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NORTH JERSEY

WOMAN Fall 2014

Vilma Mueller:

One Woman’s “American Dream” holds lessons for us all…

The Mayflower Grace: New England’s Hidden Gem

Contributors Judi Rothenberg, Editor-at-Large

Dan Epstein, Senior Photographer

With a keen eye and a touch of serendipity, Judi Rothenberg scouts the world (and New Jersey!) in search of new ideas, products, trends and destinations. Formerly the Lifestyle and Travel Editor of NJ Savvy Living, Rothenberg started her career as a fashion editor at Retail News and is a graduate of the Fashion Institute of Technology. www.TheLuxeLane.com www.Twitter.com/JudiRothenberg www.Pinterest.com/JudiRothenberg

Diane Haase, Writer Diane Aldrich Haase is a freelance writer and parent of two teens living in Maplewood, NJ. Born and raised in New York she “retired” to the suburbs after two decades as an investment advisor in New York.

One of the premier portrait and event photographers in Northern New Jersey. A photojournalist for three decades, his images have been featured in Time, Newsweek, Parade, Money Magazine, the New York Times Magazine, and more. www.DanEpstein.com

Louise B. Hefash, Writer Louise B. Hafesh is an award winning artist and journalist and president of AdVantage Publications, Inc, an international editorial syndicate. She can be reached at: www.louisebhafesh.com.

Rhonda Rivera, Writer CEO and Founder of 4Front Marketing Group. Rhonda works with small and mid-sized businesses in creating strategic marketing plans.

Deborah Schapiro, Writer Deborah is a long-time contributor to North Jersey Woman’s sister publications Suburban Essex and Vicinity Magazine. She also writes for Montclair and Millburn Magazines, as well as a friend’s blog. Deborah lives in Montclair with her husband, three children, and dog.

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Cathleen M. Black Publisher

Judi Rothenberg Editor-at-Large

Nicole Magliaro Copy Editor

Michael J. Reidy Art Director

Ruth Bollo, Writer

Julie Weinberg

Ruth Bollo is a cleaning consultant and owner of Clean It Right. She just received the National Association of Professional Women’s VIP Award.

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Susan Wilinski, Writer In addition to contributing to Vicinity Media Group publications, Susan has written for the Sussex County Journal, The Township Journal and The Sparta Independent in addition to maintaining a blog, Susan Says. She lives in northern New Jersey with her husband, son and daughter and is working on two novels. www.susanwilinski. wordpress.com www.twitter.com/SusanWilinski

Letter from the Publisher

ith the holiday season fast approaching this issue of North Jersey Woman is packed with a variety of insightful events highlighted in the Calendar of Events section and the feature Holidaze recommends fun and easy solutions for your holiday “todo” lists, also Ruth Bollo shares her cleaning tips for the season. We continue to celebrate the influential and inspiring women of northern New Jersey… Vilma Mueller, surpassed obstacles to make her “American dream” a reality, and a group of women entrepreneurs recently visited Ireland during a Global Retreat. Our local experts answer questions and advise on the solutions and trends in their specific expertise. Don’t miss the getaway piece by Louis B. Hefash as she takes you to the newly renovated Mayflower Grace in Connecticut.

Amanda Galasso Marketing Assistant

Vanice Gage Donegan Pauline Dunberg Christine Layng Marketing Consultants

Warren Westura Contributing Photographer

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Valerie Ablaza, MD

Dr. Linda Stone

Dr. Valerie Ablaza, M.D. is Corporate Vice President of The Plastic Surgery Group in Montclair, NJ where she works with her partner, Dr. Allan Rosen. Dr. Ablaza is board certified by the American Society of Plastic Surgeons and is a Fellow of the American College of Surgeons. She is also a member of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, Phi Beta Kappa and the Alpha Epsilon Delta honor society. She received her medical degree from the Medical College of Pennsylvania, completed her residency in plastic surgery at the New York Hospital/Cornell Medical Center and finished her training with a fellowship in breast and aesthetic surgery in Nashville, Tennessee.

Dr. Linda Stone has been on TV and featured in several periodicals including Garden State Woman magazine, Doctors of Dentistry magazine, New Jersey Monthly magazine and The Beacon,the journal for medical professionals of UMDNJ. She is a certified member of the American Academy of Facial Esthetics, a member of the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry, American Dental Association, NJ Dental Association, International Team for Implantology and a Fellow of the Academy of General Dentistry. Dr. Stone is a true entrepreneur and was at the forefront of women in dentistry when she began her career in 1982. She was quick to see the need for a new kind of dentist, a doctor empathetic and compassionate enough to work with patients who experience significant stress and anxiety when visiting the dentist. Her office provides state-of-theart techniques and changes patients’ lives one smile at a time. She loves giving patients “the smile of their dreams.”

Jay Y. Chun, MD, PhD Dr. Chun is a nationally renowned neurosurgeon at Atlantic NeuroSurgical Specialists (ANS) with locations throughout NJ. He is board certified by the American Board of Neurological Surgery and completed advanced fellowship training in complex and minimally invasive spine surgery. Dr. Chun specializes in the surgical treatment of the neck and spine, including complex and minimally invasive surgery, and artificial discs. He has the advanced training to understand the intricate relationship between the spine and the complex network of nerves that make up the spinal cord. Understanding this interrelationship between the structural aspects of the spine and the nervous system allows Dr. Chun to fine-tune a patient’s diagnosis and develop the most appropriate and least invasive treatment option. Dr. Jay Chun is known throughout the medical community for his ability to provide an accurate diagnosis as to the cause of pain, which is the most important factor in determining whether or not any surgical procedure will be of benefit.

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Ariella Cianni Ariella Cianni, one of the talented stylists at Shag86 of Little Falls, recalls that even from the very first day of work in May of 2004 as an assistant at the salon, the first at which she had ever worked, she was eager to be “the best at everything.” Today, she has clearly achieved that goal, honing her skills over the years side by side with the best stylists in the field in cutting, color, styling and more. During her career, she has trained with professionals at industry leaders such as L’Oreal, Wella, Wedkin and many others. “I still continue my education to this day,” she says, “and look forward to learning new things every time I go for training.” Once, when asked what she would be if she had the opportunity to change her career, she quickly responded, “I would never take that opportunity, because I love what I do so much, it would sadden me if I didn’t have this work in my life anymore.” Summing up, she says, “It’s the best feeling, knowing that my talent can change the way clients feel about themselves and having them feel their very best when they leave my chair.”

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features 8

New Jersey Entrepreneurs Go Global

10 Calendar of Events 16 One Woman’s “American Dream” Holds Lessons for Us All… 20 Seen In—A Night Out with Members if B.I.G. (Believe, Inspire, Grow)

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22 A Sparkling Home for the Holidays

EXPERT ADVISOR COLUMNS 26 Gentle Caring Dentistry Eliminating Painful Injections and Easing Patient Fear

28 Beauty in Balance: A Common Sense Approach to Cosmetic Surgery & Treatments

30 Dr. Jay Chun of Atlantic NeuroSurgical Specialists (ANS) Discusses the ANS Spine Center 32 Hair Stylist Ariella Cianni Discusses Hair Care

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34 Holidaze Fun and Easy Holiday “To-Do” List Solutions

38 Daycation Today Calling All Busy Moms and Working Women

42 The Mayflower Grace: On the Cover: Vilma Mueller with her beloved dog Casey

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Date Night NYC: Hot. Sexy. Steamy. Take a break for romance and relaxation. Aire Ancient Baths, a subterranean grotto lined with hundreds of flickering candles and illuminated pools, is the perfect place for both. Carved from an 1883 textile factory in Tribeca, the baths in the 16,000 square foot space range from tepid to hot, with the option of an ice plunge. Don’t miss the “Floatarium,” a warm salt-water pool with the same buoyancy as the Dead Sea for blissful floating. There’s also a steam room with aromatherapy, a heated marble bench to enjoy a cup of tea, and rain-head showers. The 90-minute thermal experience starts at $75, prices are higher on the weekends and a massage can be added for an additional fee. Bring a bathing suit; robes, slippers and towels are provided. Ancientbathsny.com

Helping Hand Don’t give up your evening jog just because it’s dark. Speedshift Running Gloves from Nathan Sports keep you safe by increasing your visibility. The gloves also allow you to operate your smartphone and have a “WipeZone” for running noses. $50. nathansports.com

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Don’t Be Flakey Honor the New Year and your skin with Clarisonic’s Mia3 facial cleansing brush. The sonic frequency produces over 300 movements per second to loosen dirt, flakes and oil, priming skin to better absorb moisturizers. The limited edition, Year of the Goat pattern, is available exclusively at Nordstrom, other colors at clarisonic.com.

Potato & Parsnip Latkes with Smoked Sturgeon, Crème Fraîche and Fennel Fronds Top Chef judge, Gail Simmons, elevates the humble potato pancake to a gourmet treat. Traditionally served at Hanukkah, this version would also make an elegant hors d’oeuvre for New Year’s Eve. Simmons recommends pairing the latkes with Estancia Monterey County Chardonnay. 1 large baking potato (about ¾ pound), peeled and quartered lengthwise 2 medium shallots, peeled, trimmed and halved lengthwise 1 pound parsnips, peeled, trimmed, and halved or quartered, if large ¼ cup unbleached all-purpose flour 2 large eggs, lightly beaten 1 ½ teaspoons salt ¼ teaspoon baking powder Canola oil, for frying ½ pound thinly sliced smoked sturgeon, cut into small pieces ½ cup crème fraîche Freshly ground black pepper ½ cup finely chopped fronds and stems from 1 small fennel bulb Set a large strainer over a bowl. In a food processor fitted with the shredding disk, shred potato and shallots. Transfer to strainer; let stand 5 minutes. Meanwhile, shred parsnips. Squeeze excess liquid from potato mixture. Pour off all of the liquid in bowl, then add shredded potato mixture, parsnips, flour, eggs, salt and baking powder to bowl; stir to combine well. In a large skillet, heat 1/4 inch canola oil until shimmering. Spoon 2 tablespoons of the potato mixture into the canola oil for each latke, pressing slightly to flatten. Fry latkes in batches over medium heat, turning once, until golden and crisp on both sides, about 7 minutes total. Drain latkes on a paper towel-lined baking sheet. Serve warm topped with sturgeon, a dollop of crème fraîche, a pinch of pepper and fennel fronds.

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f it is true that all business is global, then New Jersey has become a true worldwide connector thanks to the efforts of two innovative local women entrepreneurial organizations. Leading Women Entrepreneurs (LWE) and B.I.G. (Believe Inspire Grow) have teamed up to spread their women’s empowerment message to the world’s stage. At the end of July, LWE founder Linda Wellbrock and B.I.G. founder Tara Gilvar led a delegation from the two organizations on a retreat to Cork, Ireland in conjunction with the Irish non-profits Cork Innovates and the Cork Foundation. Other members of the New Jersey delegation included Alexandra Zetlin of Zetlin Strategic Communications, Karolina Dehnhard of Budd Larner, Susan Ascher, President of The Ascher Group, Liz Swinicki, founder of Pravda Consulting, Caroline Gosselin, founder of The Gosselin Group at Prominent Properties Sothebys International Realty, and Terry Tateossian, founder of Social Fix. Their goal was to lend a hand to the nascent field of Irish women entrepreneurs by serving as mentors, advisors and ambassadors to the women seeking to grow, scale and fund their business ventures. “We live in an amazing time,” Wellbrock says. “While people can connect in seconds using the Internet, there is no substitute for meeting like-minded entrepreneurs face-to-face. The bonds that we forged in Ireland will last a lifetime, enriching us both personally and professionally.” Gilvar adds, “The resources that we have available in the United States are brand new to the Irish business community. It was so inspiring to see the seeds of entrepreneurship take hold. I am confident that this trip was just the beginning of our journey together.” While in Ireland, the New Jersey professionals led a session during which ten Irish female entrepreneurs

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pitched their businesses, à la Shark Tank. Dee O’Leary of iDME Wristbands (a unique identification tool) was selected among the talented group of participants to travel to the greater New Jersey area in December to meet with key individuals who can assist in the development of her company within the United States. The dynamic O’Leary will be one of the honorees at LWE’s Top 25 event on December 4th at Fiddler’s Elbow Country Club in Bedminster. The Mayor of Cork County and the Executive Director of Cork Innovates will be in attendance at this event along with over 350 business leaders, entrepreneurs and media, a true testament to the strength of the relationships made during the retreat. The event is open to the public. The trip to Ireland was the second “Her Business World Global Retreat,” sponsored by LWE and B.I.G. This worldwide initiative allows American women-owned business owners to offer advice and network with other female entrepreneurs around the world. In 2013, the first retreat was held in Norway. Recognizing that the rapidly-growing female entrepreneurial market was being underserved, New Jersey native Wellbrock founded LWE in 2011. With its roots steeped in principles of innovation, market potential, community involvement and advocacy for women, LWE has grown into a nationwide female entrepreneur resource network. For more information about LWE or to purchase tickets to the Top 25 event ($150), go to www.lweworld.com. B.I.G. is a business support, education and networking organization that seeks to empower women. Started in 2009 in Gilvar’s Berndardsville living room, B.I.G. now has “pods” (chapters) in six states and continues to grow. To learn more about B.I.G., visit www.believeinspiregrow.com.

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WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 19

The Queen of Mean

Women’s Workshop: Letting Go of Anger Diane Lang, MA, a counseling educator and author of “Creating Balance and Happiness,” will teach you how to manage your anger. There are many physical and emotional consequences of anger. Recognize and understand how anger affects you and become aware of what triggers it. This will help you make changes, prevent and manage anger in a healthy manner. 10:30-Noon. NCJW Conference Room, 70 South Orange Ave., Suite 120, Livingston. 973-740-0588. www.CenterForWomenNJ.org

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 4 Lisa Lampanelli Performs Lisa Lampanelli is Comedy’s Lovable Queen of Mean. Heralded as “more than a standup—a standout,” by comedy legend Jim Carrey, Lampanelli is a cross between Don Rickles, Archie Bunker, and a vial of estrogen. 8pm. Mayo Performing Arts Center, 100 South St., Morristown. 973-539-8008. www.mayoarts.org

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 20 Harvest Cooking Class Join chef Kathleen Sanderson for this cooking demonstration. Menu includes roasted butternut squash & apple soup with candied pecans & cranberries, pork tenderloin stuffed with, herbs & caramelized onion with mustard au jus, roasted salmon with winter spices & herbs, cinnamon scented carrot puree, shaved brussels sprouts with bacon, spiced red wine poached pears w/ vanilla sauce anglaise and ginger spice cookies. 11am-2pm. Kings Cooking Studio, 778 Morris Tpke., Short Hills. 973-258-4009. www.kingsfoodmarkets.com

Wings Cancer Group For Women Presents: The Healing Kitchen WINGS (Women Inspiring ,nurturing, giving strength and support) Facilitator Sally Owens has been innovative in the kitchen—not always by choice due to dairy allergy—but when she went vegan she learned her entire lifestyle was transformed, not merely her diet. 7-9pm. The Verona Community Center, 880 Bloomfield Ave., Verona. 973-400-9529

Yoga Class Free weekly yoga class every Thursday morning. Bring your own mat if you have one. No registration required. Class is geared towards beginners. 9am. Cedar Grove Library, 1 Municipal Plaza, Cedar Grove. 973-239-1447

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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 22

A frank and funny discussion about parenting, pampering and the quest to juggle it all. Sirius XM radio hosts and bloggers take the parenting conversation to a new level, tackling topics that resonate with moms today. Boutique Wine, cheese, tapas bar and dessert. Shopping and registration: 7pm, program begins: 8pm. Cedar Hill Country Club, 100 Walnut St., Livingston. 973-740-0588. www.CENTERFORWOMENnj.org

Make a holiday centerpiece full of the season’s abundant colors and textures, and includes reusable basket. Registration required.10am-Noon. Greenwood Gardens, 274 Old Short Hills Rd., Short Hills. 973-258-4026.

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Béla Fleck, Christian McBride & Brooklyn Rider

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 21 13th Annual Holiday Open Studio Each year, Lisa Palombo opens her art studio and gallery to the public to showcase new original paintings consisting of impressionistic-style landscapes, still lifes and florals in various sizes and subject matter. Lisa Palombo’s annual Holiday Open Studio offers light refreshments. Children are welcome. Noon-5pm. Also Nov. 22 & 23. Lisa Palombo Studios, 55 Mountain Ave., Caldwell. 973-364-0280. www.LisaPalombo.com

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Meet Our Board Cer tified* Periodontist Dr. Samantha Aaron Where do you live: Livingston, NJ Family: Married with daughter, Taylor

How does your background reflect the Silverstrom philosophy?

What lessons did you learn during your educational journey?

My years of education studying the human body and how it works enables me to help prevent and treat disease through proper oral health—this is important to our team. Complete health dentistry is a core philosophy at The Silverstrom Group. The mouth is a portal to your body and it is important for doctors to understand and incorporate that into their practice.

The most important lesson I learned is how important it is to have a comprehensive understanding of all the fields besides your specialty of choice. If you are a periodontist, make sure you understand the concepts and practices of prosthodontics, endodontics, orthodontics, oral surgery and every other aspect of the dental field. This is the best way to make sure your patients receive the best care possible.

What drew you to periodontal care? Helping others improve their health through treatment and management of disease motivates me. For me, periodontics was the most interesting way to achieve this. Since periodontal care is the foundation to dental treatment, I can educate patients and help them improve their lifestyle, which in turn will keep them healthier and happier. This is so rewarding.

What are your strongest contributions to The Silverstrom Group experience? I bring my extensive knowledge of periodontics and surgery and collaborate with two extraordinarily talented, passionate dentists. The result is restoring health and function to a patient’s mouth through comprehensive care all under one roof. It’s a

life-changing process. Using our advanced technology to diagnose and treat disease and accurately place implants leads to a better patient experience.

How do you balance work and home life? Balancing work and home life is difficult now that I am a mother. You want to do everything well. My advice is to give your all to everything you do, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Believe in yourself that you are doing a good job. There are several factors that motivate me, which include how much I love what I do, how important working is to me, and being a role model for my daughter. That passion helps me find my balance. As a result, I feel I am a better mother, wife, and doctor, roles that continue to keep me motivated.

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SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 23

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 24

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 28

Free Family Day at Montclair Museum of Art

Inspirational Networking Meeting

Dress Trunk Show

Join Life and Business Coach, Sue Waldman, for an inspiring evening of business networking for men and women to help grow or start your own business and meet like minded professionals to support your aspirations. 8-9:30pm. Registration required. Sue Waldman’s satelite office, Calvary Lutheran Church, 23 S. Prospect St., Verona. 973-857-4357. www.SueWaldman.com

Once Upon A Time… A Special Occasions Boutique is hosting an annual Communion Dress trunk show featuring dresses from the industries top designers. Through Nov. 30th. Call for an appointment. Once Upon a Time Boutique, 453 Main St., Little Falls. 973-890-7077. www.onceuponatimestore.com

Participate in a day of exploration with many dynamic museum-wide art activities. 1-5pm. Montclair Art Museum, 3 South Mountain Ave., Montclair. 973-746-5555. www.montclairmuseum.org

Sunday Comics Special Guest: Comedy Duo Carroll & Stone. 7:30pm. Tierney’s Tavern, 136-138 Valley Rd, Montclair. www.tierneystavern.com

New Jersey Youth Symphony Witness the talent, energy and passion of 400 of the State’s young musicians as students from all 13 of the ensembles comprising the New Jersey Youth Symphony perform. 3pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, One Center St., Newark. 973-297-5828. www.njpac.org

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 26 Elf the Musical This is the hilarious and joyous tale of Buddy, an orphan who is mistakenly transported to the North Pole and raised by Santa’s elves. Now, as a grownup, he embarks on a journey to discover his true identity. It’s a holiday treat for your whole family. Runs thru Jan. 4. Call for dates and times. Paper Mill Playhouse, 22 Brookside Drive, Millburn. 973-376-4343. www.papermill.org

Holiday Lights Spectacular Turtle Back Zoo celebrates the season of giving with a Holiday Lights display featuring over 50 winter and animal characters illuminates by more than 1000,000 bulbs. Donation stations for nonperishable food items, new toys and gently used coats are placed at each entry. Also Nov. 29 & 30.Free. 5-9pm. Turtle Back Zoo, 560 Northfield Ave., West Orange. 973-731-5800. www.turtlebackzoo.com

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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 29

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 3

Giants of Jazz Honoring McCoy Tyner

Holiday Arts & Crafts Extravaganza

Honoree McCoy Tyner will be joined by some of the greatest names in Jazz in this star-studded night of music. 8pm. SOPAC, One SOPAC Way, South Orange. 973-275-1114. www.sopacnow.org

Holiday at Kip’s Castle Visit Kip’s Castle during the holiday season for a self-guided tour of the first floor and experience the holiday circa 1928. Noon4pm. Runs thru Dec. 31. Essex County Kip’s Castle, 22 Crestmont Rd., Verona. 973-239-2465.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 30 Restorative Yoga This class is made up of 7-10 restorative poses, held for longer periods of time. Props will hold you up in deeply rejuvenating postures, leaving you feeling renewed and clear in your body, mind + heart. This class is perfect for beginners. Once a month.12:45-2pm. Yoga Montclair LLC , 107 Forest St., Suite 3, Montclair. 973-233-9642. www.yogamontclair.com

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 2 Shop ‘Til You Drop Holiday Gift Boutique Over 40 vendors, offering a unique selection of jewelry, handbags, clothing, gifts, home furnishings, sporting goods, specialty foods, furs, monogrammed items, pet treats and more. Cash, checks, Visa, Mastercard and Discover accepted. 5-9pm. Dec. 3, 9-6pm. Dec. 4, 9-2pm. The Olde Mill Inn, 225 Route 202, Basking Ridge. DMGShopTilYouDrop@gmail.com

This Christmas: An Evening of Holiday & Hits with Michael McDonald The former Doobie Brothers lead singer (“What a Fool Believes” and “Takin’ it to the Streets”) and solo artist (“I Keep Forgettin’” and “On My Own”) performs holiday favorites and his best-known hits. 8pm. Mayo Performing Arts Center, 100 South St., Morristown. 973-539-8008. www.mayoarts.org

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Features offering unique decorating and gift items including handcrafted furniture, fabulous florals, jewelry, wearable art, handmade soaps, candles, traditional and fine art, gourmet delights and lots more.10am-8pm. Birchwood Manor, 111 N. Jefferson Rd., Whippany. 973-887-1414.

FRIDAY, DECEMBER 5 Hanukkah Shopping Madness Variety of vendors, Hanukkah gifts, Gifts for teachers, Jewelry, Judaica, Apparel for all…and much more. 9am-3pm. JCC MetroWest, 760 Northfield Ave., West Orange. 973-530-3400. www.jccmetrowest.org

Verona Fair in the Square

The 18th Annual Fair in the Square is a valued community event, bringing local residents together as vendors, performers, shoppers, and spectators. Noon-5pm. Verona Civic Square, 600 Bloomfield Ave,. Verona. 973 857-1467 x 11.

22nd Holiday Arts & Crafts Show

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 6 New Jersey Ballet Presents ‘Nutcracker’

The first-rate traditional production never fails to enchant youngsters and grownups alike with splendid dancing, colorful costumes and scenery, eye-popping special effects, and a touch of holiday magic. 1 & 5pm. Also Dec. 7, 1 & 5pm. BergenPAC, 30 N. Van Brunt St., Engelwood. 201-227-1030. www.bergenpac.org

Artisan Gift Market The market will showcase local artists and crafters ranging from fiber arts and jewelry makers, to ceramics, metalwork, paper arts, homemade consumables, glass, and mixed media. Organized by The Creative Women’s Collective.10am-4pm. Glen Ridge Congregational Church, 195 Ridgewood Ave., Glen Ridge.

Local artisans and artists will be showing and selling handmade jewelry, ceramics, greeting cards, silk and knitted accessories, artwork, soap and candles and more. The show will benefit HOMECorp of Montclair, a local affordable housing organization. Free. 10am-5:30pm. 13 Trinity Place, Montclair. 973-7835902 or 973-744-4141.

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 7 Yuja Wang

Graham Lustig’s A Jazzy Nutcracker Graham Lustig’s A Jazzy Nutcracker is ‘Jumpin’ with Jazz’ in his adaptation of the timeless holiday classic performed by the diverse and talented dancers of Lustig Dance Theatre. 2 & 7pm. SOPAC, One SOPAC Way, South Orange. 973-313-2787. www.sopacnow.org

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RMaking her NJPAC debut, acclaimed piano recitalist Yuja Wang brings her graceful stage presence and fresh interpretations of works by the greatest composers to Prudential Hall.3pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

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Seasonal Swing from Juilliard Jazz

Holiday Express: Benefit Concert

The Juilliard Jazz Ensemble lights up the stage once again at SOPAC, with an exciting performance of swinging holiday classics. This year’s performance will also feature renowned vocalist Alicia Olatuja. 3pm. SOPAC, One SOPAC Way, South Orange. 973-313-2787. www.sopacnow.org

Ben E. King performs his hit “Stand By Me” at this rock-and-soul holiday concert to benefit those in need. Holiday Express features the Jersey shore’s most philanthropic musicians, whose mission is to deliver music, food, gifts and financial support to the disadvantaged during the holiday season and the entire year. 7:30pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 11 Italian Feast of the Seven Fishes Join chef Daniel Rosati in cooking a fish dinner in the Italian tradition. Menu includes: sardinian shrimp crostini, roasted clams with pancetta & basil butter, venetian mixed seafood brodetto, stuffed calamari with chick pea puree, jumbo lump crab & scallop gratin, codfish livornese, pannetone bread pudding. Kings Cooking Studio, 778 Morris Tpke., Short Hills. 973-258-4009. www.kingsfoodmarkets.com

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“AMERICAN DREAM” Holds Lessons for Us All… By Diane Haase, photos by Dan Epstein

ilma Mueller is the Director of the Office of Graduate Studies at Caldwell University, a gem of a campus located off Bloomfield Avenue in Caldwell. Mueller’s path to graduate academia has been neither linear nor conventional, but her responses to life’s game of chutes and ladders offer inspiring lessons for any career stage— beginning, off-track, dormant or soaring.

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Mueller grew up in the Dominican Republic during the 1960s and “circumstances were such that my mother did not make it past the eighth grade. But, she always had the desire to do more.” As a single mother of four, one with severe mental challenges, Mueller’s mother found a way “to work from home as a seamstress and also to buy and resell women’s clothing.” Her mother always emphasized education, even with limited means. Married at 18, Mueller moved to Santo Domingo and landed a job at Citibank. At night she completed her undergraduate degree in economics at Universidad Nacional Pedro Henriquez Urena. When Mueller’s boss at Citibank became the Superintendent of Banks she joined him. She then became an assistant to an economic advisor “working in the Presidential Palace, surrounded by high-level people.” During this period, at age 22, Mueller also gave birth to her daughter, Claudia. Early parenthood taught her “how to manage time and responsibilities at an early age—when friends were going to clubs.”

Serious about pursuing her dream of a graduate degree and joining her brother in the United States, Mueller and her family immigrated in 1984. Although she did not know much English, she landed an assistant’s job at a corporate bank on Wall Street. Working by day, and raising Claudia at night, Mueller improved her English by listening to Tom Brokaw’s nightly news report. After a few years at CIBC, Mueller was passed over for a higher position. Rather than treading water, she decided to accept another job at a menswear company using her bilingual language skills.

“Excellent service is what makes you unique. It is simple but difficult to achieve in any industry.”

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All went well until retail downsizing and a mugging sent her in search of a safer, cheaper place to live, in Dumont, NJ. By 1990 her husband’s business and her marriage had dissolved. Single and unemployed, Mueller needed a job. She answered an ad for an assistant to a General Manager at the White Beeches Golf and Country Club. With a wide-eyed chuckle, Mueller remembers, “I had never been to a country club before…it reminded me of a funeral home with a restaurant.” She accepted the job assisting a laconic, pipe-smoking GM at half the salary of her previous position. Little did she know what would transpire from this seemingly backwards move. Professionally she learned that “excellent service is what makes you unique. It is simple but difficult to achieve in any industry.” Personally, she learned something else. Unaware of the effects of her gracious charm and dimpled beauty, Vilma heard from a third party that her boss, Bob Mueller, had been seriously in love with her for some time. They married and to this day she

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describes Bob as “the angel by her side, her biggest fan, mentor and ally.” After 9 years of working various management positions in the country club industry, Mueller decided to revisit her dream of a graduate degree. Though it was hard to forgo the salary and perks, Mueller knew she had more to accomplish. With a daughter at Georgetown (who went on to become a Pediatrician Neonatologist) and Bob’s two kids also in college, Mueller needed funding for her degree. Again, she applied for an administrative position, this time at Fairleigh Dickinson University near her home in New Milford. It wasn’t long before she was whisked away to the Department of Hospitality, to assist and then teach. Earning her Masters in Hospitality at FDU she then became the Director of Professional Development for the International School of Hotel, Restaurant and Tourism Management.

Since 2000, Mueller has worked in varying capacities in Admissions, first at Felician College and then for the last seven years at Caldwell University. At CU, Mueller started as Senior Admissions Counselor and now serves as the Director of Graduate Studies. She is also head of the Associate Program of the Sisters of St. Dominic of Caldwell, a program that supports the humanitarian work and social services of the Dominican sisters. Mueller is “humbled” and “grateful for her opportunities in life.” She understands the adult student because she has faced all the same issues: juggling work, school, family, limited finances, and stopping and starting. Mueller recommends to “get the right credentials and be realistic about your energy and resources. How will you pay for this?” Most importantly, she says, “use what you have.” Vilma Mueller has done just that, and then some. Fall 2014

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A Night Out with Members of B.I.G. (Believe, Inspire, Grow) Photos by Warren Westura

ore than 40 women enjoyed an evening of networking and complimentary makeovers on October 22 at Neiman-Marcus at The Mall at Short Hills. The event was held by the woman’s organization B.I.G. (Believe, Inspire, Grow). The organization helps to empower woman professionally and in their personal lives.

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ou want your home to sparkle, especially during the holidays. Here are a few short cuts to cut cleaning time and get your home germfree and shining this holiday season.

Effective dusting is the first step to shining. You want to get to get rid of dust, not just spread it around. Most experts recommend dusting before vacuuming. Invest in a good ostrich feather duster. Chicken feathers or artificial feathers are not the same. The tiny barbs on long thick ostrich feathers really do hold onto the dust. They’re also perfect for dusting electronic screens and not creating static cling. A good ostrich feather duster can be washed and gets better with age. Drag the duster across the surface and then bang it on your ankle so the dust drops to the floor where you can vacuum it up. Do not use the feather duster on light bulbs especially while bulbs are on and hot. If you haven’t dusted in a while (you know who you are) start by wiping down the surface with a barely damp microfiber cloth. Microfibers are electrostatically charged to attract dust. Dirty cloths can be tossed into the washing machine to clean. Start at the top of a room and work down. Clean the cobwebs out of the corners and dust the molding and baseboards. Don’t forget the blinds and ceiling fans, which have special dusters. Dust all the hard surfaces of the room. On picture frames and other glass surfaces, use a window cleaner, then dry them with a dry paper towel or microfiber cloth.

A good ostrich feather duster can be washed and gets better with age.

Holidays are a great time of year to shine up your chandeliers. Always make sure the light fixture is off and never spray any cleaner directly onto the light fixture. Instead, use a pre-moistened wipe like Windex. Gently clean the crystals and bulbs. Dry the bulbs with a dry paper towel and wait about ten minutes before turning on the fixture. The clean bulbs bounce the light that adds to the reflection of the clean crystals. Finish off carpeted floors with a good vacuuming or dry mop hardwood floors with a microfiber or Swiffer duster.

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Swing into the holidays at this interactive concert filled with yuletide songs with a jazz twist. Through call and response, singing, clapping and playing with the band, families can share the joy of the season. Free Family Workshop, 12:30pm. Registration required. 2pm. NJPAC, Victoria Theater, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

Cherish the Ladies “A Celtic Christmas”

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Leann Rimes Performs One Christmas with Levi Hummon

Taking their name from a traditional Irish jig, Cherish the Ladies share timeless Irish traditions with audiences worldwide. In this program, the Ladies perform classic Christmas carols, in their signature arrangements highlighting unique Celtic instrumentation, beautiful harmonies and spectacular step-dancing. 8pm. SOPAC, One SOPAC Way, South Orange. 973-313-2787. www.sopacnow.org

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LeAnn Rimes, is an American country and pop singer, known for her rich vocals. Rimes rose to stardom at age 13, and has placed over 40 singles on American and international charts since 1996. 8pm. BergenPAC, 30 N. Van Brunt St., Engelwood. 201-227-1030. www.bergenpac.org

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 14 Youth Orchestras of Essex County Winter Concert Come see what ninety young musicians from all over Essex County, led by outstanding conductors and coaches, have been working on this season in this Winter Concert. 3pm. SOPAC, One SOPAC Way, South Orange. 973-313-2787. www.sopacnow.org

Join chef Diana Albanese and participate in cooking a meal for a Tuscan Holiday Dinner. Menu inlcudes: artichoke, red pepper and caper bruschetta, lasagna with butternut squash and parmesan cheese sauce, fillet mignon with porcini brandy sauce, mashed potatoes with tuscan herbs , roasted tomatoes, cippolini onions and cannellini beans, orange and fennel salad, zuppa inglese trifle. 6:30-9:30pm. Kings Cooking Studio, 778 Morris Tpke., Short Hills. 973-258-4009. www.kingsfoodmarketscom

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 20 Sweet Honey in the Rock: Celebrating the Holydays In celebration of Kwanzaa, the revered African-American a cappella women’s ensemble performs blues, jazz, gospel and R&B, with excursions into symphonic and dance theater. 7:30pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 21 Handel’s Messiah Performance

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 18 “Solid Gold Christmas” starring Marilyn McCoo & Billy Davis Jr. After a decade with The 5th Dimension, Marilyn and Billy decided to leave the group and establish themselves as a duo. This dynamic duo has enjoyed monumental success though the years as recording artists, performers, and authors. Receiving seven Grammy Awards and earning fifteen gold and three platinum records. 7:30pm. SOPAC, One SOPAC Way, South Orange. 973-313-2787. www.sopacnow.org

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This New Year’s Eve, First Night Morris will feature over 300 artists and 80 performances in 24 venues, all within walking distance of the historic Morristown Green. It is a true celebration of arts and culture that can be enjoyed by people of all ages in a family-friendly, alcohol-free environment. Two fireworks displays—at 9:15 and midnight—light up the night for thousands of attendees. There is free shuttle service all evening. 4:45pm. Mayo Performing Arts Center, 100 South St., Morristown. 973-539-8008. www.mayoarts.org

THURSDAY, JANUARY 8 NJ Speakers Series: Olympia Snowe The New Jersey Speakers Series, presented by Fairleigh Dickinson University, invites you to experience the ultimate in cultural engagement: seven evenings of diverse ideas and thought-provoking perspectives on a broad range of issues, from some of the best and brightest minds of our time. 8pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

Girls Night Out Cooking Class Join chef Suzanne Lowery and participate in cooking for girls night out. Menu includes: roasted tomato mozzarella pie, pasta with roasted vegetable sauce, panzanella bread salad, bruschetta portobello burgers, spaghetti squash ‘lasagna’. 6:30-9:30pm. Kings Cooking Studio, 778 Morris Tpke., Short Hills. 973-258-4009. www.kingsfoodmarkets.com

FRIDAY, JANUARY 9 NJSO: Lacombe Conducts Romeo & Juliet Musically superb and emotionally uplifting, Handel’s Messiah is a holiday season must-hear for music lovers everywhere. Presented in collaboration with the New Jersey Symphony Orchestra. 3pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

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The NJSO’s Winter Festival celebrates the genius of Shakespeare with music inspired by his greatest plays. The timeless romance of Romeo and Juliet proved irresistible to Tchaikovsky, Prokofiev and Gounod alike, giving rise to a passionate trio of audience favorites. 8pm. Also Dec. 11, 3pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

FRIDAY, JANUARY 23 Gladys Knight & The Spinners One-liner: Two of the greats – seven-time Grammy winner Gladys Knight (“Midnight Train to Georgia”) and the smooth, sophisticated Spinners (“I’ll Be Around”) – perform in a memorable evening of R&B hits. 8pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

SATURDAY, JANUARY 24 NJSO: West Side Story with Sarah Chang

plays. Jacques Lacombe, conductor, Sarah Chang, violin and New Jersey Symphony Orchestra. 8pm. NJPAC, Prudential Hall, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

SATURDAY, JANUARY 31 Judy Collins Performs TThe award-winning singer-songwriter is esteemed for her imaginative interpretations of traditional and contemporary folk standards and her own poetically poignant original compositions. 8pm. BergenPAC, 30 N. Van Brunt St., Engelwood. 201-227-1030. www. bergenpac.org

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus-Live! Sarah Chang shines in Bernstein’s immortal West Side Story, heard in a luminous arrangement for violin and orchestra. Shakespeare’s countryman Elgar paints a memorable portrait of the jolly rogue Falstaff, who appears in three of the Bard’s

This one-man fusion of theater and standup, starring Peter Story, is a light-hearted theatrical comedy based on the No. 1 best-selling book by John Gray. When Mars and Venus collide, the adventures are Earth-shatteringly hysterical. 2 & 8pm. NJPAC, Victoria Theater, 1 Center St., Newark. 888-466-5722. www.njpac.org

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ost people don’t rush to make an appointment to visit the dentist. In fact many patients try to avoid it for as long as ADV I S OR possible due to the fear and anxiety that is associated with NORTH JERSEY WOMAN M A G A Z I N E having dental work. Many people have had negative experiences in the past and anticipating painful anesthetic injections can cause patients to lose sleep the night before their appointment, make them feel physically ill and even cause them to cancel appointments despite desperately needing the work done. Dental phobia is a very real condition, and dentists like Dr. Linda Stone of Gentle Caring Dentistry in Livingston realize the need for a better way to anesthetize their patients. With the use of The Wand, Dr. Stone can eliminate painful syringe injections from office visits, ease patient anxiety and actually encourage people to have the necessary dental work done. Gentle Caring Dentistry

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What is The Wand? It is a computer controlled delivery system that uses a pen like plastic hand piece. It truly works like a “magic wand.” It is an injection system that conquers fear, pain and anxiety by delivering anesthesia underneath a patient’s detectable pain threshold. There is no syringe or discomfort. The reason patients feel pain when receiving a conventional syringe injection is not the actual needle but the build up of anesthesia volume in their tissues. The wand eliminates this problem by delivering a precisely controlled amount of anesthesia over time that is imperceptible by patients and therefore painless.

Why have you chosen to use The Wand? I really care about my patients, especially those who might be anxious or fearful of dental procedures. One of my goals is striving to erase any negative experiences patients have had in the past. Prior bad experiences, especially in childhood, usually start with ‘the shot’ and for that reason I have eliminated the syringe in my office. I think the syringe ranks at the top of the list of the most dreaded dental instruments, it is the number one cause of stress and the biggest source of anxiety for patients. By utilizing The Wand system I am able to provide my patients with painless injections and the highest quality of care. The Wand is profoundly changing the practice of dentistry and more practitioners should embrace this technique. Not every dentist uses this technique, but they should.

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Do you feel that The Wand decreases patient anxiety about anesthesia? Absolutely! After only a single experience with The Wand, a patient’s fear levels decrease tremendously. It is a wonderful feeling when a patient tells you, “that was the best injection I’ve ever had” or “I didn’t feel a thing!” It clearly demonstrates a strong preference for a computerassisted injection versus a conventional syringe. Patients are amazed that I can work on a single tooth without them feeling any pain or diffuse numbness. Patients love that they are able to have feeling in their lip and tongue. You no longer have to leave your dental appointment feeling like your face is fat, numb or tingling.

What do you tell patients about what they can expect to experience? It is a whole new world, no pain, no lingering numbness, and the peace of mind that the syringe is in the past. The Wand is very accurate in getting patients numb without feeling any pain, every time. It can numb a single tooth without anesthetizing the whole lip or face, which is not possible with the traditional syringe injection. A lot of times with the syringe, if the doctor has to work on a lower tooth, the lip gets numb and feels “fat” for hours. The patient has difficulty speaking and eating and cannot wait for the Novocaine to wear off. With The Wand, they don’t experience the lingering numbness of the tongue, lips and face. Fall 2014

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Dr. Valerie J. Ablaza, partner at The Plastic

Surgery Group, PA in Montclair answers common questions about abdomen liposuction and tummy tuck procedures.

How does one remove stretch marks on their abdomen?

After having a liposuction procedure is it possible to have a tummy tuck later?

Unfortunately there are not any good procedures or treatments for eliminating stretch marks on any part of the body. Though, with a tummy tuck you can eliminate the stretch marks below the navel since this is the area of skin and fat this is discarded during surgery.

Yes, many people have had a tummy tuck six months to even six years later. It is sometimes intentionally planned that way in order to decrease the overall abdominal gift before having a tummy tuck. Liposuction and a tummy tuck cannot be performed at the same time, as the circulation of the tissues may be compromised and have a negative effect on healing.

How does one determine whether liposuction or a tummy tuck the better treatment? If you have had at least one full-term pregnancy or have had a large weight loss with a moderate degree of loose or overhanging skin along your lower abdomen, the better result would most likely be a tummy tuck. Liposuction alone will only remove the excess fat but will have no effect on the loose skin. Ideal candidates for liposuction are those that are close to their ideal body weight and have not been able to improve the contour of their abdomen through diet and exercise.

How common is it to need a touch up after liposuction? It is sometimes necessary to remove more fat from an area after a liposuction procedure to even out imperfections or irregularities. Though, we usually wait at least six months after all the swelling has subsided and the tissues have settled before performing any revisions.

After fat is removed through liposuction, will it come back? Removal of fat cells is permanent and they will not be replaced by other fat cells. However, existing fat cells may increase in size and or multiply in rare cases. By keeping your weight within a reasonable range after the surgery, you should be able to maintain your improved figure.

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Dr. Jay Chun of Atlantic NeuroSurgical Specialists (ANS) Discusses the ANS Spine Center What is the ANS Spine Center? The ANS Spine Center offers a variety of surgical and nonsurgical treatments. We consist of several highly specialized experts, including board certified neurosurgeons. With the collaboration of subspecialized, fellowship-trained physicians, patients are guaranteed to receive the treatment that best suits their individual needs.

ANS performs the most minimally invasive spine surgeries in the state of New Jersey and we are proud to be one of a few practices nationwide participating in a national outcomes database which carefully monitors outcomes in spinal care. ANS understands that we must shift the focus and incentive away from the volume and profitability of services provided and replace it with patient outcomes. Medical and surgical spine care is, above all, aimed at improving a patient’s health status and quality of life. The ANS Spine Center is always looking to evolve our understanding of what works and what doesn’t in each setting for each individual patient. This powerful tool helps to further identify the right treatment, in the right patient, at the right time.

Why should a patient suffering from neck or back pain come see you? I have dedicated my career and research to treating and advancing the care of patients with disorders of the neck and spine. We are constantly pushing the envelope with the newest treatment options. Comfortable with standard open approaches and minimally invasive techniques, our patients benefit from more than a “one size fits all” approach. Our team can decide which option is best for that person without the limitation of one specific specialty.

Is a neurosurgeon the right specialist to diagnose a neck or spine disorder? Getting answers about the cause of your neck or back pain can be challenging. The sooner you have an accurate diagnosis, the sooner you can begin the treatment plan that works for you. It may be a nonsurgical approach or a minimally invasive procedure. Either way, a board certified,

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fellowship- trained surgeon is the most qualified specialist to provide an accurate diagnosis. Neurosurgeons focus on the neck and spine throughout their entire education. We are specifically trained to treat the intricacies of the spine and surrounding nerves. Additionally, those of us who are fellowship trained in spine spend 8 years in surgical spine training while mastering the art of diagnosis.

You specialize in the treatment of the cervical spine. Can you tell us more about this focus? The cervical spine, or neck, has some of the most important bones in the body. It is a critical region since it controls everything below the neck. Injury to the cervical region can be catastrophic. The cervical spine is responsible for supporting the head and allowing it to move, as well as controlling many key areas of the upper and lower body, including the arms, legs, bowels, and bladder. The most common chronic problems affecting the cervical spine are disc herniation and spondylosis. In both conditions, the discs that normally cushion the bones and joints of the spine become damaged and displaced and can press on surrounding nerves or the spinal cord, causing pain, numbness, and weakness. The majority of patients with cervical spine disorders can manage their symptoms without surgery. When surgery is needed, the two most common types of cervical spine surgery are decompression or fusion. Decompression surgery removes the disc, ligament, or bone that’s pressing on the nerve or spinal cord, and fusion surgery stops the movement between two bones. Most patients can return to work a few weeks after surgery. For some who opt for minimally invasive surgery, the surgery can be performed on an outpatient basis with rapid return to daily function. While spine surgery cannot always resolve all symptoms, the surgeries in the cervical spine are some of the most successful that we have. The benefits include not only managing the symptoms but also limiting the chances of continued degeneration or a future major spinal cord injury. In the past decade, spine surgery has become much less invasive and safer thanks to advances in minimally invasive techniques, spinal instrumentation, artificial discs, and the materials that promote spine fusion. Fall 2014

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riella Cianni knows her way around a head of hair. She was worked at fashionforward salon Shag86 in Little Falls for over a decade, rising to the level of Master Designer. Here, the cut-and-colorist extraordinaire discusses the latest trends, the best tools, and no-fail tips for dealing with a bad-hair day. What are the latest trends in hair-styling?

Spray-painting color onto hair is definitely very trendy. Color is air-brushed onto hair with a special tool instead of traditional dye brush. Now that it is fall, I see a lot of warmer tones, like copper, gold, and red-orange. At the same time, I am getting a lot of requests for neon colors; it’s like the ‘90s are back again.

Are there any cuts that will always be in style? The bob will never go out of style; it just keeps reinventing itself. This year’s bob looks great on every face shape. The bottom is still squared, but the interior layers are softer than in the past.

What are the hair-styling tools that every woman should own? No woman should be without a Mason Pearson brush. This is a pocket-sized dry brush that gives hair the most beautiful shine you can imagine. It gets rid of knots and actually makes hair look fuller. Another essential tool is a nozzle for

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What are the most common hair-care mistakes you see? The biggest mistake I see is women washing their hair too frequently. Women really should not wash their hair more than three times a week, or even fewer times if their hair is coarse or gray. Shampoos, even natural ones, contain chemicals that may remove healthy oils from the scalp. If a woman feels that her hair needs to be washed more often, a better solution is dry shampoo, as many minerals in shower water can be hard on hair. Another common mistake women make is combing out wet hair from the root. It’s better to start from the bottom of your hair, work your way up to mid-shaft, and then finally comb out the hair near the scalp. This is an easier way to work out knots, which minimizes breakage.

And finally, what can women do when they can’t do anything with their hair? If you’re having a bad-hair day, the quickest solution is to put your hair in a loose ponytail (use a scrunchy or other band that won’t leave a crease in your hair), put it on top of your head, and leave it there for five to 10 minutes before coming back to it. This calms down the hair, which makes it easier for you to start again. For the worst-case scenario, invest in some cute clips or headbands and remember that ponytails are in style anyway.

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the blow-dryer. A nozzle directs and concentrates the flow of air, which means you can dry your hair more quickly. Since the drying process takes less time, there is less danger of singeing your hair.

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Holidaze By Judi Rothenberg

Time to prep and plan for the holidays! From baking to decorating, we’ve found fun and easy solutions for your holiday “to-do” list.

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Decorating Throw-Down

Quick-change artistry! Winter-white throw pillows embellished with gold lurex-thread and sequins bring a festive spirit to living rooms in an instant. All from Target, under $25. Target.com

Checkered Charm

Scent the Halls

Baker’s Secret

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Holiday Sparklers

A whimsical addition to your home year-round, the Mackenzie-Childs’ moose head, is dressed for the holidays with a wreath of flowers, leaves, ribbon, sequins, and glitter accents. Sold separately, Moose head, $195, Gala Wreath, $175. mackenzie-childs.com

The Noel Candle, from Annick Goutal, welcomes guests with flickering candlelight and fragrant notes of lemon, bitter orange, Brazilian mandarin and Siberian pine. 10.5 oz, $85, and 2.4 oz, $35. annickgoutal.com

Mix it, or give it, with a smile! Cake Boss kitchen tools, “Born to Bake” and “Devoted to Dessert” spatchula/spoonula set and 3-piece “Icing” melamine mixing bowls add to the holiday spirit. Carlosbakery.com

Stock-up on stocking stuffers! Battery-operated travel toothbrushes come in a wide assortment of colors and patterns. We all have teeth! $15. travelsmith.com

Cupcake Couture

Dress-up dessert! Add another dimension to homemade or store-bought cupcakes with decorative wraps. From a Star of David print for Hanukkah to elegant Lu Lu Damask for New Year’s Eve, there are hundreds of designs to enhance your tablescape. Bellacupcakecouture.com

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Expecting a crowd? Substitute pricey French champagne with sparkling wine from its neighbors. Ceradello Prosecco, made with organic grapes, comes from a fifth-generation Italian winemaker. Spanish cava, Anna de Cordorniu, has a beautiful citrus aroma of tropical fruit, pineapple, grapefruit and lime. Both are bubbly and under $16.

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THE

MAYFLOWER

GRACE:

New England’s Hidden Gem

By Louise B. Hafesh

hese are fast times we live in. When it all gets to be too much to handle, we cope with the frantic pace by escaping for a change in scenery and the sanity of a quick fix. If business and other commitments permit, one can throw caution to the wind and run away to an exotic location where the sun always shines. More often than not, however, a weekend romp closer to home is what’s realistic. Relax; from a wondrous escape in bucolic Washington, Connecticut, relief is in reach. Start packing, kiss your job goodbye (for now) and get ready for a great breakaway weekend,

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Getting away from it all…

Situated beyond the typical tourist track amidst 58 pristine acres of the Steep Rock Private Reserve, The Mayflower Grace is a stately English-inspired resort. that features 30 different accommodations in four charming cottages each impeccably decorated and within walking distance of the Main Inn. Happily ensconced adjacent to the Spa House with easy access to its wondrous amenities, my escape partner and I couldn’t have been more pleased with our pick of those lodgings. For starters a huge four-poster canopied bed with Frette linens, fluffy pillows and comforter, a dreamy setting straight out of

every travel fantasy, dominated the room. An inviting fireplace warmed our sprits with the flick of a switch, while a stocked library of bestseller books and picturesque coffee table treasures beckoned, along with a delightful porch. The porch would become our favorite hangout into the wee hours as we shared a post dinner glass of wine, enjoyed each other’s company and the beauty of nature’s tranquil splendor. Losing no time stashing our bags and getting to that luxurious spa rated No 1 by Travel and Leisure Magazine, we donned our exercise gear and were on our way to being soothed into serenity.

Replenish, rethink, and reflect…

The Spa is a wonder to behold, a luminous architectural masterpiece and haven of hospitality and relaxation. Once inside, private cubbies are provided and guests can slip into robes and slippers. You are then escorted to the garden room to await your treatment. Here, we lounged in Chenille blanketed comfort sipping delicious herbal tea refreshment. As seasoned spa-goers, my husband and I have enjoyed stays at the best of them. Suffice to say, this one ranks outstanding! It houses seven tranquil treatment rooms—even one for couples, offering an extensive range of therapies, salon services and programs, including yoga, Pilates and a daily roster of activities ranging from hikes and nature walks to cardio fitness classes. Seduced by our choice therapies, hubby took a massage, my splurge was a facial, after which we met up again in the lounge, and with soothing music in the background, a vista of rambling woods and Blue Heron Pond to the front, delighted in all the niceties–sights, scents, and sounds of this enchanting space.

About town…

And the good things don’t stop there. Should you decide to venture off property, there’s much to see in Litchfield Hills and its environs. According to the local Historic Commission, the town of Washington is one of the most unspoiled and attractive towns in Connecticut. History buffs will love the fact that it looks much as it did a hundred years ago, with many of its original homes intact. If art and antiquing are your thing, the area is renowned as: “America’s antiques capital.” Nearby Preston and

Woodbury are dotted with fine antiques shops and Kent, a short thirty-minute drive, is known for its collection of fine art galleries. For a great night on the town, New Milford will entice music lovers and theatre goers with varied offerings and the Bantam Cinema, the oldest continuous running movie house in Connecticut is a mere fifteen minutes away. Check with the front desk for programs and an array or other local activities like golf, horseback riding, and car races, even ballooning! It goes without saying that you will be eager to enjoy some fine dining. For that, look no further than your home base. The Mayflower’s restaurants are in a class by themselves. We relished an evening meal at ‘Muse by Jonathan Cartwright,” created by its acclaimed namesake and Grand Chef-Relais & Chåteaux. The casually elegant restaurant overlooks the meticulously hedged Shakespeare Garden. Its menu is creative and hearty showcasing modern European cuisine that incorporates the best of local and seasonal produce. The Tap Room, our election for breakfast and lunch, serves lighter fare. Their hand cut rosemary fries are to die for! It’s always a thrill to discover a great getaway, a magical refuge from the hustle and bustle of daily life that oozes charm, culture, comfort and care. The Mayflower Grace is just such a place. Taking you beyond the ordinary, it truly is an unexpected find and one of America’s great hidden gems. The Mayflower Grace. 118 Woodbury Road, Route 47, Washington, CT 06793 www.gracehotels.com. Phone: 860/868-9466

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Calling All Busy Moms and Working Women

aycationToday—the first of its kind membership only service that customizes a “guilt-free” ME day for busy mothers and working women. The membership fee includes all the services, activities and events. As a dacationer, every month you will receive an e-blast informing of what’s coming up the following month. Every month there will be new offerings at new locations, which are called destinations. Once you become a member, there is NO additional costs. All you have to do is choose your time, your date that works for you, go and enjoy. Membership consists of a 10-daycation package. These can be redeemed as you choose—if you only have time for one daycation a month that’s fine. If you would like to do all 10 in a month—go for it! Once you have used all your 10 daycations you are automatically renewed so you can continue to enjoy all the experiences daycationtoday has to offer. Daycation activities include tea tastings, painting classes, bike tours, massage therapy, facials, fitness classes and more. For more information or to become a daycationer, visit www.daycationtoday.com or call 973-573-2873.

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