The House of Wellness Spring 2021 Magazine

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6 The House of Wellness THE HOUSE OF WELLNESS is published for Chemist Warehouse by News Corp Australia PUBLISHER Chemist Warehouse PARTNERSHIPS & MAGAZINES VICTORIA HEAD OF CONTENT Ondrej Foltin MANAGING EDITOR Fiona Welsh EDITOR Laeta Crawford CREATIVE Pascale Clearihan DESIGNERS Sheridan Frawley, Wilhe Mitchell, Meisha Reynolds PRODUCTION EDITOR Sashi Thapa SUB-EDITOR Maureen Doyle PHOTOGRAPHY News Corp Australia, Getty Images, Snapper Images Partnerships & Magazines Victoria is a division of The Herald & Weekly Times Pty Ltd ABN 49004113937 HWT Tower, 40 City Rd Southbank, Victoria 3006 NEWS CORP GENERAL MANAGER NATIONAL KEY ACCOUNTS Sarah Baskerville NEWS CORP GROUP SALES MANAGER, NATIONAL SALES Erin Rees COMMERCIALMANAGERPRINT Andrew Davies COLOUR SEPARATIONS HWT Imaging PRINTING IVE Group CHEMIST WAREHOUSE GROUPMANAGERMARKETING Lia Heim, (03) 9462 9130 or lia@chemistwarehouse.com.au ADMINISTRATORPRODUCTION Rhiannon Pattison DESIGN TEAM LEADER Kathrina Mabilangan SENIOR DESIGNER Chris Vu houseofwellness.com.authehouseofwellness@news.com.au The House of Wellness is published quarterly by The Herald & Weekly Times (ABN 49004113937) on behalf of Chemist Warehouse. Prices correct at time of printing. All products subject to availability. Not all products or promotions are available online. Information correct at time of going to print. AC 12055-0821 2021SPRING OFHOUSETHE THE HOUSE OFpurchase GIFT WELLBEING How to relationshipsstrongbuild HEALTH Your hay feverplanaction RECIPES barbecuefromFlavoursthe Trends Dare to goandbrightbold 5 TOSTEPSSLEEPEASY EachBEAUTYL’OREALPARISPACKSpackisvalued at $500. Simply tell us in 25 words or less your natural beauty tip. Competition entries open at 12.01am on September 25, 2021, and close on October 31, 2021, at 11.59pm. Email your entry, name and contact number thehouseofwellness@news.com.auto 30 MauboyJessicaCoverWinstory

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Shades of lilac STYLE 11 Beauty notes When less is more 15 In the spotlight Sun-safe ways 16 Skincare Delicate mission 20 Fashion Pretty pastels 23 Trend watch Make a statement 25 Fragrance Freshen up 27 Men’s style Let’s get FEATURESloud 36 Second act Making a career change 39 What a hoot Jimmy Rees pivots 43 Mens Medicine Connecting via nature 44 Gender wars Women’s fi ght for rights 49 Role model Billie-Jean Hamlet Neale Daniher on his battle with “The Beast” Winning care Pharmacist of the Year Sandwich generation Juggling demands More than small talk The power of conversation Richard Madden Scent of success Stay we and enjoy! From the team at The House of Wellness HEALTH 65 Air time Hay fever help 68 Rest easy Sleep divorce benefi ts 71 Iron overload Haemochromatosis facts 72 Genetic testing What you need to know 75 Mindful sex Why it pays to be in the moment 78 Triple threat Triathlon training 81 Dr Sally Cockburn On LIVEvaccinationWELL 83 Here comes the sun Embrace the outdoors 85 Char time Luke Hines’ barbecue gems 87 Brunch and munch Get those Sunday vibes 90 Creature comforts Discover luxe camping Also 93 Decor 95 Spring reading 96 Life hack apps 97 Calendar and quiz 98 Lehmo 39 65 23 93 20 27 85 63

As one of five girls in her family, Jessica Mauboy learnt early on she needed to be her own person to stand out. But it was upon teaming up with Beyonce on tour that the adored Aussie singer realised just how important it was to forge her own identity.

Jessica also reveals to The House of Wellness why she loves being considered a role model and mentor — particularly when it comes to her Indigenous community.

Footy great Neale Daniher talks about the strength he draws from his family and the wider community as he plays on to find a cure for motor neurone disease. And comedian Jimmy Rees shares his story about providing some much-needed laughs during the pandemic, and how it has given him a different perspective on life.

We also look at the benefits of making a career change in a time of uncertainty, and investigate just how far women have come in their fight for equality — and how far they have to go. Struggling to sleep? It could be time to consider a sleep divorce from your partner. Discover why less is more when it comes to your make-up and skincare routines, and add some colour to your spring palette with statement eyes and lips. Plus, all our regular features, including health advice, delicious brunch ideas to ensure every day feels like a Sunday and some great reads to add to your bedside table. loving

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The House of Wellness 11 IthereBarely t began as a fashion trend, but minimalism is now being embraced by the beauty community. Not only does cutting back on products help bank balances, it can also make your beauty routine more efficient and effective. It also means waving goodbye to skincare ingredients competing with one another, hair products weighing down your mane and excessive make-up contributing to cakeyness. We break down the best advice for simplifying your beauty routine. Does “less is more” ring true when it comes to beauty looks? Our experts share their thoughts on the rising popularity of simplified make-up, skincare and hair routines WORDS CHARLOTTE BRUNDRETT

“Vitamin A is a great ingredient because it helps to stimulate collagen and cell turnover in the skin, but using it too much, too soon can cause irritation and skin irritation is actually one of the leading causes of ageing. Instead, I’d suggest slowly introducing active ingredients.”

— JAMES VIVIAN SKIN Skincare education has improved greatly in recent years, with everyday consumers now familiar with powerful active ingredients such as niacinamide and hyaluronic acid. But the problem is there can be too much of a good thing, especially when it comes to what you’re putting on your skin.

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“The approach to colouring services has considerablychangedoverthe past five years,” Michael says. “These days the average time between colouring appointments is roughly 10-12 weeks compared to the traditional timeframe of six to eight weeks.” This is largely due to clients requesting softer highlights, natural-looking balayage and root shadows so regrowth isn’t as noticeable, all of which help to extend the longevity of colour between“What’sappointments.happeninginhair nowadays is a massive shift (compared) to what was popular in the 1990s and 2000s. Back then, clients were asking for heavily compacted highlights, which required far greater upkeep,” Michael says. “Glosses are a great refresher between appointments, and that’s what I gravitate to for my clients. Less regular colouring is going to benefit the health and condition of hair, and you’re saving time and money in the process.”

“When it comes to building a skincare routine, get your basics right first, which is to cleanse, moisturise and use sun protection.”

HAIR Australians have shifted towards low-maintenance hair care and colouring services, according to hair education specialist and colourist Michael Kelly.

“A lot of people think that to get into skincare you have to have every single serum and every step covered, but that’s not actually doing anyone any favours,” dermal therapist James Vivian“Introducingsays. a bunch of active ingredients at once isn’t a good idea. Not only can this cause hypersensitivity, if your skin becomes irritated then it’s hard to determine what exact ingredient is at fault because you’ve introduced multiple products at Jamesonce.” recommends starting with the basics and working your way up, prioritising one skin concern at a time.

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GRAPHIC EYES Designers explored a variety of techniques to achieve the ultimate unique eye look. These included bright colour blocking, inverse cat eyes, cut-creasing and even stickers and non-traditional make-up products.

Everything from box braids to rope braid ponytails were seen on the Christopher Esber, Rebecca Vallance and Romance was Born runways, and for good reason; they are one of the simplest ways to finesse your look.

“Multi-use products are a good way to simplify your routine. Products that come to mind are lip and cheek products,” Jade says. But many other products may have unintentional dualpurpose uses. “A coral or pink lipstick can also work really well as a cream blush. Bronzer can double as an eyeshadow base and you can even use it to line the lip with a small brush,” she says.

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For something understated but different, take cues from Sammy Robinson and try a mauve lip shade.

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“The great thing about make-up is you can adjust your look depending on how you’re feeling that day.”

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From Farrah Fawcett waves to soft, romantic curls and layered mullets, there was an abundance of 1970s-esque hairstyles. Ask your hair stylist for bevelled layers at your next appointment to achieve the looks at home.

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Warm coppery hues were a firm fixture on the festival runways, providing a much-needed departure from cool-toned shades. Perfect for the sunny months ahead, copper adds warmth to the face.

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Using dual-purpose products is one way The House of Wellness beauty expert Jade Kisnorbo likes to simplify her routine.

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“There’s still no firm proof what that can do to your body, but there’s concern about chemicals being absorbed,” William says. He recommends choosing a mineral or physical sunscreen if you have sensitive skin. “Remember though, just because it’s ‘natural’ doesn’t mean you won’t get a reaction.” Slip, slop, slap About 85 per cent of people do not put on enough sunscreen; use one teaspoon for the face and for each limb. A mineral-based product is thicker as it contains zinc oxide, so you won’t need as much. Apply 20 minutes before you go out in the sun. Always reapply after swimming, even if the product is water-resistant.

Smart skincare “Two SPF15 sunscreens may achieve a slightly higher coverage due to added filters and layers but it will likely be a small amount,” Rachel says.

Step 1 Light serums Step 2 Sunscreen Step 3 Moisturiser Step 4 Make-up, including lip protection or lipstick with sun protection.

“A mineral or physical sunscreen means the chemical filter — which provides a barrier and reflects the damage of UV rays from your skin — is zinc-based,” WilliamResearchsays.is ongoing, but studies in the US indicate key chemical filters found in chemical sunscreens are absorbed and are present in the body 10 days later. It is also believed they damage coral reefs and cause other environmental problems.

“Each SPF15 sunscreen has the maximum capacity to protect the skin for 15 times longer compared to no sunscreen, so adding the two would still only have that maximum capacity of protection.”

New year, new SPF It is important to check the use-by date as “the level of protection your sunscreen gives you degrades as it gets older”, William says. Ideally, buy a new tube of SPF50 sunscreen at the start of every summer, he advises. Make-up with SPF also has a shelf life no longer than a year.

As for the best SPF level, William says: “At the very least a SPF30, but SPF50 is best in the Australian sun.”

Sunscreen smarts Sunscreen products are now being labelled as mineral, physical or chemical.

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Face facts “Lip and eye products often have additional sun safety factors,” L’Oreal scientific communications manager Rachel McAdam says. “A product that ‘ophthalmologicallyis tested’ usually means it is suitable for the eye area. And lip products are often formulated with some staying power as well as additional considerations for a level of consumption,” she says. “Choose sunscreen products that call out ‘suitability’ for the eye or lip areas.”

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The sun safe message is taking its time to sink in with Cancer Council statistics showing one in six adults (and one in four adolescents) were sunburnt at least once last summer. Sunscreen not only helps prevent skin cancer, choosing one that works and reacts well for your skin can also protect your skin from ageing, according to skincare expert William Cook. From moisturiser and foundation to cosmetics, choosing the right sunscreen for your skin type includes the products you use on your face

Layer upon layer “Sunscreens work best when they are able to integrate within the very top layer of skin, so they can create a uniform layer, therefore minimising areas exposed to UV,” Rachel says.

Sun, scent and skincare products may affect the delicate skin of the decolletage, so it pays to protect this often neglected area

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WORDS SARAH MARINOS Most women devote time and money to taking care of their face and body with products designed to keep skin supple, youthful and blemish-free. But one area of the body is often overlooked — the decolletage area that runs from the neck and across the collarbone down to the top of the Dermatologistbreasts. and cosmetic and laser specialist Dr Belinda Welsh shares the following decolletage advice.

Skin on our hands can also show signs of ageing. It loses fat and elasticity, which can lead to thinning skin prone to wrinkles and age spots. Like the skin on the decolletage and other parts of the body, hands need some care to slow the ageing processdamage.and USE SUNSCREEN

A simple moisturiser is fine, but avoid applying higherstrength product containing alpha-hydroxy acids or retinols just before bedtime as it can collect in folds in the neck and causeSmoothirritation.skin with gentle scrubs or exfoliants. Look for products containing alpha-hydroxy or beta-hydroxy acids, while creams containing 10-20 per cent urea or ammonium lactate have a smoothing effect.

Gently remove dead and tough skin from the back of hands, palms and fingers. MOISTURISE Keep hand cream in the car, on your desk or in the bathroom so you can moisturise regularly.

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When you are driving and have your hands on the wheel, skin is particularly exposed to the UV rays coming through the windscreen. EXFOLIATE

Always use sunscreen When applying sunscreen, we often forget to cover our ears, neck and chest. Over time, repeated sun exposure leads to damaged skin.

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“Perfumes contain fragrance molecules and preservatives that can interact with the sun. This converts the molecules into chemicals that can irritate and damage skin, and cause broken capillaries, brown pigmentation and thinning of the skin,” Dr Welsh says.

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“This kind of damage often appears on the sides of the neck and chest where women spray perfume. Instead of spraying your skin, put perfume on your clothes.”

“Be wary of little red spots on the chest that bleed sometimes and don’t heal. If you notice any skin changes, get them checked,” Dr Welsh says. Apply sunscreen frequently to all areas of your body, including your neck and chest, even during cooler months.

Alternatively, try dusting your decolletage with bronzing powder instead of using scent.

“Test cream on a small area first and don’t use it just before bedtime to avoid irritation,” Dr Welsh advises. WE LIKE CeraVe SA Smoothing Cream 177ml, $17.99; Lanate Face & Body Cream 150g, $26.49 Eat a healthy diet This tip isn’t just for your decolletage — it is good advice for healthy skin and a healthy body. No single magic nutrient will deliver glowing skin, Dr Welsh says, but it’s important to follow recommended healthy eating guidelines.

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“Your skin reflects your general health. Eat foods that are high in antioxidants and low in sugar, and avoid too much alcohol or smoking,” she Antioxidant-richsays.foods include almonds, broccoli, kale, sweet potato, avocado, blueberries and grapes. Eating five serves of vegetables and two serves of fruit daily will boost your antioxidant intake. The House of Wellness 17

Women are more prone than men, it becomes more noticeable with age and is caused by perfume and the sun.

“This can particularly be an issue for women who might wear lower-cut shirts and T-shirts. If their chest is exposed day after day without sunscreen, the damage accumulates,” Dr Welsh says.

There is a risk of skin cancer in more serious cases, and sun damage can also cause blotchiness or brown spots that may be treated with prescription creams or laser.

Skin on the decolletage is thinner and has fewer hair follicles and oil glands so it is delicate, prone to scarring and takes longer to repair. Much like the rest of the body, age also causes wrinkling of the “Mostarea.people don’t have overly dry skin in this area but you can moisturise to keep the skin barrier in top shape,” Dr Welsh says.

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2TikTok and E-girl make-up has helped popularise bright cheeks and the use of blush products once more. The result is a youthful, flushed appearance, injecting a bit more life and colour into everyday make-up.

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It might sound counter-intuitive, but bright make-up works best when paired with a more subtle lip, such as a nude gloss. This trend plays down the pigment of your lips without turning them colourless thanks to the reflective sheen of the gloss formula. You can give added dimension to the look by using a medium to dark brown lip liner to line your lips, before applying nude lipstick and a clear gloss.  WE LIKE L’Oreal Infallible Lip Liner 213 Stripped Brown, $10; Nude by Nature Moisture Shine Lipstick 02 Nude, $19.49; and Rimmel Oh My Gloss, $11.49 It’s all about loud, bright colours this spring and one of the easiest ways to embrace the trend is through vibrant make-up looks. We break down some of the ways you can recreate the trend at home, from a statement neon eye and bright blush to reflective lips.

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From a simple cat eye to a cut-crease or geometric design, everything looks a little more dramatic when bright, neon eyeliners are involved. For extreme pigment pay-off, start your eye look with a white eyeliner, which will serve as the base. Create your design as desired and then trace over it with your chosen neon shade, with the finished product far more bright and striking as a result. Complete the look by applying your favourite mascara and a white or nude eyeliner on your lower waterline for added brightness.

From simple rosy cheeks to a sun-kissed look along the mid-face perimeter and nose bridge, there are a few ways you can approach blush application. If you want a lifted appearance, apply your blush with a softer hand and at the top of the cheekbone, working it upwards and outwards instead of on the apples of the cheek.

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“I also love being glamorous and getting my nails done, but on the other hand I love getting out on the quad bike getting mud slapped in my face.

“To be able to celebrate with her, one on one in a room and have her congratulate me and tell me that she was so proud that I was a part of her tour was soJessica’sempowering.”father hails from Indonesia while her mother’s family originate from the Indigenous Kuku Yalanji tribe. She is very aware that her success has a flow-on effect to others and knows there will be generations of young people who have seen her perform at Eurovision or starring in The Secret Daughter and felt inspired about what’s possible.

Jessica Mauboy is a woman caught between two worlds. And she couldn’t be happier about it.

“I love to pull up the tin boat out with Dad and cast a line,” she says of trips home.

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“I love quad biking so that’s kind of like my alter ego,” she says with a laugh.

“Sasha Fierce was definitely a goddess moment for me where I just saw someone with such power combined with such grace but was really freaking good at what she does.

“It totally blows my mind in such an emotional way to be seen as a role model,” she says. “I think about that daily and in all that I do and all that I say. It’s the one thing that drives me, knowing that I can spark

While Beyonce dubs her sexy stage persona “Sasha Fierce”, softly spoken Jessica says she taps into her inner daredevil when she hits the stage.

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From a shy teenage Australian Idol contestant to acclaimed artist and activist, Jessica Mauboy says her Darwin childhood helped fi nd her voice

“Or I will climb a mango tree because that’s such a wonderful childhood memory for me.

One day Jessica is singing to a sold-out stadium and the next she’s tearing up a dirt track in a ute. That’s because, despite becoming one of Australia’s most popular singers, Darwin born and raised Jessica has never forgotten her roots.

There’s something special about picking something yourself or catching it yourself. I still get that joy and that buzz from it.” She says it was while touring with Beyonce as the support act for her 2008 I Am...Sasha Fierce tour that she found empowerment in embracing all facets of her personality and lifestyle.

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“Sasha Fierce was definitely a goddess moment for me where I just saw someone with such power combined with such grace but was really freaking good at what she does.” that conversation, or that (change in) mentality, or that way (of doing things).”

Jessica has never been afraid to speak up for herself and others. It is something she learned as the second youngest of five sisters.

Growing up, Jessica, 31, didn’t see many people of colour on commercial TV and turned instead to documentaries on the ABC or SBS to find people and stories with whom she identified.

A lot has changed since then, but — as shown in Channel 9’s much maligned coronavirus vaccination ad — there is still a long way to go to ensure more diversity on our screens.

“It’s really about having that access and opportunity, leaving the door open for someone else and giving them that chance,” she says.

“I think we’re awake, we’re trying to get there.”

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Now settling into a new gig as a coach on The Voice Australia Jessica wants to be more of a collaborative mentor than someone sitting in judgment. She says she will prepare artists for life in the spotlight by encouraging them to ignore the critics and believe in themselves. She endorses a similar message to that of the L’Oreal Paris Woman of Worth campaign. Already a long-time fan of L’Oreal Paris, Jessica leapt at the chance to endorse not only their products but their campaign of female empowerment.

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Jessica has stared down plenty of her own bullies since that experience. Most notably, she defended AFL star Adam Goodes during the booing saga in 2015 that eventually forced his early retirement from the game. And, as a contestant on Australian Idol, stood firm as her body was publicly scrutinised by judge Kyle Sandilands. “It definitely hurt but my reaction to that was to laugh it off because I knew I was beautiful, and I knew I was young and I knew I’m growing,” she“Mostsays.young 15 and 16-yearolds aren’t that strong. But I already had that kind of bravery to just shrug them off. Today I don’t think we would shrug it off. I think everybody would be beyond angry about that now.”

“I couldn’t quite get my head around it because I had grown up in a community that is filled with such deep (appreciation of Indigenous) culture.

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“I was hit by a bully for the first time who called me a ‘black b---h!’,” she recalls.

One moment from her first year of high school left a particularly lasting impression.

“So, I just stepped back and let my sister do all the talking. She was in her last year at high school at the time and she stood up and said to the boy: ‘How dare you! You don’t even know what that means’. And there was this brightness, this kind of light that shone out of her as she spoke. It was like she got bigger. Even her body language got bigger.”

“For me, self-worth is finding something that gives you a sense of belonging and purpose, it changes with experience and is something we are constantly navigating.”

“About 45 years ago, my parents planted coconut trees in the back yard to bring back the sense of my dad’s village where you’re surrounded by love and the luscious green of Indonesia,” she explains.

“Working with L’Oreal Paris is a dream come true having grown up seeing my mum using their products and, as a kid, experimenting with her products. “To be collaborating and an ambassador for L’Oreal Paris, with all the work that they do and all they stand for, is a huge highlight of my career.” And there have certainly been many highlights in Jessica’s career. From performing for Barack Obama to collaborating with internationally renowned artists such as Snoop Dogg and Flo Rida. In addition to her ARIA and AACTA awards, she received a medal for championing equality and speaking out against racism and bullying from the CommissionAnti-Defamationin2019.Themedalwasawarded in recognition of Jessica’s work with organisations that support Indigenous Australians through mentoring, performance and education. She is passionate about this sort of work, saying that if she wasn’t a professional singer, she would find fulfilment in community service.

“I would love to play an assassin,” she says with a laugh. For starters, she takes a steamer with her wherever she goes. Not only does it keep her fresh-faced, but it gives her mind and body a much-needed hit of the humidity of home.

“But also, for me, it is having grown up in the Northern Territory where the heat is really intense and there’s high humidity, I feel like my skin really misses that. So, when I am in the more dry (climate of the southern states) I use a lot An avid fisherwoman and self-confessed foodie, she keeps her freezer chock-full of barramundi so she can whip up one of her dad’s signature curries. She also credits her Northern Territory upbringing with teaching her selfsufficiency and independence.

Jessica is recording a new album and is eager to get back into acting. And her dream role, might come as a surprise to some.

“It was also about having that sustainable kind of living.

Jessica Mauboy is living proof that you can take the girl out of Darwin, but you can’t take Darwin out of the girl.

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“I love a good face steam. I take a portable face steamer everywhere I go, especially when I am touring because I wear quite a bit of make-up and we don’t realise how many layers are sitting in our pores,” she explains.

“Farming was a huge thing, growing and cooking our own crops. Going hunting for food. We grew up knowing that we could go and grab something from our natural environment and put it on to cook and feed

“For me, self-worth is finding something that gives you a sense of belonging and purpose, it changes with experience and is something that we are constantly navigating,” she says.

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“I remember distinctly the moment when I realised that I had to escape this corporate beast before it consumed me,” David says. “I was standing up at a regular meeting with my office staff, delivering a message I did not believe in. “This wasn’t me. It made me re-evaluate what I wanted from my career and indeed my life.”

As a high moreexecutiverankingmanagingthan200staffand five offices at the world’s largest travel company, David Mannix was undoubtedly the textbook definition of success. But he turned his back on it all in 2017.

David’s story is becoming moreOncecommon.upona time having a career involved finding a job and staying there until the day youTheseretired.days, more and more people are walking away from established, successful careers to tackle a passion project or pursue a dream. In fact, of the one million Australians who changed employers or the business they ran in the past year, more than half made the move into a completely different industry or occupation, according to the 2018 Participation, Job Search and Mobility Survey. If the first part of your career was a resounding success, what can you expect from the second act?

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Ultimately, this realisation was the catalyst for his decision to start the Arcadia Expeditions travel company. For former university academic turned doula and Birthaims founder Aimee Sing, the seed to explore a different career path was planted during her first pregnancy.

Considering a big career change?

Barack Obama worked as a lawyer before becoming a senator, smoothiebecameYearsUSeventuallyandthepresident.beforeshetheAussiequeen, Boost Janineco-founderJuiceAllis worked for two years as a Caribbean.MonacoFrance,travellingstarstewardessyachtforrockDavidBowie,throughItaly,andthe talk to people of all ages in that industry. Speak to someone who’s been in the industry for two or three years, someone who’s been in it for say 10 to 15, and someone who’s been in it for 30-plus years, then you get a range of ideas and perspectives,” career counsellor John Taccori says. But what about all the skills you have already built up? “I really believe that no one wastes their skills, their knowledge. And when they move to a new career, they always bring that knowledge with them. We just transfer those skills in new situations,”

Dr Taccori Ultimately,says.daunting as it may be, you just might find your new role becomes the high point of your working life.

“I was so much more interested and invested in pregnancy, birth and mothering than I was in my PhD topic,” Aimee says. After an experienceempoweringbirthingher second child, she says she was hooked on the experience of bringing new life into the world and set about making the change. Making the move Delve into the mechanics of pivoting and develop a plan; these are the most important things you can do before a change in direction. Leaving a successful career can be daunting, so it pays to know exactly what you’re in for. If you’re striking out on your own, Adele suggests starting your new job as a side project at first. This allows you to work on drumming up potential business and gives you the time to get the foundations of your business in place. Additionally, you can also Second acts

“When you find that career calling that’s when you really start finding career happiness, fulfilment and satisfaction,” Adele says. It’s something with which Aimee“Onceagrees.Istarted down this path it just felt right. I was happier, felt more fulfilled and really felt called into this work. I enjoy it so much that it doesn’t feel like I am ‘working’ — it is my soul-work,” she says.

For career coach Adele Leah, helping her clients to find their driving force is the first step in beginning their second act.

Finding your why

“I enjoyed the feeling of climbing the ladder and making a success of my career,” he says. “Yet the higher I got, the less happy I became ... Yes, there is job security and recognition, but at what price are these worth to you as a person if you are doing it for the wrong reasons?”

A recent worldwide Gallup poll found 85 per cent of the world’s one billion full-time workers were unhappy with their jobs.

Meanwhile, a study conducted by Ohio State University researchers found those with career dissatisfaction in their 20s and 30s report having more issues with sleep, anxiety and depression later in life. So, it’s no surprise that we are increasingly looking for other ways to achieve career satisfaction.

“It’s about really digging deep about what you want. What’s going to make you happy? What’s your version of success,” AdeleWheresays.David was concerned, he soon realised his career success didn’t necessarily align with his vision of what being successful meant.

“Look into that sort of role,

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Still a hoot

“I always find that if we’re all laughing at home and we can all see the fun in just about everything, then we’ll get through any hard times,” he says.Scrolling through his social media, it looks like Jimmy has the parenting caper figured out. But he’s the first to admit that behind the scenes he has stressful moments just like any mum and dad. “I get frustrated, I get annoyed, and I raise my voice sometimes,” Jimmy says. “But I take a step back and go, ‘hey, these kids are growing up, they’re learning. It’s a monkey see, monkey do kind of thing’, so I’ve got to be a role model; otherwise, if I go crazy, then they’re going to go crazy. You’ve got to keep that front of Lookingmind.”back, Jimmy says he and his wife, Tori, used laughter a lot in the early days of raising their twin boys. The pair were

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The 34-year-old is adopting the same approach when it comes to raising his own brood.

The House of Wellness It’s 6am, and Jimmy Rees’ eldest son is asking for pizza for breakfast — a scene most parents know all too well.

But Jimmy deftly serves up some cereal with plenty of laughs to Lenny, 6, and twins Mack and Vinny, 2. The video uploaded to Jimmy’s Instagram and TikTok accounts — where he now has almost 700,000 followers combined — is just one of the delightful examples of Jimmy’s parenting philosophy: always keep it fun. “I grew up with heaps of humour and laughter,” he“Mysays.dad and mum were dags, and they put everything into us as “I’vekids.got two brothers, and we were watchingalways Monty Python or playing outside — just being silly and having fun.”

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Posts including a five-minute clip of him saying yes to his son for a day, and his genius Meanwhile in Australia pandemic videos are among those to go viral.

On TikTok the catalogue has now amassed 10 million views, and Jimmy is building on the success with a live tour next year. It will include skits, audience participation and an appearance of The Guy Who Decides and his poor underling, Jason.

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“I started videoing on my iPhone. It was so surprising to see how people resonated with a couple of the parenting videos I put out first.

“I think timing has got a lot to do with it. Everyone was stuck at home. Everyone was online on their phones a lot more, and I kind of just hit the sweet spot. It was something for people to have a laugh at through that crappy time.”

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Mack made a full recovery, but then several months later, the Covid-19 pandemic hit — proving you just can’t tell where  life will lead, Jimmy says.

“Everyone was stuck at home ... online on their phones a lot more, and I kind of just hit the sweet spot.”

“All those little worries, those things that you think are huge, they just go away. He could have been gone, and that would have changed our lives forever.”

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It was during this time Jimmy picked up his iPhone and started making observational comedy videos. The relatable skits struck a chord, and he has become a social media star. “I’ve always wanted to do my own content, but I couldn’t really do that as a children’s entertainer,” Jimmy says. “I guess the pandemic just gave me a bit of a push.

dealing with sleep deprivation and endless nappy changes. During that time, the couple also almost lost their then seven-week-old son Mack after a complication during a routine tongue tie procedure.

A main blood vessel was accidentally cut and Mack then had to be resuscitated on the operating table. “I was in Dancing with the Stars at the time, and for the first time my dancing was going really good; it was one of those weeks where everything clicked. “Then suddenly, we were in some sort of crazy nightmare.

“It’s early days but, hopefully, it’ll make some people laugh,” he says.

“It just opens your eyes to the preciousness of life,” Jimmy says.

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Believing breath is medicine, the walks also include breath work and mindfulness exercises “and the barriers come down”, he says.

“We’re creating a safe space where they can be seen and heard without judgment. It’s like a permission slip to share.”

“I thought then that even though I was predominantly coaching women as a personal trainer, that I could create a oneday workshop to help men.”

Man on a mission

“We hope that through connection we’re able to build community, and that through a sense of community we’re able to create a stronger, better culture and way of living.

WHAT STARTED AS A WALK IN NATURE ON THE GOLD COAST HINTERLAND HAS BECOME A POWERFUL MOVEMENT FOR HELPING MEN, WOMEN AND COUPLES LIVE THEIR BEST LIVES their purpose,” the fitness coach says of the program.

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“The raw emotion and expression captured, sparked something,” Lino recalls.

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The third and final part of the puzzle fell into place when they returned to do the same 20km walk with a small group of men. A video taken along the way was posted online and went viral. In two years Mens Medicine has exploded in popularity, with walks and workshops now held for men, women and couples across Australia and New

CLOCKWISE FROM ABOVE: The nature walks can include men and women; Lino Hola and his daughter Kayilah face each other during one of the experiences; Lino went for a walk with a mate and Mens Medicine was born; The Holas: Lino, Kayilah, Ocean (now aged 1) and wife Sarah.

The medicinebest In Australia the statistics show one in eight men will experience depression and one in five anxiety. Men also make up an average seven out of nine suicides every day in Australia.

“We started getting messages from men everywhere about doing walks in their cities, and from that one video Mens Medicine was born.”

“If less men are taking their lives, if there’s less divorce, less domestic violence — if those things which are tearing society apart are decreasing in even a small way and men are taking better care of themselves and their families, we’re doing our part.”

“We’re creating a safe space where they can be seen and heard judgment.withoutIt’slikeapermissionsliptoshare.”

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“The first was talking to a guy at the gym who had lost his wife,” Lino, 38, says. “I could see the impact of his loss was still affecting him years later.

The dad of two from Queensland’s Broadbeach says the second trigger was a walk he took with a friend in the Gold Coast hinterland. “As we were out there my mate said to me, ‘Brother, we need to get more men out on walks like this’, and that’s where the idea started.”

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Health and fitness coach Lino Hola says three lightbulb moments led him to create Mens Medicine, a wellbeing support organisation that prides itself on creating a safe space for men to talk and connect while walking in nature.

Lino believes it was the image of a group of big, strong men against the backdrop of lush rainforest allowing themselves to be vulnerable that struck a chord.

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“Our workshops start off as a walk with strangers in nature but people come back as brothers,” Lino says.

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World Economic Forum’s Global Gender Gap Index for 2021, followed by Finland, Norway and New Zealand. Afghanistan, at No.156, is the worst performer. In Australia, we have seen globally significant wins for women’s rights at select points in our history. For example, in 1902 we became the first country in the world to give most women the right to vote and the right to stand for national parliament.

“We’ve slipped in rankings for gender equality, from 15th in the world in 2006 to 50th in the world this year. We’re going backwards.” Iceland is doing the best with equality,gendersittingatNo.1onthe

The House of Wellness 45 in focus There was a time when Australian women were banned from drinking in the same public bars as men. In protest, feminist activist Merle Thornton — mother of Sigrid, who would grow up to be one of our best-loved actresses — chained herself to the foot rail of the public bar at Brisbane’s Regatta Hotel. This marvellously defiant act, in 1965 with friend Rosalie Bogner, cast a spotlight on the lack of women’s rights when it came to drinking in pubs. But another ruling at the time was just as shocking: women were forced to resign from jobs in the public service and some companies when they married. Are you thinking that was decades ago, and we’re doing so well with women’s rights now? Maybe you should think again, feminist social commentator Jane Caro says. “We’re doing unbelievably poorly with women’s rights,” says the straight-talking On the list The top women’s rights issues in DespojaNatashaaccordingAustralia,toStott 1Prevent violence against and childrenwomen 2Get women, from backgrounds,all of powerinto positions 3Close genderthe pay gap 4Achieve workplace equality and respect 5 freeuniversal,Securechildcare

But former South Australian senator Natasha Stott Despoja, who has spent her life working for gender equality, points out, “in Australia, we have this bizarre paradox where we once led the world in so many areas of women’s rights and yet we have not maintained that pace of change, which is depressing”. According to the latest figures from the Australian Bureau of Statistics, Australian — the largest difference being dentistry: women get $79,300 compared to $90,000 for men. But women continue to make gains in some areas. They are more likely than men to have at least a bachelor degree. In the public sector, they now occupy 48.6 per cent of senior leadership roles and outnumber men in middle-management roles (52.2 per cent). And 37 per cent of Commonwealth justices and judges are now women. Mary Crooks is the executive director of the Victorian Women’s Trust, an Australian feminist organisation. In Destination Equality, an essay in Fragility and Hope in a World of Uncertainty, published by Future Leaders, she writes while there have been impressive achievements in women’s rights over time, “there remain significant barriers to achieving gender equality”. According to Mary those barriers are a political system in which women are in the minority; a workforce that advantages men, who have fewer domestic responsibilities; and “powerful, deep-seated sexist beliefs that deem women subordinate, as well as objectifying them”. When Natasha was 26, she became the youngest woman to sit in our federal parliament, “... we once led the world in so many areas of women’s rights and yet we have not maintained that pace of change ...” — Natasha Stott Despoja women are about five times more likely to be victims of sexual assault than men. Women’s full-time average weekly wages are 86 per cent that of men, and managers are almost twice as likely to be men than women. For graduates of most fields of study, females are paid less than their male counterparts TV show regular and Accidental Feminists author.

recognition“Womenhavechangedbeyondall—intheiraspirationsandthewaytheyfeeltheyhavearighttooccupyspaceintheworld.”

“I was born in Sierra Leone and grew up in a refugee camp in Gambia.

The biggest difficulties I’ve faced have been the lack of government commitment and investment in protecting Australian girls from FGM, the backlash from my community, the threats against me and my son, and the impact of reliving my trauma over and over again to bring a human face  to this issue.

“In Australia, there’s been extraordinary momentum with women’s rights in the past few months,” Natasha says. That extraordinary momentum in the wake of the #MeToo global movement can be seen in the March4Justice rallies, former Liberal staffer Brittany Higgins going public about allegedly being raped in Parliament House and Australian of the Year Grace Tame speaking out about sexual abuse.

“Now, women have changed beyond all recognition — in their aspirations and the way they feel they have a right to occupy space in the world. I have a lot of hope.”

First person where she successfully fought for legislation such as paid maternity leave. Now a member of the United Nations’ Committee on the Elimination of Discrimination Against Women, she says it’s important we don’t lose hope.

In Australia, we have 200,000 survivors of FGM, and 11 girls a day are at risk. FGM is physical, mental and sexual violence, and I have dedicated my life for the past 20 years to fighting and raising awareness of this act, which is illegal in Australia and a gross violation of the rights of women and girls.

—JaneCaro

KHADIJA GBLA, 33, IS AN MUTILATIONFEMALEAGAINSTCAMPAIGNSACTIVISTWOMEN’SAUSTRALIANAFRICAN-RIGHTSWHOGENITAL(FGM).

While we still, seemingly, have far to go, Jane has a positive outlook, thanks in part to a profound shift in the way Australian women now think about themselves. “In the ’60s, I think most women had internalised sexism. They believed they were inferior. They were groomed to have lesser lives,” Jane says.

It was here, when I was nine, that my mum paid someone to subject me to FGM, which is the partial or total removal of external female genitalia, usually for religious, cultural or sexual control reasons. And this experience became the catalyst for my activism when I came to Australia at 13.

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The biggest reward is knowing I have protected countless girls, supported survivors and trained professionals who now feel confident providing culturally appropriate care for FGM survivors. I am saving lives and changing generations through my work.”

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To be considered a role model for other young Aboriginal people is an honour. If I can inspire and motivate them to dream big and chase their dreams it would mean the world to me. What advice do you have for other young people? Believe in yourself, work hard and never give up.

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In 2019, I decided to seriously pursue modelling. I submitted my digitals to Priscilla’s Model Management who I thought were the perfect fit for me. Soon after I was signed and bought a one-way ticket to Sydney and the rest is history.  If not modelling, what else? I was also very involved in sport and dreamed of being an Olympic track and field athlete or playing for the Diamonds national netball team. Fun fact: When I was nine years old I received my black belt in karate!  You’re just 21 — what would it mean to you to make it overseas? Transitioning overseas to focus on modelling is my main focus right now. Covid has found a way of making this difficult, however, I know that my time will come soon and I am more than ready.

Did you always want to be a model?

In our busy modern lives, we’re all on a journey to adapt to keep up and keep well. I was born in The Kimberley, away from the stress of the world, and share Wanderlust’s belief that when we live in tune with nature, we can tap into her wisdom. How do you manage your self-care? I’m a real go with the flow kind of person and try to leave some spontaneity to the day but naturally always prioritise self-care first thing in the morning. I love to listen to the waves nearby, go for a run or meditate to kick-start my day. I then always add the Wanderlust Collagen Booster and Wanderlust Prebiotic Gut Goodness powders to my morning breakfast smoothie. I find if I start my day right ... I always feel my best. Would you describe yourself as spiritual?  Definitely. I have always felt in tune with my intuition and feel the spiritual guidance of my ancestors every day. Having grown up in a remote Indigenous community surrounded by traditional elders, culture and nature, I feel that it gave me a special connection to the land and a different perspective on life. How do you unwind?

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“Having grown up in a remote Indigenous community ... I feel that it gave me a special connection to the land and a different perspective on life.”

From as far back as I can remember, becoming a model was a huge dream of mine and I knew that with hard work, dedication and self-belief, I could make it my reality. As a child I had an obsession with collecting Vogue magazines and scrapbooking my favourite models and fashion trends. I started modelling classes for fun when I was six and instantly fell in love with it. I am beyond grateful and feel so lucky that everything has happened so quickly with the help and support of my family, friends and wonderful mother. I am very goal oriented and this is only the beginning.

You’re a Wanderlust paid ambassador. How does the brand align with your own values?

How were discovered?you

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I find that the best way to unwind is by submerging myself in the ocean, getting some fresh air and practising mindfulness through exercise and meditation.

I remind myself every day not to forget where I come from. I use this as a tool to help motivate and push myself to keep working hard. Not only do I do this for myself but my family and community back home. It keeps me humble and grateful for every opportunity that comes my way.

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When did MND become a reality?

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I was diagnosed with MND in mid-2013 but I started to notice something wasn’t right in late 2012. I started to have issues with my right hand. I’d lost a bit of grip strength and I was fumbling with simple tasks — like putting the car key in the ignition. Family and friends had also noticed a soft slur in my speech and I began to trip over words when I spoke. It wasn’t until I sought out the medical staff at the West Coast Eagles (where I was general manager of football operations at the time), that the tests began and after months, ultimately ended with a diagnosis of MND. What has MND taught you? Being diagnosed with MND has taught me how important your attitude is when dealing with adversity. No matter what happens, it’s up to you to do something about it. MND is a beast. There is no effective treatment or cure but I never believed that there was nothing I could do. When I was first diagnosed, I had a choice. The negative thoughts began to nag away at me, ‘this is the dismal reality’, ‘you can’t sugar coat this one’, ‘you’re a goner’. But as I started to think of (my wife) Jan and the kids, I made an overwhelming resolution that a victim attitude was only going to make things worse for my family, my mates and infinitely worse for me. MND has taught me that we are all hardwired to find a way to not only survive but to thrive. I found resilience — a way to ‘Play On’ and fight back. I also knew I couldn’t fight this alone — life is a team game after all. What is your advice to those facing similar challenges? When life throws you something like MND, it’s often not clear what to do. It is confronting and hard. You can feel like there are no options. But you must summon the courage to wrestle back control and not allow yourself to be a victim. Battling The Beast is exhausting, disheartening and a constant challenge. But when life gets difficult, and you think it’s a train wreck, look for the opportunities. There are always opportunities. Mine was to fight back and help make other people’s lives better. Find those moments of humour, joy and peace, enjoy life where you can and embrace the support of your family and friends. How did football help you to tackle the obstacles you are facing?

Playing, coaching and working in football for many years has taught me resilience. While life can have many highs, it also comes with countless setbacks, adversity and failures. But it’s how you react to life’s challenges and the team you surround yourself with that really matters. From my family and friends to the incredible FightMND Army, knowing I have

The community’s enormous support has been inspiring and overwhelming. We would never have been able to achieve what we have without the amazing support of the FightMND Army. We don’t know when the big breakthrough will come, but when it does, every person who bought a beanie or donated to FightMND through Daniher’s Drive, the Big Freeze, the 27 Challenge or at any other time, will know they played a valuable role in making it happen. Together we have formed a community, determined to fight back and end the suffering of those living with MND. Did you imagine you would receive an AO medal? Growing up in country NSW, an Order of Australia Medal was never in my thoughts. It’s an honour to be recognised but choosing to fight back against MND was never about awards. Life is a team game, so I like to think of the award as one for my family. I dedicated the AO to my family — to Jan, Lauren, Mick, Luke, Jess, Bec, Drew, Ben, Maddi, Cooper and Rosie. Their love and support have sustained and powered me. It’s difficult to bear witness to a progressive terminal disease, but their presence by my side is so important. My entire family, especially the grandkids, Cooper and Rosie, remind me every day to focus on what I have in my life, not what I haven’t.

What is FightMND’s goal? FightMND’s goal from the start has been a world without MND. When I was diagnosed with MND, we knew so little about it.

The House of Wellness 53 MAINFROMCLOCKWISEPHOTOGRAPHY, CAIRDDAVIDHAMILTON,FIONACARRAFA,TIM my life a team of people who back me through every challenge and obstacle makes fighting back a whole lot easier. What’s your achievementproudesttodate?

CLOCKWISE FROM LEFT: Neale Daniher with granddaughter Rosie; with son Ben’s partner Maddi, daughter Bec, son Ben, son-in-law Michael, Rosie and wife Jan; relaxing at home with Jan.

Outside of my family, I have been very proud of what FightMND has achieved. In seven years, we’ve rallied an army, committed $48.4m into research, invested nearly $5m in care equipment and been a voice for people who want to fight The Beast. People living with MND now have more opportunities to participate in research or clinical trials throughout Australia. It is proof of the accelerating progress we are making to end MND.

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A cornerstone of Daniher’s Drive is fundraising and since the first staging of the event in 2015, millions of dollars have been raised by the participants through their team fundraising efforts. The best way to support Daniher’s Drive is to purchase a ticket in The Daniher’s Drive car raffle. You’ll go into the draw to win a brand-new Renault Koleos Intens, valued at $53,000. All funds raised from the raffle go directly towards vital MND research.

What energises you to keep fighting? Being part of a cause that is bigger than me gives me purpose and a meaning to live and fight. Fighting The Beast is not just about me, it’s about people and helping make other people’s lives better. The Beast has not been beaten so I will keep finding a way to fight, and to have fun while doing it.

There had been little research, there were no treatments and no cure. On top of that, very few people had even heard of MND. It was our goal to put MND in the spotlight and urge people to take up the fight for viable treatments and an ultimate cure. I wanted to provide hope for those diagnosed in the future. I wanted to do it by having fun ... doing things like the Big Freeze and Daniher’s Drive. As my family and I quickly discovered, you are capable of far more than you think and FightMND has shown this. FightMND has become one of the largest independent funders of MND research not only in Australia but globally. Our investments include 11 clinical trials and 17 drug development projects — projects that will help us achieve our goal of beating The Beast. After a record-breaking Big Freeze 7, we are also set to make another significant investment into research later this year.

As a family we’ve learnt that life is fragile and all the possible beautiful things in your life are not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, so look out for them and enjoy them when they arrive. Where is Daniher’s Drive going this year? This year’s Daniher’s Drive* will travel through Myrtleford, Lakes Entrance and Warragul, over four days, to support these resilient regional communities as they recover from bushfires and the economic impact of the Covid-19 pandemic.

“I knew I wanted to do something health orientated but the reason I chose pharmacy is because I would always be accessible to the public and to patients,” she says. Olenka got her first “on-thejob” experience while she was to nurture students and early career pharmacists, something she takes seriously.

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Little wonder the 34-yearold manager of Chemist Warehouse Kedron took home the company’s inaugural Mario Verrocchi National Pharmacist of the Year Award in 2020.

She also enjoys scuba diving — “when the water is warmer” — and boxing, as well as grabbing a coffee at her local cafe when out walking the dogs.. For the future, Olenka is inspired by the theme of this year’s World Pharmacists Day on September 25: “Always trusted for your health”. “We provide a good balance of everything and people do look for that, being able to access all of those services. Whatever my patients are experiencing, I want to be able to help.”

Described by the Chemist Warehouse CEO after whom the award is named as “a standout” who’s “made an exemplary contribution to patient care and community pharmacy more broadly”, Olenka says she has always been interested in science and health.

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The House of Wellness 55 She is a fan of scuba diving and boxing, but for community pharmacist Olenka Szewczyk, supporting patients’ health is her driving force

While advances in science and technology mean that many medicines are now produced by pharmaceutical companies, it also means, that with more drugs and drug treatment options available, there’s an increasing role for community pharmacists.“Whatwedo is way more than preparing and dispensing prescriptions. It’s about making people’s lives better every day through patient care, research and education,” Olenka says. “You might be talking to patients about how their drugs will interact, giving advice about side effects or warning about possible allergic reactions.

At the time of her award, Olenka was also lauded for her care, passion and ability

“The ability to be a support person, someone for them to touch base with and to be able to provide encouragement and respond to questions, it’s really rewarding,” she says with a smile.

Changing role The days of a pharmacist’s work resembling that of an ancient alchemist, mixing ingredients to form powders, tablets, capsules and ointments, are long gone.

Theremedyright still at uni, at Chemist Warehouse in Beenleigh, before taking up an internship with the company.

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The most rewarding days for Olenka Szewczyk are when she solves questions around health concerns for her patients.

Future goals In her downtime, Olenka is kept busy with the two dogs she shares with carpenter husband Scott — Rhodesian ridgeback Zola and Belgian Malinois Igloo.

“I love the relationships I’ve built with my patients and their families,” the Brisbane-based community pharmacist says. “If they bring in a question that I don’t know, I’ll take it home with me and research it so that I can help the next day. Contributing to better health outcomes is a really big driver for me and something I’m passionate about.”

“Chemist Warehouse is really good about exploring new modalities and services, things like offering immunisations, which I’ve been trained in, and Covid vaccinations.”

Not to burst your bubble, but it’s likely the kids will still be at home; you could be working full time to pay off your mortgage; and, on top of that, your hitherto healthy, fit parents might now require your care. Welcome to the sandwich generation: typically, people in their 40s and 50s sandwiched between the twin demands of caring for their children, plus their ageing parents.

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Flinders University’s College of Education, Psychology and Social Work researcher and educator Dr Helen McLaren Social analyst Mark McCrindle says it’s a growing demographic and “most of us will now end up in the sandwich at some point”.

So, what does all this mean for the meat in the sandwich — the middle-aged parents?

“There can be earnings impairment if you cut back on your work to care for a parent, concerns about When you’re in your 30s and deep in the trenches of raising a family while working, you might occasionally pop your head over the parapet and imagine what life will be like as you head into middle age. Surely, a golden era of less stress as your kids become young adults and you reduce your work hours for a little more “me time”.

“And chances are you still have a mortgage, a career requiring a bit of care and maybe community generation,facedhasShawchiefRelationshipsresponsibility.”AustraliaNSWexecutiveElisabethsaysthepandemicintensifiedthepressuresbythesandwichwithhouseholds becoming busier. “Some adult children moved back home — some with their young children, too. Some of the older generation also moved in. There can be four generations in the one house,” Elisabeth says.

how to help the children as they work through university or job pathways, and worries about how your parents are navigating ageing,” Mark says.

SANDWICHED BETWEEN CARING FOR CHILDREN AND AGEING PARENTS, MORE PEOPLE ARE FEELING THE MIDDLE-AGE BLUES

“The median age of a woman giving birth in Australia today is about 31. And that means a couple will have dependant children at the same time as their own parents are getting elderly,” Mark says. And the kids are hanging around for longer. A generation ago, they typically left home in their late teens or early 20s. Now, many stay on because of further study and unaffordable housing. Meanwhile, the elderly are living longer and ageing in their homes.

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First person says the sandwich generation is broadening in age and acquiring more enablebutlookingactuallygeneration“Weresponsibilities.nowhaveasandwichofwomenwhoareretiringandnotonlyaftertheirageingparentsalsotheirgrandchildrentotheirchildrentowork,” Dr McLaren says. She says it is vital caregivers look after their own wellbeing and consider sharing the load, a sentiment echoed by Elisabeth.

The pandemic has intensified the pressures faced by the sandwich generation, with households becoming busier.

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“When I was younger, it never occurred to me I would need to provide such a level of care for my parents. They were indestructible.

“My biggest challenge is juggling a busy household on top of keeping an eye on my parents and making sure they have the support they need. That support isn’t just physical, such as washing, groceries and meals, it’s also companionship.

“It’s always possible to create a moment of change, even if routines seem to have become entrenched,” Elisabeth says. “Sometimes, people say something loose like, ‘I just want everybody to help more’, but that’s ill-defined and can lead nowhere. Ask specifically. Consider creating rosters for things such as preparing dinner and cleaning bathrooms. That tends to be much moreWhilesuccessful.”thislifestage is undoubtedly pressured, it’s not necessarily all doom and gloom. It can also be special, with families pulling together and looking after each other. “It may be the final time you spend with elderly parents,” Elisabeth says. “And it may cement a relationship between grandparents and grandchildren that everyone will always remember. This time can be hugely consolidating of relationships.”

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“My kids are aged 16 to 20 and my parents, who don’t live together, are 86. Being in the sandwich generation, I have seen my stress levels increase significantly,” Georgia says.

“My advice to others is to prepare yourself in advance so it doesn’t creep up on you and you can support your parents in the way they want to age, but still do what you need to get done yourself. Also, teach your children from a young age how to contribute to the

“Therehousehold.aredefinite positives to being in the sandwich generation. It has brought me closer to my parents. It’s also very valuable for the younger generation to see you being kind and compassionate to the older generation — they learn empathy and a sense of community.”

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“In terms of relationships, what we see is a gradual distancing and a loss of closeness,” Briony explains.

Psychologist Briony Leo, from relationship wellness app Relish, says we lose a powerful social tool without face-to-face interaction.

“And by conversation I mean a two-way interaction where you were open to exploring the topic at hand, rather than airing your own views and opinions? Using this criteria, there’s a high probability that for most people it was a while ago,” she says. It’s an interesting question and one increasingly being asked in a world where technology, not to mention a global pandemic, is slowly slaying our ability to converse. And it’s costing us dearly, negotiation expert Sam Trattles“We’vesays.become keyboard warriors,” the author of I Love Negotiating says. “People are so interesting, but with so many of our relationships through text or email, we’re missing out on this wonderful opportunity to get to know each other better.”

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“When was the last time you had a real conversation with someone,” wellness and success coach Georgia Bamber asks.

“Face-to-face interactions are the most natural and most rewarding of all social interactions. They allow us to connect with others, open up, process how we’re feeling, share our experiences.”

“In our recent Relationship Health Survey, a large proportion of people said they felt ignored and rejected by their partner due to their mobile phone use.

A lot of it is due to the fact that “most of us are pretty bad listeners”, says Georgia, the author of Achieve Anything You Want “We get no formal training in how to listen, people just muddle their way through,” she says. “You learn how to read and write and speak but no one teaches you how to listen.”

“We get no formal training in how to listen, people just muddle their way

4Try “would you rather” If you feel you know everything there is to know about your partner and there are no surprises left in conversation, try asking deeper questions and really listen to the answers, Briony says. “Even ‘would you rathers’, which are unpredictable and thought-provoking and allow you to see your partner anew, leading to deeper connection and intellectual stimulation,” she suggests.

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“Every negotiation can be made smoother by making a conscious decision to listen more intently,” she says.

“It’s all about relationships and improving your conversational opportunities and being a better listener is the biggest facet of that,” Georgia says. “It greatly improves your ability to do your job. It leads to better collaboration. We often miss what is going on around us when all we want to do is shine. If people feel heard, you’ll make stronger connections and grow your social networks.” Sam agrees and says “great listeners are also great negotiators”.

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Engaging in conversation, particularly with those you don’t know, can be confronting, Sam says, but don’t be put off. “There might be an awkward moment to start with where it feels like it’s me versus you, but very quickly it becomes about ‘us’,” she says.

— Georgia Bamber

BE A GOOD LISTENER

Focus “People engage in conversations thinking their brain doesn’t need to attend,” Georgia says. “Rein in your thoughts and refocus. Don’t interrupt, let people speak. Don’t be afraid of silences. Ask clarifying questions. Give a summation and keep checking in.”

3Think about intention Georgia suggests thinking about what’s behind the words. “If you’re having a conversation with someone, think about the intention of what they’re saying, the thoughts and feelings they’re having. Reflect on what’s going on with them so you’re more compassionate and less reactionary. And as my mother would always say, ask people about themselves!”

“Asking good questions, looking for body language cues and thinking ‘what about you’ is your greatest currency in helping to get what you want with ease.”

It was the Greek philosopher Epictetus who said “we have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak”, a sentiment with which Georgia agrees. “Most of the interactions that we call conversations are something else altogether — fact-finding missions, attempts to persuade, time to show off, a chance to score points or complain, an opportunity to gossip and the list could go on,” she“Studiessays. suggest that while 70 to 80 per cent of our waking hours are spent in some form of communication, we only absorb 25 to 35 per cent of what we’reBest-sellingtold.” author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen Covey puts it like this: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

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“I think when you feel good, you look good. I like to wear a nice suit that’s tailored, and I work with different stylists so it’s always a bit of a collaboration. I never just put something on I’m told to wear,” he says.

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“For me, it’s more to do with what’s an interesting character. Because these characters are thousands of years old ... you’re playing someone who’s seen everything, done everything, lived for thousands of years. What are they like now and how do they interact with the world? Are they jaded or do they find the joy in everything?” he says. These days, Richard wears his confidence like a well-fitted suit and appears on numerous best-dressed lists for his red carpet looks.

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Richard’s latest film Eternals, which hits theatres and streaming services in November, stars an ensemble cast including Angelina Jolie, Gemma Chan and Salma Hayek, and reunites him with Game of Thrones costar and friend Kit Harington. While the superhero blockbuster is an irrefutable career milestone for the actor, that’s not what drew him to the project.

“It’s also about looking after yourself, whether I’m taking care of my skin or if I’m smelling good, then that’s one less thing to worry about on the red carpet. I think it’s important that people look after themselves.”

A man of action and attraction, actor Richard Madden believes in taking care of himself — and he shines in the role

According to the 35-year-old, the DEFY experience was tied to a nostalgic memory that has now come full circle.

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From an intimate bedroom sequence to hanging off a crane above a lake over England, performing the majority of his own stunt work in recent projects came in handy for Richard while shooting DEFY’s campaign video.

“It’s cool to be the face of a fragrance because that’s a new thing for me. It was really good fun (to shoot). I wasn’t trapped in a studio taking pictures, we got to play around with stuff,” Richard says.

Described as a woody aromatic, DEFY features top notes of bergamot and lavender, middle notes of vetiver and a base note of amber, with the fragrance now available exclusively at Chemist Warehouse.

WORDS CHARLOTTE BRUNDRETT And that’s why he plays his latest role as fragrance ambassador for Calvin Klein’s newest scent DEFY so perfectly.

“It’s like any skill where the more you do it then hopefully the better you become at it. So I have a confidence in my work and my work ethic and I suppose that helps me get over a bunch of things,” he says.

“CK ONE was actually the first fragrance I ever had when I was a kid, so it’s cool to be working with them now,” Richard says. “I’ve always been into fragrances; they’re just a beautiful finishing touch at the start or end of your day.”

Richard Madden has won a Golden Globe, starred in the biggest television franchise of our time and is about to make his superhero debut in the Marvel universe. So it’s hard to believe the ruggedly handsome Scotsman initially took up acting to build his confidence.

“Stunts can be nerve wracking, but I was filming Eternals at the time and my character can fly, so I was really used to being on ropes and hanging up in the air, which meant the process was dialled into me,” he says. “It was really good fun (to shoot). I

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The House of Wellness 65 SOMETHINGINTHEAIR WORDS GRATHMLIZC WITH SPRING COMES POLLENS AND ALLERGENS THAT CAN TRIGGER HAY FEVER AND ASTHMA. WHILE LIVING WITH ALLERGIES CAN BE A CHALLENGE, THERE ARE PLENTY OF WAYS TO MINIMISE YOUR MISERY.

One of the preventativeseasiestistocheck the pollen count, Dr Roberts says.

Staying on top of the pollen count

Allergy and Anaphylaxis Australia health management educator Wendy Freeman says despite its common name, hay fever is rarely caused by hay and doesn’t cause a fever! “It’s caused by allergens, like pollen, as well as dust mites, moulds and animal hair and skin coming into contact with your eyes and nose,” she says. “And while for some it can come and go, for others it can impact sleep, concentration and normal day-to-day life.”

Hay treatmentfever options You should seek advice from your pharmacist or doctor about medications to relieve hay fever symptoms, which will sometimes mean multiple treatments, WendyThesesays.can include nonsedating antihistamines (tablets, syrups, nasal sprays, eye drops), intranasal corticosteroid (INCS) sprays, sprays containing a combination of INCS and antihistamine, salt water nasal sprays and rinses.

“There are a range of online sites and apps that forecast the risk of pollen in the atmosphere in your area, including on the National Asthma Council website,” Dr Roberts says. “Look at the forecast ahead so you can manage your exposure as much as possible on days when the count is high.

The Australian government says while symptoms of hay fever and asthma can be similar to Covid-19: ✱ fever doesn’t occur with hay fever or allergic asthma ✱ itchy nose, itchy and watery eyes and itchy throat and palate are common symptoms of hay fever but not coronavirus However, if you have symptoms that are in any way different to what you usually experience with hay fever or asthma, you should get tested for coronavirus and stay at home until you get your results.

“If you have hay fever and you’re exposed to particular pollens, your body thinks it’s a threat and triggers an allergic reaction by releasing a chemical known as histamine,”

While there is no cure for hay fever, there are many safe and effective treatments.

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Red, itchy eyes, a runny or stuff y nose, sneezing and an itchy throat and palate.

“Also, try to be sensible about avoiding activities like mowing the grass and hanging out the sheets on high-pollen days to avoid the chance of exposure, and avoid picnics in the park.”

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Up to 18 per cent of Aussie kids are also thought to be affected by hay fever, the most common allergic disorder in Australia.

Other suggestions include using re-circulated air in your car when pollen levels are high, taking a shower after activities where you might have been exposed and rinsing your eyes regularly with cold water to flush away pollen.

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“Minimising your exposure to allergens can also help to reduce symptoms, so stay indoors when it’s windy and during thunderstorms if possible and keep the windows closed.

For Australia’s 4.6 million hay fever sufferers, spring can be the worst time of the year as minuscule pollens from grasses, weeds and trees fill the air.

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More than a third of Aussies are vitamin D deficient and may be putting their bone health at risk,

The amount of moderateintensity exercise, such as walking, adults need each week to help prevent high blood pressure, according to a new us study.

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“It’s also important to have an up-to-date hay fever or asthma action plan and to follow it,” Dr Roberts says.

Allergen immunotherapy, also known as desensitisation, is a long-term treatment carried out over three to five years and can teach the immune systems how to be less sensitive to an allergen — through injections, tablets or drops under the tongue.

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“For more severe symptoms you may need to see an allergy specialist for assessment, including allergy testing,” Wendy says.

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Drinking with your mates could be bad for your health. Aussie and international researchers found hanging around a bigger group of friends was associated with more hourly drinking, while participants consumed less alcohol when at home or at a friend’s place with fewer mates present.

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If you’re struggling to get your kids to eat their vegies try doubling the helping. A US study has found adding more vegies to their plates resulted in children consuming more at the meal. In Australia it is recommended children aged 4-8 years should eat four and a half serves of vegies a day.

68 The House of Wellness health wise YOURSAVESLEEP (and your relationship) Up all night due to your partner’s snoring, restlessness or confl icting bedtime schedule? Experts share why sleep divorce may be the slumber solution of your dreams WORDS JENNA MEADE

Finding the recommended seven to nine hours of sleep a night is often already a challenge without added distractions.SleepHealth Foundation research shows more than half of adult Australians suffer from at least one chronic sleep symptom, such as trouble falling or staying asleep. When sharing is not so caring Sydney sleep expert Dr Carmel Harrington lists sleep apnoea, shiftwork temperaturerestlessnessschedules,anddifferingpreferences as the most common sleep stealers in the bedrooms of AustralianFollowingcouples.successful sleep divorces, her clients report back with better quality sleep, less waking in the night, less trouble getting back to sleep and overall mood and relationship improvements.“Sleepdisturbances are not good for the person losing sleep, and they’re not good for the other person who is left feeling guilty,” Dr Harrington says. “If you’re not getting the rest you need, it makes more sense to have separate environments where you can both sleep really well.”

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3Settle into a quiet, dark room. Close your blinds or, if you’re not home, slip on an eye mask.

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1Squeeze in your cat nap before 4pm. Napping after this time may rob you of your night-time rest.

Cheryl advises curious partners to introduce the concept to their loved ones in an honest conversation.“Goodcommunication is crucial, and it’s important to be upfront and tell them you’re struggling,” she says. “Maybe you’ll come to another solution, like using sleep aids, or maybe you’ll both agree to trial separate rooms and start having some of the best sleep of your lives.”

2Set your alarm for 20 minutes. A short nap is better than a long one. If you go into a full sleep cycle you are likely to wake up groggy and feeling worse.

Being open and mindful throughout the process is essential, especially if one partner is feeling rejected or apprehensive about the new arrangement, Dr Harrington says. “If they’re feeling isolated when they wake up alone, for example, you could agree to sleep apart every second night, or maybe fall asleep together then move into

Pregnancy made me a light sleeper and his breathing condition, catathrenia, was keeping me awake. Sleep became an even more precious commodity once our little one arrived, and with it the realisation that we were getting much better quality sleep solo. It wasn’t only the loud breathing. I go to bed and rise early, while John likes to stay up late and doesn’t need as much sleep. So it makes sense to retreat to different rooms and get the ultimate amount of slumber — and legroom. We still get our physical fix. Like anything with a baby, you learn to get creative. For us, a nightly ritual keeps us connected. We have a good cuddle and a chat before I go to bed, sharing our highs and lows of the day. It works for us, and for some of our friends who have decided to give it a go, too.”

4Encourage rest with sleep aids. Play white noise or calming music, try a short meditation or read a few pages of a book to wind down.

Separate doesn’t equal separated While couples may be concerned about losing intimacy, Dr Harrington says sleep divorce often encourages more physical connection.

“You’re more conscious that you’re spending more physical time apart, and when you’re well rested you’re in a better frame of mind and you want to be more intimate,” she says. And it’s a chance to get more creative with your sex life, Sydney sleep coach Cheryl Fingleson says. “Sex doesn’t have to only happen once you’re both in bed,” Cheryl says. “You could find time to join your partner in their room in the morning or while tucking them into bed at night.”

First personIf your partner’s night-time habits are disrupting your shut-eye, sleep divorce may be the saviour that helps you restTheeasy.concept is simple. A couple chooses to retreat to separate rooms, so both parties get a good night’s sleep — and stay in each other’s good books.

Cheryl Fingleson’s tips to nailing the perfect nap

5Stay away from screens. Checking emails or scrolling through social media will flood your brain with new information, making it harder to drift off. the other space if you wake up,” she says. “There are many ways of negotiating a pathway if someone is feeling vulnerable.”

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THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT Haemochromatosis

Men and women at risk While men and women inherit haemochromatosis equally, males experience symptoms more frequently with an estimated ratio of 3:1. The difference is attributed to physiological blood loss in menstruation and/or childbirth in women.

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“In the early stages of iron overload caused by haemochromatosis, symptoms may be completely absent or very non-specific, including general fatigue and weakness, weight loss, abdominal pain and joint aches,” he says.

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2It is a conditiongenetic Also known as inherited iron overload disorder, it is the most common genetic disorder in Australia and affects about one in 200 people of northern European origin. “It is an autosomal recessive genetic condition caused when a person inherits a faulty gene from both parents,” Edith Cowan University health research lead and hepatologist Professor John K. Olynyk says.

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“Higher levels of iron can cause cirrhosis of the liver and liver cancer. People with liver problems may develop an enlarged liver, jaundice, easy bruising and pain in the liver.

It can debilitatingbe “Many (patients) have had multiple joint replacements as a result of the osteoarthritis caused by haemochromatosis,” Prof Olynyk says. “The fatigue and loss of sexual function that accompanies undiagnosed and untreated haemochromatosis can lead to depression.”

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1 What haemochromatosis?is It is a condition that occurs when your body absorbs too much iron from your diet.

“In cases where the stores of iron are very high, the patient may need to have about 500ml of blood removed every fortnight for many months until they reach maintenance.“Inmostcases the blood can be removed at a blood donation centre if the patient is registered with Lifeblood as a therapeutic donor.”

8Is easily treated Haemochromatosis is treated essentially by donating blood to reduce the levels of excess iron stored around the organs, Prof Olynyk says. “This is done by the process of phlebotomy or venesections, which is the same as a blood donation.

A common genetic disorder in Australia, iron overload is often undiagnosed

4 Symptoms similar to low iron The early generalised symptoms are common to many conditions including low iron, which is why it is important to get your iron levels checked before taking iron supplements or iron-fortified foods, Prof Olynyk says.

“The heart, rarely, can be affected and symptoms will include palpitations due to damage of the heart muscle, breathlessness with physical activity and swollen ankles,” Prof Olynyk says. “If the pancreas is affected this may lead to type 2 diabetes with symptoms including thirst and increased need to urinate, skin infections ... blurry vision, dizziness and weight gain or loss.” If the sex organs are affected, he says women may experience irregular periods or early menopause and loss of libido, while men may experience impotence and shrinking testicles.

It varies from person to person, but haemochromatosis may affect the liver, heart, joints, pancreas, skin and sex organs.

Many people are familiar with the lethargy and health risks associated with low iron levels, but it appears there is less awareness about the dangers of too much iron in the body. Here are the key facts.

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Increasing awareness “Most couples don’t know this screening exists, or they don’t think about it,” says Professor Martin Delatycki, clinical director at the Murdoch Children’s Research Institute’s Victorian Clinical Genetics Services. “Most births are still to couples who have not been offered genetic carrier screening, and the vast majority of babies born with one of these genetic conditions are born into families with no known history of the condition,” he says.

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About one in 20 Australians carries a gene change or a faulty gene that increases the risk of their children being born with cystic fibrosis, fragile X syndrome or spinal muscular atrophy. Everyone carries several gene changes and if their partner is a carrier of a change in the same gene, that can lead to a child having a genetic disorder. Traditionally, genetic carrier screening is offered to people with a family history of their childrenorgenecarryifpartnersconditionstheseandtheirbecause,bothpeoplethesamechangefault,eachofhas Genetic carrier screening can help couples understand and prepare for the risk of passing on an inherited condition

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a one-in-four chance of being born with that condition. National guidelines now recommend all couples planning a family are told about genetic carrier screening so they can understand their risk of passing on an inherited condition.

“Or a couple can go ahead with pregnancy and have their unborn child tested during pregnancy to prepare for a condition if their child has it.

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What is genetic carrier screening?

The right advice

If a person is a carrier of a genetic condition, genetic counselling helps them decide what to do next.

Genetic screening tests certain genes to see if parents carry a faulty gene — if they do, there’s a one-in-four chance each of their children will have the condition. If the woman is a carrier of an X-linked condition, such as fragile X syndrome, there is up to a 50 per cent chance her sons will be born with the condition. There is also a chance of daughters being born with this condition, which is the most common inherited cause of intellectual disability.

Matter of choice

Some couples don’t want to know either way,” Dr Burton says.

“When my second husband, Simon, 43, and I decided to have a child he had a genetic carrier screening test to find out if he was a carrier of CF. He isn’t and our son, Harvey, is a healthy four-year-old. “Ned’s health has got better but if I’d known the risks of him having CF before he was born, I could have prepared myself for caring for a baby with complications.”

Increasing awareness of genetic carrier screening is about allowing couples to make an informed choice, Dr Burton says.

“Think through the worstcase scenario: ‘If we are both carriers what would we do? Would we go down the path of IVF or testing pregnancies?’

“The chances of our second son, Lucas, having CF was one in four, so early in the pregnancy I had a test ... I was very distressed because I didn’t know how I’d look after two sick babies but, thankfully, Lucas didn’t have CF.

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“When I had Ned 15 years ago, I didn’t have any screening because I didn’t know it was an option. My first husband and I were both carriers of cystic fibrosis (CF), but we didn’t know — there was no family“Nedhistory.wasvery sick when he was born and we were told he had cystic fibrosis ... Around that time, I discovered I was pregnant again, too, although it wasn’t planned.

“People are aware that testing is available for conditions like Down syndrome and they’re aware of routine ultrasound scans to look for growth and congenital abnormalities. With genetic carrier screening, they can get a heads-up before a baby is conceived,” she says. But it is important to consider the implications of screening before going ahead. If you find out you are at increased chance of having a child with a certain condition, will that change your plans?

Genetic carrier screening can look for cystic fibrosis, spinal muscular atrophy and fragile X syndrome, or expanded carrier screening tests check for hundreds of conditions. Tests require a blood or saliva sample and typically cost about $400, or $750 for expanded carrier screening.

“A couple can use IVF so they can test embryos and choose not to implant an embryo with that genetic condition,” says Wendy Burton, of the Royal Australian College of General Practitioners.

If couples wouldn’t change anything, they may choose not to screen,” Prof Delatycki says. “But if you would do something, that’s a good reason to do genetic testing.”

WHEN THE 43-YEAROLD DECIDED TO EXPAND HER FAMILY, SHE USED GENETIC CARRIER SCREENING.

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We have long known the benefits of mindfulness, but there’s one area of your life you may not have realised it can reinvigorate: your sex life. According to psychologists, being more present during sex (that’s no more thinking about the washing or worrying about how you look) can take your next intimate encounter to another level.

In the moment

“When people discuss mind-blowing sex, it typically means that their conscious awareness is turned off, and they are fully present and enjoying the moment. If a person is present in the moment-to-moment sensations, sex can be truly mind-blowing,” Dr Cohen says.

Wandering mind How many times has your mind wandered off to something totally and utterly unsexy such as your to-do list? Given sex is as much a mental exercise as it is a physical one, not being in the present moment can sometimes rob you of a truly satisfying experience.

Learning to be more mindful

“If you’re curious about mindful sex practices — the best place to start is by engaging in mindfulness outside of a sexual context such as before bed or heading to work so you can more easily integrate those skills during sex,” sex coach Georgia Grace says. “Most people spend their whole day disconnected from their body, needs and desires, so it’s pretty tricky to just shut the mind off ... and be instantly present — this takes time and intentional practise.”

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“When we are distracted by self-judgment or anxiety about performance, it can negatively impact both our experience and satisfaction derived from sex, as well as make us less likely to orgasm,” Dr Marisa T. Cohen says.

Dr Cohen is head of couple relationships at Paired, an app designed to enhance communication between partners and help them learn more about their relationship.

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Aim to be more mindful every day, whether it’s focusing on the sensations you encounter while drinking your morning coffee or even brushing your teeth. When you’re ready, Dr Cohen says you can try mindfulness in the bedroom. Look to focus on one sensation during sex, such as touch. “Pay attention to how your partner’s skin feels or how the pressure of their hands on you feels. As you get more comfortable letting go of other thoughts, begin to explore other senses, such as smell or taste.” An environment conducive to mindful sex is also important. Georgia suggests creating a space that feels sensual and is free from distraction. “Try using blindfolds and sensory items for sensation play, eye gaze with each other as you breathe,” sheDrsays.Cohen stresses it’s totally normal if you can’t quieten your mind entirely. When you notice your mind wandering, acknowledge that it’s happening without judgment then gently bring your mind back to the present moment, she advises.

It seems our minds are often everywhere but where they should be when it comes to sex, with a US study finding both men and women guilty of wandering minds. The research found women may be less sexually mindful due to a tendency to be more focused on their partner’s pleasure rather than their own arousal, while men are less likely to be mindful during sex due to the pressure to be sexually assertive. But you can train your brain — through neuroplasticity — to approach sex in a more mindful way. By putting mindfulness into practise, you can alter the brain’s neural pathways and, in turn, the way you think.

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“I really enjoyed it because for the first time I wasn’t competing against somebody else. I was just having fun and challenging myself,” Georgia says. She is now hooked and training five to 10 hours a week for longer distance events.

Triathlons are having a popularity resurgence and while swim, bike, run might seem like a daunting combination, Triathlon Australia president Michelle Cooper says don’t fret because together they are “a sport for everyone”.

“One of the things people think when they think of a triathlon is that it’s for wealthy, white men who are over the age of 50, but it’s not,” Michelle says. “Anyone can have a go.”

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And it may not be as hard as you think, with many beginners ready to enter their first race in under two months.

Georgia Christie is among the newcomers to the sport.

The 21-year-old from Brisbane competed in her first triathlon last November.

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Get some guidance “The best thing that you can do is go and find someone who can help you, so find a coach or a club,” Michelle advises. Through them you learn how to improve speed and techniques for lasting the distance. Local clubs operate throughout Australia. “Virtual clubs have been popping up in recent years and are really taking off after the pandemic,” Michelle says.

From the beginning mix swimming, cycling and running into your routine to train muscle and build the skills you need for race day, Melbourne-based Lyndsey“Whensays.you’re starting out, consistency is key to help you build confidence. One swim a week, a couple of rides and runs, is good.”

Triathlon Australia has more training tips, local club details and information on upcoming events.

FRIDAY Rest SATURDAY Combine cycle/run for 75-90 minutes (as you get closer to your race also incorporate a swim to practise all three together)

THURSDAY Run 30-45 minutes

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“This is fantastic because it doesn’t matter where you are. You could be training with someone in Alice Springs or in Brisbane.”

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TRAININGWEEKLYGUIDEFORBEGINNERSMONDAY Swim 50-60 minutes (including swim technique/drills)

Train for success Beginners should aim to train five to six hours a week, Fluid Movements coach Lyndsey Foster says. This is adequate for a sprint distance triathlon consisting of a 750m swim, 20km bike and 5km run.

Other people may have bigger dreams, working their way up to the famous Hawaiian Ironman Triathlon, which is a 3.8km swim, 180km bike and 42km run, and has competitors cycling through active lava fields.

TUESDAY Rest WEDNESDAY Cycle outdoors 45-60 minutes (as fitness develops incorporate a short run off the bike)

Once you are comfortable, begin combining them, she says. For example, you might add a short 5-to10-minute run off the bike. Eventually you will be able to go for longer and mix up your training sessions with different swim/bike/run combinations.Usingthisapproach most people will be race-ready in as little as six to eight weeks, Lyndsey says.

SUNDAY Rest Register for a race Signing up for an event is a great way to get motivated. A standard distance, or Olympic triathlon, is a 1.5km swim, 40km bike and 10km run. But there are plenty of events that are shorter or longer. Don’t be ashamed to take on a smaller course when you start out, Michelle says.

“You don’t need anything fancy,” Michelle says. “You just need stuff that’s safe. A bike with some brakes on it — doesn’t matter if it’s a mountain bike or a fancy pants road bike. Some running shoes, a pair of goggles and you’re kitted out.”

People think of triathlons and immediately expensive bikes and swimsuits spring to mind, but there’s no need to splash any cash.

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The House of Wellness 81 We’re told that we can outbreaksexpecttostill happen, and intermittent restrictions will be necessary to stem the spread of this enemy we can’t see. It’s hard, but there is little alternative to curb the pandemic, at least until we have achieved widespread vaccination.

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It’s understandable we’re tired of restrictions and the toll taken on our families, mental health and businesses. However, look back and consider what we’ve achieved as a community. Australia has been the envy of the world with our response to the pandemic and our community has certainly risen to the occasion. We’ve followed advice, even when it hurt, for the sake of others as well as ourselves.

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Yes, in retrospect, some things may have been better if done differently, but it has been a steep learning curve for everyone, and we’ve come such a long way with our knowledge since early last year. It’s incredibly sad that there have been deaths and businesses have been hit so hard, but through our collective effort we seem to have kept this virus at bay. We are understandably upset by being corralled, having to sanitise, wear masks, and keep our distance from others, but simply look to some other countries at what the alternative might have been. Then again, there’s a spin-off — last year saw less influenza cases than usual. Eureka! This hygiene message works, keep it Someup!in the media (and more in social media) are quick to highlight mistakes and it’s easy to dwell on the negatives, but take time to consider the good work done by the frontline and backroom workers dedicated to looking after us. And don’t forget the scientists who worked tirelessly to develop vaccines in record time.

Maybe we need to put it all in perspective with a collective “thank you” and we can take positive action such as continuing hygiene recommendations, shopping locally, supporting struggling businesses and most of all calling to touch base with friends and neighbours. However, probably the most important thing we can do to help fight this pandemic is to get vaccinated. I completed my AstraZeneca course recently and I feel really good about it. Just so you know, I suffered life-threatening clots to my lungs a few years back, but because I understand the science I knew this did not make me any more at risk of the extremely rare clotting syndrome than anyone else. I weighed this up with the knowledge that if I was to catch the virus without vaccination I would be many times more likely to develop thatAlso,complication.importantly, over the last few months we’ve learned that the rare clotting syndrome is treatable if caughtUnlessearly.you have one of the very rare reasons for not getting vaccinated you need to ignore the fearmongers and listen to those who know the evidence, and yourVaccinationhealth. has been one of the most effective public health measures in history, along with sanitation, of course. Our ancestors lived in fear of infectious diseases that we hardly even know anymore. Our vaccination programs work. We take calculated risks every day. It’s this calculation of risk versus benefit that’s the key. If you’re worried, please talk to your doctor and complete your vaccination course when your turn comes. health we emerge from winter, flowers will bloom and the weather will get warmer. However, things are a bit different this year. We now know that we must live with Covid-19 for some time to come in what has been called “a Covid-normal world”.

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“Simply escaping out into nature provides the freedom, relaxation and physical activity, which is needed and known to have a positive impact on mental states such as anxiety and depression,” Dr Weerasuriya says. Meanwhile, researchers at the University of Queensland studied the dose of nature needed to have an impact on wellbeing and found a mere 30 minutes in a green space each week was enough to reduce depression and high blood pressure.

After a dreary winter cooped up inside, now is the perfect time to step outside and get back to nature. It’s no surprise that getting outdoors not only makes you feel good, it’s good for you. And whether you’re into bushwalking, cycling, forest bathing, strolls in the park, or picnics with friends, spending time in nature is an easy and delightful way to improve overall wellbeing.your

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There’s something intoxicating about the arrival of spring. It’s a season packed with new life, blue skies and plenty of sunshine

In the study Beyond Blue to Green, Deakin University and Beyond Blue explore how nature helps mitigate or even prevent mental health-related issues. Study co-author Dr Rona Weerasuriya found nature gives people the opportunity to experience relaxation, rejuvenation and connection with community, among a host of other health and wellbeing benefits.

Research shows the benefits of connecting with nature include everything from boosting the immune system, reducing stress and lowering blood pressure to improving mood and increasing the ability to focus. Plus, the spring sunshine is a great way to increase your vitamin D stores, produce extra serotonin and lift your spirits.

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It’sEarthboundatime-honoured way to get outdoors and connect with the earth, and landscape designer Ashley James says spring is the busiest time of year for gardeners.

“I also love to swim in the ocean, garden, walk around my neighbourhood, lie on the grass and watch the clouds, stargaze, look for four-leafed clovers at the park and sleep outside in a swag,” she says.  Brooke says it helps to recognise that getting outdoors doesn’t have to mean going camping or for a long hike.

✔ Give your soil a shot of goodness, digging in compost and manures to prepare it for the growing season ahead.

✔ Repair and feed lawns — aerating, top-dressing and fertilising to encourage new growth, and reseeding or turfing bare areas.

✔ Prepare garden beds for sowing summer flower and vegetable seeds by removing weeds and turning over soil.

✔ Sow flower seeds of zinnia, marigolds, cornflowers, cosmos, snapdragons and echinacea, and vegetable seeds of basil, beans, beetroot, broccoli, capsicum, carrots, celery, leek, lettuce, pumpkin, spring onion, tomatoes, watermelon and zucchini.

“It can be as simple as sitting in the sun for a few minutes, or pulling some weeds in your garden, leaving your phone at home while you go for a walk or throwing some seeds in the ground and seeing what comes up,” sheTosays.start, recommendsBrookefinding a “sit spot” near your home or office where you can observe trees, plants and birds. “Then commit to spending five minutes a day there, where all you do is sit and watch and listen,” she says. “The awesome thing about the natural world is that we only need to pay attention in order to be part of it.”

Here are some of his top seasonal gardening tips:

✔ Feed trees, shrubs and hedges with a slow-release fertiliser before growth begins.

“The awesome thing about the natural world is that we only need to pay attention in order to be part of it.”

Take it slow Slow author and podcaster Brooke McAlary says she only needs a few minutes outside to remind herself of the right pace of life. “No matter how much of a hurry we’re in, the sun rises and sets when it needs to,” Brooke says. “It reminds us that not only are we connected to nature, but there’s no hurrying her.”

It is also a good time to mulch garden beds.

✔ Finish your winter pruning before it gets too late in the season. This needs to be done before the buds burst and your tree begins to bloom, or you will stress the tree.

Brooke loves bushwalking and says it’s a great way to get her body moving, to soak up the natural essential oils (phytoncides) released by trees and help slow her brainShedown.haseven been known to go barefoot on some of her walks, claiming it focuses her mind moment and heightens the senses.

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Preheat the barbecue grill to medium-hot. Roughly tear the burger buns into 3cm pieces and drizzle generously with olive oil. Grill, turning occasionally, for 5-6 minutes or until all the edges are charred. Meanwhile, combine the tomatoes, capers, onion and anchovies in a large bowl. Season well with salt and pepper, then add the balsamic vinegar and oil and gently toss. Add the basil and charred burger bun pieces, season with a little more salt and pepper and toss well. Serve.

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I recommend cracking the eggs with confidence straight into the pan, making sure they are not stuck to the bottom. Turn the heat down a notch and wait 5 minutes. Check on them if you like by lifting them to see how they’re cooking. While that’s happening, make the hollandaise. Place all ingredients in a small powerful food blender and blitz for a few seconds. You could also use a small stick blender. The speed/power of the blend emulsifies the ingredients in the same way double boiling and whisking gently does. Layer the crumbs, poached eggs and hollandaise on a vessel of your choosing and in whatever order you like. Season to taste. This is an edited extract from Every. Night. Of. The. Week by Lucy Tweed, published by Murdoch Books, RRP $35. Photography: Lucy Tweed.

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Coconut yoghurt, extra maple syrup, chopped peach, toasted coconut Blitz the strawberries and apple until smooth. Tip into a large bowl and stir in the coconut milk, maple syrup, oats, chia seeds and cinnamon. Leave the mixture to thicken for 5 minutes if you’re in a hurry, or overnight if you’re being organised. Divide among individual jars (or pile into one big airtight container) and refrigerate. Stored this way, they will keep for up to four days.

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Icing (confectioners’) sugar, honey, lemon wedges My child made me this one Mother’s Day. So naturally I took his beautiful gesture of love, redesigned it with some improvements (created a lazier version) and called it my own. Preheat the oven to 180C. Whisk together the eggs, vanilla and cream. Place the baguette slices in a single layer in a baking dish lined with baking paper, and pour the egg and cream mixture over the top. Soak for 5 minutes, then flip over and soak for another 10 minutes. By now, most of the liquid should be absorbed. Pour the sugar on to a plate. Carefully dip one side of each soggy slice into the sugar, so you have a crusted side. Wipe any leftover egg and cream mix from the tray, then put the baguette slices back on the paper, sugarside up. Dust with cinnamon and bake for 7 minutes.

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“Proper camping can be quite a culture shock because the body’s adapted to another way of existing,” Australian Association of Social Workers member Kit Kline says. “Glamping is a really good way to slowly integrate back into the natural world in a comfortable environment.” Kit is the founder of Nature Based Therapy, which helps people address stress, depression and other mentalhealth disorders through nature. She believes slowing down to nature’s pace “reduces anxiety and helps regulate emotions”.

Less is more Emma Gavala’s 2017 thesis for her Masters at the London School of Economics was among the world’s first academic papers about glamping. It’s not just “upgraded camping”, Emma says; it’s “accommodation that’s unique and showcases nature” with limited hassle, from tents to treehouses or barns.

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The accommodation niche has enabled small Australian communities and businesses to set up camp with less expense, legal complications and environmental impact than large, permanent“Glampingstructures.canbean engine of local growth,” Emma says.

Getting back to nature

The founder of international glamping consulting firm Gavala & Co is critical of the widespread obsession with “supercharging the tent ... so that it’s a substitute for a hotel”.

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The global glamping market was estimated at $2.42bn in 2020 and is expected to hit $6.98bn in 2028, according to a Grand View Research report published in March.

In Australia, however, “the term ‘luxury’ has taken the right form in glamping: it’s the uniqueness of the experience”. Here, it’s “more laidback, smaller, and there’s respect for the environment and community,” Emma says.

From luxurious beds to gourmet catering, glamping brings creature comforts into the great outdoors

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A report poll shows 67 per cent of participants think “glamping provides a unique outdoor experience”, while 83 per cent of non-campers agree glamping “allows them to experience the outdoors in comfort”.

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LONGITUDE 131 NT Tent meets luxury cabin, including floor-to-ceiling glass revealing Uluru just beyond. Watch the rock’s changing moods from your bed, or on the balcony decked out with armchairs, daybed and open fire. Enjoy other five-star features including the ensuite’s rain shower, paintings by local Aboriginal artists and sleek decor in Red Centre hues — or abandon any pretence of camping in the Dune Pavilion. longitude131.com.au

If glamping conjures up visions of classic 1930s African safari styling for you, then you will appreciate the vintage steamer trunks, Persian-style carpets and Italian crystal glasses in these Tamar Valley tents. Located by the Tamar River estuary, this property’s three private encampments include indoor ensuite bathrooms and outdoor campfire seating. The extra-fancy Amihan Encampment even boasts an antique claw-foot bath. wingtons.com

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This new four-day retreat is based at the Fair Harvest permaculture farm, where natural tones and textures of the tents inspire calm. The itinerary includes daily yoga in beautiful locations such as Geographe Bay, hikes in national parks and connecting to country with a Wadandi custodian. A tasting tour of the Margaret River region’s produce, wine and gin is among more indulgent activities. nullarbortraveller.com.au

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SKYVIEW BUBBLETENT VICTORIA Look up at the stars from a clear-roofed tent that suggests a futuristic Mars habitat, but is actually a cosy new retreat nestled in spa country bushland. A deck for relaxation and cooking, with gas barbecue and wood-fired pizza oven, is on the doorstep of this bubble for two. The shower is also outdoors but private, working in harmony with nature. dayget.com.au

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GAWLER WILDERNESSRANGESSAFARIS SA Explore the Eyre Peninsula by day and stay in the same camp by night. There’s abundant wildlife and stars for company, whether you’re in a comfy tent or the “swagon” — coveredwagon option. Choose from three different family friendly, multi-day safaris, including Outback to the Sea, which roves across volcanic landscape and offers a chance to swim with dolphins and sea lions. gawlerrangessafaris.com

CAMPNIGHTFALL QUEENSLAND This retreat beside Lamington National Park hosts a maximum of eight guests in four secluded safari-style tents. Nature is inside and out: woollen blankets, vintage metal campfirefromorganicorareprivateMassages,viewsby,Christmasscents,sub-tropicalsmoothbathtubs,stonebasins,rainforestthesoundofCreekcloseandmountainbeyond.facialsandyogaclassesavailablein-tentbythewater,andmealsrangepicnicstoshareddinners. nightfall.com.au

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Taronga zoo TARONGA ZOO NSW As ordinary visitors depart, the Roar and Snore overnight experience begins with drinks and canapes at the campsite, where safari-style tents overlook Sydney Harbour in the twilight. The VIP pleasures also include animal close encounters, a night safari and falling asleep to the permanent residents’ nocturnal chatter. This urban adventure is great for families — kids five and up are welcome — but adults-only nights are also available. taronga.org.au

The House of Wellness 93 SWEET SENSATION Daydreamer hanging chair, $1750, fentonandfenton.com.au;DellaEuropean pillowcase, $69.99, linenhouse.com; Barel Classic melamine dinner set, $124.90, bareldesigns.com.au Take your living outdoors and breathe in some fresh, flowery goodness. From relaxed pastel hues to cheerful patterns, these PARTYGARDEN ORCHID FRIENDS PICNIC RUG, $99, GORMANSHOP.COM.AU GROWTH OPPORTUNITY Love Boat Hot Mustard vessel, from $69, urbanedenco.com; Floral secateurs, $17.05, oasisfloral.com.au WORDS HARRISONPENNY Fermob Louisiane bench, $1000, trithouse.com.au; Ultimate Ears Wonderboom portable Bluetooth speaker, $128, harveynorman.com.au; The Somewhere Co midi cooler bag, $72.95, adventuresnacks.com.au

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APPLES NEVER FALL LIANNE MORIARTY (Macmillan Australia) RRP $32.99 It’s often said the people we love the most can hurt us the deepest. But are they capable of murder? Aussie bestselling author Moriarty revels in revealing a family’s dirty little secrets — and Apples Never Fall is no exception. From all appearances, the Delaney family should be leading contented lives. Former tennis coaches Joy and Stan have retired after years of success and their four adult children, while never quite living up to their parents’ hopes as tennis stars, are busy with their own lives. When Joy goes missing, her children are forced to re-examine their parents’ marriage and family history with fresh eyes. And who is the mystery girl who lobs on the Delaney’s doorstep? And why did she choose their family? One for Moriarty fans, with enough twists to keep you reading to the end.

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THE OTHERS MARK (HachetteBRANDIAustralia) RRP $32.99 The acclaimed Australian author’s newest offering is a mystery in itself. Is it dystopian or a tale of survival? The story of the lengths a father will go to protect his son from “the others”? With echoes of Cormac McCarthy’s The Road, the sense of foreboding grows with the recounting of each day in the son’s diary. He adds dictionary meanings of words his father uses, often noting he thinks he has the right meaning where there are several, and includes drawings of episodes from their lives in the lonely farmhouse. It is a hard existence for the pair, a drought undermining their efforts to be self-sustaining away from any human contact. But there are signs all is not as his father has told him. This is a page-turner that will have the reader keen to find the answer to the question this novel poses.

1-MINUTE GARDENER Mat Pember and Fabian Capomolla (Plum), RRP $45 Growing your own fruit and vegies doesn’t get any easier with this guide, which includes handy one-minute skills from trellising to spacing plants.

LOVE PEOPLE, USE THINGS Joshua Fields & Ryan (HachetteNicodemusAustralia),RRP$29.99

FUTURESTEADING Jade Miles (Murdoch Books), RRP $39.99 The bushfires that struck Victoria in the summer of 2020 proved the catalyst for Jade Miles to write this book. The podcaster and mum of three describes Futuresteading as a practical and inspirational guide to living in a way that values tomorrow: a slower, simpler, steadier existence that, ultimately, creates a healthier lifestyle. From tasty recipes to gardening tips and how to make your own cleaning products, Jade provides practical advice on ways to live a more meaningful life. And she says you don’t have to move to the countryside to apply her principles. They can be applied anywhere, whether you’re in a high-rise rental or a backyard caravan. A timely read to remind us what is most important.

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Linda McCartney with Paul, Mary & Stella McCartney (Hachette Australia), RRP $49.99 McCartney’s plant-based recipes have been reimagined to fit the times. Includes personal stories and family photos.

Take the minimalistic approach a step further by prioritising the relationships that matter with this guide to decluttering your life. Good for the soul

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The surrounds are picture perfect, the neighbours friendly — until a double murder destroys the serenity of the Hollow’s Edge community. When Ruby Fletcher is convicted, a collective sigh of relief goes up. After all, Ruby isn’t really one of them — she’s a grifter who used her friendship with Harper Nash to shoehorn herself into their lives. Imagine everyone’s surprise when the conviction is overturned and she returns to Harper’s house, taking up residence as if nothing ever happened. Suddenly, everyone is looking over their shoulder worried about what Ruby will do next — after all, they all bore witness against her at the murder trial. Then Harper starts receiving threatening notes. Someone, it appears, knows more than they are letting on about the deaths. A tight, tense read with a deft twist at the end of the tale.

SUCH A QUIET PLACE MEGAN MIRANDA (Allen & Unwin) RRP $29.99

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1 In what year was the Woodstock music festival first staged? 2 Botanically, is the cucumber a fruit or vegetable? 3 Leading into the 2020 Tokyo Olympic Games, what did the Australian surf team name itself? 4 At which Victorian beach did the then Australian prime minister Harold Holt disappear while swimming in 1967? 5 What is the national flower of both India and Vietnam? 6 Musophobia is the fear of what? 7 What nut is used to create the confection marzipan? 8 Which is the most commonly transplanted organ from living donors worldwide?

15Boris Badenov is the main antagonist of which two animated cartoon characters, who are best friends?

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12 How many Melbourne Cups did champion racehorse Phar Lap win, and in what year or years?

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OCTOBER Hand hygiene, particularly washing with soap, is the most effective way to stop the spread of virus and disease. Let October 15 be a reminder of the importance of always washing your hands, not just in a pandemic. globalhandwashing.org

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16 Which actressaward-winningdirectedthe 2014 film Unbroken, based on a true WWII story?

While healthy eating has become a global obsession, Kitty Flanagan and Dave O’Neill are bucking the trend by embracing junk food. Chips, chocolate, ice cream ... you name it, if it has a one-star health rating (or thereabouts), the Aussie comedians are discussing, rating and blind-testing it. The co-hosts will often go out of their way to find unique treats for each other, with many laugh-out-loud results.

13 Before starring in the film Dirty Dancing, Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey first acted together in what 1984 film?

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18 Who is regarded as the inventor of the World Wide Web?

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ABC CONVERSATIONS

Candid conversations with some people you’ve heard of, some you haven’t, but all reveal amazing stories. Hosts Richard Fidler and Sarah Kanowski interview with curiosity and empathy. Listen to our favourite, “A boy, his pony and the Sydney Harbour Bridge” — the true story of a nine-yearold who rode his pony about 1000km from Leongatha to see the opening of the Sydney Harbour Bridge.

9 How many legs do insects have?

The Anti-Cool Girl reveals intimate, brutal and hilarious details of growing up with mentally ill, drug and alcohol-addicted parents, child protection and foster care. Rosie’s mum had been sober for almost a year at the time of recording. Rosie reads excerpts from the book to her mum, who often challenges her version of events, leading to frank and funny banter.

20 Name the area where the Apollo 11 astronauts first set foot on the moon.

On October 27, celebrate World Children’s Day, part of Children’s Week, which is dedicated to protecting and increasing the rights of children, as well as improving their life conditions. childrensweek.org.au

Spread a little kindness in your community, family or among friends. Send a card, shout a mate a coffee or do an extra household chore on November 13. It’s a day to perform acts of kindness towards others. randomactsofkindness.org

17 Which two actors have performed in more than 4000 episodes of the TV series Neighbours?

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In Australia, statistics show one in three women has experienced physical violence since the age of 15. Take a stand and commit to action to stop men’s violence against women on White Ribbon Day, held on November 19. Organise or participate in an event that works for increased awareness and change. whiteribbon.org.au DECEMBER Give a gift to the planet and save money by following Planet Ark’s practical ideas in the lead-up to Christmas. Suggestions include making decorations and wrapping paper, giving gift experiences such as movie or show tickets, and disposing of live Christmas trees in an environmentally friendly way. planetark.org About 18 per cent of Australians deal with disability in their daily lives. On December 3, the International Day of People with Disability asks us to challenge the way we think and “see the ability in disability”. idpwd.com.au What’s on

“It might seem crazy what I am ’bout to say, Sunshine she’s here, you can take a break” are lyrics from which 2013 hit single by Pharrell Williams?

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11 Which character in the TV series Game of Thrones said: “I don’t plan on knitting by the fire while men fight for me.”

14 Before 1999, the region of Macau was a territory of which country?

10 In which Australian state or territory was model and actress Megan Gale born?

‘No, we are still in love and we are very happy and we have no plans to leave each other.’ These are the questions that can often follow the revelation that my wife and I sleep in different rooms. It started for me recently when our four-year-old son was sick and when putting him to bed he asked if he could sleep in our bed. Our bed, which he refers to as ‘the family bed’, inferring some claim on it that is equal to both mine and myOnwife’s.anormal night he either goes to bed with Kel or he wanders into our bed at some point during the night. So, we thought that while he is sick he can go to bed in the family bed and stay for the whole night. It gets a little crowded with three in the bed — not to mention the dog and two cats. In fact, I suspect the dog and both cats, when chatting to each other during the day, also refer to it as ‘the family bed’.

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‘How’d you sleep last night?’ asks Cat 1. ‘Started off being pushed around courtesy of a whole bunch of tossing and turning but eventually settled right on Dad’s face before he woke me up coughing and spluttering and whingeing like he had some sort of fur ball. I hate how much room the humans take up on the family bed.’ So, in an effort to offer our sick four-year-old a good night’s sleep I agreed to sleep in the spare room — not the family bed. There I was for the next eight hours — no dog, no cats, no son and no wife. I’d forgotten about the luxury of a queen-size bed. The joy of spreading out — I’ve spent the past five years balancing on the edge of a king-size bed with the skill of an Olympic gymnast. Then, of course, there’s the comfort of having noMyinterruptions.REMreturned, my dreams returned and more than one hour of solid sleep returned (I actually got eight hours). I was woken up by a sliver of sunlight dancing through the gap beneath the blind and not a cat’s tail or my son’s hand or my dog’s butt! I bounced out of bed so energised that my wife wondered what was going on with me. I felt and, in my opinion, looked 10 years younger. It turns out that sleep is really important and getting the right quality and the right quantity has a direct impact on your health. I had read about this most of my life but largely ignored it thinking that I knew better than well researched science. So a dilemma was immediately presented to me. Do I maintain my spot in the family bed, respecting the unit of humans and animals to whom I have dedicated and committed my life? I should embrace any opportunity I have to further bond with the ones that I love the most. This would surely bring us closer together and it would maintain the culturally accepted norm of sharing the family bed ... I get that the dog and cats may not be as culturally accepted, but just roll with me for argument’s sake. Or do I turn tail and take up residence in the spare room? Following which my energy levels will go through the roof, my productivity will improve and I’ll look like a teenager for the first time in 30 years. An added benefit of moving to the spare room would be that those on the family bed would now have more space. Can you tell I’ve already pushed this argument? It seems like a no-brainer but the experiment lasted only three nights until our son was better. As much as the health benefits were obvious I felt like a flat mate and not part of the family unit. So, it’s back to the family bed where I can balance on the edge, get woken up every hour and push the tail out of my face — but I’ll be with myHavingpack! said that, I will be the first to raise my hand to valiantly head back to the spare room at the next sign of illness.

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