Las Vegas Woman Magazine Fall 2020

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Adjusting Our Sail for Family Success by Kimberly Malloy

T A K E A D V A N T A G E O F TH E P RE VAILING WINDS

“I can’t change the direction of the wind but I can adjust my sail to always reach my destination.” Jimmy Dean It seems like a lifetime ago when we set our 2020 goals and a lifetime of events has occurred in this short period of time. This year has been filled with grief and it has caused many of us to throw out the concept of reaching our destination. I think we can all agree there are many things we do not have the ability to control, but I submit there are just as many opportunities for us to make choices that can have an impact. Personally, my mid-year goal is to NOT spend time complaining about what isn’t working or whether something is fair, but to spend more time figuring out how to adjust my sail to get my family closer toward

MOTIVATING

our newly revised goals of growing closer as a family, having authentic communication, including discussing our emotions and clarity about our priorities. There is no shortage of emotions right now, especially grief. Grief is the response to loss and this season has been full of loss. No need to pretend we are doing fantastic. Not everyone is comfortable showing emotions as they fear others can’t handle the intensity. Emotions are meant to be felt. Being sad doesn’t mean you won’t feel happy, feeling disappointed doesn’t mean someone is ungrateful nor does being angry mean you dislike everyone. Letting our children see emotions, naming them and talking about them is healthy, which can lead to learning tools to manage what life presents to us. Life is messy, and when we don’t show up for someone like we

wanted to, as Brené Brown says, “circle back.” There is power in being able to go back. For example, “Mom did not respond in the way I would have liked. I apologize. Can we talk about that again?” Kids don’t need to see perfection, nor do they need to see us beat ourselves up and say things like “I am such an idiot.” We all need to see more circle back and self-compassion moments, and less dehumanization of others. Another big challenge in today’s family is the spaces we are occupying. We are working, living, going to school, resting and playing in the same spaces. We are having to adjust the sails so we can meet our individual goals, but our family goals may be suffering. Even if our house is comfortable in size, it seems we are confined to these places and it is impacting how we see each other, and who we are becoming. It can be stressful and emotions can get triggered. This

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YOUTUBE CHANNELS

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page 80

NEW AGE NETWORKING

4min
pages 74-75

DISTANCE LEARNING, CO-OP SCHOOLING, HOMESCHOOLING

4min
pages 78-79

TRIBUTE TO ROLINDA ANN BAKEL

4min
pages 76-77

PODCASTS

1min
pages 81-84

RANGE ROVER EVOQUE A VEHICLE FOR ALL SEASONS

1min
page 71

ADJUSTING OUR SAIL FOR FAMILY SUCCESS

4min
pages 72-73

CHANGING TIMES

4min
pages 68-70

MASTERMINDING IN THE MIDST OF A PANDEMIC

4min
pages 66-67

ELOPING IN FABULOUS LAS VEGAS

4min
pages 64-65

COVER STORY: HEALING EMPOW-HER-D WITH A BIG DOSE OF HEART

9min
pages 50-55

TOUCH DEPRIVATION

3min
pages 60-63

HAS THE LAS VEGAS PROPERTY MARKET IMPLODED OR EXPLODED

3min
pages 48-49

MONEY UNDER STRESS

4min
pages 46-47

AUTUMN BEAUTY ECCOCI

1min
page 45

FAMILY LIFE HAS CHANGED

4min
pages 42-44

STAGE YOUR CLOSETS

4min
pages 30-31

SMALL DELIGHTS

4min
pages 22-23

THE START OF THE 2020 SCHOOL YEAR

7min
pages 24-27

TEN WAYS TO GET MOTIVATED

3min
pages 28-29

WINES & DINES

9min
pages 32-41

BEHIND THE SCENES OF A COVER IMAGE IN THE AGE OF COVID

3min
pages 18-19

UNITED WAY: TEAMWORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK

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pages 20-21
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