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THE GENDER ISSUE
IRAN’S PROTESTS ARE NOWHERE NEAR REVOLUTIONARY
Classical Jazz Cesare Fertonani THE VATICAN REOPENS THE EMANUELA ORLANFerdinando DI CASE Romano
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10 Reasons It’s Perfectly Okay Never to Get Married
You can have the woman you are Ending Child Marriage & Trafficking
Sexual fluidity and the diversity of sexual orientation
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The very best of the fourth day of girls’s trend devoted to winter collections 4
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J Balvin and Valentina Ferrer
A really busy schedule that of the fourth day of the week devoted to ladies’s trend FW 2023/2024, between trend reveals, shows of equipment and present off-calendar like Benetton. By IM Italian team
Among the many VIPs noticed within the public on the trend reveals distinguished names: Uma Thurman, Kim Kardashian (whose look deserves to be described: lengthy skirt utterly encrusted with fiery purple crystals, mixed with a coordinated bra high with skinny straps. Round her neck she sported a necklace with the crucifix, one of many symbols of the model, and accomplished all of it with a glowing minibag and a brand new hair look: darkish hair, open curtain fringe on the perimeters of the brow because the pattern of the second needs), Dokyeom, Jeno. Blanco, Sara Sampaio, Alexandra Cooper, American Rapper, Sherry Kong Tina Leung, J Balvin and Valentina Ferrer. Huge shock (re)seeing Ashley Graham on the Dolce&Gabbana runway.
Sartorial sensuality from Dolce&Gabbana A brand new dimension of sensuality. An intriguing interweaving of weights and volumes, iconic colours and meticulously tailor-made cuts convey collectively a group to have a good time a lady’s genuine self.
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The return to the catwalk of Ashley Graham
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We noticed her at Etro as a particular visitor and at Moschino. Now from Dolce&Gabbana on the catwalk. After her being pregnant Ashley had taken a break, she made an look final September for New York Style Week, however now throughout this Milan Style Week she has decreed her true return to the style world. On the Dolce & Gabbana present she walked the catwalk wrapped in a purple tulle costume, and purple clutch, at her toes she has stiletto heels. Flawless
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The style pattern If we had to decide on an expression to sum up the day it will be: deepening of the idea of magnificence and tailoring. The widespread thread of this Milan ladies’s trend. Use our eyes to see the most effective of the reveals to start out getting an concept of the subsequent necessities. Pink, a brand new distinctive trait of magnificence
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Rocco Iannone at his fourth trend present for Ferrari introduced a variety of pink, workwear, easy strains and volumes to the gathering: “Magnificence is the pleasure that derives from velocity, captured in its preliminary shot, in all its symbolic and design potential. It’s the motion that comes from an concept, it’s the aesthetic that captures the distinctiveness of the transitory, it’s the premonition of what’s about to happen” says the designer backstage earlier than beginning the present
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References to the previous for a brand new magnificence
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In his second present for the model, Maximilian Davis deftly adopts the codes and historical past of the Florentine model. He cites the founder’s beginnings in Hollywood and attracts on the wardrobes of the celebs the home labored with within the Fifties. Ferragamo started his journey making sneakers for Nineteen Thirties movies, ultimately conquering Fifties movie stars corresponding to Sophia Loren and Marilyn Monroe,” explains Davis. “I checked out their glamour, their magnificence and their approach of dressing, excited about tips on how to make it fashionable within the current”. The gathering is filled with items that may develop into cult favorites.
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Milan fashion Week
Backstage Ermanno Scervino
The muse: Ava Gardner In Ermanno Scervino’s backstage, the ghd hair-stylist workforce, led by lead hairstylist Pierpaolo Lai, took care of the hair seems. The gathering strikes from the novel revolution by the Hollywood actress Ava Gardner on the notion of the feminine physique. She is emancipated, assertive, conscious and decided to reside her femininity with enthusiasm, able to embracing her masculine aspect with out betraying her femininity. Sculpted attire looking for the proper silhouette for each physique, with a up to date look, refined contrasts, within the colour palette that goes from lead grey, to butter and powder pink to lime inexperienced, as much as ruby purple and denim. “We wished to recreate an unconstructed look, impressed by the 90s and the seems of fashions of the time, corresponding to Kate Moss. The hair is shiny and glossy, pulled again and characterised by a motion of three-dimensional waves.” lastly declares the lead hairstylist.
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SUSANNA’S INTERVIEW
By Susanna Casubolo
Susanna’s interview with Dr. Selene Gemelli, founder of Sher, acreated, above all, to help and guide people to improve the sentimental and sexual aspects of their life.
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Perfectly Okay Never to Get Married By IM Italian team
The trend of men avoiding marriage is becoming only prevalent with time. Wonder why men don’t want to get married anymore?
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Sexual fluidity and the diversity of sexual orientation By Sabra L. Katz-Wise, PhD Who are you today? Who were you a decade ago? For many of us, shifts in our lives — relationships, jobs, friendships, where we live, what we believe — are the only constant.
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36 The Vatican reopens the case of Emanuela Orlandi. By IM Italian Team
Virtually forty years after his demise, the promoter of Vatican justice Alessandro Diddialong with the Gendarmerie has determined to reopen the investigation
30 The Mistress of Benito Mussolini
By Fabrizio Catalfamo (F. Guzzardi)
Margherita was born in Venice, the child of Amedeo Grassini and Emma Levi (whose relative Giuseppe Levi was the father of Natalia Ginzburg). Amedeo was a wealthy Jewish attorney and businessman
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33 The Meredith Kercher Case
By IM Italian Team
On 01/11/2007, Meredith Kercher, a twentysix-year-old English student on an Erasmus trip to Perugia, was found dead, killed by 47 stab wounds, in her house via Della Pergola. Her time of death should be between 10.30pm and 11.30pm. Her body is found by the postal police on the recommendation of the victim’s roommate, Amanda Knox, and her boyfriend at the time, Raffaele Sollecito.
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IN MY OPINION 76 Ukraine crisis By Fabrizio Catalfamo
In 2014, Italy was part of the Normandy
Format, a diplomatic group that included France, Germany, Russia, and Ukraine, which was formed to facilitate negotiations between the parties involved in the conflict. Italy has also strongly supported the Minsk Agreements, a series of cease-fire agreements and political measures aimed at resolving the conflict.
CONTENTS THE SIRONI METHOD The Magic Ball 54 By Roberto Sironi
Officially and for convenience it is said to be an alleged ability to dominate the forces of Nature through the use of occult arts of an evil nature!
CLASSICAL The Symphonies of Cesare Fertonani
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rPinki Kurmi, from the distant space of Kalchini in West Bengal, found a newfound zeal for all times. Right this moment, this 28-year-old wakes up each morning, trying ahead to go to work each day. However, only a year ago, she was sitting at residence with no supply of income cash and was utterly dependent on her dad and mom.
A music historian and critic. I have a diploma in violin and composition and a degree in modern literature; I teach music history and musicology at the University of Milan. When I was young, I wrote as a music critic for Il Corriere della sera. I continued to write for thirty years on Amadeus, and now I collaborate with the online magazine MusicPaper. In addition to classical music, I have always been interested in jazz.
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By Teresa Cusano ( Melina Palumbo)
Ferdinando Romano is an Italian doublebass player, composer and improviser. His reputation has increasingly grown in the jazz scene and he is considered one of the most interesting artists of the new Italian generation, performing all over Europe.
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Iran’s Protests Are Nowhere Near Revolutionary
Many claim the “Lady, Life, Flexibility” motion will threaten the regimen this year. They’re wrong. By IM Italian Team, a postdoc fellow at Germany’s Max Planck Institute for Social Anthropology.
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ran’s “Female, Life, Liberty” objections-- both the direct disturbances they have imposed on nationwide life and the stress they have developed among the country’s ruling elites-- have prompted lots of to wonder whether the Islamic Republic might get on the brink this year of a significant transformation. However, how close are the protesters to truly dethroning Iran’s leaders?
A 2009 meeting supplies a clearing-up lens with famous political sociologist Hossein Bashiriyeh. In reaction to that year’s development of Iran’s Green activity protests, Bashiriyeh provided a general model for thinking about the leads of any “advanced circumstance.” According to Bashiriyeh’s evaluation, eight elements identify whether a demonstration motion becomes innovative. Some of these elements support the cutting-edge capacity of these days’ protests. Several others-- a decisive number, inevitably do not. The first factor identified by Bashiriyeh is whether the state is experiencing a crisis of legitimacy. In Iran, that was true long before the current wave of demonstrations started in September 2022, primarily because of the country’s weakening selection system. The mass demonstrations of 2009 were sparked by prevalent insurance claims of electoral scams, which solidified the idea among several Iranians that their tallies had no bearing on the direction of their nation’s future. Over the years, the Guardian Council an unelected, hard-line 12-member body that vets candidates for public office has significantly protected pro-reform, moderate, and even conservative voices from running in parliamentary and presidential elections, hence narrowing the range for political representation.
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In the 2021 presidential race, the council deserted any pretense of impartiality by preventing any candidate who could also, from another location, intimidate Ebrahim Raisi’s bid for the presidency. The result was a predictable Raisi win and also the lowest yield in the background of presidential elections, given the 1979 transformation. In a clear testament to prevalent dissatisfaction with the electoral procedure, the last tallies revealed even more void or ruined ballots than ballots won by the runner-up. The tarnished legitimacy of Raisi’s political election was shown in the reality that his name scarcely figures in the 2022 demonstrations. In contrast, Supreme Leader Ali Khamenei has been the key emphasis of the militants’ wrath because numerous see him as the best resource for their dilemma and Raisi as a shallow vessel through which Khamenei will indeed is troubled them. The 2nd aspect to consider when evaluating the political system’s security is elite communication. In 2009, exclusive unity experienced a tremendous blow when, over a few days, previous Prime Minister Mir Hossein Mousavi, as well as former Audio speaker of the Parliament Mehdi Karroubi, morphed right into resistance leaders. This constituted an unprecedented rift within the governing course. This crisis has persisted and even aggravated over time, regardless of hopes that the presidency of Hassan Rouhani, a centrist, in 2013 would undoubtedly lead to some national reconciliation and the addition of a wider variety of political sights in government, the exact opposite occurred. If the 2009 elections saw the unceremonious exclusion of pro-reform intrigues from Iran’s power structure, then by 2021, the deep rupture within elite politics had reached the inner sanctums of the country’s ruling elites, with moderate conservatives like previous Speaker of the Parliament Ali Larijani being prevented from running in the presidential election. The exclusionary practices of the Guardian Council even triggered Larijani’s bro Sadeq Larijani, the former judiciary principal and a previous member of the Guardian Council, to publicly bawl out the body’s exclusionary actions. The following is the comprehensive and chronic crisis of efficient monitoring that pesters the Islamic Republic.
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his crisis manifests most plainly in the mismanagement of the economic situation and widespread corruption. However, U.S. sanctions have played a prominent role in intensifying the financial circumstance and isolating Iran from the international economic crisis.
The fourth element to think about is the unity and also the capability of Iran’s coercive pressures, consisting of the Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps, Basij, the regular army, the police, the knowledge device, as well as a politicized judiciary eager to reduce dissent. This is where the argument in favor of transformation begins to come apart. At no point during the 2022 objections was there any indication that the cohesiveness of these forces was in severe danger. Fairly the contrary, the protests were included without summoning the complete armor of Iran’s army and security forces. Actually, during the much larger and more arranged Eco-friendly activity, which drew countless individuals to the streets in 2009, only a portion of these pressures was deployed to contain and inevitably subdue the lion’s share of the street presentations in simply a couple of months. Naturally, the 2022 demonstrations, which have been dramatically smaller sized in contrast, have presented no actual challenge to the vast manpower as well as firepower of Iran’s safety device. Moreover, authorities have shown little doubt about deploying these forces to subdue militants. With the unity and ability of the Islamic Republic’s cohesive forces undamaged, a crucial ingredient for an extreme circumstance is already missing. However, the missing out on elements accumulates when we move away from the country and consider the present state of the resistance activity, which is the emphasis of the following 4 of Bashiriyeh’s aspects. The initial condition-- mass discontent-- is conveniently fulfilled in Iran. Also, before the 2022 protests, the Iranian management was remaining on a powder keg of social discontent waiting to be stirred up. Yet the plain reality of mass discontent alone does not produce a revolutionary moment. “Socio-economic as well as social discontent,” Bashiriyeh notes, “comes to be efficient when made real through a specific driver” as well as “needs to end up being politicized to have political effects.” The terrible fatality of Mahsa Amini in authorities wardship and the subsequent national craze and aggravation activated and politicized other preexisting resources of discontent, such as the narrowing space for political representation, widespread corruption, mismanagement of natural resources, the pauperization of the masses as a result of misguided state plans, and the growing suppressing of civil liberties. It remained in the problem of the compulsory hijab legislation that these other problems located “a political focus or epicenter” in Bashiriyeh’s solution. Yet, although the 2022 objection motion might bank on a wellspring of mass unhappiness towards the Islamic Republic, its drawbacks regarding business capability and leadership the following two elements have thus far proved to be critical.
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he 2009 Environment-friendly movement can count on large organizational networks developed during the months of intensive political election marketing coming before the protests. These reputable networks included political election head office, political events, trainee organizations, and labor groups. Regardless of being referred to as a “Twitter transformation” by some Western media, the 2009 protests did not rely as heavily on social media systems as was often assumed. As reporter Reese Erlich reported from the ground, “most demonstrations were organized with word of mouth, cellphone calls and message messaging” rather than exclusively through social media sites. In contrast, the objections that emerged in 2022 lacked the established networks that the Environment-friendly movement could rely upon in 2009. A lot of the arranging in 2022 happened automatically with systems like Instagram and TikTok. This is shown in the demographics of the protesters: Greater than 41 percent of those detained have been under the age of 20. The limited business capability of the 2022 demonstrations made them less complicated for authorities to have as opposed to a much more varied and broad-based engagement in 2009. This restricted business capacity is due partly to an absence of strong, well-known leaders in the 2022 objections. Whereas the 2009 Environment-friendly motion was spearheaded by numbers like Mousavi as well as Karroubi, the 2022 objections had no clear leaders. The absence of a token can be beneficial. For example, it can make it harder for authorities to guillotine the protests by simply arresting key leaders. Yet overall, the lack of solid management has thus far been verified to be much more destructive than beneficial to the present motion’s organizational ability, which consequently has made it much easier for state browbeating to restrain the protesters.
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he last variable to consider when assessing the advanced possibility of the 2022 protest activity is its ideology. As Bashiriyeh reminds us, opposite ideological backgrounds can tackle either an offensive or defensive pose. Harsh ideological grounds support a radical overhaul of the existing sociopolitical order and structure.
In contrast, protective, ideological backgrounds concentrate on revealing public complaints and pushing back against regarded advancements in rights and flexibilities by ruling elites. Unlike the mainly defensive ideological background of the 2009 Green movement, whose main rallying cry was “Where Is My Ballot?” and which looked to overturn the results of a widely contested political election, the 2022 activity showed up to have handled a more offending position. In November 2022, for instance, protesters set fire to the genealogical home of previous Ayatollah Ruhollah Khomeini, the owner of the Islamic Republic. In addition, the 2022 objections included a lot more hostile mottos targeting Iran’s supreme leader and calling for a topple of Iran’s rulers. Such mottos were largely absent in the 2009 Environment-friendly movement. Also, the main slogan of the 2022 motion ”Lady, Life, Flexibility” may be taken possibly cutting edge in the context of modern Iranian national politics. However, one has difficulty determining a dominant and coherent offending belief that calls for overthrowing the existing system. However, it is necessary to remember that this ideology-- though not yet explicitly offensive-- can evolve into an uncompromisingly offensive one in time. Although critical components for an effective shift into an advanced activity are still missing out on, this does not instantly preclude the opportunity for a transformation. The genuine desires and demands of the Iranian individuals will not go away if they are not resolved. Unless authorities beware of individuals’ legitimate needs and also desires, it is just an issue of time before the next round of protests emerges.However,there has yet to beany significant sign that authorities want to take any substantial step toward long-lasting modification. Yet if vital active ingredients for a change appear to be missing out on and authorities are revealing little to no indication of yielding to individuals’ will, where is Iran headed? Bashiriyeh notes that tyrannical federal governments compensate for a dilemma of authenticity “either by turning to more forceful and also repressive measures or by counting on more public welfare services.” Following the 2009 crackdown on militants, the state selected the former, broadening its military and coercive capacities. This situation seems likely today as well-- partly because sanctions have drained the state’s resources, making it much harder to increase civil services. Ultimately, when the Islamic Republic is dealing with an unprecedented dilemma of legitimacy and efficient administration, it should not come as a shock that there are growing indications that military leaders are assuming influence over foreign-policy decision-making. If anything, Iranians and those all over the world following their circumstances would succeed in preparing themselves for change and the nation’s further militarization.
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Sukla Debnath has empowered over 5,000 Adivasi women by training them to be beauticians so they become financially independent and don’t fall prey to human trafficking.
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inki Kurmi, from the distant space of Kalchini in West Bengal, found a newfound zeal for all times. Right this moment, this 28-year-old wakes up each morning, trying ahead to go to work each day. However, only a year ago, she was sitting at residence with no supply of income cash and was utterly dependent on her dad and mom. She would spend her days serving her mom, whereas she wished to assist her household financially. Her want to be got here true when she attended a free course in cosmetology and became a beautician. “At first, I couldn’t imagine the course being free. I acquired educated in threading, haircutting, and make-up. Earlier, I had no supply of revenue, and I felt trapped at residence. However, as we speak, I earn Rs 5,000 a month on common. It has given me confidence and the need to fend for myself,” says Pinki. And he or she isn’t the one; the same story was narrated by Nisha Orao from Dima, who used to work in tea gardens for minimal wages. “My life has modified utterly since I acquired this coaching. I come from a humble background, and the coaching has given me much monetary freedom. This has actually helped me discover my footing,” she says. Nisha, Pinki, and 5,000 different girls from in and across the areas of Hasimara, a small city within the Alipurduar district, like Salbari, Dima, and many others, have discovered new livelihoods, all due to 35-year-old Sukla Debnath. A graduate and an educated beautician, she is empowering the women and girls in her village single-handedly. How? Effectively, right here is her story.
ters and their marriage. Her father had a small candy store in Hasimara, and the household confronted monetary difficulties. “As any father would, my baba additionally used to fret about our marriages. Having seen this, I decided that I couldn’t be a burden to my household. In a small village like mine, girls have solely two choices — work within the tea gardens or watch for marriage. However, I wished to interrupt this cycle,” she remembers. “I funded my very own schooling by giving tuition to major college youngsters. After finishing my education, I bought my cycle for Rs 1,200 and paid the beautician’s course payment in 2003. It was an enormous quantity to be paid; however, I did it,” she informs. After finishing the course, she had two paths to select from. One was to earn cash and assist her household, and the other was to serve society, which largely comprised folks from the Adivasi group. And Sukla selected to do the latter for different causes than monetary stability. She says that she was alarmed by the rising variety of girls being trafficked from her village and the areas around. “Unemployment and monetary troubles are the primary purposes behind this. Some folks method households and promise them Rs 50,000 a month if they ship their daughters alongside to work for them. The income potential of a lot of cash blinds them, so they agree. However, these women by no means return and largely find themselves in unimaginable locations,” Sukla says. She continues, “You would possibly examine human trafficking each day in newspapers. However, for us, it’s an actuality. In most instances, the girls who headline the newspapers are those we know. It’s horrifying to see my folks find yourself within the unsuitable arms.”
Serving Adivasi girls take management of their future. While a younger woman, Sukla would fear her 4 older sis-
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s soon as she determined to assist the ladies in her group, she began devising a motion plan.
“Tea gardens pay an everyday wage of Rs 200, which quantities to Rs 6,000 per thirty days. T h i s quantity isn’t sufficient to boost oneself, not to mention a complete household,” she says, including, “If a lady gets educated as a beautician, she will earn a minimum of Rs 7,000 for bridal make-up within the village. Within the city, she will earn much more. This can be a superb possibility compared to what she would make within the tea gardens.” So, Sukla started visiting the tea gardens to speak to the ladies and persuade them to get educated. “I’d ask them, ‘Have you learned how much cash you carry inside your physique? You have got two kidneys and one liver. Anybody with unsuitable intentions will take you by promising wealth in return, after which they promote your organs’. It was harsh. However, they knew it was the reality. This fashion, I satisfied them to take up the course,” she says. “They have been hesitant at first as leaving even a day of labor in the tea gardens would imply shedding their daily wages. However, a couple of confirmed up, and I’ve not stopped ever since,” she provides. ‘My baba was my greatest cheerleader.’ “After I went to varsity, my household anticipated me to change into an instructor. The trail I selected was not what they’d anticipated in any respect. My mom was not completely happy and fairly skeptical about my occupation line. It was my father who would encourage me to observe my coronary heart,” says Sukla.
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Blogging “My father would inform me, ‘Grow to be a cobbler for you. No job is large or small; however, be certain that you serve your folks’. This grew to become my greatest inspiration. My father has taught me to carry a smile to somebody’s face and dwell for others,” she provides. Having devoted her life to serving folks, she has by no means charged a payment from any of her trainees and has raised funds.“I’m very proud of what I earn. All my sisters are married as we speak, so there are no extra duties to fulfill for my household. No matter what I earn, I spend on numerous actions to serve these girls. As well as, I learned karate to show self-defense to younger women,” she informs. Lovingly often called didi, Sukla feels a way of duty in the direction of all these girls from her village. From being the youngest sister in her household, she has now changed into everybody’s older sister. “I need to maintain going and assist these girls. I need to make them successful sufficient to by no means get trapped in human trafficking and never be a monetary burden to their households. I noticed my father worrying day and night, questioning how he would marry off 5 daughters. I don’t need any fathers to fret like that by making their daughters financially unbiased,” she says. She even helped her fellow villagers when the pandemic hit. She gave free teaching to youngsters and used her financial savings to feed individuals who couldn’t afford meals. “Manav seva hello ishwar seva hai (serving the folks is service to god). I could not have an NGO or funding, and my work could be on a small scale, but when I can change even one individual’s life, I’ll be happy,” says Sukla.
To assist Sukla with additional triggers, you can attain her at 8967012077. Sukla needs to empower girls and stop younger women from being trafficked. Image credit score: Sukla Debnath Sukla educated 5,000 girls from her village to be beauticians.
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argherita was born in Venice, the child of Amedeo Grassini and Emma Levi (whose relative Giuseppe Levi was the father of Natalia Ginzburg). Amedeo was a wealthy Jewish attorney and businessman. He was a financial attorney for the Venetian government and a friend of Giuseppe Melchiorre Sarto, later on, Pope Pius X. He would indeed, later on, be made a Knight of the Order of the Crown of Italy. Sarfatti grew up in a palazzo situated at the Canal Grande in Venice and was enlightened by exclusive tutors. However, she was soon attracted by socialist ideas and left her mom’s and dads’ home at age 18 to wed Cesare Sarfatti, a Jewish legal representative from Padua. He was 13 years her elderly but shared her socialist beliefs. In 1902, the couple transferred to Milan.
Rosso and Arturo Martini. Margherita Sarfatti and also her spouse had several kids. Their eldest son, Robert, was employed in the Italian army throughout World War I and was eliminated in action on Monte Baldo in January 1918, matured 18. Individual pal and exclusive collector of the conservative avanguardist Umberto Boccioni, in 1911, Sarfatti fulfilled Benito Mussolini (three years her junior) and started a connection with him.
There, they became noticeable in the city’s imaginative life, holding regular Beauty parlors that became the center of the Futurist and Novecento Italiano artistic motions. The Beauty salons happened at number 93 of Corso Venezia. At these gatherings were Mussolini, Massimo Bontempelli, Ada Negri, and several carvers, Medardo
Sarfatti is hallowed in Guido Cadorin frescoes in the (now called) Grand Resort Royal Residence, Via Veneto No. 70, Rome. “Fiammetta, as well as I wanted to pass into eternal life in the beauty parlor’s frescoes,” she said, referring to her little girl, depicted with her in the frescoes. Sarfatti impacted Mussolini’s plans from 1922 until 1938 when Musso-
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During this time, she worked as an art doubter at the paper Avanti! After losing her husband in 1924, she composed a bio of Mussolini. This was first released in 1925 in Britain under the title The Life of Benito Mussolini; it was released the following year in Italy with the title Dux. Because of Mussolini’s fame and the author’s familiarity with the tyrant, the book was a success. Seventeen versions were published as well as it was equated right into 18 languages.
lini acquiesced to German stress. After the Policy of Race passed racial regulation, the fascist government’s politics were not anti-semitic, and the event’s membership rolls were open to Jews. In 1922, the team Novecento was enlarged to Anselmo Bucci, Leonardo Dudreville, Achille Funi, Gian Emilio Malerba, Pietro Marussig, Ubaldo Oppi, and Mario Sironi. Possibly in reaction to the transforming scenarios in Italy, Sarfatti left Italy in 1938 for Argentina and Uruguay; she functioned as a reporter for the newspaper El Diario of Montevideo. After the battle, in 1947, Sarfatti returned to her residence country and once more became a significant force in Italian art. She had calls and a unique understanding of even more backers of the Italian Freemasonry, which Mussolini attested to terribly endure.
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n popular culture Actress Susan Sarandon portrayed Sarfatti in the 1999 movie Cradle Will Rock, written and directedby Sarandon’s then-longtime companion, Tim Robbins.
Sarandon discussed her duty, s t a t i n g :
“Margherita is a person who is a legitimate historical number. She really existed. Mussolini’s mistress was highly involved in the social shaping of Italy’s art activities. She was a client of brand-new painters in Italy. Using Hearst’s column, she came to the United States to offer Mussolini to American individuals. She created a column, and that was just how they prepared the United States people for the concept of going into the war on the side of Mussolini, Intend. And additionally, she was attempting to fund the battle. As well as the problem with this was the truth that she was Jewish. Also, she, in fact, supported her own crisis, which eventually would make her leave Italy for Argentina and Uruguay for several years until it was secure for her to return. Whether or not she was simply in complete denial or she actually genuinely believed that there was a means
to sleep with Mussolini and also not be held accountable, I do not know. However, she ended up in an awkward setting. She was hobnobbing with all these wealthy American individuals. In the context of the film, she has a job to do as well, as because she enjoys art, sometimes locates herself to provide all this art away to individuals she feels don’t actually appreciate it.”
Margherita Sarfatti (née Grassin i; 8 April 1880 – 30 October 1961) was an Italian journalist, art critic, patron, collector, socialite, and prominent propaganda adviser of the National Fascist Party. She was Benito Mussolini’s biographer as well as one of his mistresses.
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TALKS WITH MUSSOLINI Emil Ludwig 1932
Product details Publisher : Hoffmann & Hoffmann; 3rd ed. edition (August 7, 2017) Language : English Paperback : 254 pages ISBN-10 : 1947488139 ISBN-13 : 978-1947488137 Item Weight : 13.3 ounces Dimensions : 6 x 0.64 x 9 inches Best Sellers Rank: #3,410,322 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #596 in Historical Italy Biographies #1,564 in Fascism (Books) #1,601 in Historical Geography
The following conversations took place in the Palazzo di Venezia at Rome, being held almost daily for an hour at a time between March 23 and April 4, 1932, boti dates inclusive, We talked Italian, and each conversation was recorded by me in German as soon as it was finished. Only a few sentences from earlier conversations have been introduced into this book. The German manuscript was submitted to Mussolini, who checked the passages in which his own utterances were recorded. No material other than the before-mentioned has been incorporated, but I have to acknowledge my indebtedness to Margherita Sarfatti for a good many hints conveyed to me in her biography. I have made no use of the numberless anecdotes current in Rome; and I have ignored the reports of Mussolini’s collaborators, informative though these are. In a word, the talks consist of what actually passed in conversation between Mussolini and myself.
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Meredith Kercher
Rudy Guede
Raffaele Sollecito
Amanda Knox
The Meredith Kercher case
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n 01/11/2007, Meredith Kercher, a twenty-six-year-old English student on an Erasmus trip to Perugia, was found dead, killed by 47 stab wounds, in her house via Della Pergola. Her time of death should be between 10.30pm and 11.30pm. Her body is found by the postal police on the recommendation of the victim’s roommate, Amanda Knox, and her boyfriend at the time, Raffaele Sollecito.
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he investigations begin, and the first suspects fall on Amanda and Raffaele, who are questioned and indicted. During the crime scene inspection, DNA belonging to Rudy Guede, an acquaintance of Kercher who fled to Germany immediately after her murder, was found.
Rudy Guede.
On 12/16/2010, Rudy Guede was sentenced in abbreviated procedure to 16 years in prison for complicity in murder. Rudy did not release any interviews or statements until 01/21/2016, when an entire episode was dedicated to him for a well-known television broadcast. During the program, Rudy explains that that evening he was at the crime scene as he was having an affair with Kercher, and that day the two boys met for consensual sexual intercourse. Rudy would have felt stomach pain at one point in the evening and going to the bathroom, he would have started listening to music on an iPod. He goes on to say that, within a quarter of an hour, while he was still in the bathroom, the murder would have occurred. Guede further states that he could hear Knox’s voice ardently arguing with Meredith despite the headphones. Hearing Kercher’s cries, he would have rushed out of the bathroom to go and see what had happened. At this point, Guede faces a man who cannot see his face and who will manage to escape. Rudy looks out the window and sees Knox with the boy, similar to Sollecito. After that, he finds Meredith in a lake of blood and tries to help her as he can, but taken by her shock, he abandons her and runs away. Amanda Knox and Raffaele Sollecito
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THE FACTS The judicial proceedings concerning Knox and Sollecito begin with the first-degree conviction of 05/12/2009 for the murder of Meredith. However, this sentence was annulled on appeal by the Court of Assizes of Appeal of Perugia on 03/10/2011. At this point, the prosecution appealed to the Supreme Court and obtained the conviction of the two boys again on 01/30/2014. In turn, the defense in March 2015 appealed to the Supreme Court and got the definitive acquittal of Amanda and Raffaele “for not having committed the crime.” The reasons for the Cassation for the acquittal state that: the genetic investigations were acquired in violation of the time-honored rules of international protocols; the presence of Amanda in the house that was the scene of the murder is confirmed, like her admissions (but it has not been possible to demonstrate that she was present at the time of the crime). For Sollecito, the suspicion remains strong that he was really present in the house via Della Pergola on the night of the murder at a moment that has not been possible to determine. Media success Knox and Sollecito gave interviews to national and international newspapers during and after the end of the judicial proceedings documented in numerous television programs, and many writers dedicated their books to the crime in Perugia. The story, which is said to have also reached the ears of Hilary Clinton, then US secretary of state, led the whole world to point the finger at the Italian justice system, guilty of having framed two innocent people to put an end to the matter.
The Netflix documentary The pinnacle of this global trial against the Italian judicial system came with the release of the Netflix documentary. In an hour and a half of recording, everything concerning the crime in Perugia is retraced from the point of view of Sollecito and, obviously, of the protagonist Amanda Knox. The video is entirely biased; neither Rudi Guede is interviewed nor given sufficient space for Meredith’s family and her lawyers. Only the forensic experts of the defense appeal are called into question, who have demonstrated the absence of Amanda’s DNA on the knife and the absence of Sollecito’s DNA on the bra clasp, but not those who had established it in the first instance the presence. Finally, a lot of space is given to a very ambiguous character, Nick Pisa, a journalist with dubious morals who followed the story closely, gaining fame in England thanks to his scoops, which by his own admission sometimes turned out to be wrong, “I cannot control the information that I publish. Otherwise I would lose the scoop,” or he will still say about the fame acquired thanks to the crime in Perugia, “seeing your name on the front page is like having sex.” In short, Amanda and Raffaele have been declared innocent, and they must be treated as such. However, many doubts remain about a story that is still unclear, first of all knowing whether Rudy Guede acted alone in killing Meredith Kercher.
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THE VATICAN REOPENS THE EMANUELA ORLANDI CASE by IM Italian team
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he Vatican reopens the case of Emanuela Orlandi. Virtually forty years after his demise, the promoter of Vatican justice Alessandro Diddialong with the Gendarmerie has determined to reopen the investigation into a story that has shaken the Holy See and its highest establishments in an investigative course of that has touched on disturbing hypotheses of all types. All information, paperwork, reviews, info, and testimonies will probably be examined.
In keeping with Adnkronos, the target of the investigators is to re-examine all of the information, paperwork, reviews, info, and testimonies. A 360-degree job to go away with no stone unturned, to attempt to make transparent shadows and questions of all types, and definitively put a finish to even probably the most unbelievable inferences.
The brand new investigations into Emanuela might make clear the affair of the identical age Mirella Gregori, who further disappeared that yr. Clearly, the choice of the pontifical judiciary goes to insert and assist the determined seek for reality claimed by the household of the 15-yearold who by no means surrendered to the blanket of thriller and silence.
New leads and previous indications are being examined by the investigators.
Revelations and docuseries, the renewed curiosity within the Orlandi case.
In keeping with the work plan developed on the workplace of the promoter of justice, we are going to begin once more from the information acquired throughout the proceedings; we are going to observe new leads and previous indications that weren’t too detailed on time: in brief, the work will begin once more from the examination of every single element ranging from since that afternoon of June 22, 1983, when a 15-year-old woman, Emanuela Orlandi, daughter of a Vatican worker, disappeared into thin air. She had closed the door of her residence behind her at 4 pm on that early summer season day to go to music classes in Piazza Sant’Apollinare. Close to the basilica of the identical title the place a few years later, it was found that one of many leaders of the band of Magliana, ‘Renato’ Enrico De Pedisin line with several witnesses, the fabric executor of the kidnapping “on behalf of excessive prelates.”
New revelations, profitable docu-fiction, unpublished tracks. By no means earlier than have the spotlights on the story of the disappearance of the significantly younger Emanuela been turned again on as in current occasions, spotlights that had gone out in October 2015 when the investigating Justice of the Peace, on the request of the Public Prosecutor’s Workplace and attributable to lack of constant proof, closed the investigation into the disappearances by Emanuela Orlandi and Mirella Gregori, launched in 2006 following the declarations of Sabrina Minardi and which noticed six suspects for complicity in homicide and kidnapping, amongst others additionally Monsignor Peter Vergariformer rector of the basilica of Sant’Apollinare the place De Pedis was buried till 2012
The initiative within the wake of the seek for reality and transparency desired by Pope Francis.
The initiative of the Vatican judiciary strikes – Adnkronos at all times learns – within the wake of seeking reality and transparency in any respect prices desired by Pope Francesco. So far as the Orlandi affair is concerned, it matches within the path of the eye proven to the case by different popes, beginning with John Paul II (he was the primary, in his attraction throughout the Angelus, to formalize the kidnapping speculation). New investigations additionally deal with the story of Mirella Gregori.
The DNA analysis on some bones within the headquarters of the Vatican Nunciature. Three years later, the final breath of hope for the households of each lady disappeared into thin air. In keeping with the Holy Father’s transparency, the Vatican gave the go-ahead for DNA evaluation on some bones discovered throughout restoration work within the Vatican Nunciature headquarters by Po in Rome. The investigations entrusted by the Holy See to Italy, and particularly to the Rome prosecutor’s workplace and the Scientific Police, have been aimed toward evaluating these bones with the genetic code of Emanuela Orlandi. Nothing is carried out there too. Immediately you begin once more, for the umpteenth (and final) time.
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Sexual fluidity and the diversity of sexual orientation orientation By Sabra L. Katz-Wise, PhD Who are you today? Who were you a decade ago? For many of us, shifts in our lives — relationships, jobs, friendships, where we live, what we believe — are the only constant. Yet it’s a common misconception that sexual orientation develops at an early age and then remains stable throughout one’s life. Rather, changes in sexual orientation are a common thread in many people’s lives. People may experience changes in who they are attracted to, who they have sex with, and which labels they use to describe their sexual orientation. Such changes in sexual orientation are called sexual fluidity.
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Attraction, identity,, and identity behavior While anyone can experience changes in their sexual orientation, sexually fluidity is more common in younger people and among people who are LGBTQ+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and additional identities).
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changes in attractions: Someone may be attracted to one gender at one time point and attracted to a different gender or more than one gender at another time point. changes in identity labels: Someone may identify as lesbian at one time point and as bisexual at another time point. changes in sexual behavior: Someone may have a sexual partner at one time point who is a cisgender woman and then have another sexual partner at a different time point who is nonbinary. (A cisgender woman is a person assigned as a female at birth and who identifies as a woman. Someone who is nonbinary was assigned either female or male at birth and identifies as neither a woman nor a man.)
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Sexual fluidity happens for many different reasons. For some people, sexual fluidity occurs when they meet people and discover new attractions. For other people, sexual fluidity may occur when they learn a new identity label that better fits their experience.
Misconceptions and stigma about sexual fluidity
Many people may have questions and biases about sexual fluidity. Let’s explore a few. Are people who identify as bisexual sexually fluid? Some are and others are not. Sexual fluidity is distinct from bisexuality. Sexual fluidity may be experienced by people with any sexual orientation identity, including people who identify as bisexual, lesbian, gay, or heterosexual. Stigma directed at sexual fluidity (and similar stigma surrounding bisexuality) may stem from misconceptions about changes in sexual orientation. Consciously or unconsciously, some people may believe that anyone who experiences changes in their sexual orientation is promiscuous or incapable of being monogamous. However, such beliefs are untrue. Misconceptions and stigma can hurt. Growing evidence links different forms of stigma experienced by people who are sexually fluid with more depression and poor mental health. Yet it’s not the change in sexual orientation that raises this risk, nor is it automatic, genetic, or otherwise predestined. The higher risk of mental health concerns among people who experience sexual fluidity is more likely to be related to minority stress — that is, because sexual fluidity is stigmatized, people who experience that stigma may also experience stress that negatively affects their mental health.
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Changing misconceptions and stigma about sexual fluidity We can help normalize sexual fluidity in several ways. First, we can introduce the possibility of changes in sexual orientation as part of sex education in schools and in the doctor’s office. Second, we can work toward responding to sexual fluidity with openness and curiosity rather than making assumptions and viewing these changes as negative. Third, we can move beyond preconceived notions of sexual orientation as stable to expecting change in sexual orientation for some people.
As people experience the world and learn more about themselves, their views, beliefs, and feelings may change. Sexual fluidity reflects one possible change over time, a change that fits into the greater diversity of sexuality. We can all hold space for this diversity by letting go of misconceptions about the stability of sexual orientation over a lifespan and staying open instead to the possibility of change.
Sabra L. Katz-Wise, PhD Contributor Sabra L. Katz-Wise, PhD (she/her) is an assistant professor in adolescent/young adult medicine at Boston Children’s Hospital, in pediatrics at Harvard Medical School, and in social and behavioral sciences at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. She co-directs the Harvard SOGIE (Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity and Expression) Health Equity Research Collaborative. Her research investigates sexual orientation and gender identity development, sexual fluidity, health inequities related to sexual orientation and gender identity, and psychosocial functioning in families with transgender youth. Dr. Katz-Wise also advocates to improve workplace climate, medical education, and patient care for LGBTQ individuals, as co-chair for the BCH Rainbow Consortium on Sexual and Gender Diversity, as an HMS LGBT Advisory Committee member, and as HMS Sexual and Gender Minority Curriculum Development Fellow.
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Reasons It’s Perfectly Okay Never to Get Married By IM Italian Team
The trend of men avoiding marriage is becoming only prevalent with time. Wonder why men don’t want to get married anymore? We’ll look at why this is happening rapidly in modern society. With the rise in live-in and polyamorous relationships, people are not only delaying marriage but are considering doing away with it altogether. The relationship between men and marriage is quickly changing. In fact, studies suggest that men are more likely than women to have never been married. Also, the median age at first marriage is 29 for men, up from 23 for men in 1960. What are the reasons behind these statistics? Let’s find out why men don’t want to get married anymore.
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“A poetry book about love.Talking about love is difficult, especially when it comes to our love, our emotions. What are the bonds that bind us as a species, is evident, but much more evident is the thread that connects us, one to the other. The desire to be recognized as part of the world, is very often identified with the conjunction of the loved one, and therefore, the fusion, the attempt to be part of a single emotion.Then, time naturally sweeps away the memories, and transforms anger, pain and even love into acts of resistance, and this, out of a spirit of survival, taking away all denied pain...all silent love.”
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“I don’t need paperwork to affirm I’m in a relationship.”
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aseylsh, a user on Reddit, says, “The concept of marriage was created by religion. A unification under god. Before the tax benefits. That’s why the Christians were so upset about gays getting married. I am not religious. And I frankly don’t see the legal benefits of marriage as worth it. Humans existed and started families for hundreds of thousands of years before someone came along roughly 5,000 years ago and made it ‘official.’ “I do not need paperwork to affirm I’m in a relationship. I also don’t need more paperwork should I choose to not want to be with that person anymore. A perfectly reasonable and human thing to do. There are billions of people on this earth; it’s stupid to pretend someone might like me forever.” As mentioned above, many men grow up in dysfunctional families and lose faith in the idea of ‘forever.’ Some men fall in love but don’t need a marriage certificate to act as proof. Also, some men think that marriage is only worth some of the hassle.
Women’s independence and gender equality Marriage rates are dropping, according to studies. In the US, 340,000 fewer marriages occurred in 2020 than in 2019. The drop of 16.8% is proof enough that men are avoiding marriage. But why is this happening? Philip Cohen, a sociology professor at the University of Maryland, points out, “Women’s independence and gender equality is a huge factor in the long-term decline in marriage.” As the structure of society is changing fundamentally, the roles of men and women in marriage are also
undergoing a significant transformation. Men find it difficult to adjust to a world where patriarchy doesn’t exist anymore. Giving up power is not easy, after all. This is precisely the reason behind so many failing marriages. Some men feel that laws are biased against them. In fact, there has also been a rise in men’s rights groups such as Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW) and the Manosphere, where men in droves complain about men’s unfair treatment in relationships and family courts. For this reason, millions of men don’t want to get married and opt out of marriage altogether. Why men don’t want to get married anymore – A deadline for dreams The 20s are a time to chase your dreams (when you are unsure about what you want in a relationship). Many young men don’t want to get married because it puts a pin on their goals and life plans. The silver lining for men is that they don’t have to worry about their ‘ticking biological clock’ as much as women. But on the downside, there’s societal pressure on many men to become ‘financially stable’ before getting married. These factors contribute to men not marrying these days. Marriage changes men in fundamental ways. According to the work of sociologist Steve Nock, marriage changes men in fundamental ways. In his book Marriage in Men’s Lives, he discussed how men’s beliefs about themselves and their wives change when they cross the line. His argument rests on the potency of the so-
cial role of the “husband.” He argued that men begin to see themselves as fathers, providers, and protectors when they transition into marriage. After marriage, men work more, spend less time with friends, and are expected to care for others. Men have an inner view that after marriage—but not before—their partners have the right to tell them what to do. And this could be one of the overwhelming reasons men don’t want to get married. Rising divorce rates and struggle for child custody A successful marriage is only some people’s cup of tea. Tincanbrain, a Reddit user, says, “Almost half of all marriages end up in divorce, which makes me question the purpose behind marriage in the first place. Divorce is a long-drawn-out legal battle that saps your resources and continues to do so even after the proceedings. Sometimes, even with a prenup, the divorce doesn’t go smoothly. Marriage just feels like you’re setting yourself up for financial and mental pain in the future, so why do it?” According to studies, 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce, and 80% of those divorces are initiated by women. Since women are more likely to start a divorce, men usually pay a lot more for a divorce. The fear of being financially exploited is one reason men avoid marriage nowadays. Research says that out of the total population of custodial parents, 82.5% were women. So, getting custody of their children is very difficult for men in the case of a divorce, but they end up paying for alimony and child support.
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Waiting for the ‘perfect’ soulmate The research was conducted on unmarried men to know why men don’t want to get married anymore. Many men were waiting for the ‘perfect’ soulmate who would not try to change them. They want to get married but not ‘settle’ for someone incompatible. Most people have a hard time saying yes to marriage because there is a good chance they will end up with the wrong person. Maybe you find her silence charming, but with time, realize that she’s too quiet and you want someone to talk to and listen to. You might be infatuated and mistake it for love, only to regret it after a certain period. Some men and women have trust issues, and some find it challenging to share rooms with others. Imagine being with somebody who thinks fundamentally differently from you, and this starts making you dislike everything about them? Many men avoid marriage because they realize that the future is uncertain and that pretending otherwise is the most naive thing one can do. Family involvement can put people off the idea of marriage Family makes things all the more complicated. We all do love our families despite all the disagreements or problems. But it is not fair to expect that we will get married one fine day and love a new family just like we love our own. You might find yourself in a dysfunctional family setting if you’re unlucky. One can try, but finding fault in a new family becomes easy, and it is not always easy to love them like your own. For me, things were all lovey-dovey in our live-in relationship, and I must admit that we had a perfect equation before our families decided to play a role in it. When two families are forced to come together, they can bring in more problems. One big reason why men don’t want to get married anymore is that they don’t want to go through the whole process of bringing the two families together to live with a person they’re already living with.
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everyone has of them and lead lives independently. It doesn’t always have to be that way. Take some time and re-evaluate if this is the life you want for yourself. You should have time to breathe easily and relax too. Don’t be bound by these social constructs of what your role in a marriage should be. This is one of the biggest reasons for men not marrying anymore. And the benefits of marriage for a woman are barely any, which is why they’re doing away with the concept of marriage as a necessity. Have conquered the fear of loneliness Why do people settle down? More often than not, they want to experience a lasting sense of companionship and never be alone. The fear of being alone is ingrained in us, and getting married is often presented as the perfect alternative to us by society. We’re told that once our parents are gone and if we don’t have kids, we’d need some kind of family to hold onto. But many men don’t buy that narrative and fill the lonely void with spiritual support and passion towards work (instead of a new relationship). Key Pointers Young men don’t get married anymore because they can enjoy the benefits of marriage by moving in together The rising divorce rates and accompanying financial loss are other reasons behind men avoiding marriage Single men are also fearful of losing their independence and having a serious relationship with the wrong person Men don’t have to worry about their ‘ticking biological clock’ as much as women Family involvement is another reason behind men not marrying To conclude, everyone’s timeline is different, and you can get married whenever you want. Even if marriage is not your priority, it is totally alright. Your relationship can still be equally unique without putting a legal ‘stamp’ on it. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone. It doesn’t have to make sense to others if it makes you happy. Follow your gut; that is all you need!
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“You can have the woman you are”
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e are here for “IM Italian magazine” with Dr. Selene Gemelli, whom I have known for some time because we have worked together in the social field. She was born as an educator, became passionate about consultancy, and created a project dedicated to a particular target. Meanwhile, Susanna, it’s a pleasure to see you again. “SHER” is a program of voices, born and designed especially for women or people belonging to the LGBT community. It was created, above all, to help and guide people to improve the sentimental and sexual aspects of their life, which is why the specific target of this project refers above all to people who have already achieved professional or life goals, in short, satisfactory, but that in the explicit and sexual aspect fail to arrive at the satisfaction that in short, they desire. Very often, the people I work with start from a solid base of malaise or, in any case, from substantial uncertainty and doubt regarding this inability to achieve this satisfaction. And how did you come to this target? Then I get there both with me. In short, you anticipated at the beginning during
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the presentation I get there for a professional passion referring to the fact that I have a strong experience, especially with women victims of trafficking, abuse and maltreatment, for which I have been busy for many years with women who were in difficulty. And then there is a very personal aspect which refers precisely to the fact of having been a part of this problem in the first person in the sense that I am a bisexual woman. Well then, explore the issues that clients bring you and to work on. And by the way, you also work in close contact with some psychotherapists, one of which is me. In short, supported from that point of view. Let’s explore, I try to throw in some keywords so maybe it binds to talk about it a bit. And the first that comes to mind is freedom. Freedom the word freedom undoubtedly comes to mind women who feel insecure and unhappy, are dissatisfied and have perhaps achieved this economic, social, and working freedom within their families. But they are unable to feel free on a sentimental and sexual level. But even more, people who belong to the LGBTQ Plus world come to mind and who find this muscular discomfort of acceptance of approval.
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hy do they say this? Because it seems absurd and it seems strange to say it, but today homosexuality belongs to gays and lesbians. They’re just in terms of acceptance, they’ve come a long way, we’ve come a long way, they’ve become, they’ve become more familiar terms. We also saw it on TV. In short, Maria De Filippi (popular author of tv shows) tells us that she created men and men and that she brought all people into the homes of Italians, instead of bisexual and transgender, intersex, with gender or sexual orientation problems continuing to quarrel. I am still here with this intense discrimination and having to fight for social inclusion, often forgetting or neglecting the inner aspect of the work with so many people who bring to the fore the family difficulties of being accepted within the family, social challenges, school at school or work, completely forgetting and putting oneself in the background, rather than forgetting the whole inner aspect of one’s personal freedom of expression, to enjoy sex, to have feelings towards someone or not to try them. And this is one of SHER central points with this typology, clearly of people with this difficulty. Not a good thing, but definitely is. In short, you may think you can refer to someone who understands this issue even so profoundly. It is also essential for those who have to deal with this type of situation in some way, and therefore, we come perhaps to another keyword, rather delicate, which is sexuality.
about women, but the same never applies to LGBT people. The extraordinary thing that I always want to share is that when, even though the starting point is very different when you find yourself working with people who suffer and are part of this project, for those who have the difficulties we have already talked about, the work that is going to be done brings the same results, in the sense that it is a suffering that comes to the matrix, even if the symptom of anxiety is different. However, speaking specifically of sexuality, the evolutionary passage that feminist movements undertook at the end of the nineteenth century, in short, made women able to understand that they had the same human rights as men and that they appropriated a family position, work, and social life on a par with men. The aspect of the body and sexuality becomes a bit impoverished over time, a bit also with the use of the media, therefore due to the sexualization of the female body; in short, there are some exciting researches on sexuality and women in particular. Compare the point of view of heterosexual couples. In this case, they interviews them separately, and it’s remarkable how men report their female partner’s orgasm at 84 percent of this sample group in this research. Women report 46% of reaching orgasm with their partner. And this discrepancy is very significant and ties into all the research in which one of the New Jersey universities identifies 60% of sexual problems for women.
Yes, sexuality is definitely, let’s say, talking
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her partner; it is not linked to others, is linked to the perception that she has of her own body, that she has of herself, that she has of her own free expression of her own femininity.
dissatisfaction, depression, insecurity, and frustration. Which then, clearly you know better than me, it affects everything else, its well-being in general, everything else in our lives.
That’s why Sher works. It is a program in which we work a lot, both concerning the inner dialogue, to be able to understand what it is that we want. What it is that provokes us, that causes pleasure to that person, because knowing the awareness of one’s own body, becomes central to this. This discourse works on the inside, on what is our perception in the mirror, not what is outside. The concept of desirable.
You are a bit anticipating the third word I wanted to throw at you because in several points I want to add something like respect to the body with respect to what you said.
Even then, as a reflection, on awareness. Not concerning these issues. It is exactly in the sense that we often feel desirable. If the other confirms it, we are hot. We are beautiful, sensual, and sexy. Suppose there is someone else who tells us. It’s actually not like that. We can all be desirable if in the mirror we feel and see ourselves as desirable. And this mechanism, unfortunately, has had a strong need for acceptance for life. You have mechanisms that fuel the hypersexualization that is already present in the female body. In our society, as you can see, every day we have billions of stimuli, of stimuli with respect to this, even to the continuous modification of one’s body, which is not male. Clearly, it is bad only when it is an end in itself, that is when I modify my body so that my body can rise in the hierarchy of the worthy body. And therefore I am a body that deserves the reason why I continuously modify it according to the trend of the moment. And this can only generate
Look at many, many of the people I work with bring back to me following the exercises that we go to do along the way and strong amazement in being able to accept seeing beautiful things in a short time because then that’s all. And the kitchen, the beautiful and self-motivating cooking path, because by making you reach even a small. Still, a fast, degree of satisfaction continues to fuel the motivation that already leads people to ask for help, regardless of the profession they then choose and they are above all at the beginning of the modules, in other words of the course. At that point, you work in the mirror and only focus on the beautiful parts of your body. This is advice that I ask of everyone. It is an exercise that it would be good to do, whether they all did men, women, transsexuals, intersex, and so on, and look at themselves naked in the mirror and identify themselves perhaps by writing it on the mirror itself, the parts of the own body that we like will gradually lead us clearly to the beginning we will write the fastest components.
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There is a whole other world to talk about porn and adolescence, young people. I wasn’t really talking about bonded porn used as a tool within an adult couple. The same goes for sex toys. In short, we have many new tools that can be used within the couple, precisely to fuel passion.
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ach of us has parts that we value every day, so they will be the first ones we’re going to write. Then slowly, we’ll start to struggle, so it will become beautiful even simply the shape of our ear never seen before. And this helps a lot because then, as you write in this mirror, what you find yourself in a mirror full of beautiful things, and the parts you like least you see less. And if you want to work for it, work for it. But not for what we said before. We don’t work on our body to improve it, either with surgery or a sport, in short with various treatments. We don’t work to please, but we work to please ourselves, and therefore we will clearly bring out a sense of solid balance and strong desirability. If we know, everyone else will notice. Of course, this exercise is beautiful, and maybe someone who listens to us can put it. Balance is the last word The pairs then work both with heterosexual couples and with excuse couples and with homosexual, bisexual couples, also because it is not the era of poly love? So welcome that it happens to me, in short. And in the couple, can sexuality often be a little neglected? No, because it’s a long-lasting pair of curtains to darken in daily life. In three weeks, we are dedicating little intimacy, little quality time within the couple, or making continuous plans. This is the stark difference. A couple who continue to plan together, who continue to share together, who continue to rejoice or even not rejoice in what life brings into the family. And a couple that will tend in most cases to feed their passion,
Alida, in an ever different and new and powerful way to tell us that it is indisputable that monogamy is complex in this and in this in our society. However, the discomfort is absolutely reachable as an, agreement and it is absolutely feasible to be able to have powerful sexuality within the couple. And indeed there would be many things to say. No, in the sense that then there are sexual relationships that of people who experience the final sexual intercourse to orgasm, so they lead me to problems related to this, I can’t reach orgasm.There is a problem, and it is not this way also on this there are exercises that can clearly shift attention to this or couples who are unable to share their erotic fantasies that change over time. Because sometimes we forget that people, first of all as individuals, evolve in teams, we must be able to cash in on this single individual evolution, it fits together, merges, and therefore there can be changes. Not only that but then perhaps going forward the couple also evolves and perhaps without being tired, other types of problems can also arise, and one also has to reinvent a little. Maybe you have to search. This is exactly why I am talking about sharing fantasies, about one’s erotic fantasies which are sometimes silent within the couple. No, more out of fear of hurting than actually sharing brings extreme complicity and, as you say, a strong evolution. The use of porn, for example, which by many is not, is not accepted, let’s say light. The other day I found it interesting, as far as I don’t agree, the use of porn within the couple, let’s say it’s linked to this.
This is exactly why I am talking about
sharing fantasies, about one’s erotic fantasies which are sometimes silent within the couple. No, more out of fear of hurting than actually sharing brings extreme complicity and, as you say, a strong evolution. The use of porn, for example, which by many is not, is not accepted, let’s say light. The other day I found it interesting reading, as far as I don’t agree, the use of porn within the couple, let’s say it’s linked to this. This psychologist, leads people to build an image of sex and then of the couple. He cannot be experienced and therefore increases and fuels sexual frustration within the couple. And I say no, it depends on how you look at it. It is clear that porn is fake. They’re actors, so just like we see an action movie, we see Fast Furious. And then we don’t take the car and change. Spring 2023 - The Gendre issue
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fficially and for convenience it is said to be an alleged ability to dominate the forces of Nature through the use of occult arts of an evil nature!
In the history of man, magic has always played a predominant role, a role that has fascinated millions of people, from children to the elderly, from men to women, from the bad guys as well as the good ones... It is undeniable that this so-called “art,” because whatever it is about Art, has all the connotations, properties, and extensions of everything that can appear or be the meaning of mystery, the secret, the mysterious, the impenetrable! In this science of indecipherable philosophies and thoughts of all sorts live and coexist, infinite ways and opinions intersect to dominate the greatest of dilemmas: reality... The inexplicable is always the subject of grand visions and absolute convictions, the ‘one different from the other, sometimes even against each other; on the other hand, it’s all that we don’t know that attracts us, fascinates us, seduces us, magnetizes us and perhaps, affectionately persecutes us!
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hen we say Magic, we consistently and unequivocally mean the unfathomable, that part of the world unknown to most that gathers, between pseudo-likenesses and unexplorable appearances, the infinite metaphors hidden in an arcane, occult, and obscure state of the most disturbing and unexplored mutations of reality! Magic is constantly regenerated in the broth of the unknown, in that disturbing and perturbing magma that advances relentlessly toward our fragile certainties! But what is a lock if not a cyclopean and enormously crucial that the absolute exists? Magic, on the contrary, never looks to the absolute but to the supreme; therefore, it goes beyond any certainty by placing the latter only as a starting point and never as an arrival: confidence, in Magic, becomes a question waiting for a great answer! But Magic is also total charm and is nourished almost exclusively by that ancient and ever-current “beauty system” called Charme! . It could be said and affirmed that Magic, not surprisingly, is one of the most consolidated accomplices of beauty because it contains all the requisites of the incomprehensible, therefore all the qualities, merits, and characteristics of attraction, seduction, that wild call that shows us splendor and enchantment! And it is precisely in that enchantment that Magic inexorably transforms itself into a spell in which reality changes and turns into a fable, converts to a new legend, becoming, in a certain sense, a myth!! When we say Magic, we don’t always know what it is! In this immense imaginary real world, the phenomena - manifestations of unidentified origin - are the primary key to understanding, interpreting, and frequenting it.
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Still, as in every world, in which there are praisers, flatterers, and incensors of an idea, there are even the detractors, the denigrators, the latter always tending towards a kind of cultural slander and who, between one concern and another, spread defamations that have roots in fear, in their fear, and there are no more or less valid reasons that they can convince them otherwise! It is evident that where there is a trick, there could also be deception and vice versa, but in the case of Magic, if seen as a science and not as a belief like many others, the trick is not enough to solve the problem, the question, nor can it be solved with deception, because deception by its very definition is a trap, a trap, a scam, therefore a real scam! Magic welcomes and hosts house everything that human thought carefully avoids! In it, there is no cultural racism, intolerance of faith, philosophical discrimination, integrationist beliefs… In magic, everything happens in the prodigy, the extraordinary, and the miracle! In spells, the things that matter are much simpler, and then they always have in their nature the fairy tale, the story, a story to tell! Spells and unique events are the builders and witnesses of this charming situation on the edge of reality. Since reality is the most indefinable part of unreality, over time, Magic has made that bizarre unreality its religion; I believe his liturgy first of the word and then of the gesture! Magic always knows what’s true and what’s false! He knows he is indispensable and cannot be replaced; he is indisputable and incontestable; he knows he can count on the fragility of doubt and the certainty of uncertainty! Despite being subjected to millennia of criticisms, examinations accuse, blames, criticizes, accusations, and disapproval, Magic has remained, remains,
and will always remain the flagship of a secret, the glory of an impossible mystery, the pride and pride of an enigma, honor, if we can speak of recognition as a puzzle in perennial expectation of its solver! Magic is by convention and accepted by all social, cultural, philosophical, popular or unpopular, reactionary or revolutionary, atheistic or religious parties, the most indisputable, incontrovertible, and irrefutable form of a parallel reality because its “sphere magic” has to do with an Olympus that is in all probability authentically supernatural, who knows, perhaps even metaphysical… Magic inevitably has very ancient, archaic, remote origins... In its infinite mazes of misunderstandings and misunderstandings, in an absence-presence, in the basement of its absolute and vital confidentiality, invisible solutions to problems far from existence have always been hidden! The superhuman, the otherworldly, and the divine are his traveling companions, a journey between chiaroscuro and intuition, destiny and fatality, fate, and chance… Magic has made questionability its strength, the vital center of his existence… The superhuman, the otherworldly, and the divine are his traveling companions, a journey between chiaroscuro and intuition, destiny and fatality, fate, and chance… Magic has made questionability its strength, the vital center of his existence…
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Magic exists!… Otherwise, what would Magic be Magic?
n the end, after having avoided, mocked, sometimes offended, other times mocked, mocked, mocked, and treated with miserable detachment, one must fall at her feet and take off one’s hat before such an incomprehensible, comprehensibility, transparent and accessible impenetrability, his indecipherable rationality!
breaks, anguish, anguish, problems of all kinds, hypotheses of the future, to astound human vicissitudes with tricks, gimmicks, and illusions…
hold any grudges, and it never has plans for revenge! It goes its way between universes made of straightforward games and galaxies of strange events that we still don’t understand or even understand today! Magic doesn’t pursue proselytes, it doesn’t stock up on followers, it doesn’t look for followers, it doesn’t select neophytes, it doesn’t aspire to have affiliates, and it doesn’t associate adherents…
It would seem an obvious question, but it is not at all! If it is true that officially and for convenience, it is said to be an alleged ability to dominate the forces of Nature through recourse to occult arts of an evil nature, then it should be concluded that in the history of man, the impossible has never been contemplated, above all an impossible of a beneficial nature!
Magic explores worlds that we assume do not exist, scours visions unknown to us, scours depths of lived life to bring to light fragments of authentic existence, sifts and scrutinizes the impossible, seeking in it every slightest opportunity to make an unreality into a possible proof that demonstrates that the present is nothing but an allegory of time!
We cannot be so small as to have the presumption of thinking that everything we see is only and exclusively what exists! There is much more in our not knowing, our highly evolved ignorance, and our disappointing disinterest in everything that could be… For now, the only actual black hole ascertained is somewhere in the man’s brain who never takes care of that hole. Yet, it is deep, cavernous, gloomy, and full of pitfalls, in which the unconscious and the subconscious find it hard to have solidarity relations. intimate and intelligent!
One thinks and becomes convinced of his innate and worrying darkness in which he lives and vegetates, generates, and regenerates itself and to its secretly ambiguous world in which good and evil vie for the importance of an entire and absolute existence!
so if we don’t know... we are not! And when “one is not,” one is nothing! What is certain is that in our reality, there exists subtly a mutual interest, accomplice and conspiring with a quiet life that does everything to never disturb that reality by remaining still, motionless, helpless in the face of all that one does not want to understand, that does not it is understood, that it is not accepted…
In this reality of ours, there is much I’ve always wondered more than everything that seems or But Magic has its morals, ethics, and what Magic is!? assumes to be accurate, therefore excreed and always forgives; it doesn’t isting, therefore present in our daily life!
When we say Magic, we always think of an ambiguous practice, of a sinful act towards reality, of a ritual that passes from the occult directly to witchcraft without having regard for any evidence, of a spiritual force ready to be reawakened for any occasion to solve heart-
Were we to explain time, we would already be on the wrong side of reason, the mother of all our lack of thought, our absence of imagination, and all those insufficiencies and imperfections that have presumptuously made us human!
And the Magic? Be that as it may! It can not be true!
It’s just a moment of existential transgression, a moment of libertarian revenge on the obvious, a unique instant in which getting lost is never a sin, so it would be a shame not to live that instant to the fullest; it could be the only flash of life, a flash of light that flashes before entering the universe of eternity!
We are only and always what we know,
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Best Italian Rising Star Ferdinando Romano
By Teresa Cusano (Melina Palumbo)
Ferdinando Romano is an Italian doublebass player, composer and improviser. His reputation has increasingly grown in the jazz scene and he is considered one of the most interesting artists of the new Italian generation, performing all over Europe.
He was awarded as “Best Italian Rising Star” in the Top Jazz 2020, the annual Critics Poll of the magazine Musica Jazz, the Italian version of Downbeat’s Critics Polls. In 2021 he received the SIAE (the Italian Copyright Association) Award, given every year to musicians that distinguished themselves for the originality of their compositions. “Totem”, his first album as a leader, was released for the Norwegian label Losen Records and has also been voted in the Top Jazz 2020 in the category of the “Best Italian Albums”. The album features the collaboration with the Italian-american trumpet player Ralph Alessi, one of the leading artists of the ECM label and of the New York scene and long time collaborator of Steve Coleman, Ravi Coltrane and Uri Caine. The album got international acclaim from magazines all over the world, selected as one of the best albums of the year in many countries, and has been described as “the debut recording of a poetic bassist, inspired composer and intriguing arranger” (T. Conrad, Stereophile), “A brilliant album, expression of a clear talent” (Musica Jazz), “a highly expressive jazz, always taking care of narrative in music” (La Repubblica), “an album that is high in quality and benefits from that musical sweet spot between challenging and accessible listening.” (Uk Vibe)
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“Ralph Alessi is a musician I really love and whose records I have listened to a lot. As I was writing the music I began to think that his sound and his personal approach to improvisation would be perfect. I sent him recordings of the pieces I had performed live with the group to ask him his impressions. I later asked him to participate in the project, a request that Ralph gladly accepted. We got along very well both during the recordings and in the funny moments outside the studio. We also had great dinners together!”
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n 2020 Ferdinando won “New Jazz Generation”(Nuova Generazione Jazz), a program of I-Jazz that promotes selected bands of the new Italian generation in Italy and all over Europe, helping them to perform internationally. Totem toured intensively in Europe, playing in major clubs and Festivals in Italy, France, Germany, UK, Hungary. Ferdinando has an intense activity live and in studio, as a leader and as a sideman, collaborating with many musicians like Ralph Alessi, Enrico Rava, Robin Eubanks, Benny Golson, Glenn Ferris, Logan Richardson, Elias Stemeseder, Jerome Sabbagh, Simona Premazzi, Jon Boutellier, Yuhan Su and many more We asked Ferdinando a few questions: How did your collaboration with Ralph Alessi start? “Ralph Alessi is a musician I really love and whose records I have listened to a lot. As I was writing the music I began to think that his sound and his personal approach to improvisation would be perfect. I sent him
recordings of the pieces I had performed live with the group to ask him his impressions. I later asked him to participate in the project, a request that Ralph gladly accepted. We got along very well both during the recordings and in the funny moments outside the studio. We also had great dinners together!” So this is a sort of Italian-american connection, did you know anything about Ralph’s Italian origins? “Well I knew, his surname is typically Italian. It was funny this last summer discovering, while talking to him about a concert we were going to play in Atina, in the Italian region of Lazio, that Ralph’s grandmother used to live there. The major, the organizers and the citizens were very proud of having him there and Ralph was very happy” Tell us something about the music of Totem and who are the other musicians on the album?
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nies of The SymFpehro tonani Cesare By Roberto Sironi
Who is Cesare Fertonani? A music historian and critic. I have a diploma in violin and composition and a degree in modern literature; I teach music history and musicology at the University of Milan. When I was young, I wrote as a music critic for Il Corriere della sera. I continued to write for thirty years on Amadeus, and now I collaborate with the online magazine MusicPaper. In addition to classical music, I have always been interested in jazz. What does the violin represent for you? The violin is a youthful dream. I played it professionally for about ten years in orchestras and chamber groups. Then, when I started studying composition, I gradually abandoned it to devote myself to the piano even though it was a great pain. When I realized I would become an excellent orchestral player at best, I didn’t feel like dedicating my whole life to the violin. If I had had the talent to play chamber music at a high level, perhaps things would have gone differently; who knows… But the violin will always remain my instrument, Music with a capital m. What do you think of current music? The impression is that there have been no extraordinary innovations in the field of so-called classical music and jazz and pop since the beginning of the new millennium. On the other hand, it must be said that from a perspective so crushed in the present as ours, it is not easy to notice musicians or phenomena of particular relevance in a musical offer as rich and by now incredibly varied as today. What do you think of classical music? Despite many difficulties, not least those caused by the pandemic, classical music continues to play a vital and proactive role. Of course, some problems, such as the renewal of the public and the approach of young people to a world that appears to them mostly old and dusty, are increasingly pressing. Still, the lessons of humanity, tolerance, integration, solidarity, beauty, sensuality, and incredible charm that classical music offers continue to be more current than ever. Are there any differences between a classical musician and other musicians? If yes, what are they? Since the beginning of the twentieth century, the classical musician has been essentially a performer, an interpreter of a written text, which is the score; generally, he is the performer of music written by others, and only in some particular cases the interpreter coincides with the author of the music. The interpreter uses his technique, intelligence, and sensitivity to serve the thought that the composer has fixed in a sort of project on paper, trying to determine every aspect while leaving a certain amount of freedom to the interpreter. The greatness of an interpreter is measured precisely by his ability to realize rigorously and at the same time with imagination what the composer’s writing prescribes and, at the same time, what it instead leaves in some way indeterminate. Jazz or pop musicians move in a very different field, which does not involve a binding relationship with writing and instead values creativity such as improvisation, arrangement, and photography.
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About musicians, who are the ones who have impressed you the most? Among those heard live Carlos Kleiber, Leonard Bernstein, Claudio Abbado, ... Among the pianists are Arturo Benedetti Michelangeli, Artur Rubinstein, Radu Lupu, and Krystian Zimerman... Among the violinists were Nathan Milstein, Isaac Stern, Arthur Grumiaux ... Then Keith Jarrett, alone and with his trio, Ahmad Jamal, McCoy Tyner, João Gilberto, Ray Charles, Brad Mehldau… “Il punteggio” what is it? “Il punteggio” is a project that must be realized in sound. Without interpretation, the performance remains a dead letter, even if we can get a mental idea of what it might sound like. I know you have published some books on 18th and 19th-century music... I have written books about what have always been some great passions: the instrumental music of Vivaldi, the songs and chamber music of Schubert, and the concerts of Mozart. Another book is instead dedicated to an eighteenth-century Neapolitan musician who is unknown today, Giovanni De Santis. But you are also interested in contemporary music, do you want to tell us about it? For years, until 2020, I was the consul of the Biennale Musica, Ivan Fedele, curating its catalog and organizing meetings and research seminars. What is your general opinion of Italian music and especially contemporary classical music? He doesn’t follow musical news much, even though I have a twenty-year-old son who is a rapper; he is trying to make himself known and makes me listen to many pieces of that genre. In classical music, there are exciting composers, such as Marco Momi and Filippo Perocco, and essential and internationally renowned composers now getting on in age, such as Ivan Fedele and Stefano Gervasoni. Future projects? I’m writing a book on the 19th-century German symphony. But very, very slowly…
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he New Year 2023 is finally here, and we have a lot to look forward to. From setting new goals to reflecting on the old ones, the New year brings us an opportunity to set things right back on track, and to guide you on the entire journey is your Horoscope 2023 by India’s best astrologers.
When it comes to life, all of us have some goals to look forward to. These goals could be as simple as starting your own business in 2023 to finding love. As much as we wish to achieve these goals for ourselves, the restraints come from within and our surroundings. Clearly, not everything in life goes according to our plan. And as much as it is a good thing, the same, at times, is frustrating as well. In such cases, we need to reflect on what we are doing wrong or simply what is happening wrong with us. And to help you in doing so is your yearly horoscope 2023. The horoscopes are to make you aware and take you on the right path in life. Similarly, the 2023 horoscope is about sharing with you all the upcoming opportunities to help you tread in the right direction. As per astrologers, it is not always the things we do that impact our goals or our relationships in life. At times, it is the energies of planets, zodiac signs, etc., that pick on decisions for us. And if one is unaware of those decisions, you are bound to take the wrong steps in life. There are times when we try to achieve a particular thing with all our heart but eventually fail in doing so. It could either be the result of your lack of trying or the impact of planets or zodiac signs on you. For example, you may be trying to attract love in life. The task gets relatively easy when you have a strong Venus in the Kundli. In fact, the task gets easier when Venus is in the house of love in the Kundli with its friendly zodiac signs or planets. On the other hand, attracting love at a point in time will get hard, if Venus is weak in your chart or in conjunction with enemy planets in the Kundli. In such situations, despite trying hard, you may not have for yourself what you want. Does this mean we must stop trying? The yearly horoscope 2023 says No!! Planets in one’s Kundli are never stationary. They keep moving from one house to another. All a person should do is identify when the planet is favourable for him and when not to plan things accordingly. Hence, trying to work on your love life when Venus is auspicious in your chart will give you more returns than doing it when Venus is not favourable. In fact, if you can’t wait but have to try even when the planets are not supportive of a particular task, then you can simply practice some remedies to strengthen the weak planet before going forward with your work. All these favourable and unfavourable timings and remedies are a part of the horoscope 2023, which a user can read to make an informed decision about his future activities.
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ometimes, Aries natives get highly motivated and strong-opinionated, which might get them into problems easily. However, sometimes the same dominant factor can help them win some extremely hard battles in their lives. The Aries yearly horoscope 2023 predicts that even though you would be on your impulses, the year will be a strong one for you. Sometimes, it would add to your charm, while sometimes, it might challenge you to become better in life. Planetary support would be there with you. But, the year would make you more prepared for the upcoming hurdles and situations in your life. Hard times are to test you. Battling the ups and the downs will be too many. But you are Aries, and you know how to deal with the emotional as well as physical ups and downs. However, beware of some issues that may come with Rahu in the third quarter. You can rely on Jupiter as it would be an aid to your life all through the year. Make some plans on doing things with the abundance that will come with the change of planetary motions in the second half of 2023 for Aries men and women. Up for interesting beginnings and a roller coaster ride on the parallel? Well, Aries hit the jam in the year your way.
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aurus people are pros at being focused in their lives. But the Taurus yearly horoscope 2023 wants you to make some changes— the good ones. In order to follow your dreams and give your best shot at everything, you may have to interfere with your regular life. The predictions don’t say that the year will make you struggle. However, it will definitely make you better by placing you in hard situations where your decisions would be the king. With some clashes with people around you, things might look a little twisted. But worry not, Taurus buddies, as your ruling planet Venus, will be a blessing to your personal as well as professional life. However, on the other hand, Rahu could be a little troublesome for all areas of your life. It would trick you into doing things that can harm the things you built all this while. But worry not, as Ketu is there to save you from difficult challenges. Safeguarding yourself from the ups and downs will be something the New Year 2023 will be expecting from you and thus, a year of learning is here for you, with the support and attentiveness of the planets.
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uality runs in your character. So, how about reshaping yourself to embrace the best in the year? The Gemini yearly horoscope 2023 predicts that head-on situations can occur in front of you, where you purposely have to keep your duality aside and act patiently to solve the situation. The year will be prosperous for you. But, for the same to happen, you shall get everything into alignment. Moreover, you need to figure out what is the requirement of the time. People around you are definitely your friends but don’t rely too much on them, as planet Saturn will soon make you realise that you are better on your own and capable of doing everything on your own. Planet Mars and Venus will be helpful and work in your favor. So, even if your dual personality takes you in two different directions, worry not, as the planetary transits 2023 are there to help you, be you understand what is right and what is wrong, and make you successful in many areas of your life. So Gemini natives, work on healthy practices regularly—healthwise, professionally, and financially, and make some necessary modifications with a little bit of your personality touch, and 2023 will become your dream year.
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e can see Cancer natives crawling into their comfort zone as soon as they get the opportunity. But the Cancer yearly horoscope 2023 says it won’t be the thing to do this year. Planets got your back! So, give your passions and plans the best shot you got. With the right strike on life and appropriate enthusiasm and energy, you will succeed even on the not-so-favorable days of the year. Ahead, For the Cancer natives, the year indicates a conflict in your head— be emotional and say it all or show everybody your practical side and be in your shoes and observe. To help you decide, Jupiter will be there. Be it your professional life or your personal life, the planet will be helpful. However, mind that Saturn is there too and will slow you down to let you understand life differently. Also, Ketu will be in action too, which will become a mini passage towards success in most of the years of your life. But, for the same to happen, all you need is a pinch of advice (in some areas of your life) and total faith in yourself, and good results will be there in your life in no time.
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or the brave Leo natives, nothing in life is hard. Even though the year might throw some challenges in your path, you will do pretty great. The Leo yearly horoscope 2023 predictions say that contentment would be the best for you in the year. But your thirst to be the best and have the best will make you put in the most appropriate efforts you can. The planets do demand this from you. But, on the other hand, they also would want you to evaluate before taking everything on your dignity and pride. So, right from the first month, believe in the good things. Cherish the moments you have instead of worrying about what is not there with you. Around the third quarter, when planet Jupiter will be in action, things will definitely improve for good. Venus will be there too to bring some changes and positivity to your professional life. But, hold yourself back, Leos, as Saturn and Rahu would be there to give you hurdles and hindrances from time to time. Thus, beware of the challenges that may be there in your life, especially, health-wise, as the New Year could be a little hard on you in terms of well-being.
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ou are one of the most sane-headed folks on the zodiac table. But even you are not perfect. Right? The Virgo yearly horoscope 2023 comes with a tiny alert sign for you— avoid rushing to conclusions! There are all kinds of possibilities for the natives in the year. Thus, this little advice would save you days and weeks in the year and help you to improve whatever was left in the last year. Mars and Mercury are here with ample good opportunities right in the first half of the year, and with their blessings, you will do things that were unplanned but possible, confused? Well, don’t be. Virgo natives are likely to have a taste of their own efforts. So, even if things might come to you suddenly, consider them a result of your past deeds and works. Stay alert around the end, as Ketu will be in action. Highs and lows because of this planetary transit 2023, there are possibilities of changes in the finances and relations you possess. Facing hurdles and good times, you shall enjoy a mini roller-coaster ride. But, definitely, you are way off from falling into a pit, so rejoice and cherish whatever you can in 2023.
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e all know that balance is the key to your calmness. And the Libra yearly horoscope 2023 strongly indicates the same. However, introspection, understanding the developments, and making changes according to the time would be something you will need. Planetary transits will favour you to quite an extent and bring satisfaction to your life. Still, remember that not everything that is correct will work for you. Where, on one side, some planets would try to shake the equilibrium you love, others will help you attain it back again. Right from the first quarter of 2023, you would have to be in action. Libra natives must mind the point that although Saturn is here to test you for things, Rahu is to trick you in situations, you have to search for the silver lining in everything. For some period of time, you may require the help of others. Avoid being egoistic and must seek the required help. Soon, it will be your door to satisfaction in the year 2023 as luck, opportunities, and great things are waiting for you in the year; only you have to be utterly clear and positive about the things you are planning or looking out for.
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corpio natives don’t interact much. As much as they love to be on their own, the Scorpio yearly horoscope 2023 would help them in the same. In fact, the same habit can be productive for you. However, on the other hand, a little modification is all you will need to attract the happy-go-lucky times in your life. Planet Jupiter transit in 2023 will be a great chance for you to clarify some things in your mind. However, on the other hand, Saturn transit will come as an alert to certain areas of your life. This combination of events will surely change your perception in multiple ways. Also, it would break some beliefs you had about life and some people in it. Sounds like an eye-opening year? Well, it is. Scorpio natives will see things fall into the right place in the second half of the year when much of the toxicity will be gone from your life. Moreover, if you have a New Year resolution list; well, go for the implementation. On the contrary, keep the process slow and steady because the planetary transits would only let you be in alignment with your life if you adopt patience and perseverance.
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y all means, you can call this a favourable year. The Sagittarius yearly horoscope 2023 marks a time for exploration and understanding. Not only will you get the planets’ blessings, but also make some great accomplishments. When Venus and Jupiter will be present helping you together, things shall seem easy and nice. However, the Ketu transit 2023 would be a stopper to many things in your life. On one hand, it would save you from the wrong company, and on the other hand, it will indicate the path you must pick in its own way. Look for signs and be yourself. Also, Sagittarius natives, take a big sigh if you are looking for the right one in your head and heart, as the horoscope indicates some possibilities. But don’t be hasty, avoid being overwhelmed, and be who you actually are, as for the Sagittarius natives, on an overall basis, 2023 would be the Perfect year! Also, don’t fly too high if repetitively things work your way, as some twists could be there too, pushing you to make amendments and changes to get a clear viewpoint on life and its ways. Therefore, a miniature warning— stay away from risky ways to have a great life.
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urdles would come and go, but Capricorns won’t give up! And that should stay your attitude in 2023. Strongly, standing on your ethics and ways of living life, you would do pretty well, as per the Capricorn yearly horoscope 2023. Your policies will not only get you success but also help you achieve all the leftover plans of the previous year. You need to express yourself right and manage all the areas of your life with a correct attitude and mindfulness. While your finances will be great, you may face troubles regarding your health. Planet Saturn will be there to delay some events. However, planet Jupiter will save you from multiple adversities. Right from the first quarter, your attitude will be positive about everything that shall come your way this year. Be it your love life or your married one, Capricorn natives are likely to enjoy their time with their partners from time to time. But, for the same to happen, you will need to follow a queue of thoughts. However, on the other hand, remember not to run into any shortcuts as that would surely drag you to the other side of the road in no time. So, stick to your nobility and follow what you are best at— Being Yourself!
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ust like your symbol, you bear too much to say out loud. But, the Aquarius yearly horoscope 2023 will share some days and events with you wherein you can enjoy some me-time and work on yourself to achieve better things in the year ahead. Moreover, the year would be great for you if you are constantly putting in all your efforts in the right places. On the contrary, remember not to ignore any warnings that hold you back from performing something. Right things will come with Sun and Mars, especially in your personal life. The Mars transit 2023 will also fix things that were running off-track from the previous year. Influence of planets Rahu and Ketu would be there too on your horoscope, but Aquarius natives, you need to show the situations your best and impeccable side. Even if the situation looks hard, stick to the right things, and soon around the third quarter, the missing piece of your puzzle will be right in front of your eyes. Stay a little careful, as not everything you think works the way you want. So, don’t try to bend the situation. Instead, try to adjust yourself in that manner. Also, never move into something with selfish motives, as it can make your good year into a not-so-good one.
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irst things first, be grateful for what you have, Pisces! Even the Pisces yearly horoscope 2023 is urging you to do so. In all aspects of your life, the planetary transits will allow you to spread happiness and attract the same in your life. Work on the motto— one good deed per day! As your horoscope foretells that you have a great high chance of running into pessimism and a dual mind every now and then. When, for once, you thought that the previous year is over and you can take a rest, you saw things coming with more rush and strength. However, Mars transit in 2023 is all set to help you face challenges and mend scenarios for you. But, on the other hand, Rahu will be there too. It could influence your dual nature and lead you into its own tricky ways, away from a fine and pleasant life. But worry not, as, by the end of the year, Pisces natives will be with lessons and learning that would help them figure out their own ways to answer the hindrances life has thrown at them. Also, to make your life happy and easy, stick to something strictly— like a resolution or practice as it will add brownie points to your year ahead.
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is essential that any solution to the conflict takes into account the needs of the people of Ukraine, and works to ensure that their rights are respected. The Ukrainian government has called for a full withdrawal of Russian forces from the region, as well as the restoration of Ukrainian sovereignty over the annexed Crimean Peninsula. On the one hand, a full withdrawal of Russian forces from the region would be a major step towards peace. This could involve a federalization of Ukraine, with greater autonomy for the pro-Russian regions, as well as a full withdrawal of Russian forces from the region. The conflict has caused a great deal of suffering for the people of Ukraine, and has been a source of geopolitical instability in the region. Dialogue and diplomacy must be the focus, and all sides must be willing to compromise in order to achieve peace.
The ongoing conflict between Ukraine and Russia has been a source of tension in the region for many years. The conflict has its roots in the 2014 Ukrainian Revolution, when pro-Western forces overthrew the pro-Russian government of Viktor Yanukovych. It is essential that all stakeholders work together to find a lasting solution that respects the rights of all Ukrainians. Both sides must be willing to compromise and find a way to work together. On the other hand, a federalization of Ukraine could lead to further instability, as it would give more autonomy to the pro-Russian regions of the country.
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he Russian government, on the other hand, has called for a federalization of Ukraine, which would give more autonomy to the pro-Russian regions of the country. To illustrate this point, it is worth noting that the conflict has had a devastating impact on the people of Ukraine. The two sides have been unable to reach a lasting peace agreement, and the situation on the ground remains tense.
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The current state of affairs is that the conflict is still ongoing, with no end in sight. It would also restore Ukrainian sovereignty over the annexed Crimean Peninsula. In conclusion, the conflict between Ukraine and Russia is a complex and difficult situation. Italy has actively participated in the Ukraine conflict, both diplomatically and economically. Italy has been involved in peace negotiations since the beginning of the competition and has been a strong advocate for a diplomatic resolution to the crisis. Italy has also been a key player in implementing economic sanctions against Russia in response to its annexation of Crimea and its support for separatist forces in eastern Ukraine.
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n 2014, Italy was part of the Normandy Format, a diplomatic group that included France, Germany, Russia, and Ukraine, which was formed to facilitate negotiations between the parties involved in the conflict. Italy has also strongly supported the Minsk Agreements, a series of ceasefire agreements and political measures aimed at resolving the conflict.
Ukraine. However, the sanctions have also hurt the Italian economy, as Italy heavily depends on Russian energy imports. This has led to criticism of Italy’s involvement in the sanctions, with some arguing that the economic costs outweigh the diplomatic benefits. Despite the economic costs, Italy has remained committed to the sanctions and has supported them to pressure Russia to comply with the Minsk Agreements. In addition, Italy has also been a strong advocate for the deployment of a United Nations peacekeeping mission to eastern Ukraine to help stabilize the region and facilitate the implementation of the Minsk Agreements. Overall, Italy has played an essential role in the Ukraine conflict, both diplomatically and economically. Italy has been a strong advocate for a diplomatic resolution to the crisis and has been a critical player in implementing economic sanctions against Russia. While the economic costs of these sanctions have been significant, they have been credited with helping to bring about a ceasefire in eastern Ukraine, and Italy has remained committed to their implementation.
In addition to its diplomatic efforts, Italy has also actively implemented economic sanctions against Russia. In 2014, the European Union imposed economic sanctions against Russia in response to its annexation of Crimea and its support for separatist forces in eastern Ukraine. Italy has strongly supported these sanctions and is a critical player in their implementation. The economic sanctions imposed by the European Union have significantly impacted the Russian economy. They have been credited with helping to bring about a ceasefire in eastern
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A 2019 report by the European Network Against Racism (ENAR) found that people of African origin were more likely to experience racism than other ethnic groups in Italy. A 2018 report by the European Commission found that the media often portrays people of foreign origin in a negative light, which can lead to the reinforcement of negative stereotypes and prejudice. It is also important to ensure that anti-discrimination laws are enforced, and that those who experience racism are provided with adequate support and protection. In recent years, there has been an increase in the number of people of foreign origin living in Italy, and with this has come an increase in the prevalence of racism. Recent studies and surveys have revealed that racism in Italy disproportionately affects people of African and Middle Eastern origin. This includes tackling negative stereotypes, promoting greater understanding and acceptance of diversity, and ensuring that all people are treated with respect and dignity. In order to reduce racism in Italy, it is important to address the underlying causes of discrimination.
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ccording to a 2017 survey conducted by the Italian Institute of Statistics (ISTAT,) around one in five Italians (20.3)% believe that there is a lot of racism in Italy. Despite the introduction of anti-discrimination legislation in 2017, there has been little progress in tackling racism in Italy. This is due to a number of factors, including the perception of African migrants as ‘illegals’, the prevalence of negative stereotypes, and the lack of adequate protection from discrimination. The government has also been criticized for its failure to address racism in the country. This figure has increased from 16.6% in 2015, indicating that racism is becoming more prevalent in the country. The media has played a role in perpetuating racism in Italy. Finally, it is important to create an environment where people of all backgrounds can feel safe and included.
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