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WELCOME
Welcome to the Winter Edition! I am so happy to see you here...thank you for spending a few minutes with us! Within the pages of this magazine you will find: unique parenting perspectives a community of love and support articles that answer your toughest questions and resources that you can count on Each of the contributors in this magazine will provide you with their best advice and remind you that you are not alone! We aren’t here to preach and tell you what to do - we are here to love and encourage you on your journey - your unique journey. Please consider reaching out to other parents in our Facebook Group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/parentguideteens/ You don’t know who might need to hear from you, as well as what ideas may resonate with you and make your life as a parent just a bit easier. See you inside.
Jennifer XOXO Jennifer, Mom and Founder of Parent Guide and Parent Teens.
P.S. If you are a parent of a younger child you will want to check out our PARENTGUIDE issue. Click here to access it 50 69 now! Happy Parenting!
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THANK YOU! I don't even know where to start when I think about how grateful I am to be here, with you, doing what I love, day in and day out! This issue is all about the people that help us help our teens to grow into the independent, incredible adults they are destined to be. I am lucky enough to work with the best Parent Coaches from across the world as they make it their life mission to transform families from chaos to connection. Please join me as I celebrate each and every one of them in this special issue! And, if you are raising a teen and struggle with anything, please reach out to these Parent Coaches...they are here for you!
Jennifer McCallum Founder of Parent Guide
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HOW TO BUILD UP YOUR TEEN’S WORKING MEMORY MUSCLE?
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By: Leslie Josel - ADHD Academic Coach
“I understand why students with ADHD should not be punished for working memory issues, but what is the best way to train them on this, so they can gain the skill and meet deadlines in life?”
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I teach parents about working memory with this scenario: Your student is in math class at 8 am and learning fractions. At that time and in that moment, he understands what is being taught. Now fast forward to 8 pm. Your student opens up his math homework, looks at it and says, “I have no idea what this is. I never learned it.”So, did he learn it? Yes. Did he remember it? No. What he is really saying is that the information he learned earlier that day did not “superglue” to his brain. It boomeranged right out. So how do you help your student “remember to remember?” 1. Try to link the unknown to the known. Try asking questions like “Where have you seen or heard this before?” or “What is similar to this?” This allows your child to anchor new information to something that might already be engrained in his memory. Saying something simple like “You have the same amount of time right now to work on your math homework as it takes to drive to school” may give him something to tether that information to. 2. How are you going to remember to remember? As parents (and I’m guilty of this, too) we tend to do what I call the “by the ways” and “don’t forgets.” You know what that looks like: Your child is running out the door and you call out, “Oh, by the way, don’t forget to meet me at 3 pm by the side door of the WWW.PARENTCOACH.CLUB ⎟5
POOR WORKING MEMORY IS A SYMPTOM OF ADHD THAT MAKES IT DIFFICULT FOR STUDENTS TO REMEMBER LESSONS LEARNED, HOMEWORK ASSIGNED, AND UPCOMING TESTS. Leslie Josel - ADHD Academic Coach
school!” The likelihood that your child will remember that information is pretty slim. To cement it, ask a follow-up question: “How are you going to remember to remember?” This gives your child an opportunity to find a scaffolding method to remember the information.
3. Say it backwards. I learned this method from a middle school teacher! She explained that when she wants her students to truly solidify information she has taught, she has them repeat it to her backward. Her reasoning? That the brain has to work harder to recall information when it remembers backward so it’s more likely to stick. I use this trick with all of my student coaching clients, and it works!Good Luck! Order Out of Chaos’ mission is to provide hands-on education, guidance and coaching to parents and their students through our customized products and programs, so all children – both mainstream and with learning issues – can develop necessary skills. You can find Leslie at https://orderoochaos.com/ WWW.PARENTCOACH.CLUB ⎟7
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DON'T WASTE TIME ON PARENTING REGRETS Regrets in parenting are a waste of time. If you have experienced a personal challenge with your child it's worth sharing with others so they can learn from your experience, life is much too short to regret our natural oversights as human beings. by Kim Muench, Founder at Real Life Parent Guide
Kim is a competent and natural choice for families experiencing issues around mental health and drug/alcohol use, her personal experience and professional wisdom will help you find the confidence you need to lead your family into healthier, more functional relationships. Kim is also an expert at helping mothers reconnect with their own inner wisdom as they raising the unique children in their lives.
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ONCE HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF SPEAKING TO A GROUP OF HIGH SCHOOL BOYS. The topic was drug and alcohol use. When I thought about how I would approach the topic I decided I didn't want to just be the mom/parent coach who walked into the room with the usual presentation they may or may not actually hear, I wanted to make an impact.
I began my speech by saying I knew throwing a bunch of statistics out there wasn't going to impress them because I believe statistics can be manipulated to fit whatever point you're trying to make (I got several nods in response to this statement). Then I told them I didn't want to come in with a lecture about drinking because they all have parents who, I'm sure, spend time talking to them about the evils of doing drugs and underage drinking (of course, more nods). And, lastly, I wasn't going to give a voice to the lame phrase "Just say no."
I shared with them in the only way I thought I might get heard, which was to boldly tell the story of my experience as the mother of a teenager who began drinking alcohol (coincidentally, at the same age they were at that presentation) as a recreational pass time, but who then fell into addiction by the time he was twenty years old.That captured their attention.
Once written you have to stand by it. You may have said it to see whether you believed it or not.
Many of you know my story, if not you can learn more about it here, but the experience of having a child fall prey to an addiction to alcohol has deeply changed me. His birth, when I was eighteen, was the other life event that has really shaped who I am today. I was open and brutally honest with the boys the entire time I spoke. I shared with them my initial denial about my son's drinking and about how that certainly didn't help the situation. But, again being transparent, even if I'd been more eyes-open I don't know if I would have been able to stop the tumbledown my son was on. That's not an excuse; it's reality. He and I had a very close relationship while he was growing up, he would tell you the same thing. Yet that didn't stop his addiction from happening. After I finished sharing my story, I asked the boys to write down on an index card one thing they took away from what I'd shared and one question they had about my experience or about addiction in general. Though I should not have been surprised, I was amazed at the thought-provoking statements and questions they came back with! Someone in the group wrote, "What is your biggest regret out of everything you told us." Of course, this made me think. "Hmmmmm," I said. "I honestly can't think of any regret I have about what transpired." Do I wish he hadn't gotten a taste of alcohol so young and become addicted to the way it helped him cope with the stress and challenges in his life during high school? Yes. But I understand why it happened.
Do I wish I'd have listened to my gut when the evidence (smell from his room that was not what I wrote off at the time as "teen boy smells", missing alcohol from the cabinet, odd sleep patterns) was right in front of my eyes? Yes. Denial can be a powerful parenting obstacle. Do I wish he would have felt able to come to me sooner and ask for help? Definitely! But, when he was ready, he did come to me and although the experience got much darker before the light, I supported and encouraged him (as I still do today) into what is a healthier version of the teen who inadvertently got addicted to a substance that became his main coping skill. Regrets in parenting are a waste of time. If you have experienced a personal challenge with your child it's worth sharing with others so they can learn from your experience, life is much too short to regret our natural oversights as human beings. We are parents, not perfect. We do the best we can with what we know every moment as we raise our children. When we know better, we do better! If you live with regrets about the way you were parented or the way you are parenting, STOP. Seek a new approach to developing your most important relationships, don't waste another moment on "what could have been" or "why didn't I do this or why didn't I see this coming?" My passion and mission in life are to help other parents by speaking, writing, leading workshops, and
coaching one-on-one. I don't do this because I feel as if I'm the perfect parent; I do this because I desperately want to see families become happier, healthier, and more functional. OUR KIDS AND TEENAGERS NEED US NOW MORE THAN EVER! Would you like to learn more about how I can help you? Click here to connect!
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PARENT & TEEN GUIDE
What do you do? I specialize in helping parents of kids ages 10-25 enjoy peaceful homes and relationships within their family. I do this with compassion and without judgment. This work is not about quick strategies, it's about working with the parent to create lasting, generational change in the family environment.
What issues do you deal with?
I have personally experienced and worked with teen pregnancy, adolescent addiction, anxiety, and depression.
How can you help? Together we work to identify the limiting beliefs your child's behavior is triggering inside of you and work through them to discover new beliefs that will better serve the parent/child relationship you are in. We work on parenting with rather than over your child.
What can I expect?
I always offer a 20-minute complimentary consultation in order to learn more about your unique family situation and to help you get to me and how I work with parents. I have a reasonable hourly rate, weekly custom packages, and I also offer an 8-week online course I will personally guide you through one module per week.
How can I find you?
I am on Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide, you can text me anytime at 972-689-0250 to schedule our complimentary consultation.
What other parents say about Kim "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed enough buttons to get stuff out and done, but not enough to cause dread. I am a better parent for having worked with you." ~Carmen, mom of two "You helped me understand my kids aren't acting and saying things just to hurt me, it is there way of showing me they are growing up and making decisions for themselves. I don't take their statements as personally anymore, I know that this is how teenagers express there need for a feeling of independence." Deb, mom of twin teen boys and college-age girl "Best investment I ever made for our family!" Jennifer, mom of four teens "Thank you for caring so much about my comfort on this journey...you pushed buttons just enough to get stuff out and done but not enough to create dread." Carmen, mom of two "You heard and understood where sometimes I don't feel my wife gets where I'm coming from. Just hearing myself talk out loud and you're asking me the right questions brought me so much peace of mind. Thank you, Kim, for doing this work!" David, stepdad of three
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y o J a n Ele FOUNDER, PRIDE AND JOY FOUNDATION
What do you do? I support parents, teachers, and leaders in using self-awareness to build safety in the lives of LGBTQ families and the allies that love them.
What issues do you deal with? Self-Awareness, Mindfulness, Sexuality, Coming Out
How can you help? I am the mom of four amazing kids. I didn't come out until I was 38 years old, coming out to my kids whom I had raised in a conservative religion was the hardest thing I've ever done. Now I run a nonprofit that is dedicated to supporting parents with queer kids, queer parents, and others like grandparents and other relatives who want to become better allies. We have a library of evergreen courses, as well as do one-on-one coaching.
What can I expect? You can expect a space free of judgment. You can expect to be heard and seen for both who you are, and who you want to become. You can expect to find support at all different price points. You can expect to know you're not alone.
What other parents say about Elena... "Elena was a dynamic and engaging presenter. Not only is she insightful, but she is also fun!" - Terina M. "Your words have changed my life. You have helped undo years and years of damage. " - Jake B., "You are doing such amazing work, Elena. This is wonderful and so important. " - Tess C.
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m a h a r G i Ca MUM, PARENTING EXPERT, AUTHOR & SPEAKER
What do you do? I help Parents Support their Children - so that Together we can Build a Mentally Healthier and Happier Generation of Young People.
What issues do you deal with? Anxiety, Confidence, Communication, Discipline, Motivation, Self-Care, Self-Harm.
How can you help? The TEEN Toolbox™ series is basically the Umbrella under which I work. It is my collection of products and services that are specifically geared towards parents and their teenagers. These include: courses, consultations, in-home visits, and retreats
What can I expect? Well that all depends on what product or service you are using. Above all - I want to leave you with takeaways. Practical techniques and tools that will equip you with the challenges that you are dealing with. I offer a free 30 minute call www.caigraham.com/discovery
More on what I offer... Spotlight Course : These courses give you an in depth insight into the specific challenges you are experiencing. You are provided with a deeper understanding and a clear-cut exercises designed to help you conquer these particular obstacles. Many of these courses can be completed in an hour or so. They are child-friendly and are designed to gain rapid results. Flagship Course : Let’s face it - you are your child’s best Role Model. So this course is designed to help you support your child to the very best of your ability. It is a detailed blueprint to help you build both your parenting expertise and confidence. The course is broken down into 8 modules and requires an investment of your time and commitment. There is also the opportunity to be part of our online community. Join me and other like-minded parents where your questions and challenges can be shared and addressed. Take this course - your kids will, thank you, one day! 1-2-1 Consultations : This is the opportunity to work with me personally ( from hourly calls to coaching packages ) I love these sessions, as they are a fantastic opportunity for me to connect with you at a deeper level and a great way for us to work together more closely; without judgement and with a sprinkling of humour! Working with me directly will help you achieve your parenting goals faster. We can address the issues that are unique to your family and deal with everyone’s challenges individually : ✔ Identify the obstacles that are currently holding you back. ✔ Get pointers to will help you better connect with your child. ✔ Understand how to build stronger relationships with the whole family. ✔ Learn new ways to communicate – so that you and your teen can talk more freely. ✔Free App : The TEEN Toolbox™ : Signposts you to my social media channels and some quick exercises that will help you support you immediately. www.caigraham.com/app
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All About Teen Anxiety
BY: SUCCESS IN STEPS. PARENT CONSULTANT
Sylvia Corzato
5 TIPS FOR TEACHING CHILDREN GRATITUDE Here are my 5 tips to hit the It's officially Fall and early Winter is a tme that reset button for teaching we tend to focus on what we are thankful for. gratitude: With the US Thanksgiving and Winter Holidays just around the corner, this reminds us of all the things that we should and can be thankful for! In a day and age where instant gratification seems to be the new normal, we along with our children tend to lose sight of all the wonderful things we may take for granted.
Model Gratitude
Children model your behaviours more than you know, ever caught yourself saying "oh my she/he takes that after (insert relatives name here). By expressing gratitude, your kids will be sure to follow your lead.
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By expressing gratitude, your kids will be sure to follow your lead. Sylvia Corzato, Success in Steps
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5 TIPS FOR TEACHING CHILDREN GRATITUDE
I'm Grateful For...
Always Look For The Positive Find something positive in
frustrating or disappointing situations and discuss it. Helping our children under that, there is still something to learn from a situation or mistake, allows us to be open-minded and bounce back on our feet a lot faster.
Create A Gratitude Jar! Encourage your kids to write or draw what they are grateful for and ask that they place it in the jar. Have the jar in a common area such as the kitchen. I love reading items from our gratitude jar both on special occasions and on random days.Why not start yours today and read what your family is grateful for at your thanksgiving celebration.
Before bed, why not incorporate stating what you are grateful for as part of your bedtime routine.It can go something like this... "Tonight I'm grateful for..."trying a new recipe that I wasn't sure the family would enjoy taking a break from answering emails so that I can watch a show with my kidsThen throw the 'ball in their court,' "what are you grateful for?"Your child might follow suit with...trying something new in class talking to a new kid a recess
Follow-up With 'Why'
As our children get older, they are able to communicate the reason/message behind their statements. Continue the conversation and praise their thinking. This not only assists with the whole concept of gratitude but strengthens problemsolving & reasoning skills at the same time.
Gratitude is a positive attitude, that will teach your child how to live a life with the glass is 1/2 full mindset. Living a life with appreciation makes our children happier, more mindful of others and enable them to appreciate the small wins that lead to more significant victories.When we adopt a grateful mindset, we cannot only improve our coping strategies but can bounce back and shake things off a lot quicker and try again. What are you grateful for? Here are some of the things my family is currently grateful for: Our daughter (13 years old) "Family, because you are part of my life, and I love you.""You guys do so much for me and are always willing to help me." Our son (10 years old) "Our special handshake before school." My Husband" Our health, it's something we should never take for granted." Me"Creating memories for our family so that they will always have some things beautiful to look back on. Sylvia is a parent consultant who works with parents and professionals to provide awareness that will enable them to understand how to address their primary area of needs. Success in Steps was founded in 2016 in response to a growing need for a tailored approach to support parents. You can find Sylvia at: https://www.successinsteps.ca/con tact
. A . M , l e i t n o M Sonja COLLEGE CONFIDENCE What do you do?
While maintaining a compassionate relationship, I train parents to become the best educator for their teens so they can feel confident about plans after high school.
What issues do you deal with?
I focus on communication skills and knowledge specific to helping your teens create a plan ready to implement as they approach high school graduation. Topics include college affordability, college admissions options, career training, identifying the right majors for teens, building the college list, college essay writing strategies, and so much more!
What can I expect? Let’s schedule a 30-minute call to talk about your needs and your starting point! We will determine which service plan is best for you which can include our: comprehensive workbook with action plans, templates, and agenda samples, online podcast training program if you are always on the go, 10-session online parent course, and/or one-to-one coaching
How can you help?
Helping teens plan their paths after high school can create tension and conflict in the home mostly because families are waiting too late to begin, or there isn’t enough information on what the options are, what requirements fulfill each option, and how to engage with teens to ignite their motivation to be active in making a plan. As an expert in the field of college admissions for 20 years, I will provide training and coaching that places teens at the center of planning. Parents and teens will no longer have to face this educational journey with uncertainty, worry, and confusion!
What other parents say about me “Sonja gave me the communication tools to allow me to take charge of the college process. I was familiar with the college application process, however was clueless on how to have impactful and meaningful conversations with my teen. My daughter and I are so much more closer! Thank you so much!” “I have been working with College Confidence for years and I truly will not work with anyone else. Sonja's experience is unmatched. She is professional and an expert in college admissions. She will not only advocate for your child, but will be a critical pillar in your family's journey. She's that good!” “Thank you again for your wonderful presentation/talk for our group. I feel we all (parents and students) learned quite a bit from you that night. My daughter and I both agreed the way you presented the college process, was with a lot of positive influence and enthusiasm. You made it sound challenging about writing ‘your story’ but in a way that made the girls feel special and that it is ok to like yourself and tell college why they would benefit from the you as the applicant. To go for it!”
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n a g a F Tia CERTIFIED PARENT COACH
What do you do? I am a Certified Conscious Parenting Method TM Parent Coach. I offer online coaching to parents, workshops, and also guide parents and nonparents live a more authentic life through my “Stepping into the Authentic You� course. Supporting parents to improve their relationships,
deepen connection, and find the joy in parenting is my passion!
What issues do you deal with? Supporting Parents through Transitions Strengthening the Parent-Teen Relationship Improving Communication and Creating Deeper Connection Addressing Challenges such as Screen Time, Disrespect, Anger, Boundaries, Lack of
Motivation, Anxiety, and More!
How can you help? As a mom to twin young adult daughters in college, I have firsthand experience of parenting through the teenage years. I help parents understand why your teen is behaving the way they are and how to guide, connect, and support them to create the relationship you both long for. I teach you my 5-Step S.H.I.F.T. process to help you SHIFT from Surviving to Thriving in your
family.
What can I expect? I offer confidential and nonjudgmental coaching via phone or online where we work together to guide your teen while also providing tools to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting teenagers. As we support our teens with connection, they also learn to trust themselves more
and walk through life with authenticity.
What other parents say about Tia “Tia's incredible capacity to listen without judgement, to hold a mirror up for us as parents to see what does and does not work and to offer insight into the minds of our teens, are a few of her greatest talents. I have seen example after example of how the smallest changes to my parenting styles have led to a blossoming in my daughter's heart and mind. A huge thank you to Tia for having such an impact on our family as a whole.” - A.M. “I am so grateful for Tia and her wisdom and encouragement. During our sessions I never felt judged for my mistakes. She treated me with empathy and kindness every step of the way. I feel more confident in my own abilities and I know that when my family hits the inevitable bumps in the road, I have a wonderful safe place to gain more wisdom.” - C.S. “Tia has helped me navigate the challenges of being a mom of two teenage daughters. Tia helps me to take a step back and view my situation from a different perspective or to work through my feelings of frustration or self doubt. She listens without judgement. I am so grateful for all of her knowledge and guidance.” – J.G.
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PANDEMIC BY: DANA BAKER-WILLIAMS, PARENT AND TEEN COACH Right now it is really hard to relax and it's even harder to get a moment alone. In fact, in normal, non-pandemic times mom's only average 17 minutes alone anyway! But with everyone around all the time, I know I feel like that has shrunk to a negative number! That said, It's essential that we do care for ourselves— first, for our own well-being, but also because self-care also has huge payoffs for our kids. When we"fill their own cups," we have more patience, energy, and passion to share with our families. But there's even a more important reason--our kids are watching. If we don't do things for ourselves, make time for what's important to us, that's what they learn. That they aren't important and they should not come high on their own lists. This was brought home to me by my daughter yesterday.
She was at her internship and texted to say she's be staying a few extra hours. I knew she had things she wanted to do, so I said "you do know you can say no right?" She replied, yeah i guess but I feel so bad saying no. And boom--that goes right back onto my shoulders. Why? Because I am terrible at saying no. Terrible! Know something else I'm terrible at? Taking time for me, taking care of myself. My kids always say that. Thankfully my husband is very good at taking time for himself. So I was hoping we'd balance out....
Anyway, here are a few ideas to help you take care of you! When you get up in the morning, set yourself up for a good day. How do we do that? Here are three quick things to do. 1. Say 3 Things you are Exceedingly Grateful For - This sets your mindset. People are often said to “wake up on the wrong side of the bed,” but this gets you focused in a positive place and puts you in a solid mindset. 2. Say Two Things You Want To Crush That Day - What are two things you really want to get done or knock out of the park? You cannot hit a target if you don’t know what it is. Be specific and clear. 3. Close Your Eyes and Visualize - Picture yourself leaving your home, having good interactions, and getting things done. There is a reason that sports psychologists use visualization with athletes - it makes the outcomes more likely.
Design Your Morning Ritual What else could make you feel motivated and excited for the day? Think about including the following aspects: meditation, morning journaling or affirmations. Or simply listen to your favorite music while getting ready or sitting down with a cup of tea for 5 minutes to plan your day — whatever it is that gets you in the right mindset to tackle anything that comes your way.
"SAY 3 THINGS YOU ARE EXCEEDINGLY GRATEFUL FOR"
Relax and De-stress Super quick! 1. Find an essential oil or natural scent that makes you breath deeply it's so good. Lavender lotion, a peppermint candle, or some cedarwood dabbed on your temples or in a diffuser are great ways to nourish your soul. 2. Read a book - Maybe curl up with a blanket and a book instead of your phone. 3. Go for a Walk - Take a lunch time walk or a 5 min break at work to get some fresh air. 4. Stretch - We store tension and stress in our bodies and it takes a toll. Try downward dog or some full body stretch. Releasing the kinks makes a huge difference in how my body--and mind--feels. 5. Make yourself a nice drink like chamomile tea, hot chocolate, or juice—
and sip it slowly.
Do Something That Makes You Smile No explanation needed here. Figure out what makes you smile and make that a daily practice.
Schedule Soul Time What makes you feel cozy? Maybe it’s taking a bubble bath, reading or enjoying a good glass of wine. Maybe its even something like building a cozy nest fort that you can enjoy with or without your kids. Try spending some time with a friend;. Zoom, go for a walk or meet in your backyard, 6 feet apart. We all need time with our friends. Make a list of some of your favourite things and try to make one happen each week. Sometimes having a great day can be as simple as being open to it. Like what you read and want to know more? You can connect with Dana here!
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INTUITIVE MENTOR & THETAHEALING PRACTITIONER
What do you do?
I help parents and teens strengthen their relationship with SELF.
How is this accomplished? I utilize my intuition to navigate to the origin of emotional blocks, negative experiences and beliefs that are negatively impacting your current relationship with self and others. Together we will peel the layers, with clarity, intent and new perspective, to release what no longer serves you and your teen.
What can I expect? Results. Clarity & new perspective. Resolution to undesired situations & experiences that will leave you feeling light, without carrying the emotional “load.�
How do I get started? I invite you to connect with me via email or social media to book your FREE 30-min clarity call to chat about the specific needs and changes you are looking for in your current relationship. Once enrolled in my mentorship, we will create a plan that is tailored to your specific needs and schedule weekly sessions to jump into desired change.
What can be expected by investing in MYSELF and TEEN via your Mentorship?
You will strengthen your intuition and align to #BYObestself in this 10hr FLEXIBLE program. Let your weekly sessions be tailored to you and the needs of your teen. If you are READY to shift out of your current situation and create change that lasts, this program is for you. Step into joy, positivity and a future that excites you, with the tips, exercises and healing that comes with this program! Invest in SELF to experience the change you are longing for.
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Linda is my absolute go-to person when I need support, clarity and direction. She has helped me find my way through many moments I have felt lost. Linda has also helped my teen-age daughter through many typical teen-age struggles. My daughter is a much happier person after her sessions with Linda. She works with Linda on a regular basis now and is doing amazing!! Thank you Linda for the work you do. My family is very grateful to have you on our side. Jennifer Funnell (Ontario, Canada) Linda is a gifted healer - she intuitively gets to the source of my obstacles and answers questions I didn't even know how to ask. I know that I can get on a call with her and I can trust that I'll feel better in just 60 minutes. She's helped guide me ‌.to follow my intuition and trust how to be in the flow. Before our session today, I felt untethered, lost in space, disconnected from my body - anxious, fearful, and overwhelmed - and definitely not creative! After our session I felt re-inspired, like a weight was lifted off my shoulders - and I felt connected to myself again. I highly recommend you go to Linda when you need help that you can't always put words to - she'll figure it out! -Jen Pillow (British Columbia, Canada) Working with Linda is a great experience overall. Coming in to sessions and working with Linda helped me clear my mind and really think rationally after. As well it calms and relaxes your mind and body during sessions. Working with Linda really helped me think about different aspects of situations, and working on finding out more about myself. After leaving I felt very positive and clear minded always looking forward to the next session. Nicholas ~ 18 years old (Ontario, Canada)
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t t e r r a B e n n a e D RADIANT LEADERSHIP COACHING FOR MOMS
What do you do?
I offer online coaching to sensitive, empathic moms who want to be a strong leader for their pre-teens and teens
What issues do you deal with?
Anxiety, resentment, frustration, energy leaks, boundaries.
How can you help? I help moms connect to deeply sourced LOVE energy to be the compassionate and strong leader their teen needs.
What can I expect? I offer a free 30 minute call to see if we are good fit for one of my private or group coaching programs. Private calls happen once a week over the phone. Group coaching happens over the phone and video conferencing. Ask me how to gain access to my library of resources, and my monthly Radiant Mom Tribe calls!
What other parents say about Deanne This work has transformed the way I see my teens and it has given me a gift to help them develop their confidence and achieve their goals.” –Deb Hemmaway I find that Deanne presents topics in a very positive, mindful and deliberate way. After the coaching calls I feel grounded and inspired to connect with my daughter in a new way. This is in contrast to some presentations when I leave feeling deflated and thinking “I should do this” or “I should be this”. – Jutta Shaw “This is really working! I’m glad I chose this coaching over therapy, because instead of ruminating over what’s not working, I have some clear, practical things that I can try” – Rebecca, mom of a high school aged son
Three things you can do right now to create an energetic connection with your teen. 1- Put your hand on your heart and take three slow, deep breaths 2- Envision a peaceful, connected moment with your teen in your mind’s eye 3- Send love out to your teen. Visualise pink light radiating out from your heart and enveloping your teen.
How to be a Leader for your Teen How can I find you? You can connect with me here:
d n a l n e e t Doreen S RELATIONSHIP COACH
What do you do? I offer the Parenting with Intention Workshop online and coach parents of teens to help them navigate their changing relationship, married couples who desire to deepen their relationship, and teens who desire to grow in resilience.
What issues do you deal with? Relationship-Managing EmotionsNeuroplasticity-Creating ResilienceDevelopment of Powerful world changing teens
How can you help? I help create awareness, and provide tools and strategies for developing deep, meaningful relationships with your teen, self and God, through coaching and transformational neuroscience.
What can I expect? The Parenting With Intention Workshop is a four week workshop done on Zoom and runs quarterly. For one on one coaching, our calls usually last 45 minutes (30 minutes for teens) and can be done from anywhere in the world. I offer a free inquiry call to see if I’m the right coach for you and your family.
What other parents say about Doreen “After applying the new things I learned, I have figured out ways to defuse situations before they ignite - which avoids unproductive arguing and I'm focused on the message I want to teach her. This class was amazing!” Jennifer Neilson “We learned techniques to bring down the escalated emotions and instead begin productive communication where we can all learn and think constructively. More importantly, we learned great techniques on how to have healthy communication with our kids! sign up...you will not be disappointed.” Elizabeth Renna “Many times, we reacted abruptly from our own emotions. It was eye-opening to learn that we could handle situations in a completely different way. It was also helpful to learn from the other parents that we were not alone in our challenges to better connect with our teens. We learned tools that provided us with the ability to pause before reacting and to look at situations from both sides.” Elizabeth Pilla
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d E . M , y t r a o R ' O y Case PARENT COACH
What do you do?
I lead live and online parenting workshops, I coach over the phone, and I host a weekly podcast for parents called, The Joyful Courage Podcast.
What issues do you deal with?
My work is really focused on supporting parents with being ON the parenting journey. It is messy, and our teens are exploring who they are, making mistakes, and needing a healthy adult to be in relationship with through it all. An adult who is grounded and clear on how they want to show up and influence the situations they find themselves in with their kids.
How can you help?
There are so many ways to work with me. My weekly podcast is free and available to all through iTunes, Spotify, iheartradio, or anywhere you are currently listening to podcasts. I lead a quarterly program online for parents of teens that is based on Positive Discipline and being a part of an active community of parents on the raising teens journey. I recently published a book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey, that is being very well received, all about focusing in on our own self regulation. And I am available for one on one coaching as well. All of these offers can be found on my website - www.joyfulcoruage.com
What can I expect? Expect to feel seen and heard. I do free 15 minute explore calls that gives us time to see if we are a good fit for coaching. I always show up with authenticity and listening. I walk beside you on the path of parenting teens, and have deep respect for the process. I am all about personal growth and development, so you can expect to take a good hard look at what YOU are bringing to the current relationships in your life.
What other parents say about me
"Casey is an amazing coach and facilitator. She is organized, thoughtful, wise, and so vulnerable. I never felt like I was being judged and criticized. I just felt loved and encouraged to be the best parent I can be (mistakes and all!)." - Katie L. "Casey has extensive knowledge to share and an adept way of guiding you through processing what you've learned so you can use it in practical ways as you parent your teens." - Beth H "Working with Casey as a coach is one of the most powerful things my husband and I have done together with regards to parenting. Her kindness and welcoming presence put my husband right at ease and he quickly let his defensiveness down. This allowed for us both to come together and start developing a common language from which to parent." - Juliet P "Casey- you’re an exceptional coach and facilitator. I think it was Katie Lowry who said that you are meant to do this work and I wholeheartedly agree. Sometimes when you talk I feel like you’ve been inside my head. You’re also a really good listener and very genuine. You’ve really influenced the way I parent, and really the way I see myself as a person. Love you!" - Kaite S.
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Aparna Venkataraman PARENT COACH WELLNESS EDUCATOR MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER MINDFULNESS EDUCATOR
What do you do? I offer 1-on-1 online parent coaching and guided meditation sessions to parents and teens, as well as e-guides and essential oil education.
What issues do you deal with?
Anxiety, depression, self-worth, communication, mindfulness, academic focus, leadership skills.
How can you help?
I offer practical techniques and tips for self-care, emotion self-regulation, communication and overall confidence to help you feel more flow, joy, ease and connection!
What can I expect? I offer a free 30-minute consultation to discuss your needs and we meet either weekly or biweekly. You will also have access to all of my mindfulness and essential oil resources.
What other parents say about me It was really lovely having direct phrases to communicate more with my child and partner, as I felt less stress and more equipped to manage things in the future and love myself more in the process. — Edith D. I really loved hearing her perspective and experiences and how she could relate to what I was going through with my daughter - she’s very compassionate and helped me to be more mindful. — Kelly A. After working with her, my children and I saw a huge shift in how we thought about and connected with one another. Now we all have a loving, fun relationship! — Andrea M.
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r e t r o P h Debora MOM COACH
What do you do? I support moms who feel overwhelmed and lost in motherhood and at times wonder who they are. The girl you were before having kids, her dreams and goals still matter. We get to work creating the strategies and systems that will support you in creating the atmosphere you want and a life that you love.
What issues do you deal with? Overwhelm, Faith, Confidence, Finding Peace, Raising Daughters/Sons
How can you help? I provide strategies and systems to help you gain the clarity you seeking on what needs to be done, building confidence in yourself and your instincts as a mom and woman and finding the courage to determine what it is you need and how to get it.
What can I expect? I offer a FREE 30 min. strategy call after filling out the application to work with me. If we decide to work together, we will begin scheduling calls and I will provide you access to the curriculum. Apply here: bit.ly/letschatmom
About me... I am the wife of my college sweetheart Clif, for 30 years and mother of 3 adult children 29, 25, 23 and a bonus son. Currently, a regular guest contributor on Virginia This Morning on CBS WTVR and you can read my guest blogs on CollegiateParent here https://www.collegiateparent.com/author/debor ah-porter/ . We are enjoying the empty nest phase and love when we get to spend time with our adult children.
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HOW TO STOP YELLING by Claire Cetti, Parent Coach
Wish you could stop yelling at your kids, but just can't? Feeling like yelling is the only way to get your kid's attention, to listen to you? Tired of the frustration, and guilt, you feel after you've lost your cool, yet again? Good news. There IS another way to reach your kids and seek resolution, no matter the situation, by spending time in connection rather than in conflict and coercion. And it begins with you.
Everything we do is a choice. This may be hard to hear, however, to effectively stop yelling the first step is to just stop. Even if you're mid yell, mid- frustration, agitation notice it, see it and choose to STOP. This choice to stop yourself creates the pause necessary to get you, and your brain thinking again. When we are in that space of yelling, frustration, aka trigger, we are hijacked, our brains are NOT thinking clearly. Recognizing our hijacked state is the beginning of turning things around from conflict to connection by way of accessing our brains again.
Wish you could stop yelling at your kids, but just can't?
“Recognizing our hijacked state is the beginning of turning things around from conflict to connection...�
“Choose the relationship with your child over being right.”
Now that you can think clearly, you can now begin to see things clearly, take a look around and ask yourself what’s going on? What’s happening for you? What’s your agenda and what is the problem you are trying to solve? Ask the same questions about your child? They too have their agenda and problem they are trying to solve. By separating you from your child and the two different experiences happening at this moment, you are more able to problem solve OUTSIDE the emotions rather within all the emotions of the conflict together.
Once you understand what’s happening, effectively moving from conflict to connection requires another choice. Remember, everything we do is a choice. Choose the relationship with your child over being right. Yes, parents, you may be “right” and you want your child to know and learn the lesson at this moment. Release the need to be right, right now, and choose to be in a relationship with your child and their experience at this moment. Doing so allows you to flip the script from being about me, for both of you, to WE and how can we see this through, together. This incredibly powerful choice allows you to explore with your child what is happening for them and why. Engaging and authentically seeing your child’s perspective fills their deep need and desire to be seen, heard, validated, and understood, and THIS is what brings them to a place of being more receptive to YOU. It is in this place of connection that any correction, boundary, teaching, or problem you may be trying to solve can be resolved by way of spending this time in connection with your child rather than spending time in conflict. Will this get rid of all tantrums? Meltdowns? Disagreements? No, of course not. Your child is only human and a young one at that. However, these will likely become less intense because of the safety your child will feel from you through the pattern of connection you are creating with them when they are in those moments of big emotions.
Will this stop you from ever getting upset, angry, or triggered? No, you are only human too! However, your ability to recognize the onset of these triggers and your own emotions will likely allow you to more quickly choose the route to be in connection with your child over joining them in that initial place of chaos and conflict - leaving you more calm and confident as a parent and connected with your child.
About Claire Cetti, Parent Coach Claire helps mamas who desire to change the parenting patterns that are not serving them or their kids well, feel more calm, confident, and connected to their kids. You can find Claire here!
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We are here for you! We are heading into the 6th month of the pandemic and it may not be over for some time yet. If you are wondering how to navigate life right now, please know that we are here for you. Our community of qualified Parent Coaches are ready to support you and walk with you through this challenging time. Reach out to them for a free 30-minute confidential call here!
Some Ideas to support your family during the pandemic... 1. Hold Family Meetings weekly to stay connected and talk about what you like and what you don't like about your time together during the pandemic. 2. Create a contract to include items you want to keep as you move out of isolation. Have everyone from the family sign it. Once the world opens up fully again you may forget the things that you liked; writing it down will help keep you on track. 3. Be careful. Encourage your kids to continue to wash their hands frequently for at least 20 seconds. Notice how often they are touching their face and help them recognize when they are doing this. 4. Be kind. Not everyone will be ready to integrate into 'normal' activities. Never judge or shame someone that is not ready to interact and participate in daily life activities like they did before the pandemic. 5. Stay in touch with your older kids that will be heading back to college or university. These are unprecedented times and they will be doing their best to 'get back to normal' but may need your support to navigate their emotions. 6. Think about how you were not prepared for this pandemic and make a decision to be prepared if it happens again. Pandemic-proof your work, stay healthy, and create a savings account and put money away each month for emergencies such as this.
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If you are struggling with how your life has been affected by the pandemic, reach out for support. Our Parent Coaches can help you work through a range of emotions. They specialize in everything from newborn care, to college success, from toddler tantrums to marriage support and more. Most offer a 30-minute free confidential chat to help you through life during and after the pandemic. Together we will be stronger and more prepared for our new and improved postpandemic lives. Just don't forget that you have all the power and control to create what that life will look like. It is, and always has been, in your hands. Sending love and strength and wisdom to you all! We have learned so much and now it is time to collectively make sure we live our best lives - in our own unique way!
GOT TEENS? worried? struggling? looking for answers?
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ORDER OUT OF CHAOS
What do you do? Order Out of Chaos’ mission is to provide hands-on education, guidance and coaching to parents and their students through our customized products and programs, so all children – both mainstream and with learning issues – can develop the necessary skills they need to experience success in learning and in life. Knowing how to help your child develop the skills they need doesn’t come naturally for everyone. Order Out of Chaos is built on the philosophy that the coaching process is a journey that begins and ends with YOU. Our process is organic – it evolves as we figure out TOGETHER what needs changing and what works best for you. The end results are tailor-made to fit your needs. We will focus you and help you, but YOU set the pace and the tone.
What issues do you deal with? We coach both parents and students to help with study skills, ADHD management, executive functioning skills, time management, procrastination and so much more.
How can you help? We provide workshops and webinars, products and programs, group and one-on-one coaching for both parents and their students. Everything is available virtually. So you choose how and to what extent you need support and coaching.
What can I expect? You can expect to be supported, guided and nurtured. The Order Out of Chaos community is a robust and active community.
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s n a v E h JoBet TRANSFORMATIONAL LIFE COACH
What do you do? I help young women make a smooth transition to college.
What issues do you deal with? Everything college related; finances, mental and physical health, relationships, college safety, etc.
How can you help? I provide them with the tools they need, a community of like minded young women and support.
What can I expect? I always offer a free 30-minute call to see if I am a good fit for your child. From there we start with what is most important to your child. I will use my experience as a college instructor and my tools as a college success coach to get her to where she wants to do be as soon as possible.
What clients say about me: "JoBeth was always there to help me, she taught me everything I need about the school and made sure I was involved, but besides being a great teacher, she is a great person and she helped me improve my personal life and my life at school. I am really grateful that she was my coach."- Lilibeth "Before even graduating high school, Mrs. Evans was already helping me figure life out. She helped me with many scholarships applications that allowed me to go to the University of Arkansas for FREE. As a graduation gift, she gave me a book called “The Total Money Makeover” by Dave Ramsey. Of course, as a freshman in college, I had no interest in anything other than enjoying my freedom and having fun. I started doing bad in school. I called Mrs. Evans one day & talked to her about what was going. She told me to “get my act together” and that we all knew that without my scholarships I wouldn’t be able to afford college. Mrs. Evans has always been an honest, caring, & extremely nice person. She is an amazing teacher and friend. Years later and that book is still helping me be better and more responsible."-Carla "Jo saved my life mentally and emotionally -- I have chronic OCD coupled with depression and anxiety, and Jo is the first mental health professional I've ever worked with who I have felt completely safe and not judged by - I will be forever grateful for her empathetic and therapeutic genius!"-Becca
Helping young women transition to college How can I find you? You can connect with me here:
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PARENT COACH
What do you do? I empower parents dealing with youth struggling with mental health and addiction issues to focus on the present situation.
What issues do you deal with? I deal with parent's feelings of guilt, shame, anger, anxiety, other relationships that get affected by the stress; and overall mental health of the parent.
How can you help? I offer training I have learned over a period of 6 years in a 6 week program to empower parents in dealing with the areas within themselves that they can control to keep them in a healthy mindset - allows parents to be the role model their child needs and wants and allows the parent to deal with longer term issues one step at a time.
What can I expect? I use Zoom video to connect with you face to face in a confidential space - you can come alone or with your partner. This call is not time sensitive and we will get to talk about your situation, we will focus on the outcome you desire and I will share with you the 6 week program outline and the outcome you can achieve. I also offer a three week intensive course if that applies to your situation.
What other parents say about me: "She helped me tap into my strength and courage and reminded me who I truly am. I felt empowered and stronger after our session. I loved the questions she asked me and enjoyed finding the answers to those questions." Natalia S.
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o t a z r o C a Syvli SUCCESS IN STEPS
What do you do? Parent Consultant | Behaviour Coach | Speaker | Founder of Success in Steps
What issues do you deal with? ADD/ADHD, Anxiety Disorder, Autism, Learning Disabilities, Parent-Child Interaction, NonCompliance/ Defiance, Parenting, School Problems, Stress Management
How can you help? Success in Steps helps overwhelmed and frustrated parents spend less time on challenges and behaviours and more time enjoying their family. Success in Steps, parent consulting and behaviour coaching helps families achieve their family goals through a multi-disciplinary approach. Supporting you, the parents understand not only the reason/ 'why' behind the behaviour but what's maintaining it as well. Services are focused on both the parents' and children's strengths and needs as a whole so that the positive impacts can benefit the entire family.
What can I expect? Success in Steps offer parent consulting that acts as your personalized self-help book, customized to your family's unique situation, needs and goals. You can access services through our 1:1 individual consultation or in participating in one of our two parenting programs. Click to find out more!
What Parents Have to Say: My family had an extremely positive experience with Sylvia. She showed us the highest level of professionalism, understanding, and patience. Sylvia always took the time to answer all of our questions and any concerns we had. I especially appreciated the video conferencing, and her willingness to work with my family's schedule. Thank you Sylvia, for your guidance and incredible support! Sylvia is a compassionate, dedicated and extremely knowledgeable professional who helped us implement specific strategies in our family. We feel much more confident now as parents and the stress level in our family has gone down so much! We are grateful for everything she has done for us! Sylvia was extremely knowledgable and helpful in finding a solution when it came to my daughter's behaviour. She provided us with easy tools to guide her, which in the end made us feel more confident in our parenting style. I highly recommend her to anyone seeking a patient and resourceful parent consultant.
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