Solo research:

Do your own research before meetings so that you are well informed, prepared and don’t waste time during the group meeting.

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Step 2:

How to deal with slackers in the group

Step 3:

How to stay in touch with

group members

Due to the ongoing global pandemic, group projects

Talk it over with them privately.

Ask what study method works for them and give them a second chance to prove themselves. If they still don’t improve, ask a teacher for further guidance.

may take place online

through platforms such as Skype, Zoom or Google Classroom which enable you to be well connected, engaged and productive unlike phone calls where you can’t see who isn’t paying attention. Make sure you download and have access to these platforms prior to a meeting.

Use Google Docs to create a document that everyone should add their ideas and content into. This will help you keep track of who’s slacking and who isn’t.

Make things more interesting by having meals at the same time online.

Schedule five minutes at the start of each meeting to make small talk and address any concerns so as to avoid getting off track during group meetings.

Step 4:

The best snacks to keep you alert while studying Dark chocolate will keep you awake because of its energy levels and will keep your sugar levels high, meaning you won’t be sleepy any time soon.

Who said popcorn is only for the cinema? This salty snack will keep you chewing and prevent you from falling asleep.

Citrus fruits keep you super sharp and are healthy.

Drink TEA instead of coffee, as the caffeine in coffee will make it hard to fall asleep when you are ready to go to bed.

Water! Water! Water! It will keep you hydrated during exams

and get your skin glowing after exams. #skingoals

See? It’s easy to form a study group and navigate classroom politics!

But remember, you can’t rely on your group members to ace tests and exams for you, the final stretch is down to you. Good luck!

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SKY QUIZ

How Much Do You

Yourself?

At SKY, self-love is our thing! But it’s not always easy – sometimes we have to work hard to love ourselves just as we are, and sometimes we might get so caught up in self-love that we forget to care for others. Take this SKY quiz to find out how much YOU love yourself :)

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When you think about how you look, how do you feel?

A Happy – I love everything about my appearance! (1 point) B I am happy about some things but I wish I could change other things about my appearance (2 points) C Not great, I feel as if I have flaws and most other people look better than me (3 points)

Do you celebrate your successes?

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A Yes, every day, and I make sure to tell others when I am proud of myself too! (1 point) B When I do something worth celebrating, yes I do (2 points) C I usually feel like I can do better. Sometimes I forget to celebrate myself (3 points)

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Do you like to spend time alone?

A Sure, I am totally happy being alone and don’t need others to entertain me (1 point) B It depends what mood I’m in, I can be happy alone or with others (2 points) C I don’t like being alone, I don’t really enjoy my own company (3 points)

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Do you worry a lot about what people think of you?

A Never, why should I care what others think of me? (1 point) B Sometimes I feel others are judging me, but not often (2 points) C Yes, I often think people are thinking bad things about me (3 points)

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Do you compare yourself to others?

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A No, they are them and I am me so what’s the point? (1 point) B Sometimes I do but it doesn’t really make me sad often (2 points) C I often feel inadequate or like I am not matching up to others around me (3 points)

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Do you spend time doing things you like, and treat yourself to things you like?

A Yes, I always think about what I want and I try to get it! (1 point) B I try to remember to set aside time and activities for myself but occasionally I forget (2 points) C I usually find myself doing what others want to do instead, I can forget to put myself first (3 points)

Do you feel you have a lot to offer others?

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A Yes, I like myself as a person and I feel valuable to others (1 point) B I have some things to offer but not a lot (2 points) C Not really, I don’t have a strong sense of self-worth (3 points)

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Are you able to forgive yourself when you make a mistake?

A Sure, everyone makes mistakes, I just learn from it and move on (1 point) B It depends on the mistake, sometimes it’s really tough to forgive myself (2 points) C No, I spend a lot of time thinking about things I did wrong and regretting my actions (3 points)

How do your responses stack up?

Add up the points in each of the answers you chose, and check your results below.

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Well done! You clearly LOVE yourself. Your confidence shines through and you

don’t let others sway your thoughts and decisions. However, always be sure to show love to others too, and help those who are less confident than you, to be confident in themselves too.

You’re on the way to self-love SKY girl! You have moments where you feel your best

and others where you don’t. It’s normal to not always feel your best, but taking time to be alone and introspect is a great way to identify what your favorite things about yourself are.

You’re too hard on yourself SKY girl! Take time to recognize the things about yourself that you love, write them down (you can use our pullout sheet) and stick it somewhere you can see it every day. We all have bad days when we don’t feel beautiful or smart, but it’s just in our heads – trust us when we say you are beautiful, smart, valid and valued!

We all have something great to offer the world, you just have to believe it.

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REVIE

Reviews

By Precious Mwansa

In the mood for a classic love story? Inspired by Valentine’s, we’re exploring the theme of love through TV shows and a book. Here are our top picks.

BOOK

ME BEFORE YOU ‘Me Before You’ is a romantic novel that was written

by Jojo Moyes and published by Penguin Books in 2012. It is 480 pages long and an absolute page turner worth every minute of your time. The book is centered around Louisa Clark, a bubbly and quirky woman on a job hunt and Will Traynor, a rich man who needs care after a motorcycle accident which leaves him paralyzed. They cross paths when Louisa takes the job of being his caregiver. At first, he is rude, stubborn and cold because of the trauma he has endured, but the more time they spend together, the more he lights up and remembers the joy of living.

Jojo Moyes writes so deeply, it is as though she has your heart right in the palm of her hand, taking you on an emotional rollercoaster. If you are a hopeless romantic like me, you’ll definitely love this book.

Although it is a beautiful love story, I love how realistic it is because it does not have a typical love story ending. I also enjoyed the other relationships shown such us the beautiful friendship and loyalty between Will and his male care-giver as well as the deep love his family has for him and the extent they are willing to go to show him that.

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There has been a movie adaptation of the book starring the famous Emilia Clarke from Game of Thrones, and the author has written two sequels entitled ‘After You’ and ‘Still You’. Don’t forget to have some tissues as you read, you’re going to need them when you bawl your eyes out.

SHOWS

SISTER SISTER

BOYS OVER FLOWERS “Boys Over Flowers'' (2009) is a Korean Drama or ‘K Drama’. Jan Di, a middle-class girl, is admitted into an exclusive high school after saving a boy from committing suicide because of extreme bullying at the same school. Yes, Shinwa High School has cliques. Have you heard of Mean Girls? Well, these gents are MEAN BOYS called F4.

Everyone is afraid of them, except Jan Di who stands up to them and catches the attention of the leader of F4, Gu Jun-pyo. It quickly turns into love but it gets complicated when another member of F4 falls for her, creating a love triangle. DUN! DUN! DUN! Although some of the scenes were very unrealistic, Boys Over Flowers is one of those guilty pleasures you just can’t give up no matter how hard you try. I couldn’t stop watching it. I was completely hooked. It is twenty-five episodes long and is available on Netflix. Enjoy your binge!

This is a comedy show about twin girls who were separated at birth and adopted by two separate people. When they are 14 years old, they bump into each other while shopping and realize they look exactly alike. Although they are identical, Tia and Tamera couldn’t be more different.

Tia is from a humble background and is a bookworm who is focused on school while Tamera is more playful, fortunate and maybe even a little boy crazy.

In order to keep the girls together, Tamera’s adoptive father allows Tia and her adoptive mother to live in his house.

They have this thing called the “the twin thing” where they switch places when one of them wants the other to do so. Tia takes a test on behalf of Tamera, and Tamera goes on a date on behalf of Tia. I love how the show celebrates their individuality; that even identical twins can be very different. I also love how relatable it is for teenagers. It is a story of growth, friendship and sisterhood. It takes us through their teens all the way up to the time they leave for college, showing all the ups and downs of life in between.

Sister Sister ran for six seasons and you can watch the episodes on Netflix.

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Photo Credit: Istockphoto

meraki red velvet

cupcakes

By Chomba Bowa

Celebrate Valentine’s or Galentine’s Day with this easy to replicate red velvet cupcake recipe provided by Chomba Bowa, founder of Meraki.

Ingredients Red Velvet Cake 130g sugar 150g butter 3 eggs 80mls milk 10g red velvet paste/colour 10mls vanilla essence 15mls white vinegar 5g baking powder 5g bicarbonate of soda 200g flour 10g cocoa

Cream Cheese icing 120g butter 120g cream cheese 240g icing sugar

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Baking Instructions 1. Set oven temperature to 180 degrees Celsius

and place 12 cupcake paper cups into a cupcake pan.

2. Beat together sugar and butter in a mixer for 5 minutes

on medium speed until light and creamy. Stop the mixer every few minutes to combine the mixture from the edges of the bowl into the centre.

3. Add eggs, one at a time, beating very briefly in between to get a nice even consistency.

4. Add the milk, vinegar, vanilla essence and red velvet paste.

Mix briefly to combine 5. After sieving the dry ingredients, add them to the wet mixture, all at once. Beat just until combined.

Do not overmix.

Bake in a preheated oven for 18 minutes To make the cream cheese icing, beat all three ingredients together on medium speed for 3 minutes until light and fluffy.

Spoon or spread the icing onto the (cooled) cupcakes and voila! ts TIP: Make sure all ingredien re atu per used are at room tem . ults res to ensure perfect

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