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Songs
have been sung and stories have been written about love in every way, shape and form while By David Pilz we endlessly explore this phenomena with a fervour fanaticism. We sing about finding love and it fills our heart to bursting, and we sing about enjoying that warm endless never ending forever love, and we sing about being so deflated when it goes away that we wanna die. I’ve yet to hear a song that legitimately shares how powerfully ‘in love with myself’ that I am.
What is this thing that seems so powerfully elusive? We join chat rooms, apps, clubs, parties, gatherings and an eclectic variety of venues to ‘find love’ from that external source that will fulfill us completely. We have a need yet unfulfilled. We internally experience lack when we externalize our love source. 13
Love
What if I told you that Love is an entirely internal experience? When we fall in love there is indeed a chemical reaction that feeds our pheromonal alchemy with entirely personalized happy drugs. It’s so powerful it seems like we are overdosing gloriously and we are so very willing to bask and swim in our own cocktail. The person we assign to invoke these feelings is chocolate cake, fuzzy kittens and a suitcase full of gold all in one. As long as that person inspires these powerful feelings we continue to love .. but do we really love ‘them?’
When that someone makes us feel sexy, smart, courageous, wise and so much more, we love them. What happens when that same person suddenly makes us feel stupid, unwanted and less .. we assume ‘they’ must have changed and we don’t love them quite so much. Why didn’t we see them for the monster they were?
Cuz all love is self love .. sure, folks will twist this up and suggest that it’s narcissism or worse, but truly .. the love experience that we love so much is all about falling in love with ourselves, so why do we perpetually give that power to someone else?
