ParentTeens - Fall 2019

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Welcome to the Fall Edition!

I am so happy to see you here...thank you for spending a few minutes with us!

Within the pages of this magazine you will find: unique parenting perspectives a community of love and support articles that answer your toughest questions and resources that you can count on Each of the contributors in this magazine will provide you with their best advice and remind you that you are not alone!

We aren’t here to preach and tell you what to do - we are here to love and encourage you on your journey - your unique journey.

Please consider reaching out to other parents in our Facebook Group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/parentguideteens/ You don’t know who might need to hear from you, as well as what ideas may resonate with you and make your life as a parent just a bit easier.

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Jennifer XOXO Jennifer, Mom and Founder of Parent Guide and Parent Teens.

P.S. If you are a parent of a younger child you will want to check out our PARENTGUIDE issue. Click here to access it 50 69 now! Happy Parenting!

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THANK YOU! I don't even know where to start when I think about how grateful I am to be here, with you, doing what I love, day in and day out!

I mean, just take a look to the right and you will see this super impressive line-up of incredibly talented and accomplished women that helped make this magazine happen! I just hope they each know how much I value their contribution!

And, you...here, taking time out of your crazy, busy day to spend time with us! Grateful doesn't even begin to express how I feel!

And, I really want to get to know you all better. So, here are a few ways that we can stay connected, work together, and if I am lucky, maybe we can even become friends!

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"If you want your teen to listen to you, you must invest the time and energy to listen to them."

Your teen is a growing, independent soul.

Sometimes parents can become so worried about their teens that they forget that they are separate individuals who process the world differently, because they are in a different stage of life and have a different social position than their parents.

Building a better, more satisfying relationship with your teen first means you must listen as nonjudgmentally as possible. This will require that you remember your teen is their own person.

The first step is to get to know your teen in a different way. But how do we get our teens to open up?

Sociologists and journalists use an interview technique called open ended questions. Inside of interview conversations, interviewers use, interview by comment. Both of these techniques may be helpful to parents to learn more about how their teen is processing and coping with the world.

The following are a few open ended questions you can use to start conversations. Remember the purpose of this exercise is to simply listen and learn. Be careful not to jump into advice giving mode, simply listen and learn.

Open Ended Question Examples Open ended questions, don’t direct the person being interviewed to answer any specific way. Open ended questions are phrased in a way to require more than a yes or no answer. Each question is about a specific area of teen life and has a sample follow up question. As you practice open ended question, listen and learn conversation starters you will come up with your own natural follow up questions.

SOCIAL LIFE 1.) Who do you consider to be your best friend right now? a.) What do you like best about ______ (name the best friend)? b.) Do you hang out with ________ at lunch?

SCHOOL 2.) Tell me about your favorite class today? Or, 3.) Tell me about your least favorite class?

Tip: This is not a conversation about homework or grades. Teens are more likely to respond to coaching about homework if they believe you are interested in how they feel about school.

LEISURE TIME OR HOBBIES 4.) What do you like to do on weekends when you have alone time? a.) Is there something you would like to do with your friends that you don’t have time or money to do?

5.) Who is your favorite artist, singer or band right now? a.) What do you like about them? This may lead to an invitation to listen to music.

Tip: Don’t by pass this opportunity. You really earn credibility as being interested in their world. Go ahead! You can do it! Trips with my daughter have become mutual, musical education opportunities.

We listen to one of her songs and then we listen to one of mine. She even attended a concert with me.

Now, I have to return the favor.

FAMILY 6.) What would you like to do with the family this weekend? a.) What bugs you the most about your little sister?

Tip: Be prepared for the answer without jumping into advice giving. This is the perfect opportunity to compliment your teen’s sibling relationship. You may want to say something like this, “Thank you for not yelling the other day when Ashley went into your room without permission.”

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT, HEALTH OR SPIRITUALITY 7.) I have been trying to meditate, how do you best re-charge your batteries after a stressful day at school these days?

8.) I have been working on a eating more vegetables, do you have a health goal to share?

PRACTICE If it feels awkward, try again. Then next time you are alone together, try again. Relationship building is hard work and it takes practice over time.

Tip: Ask these questions casually. Teens might feel put on the spot if they feel interrogated or think they will get in trouble for their answers. One mom shared she has these conversations in the car when traveling to school or after-school activity.

When teens are not required to have eye contact they don’t feel interrogated or threatened by open ended questions.

Laura Lyles Reagan is a family sociologist, parenting coach and author of How to Raise Respectful Parents. She enjoys conversing with her two daughters every day. For more information, visit, www.LauraLReagan.com.

d r a l l o P Cara

PCI CERTIFIED PARENT COACH

What do you do?

I am a parent coach and I coach parent of teens

What issues do you deal with?

I deal with issues of lack communication, anxiety, motivation, and addictions

How can you help?

I’ve developed a communication process and I offer techniques and strategies to address your current situation. We use the strengths of your family and your intentions to determine ways to proceed toward your preferred way of relating.

What can I expect?

I offer a 20 minute consultation to determine if we can work together and if I can help you. I explain my process and we schedule or weekly meetings.

What other parents say about Cara “Cara just, ‘gets it’!”

“As a single, divorced mother of two teens Cara was able to really see the dynamics of our situation. I have gone to therapists and counselors but never felt like my true needs were being met. From the first day I met her I was able to communicate more effectively with my children.”

“Cara has a plan and if you follow the plan you will see the results you want. She offered simple strategies for me to use immediately to quickly transform my, already good relationships, into even better ones. She also has a way of framing conversations and a way of helping me see things from a different perspective that drive results. Simply becoming more mindful of what I say and how I say it to my children has made my relationships even stronger than before.”

“Beyond being educated, warm and kind, Cara is extremely insightful and wise.

It is amazing how making simple changes in my communication effected such immediate change. I highly recommend Cara as a Parent Coach!”

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What do you do?

I specialize in helping parents of kids ages 10-25 enjoy peaceful homes and relationships within their family. I do this with compassion and without judgment. This work is not about quick strategies, it's about working with the parent to create lasting, generational change in the family environment.

What issues do you deal with?

I have personally experienced and worked with teen pregnancy, adolescent addiction, anxiety, and depression.

How can you help?

Together we work to identify the limiting beliefs your child's behavior is triggering inside of you and work through them to discover new beliefs that will better serve the parent/child relationship you are in. We work on parenting with rather than over your child.

What can I expect?

I always offer a 20-minute complimentary consultation in order to learn more about your unique family situation and to help you get to me and how I work with parents. I have a reasonable hourly rate, weekly custom packages, and I also offer an 8-week online course I will personally guide you through one module per week.

How can I find you?

I am on Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide, you can text me anytime at 972-689-0250 to schedule our complimentary consultation.

What other parents say about Kim "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed enough buttons to get stuff out and done, but not enough to cause dread. I am a better parent for having worked with you." ~Carmen, mom of two "You helped me understand my kids aren't acting and saying things just to hurt me, it is there way of showing me they are growing up and making decisions for themselves. I don't take their statements as personally anymore, I know that this is how teenagers express there need for a feeling of independence." Deb, mom of twin teen boys and college-age girl "Best investment I ever made for our family!" Jennifer, mom of four teens "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed buttons just enough to get stuff out and done but not enough to create dread." Carmen, mom of two "You heard and understood where sometimes I don't feel my wife gets where I'm coming from. Just hearing myself talk out loud and you're asking me the right questions brought me so much peace of mind. Thank you, Kim, for doing this work!" David, stepdad of three

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m a h a r G i Ca MUM, PARENTING EXPERT, AUTHOR & SPEAKER

What do you do?

I help Parents Support their Children - so that Together we can Build a Mentally Healthier and Happier Generation of Young People.

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, Confidence, Communication, Discipline, Motivation, Self-Care, Self-Harm.

How can you help?

The TEEN Toolbox™ series is basically the Umbrella under which I work. It is my collection of products and services that are specifically geared towards parents and their teenagers. These include: courses, consultations, in-home visits, and retreats

What can I expect?

Well that all depends on what product or service you are using.

Above all - I want to leave you with takeaways. Practical techniques and tools that will equip you with the challenges that you are dealing with.

I offer a free 30 minute call www.caigraham.com/discovery

More on what I offer...

Spotlight Course : These courses give you an in depth insight into the specific challenges you are experiencing.

You are provided with a deeper understanding and a clear-cut exercises designed to help you conquer these particular obstacles. Many of these courses can be completed in an hour or so. They are child-friendly and are designed to gain rapid results.

Flagship Course : Let’s face it - you are your child’s best Role Model. So this course is designed to help you support your child to the very best of your ability. It is a detailed blueprint to help you build both your parenting expertise and confidence.

The course is broken down into 8 modules and requires an investment of your time and commitment.

There is also the opportunity to be part of our online community. Join me and other like-minded parents where your questions and challenges can be shared and addressed.

Take this course - your kids will, thank you, one day!

1-2-1 Consultations : This is the opportunity to work with me personally ( from hourly calls to coaching packages ) I love these sessions, as they are a fantastic opportunity for me to connect with you at a deeper level and a great way for us to work together more closely; without judgement and with a sprinkling of humour!

Working with me directly will help you achieve your parenting goals faster. We can address the issues that are unique to your family and deal with everyone’s challenges individually : ✔ Identify the obstacles that are currently holding you back. ✔ Get pointers to will help you better connect with your child. ✔ Understand how to build stronger relationships with the whole family. ✔ Learn new ways to communicate – so that you and your teen can talk more freely. ✔Free App : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Signposts you to my social media channels and some quick exercises that will help you support you immediately. www.caigraham.com/app

✔My Book : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Keep this on your nightstand! It’s a valuable point of reference when you need to gain some parenting answers. www.caigraham.com/book

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BEST CONSEQUENCES FOR TEENS

By: Miranda Lamb

Consequences for tweens and teens are pivotal to raising responsible adults. And in order to have a HAPPY home, it is vital that your teens know you have consequences AND are willing to use them. Often parents feel overwhelmed, as teenagers push back on the boundaries during the teens years, believing that nothing works so there is no hope in trying. Well there is HOPE for raising disciplined teens, and there are an effective list of consequences for teenagers that truly work.

Before I share with you 10 effective consequences for teenagers, we do need to clear the air. I can hear the wheels turning in your head already...yes, you the mom over in the corner rolling her eyes. OK, so let's be realistic. We are talking about teenagers. Things are not going to turn on a dime. And while we are on the subject of age, ahem, you have been parenting a while too. And you have a few patterns set yourself;)

So before you read this amazing list of consequences for teenagers let's lay down a few ground rules... or understandings.

Teens are Not Moldable Clay - Unfortunately, your teen is no longer as moldable as a toddler. So instead of throwing your hands up and saying that a consequence isn't working because your teen doesn't change after using the consequence twice, think more long-term. It took years of training to bring your teen to behaving this way. It may take months to untrain and retrain the behavior you want.

Be Consistent - Moms, one of our biggest tools is consistency. Mean what you say. So if you need to lower your consequence down to 4 hours without their phone in order to stick with it, do it! It doesn't matter if Diana Discipline across the street can hold to her consequence for 40 days. It is more important you start to SET A PATTERN of meaning what you say. We want our kids to trust our word!

Study Your Teen's Personality - A key to setting healthy and effective consequences is knowing your teen. What affects them? How are they motivated? What do they love?

Some teens are easily swayed by a smile and encouraging word. Others want facts. Still others are extremely strong-willed and may not display much outward change for months (or years).

10 Best Consequences for Teens Use Natural Consequences when Disciplining Teens

Physical Labor is a Great Consequence

Money Can be a Reward or Consequence for Teenagers

Loss of Electronic Devices

Walk Away from Disrespectful Talk

Get Creative with Your List of Consequences

Don't Rescue / Hold Your Teen to Other's Consequences

Supply Plenty of Positive Expectations and Activities

Problem Solve with Your Teenager over Household Rules

Reward Positive Behaviors in Your Teens

Read the full article here!

The Reluctant Cowgirl’s mission is to help moms, of tweens and teens, create an emotionally healthy home that is full of respect and laughter. Miranda is a wife, mom to a blended family and has worked with hundreds of families as a group facilitator. body text

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M , l e i t n o M Sonja COLLEGE CONFIDENCE What do you do?

While maintaining a compassionate relationship, I train parents to become the best educator for their teens so they can feel confident about plans after high school.

What issues do you deal with?

I focus on communication skills and knowledge specific to helping your teens create a plan ready to implement as they approach high school graduation. Topics include college affordability, college admissions options, career training, identifying the right majors for teens, building the college list, college essay writing strategies, and so much more!

What can I expect?

Let’s schedule a 30-minute call to talk about your needs and your starting point! We will determine which service plan is best for you which can include our: comprehensive workbook with action plans, templates, and agenda samples, online podcast training program if you are always on the go, 10-session online parent course, and/or one-to-one coaching

How can you help?

Helping teens plan their paths after high school can create tension and conflict in the home mostly because families are waiting too late to begin, or there isn’t enough information on what the options are, what requirements fulfill each option, and how to engage with teens to ignite their motivation to be active in making a plan. As an expert in the field of college admissions for 20 years, I will provide training and coaching that places teens at the center of planning. Parents and teens will no longer have to face this educational journey with uncertainty, worry, and confusion!

What other parents say about me “Sonja gave me the communication tools to allow me to take charge of the college process. I was familiar with the college application process, however was clueless on how to have impactful and meaningful conversations with my teen. My daughter and I are so much more closer! Thank you so much!”

“I have been working with College Confidence for years and I truly will not work with anyone else. Sonja's experience is unmatched. She is professional and an expert in college admissions. She will not only advocate for your child, but will be a critical pillar in your family's journey. She's that good!”

“Thank you again for your wonderful presentation/talk for our group. I feel we all (parents and students) learned quite a bit from you that night. My daughter and I both agreed the way you presented the college process, was with a lot of positive influence and enthusiasm. You made it sound challenging about writing ‘your story’ but in a way that made the girls feel special and that it is ok to like yourself and tell college why they would benefit from the you as the applicant. To go for it!”

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f e b a t l A Helaina TAME THE TEEN What do you do?

I am a parent educator and coach. I have a Crash Course for parents of teens about Authoritative Parenting.

What is Authoritative Parenting?

It's the balance between high expectations and high emotional availability. It's the sweet spot between old school and new school, and kids who are raised by these kinds of parents are most successful across the board.

How can you help?

The teen years get a bad rap-they don't have to be miserable! I help you understand your teen and improve how you communicate. Once you learn and implement new tools, your power struggles will disappear.

What can I expect?

No judgement, excellent listening skills, fresh perspective and practical strategies.

What other parents say about Helaina Prior to taking Tame the Teen's Crash Course, my greatest struggle was staying calm in the face of my kids' emotional storms. Now that I've taken the course, I know how to remove myself from a heated situation and address is it a more rational way from a place of calm. I've learned more about how teenagers think and feel, and am more empathetic even when I disagree with them. I would recommend this course to all parents of teens who need a lifeline! Paula S, New Jersey Prior to taking TtT's Crash Course, my greatest struggles were communicating effectively with my teenage daughters, setting limits on screen time and getting my daughters to help around the house.

Now that I've taken the Course, I've learned how to be more effective in communicating with them and how to set appropriate boundaries. I’ve gotten a lot of tips on setting limits on screen time.

I’ve also learned many helpful little tips on just dealing with my teens generally.

Now that I have taken the course I see much less yelling and better communication at home and feel like I’ve gotten closer with my daughters and understand much more about how their teenage minds work. Michelle V, New Jersey

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m e t S . r D TEENS & PARENT SUCCESS COACH

What do you do?

I provide online video or telephone life and career coaching to teenagers; college students and their parents. I help them build confidence, find their passion to become Unstoppable, Free and Fearless in all aspects of their life.

My joy and pride is seeing them become the best version of themselves, stress free and creating their best life.

What issues do you deal with?

Confidence, Career, Conflict, Couples, Parenting Teens, Fear, Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Grief, Divorce, Motivation, Inspiration.

How can you help?

I help bridge the gap between parents, teens and college students, through supportive coaching, confidence boost, stress management and success planning. Because I am a life-career coach and mental health professional, I am able to address deeper underlying issues, by empowering and encouraging both parents and their teens.

What can I expect?

I am excited to offer a free 30 minute discovery call to see if we are a good fit to parents, teens Around the World, yes Around the World. If you decide to work with me, we schedule our calls weekly. You will also have full access to my library of teen and parent resources in addition to confidential support to help you parent your teen at your best, even when things are at their worst.

What other parents say about Dr. Stem I love that you did not use generic one size fits all suggestions, you discussed my situation and helped in more ways than one. Thank you DrStem for the wonderful support. Mary (Parent) Ohio “DrStem has a positive energy that is contagious, and you will feel like you can accomplish anything with her as your coach and mentor!� Finley M. Boston Working with DrStem helped me change the way I think of myself and how I go about my daily life.

She taught me that being smart is my ability to overcome challenges and how I persevere in the face of difficult moments. Miriam N. United Kingdom

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n a g a F Tia CERTIFIED PARENT COACH What do you do?

I offer virtual/online coaching to parents.

Supporting parents of teens to improve their relationships and find the joy in parenting is my passion!

What issues do you deal with?

· Strengthening Parent-Teen Relationship · Improving Communication · Addressing Challenges such as Screen Time, Disrespect, Anger, Boundaries, Lack of Motivation, Anxiety, and More!

How can you help?

I help parents understand why your teen is behaving the way they are and how you can guide, connect, and support your teen and create the relationship you both long for. I provide coaching, tools, and resources to help you through the challenges of parenting teens. My objective is that you feel supported and gain confidence while parenting your teen.

What can I expect?

I offer a free 30-minute call to see if we are a good fit. If you are interested in coaching, we determine the coaching frequency that works for you. I do not require a set commitment. I offer coaching via phone or online.

What other parents say about Tia “Tia's incredible capacity to listen without judgement, to hold a mirror up for us as parents to see what does and does not work and to offer insight into the minds of our teens, are a few of her greatest talents. I have seen example after example of how the smallest changes to my parenting styles have led to a blossoming in my daughter's heart and mind. A huge thank you to Tia for having such an impact on our family as a whole.” - A.M.

“I am so grateful for Tia and her wisdom and encouragement. During our sessions I never felt judged for my mistakes. She treated me with empathy and kindness every step of the way. I feel more confident in my own abilities and I know that when my family hits the inevitable bumps in the road, I have a wonderful safe place to gain more wisdom.” - C.S. “I never could have understood the lasting effects my sessions with Tia would have. I understood that I was investing in a long-term process. My hope was that it would offer me different tools to use for parenting. I had no way to truly understand the deep and rich connection it would afford me with my children. A good friend recently remarked about my teenage daughter "You know she really loves you. She looks up to you and knows she can trust you." Wow! The rewards of my investment in this work have paid for themselves more than I could have asked for." - M.A.

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"I ALWAYS LIKED PAINTING LANDSCAPES AND PORTRAITS, BUT THE MOST ENJOYABLE THING I’VE EVER DONE IS JUST PULL OUT A NOTEBOOK AND START DRAWING." HANALEI SWAN, AGE 12 As far back as I can remember, and long before I started HS Styles, I’ve always enjoyed creating new things.

I always liked painting landscapes and portraits, but the most enjoyable thing I’ve ever done is just pull out a notebook and start drawing.

Seriously, I LOVE to draw so much that I’ll spend hours in a room, all by myself, coming up with different characters and background stories.

At one point I started to give my characters cool, original outfits & accessories.

Not because they needed them, but because I had so much fun designing and changing their looks.

As time moved on, I got better at my craft, and started to take art more seriously.

I wanted to be the best artist possible, so instead of begging my mom to buy

toys, video games, or new clothes, I’d always ask for new pencils, paints, canvases & sketchbooks.

But my obsession didn’t stop there… in fact, it had only just begun!

Everywhere I went, I carried a pad and extra pencils on me at all times.

So at a moment’s notice, when inspiration would strike, I’d set up shop and start crafting what I thought would be my GREATEST piece ever.

It may seem weird to someone who doesn’t create artwork, but being able to bring an idea to life from my imagination into the physical world gives me so much joy.

And since my parents never tried to stop me, or tell me what I was doing was somehow “wrong” or “nonproductive”, I kept on painting, and making new outfits for all my characters.

Little did I know, in just a short while, my dreams would come true in one of the most random ways possible…

In case you didn’t know, I’m one-third of The Unstoppable Family, which includes myself, my mom AKA The Unstoppable Momma, and my dad, AKA The Unstoppable Surfer.

Together we travel the world meeting new people, and having amazing adventures along the way.

Although we’re considered expats (someone who lives outside of their native country), and Digital Nomads (a person who works remotely online but travels full-time), our home-base since I was a kid has always been Bali, Indonesia.

It’s one of the most beautiful places on the planet, and most of the people you meet here are some of the nicest you’ll ever get to meet.

But one night, the power suddenly went out at our villa.

Now there’s two things you need to understand about Bali, and Southeast Asia in general.

One, the power can go out when you least expect it…

And two, it’s REALLY HOT here!

Those two things forced us out of the house for the night, so rather than suffer for the rest of the evening, we left in search of a nearby hotel.

While on the way, we decided to stop at a local restaurant for dinner.

By then I was pretty tired, so before I knew what happened, I was fast asleep on the couch while everyone else ate.

Now pay attention, because here’s where things started get crazy…

My parents are always networking with new people, even when they’re not trying.

"IN CASE YOU DIDN’T KNOW, I’M ONE-THIRD OF THE UNSTOPPABLE FAMILY, WHICH INCLUDES MYSELF, MY MOM AKA THE UNSTOPPABLE MOMMA, AND MY DAD, AKA THE UNSTOPPABLE SURFER."

Which is why it’s so funny that my mom ended up meeting a girl that said she was a fashion designer.

Either it was fate, or my subconscious picked up on what was going on, but out of nowhere, I woke up from a deep sleep and said…

“I’m a fashion designer too!”

The girl replied “if you’re a fashion designer, you must have a sketchbook?”

That’s when I slid the sketchbook out of my bag and showed her my stuff...

As she flipped through my designs, I could see the disbelief in her eyes at what I had created.

She said (much to everyone’s surprise) it looked like someone went to school to make my designs.

To say I was floored was an understatement!

A real designer had actually taken what I made seriously, but that wasn’t all that happened.

"INSTEAD THEY (MY PARENTS) WOULD ALWAYS ASK, “WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW?”

THAT SIMPLE SHIFT IN PERCEPTION WAS ALL I NEEDED TO HEAR TO GO AFTER WHATEVER I WANTED."

It seemed this entire night was just filled with surprises.

So here it goes… she was so impressed with what I had shown her, she extended an offer to help turn my dreams into reality by mentoring me in the fashion industry!

Although I’m only a “kid”, I definitely considered this moment as one of the happiest and most significant days of my life.

You see, as I’ve been growing each year, my parents never asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.

Instead they would always ask, “what do you want to be right now?”

That simple shift in perception was all I needed to hear to go after whatever I wanted.

Not without fear, but without the feelings that I could never accomplish something.

Unfortunately, a lot of kids my age are told the complete opposite.

Most parents (from what I’m told) ask their kids what they want to be when they grow up, then when they tell them, it’s almost always met with resistance.

If their mom’s or dad’s don’t think their career choice will make any money, they almost get shamed for wanting to do whatever their dream is.

That’s why I’m so glad I was never raised in those situations.

But it doesn’t mean your parents are bad people if you’ve experienced this, it just means they have a different view on things than you do.

I guess I’m kind of lucky, because being an artist, and designing clothes is something that’s always been a part of who I am, but more importantly, I was fortunate enough to grow up in a household with entrepreneurs for parents who encouraged me to go after my passions instead of follow the crowd.

Now that you know how everything started, here’s what I’m up to these days…

Right now I’m focused on building my own high-end, vegan fashion brand, HS Styles.

We’ve got several collections to choose from, all designed by myself, handmade by expert seamstresses and craftsmen.

Since my brand is all about being ecofriendly, we only use materials and dyes that are non-toxic & biodegradable in every outfit.

We also do limited runs, so as to not saturate an already overcrowded market.

Unfortunately, most major clothing brands heavily promote new trends every few months, and sell massive amounts of products around the world.

This is known as “Fast Fashion”, and it’s a huge reason our planet has so much pollution today.

And things are only getting worse...

Besides millions of TONS of clothing being thrown away each year into landfills and oceans, the mainstream fashion industry not only destroys different ecosystems when the new “trends” are tossed away, but many of them still use child-labor to run their warehouses and production lines.

The good news, there are lots of people, myself included, that want to see this stop.

In fact, earlier this year I was invited to speak at both London AND Paris fashion week, and surprisingly, a lot of people were very positive, and supportive of my vision for a cleaner, more eco-friendly fashion industry.

But for every person who encouraged me, there were many more who were negative.

And some were just flat out mean, but I won’t let that stop me, or my mission.

That is to become the world’s top eco/vegan fashion brand in the world, and help young girls in 3rd world countries get their education by donating one uniform for every order that’s placed on the site (HanaleiSwanStore.com) or in-person, right here in Bali, Indonesia.

Why do I do this in my company?

Because in places like India, Africa, etc. only pay for school up to a certain age.

Once kids reach that age, they must provide their own uniforms or be forced out of school.

When that happens, girls and boys alike will end up forced into the sweatshops, where they work for next to nothing, but worst of all, the young girls could end up pregnant, or on drugs, which continues the cycle of poverty in their community.

Children don’t deserve that…

Every kid deserves to be a kid, and be protected instead of being exploited, no matter what country they’re from!

"SO NO MATTER WHAT YOU’RE GOING THROUGH, OR HOW BAD THINGS SEEM, YOU HAVE TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE SPECIAL, AND YOUR VOICE MATTERS." HANALEI SWAN

It’s my wish that all children get the same opportunities to follow their dreams, and experience the goodness of this planet, instead of always being the target for someone who just wants to use and abuse them.

So no matter what you’re going through, or how bad things seem, you have to know that you are special, and your voice matters.

You are an important part of our society, and without you, the next generation doesn’t exist!

Thanks so much for reading, and if you know me, you know I always end everything with our family’s favorite tag-line...

BE UNSTOPPABLE!

You can find Hanalei at: hanaleiswan.com

s r e d n a MariaP AS RENT COACH What do you do?

I work with parents to help them find loving solutions to their parenting challenges.

What issues do you deal with?

Any and all! The main issues have been challenges around communication and connection. This plays out during homework and chore battles, disrespectful behaviors and screen time issues and many other behavioral challenges.

How can you help?

I help by listening intently, asking key questions, providing information, and offering specific suggestions to help you implement new attitudes and strategies in your life for you and your children. The coaching I do is guided by the principles of conscious parenting and collaborative problem solving.

What can I expect?

Coaching can either take place over the phone/video or in person. Depending on your unique needs, sessions can last anywhere from eight to twelve sessions at one hour per session. I recommend one session per week in order to allow for quality focus and maintain momentum.

What other parents say about Maria Maria stepped right in asking the right questions that addressed the issues head-on and guided me to think of the solutions and steps necessary to get the results I envisioned.

Our lives have been transformed. We cannot recommend her enough to any family who needs to work through a challenging situation.

Before working with Maria, I was just overwhelmed by them. It only took a few short months, but by the end I had crossed everything off my list, and it felt wonderful.

Maria Sanders gave me the insight to connect with my children on a deeper level and encouraged me to look beneath the surface.

Creating a Connection with your teenager

How can I find Maria?

You can connect with me here:

r e g n i l o Linda B

INTUITIVE MENTOR & THETAHEALING PRACTITIONER

What do you do?

I help parents and teens strengthen their relationship with SELF.

How is this accomplished?

I utilize my intuition to navigate to the origin of emotional blocks, negative experiences and beliefs that are negatively impacting your current relationship with self and others.

Together we will peel the layers, with clarity, intent and new perspective, to release what no longer serves you and your teen.

What can I expect?

Results. Clarity & new perspective.

Resolution to undesired situations & experiences that will leave you feeling light, without carrying the emotional “load.�

How do I get started?

I invite you to connect with me via email or social media to book your FREE 30-min clarity call to chat about the specific needs and changes you are looking for in your current relationship. Once enrolled in my mentorship, we will create a plan that is tailored to your specific needs and schedule weekly sessions to jump into desired change.

What can be expected by investing in MYSELF and TEEN via your Mentorship?

You will strengthen your intuition and align to #BYObestself in this 10hr FLEXIBLE program. Let your weekly sessions be tailored to you and the needs of your teen. If you are READY to shift out of your current situation and create change that lasts, this program is for you. Step into joy, positivity and a future that excites you, with the tips, exercises and healing that comes with this program! Invest in SELF to experience the change you are longing for.

Hear it from others who have invested in self & committed to CHANGE in their relationship:

Linda is my absolute go-to person when I need support, clarity and direction. She has helped me find my way through many moments I have felt lost. Linda has also helped my teen-age daughter through many typical teen-age struggles. My daughter is a much happier person after her sessions with Linda. She works with Linda on a regular basis now and is doing amazing!! Thank you Linda for the work you do. My family is very grateful to have you on our side. Jennifer Funnell (Ontario, Canada) Linda is a gifted healer - she intuitively gets to the source of my obstacles and answers questions I didn't even know how to ask. I know that I can get on a call with her and I can trust that I'll feel better in just 60 minutes. She's helped guide me ‌.to follow my intuition and trust how to be in the flow. Before our session today, I felt untethered, lost in space, disconnected from my body - anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed - and definitely not creative! After our session I felt re-inspired, like a weight was lifted off my shoulders - and I felt connected to myself again. I highly recommend you go to Linda when you need help that you can't always put words to - she'll figure it out! -Jen Pillow (British Columbia, Canada) Working with Linda is a great experience overall. Coming in to sessions and working with Linda helped me clear my mind and really think rationally after. As well it calms and relaxes your mind and body during sessions. Working with Linda really helped me think about different aspects of situations, and working on finding out more about myself. After leaving I felt very positive and clear minded always looking forward to the next session. Nicholas ~ 18 years old (Ontario, Canada)

ThetaHealing for Teenagers How can I find you?

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p u h t r o N y l r e b m i K CERTIFIED SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER AND FOUNDER OF MISSION LIFE SUCCESS

What do you do?

I help families conquer ADHD and other learning differences such as dyscalculia and dyslexia.

What issues do you deal with? cognitive and executive function skill weaknesses - processing speed, working memory, organization, planning and prioritization, auditory and visual processing, focus and attention

How can you help?

Our core program is a nonacademic cognitive skill enhancement program. After improving any weak skills, we teach students the organizational, planning, and study skills they need, and provide the daily accountability to help them fully seat new habits. We also can address gaps in academic knowledge in math, reading or writing. We also have social skills groups for 6 - 12 year olds. Finally, we have support groups for parents to help them learn how to optimize the home environment, communicate effectively, and end the power struggle.

What can I expect?

Initially, we will meet with parents (virtually or in person) to determine what their expectations are for their child. Next, we will schedule a 90-minute assessment for your child. Then, we will meet with parents, again to discuss results of assessment, and program recommendations.

What do other parents say about Kimberly?

“I am so grateful. You are the first adult he has ever connected with and actually likes (other than me). He enjoys coming to your classes. This is the only thing it hasn’t been a battle to get him to go to. And, it has helped him be able to focus on homework.

Although we still have an occasional bad day with homework, those days get fewer and farther between each week. “ “Sxxxx was very hesitant to attend your sessions, but came to look forward to them.

She now believes she can overcome dyslexia, and that is huge! She sees the results of her work at school and on standardized tests, and her self-esteem has soared. As a result, she is much more motivated.”

How to treat learning differences How can I find you?

You can connect with me here:

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t t e r r a B e n n a e D RADIANT LEADERSHIP COACHING FOR MOMS

What do you do?

I offer online coaching to sensitive, empathic moms who want to be a strong leader for their pre-teens and teens

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, resentment, frustration, energy leaks, boundaries.

How can you help?

I help moms connect to deeply sourced LOVE energy to be the compassionate and strong leader their teen needs.

What can I expect?

I offer a free 30 minute call to see if we are good fit for one of my private or group coaching programs. Private calls happen once a week over the phone.

Group coaching happens over the phone and video conferencing. Ask me how to gain access to my library of resources, and my monthly Radiant Mom Tribe calls!

What other parents say about Deanne This work has transformed the way I see my teens and it has given me a gift to help them develop their confidence and achieve their goals.” –Deb Hemmaway I find that Deanne presents topics in a very positive, mindful and deliberate way. After the coaching calls I feel grounded and inspired to connect with my daughter in a new way. This is in contrast to some presentations when I leave feeling deflated and thinking “I should do this” or “I should be this”. – Jutta Shaw “This is really working! I’m glad I chose this coaching over therapy, because instead of ruminating over what’s not working, I have some clear, practical things that I can try” – Rebecca, mom of a high school aged son

Three things you can do right now to create an energetic connection with your teen.

1- Put your hand on your heart and take three slow, deep breaths 2- Envision a peaceful, connected moment with your teen in your mind’s eye 3- Send love out to your teen. Visualise pink light radiating out from your heart and enveloping your teen.

How to be a Leader for your Teen How can I find you?

You can connect with me here:

TEENS & SCREENS: 5 TIPS TO FIND BALANCE

BY: APARNA VENKATARAMAN

In a modern era when we are all on our screens and use them to find stress relief, it’s important to find balance. I know that personally, for me, having multiple online businesses means that I am in front of a phone or screen for a good part of my working day in order to connect more and more. In my work with parents of teens, one of their top 3 concerns is always: “How can I get my teen to spend less time on their phone? I’ve tried taking it away from them, but it always backfires.”

Here's my advice...

Remember that while a phone can be used as both a time-sucker and a lifesaver, it’s important to view it not as a negative object, but as something that can be used for good in order for your child to connect with you and others.

Find out calmly and kindly WHAT your teen enjoys using about their phone: apps, video games, selfies, etc. and connect with them on what YOU like to use, too - this creates a positive atmosphere around technology On setting limits: Even I set limits with my phone/computer/tv (less time on weekends, during meals, and when doing important tasks like driving, working, studying, etc.). Screen time can really damper our productivity levels - and for that reason, I encourage the practice of either a screen off/phone out of sight/do-not-disturb mode for YOU and your child 30 minutes to 1 hour before bedtime so that you can get the rest that you need.

Recognize those times when your child DOES like to use the phone: Is it right after school? At dinner? In the car? At events when they could be socializing? Compromising and realizing when is a great time to use the screen for self-care time/making memories and when it is best to put it away is key.

Know that what works for one family may not work for you - I encourage you to always honor your intuition and to practice slowly cutting back instead of using no-screen time as a punishment. I've found that the more that a child learns how fun/relaxing life can be without a screen, the less they will feel drawn to use it. Are there any other activities that can be focused on instead?

Aparna Venkataraman is the founder of Beauty In Parenting - she help parents and teens find flow, joy and ease through 1-on-1 coaching, guided meditation, essential oils, e-guides and resources for confidence, communication and self-care!

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d n a l n e e t Doreen S RELATIONSHIP COACH

What do you do?

I offer the Parenting with Intention Workshop online and coach parents of teens to help them navigate their changing relationship, married couples who desire to deepen their relationship, and teens who desire to grow in resilience.

What issues do you deal with?

Relationship-Managing EmotionsNeuroplasticity-Creating ResilienceDevelopment of Powerful world changing teens

How can you help?

I help create awareness, and provide tools and strategies for developing deep, meaningful relationships with your teen, self and God, through coaching and transformational neuroscience.

What can I expect?

The Parenting With Intention Workshop is a four week workshop done on Zoom and runs quarterly.

For one on one coaching, our calls usually last 45 minutes (30 minutes for teens) and can be done from anywhere in the world. I offer a free inquiry call to see if I’m the right coach for you and your family.

What other parents say about Doreen “After applying the new things I learned, I have figured out ways to defuse situations before they ignite - which avoids unproductive arguing and I'm focused on the message I want to teach her.

This class was amazing!” Jennifer Neilson “We learned techniques to bring down the escalated emotions and instead begin productive communication where we can all learn and think constructively. More importantly, we learned great techniques on how to have healthy communication with our kids! sign up...you will not be disappointed.” Elizabeth Renna “Many times, we reacted abruptly from our own emotions. It was eye-opening to learn that we could handle situations in a completely different way. It was also helpful to learn from the other parents that we were not alone in our challenges to better connect with our teens. We learned tools that provided us with the ability to pause before reacting and to look at situations from both sides.” Elizabeth Pilla

Christian Coaching How can I find you?

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MS , n a g a e R les y L a r u a L

TEEN AND PARENT RELATIONSHIP WHISPERER AND SOCIOLOGIST

What do you do?

I work with parents and teens individually and together to cultivate a more peaceful home by communicating heart to heart. My approach is called conscious cocreation which focuses on growing the awareness and skills that parents and teens need to jointly build the relationship that works for both.

What issues do you deal with?

Tweens, Teens and Young Adults dealing with parent problems, substance abuse, homework hassles, digital dangers and dating Parents in conflict, dealing with substance abuse, navigating divorce, single parenthood and empty nests

How can you help?

I offer online group coaching or individual coaching packages. I have also written a book with sample conversations of conscious communication titled, How to Raise Respectful Parents

What can I expect?

No blame, just support, skills building and a few suggestions for a complicated world! I offer a free introductory phone session. If we are a match, you can enter private coaching or online group coaching.

Contact me at 956-250-3689 or email, Laura@LauraLReagan.com.

What other parents say about me Laura has helped me tremendously as a parent coach! My teen son and I were estranged following difficulties with his father. And the counselor we were going to, was unable to coach me to be able to reach my teen, beyond the fences and hurt walls that he'd placed between us. Laura stepped in and with great kindness, understanding and wisdom, was able to get me to change my entire approach to parenting my teen son. Our relationship underwent a radical change as I started implementing her suggestions and advice, and he and I are now affectionate with each other, communicating about big and small matters, without any blocks, and building trust again, thanks to Laura's knowledge and coaching, she has so professionally, kindly and generously shared with me.

Priya B., mother of teen son Laura was a Godsend to me. With all I learned, I feel a sense of calm empowerment for the first time in YEARS! I even feel a sense of calm about my teens’ future. Before, I felt my life was flooded in chaos, but she helped me practice positive communication skills that conveyed my heart. I always looked forward to our next session. I highly recommend her!

Linda E., mother of twin teen daughters

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M , y t r a o R ' O y Case PARENT COACH

What do you do?

I lead live and online parenting workshops, I coach over the phone, and I host a weekly podcast for parents called, The Joyful Courage Podcast.

What issues do you deal with?

My work is really focused on supporting parents with being ON the parenting journey. It is messy, and our teens are exploring who they are, making mistakes, and needing a healthy adult to be in relationship with through it all. An adult who is grounded and clear on how they want to show up and influence the situations they find themselves in with their kids.

How can you help?

There are so many ways to work with me. My weekly podcast is free and available to all through iTunes, Spotify, iheartradio, or anywhere you are currently listening to podcasts. I lead a quarterly program online for parents of teens that is based on Positive Discipline and being a part of an active community of parents on the raising teens journey. I recently published a book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey, that is being very well received, all about focusing in on our own self regulation. And I am available for one on one coaching as well.

All of these offers can be found on my website - www.joyfulcoruage.com

What can I expect?

Expect to feel seen and heard. I do free 15 minute explore calls that gives us time to see if we are a good fit for coaching. I always show up with authenticity and listening.

I walk beside you on the path of parenting teens, and have deep respect for the process. I am all about personal growth and development, so you can expect to take a good hard look at what YOU are bringing to the current relationships in your life.

What other parents say about me

"Casey is an amazing coach and facilitator. She is organized, thoughtful, wise, and so vulnerable. I never felt like I was being judged and criticized. I just felt loved and encouraged to be the best parent I can be (mistakes and all!)." - Katie L. "Casey has extensive knowledge to share and an adept way of guiding you through processing what you've learned so you can use it in practical ways as you parent your teens." - Beth H "Working with Casey as a coach is one of the most powerful things my husband and I have done together with regards to parenting. Her kindness and welcoming presence put my husband right at ease and he quickly let his defensiveness down. This allowed for us both to come together and start developing a common language from which to parent." - Juliet P "Casey- you’re an exceptional coach and facilitator. I think it was Katie Lowry who said that you are meant to do this work and I wholeheartedly agree. Sometimes when you talk I feel like you’ve been inside my head. You’re also a really good listener and very genuine. You’ve really influenced the way I parent, and really the way I see myself as a person. Love you!" - Kaite S.

Get the book How can I find you?

You can connect with me here. www.joyfulcourage.com

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Aparna Venkataraman PARENT COACH WELLNESS EDUCATOR MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER MINDFULNESS EDUCATOR

What do you do?

I offer 1-on-1 online parent coaching and guided meditation sessions to parents and teens, as well as e-guides and essential oil education.

What issues do you deal with?

Anxiety, depression, self-worth, communication, mindfulness, academic focus, leadership skills.

How can you help?

I offer practical techniques and tips for self-care, emotion self-regulation, communication and overall confidence to help you feel more flow, joy, ease and connection!

What can I expect?

I offer a free 30-minute consultation to discuss your needs and we meet either weekly or biweekly. You will also have access to all of my mindfulness and essential oil resources.

What other parents say about me It was really lovely having direct phrases to communicate more with my child and partner, as I felt less stress and more equipped to manage things in the future and love myself more in the process.

— Edith D. I really loved hearing her perspective and experiences and how she could relate to what I was going through with my daughter - she’s very compassionate and helped me to be more mindful.

— Kelly A. After working with her, my children and I saw a huge shift in how we thought about and connected with one another. Now we all have a loving, fun relationship!

— Andrea M.

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How can I find you?

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ORDER OUT OF CHAOS

What do you do?

We offer virtual coaching to both parents and students to help them be successful in learning and in life.

What issues do you deal with?

Time management. Organization.

Study skills. LIfe skills. Motivation.

Behavioral.

How can you help?

We provide workshops and webinars, products and programs, group and one-on-one coaching for both parents and their students. everything is available virtually. So you choose how and to what extent you need support and coaching.

What can I expect?

You can expect to be supported, guided and nurtured. The Order Out of Chaos community is a robust and active community.

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How can I find you?

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HELP...my teen won't stop lying By: Kimberly Muench

“How the hell am I supposed to believe a word that comes out of his mouth?!”

Her frustration was clear…she was beyond angry with her teenage son because his lying was out of control.

She was looking to me to help her understand (a) why he was lying all the time and (b) what she was supposed to do to correct the problem.

This was not only hurting their relationship, but his lies were beginning to wreak havoc on her marriage because she and her husband did not see eye to eye on what to do about the issue.

The first step was to have Mom ask herself why her son might be lying. I told her in order to do that, she’d have to set aside feeling betrayed for a moment and honestly get curious about what she thought he had to gain by lying to her about everything from where he was going to why the money in his bank account was disappearing.

One obvious reason…he may be lying to escape the consequences of his actions, right? Another possible reason for his lies could be, in his eyes, her son doesn’t feel there is any room in the relationship for him to make mistakes.

Maybe his lies started out small and harmless enough, but have now [over time] developed into a situation that he knows causes constant anger, lectures, distrust…maybe he feels there is no going back, or it would be too hard to turn things around at this point.

Either way, I understood Mom’s frustration but needed her to take a step back emotionally to look at the situation from her son’s perspective.

I run into a lot of parents who believe their teens are doing things to them when in actuality, their kids have made an unwise choice that has consequences they didn’t see coming, and rather than being honest and admitting the mistake (and possibly listening to some intense scrutiny and dealing with the consequences) just continue down the path because they don’t see a way out.

Believe it or not, telling the truth all of a sudden (when asked over and over again) doesn’t seem like a viable option.

If you want your son or daughter to be truthful you’ve got to be open to the fact that they’re going to make some mistakes during this often confusing time in their lives. And when they do, you’re responsible for creating an atmosphere that allows them to feel like they can come clean and not be shamed.

When you look back at your own teen years and you messed up, what happened? Were your mistakes and bad choices met with anger and criticism?

Were you made to feel like garbage…or, did your parent(s) talk with you about the consequences of the choice you made and help you look at where you (if you were able to go back) could do things differently?

You know… so you could actually learn from the choices you’d made.Because if your parents made you feel like crap for your behavior or choices during your teen years, my guess is you don’t know how to respond to your son or daughter any differently. You might even feel justified in

responding the same way your parents did.

Ouch, that hurt.

But, ask yourself, if you were doing what your kid is doing at this moment what would be helpful to you?

I’m not saying there shouldn’t ever be consequences for kid’s actions, I’m just saying don’t take everything your teen does as a personal assault against you and your ability to parent.

This is a time when they are trying things on…everything from personality traits to hairstyles.

Another area you’ve gotta get clear on as a parent (and as a couple, if it applies) is what your expectations are.

And, just like when they were toddlers, you have to consistently (in word and action) talk about and model these things with your kids.

For example…lying. In this family, we don’t lie. There is nothing you could do or say that would cause

you to lose my love, therefore, lying is not an option. We don’t lie to you (make sure you are telling 100% truth here because kids will wave the bullshit flag with their words and/or behavior if you aren’t on the up and up) and we expect the same from you. There is nothing you could ever tell me that would be worse for our relationship than my finding out you lied to me. We can work through anything as long as you tell the truth.

Mom and Dad…you’ve got to live this out and be the example of truth and unconditional love. And if you mess up, own it.

Your teen has to believe you are truly on their side and have a deep desire to set them up for success in life.

No anger, just clarity, and living by example.

Your teenager needs you in their life… be there to guide them, not rule over them and take everything they say and do during this decade so personally like it’s a direct reflection on you.

Kim Muench Kim Muench is a Texas-based Jai certified parent coach and the mother of five (ages 14-31) who specializes in empowering parents of teens to create happier healthier home lives no matter where they live.

e n o p p a r Kyle G STUDENT SUCCESS COACH & FOUNDER OF TO THE NEXT STEP

What do you do?

I help students discover their passions and prepare for the real world that await them

What issues do you deal with?

Lack of focus and motivation when it comes to getting serious about a student's future.

What can I expect?

I offer a free 60-minute introductory for both the parent and the student.

Here is where I learn about the student and discuss how we can work together. Then I put together a personalized plan complete with goals and learning objectives.

Topics covered...

-Discovering Your Passions -Identifying Opportunities -The College Selection Process -Creating Your Own College Experience -Preparing for the Workforce

Welcome to To The Next Step!

Let's help your student discover their passion and plan for their future!

How can I find you?

You can connect with me here:

Email: kyle@tothenextstep.org

y e n a v l u Kat M HOLISTIC FAMILY COACH

What do you do?

I help parents of struggling kids take control of emotions so their child can find happiness and everyone can back to the activities they love. I work with families online or in person in Portland, Oregon.

What issues do you deal with?

Missing school, big emotions, bullying, anxiety, anger, depression, and lack of focus. In the long run, I work to prevent addiction and suicide.

How can you help?

I help families go from scattered to centered, chaotic to calm, anxious to confident, disconnected to aligned, and lonely to comforted and empowered.

What can I expect?

Let’s have a free strategy call to get clear on what you want and if I can help. If we’re a fit to work together, we’ll meet weekly, and I’ll be available via email when you run into challenges and need support. You’ll also receive my book, A Good Day at School, and the video resources that accompany it.

What other parents say about me: “I am hooked! Kat’s tools are amazing for kids and adult humans, too. Get her book now!”-Angie R. “[Kat] has helped me totally re-evaluate my purpose and how to find happiness. This discovery has transformed my parenting, and I can’t express how positively my kids have been affected.

Thank you, thank you.”-Rebecca C. “My kid has uncovered her superpowers, and it’s changed everything. She didn’t know life could be this good. Life will certainly never be the same!”-Langdon T.

The secret to raising happy kids How can I find you?

You can connect with me here:

Email: kat@katmulvaney.com

r o l y a T t e n Ja

PARENT COACH

What do you do?

I empower parents dealing with youth struggling with mental health and addiction issues to focus on the present situation.

What issues do you deal with?

I deal with parent's feelings of guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, other relationships that get affected by the stress; and overall mental health of the parent.

How can you help?

I offer training I have learned over a period of 6 years in a 6 week program to empower parents in dealing with the areas within themselves that they can control to keep them in a healthy mindset - allows parents to be the role model their child needs and wants and allows the parent to deal with longer term issues one step at a time.

What can I expect?

I use Zoom video to connect with you face to face in a confidential space - you can come alone or with your partner. This call is not time sensitive and we will get to talk about your situation, we will focus on the outcome you desire and I will share with you the 6 week program outline and the outcome you can achieve. I also offer a three week intensive course if that applies to your situation.

What other parents say about me: "She helped me tap into my strength and courage and reminded me who I truly am. I felt empowered and stronger after our session. I loved the questions she asked me and enjoyed finding the answers to those questions." Natalia S.

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How can I find you?

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t t i z a G Sheri TEEN LIFE COACH PARENT COACH

What do you do?

I am a coach, mentor, cheerleader, and guide all wrapped up into one.

What issues do you deal with?

Friendship issues, stress, confidence, overwhelm, motivation, parent/daughter relationship

How can you help?

My passion is to empower your daughter to discover her positive and powerful inner voice. I will guide her to find what makes her happy, motivated, and joyful. By doing that, she will be able to live a more genuine, purposeful, and fulfilling life.

Isn’t that what we are all after?

What can I expect?

You can expect an open heart and no judgment. Let’s start with a complimentary parent consult. If I’m what you need, you and your teen will work with me for about 3 months.

We can see each other in person, online, or a combination. And parents, you are part of the process!

We will have several parent sessions so that you know how to best support your daughter.

What other parents say about me: "Sometimes your mind gets all tangled up and coaching helps to unravel it." 14 y.o. client "Sheri was a God-send. She opened up the lines of communication again." Mom of 13 y.o. client "When my daughter was coaching with Sheri, it let me back off emotionally from stuff that came up. It kept me from being TOO emotional and let me be more of a help to my daughter." Mom of 17 y.o. client "Coaching met and went beyond my expectations. It was exactly what my daughter needed and really seemed to help her in the way she approaches things and thinks about things." Mom of 17 y.o. client

The importance of joy

How can I find you?

You can connect with me here:

Email: sheri@teenwiseseattle.com

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