The Energiser with The House Coach By: Aria de Lima “It’s your birthright to be surrounded by beauty. It’s your birthright to be confident and happy and healthy and wealthy. Our homes are a reflection of where we’re at. Our spaces can foster us or hinder us but when we’re aware we can start making changes. Growing up, I had to live in a home that was disorganized and dysfunctional. I had to have the parents that I have because, let’s just pretend Martha Stewart was my mom. It wouldn’t be the same. This would not be my thing because at three or four years old I loved my grandmother's design in Germany. I loved how her desk was positioned in a command position. I didn’t even know what the hell that was at that time! I would watch movies and look at the decor and would forget the storyline because I was focusing on the beautiful kitchen in the scene. I really connect with the furniture pieces and how things need to be placed and how the whole room kind of sings.
I didn’t know it then but it was like instead of being angry about why I had these parents, I needed to say thank you because I needed those parents. I needed a mother who was depressed, who didn’t clean the house, who couldn’t organize. I needed to be living in a space where I couldn’t have any friends over because I was so embarrassed. I needed a space where I would almost be in tears to say how bad I felt, where I had to explain that this is not who I am and that my parents' house was not a representation of me. Before I became The House Coach, I had a business called Show and Sell. Show and Sell was a staging and design business I started in 2004. It kind of started when one day I went into somebody’s home and they were
