SELFCARE
The power of
forgiveness Born into a world of balance between yin and yang, our experience as humans may likely be an aspect of both.
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n this journey, I have found forgiveness to be one of the many beautiful gifts we get to give ourselves. A time in my life, feeling betrayed by another, I woke in the night, asking this question, “What if I choose to forgive?” The ability to do so at the time seems very foreign, but gave me strength and made me feel like I had a choice. I did not want to remain as an unwilling prisoner behind the gates of anger, pain and resentment toward that person and deny myself the things that are rightfully mine – happiness and joy in the way I truly want and deserve them. And so, my healing journey of strength and courage began. Where each step was an opportunity to forgive again and again. The triggers would creep up from all directions; a reminder of past hurts, the tone of someone’s voice or words that I’d overhear on the bus. Each reminder represented an opportunity, in that moment, to choose to forgive.
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Whilst on this journey, it helped to answer these questions:
• Why am I making this choice? • What will I miss out on if I don’t forgive? • What will I gain when I do?
I realised that the reason why I held onto the pain from the past was to protect myself from experiencing it again in the future. Causing me to avoid taking risks, as it made me feel vulnerable and unsafe. This happened because I have not yet learned the lessons from this experience. In every moment of pain, there’s an opportunity to learn and grow. To help me do this, I’d ask myself, “What can I learn from this that will make me even stronger and more resilient?” I hope that my journey helps to support you on yours. Forgiveness is one of the many beautiful gifts to help you live a happy, free and joyful life. Eva Lenghart is a self-development writer, intuitive artist, life coach and motivational speaker, offering courses and a self-help tool called Confident Woman Freedom Cards at Gnostic Forest. www.radiantcreator.com.
