Prioritising
Self
as an Act of Love GRAB A CUP OF YOUR FAVOURITE BEVERAGE. FIND A CORNER IN YOUR HOME THAT YOU LOVE. A COMFY SEAT. PERHAPS A FOOT STOOL FOR RESTING YOUR LEGS. YOUR CURRENT BOOK OR MAGAZINE ON YOUR LAP. AND MELT INTO AN AFTERNOON OF SIMPLY BEING WITH YOU. IN EASE AND TOTAL RELAXATION.
W
hy is it that as you hear or read the above sentences, you think, “Yep, never going to happen!” As women, relaxation seems so alien to us; so foreign. We offer
space for others to relax. But rarely take time off for ourselves. What is this invisible pressure you and I place on ourselves, that we must forever give, but do not create space to receive?
I live by a golden rule that dictates my life, and today I want to share that with you: Your relationship with everything and everyone outside of you, is the exact reflection of your relationship with yourself. Today, I invite you to check in with the most intimate relationships you have with people around you and ask if they truly serve and support you in a way that feels best for you right now? Or, are they getting on your nerves? Do you feel burdened by their presence? Is it claustrophobic to spend time with them always? Do you wish they could fix a cup of tea on their own once in a while? Drop the kids off? Make a meal for you? Plan a mini-vacation on the long weekend? Take you off of the mother and wife duties? Or, if nothing, actually just ‘get you’. You see, sometimes when one gets ruffled about their needs not being met, it’s often time to realise that other people learn to treat you by looking at how you treat yourself. So, ask yourself: Where am I not listening to me? Where am I not giving me time? Where am I not receiving my own energy, presence and love? The first person we need to learn to receive from is ourselves. When your body feels tired, you need to stop pursuing. When your brain feels fried, you need to find quiet time. When your heart feels achy, you must love on yourself first. Why do you treat yourself last? My guess is that maybe it was
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