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BY DIANA BUTLER
Letting go of
CONTROLLING behaviour
A tidbit of wisdom about how tapping into our power can help us let go of our controlling behaviour. From my experience, we use control as a tool to validate that we are in the “right.” Generally speaking, we do so to keep us feeling safe, not just in our environment but also in our identity. By enacting structure and order we remove the threat of chaos and uncertainty. But is our way “the right way” or are we in a subconscious power struggle where our ego’s innate desire for safety and security, has waged war against the truth? Perspective is reality. Reality becomes our truth. Our truth becomes our identity. Our identity becomes our ego. Our ego is protected through control. So, in essence we use control to protect our ego, which then
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protects our identity, which has been crafted by a will to stay safe and therefore, the actions we take are determined by what we deem to be true, based upon the reality of our world, which is ultimately determined by our perception. So, does that suggest that to alter our reality, we would need to change our perspective rather than control our environment? Have we been doing things wrong all this time? Have we been trying to control others and our environment to keep us feeling safe, a process that creates tension, fuels fights and wages war, when all we need to do is alter our personal perspective? So, what is perspective? We all operate on different energetic frequencies, experiences, education, knowledge, wisdom, and emotional intelligence.
