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HOW TO KICK THE SELF-JUDGING HABIT IES 2020 guest faculty Jan Carley explains how to shift from judgment to assessment
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he theme that consistently pops up for the hard-on-themselves, high-achieving leaders I coach is the crippling negative effect that self-judgment has on their lives and performance. Self-judgment is a black and white statement of criticism that implies a labeling of our value or worth. Most often, our inner judge levels a negative judgment that can immediately undermine us or shut us down. Drive, purpose, and commitment to excellence are positive qualities. However, judging ourselves when we fall short of the high-standard or level of the bar we set is not. A judgment closes the door. On the other hand, self-assessment is an objective process that doesn't support or categorize a good or bad point of view. It keeps the sense of our personal value separate from the evaluation of our functioning or actions. A self-assessment simply notices what "is" with the clear, calm lens of a scientist. If we can turn limiting self-judgment into self-assessment, we will open possibilities and space for learning and growth. The five steps that follow can help you make the shift.
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