Success Champions
“You are the worst coach on the planet!” By Dana Pharant
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n my 26 years of working with clients I have only had 3 people who have said this or something similar, and they ALL share two key things.
“They all talked a good game, but in reality, when we touched the pain point of taking ALL the ownership for the crap showing up in their life .... I get yelled at and told that it is ALL MY fault that they are failing.”
First is that I compromised in some way shape or form on the payment thing. I allowed them to pay nothing up front, or let the payments slide, or gave them a discount: most often in the name of wanting more clients. I love helping people, but I forgot that when people don’t pay for something, they also don’t value it. Then I would go over in our session times because they were suffering, and this would happen repeatedly. This over giving, and not making them pay what was required when it was required created an imbalance and a debt that they felt energetically, and caused them to go into resistance to the coaching. However, that was only a smaller part of the problem. The second, and bigger problem
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was that I missed that they were not actually willing to lean way the fuck in when I called them on the victim ass bullshit that was running the show. They all talked a good game, but in reality, when we touched the pain point of taking ALL the ownership for the crap showing up in their life .... I get yelled at and told that it is ALL MY fault that they are failing. If you have run into these sorts of clients here are some things that I have found to be super helpful. 1. Bust out of the scarcity mindset and be willing to say NO to any client who is not a “Hell Yes” ideal client. Feeling like I “needed the money” has gotten me into way more sticky jams - over and over again. It makes me ignore my intuition and then shit goes sideways. 2. Have a contract that the new client signs giving me permission to call them on their shit. And pulling from my days as a Dominatrix, I add in a “safe-word” that indicates it is time to call bullshit, what it is, and at this point they have the option to lean in or jump ship. This allows them to take full ownership on being called out and lean into the discomfort so that we can shift it out and then get back to being a badass in business. 3. Learning to recognize and honor when a client is not a great fit; seeing who talks a great game but will not fully lean in. I choose to say No to these people even when they really want to work with me. I know that it
