Tallahassee Woman Magazine December 2021 - January 2022

DECEMBER 2021 / JANUARY 2022

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Berneice Cox Compassionate Purpose

Fashion Comes Full Circle Women to Watch Mending Mental Fatigue Community Care for the Homeless Women United Women's Leadership Breakfast

Holiday Bucket List Balancing College & Mental Health Workforce and the Impact of COVID Human Trafficking

FULL SPECTRUM CARE JUST FOR YOU. Dr. Amanda Stephens, Dr. Jay Allard and Dr. Christine Fitzsimmons.

The Region’s Largest Gynecologic Oncology Program, Right Here at Home At Tallahassee Memorial, we’re proud to be home to the Big Bend region’s largest and most established gynecologic oncology program, bringing the expertise of three oncologists highly trained in treating gynecologic cancers right here to Tallahassee. Led by Dr. Amanda Stephens,

Dr. Jay Allard and Dr. Christine Fitzsimmons, our TMH Physician Partners – Gynecologic Oncology practice takes a consultative team approach to care and specializes in complex pelvic surgery, minimally invasive surgery, chemotherapy and radiation for women with gynecologic cancer and pre-cancers including: • Ovarian

• Vaginal

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MEET THE DOCTORS Amanda Stephens, DO Board Certified: Obstetrics & Gynecology Board Eligible: Gynecologic Oncology Medical School: Lincoln Memorial University DeBusk College of Osteopathic Medicine, Harrogate, TN Residency: Beaumont Health, Farmington Hills, MI Fellowship: Florida Hospital/AdventHealth, Orlando, FL

Christine Fitzsimmons, DO Board Eligible: Obstetrics & Gynecology, Gynecologic Oncology Medical School: University of New England College of Osteopathic Medicine, Biddeford, ME Residency: Wellspan/York Hospital, York, PA

Jay Allard, MD Board Certified: Obstetrics & Gynecology, Gynecologic Oncology Medical School: University of Vermont, College of Medicine, Burlington, VT Residency: National Naval Medical Center Walter Reed Army Medical Center, Bethesda, MD Fellowship: National Capital Consortium Walter Reed Army Medical Center, Washington, DC

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HONORING OUR DONORS

Over $3.5 million raised to support children with diabetes.

THE PROC TO R D EA L ER S H I P S

Members of the Proctor family have been dedicated donors and advocates for children with Type 1 diabetes for nearly 30 years. Thanks to their support of the annual Tee Off for Tots Golf Tournament and Car Raffle, more than $3.5 million has been raised through the Proctor Endowment for Children with Diabetes.

These funds support the programs and services of the Tallahassee Memorial Metabolic Health Center and help send children with diabetes to a medically staffed camp where they can have fun with their peers in a safe environment.

Thanks to the Proctors and our generous community, children who are diagnosed with diabetes and their families have an invaluable resource to teach them how to manage their disease and thrive.

“ Tee Off for Tots – and the critical funding it

generates – simply would not happen without the support of the Proctor family. We are so grateful for their time, generosity and partnership.

The Proctors are saving and improving the lives of children in our region. They’ve built an incredible legacy of giving that will help generations to come.

”

– NIGEL ALLEN PRESIDENT AND CHIEF ADVANCEMENT OFFICER TMH FOUNDATION

TMH President and CEO G. Mark O’Bryant, Martin Proctor, Sarah Proctor Demont, Nick Sutton, Theo Proctor, TMH Foundation President and Chief Advancement Officer Nigel Allen

CONTENTS

10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER 12. LETTER FROM GUEST EDITOR

CULTURE & CUISINE

14. FASHION: FASHION COMES FULL CIRCLE 16. SHE SAYS SOCIAL: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CHARITY TO DONATE TO? 17. HOLIDAY BUCKET LIST 18. THE DISH: DARK CHOCOLATE MOUSSE CAKE WITH TIRAMISU CREAM 20. HOME: WALKING IN(TO) A WINTER WONDERLAND

LIVING LOCAL

22. SWEET HOME TALLAHASSEE: SAMANTHA VANCE 24. HAUTE HAPPENINGS: LOCAL TALLAHASSEE EVENTS 26. AROUND TOWN: 5TH ANNUAL WOMEN’S LEADERSHIP BREAKFAST PRESENTED BY WOMEN UNITED, THE UNITED WAY OF THE BIG BEND 28. ON THE COVER: BERNEICE COX COMPASSIONATE PURPOSE 32. WEDDINGS: A ROCKY DESTINATION WEDDING 34. WE ELEVATE: ROBIN HASSLER THOMPSON

TRAVEL

36. MADAME XHALES IN CAYO DISTRICT, BELIZE, CENTRAL AMERICA

BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

40. WORK LIFE: IN THE ERA OF COVID 41. WOMEN ON THE MOVE: DR. KELLY FORSTHOEFEL 42. WOMEN TO WATCH: HIGHLIGHTING WOMEN'S ACCOMPLISHMENTS 43. CAREER: PURSUE YOUR PASSION AS A CAREER

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

44. MENDING MENTAL FATIGUE 46. ENVISIONING THE NEW YEAR 47. PROTECTING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IN COLLEGE 48. GROWING WITH KINDNESS

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

50. CHRISTMAS ACTIVITIES THAT DON’T BREAK THE BANK

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December 2021 - January 2022 • Volume 16 • Issue 6

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CONTRIBUTORS

AMBER WHITE WRITER Amber White is a student studying at Florida State REBECCA WEAVER University. Currently WRITER working in the digital Rebecca Weaver serves as media industry, she loves ASHLEY DICKEY a news reporter and guest seeing the process it takes WRITER JANE MARKS on the Steve Harvey to go from an idea to a Ashley Dickey is a WRITER Morning Show; guest reality. With that in mind, senior at Florida State Jane Marks, licensed chef for WCTV’s “Good she is extremely excited University completing psychotherapist “life Morning Show.” Rebecca to become a part of the coach” with more than 50 a Bachelor’s degree in has worked nationally Tallahassee Woman years specializing in child Media Communication and internationally, Magazine.

Studies with a minor and adolescent behavior. inspiring positive change. in English.

She is a Host for “From the Heart” She hopes to inspire Tallahassee local who is and the Mental Health others to live a life that passionate about writing and Wellness expert for promotes peace, respect the Black News Channel. and enjoys spending and diversity. time with family and Jane is a motivational friends speaker / lecturer with a focus on mental health and adolescents.

MARCIA WARFEL WRITER Marcia Warfel, emergency management consultant, Club 25 past president. She's dedicated to community service volunteering for many organizations. A finalist for both the 2021 Women Who Mean Business service award and 2021 Wonder Woman award for Girls on the Run.

CRISTINA CARTER WRITER Cristina Carter, owner/ founder of Tallahassee Notary, LLC. She obtained her Master of Arts in International Relations from Florida State University (FSU) and has taught several courses at FSU. She also co-directed/co-produced, “Las Chica’s” about a group of local Latina’s who find sisterhood in the heart of the south

REGINA LYNCHHUDSON WRITER Veteran publicist and luxury lifestyle experience-aholic, Regina Lynch-Hudson, pens MadameXhales, slated towards the vintage of woman that enjoys more time to travel. MadameXhales explores destinations, cruises, resorts, spas and extracurricular activities.

KIRA DERRYBERRY PHOTOGRAPHER Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots and boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahasee and is available for travel worldwide. View Kira's portfolio online at kiraderryberry.com

EMILY BURKETT WRITER Emily Burkett is a KIMBERLY MOORE senior at Florida State WRITER University majoring in Kimberly Moore serves Editing, Writing, and as Vice President, Media with a minor in Workforce Development Communication. She at Tallahassee Community loves storytelling and College (TCC); responsible for developing highlighting individuals who would have strategic solutions for otherwise gone unnoticed employers and those and sharing those seeking to enter the workforce. Ms. Moore is unique stories. Emily is a graduate of TCC, FSU currently working as an and Webster University.; intern for Tallahassee Leadership Tallahassee Woman Magazine.

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“Kindness is like snow—it beautifies everything it covers.”

- Kahlil Gibran

PUBLISHER

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ello December and the season of kindness!

This time of year, we think of others more than ever – a time of giving, gratitude, and celebrating family and diverse cultural traditions. Growing up in Michigan promised a white Christmas most years. The snow reminded me of a fluffy, huge blanket that made everything so pretty when looking out the window. As the quote states, kindness is also like snow.

There is nothing but beauty in being kind to others – especially those less fortunate.

I remember my mother cooking big pots of food and always inviting guests over for dinner there was always enough food to share generously with others. I witnessed firsthand that kindness is a verb, as demonstrated by my mother’s actions and words. No one would have ever known that she grew up in Jamaica with very little but always had much to give. This is a true life lesson that has shaped my worldview and sense of community.

In this issue, we focus on kindness in the way of caring for the community through giving back, service and philanthropy.

The dynamic Berneice Cox is featured on the cover, who is the President of the United Way of the Big Bend (UWBB). Her inspiring story will capture your

heart, penned by veteran writer and former TWM executive editor Heather Thomas. Please take time to visit the UWBB website to learn more ways to get involved and contribute to those experiencing food insecurity and homelessness. I am honored to be a board member of UWBB and witness the outstanding care and community resources provided to the community that makes a difference in the lives of so many every day.

Being kind and demonstrating kindness may present emotional or mental wellness challenges, especially with the ongoing pandemic and various crises.

Don’t miss the wise words shared by clinical mental health counselor, Jane Marks on kindness, reminding us to be caring and compassionate not only to others but also to ourselves.

Reach out and touch someone with your kindness and caring.

What you put out in the universe comes back to you a thousandfold.

Wishing you all the best,

Dr. Michelle Mitcham Photo by Kira Derryberry Photography

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Season's Greetings From Tallahassee Woman Magazine

“When it was dark, you always carried the sun in your hand for me.”

and others in the philanthropy world do much more than meet the basic needs of those who are stRuggling. They carry the sun in their hands, gifting them with optimism and opportunity.

Poverty does not have to mean poverty of spirit.

In fact, hope is a crucial element in breaking the cycle.

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usting off my has been a joy the story of incomparable Berneice Way of the Big Bend.

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GUEST EDITOR

-Sean O’Casey

TWM writing pen for this issue and an honor, particularly to share this issue’s Cover Woman—the Cox, President/CEO of the United

In the season of giving, what better gift can be found than the gift of the story. A place of magic and wonder, and ultimately a place of connection between one another. In the stories of others, we find the mirror to our own joys and struggles and a deep knowing that we are not alone. And, it’s in the sharing of our stories that we find the courage to step into our own power.

However, those that have experienced or are currently experiencing poverty can feel powerless and without connection. Even the very name, “poverty,” denotes an emptiness or hopelessness that can turn into a physical, social, and psychological cycle that is hard to break free. Berneice

One of the best vehicles of hope is storytelling.

It’s when a single mom shares with other single moms about how she made it out of the dark. The success of Netflix’s hit show, Maid, is a powerful testament to one woman’s journey to make a better life for herself and her daughter and the people who gave her support and inspiration along the way. Highly respected businesswoman and community leader Berneice Cox shared that she grew up in poverty. As a single mom, she also experienced the trepidation of not knowing if or how she would take care of her child.

This is the season of fresh starts and a time to bring renewed energy and light into your own life and those of others. What story do you want to tell in 2022? And, what are you doing at this moment to awaken into your power and give the gifts only you can bring to the world? You’ll find that you have much to offer that can be the light someone else needs to see their way out of the dark.

Wishing you happy holidays and a light-filled New Year, Heather Thomas Heather Thomas is the former Executive Editor of Tallahassee Woman Magazine and currently serves as the Marketing Coordinator at Leon County Schools. She is a wife and a proud mom to two amazing teenagers. To keep up with Heather, follow her on Instagram @ladybluewrites.

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ith Thanksgiving wrapping up and “pumpkin spice season” coming to a close, it is time to dust off your decorations and start listening to “All I Want for Christmas Is You” because the Winter holidays are upon us! Maybe you’ll be taking it easy this year and staying home with friends and family, or perhaps you’ll take a vacation to a new and adventurous place. Whatever it is, you not only want to ensure that you’re going to have the most amazing time possible, but that you look good doing it, too.

It is no secret that 90’s fashion has made a comeback in the last couple of years, and because of this, it may be time to take your “vintage” clothes out of storage and reuse them for modern times! Thankfully, the trends this year are quite simple, with staples like blazers, trousers, vests, pleated skirts, and boots being pretty much all you need to make you look like the most fashionable person in the world this holiday season. So, while the holidays are all about spreading love and cheer, you may want to also consider using it to show the people in your life your impeccable fashion sense.

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FULL CIRCLE

By Sofia Jimenez

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SHE SAYS SOCIAL

What is your favorite charity to donate to?

• Animal Shelters! @lehcar_h

• Tallahassee Museum- because it helps everyone in our

• Christmas Connection- donates blankets and toys to local

community by providing a safe, comfortable and happy place

families in need @hartnelhill

to enjoy. Teaches us about our region through exhibitions and

• Homeless Shelters

learning programs. Has programs for kids and allows those

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college. I LOVE their mission! @iammj2019

children and families across the state of Florida! @laciswann

• Love Missions Global- fights human trafficking through

• City Walk Urban Mission @cwahlphoto

education and awareness

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HOLIDAY BUCKET LIST

By Marcia Warfel

1. Make hot cocoa with marshmallows 2. Listen to holiday music 3. Sing Christmas carols with loved ones 4. Watch the Hallmark Channel 5. Visit a tree farm and cut your own tree 6. Hang mistletoe 7. Bake holiday cookies 8. Decorate the house and hang light 9. Trim the tree 10. Make a gingerbread house 11. Leave cookies for Santa Claus and carrots for the reindeers 12. Take a car ride and see Christmas lights 13. Wrap presents 14. Fill and hang stockings 15. Donate your time or toys 16. Go to a tree lighting 17. See the Rockettes 18. Wear matching holiday PJs 19. Open one small gift on Christmas Eve 20. Make s'mores and relax by a fire 21. Meet a friend for a holiday coffee 22. Do something kind for someone 23. Bundle up in your favorite holiday sweater

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It's that time of year again.

Time for joyous holiday gatherings, toasty fireplace snuggles, hot cocoa, and amazing holiday treats and sweets! Whether you are cozying up with your favorite winter latte or celebrating among friends and family, this luxurious dark chocolate mousse cake with tiramisu cream is sure to ring in the holiday spirit with style. It features two layers of smooth whipped chocolate mousse and a soft creamy layer of tiramisu cream. This cake is as rich and luscious as it is silky and moist.

Whether paired with a cup of hot cocoa, a white chocolate mocha latte, or your favorite dessert wine, this decadent cake is the perfect accompaniment to any holiday or family gathering. From my family to yours, may you have a joyous and blessed holiday season!

Dark Chocolate Mousse Cake with Tiramisu Cream

By Rebecca Weaver

INGREDIENTS Cake: 1 and 3/4 cups all-purpose flour (spoon & leveled) 3/4 cup unsweetened natural cocoa powder 1 and 3/4 cups granulated sugar 2 teaspoons baking soda 1 teaspoon baking powder 1 teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons espresso powder (optional) 1/2 cup macadamia oil (or canola or vegetable oil) 2 large eggs, at room temperature 3/4 cup full fat sour cream, at room temperature 1/2 cup buttermilk, at room temperature 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract 1/2 cup hot water or coffee Optional: 1 cup mini or regular semisweet chocolate chips Chocolate Mousse: 1/2 cup hot water

1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder Two 4-ounce quality semi-sweet chocolate bars, finely chopped 2 cups heavy cream or heavy whipping cream 2 Tablespoons powdered sugar 1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract

Tiramisu Cream: 8 oz cream cheese, room temperature 16 oz mascarpone cheese, room temperature 1/4 cup sugar 1 cup heavy whipping cream, cold 1/2 cup powdered sugar 2 tsp vanilla extract 4 tbsp espresso, room temperature Chocolate Ganache: Two 4-ounce quality semi-sweet chocolate bars, finely chopped 1 cup heavy cream or heavy whipping cream Optional Garnish: fresh cranberries, fresh rosemary sprigs, or chocolate shavings

INSTRUCTIONS Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease four 8-inch cake pans, line with parchment paper, then grease the parchment paper.

Baker's Tip: Parchment paper helps the cakes seamlessly release from the pans.

Greasing the pans before lining them with parchment paper helps the paper stay in place.

Make the Cake: Whisk the flour, cocoa powder, sugar, baking soda, baking powder, salt, and espresso powder (if using) together in a large bowl. Set aside. Using a handheld whisk or stand mixer fitted with a whisk attachment, mix the oil, eggs, and sour cream on medium-high speed until combined. Add the buttermilk and vanilla and mix until combined. Pour the wet

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ingredients into the dry ingredients, add the hot water/coffee, and whisk or beat on low speed until the batter is completely combined. Fold in the chocolate chips (if using) and make sure to stir your batter as you pour into your prepared pans to make sure chocolate chips distribute evenly among all 4 pans.

Divide batter evenly between 4 pans. Bake for 19-23 minutes. Baking times vary, so keep an eye on yours. For mine, 20 minutes was enough. The cakes are done when a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Remove the cakes from the oven and set them on a wire rack.

Allow it to cool completely in the pan.

Make the Chocolate Mousse: As the cakes cool, prepare the chocolate mousse so it can chill and be ready at the same time as the cake layers. Whisk the hot water and cocoa powder together. Set aside. Melt the chopped chocolate bars in a double boiler or use the microwave.

If using the microwave: place the chopped chocolate in a medium heat-proof bowl.

Melt in 20-second increments in the microwave, stirring after each increment until completely melted and smooth.

Pour hot water/cocoa mixture into melted chocolate and stir until thick and smooth.

Set aside.

Using a hand mixer or a stand mixer fitted with a whisk attachment, whip the heavy cream, powdered sugar, and vanilla extract together on medium-high speed until medium peaks form, about 3-4 minutes.

Medium peaks are between soft/loose and stiff peaks. Pour in the chocolate mixture, and using a spoon or rubber spatula, gently fold together. Avoid over-mixing, which can thin out the mousse. Cover mousse and chill in the refrigerator for at least 2 hours and up to 2 days. This recipe makes about 4 1/2 cups of chocolate mousse.

days ahead of time.

2. When using the microwave to melt chocolate, add about 1/2 to 1 tsp of coconut oil to the chocolate.

Make the Tiramisu Cream Filling: To make the filling, mix the cream cheese, mascarpone cheese, and sugar on mediumlow speed until combined. Do not mix on high speed or overmix, or the mascarpone cheese can begin to separate. Fold in the espresso. Set aside.

In another mixing bowl, add the heavy whipping cream, powdered sugar, and vanilla extract. Whip on high speed until stiff peaks form. You know you've reached the correct consistency if you hold your bowl upside down and your peaks stay put.

Slowly fold the whipped cream into the mascarpone cheese mixture; do not over mix. Set aside.

Assembling the Cake: Assemble the cake layers before preparing chocolate ganache. When assembling the cakes, level the cakes first if needed using a large, serrated knife, slice a thin layer off the tops of the cakes to create a flat surface. Place 1 cake layer on your cake stand or serving plate. Using a large icing spatula, evenly cover the top with about 1/2 cup chocolate mousse. Top with the 2nd layer and evenly cover the top with 1 1/2-2 cups of the tiramisu cream, depending on how thick you'd like your middle layer to be. Top with the 3rd cake layer, then spread another 1 1/2 cups chocolate mousse evenly on top. Top with the final 4th cake layer. Spread any remaining mousse, about a large spoonful, around the sides of the cake as a crumb coat. Run a bench scraper around the cake to smooth. Then refrigerate the cake for at least 1 hour and up to 4 hours. Prepare the ganache as you wait.

Baker's Tips:

Make the Chocolate Ganache:

1. You can also prepare the mousse 1-2

Place chopped chocolate in a medium

heat-proof bowl. Heat the cream in a small saucepan over medium heat until it begins to simmer gently. Do not let it come to a rapid boil– that's too hot! Pour over chocolate. Let it sit for 2-3 minutes to soften the chocolate. With a metal spoon or small rubber spatula, stir very slowly until chocolate has melted and the mixture is creamy and smooth. The finer you chop the chocolate, the quicker it will melt with the cream. If it's not melting, do not microwave it. Once the ganache mixture is smooth, let it cool for 20 minutes at room temperature before spreading on chilled cake.

Pour/spoon ganache on the chilled cake.

Smooth the top with an icing spatula and the sides with a bench scraper. Top with optional garnish such as fresh cranberries, fresh rosemary sprigs, or chocolate shavings. Serve cake immediately or chill, uncovered, for up to 4-6 hours before serving.

To Serve: Cake can be served chilled or at room temperature.

Storage: Cover leftover cake tightly and store in the refrigerator for 5 days.

Baker's Tips: 1. Make sure to use a high-quality chocolate baking bar. I used Ghirardelli chocolate baking bars for my recipe, but you can also use Bakers.

2. I used macadamia oil which is great for baking and adds additional flavor.

Macadamia oil is also a healthier alternative to canola or vegetable.

3. For the best dark chocolate flavor in the cake, I used a blend of unsweetened natural cocoa powder (1/4 cup) and Hershey's "Special Dark" cocoa powder (1/2 cup). Do not use all Dutch-process cocoa powder. For best results, use 3/4 cup natural or the blend of "Special Dark."

You can use either unsweetened natural or Dutch-process cocoa powder (Hershey's "Special Dark") in the chocolate mousse.

WALKING IN(TO) A WINTER WONDERLAND

By Tallahassee Nurseries

Seasonal Greenery

Garden Containers

Floral Arrangements

Greenery is a perfect way to embellish on your front door, with the added bonus of the fresh scent that comes along with it. Drape a lush greenery garland around the frame of your doorway or add a beautifully-designed wreath to the door itself – we recommend both for maximum holiday merriment!

Containers are a fantastic way to enhance your patio area and add garden color season after season. Freshen up your containers with plants appropriate for the season, being sure to include hues of reds (geraniums, cyclamen or pansies) and greens (holly or camellias) for a pop of fantastic, festive color.

The perfect addition to any table in your home. Include a fresh-cut floral centerpiece on your dining room table or add an eye-catching piece to a table or shelf to continue the décor beyond the front door.

Our designers can add themed ribbon & holiday accents to your florals for an extra dose of cheer.

Photography by Courtney Wahl Photography

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BRING THE HOLIDAY CHEER INTO YOUR HOME!

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By Amber White

ecorating is arguably one of the most fun (and important) part of the holidays! Of course, there is no wrong way to decorate your home for the holidays. But keeping these tips in mind can help you bring the holiday cheer right into your home!

1. Stick to a color combination.

Sticking to a color combination can easily help bring all the décor in your home together and make your space look clean and neat. For the winter holidays, I recommend a color palette of blues and whites. Or, if you’re decorating for Christmas, you can never go wrong with a simple red and green palette. But there are no wrong answers!

decoration. If you don’t have any of those, a few family photos in some holiday frames work just fine!

3. Lights, lights, lights! We all know lighting is essential for decorating, but even MORE essential for the holidays! Whether we’re talking Christmas, Hannukah, or New Years, lighting is debatably the most important aspect! Pick out some lights that go with your color palette and go crazy.

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SWEET HOME TALLAHASSEE

By Marcia Warfel

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ecently, Tallahassee Women caught up with the newly appointed CEO of The Kearney Center, Samantha Vance, to discuss homelessness in Tallahassee and how the community can rally together to impart solutions for one of our most vulnerable populations. Impressively, Samantha has raised nearly $1M to date for nonprofits in the state of Florida and she was appointed by Governor DeSantis to serve on the state advisory board for the Department of Juvenile Justice Delinquency Prevention, assisting with the management and allocation of close to $3M in federal funding. Her wealth of leadership experience and zeal for community support strongly aligns with The Kearney Center’s mission to provide emergency shelter to those experiencing homelessness in addition to services like GED training, prayer groups, and workforce development. Samantha has provided solutions as to how we can help the homeless population in Tallahassee and make this an ongoing priority in the community. A big thanks to The Kearney Center and Samantha Vance for continually raising awareness and providing resources for our community at large.

What would you say is the most important aspect about homelessness that we should know?

Anyone can experience homelessness. It has no set race, gender, or career criteria. Many people who struggle with chronic homelessness have issues coping with substance abuse, severe mental health concerns, and complicated unresolved trauma. Housing is one need among many that must be addressed to effectively aide people experiencing homelessness.

How can we help the homeless population here in Tallahassee?

Donate, donate, donate. Though money is one obvious contribution, volunteering and donating gently used clothes, feminine products, toiletries, and non-perishable food items are a major help to our daily operations at

The Kearney Center. During the holidays, important items to donate would be clothing and other items t o keep warm, especially socks.

With the weather getting colder, it is increasingly important to donate blankets and winter coats.

What can we do as a community to reduce homelessness?

Let your voices be heard politically. Homelessness is a multifaceted issue that stems from inequities in education, housing, and healthcare. Call upon legislators and other elected officials to make homelessness a priority.

Who experiences homelessness in our community?

Anyone can experience homelessness. At The Kearney Center we assist individuals ages 18 and older, with most of our clients being between the ages of 30-65. Other local agencies assist children, families, domestic violence victims, and pregnant women who are experiencing homelessness. Some of the main factors that cause homelessness in our community is unresolved trauma, severe mental health, and lack of affordable housing, which affects all ages.

What is the best solution to homelessness in Tallahassee?

There is not one grand solution to homelessness. It takes collaboration from the whole community including hospitals, law enforcement, and other social services agencies to meet the needs of people experiencing homelessness.

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Glenn Miller Orchestra Concert January 24th, 2022 7:00 PM Turner Auditorium 444 Appleyard Drive Tallahassee, FL 32304

Come on down to the Turner Auditorium to hear the Glenn Miller Orchestra on the 24th of January.

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Spring 2022 Career & Internship Expo

Get your elegant on and join the annual College of Medicine Gala.

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February 1st, 2022 9:30 AM- 4:00 PM University Center Club at FSU Tallahassee, FL 32306

The Dedman College of Hospitality invites you as well as top hospitality organizations to attend this expo for career and internship opportunities.

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FSU Book It! 5K Fundraiser

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Capoeira Thursdays

Multiple Dates throughout December- February Goodwood Museum & Gardens 1600 Miccosukee Rd Tallahassee, FL 32308 Get active and learn some capoeira!

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5th Annual Women’s Leadership Breakfast Presented by Women United, The United Way of the Big Bend

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omen United is a group comprised of female leaders passionate about the work of the United Way. Women of all ages are brought together for certain events like the Women’s Leadership Breakfast and the Girls On The Run event that are meant to fundraise, educate and inspire! Female philanthropists talk about the needs of the community, top influential public speakers attend these events, all while everyone is enjoying a delicious breakfast.

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irls on the Run of the Panhandle hosted their inaugural Wonder Woman Awards, a signature fundraiser on November 4th.

The spirit behind the Awards was to elevate the contributions of women and girls in our community. 25 finalists were selected based on exemplifying the Wonder Woman’s values of strength, leadership, hope, compassion, and service. Thanks to the finalists, community, and sponsors over $30,000 was raised for girl scholarships and the Girls on the Run program through public online voting.

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ON THE T H ECOVER C OV E R ON

Berneice Cox COMPASSIONATE PURPOSE

By Heather Thomas | Photography Kira Derryberry

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or many who grow up in and around poverty, there's a before and an after.

It's a moment when they realize that their world isn't like the one others are living in, and then nothing is ever the same again. There is a type of insulated innocence about the time before they knew that not every family struggles to keep the lights on, put food on the table, or that they are one crisis away from losing everything.

This is a moment Berneice Cox, President and CEO of the United Way of the Big Bend (UWBB), has experienced personally.

Because of it, she feels uniquely called to lead the community-wide effort in the Big Bend to assist those in poverty and at the edge of poverty—the ALICE population.

Compassionate.

Purposeful.

Driven.

Berneice is an inspirational powerhouse of background, skillsets, and vision that started in a small town on a small farm in Greeneville, Tennessee.

Growing up the youngest of seven children, Berneice doesn't remember a time when she wasn't helping her family by working on their farm and even the farms of others as a sharecropper. "We grew organic produce before organic was cool. It wasn't until later in life that I appreciated how we canned vegetables, made fresh bread and our own clothes—we did not have a lot of storebought items. I didn't know we grew up in poverty. We just lived it."

Compared to her sisters, Berneice preferred being outside driving the tractor or working alongside her father and brothers in the crop fields, the family's main source of income.

"I learned a lot about turning fields, tending the cows, and taking the crops to the market for winter. I helped my mother with three gardens, but I did not have a green thumb like my sisters!"

It was long hours of hard work, and there wasn't a lot to go around, but there was

always room for others at their table. "It was a warm and welcoming environment. We were the home that neighbors liked to visit.

My mother was unconditional love all the way. One of her mottos was, 'If you look for the good in someone you will always find it.' It's all about how you care for people— treat people how you want to be treated, despite their station in life."

Another facet of poverty is access to higher education and a family's perception of it.

"My father felt that after you graduated high school, he had completed his support of your education. I watched four brothers go into the military—Army, Navy, Marines and the Air Force. My sisters took different avenues as well. I'm extremely proud of all of them."

However, Berneice had different aspirations.

She loved to read, excelled in school, and was a student-athlete on the track team. "In my family, you had to be out of house by the time you were done with high school.

At 17 years-old I was on my own, working two jobs and became the first one in my family to go to college." Statistics show that first-generation college graduates change the dynamics of an entire family. Berneice experienced this first-hand with her nieces and nephews. "They saw what I was able to do and knew that they could do it too.

Many of them have excelled beyond their aunt. It's a generational change—if you see one person in the family take that bold step, it's a true indicator to what can happen to the rest of the family."

During college, Berneice met her first husband, whom she later married. They moved to Orlando, Florida, for job opportunities, and when her son was nine months old, they relocated to Tallahassee.

Around the time her son turned three, Berneice went through a divorce and became a single parent. Unbeknownst to her at the time, she joined the ranks of what

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"Everyone deserves to live with dignity and respect. If I were to leave any legacy, it would be one in which I made everyone feel worthy of unconditional love and compassion."

is known today as the ALICE population.

ALICE stands for Asset Limited, Income Constrained, Employed and includes those in poverty. It is a strategic direction of fundraising for the UWBB. Berneice says, "It's made up of those who live in poverty above the poverty line, but whose salary does not cover the costs of living-expenses such as childcare, food, transportation and healthcare. These individuals are working—often times at more than one job—but are still unable to provide for themselves and their families."

According to the ALICE Report, 46% of Florida households fall into this category, and 53.6% of the households in the UWBB eight-county service area are at ALICE or below the Federal Poverty Level, with Leon County at 49%. Berneice worked a fulltime job and two part-time jobs and still struggled to make ends meet. "I worried

ON THE COVER about food, rent, and childcare. It was a challenging time, but I learned about my strengths and weakness."

Living in poverty or near it can be like endlessly treading water alone in a wideopen ocean, motivated by a fear of survival that if you stop moving your arms, you and your family will drown. You can't see the land of opportunity on the horizon when your perspective is all about making sure you stay afloat. Berneice saw a life preserver in the form of becoming a lobbyist. "I was employed by a management company that worked with associations and had an opportunity to write reports for legislative newsletters and I was good at it. I pitched to three law firms that they needed a nonattorney lobbyist. Basically, my mindset was, if I never remarry, how can I support my family? Lobbying looked like a good way to go and so I went for it."

This began a 20-year career in the lobbying field representing clients in the state legislature, which included starting her own firm, allowing her to expand clients to the United States Congress and Senate.

"I always felt comfortable working with whatever party was in power. It goes back to how I was raised—I never see party, I see people. I have my opinions, but I respect others and am willing to see things from multiple points of view."

This was an ideal vantage point to have when the opportunity to host a TV show— "Our Issues Tallahassee"—came along in 2013. "I didn't like being on camera and would rather be behind the scenes. As a lobbyist I was behind the scenes, and that's a comfort level that I knew needed pushing.

We say to our boys that you need to face things that are uncomfortable. I took the leap after talking to my son about his fear of a certain challenge. I said, 'You know what? If you face that challenge, I'm going to face one of my largest fears and try out for this TV show position.' When I got the job, I was one of the most shocked people in the community!"

One person who is never shocked by Berneice's courage and tenacity is her biggest fan and husband, former Leon County Commissioner and Emmy Awardwinning producer, Gary Yordon. They've been through a lot together, including the death of Gary's handicapped son Zachary. Navigating the loss of a child was a testament to their love and strength as a team. "Gary was my friend before we were married. I think if your relationship is based on friendship it can survive a lot of things. Watching him lose his son and how he dealt with that and how we navigated our grief as a family was amazing. His coping mechanism is humor and he is clever and he is fun, but he's also thoughtful, sensitive, and has a huge heart for all people in our community."

Serving in the community became a way to honor Zachary's memory and that of her family. Among the many organizations Berneice volunteered with are the KCCI Cascades Park Project, Word of South Festival, Tusculum University Alumni Executive Committee, Women for FSU, a UWBB volunteer, then a board member and later served as its Chair. "I value each of these organizations but United Way spoke to me in a different way than all of the others. I was in the ALICE population. It took me a while to share my personal story, but that changed when I heard a single mom talk about her struggles. Her vulnerability sparked my own story sharing. It opened my eyes to how important it is to share what you have been through, and that poverty wears many faces. I've had many single moms reach out to me and ask, 'How did you do it?' It gives people hope."

Continuing to give people hope is what eventually led her to become the leader of UWBB in 2019 when the former CEO, Katrina Rolle, stepped into the position of President / CEO of the Community Foundation of North Florida. She was

named interim president and then was asked to head the organization. "I had not planned to be the CEO. God took control of this one because it really is a passion. I get to wake up every single day and come to work and impact those in poverty and at the edge of poverty. All that has happened in my life has prepared me for this position."

Even though our region has faced many hardships and changes since COVID-19, one thing has remained: the commitment of UWBB to lend a hand and heart to those struggling. Helping someone out of poverty is not just about getting their basic needs met—it's about giving people opportunities that help them take ownership of their own personal power. They begin to believe that they matter and that their life has a purpose beyond mere survival, experiencing firsthand how their community cares about them. In the season of giving, the gifts of love and hope are the greatest gifts of all.

There's another before and after when it comes to poverty—those who have experienced it and then chose to help others find their 'after' too. Berneice is the embodiment of the mission of UWBB but also of the fierce grace that women who have been through adversity possess, giving them an inner passion for connecting and inspiring at a deeper level.

From a small-town farm girl to now a grandmother of five grandchildren, Berneice looks back on her experiences and sees the gifts that came from the struggles. She hopes that her life will serve as an example to the generations to come. "I wouldn't change my experience with poverty and hardship for anything. It helped give me appreciation, perspective, and light this fire in me that burns bright for others. Everyone deserves to live with dignity and respect. If I were to leave any legacy, it would be one in which I made everyone feel worthy of unconditional love and compassion."

"I wouldn't change my experience with poverty and hardship for anything. It helped give me appreciation, perspective, and light this fire in me that burns bright for others."

A Rocky Destination Wedding

By Cristina Carter

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s we settle back into the mix of things in these postpandemic days, more and more couples are choosing to celebrate their special day in a big way – a destination wedding. Many couples had to postpone their original wedding plans and have been planning on ways to make up for the long-awaited wedding for almost two years.

When Farrell and Michael invited me to their destination wedding in the heart of the Rocky Mountains in Estes Park, Colorado, I was thrilled. It had been ages since I left Tally, let alone been on a plane, and I was ready!

Here are some tips from a destination wedding guest you might want to consider if you’re planning a one this holiday season (or beyond):

1. Your website is your first impression - and last.

consider hanging out with your besties that flew in from around the country.

I still can’t get over how cute it is that “Farrell and Michael had chemistry when they first met, literally. They met in chemistry class." I also learned much more from their site. Be sure to include where to stay, how to get there, things to do, etc. Remind your guests to check the website the day of the event for any last-minute changes.

3. Take a day trip with your guests

2. Provide lodging for guests and stay with them – no, seriously.

4. Splurge You’ve had plenty of time to plan this wedding, and then some. Know what you want and go for it. It’s all in the details. Whether it’s having a national top-ranked photographer or featuring your best friend's craft beer - it’s all about the experience.

The more and more destination weddings I attend, the more I realize it’s not so much about the couple and more about the family and friends that surround them as a couple. This means instead of going on a honeymoon

As if lodging with them wasn’t enough, some couples go the extra mile and plan a special day aimed just for the guest’s pleasure. Farrell and Michael took us on a tour bus across the Rockies where we even encountered an elk or two (pictured).

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urvive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC) assists human trafficking survivors and empowers communities with the tools to recognize, report and prevent both sex and labor trafficking. Many people think human trafficking only happens in big cities, but the truth is, it’s happening everywhere, including right here in Leon County. STAC provides direct support to survivors and trains thousands of people in our community to identify, report, and prevent human trafficking. (For more information see surviveandthriveadvocacy.org/) STAC’s training programs for professionals and the public provide information on how traffickers operate and teach individuals what to do if they suspect trafficking. STAC’s latest initiative, funded by Leon County, is STACPRO https://stacpro. org/. This free, online, on-demand training will empower all businesses, workplaces, and employees with greater knowledge about recognizing and responding if they suspect sex or labor trafficking. Workplaces whose employees take this training also will receive special recognition. Let’s face

it: businesses are the eyes and ears of the community and play a vital role in identifying trafficking acts and helping survivors to be safe.

The STAC team is working hard to get this information to every workplace and business in Leon County, so they know how to recognize human trafficking and how to react safely and effectively if they suspect trafficking is present. STACPRO is the first comprehensive virtual training program that targets every employment and business sector in Leon County.

This includes hotels, restaurants, shops, retail and convenience stores, offices and workplaces of all kinds, financial institutions, and more. With the community’s support, STAC builds a network of people and organizations who stand with survivors and work together to prevent human trafficking.

Will you join us?

Robin Hassler Thompson, JD, MA, is STAC’s Executive Director, and you can contact her at: robin@ surviveandthriveadvocacy.org, 850-597-2080 (call and text)

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in Cayo District, Belize, Central America

By Regina Lynch-Hudson Photography by Courtland Bivens III

Paradise unfolds in Western Belize with its lush rainforest, rushing waterfalls, captivating caves and medicinal lands dotted with oranges, ponderosa lemons, bananas and an array of healing plants.

Cayo District is Belize's largest district, bordering Guatemala, and hails as the country’s premier territory for unparalleled adventure. The rustic settlement of San Ignacio is the nearby stopover for vacationers, commonly accessible by canoe─if you choose to move about like the locals. And we did!

Culturally, Cayo is comprised of a colorful melting pot of ethnicities─ Mestizos people of mixed Mayan and Spanish descent, along with Mennonite, Creole, Garifuna, East Indian, Chinese, Lebanese─and expats from around the globe.

No sabbatical compares to being secluded in a thatched roof jungle hideaway—

nestled on a private 400-acre nature reserve set along the banks of the Macal River in the foothills of the Maya Mountains.

Chaa Creek, rated one of the world’s top eco-lodges, offers an exclusive rainforest experience ─ thick with wild, tropical scents of exotic vegetation and the sounds of a diversity of animals and birds—Mother Nature at her finest.

AND Belize’s population density of only about 45.4 humans per square mile—one of the lowest population densities in the world, guarantees solitude! Belize is the most sparsely populated country in Central America. www.chaacreek.com

The drive into dense rainforest on backwoods nature safari in a rugged four-wheel drive jeep is an off-the-beaten path journey best conquered by thrill-seeking explorers.

Guided treks unfolded a picturesque trail

network— leading us to different areas of Chaa Creek’s magnificent nature reserve.

Our binoculars spied howler monkeys, colorful toucans, red-eyed tree frogs, iguanas and other rainforest critters.

Belizean herbalist and naturalist guide, Meshack (a native of Tanzania, named from the Biblical book of Daniel) accompanied me throughout medicinal trails, to identify healing flora on the grounds of the sprawling rainforest property. Meshack took particular interest in a custom designed pendant that I wore, depicting my great-greatgrandmother, Mary Louisa Stepp Burnette Hayden, an early herbalist-healer in Black Mountain, North Carolina.

Her spirit was present as Belize’s rainforest unfurled, showcasing trees, shrubs and vines, traditionally used for medicinal purposes. Belize’s “Bush medicine” dates back to the era of ancient Maya, who relied

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on the rainforest for life sustaining cures and survival.

On other days, I soared like an acrobatic butterfly owning the sky, in the company of knowledgeable Meshack, who also turned out to be a proficient Butterfly Whisperer.

I have maneuvered countless waterways—from canoeing Vietnam’s famed Mekong Delta to touring Tokyo Bay in Japan, to cruising on a motorboat in the Bosphorus Strait in Istanbul, Turkey and floating along the Grand Canal in a gondola in Venice, Italy. Nothing tops Belize’s mesmerizing Barton Creek Cave, which was recently included on a list of nine of the world’s most beautiful and unusual cave destinations. The cave remains an important site for archaeologists. Another archeological marvel was my trek to Xunantunich or “Maiden of the Rock,” a major ceremonial site in Belize. One of Xunantunich's better known structures is the breathtaking pyramid known as "El Castillo," one of the tallest structures in Belize.

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In the Era of Covid,

What Impact Will It Have on Millennials Entering the Workforce?

By Kimberly A. Moore, MBA

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he impact of Covid has been far reaching with no exception being given to the workforce challenges that already existed prior to the pandemic. That said, it’s no surprise that we find ourselves in conversations about Millennials and asking whether their role in the workforce will be drastically different than prior generations. As a matter of fact, it was just a few years ago where Millennials overtook the Gen Xer’s to become the largest generation. But here’s the rub, most employers are working diligently to return to the “normal” as they once knew it. However, a growing number of Millennials have a different perspective and are seeking a “new normal” that celebrates flexibility.

In order to appreciate the notion of flexibility for Millennials, it’s important to remember that this generation is frequently referred

to as “digital natives”. If you’re not familiar with this term, it means that this generation has a first-hand experience of all things digital. As a result, what may have taken other generations eons to understand and appreciate the role of technology in carrying out our work, Millennials have found a way to do just that. For example, this age group has consistently been known to seek freedom from a rigid 9 to 5 with a slight lean towards creative physical workplace environments. However, this has since been replaced by the freedom to work from home and balance their personal lives with their careers. Though, I don’t have a crystal ball one thing I’m certain of is that the pandemic has cemented in the minds of a number of millennials that the old “normal” has been replaced by the “new normal”. Additionally, that in order to attract and retain this group in the workforce will require creativity and flexibility.

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Genyne Boston, Ph.D., chief of staff and associate provost for faculty and academic affairs, received the Visionary Award for "exhibiting a sincere desire to create a campus environment where persons with disabilities are given equal and full access to FAMU's academics, programs and services." Dr. Boston has served in a variety of leadership positions and served as a professor in the Department of English and Modern Languages for more than 15 years. She attributes FAMU's achievement and that of its students to faculty who are committed to continuous professional growth and students' ultimate success.

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Before moving to Leon County with her family, Green worked in newsrooms in Alabama, GA and North Carolina.

Dr. Lori Gonzalez named Senior Policy and Research Analyst with the Data Foundation based out of Washington, DC. In her new position, she leverages her research experience on aging and health policy and on disparities in the criminal and juvenile justice systems to provide subject matter expertise on relevant data policies. Lori Gonzalez moved to Tallahassee from Palm Coast to attend FSU and earned a Ph.D. in Sociology with a focus on juvenile justice. For nearly a decade, Dr. Gonzalez was Research Faculty at the Claude Pepper Center at FSU where she researched policy issues affecting older people and advocated for a better longterm care system.

PURSUE YOUR PASSION AS A CAREER

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id the pandemic leave you questioning your current career?

If so, you’re not alone. CNBC released a report in October 2021 stating 50% of American workers want to make a career change. So how do we make that change? Let’s talk about a few ways you can begin your journey of making your passion your career.

SET REALISTIC GOALS Set goals and stick to them. It’s easy to want to reach for the stars. However, try to keep them focused and realistic. You don’t want to get down on yourself if you aren’t as successful as you planned (especially at the beginning).

CHANGE YOUR CURRENT ROUTINE You can talk about setting goals all you want, but if you don’t do anything about reaching them, it’s never going to happen.

Take a moment to write down your goals and what it would take to get them. Set

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your mind to it and don’t let anything get in your way. Things are going to need to change before they can get better. Make the changes.

BE PERSISTENT I don’t know very many business owners who were successful the first time they tried to open their first business. It’s critical to be persistent when going after your goals.

You can have as much talent, education, and drive out there. However, if you aren’t persistent, you’ll never reach them.

HAVE FUN Let’s be honest, the pandemic changed the way we look at life. With that new mindset, it's important to embrace the little things and have fun with your new positive and healthy lifestyle.

I know taking the first step isn’t easy but you can do it! There hasn’t been a better time to stop what you’re doing and follow your dreams than now.

Mending Mental Fatigue Do you frequently feel overwhelmed or emotionally drained?

Are you constantly exhausted? Maybe you’ve had to give up things that you used to enjoy because you have too much work?

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

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oo often, you’ll find yourself working overtime to finish an ever-growing to-do list. If you can relate to any of these, you’re likely experiencing mental fatigue. Mental fatigue is a condition triggered by prolonged cognitive activity and stress.

While we’ve tried our best to focus on self-care this past year, the demands of everyday life, the turbulent state of the world, and the ongoing pandemic have derailed our efforts—cluttering our minds and putting a strain on our cognitive function. 0ver 80 percent of women experience bouts of mental fatigue or brain fog. So, on this #MentalHealthMonday, let’s see what we can do to reboot our clarity and combat mental exhaustion.

Consider these tips: 1. Start your day with intention. Wake up ten minutes early to calming music, stretching, or even a prayerful experience.

2. Pull out those sneakers. Science says that exercise makes the brain more resilient to fatigue.

3. Be gentle to your eyes. Hours on the computer can cause significant eye fatigue. Take small steps.

4. Practice sleep hygiene. Sleep debt, or short sleeping, can negatively impact your physical and mental health.

5. Take an inventory. Examine all those experiences that drain your energy and park them. Your mental state needs to be preserved and protected.

6. Trade in the self-doubt and negative self-talk for “can do” statements.

7. Frame the time you must expose yourself to stressful events or stressors. You can only tolerate so much.

8. Pause throughout the day and lean into your support system.

9. Organization and routine will help you recharge.

Remember: Mental fatigue saps us of one of our most precious commodities: life energy. Let’s take a giant step towards mending our mental fatigue by adopting at least three of these tips this week. tallahassee woman | 44 | december 2021 • january 2022

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Envisioning the New Year

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he promise of a new year brings all-new possibilities and resolutions. Ways that we can reflect on ourselves and identify what we want to change moving forward. We all want our lives to change drastically with each New Year’s Resolution we set for ourselves.

Goals that we have forgotten by the second week of January, and we have already begun to fall back into our old habits. Make this year different and take a new approach to what you want to pursue in the new year.

The perfect way to constantly be reminded of these is to create a vision board for yourself. Vision boards are collages that represent your dreams and goals in a creative and physical manifestation. They help you focus on what you want and keep you accountable for achieving your goals.

Let your board spark inspiration and motivation each time you look at it throughout the year.

Creating a vision board is a creative and reflective process. Be realistic and identify dreams, aspirations, and priorities you have in your life.

You can draw inspiration from everywhere. Gather quotes, pictures, magazine cutouts, and anything that has meaning to you that you could tack onto the board. Add color and embellishments! Choose things that can bring you encouragement and put you back on track for those times of doubt. Remember, there is no one correct way to make your vision board; it is your vision for your life, so make it something that resonates with you!

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Protecting Your Mental Health in College

By Ashley Dickey

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onstop lectures, final exams, and that end-of-the-semester stress are draining for college students. As a graduating senior, I’ve noticed how easy it is to allow academics to overshadow your mental health. In the long run, prioritizing coursework over your mental health will leave you feeling drained.

It’s completely possible to balance your mental health and studies.

As we end the year and prepare for 2022, let’s maintain both healthy study habits and emotional states. Here are three tips for balancing your mental health and college coursework.

Tip #2: Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

As we close the semester, it’s important to dedicate some time to studying for finals. Creating a schedule is a simple way to hold yourself accountable. Customize your study schedule so that it works for you. On the other hand, your study schedule needs to have time for breaks. Set aside time for things that you enjoy. You deserve it!

More often than not, we forget that emotional wellbeing can impact our physical wellbeing. A healthy mind allows for a healthy body.

Mental and physical health are related, so you should not neglect either one of them. Make sure you’re taking care of your body, getting adequate rest, and staying healthy. Protect your physical and emotional wellbeing. We attend college to learn, but our health should take priority. Be kind to yourself.

Studying alone can be daunting, so study groups are a must in college. Whether it’s virtual or socially distanced, study groups are a great way to socialize and learn from your peers. It’s helpful to consult with classmates and hear a new perspective. Office hours are also a great way to learn directly from your professor.

Tip #3: Remember that your mental Tip #1: Create a study schedule, but don’t health is just as important as your physical health. forget to make time for breaks.

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Growing with Kindness

By Jane Marks

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avigating a pandemic, witnessing trauma weekly, dealing with a global and personal crisis, as well as our country’s racial reckoning have all become a regular part of our lives.

As we begin the month, let’s consider a concept that will have a real, lasting, positive impact on all of us. Kindness. Too often, amid the busyness of our

everyday lives, we forget to be mindful and present during our interactions with others. Time and time again, kindness is not a priority. But when we express care, concern, consideration, and compassion toward others, the benefits to our mental and physiological health are well-documented.

So, let’s take a different look at kindness this month: 1. Let’s learn to listen this month. Make room for new learning and growth. If we take the time to listen without judgment, we may discover that our similarities outweigh our differences.

4. Being kind often means being candid. Too often, we don’t have the courage to be straightforward.

Let’s give meaningful responses to people’s concerns rather than short answers.

2. Each day, we should highlight a positive quality about someone with whom we come in contact.

5. Drive with kindness—not only in traffic but also in conversations. This is a great gift we can give to others as well as ourselves.

3. Let someone know that you love what they do—a musician, healthcare worker, cashier, etc. This can change the course of someone’s day. Remember, random acts of kindness are contagious.

6. Be kind to yourself. Self-compassion is vital to our health. Kindness will help create real change.

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athering with our families are some of the most important times that many took for granted before the pandemic. As the holiday season is upon us, here are some alternative activities to enjoy while including the entire family.

• Look at Christmas lights. Some people go all out for the holidays, find those houses and take a walk looking at them. All of the different lights and decorations are sure to put you in a holiday mood.

• Have a cookie decorating competition. Baking is a staple of this season, so have fun with it!

Incorporate different cookie shapes, icing, and sprinkles, let the creativity flow, and in the end, you can enjoy some sweet treats.

• Holiday movie night. Gather all of your favorite people together and sit down with no technology and watch a movie together.

• Christmas crafts. There is an abundance of easy

and affordable holiday crafts. You are guaranteed to have something in your house to create a fun activity for family members of all ages.

• Deck the halls! Incorporate the whole family in decorating the house and the tree. Put on some festive music and make a night of it! Being present and having fun together are those moments that will last a lot longer than the gifts you open.

• Volunteer together. Show your family that it’s not all about receiving during this season but also giving back. Getting involved in the community is a rewarding experience that impacts those in your area at a time of the year where they could be missing family. This could even become a new tradition.

There are more ways to have fun and make lifelong family memories than shopping and giving gifts. It’s not about money, but about those priceless moments that you can’t buy in a store.

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Here are some thought-provoking questions and strategies for embracing and celebrating a mindset of abundance. Consider writing in a gratitude journal every night to manifest a positive mindset and set your intentions for abundance!

•What am I grateful for in my life right now?

•Who do I love and who loves me?

•What am I excited about?

•What am I most proud of in my life?

•What do I enjoy most?

•Recite positive mantras daily or write in journal and review often.

•Spend time with positive people that speak of uplifting things.

•Focus on the positive perspective •Try to see the silver lining in most situations •Take ownership of your happiness •Don’t play the blame game •Recognize your strengths and resiliencies •Choose happiness every day •Adopt a self-care plan including mindfulness •Engage in positive conversations •Don’t look back

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