Fall 2008 On the Minds of Moms

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On The Minds Of Moms is dedicated to providing a community of local support and real-life advice for the modern day mom who is on the go and needs to know. We are inspired to help the woman behind “the mom” balance it all by offering support, validation and reassurance she is a good mom wanting only the best for herself and family.

On The Minds Of Moms is a quarterly magazine written by, for and about local moms in the greater Fargo-Moorhead area. On The Minds Of Moms strives to achieve a balance between useful information and entertaining content. Written to serve as the local reading alternative to family magazines that are produced for a larger regional/national audience.

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WOO WHOO! If you’re reading this it means our first issue of On The Minds Of Moms is on the streets! A few months ago we started brainstorming. We wondered, in a community our size, why isn’t there something specifically for moms that is a positive, fun resource with valuable information. Then we thought, ‘why can’t we do it?’ and here we are with a quarterly magazine and website.

Our magazine offers events, special interest stories, profiles, a featured mom and more. The website is your constant source of updated information from the magazine as well as a community of support where local moms can connect. We want you to remember that On The Minds Of Moms is For Moms, About Moms & By Moms!

Putting together this premier issue has been such an experience. We have met so many wonderful people and moms in the process. We truly live in an amazing community. There are many we must thank for making this issue possible. First, thank you, Scott for your design style and channeling your feminine side. The magazine looks amazing. Karina, thank you for your hard work on our featured mom. It’s awesome and we can’t put into words how much we appreciate all you did. Ria, thanks for the beautiful photos that tell a story all themselves. Sara & Kara, thank you for setting the tone for our future Mod Moms with your wonderful responses. Kathleen, thank you for sharing your story with us. You are a fabulous woman that anyone would be lucky to call a friend. Holly & Kris, you go girls! Your little ones will be so proud of the entrepreneur in you. David, thanks for being our token male! You rock! Lindsay, thanks for your creative help in our early stages. Lisa, thank you for your sharp eye and honesty while finding our journalistic errors. Contributors, thank you for your dedication and lending your expertise. Advertisers, thank you for taking a chance on us and seeing the passion we have to provide a top-notch publication for area moms. Lastly, a HUGE thank you to our families for their love and the unbelievable support they have provided as we take this leap.

So, here’s to the first of many issues! Enjoy!

Dani & Sheri

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Writer | Moorhead

With roots in Grand Forks, UND graduate in Speech Pathology, Karina is a stayat-home mom to Camryn (9), Lauren (7), and Max (4 ½). When she isn’t crazy busy chauffeuring her kids to activities she enjoys reading, writing, running, visiting with friends and longs for a date night with her husband, Darren.

Writer | Fargo

A Masters Degree educator and Jefferson Elementary school counselor, this mom to Ellie (3) and Jack (6) has a love for the ball diamonds. Whether it be co-ed play with husband Brian, middle-school coaching, or her greatest joy as a mom, supporter to her son’s t-ball team, Laura always seems to find a way to squeeze it all in.

Native of Bismarck, Penny is the mother of four grown children and grandmother of one. A once proud stay-athome mom, she found her career in the financial industry where she now represents RDA Financial as a budget management specialist. She enjoys reading, quilting, teaching piano, and going for walks and bike rides with her husband Kevin.

Writer | Fargo

Founder of Crossroads

Consulting, Jodie has a true passion for helping others identify and discover their passion for life and desires in career. No stranger to searching for her own true path, Jodie has worked in radio advertising, as a career placement recruiter and most recently opened her own businesses. Jodie and husband Eli are proud parents to Foster (6) and Keaton (2).

Photographer | Moorhead

Originator of Rialee

Photography, this once child care professional, wife, and mom of four has been able to turn her hobby of artistic style, with her combined passion for children and photography, into a very successful career. Modern and fresh, Ria photographs with 100% natural light on location as well as in her new natural light loft studio in downtown Fargo.

Writer | Fargo

Speech Language Coordinator and part owner of Pediatric Therapy Partners, this busy mom of two, one of whom has a disability, provides an outpatient therapy facility that offers physical and occupational therapy, and speech to the F-M area. Janette has also taught at the college level focusing on traumatic brain injury for the pediatric population.

Karina Hodny

Jodie Harvala

Laura Sokolofsky

Ria Czichotzki

Penny Ripplinger

Writer | Fargo

Janette VenaasGilbraith

the otmom list

the average number of minutes American woman spend on household chores each day

the average age of new moms today vs. 21 in 1970

7,300

the year the first microwave was introduced at the cost of $7,000 dollars

the average number of diaper changes babies will have had by their second birthday

in five preschoolers are cared for in a daycare center while their mom works

Source: www.happyworker.com 80 1 25 1955

“I know how to do anything – I’m a Mom ”

—Roseanne Barr

mod mom

Hockhalter

age 34

REALTOR/real estate consultant

married mom of 1

fargo

my definition of a mod mom is…

I like to think any mom is a mod mom. To have a child, love them, raise them the best you can, and encourage them to live their life as present as possible…what could anyone else want more from life!

if I could pick a song to represent my life, it would be… Brandi Carlisle - The Story. Honestly, I went out and bought her CD because of some rave reviews, popped it in my CD player and literally laughed out loud in amazement of the song, The Story. To get that kind of emotion from a song means so much to me. Any mom, wife, daughter, friend, has to be amazed by the song. Give it a try! Wow!

outside my family I am most passionate about…

I truly love to simply enjoy life, which is hard for many people caught up today’s world. My husband & I are reading A New Earth by Ekert Tolle right now, and it is enlightening us on some ways to do this even more!

my day goes smoothly when…

Waking up to a gorgeous sky, and have my husband, my daughter and myself have a ‘peaceful’ getting ready morning. It doesn’t always happen, and that is fine, but when it does, it kick starts your day and there is no stopping that flow!

Sara

photography by | rialee photography

the quality I admire most in my mom is…

My mom put up with me through teenage years. I was a handful. So, because she got through that and is still my loving mom, one of my best friends and advocates…I couldn’t ask for more. That amazing unconditional love makes me a better person and mom to my Sofia.

the hair product I can’t live without…

Aveda - Brilliance spray. It smells so good I can’t even take it. I get it at Oliveries!

I make time to be involved with…

Free time is hard to come by these days, but I do support D.A.R.E of Cass & Clay Counties, and I help the officers out when they need me. I also have benefited from Jodee Bock’s various book clubs. The last one was Think & Grow Rich…an amazing read about living life!

the parenting trick I have learned from my husband is…

My husband Jon is quite laid back, but very loving towards our daughter. I love to watch him with her because I can see how much they simply love each other. I think taking time to just ‘be’ with her and turn all the noise off is the best we can do for them, and ourselves!

the funniest thing my daughter has said is… She came home from Pre School singing “My Names’ Gene, and I work in a button factory”… a song she learned that day. Find a children’s CD with this song so your child can learn it…

anytime you want a smile on your face or a laugh, ask them to sing it…it works! We laughed so hard.

my biggest splurge or guilty pleasure is… Hands down, a massage or facial…even better, both one right after the other!

the last thing I say to my daughter at night is… I love you, beautiful!

the front of my refrigerator currently displays… Sofia’s artwork

I have been a bridesmaid… 6 wonderful times!

one mom tip I would like to share with other moms is…

Love your children and always tell them how fabulous they are. Encourage them that they can do anything!

mod mom

Kara Bailey

age 29 & holding

daycare provider

married mom of 3

fargo

your definition of a mod mom is…

A mom who knows how to have fun & relate to her kids, but is strong enough & wise enough to know when to be the adult.

what is your must have accessory?

Chapstick – I have to have it with me at all times!

my day goes smoothly when…

I am able to get up in the morning before anyone else & have my alone time.

quality I admire most in my closest friend?

Honesty

photography by | rialee photography

what TV show do you most hate to admit you watch?

Bret Michael’s Rock of Love

do you belong to a local club/group?

I’m an active volunteer at my church.

i’m proud of my family’s ability to… Sincerely love each other.

what parenting trick have you learned from your husband?

To be a better listener.

what is your biggest splurge or guilty pleasure?

Leaving my kids at home to take a vacation with my husband.

the last thing you say to your kids at night is… I tell them ‘Good Night & I Love You’ every night.

who inspires you?

My Parents. No matter what hardships our family faced, they taught us to face it head on with courage, strength & a lot of love. They taught me the importance of family.

august events

2

5-7

Moorhead Library Look

What’s Cookin Movies

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

The Spiderwick Chronicles at 2pm.

4

Me-N-My-Shadow

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Let your child’s imagination run wild! At the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center, children have the opportunity to make a masterpiece by using supplied creative materials. For ages 3-5 from 3:30pm5pm. Pre-registration is required. $10.60 fee. Adult must accompany child.

4-7

Clay Camp: Music, Masks and Magic

701-232-3821

www.plainsart.org

Get inspired and make a mess with mud at the Plains Arts Museum! For ages 8-11 from 9am-1pm, use clay in a variety of projects and reveal the magic of your imagination. $99 for members/ $110 for nonmembers.

5 Park it!

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

The Excellent Art Teacher will be coming to a neighborhood near you for an afternoon full of arts, crafts and fun! All supplies needed to paint, draw, glue or color an art project will be supplied. FREE at Lincoln Park. Adult supervision required. Groups of 10+ should call ahead.

5 & 6

Moorhead Library

PreschoolStorytime

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

Bring your preschooler in to listen to the story about Firefighters. 6:30pm on the 5th (Family Craft Night to follow) and 10:30am on the 6th.

5-7

FM RedHawks

701-235-6161

www.fmredhawks.com

FM RedHawks take on Winnipeg at Newman Outdoor Field. 7pm start each day.

Critter Camp: Cats & Dogs

701-227-9240

www.redriverzoo.org

Red River Zoo offers kids ages 4-6 the opportunity to learn about animals and the environment through games, crafts, and hands-on animal encounters! Session run 10am-11:30am or 1:30pm-3pm. Fee ranges from $55-$65.

7

Community Play Day

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Join in one or all of the festivities at Rheault Farm! Kids will have fun playing games, crafting an art project and playing on the playground. Daycares are welcome. Adult supervision is required. Open 9am-11am & 1pm-3pm. FREE event!

8

Fargo Library’s Friday Movie

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Free movie at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Showing “The King and I” (G) at 1:30pm. Free popcorn.

8-10

FM RedHawks

701-235-6161

www.fmredhawks.com

FM RedHawks take on Schaumburg at Newman Outdoor Field. 7pm start on the 8th & 9th. 1pm start on the 10th.

11

Manga/Anime Club for Teens

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Hey Teens, come and discuss new and favorite manga and anime series at the Dr. James Carlson Library at 4pm. Call the teen librarian at 476-5978 or e-mail bschmidt@cityoffargo.com for details.

11

Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

11 American Gold Fall Registration

701-280-0400

www.americangoldgymnastics.com

Registration starts for the American Gold Gymnastics Fall Session. Programs for kids 18 months to 18 years.

11-15 Artmania

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

What is art?! Let us teach you at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center! In Artmania, children will learn about the basics of art through hands on activities and get a chance to explore their creative side. For ages 6-8 from 1pm-3pm & $43.45 fee.

12 Park it!

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

The Excellent Art Teacher will be coming to a neighborhood near you for an afternoon full of arts, crafts and fun! All supplies needed to paint, draw, glue or color an art project will be supplied. FREE at Roosevelt Park. Adult supervision required. Groups of 10+ should call head.

12 & 13

YMCA Fall Registration Begins

701-293-9622

www.fmymca.org

Fall programs starting soon at the YMCA. Registraion for all Members begins Tuesday the 12th followed by Non-Member registration on Wednesday the 13th. Call or register online.

12 & 13

Moorhead Library

Preschool Storytime

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

Time for a story about Animals at the Zoo. 6:30pm on the 12th and 10:30am on the 13th.

12 & 13

Wild Nights

701-227-9240

www.redriverzoo.org

Over night camp at the Red River Zoo for 4th-6th grade graduates. 6pm-Noon. Fee ranges from $60-$70.

14

Into to Jewelry Making

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Make your own jewelry at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center and wear it! This program shows you how to make jewelry and offers different ideas and tips on jewelry making. For ages 12-16, 4pm-6pm & $13.30 fee.

15

Fargo Library’s Friday Movie

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Free movie at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Showing “Moulin Rouge” (PG-13) at 1:30pm. Free popcorn.

15 & 16

Blues Festival

218-287-7775

www.fargobluesfst.com

2 days, 12 bands at Newman Outdoor Stadium. $20 per day or $30 for both.

16

Conservation Carnival

701-227-9240

www.redriverzoo.org

Enjoy a variety of activities and games while learning about conservation at the Red River Zoo.

16

Penny and Pals

Mini Workshop

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Every kid loves Penny and her musical pals, Rocking Robot and Bernie the Bear! Come wiggle, giggle and sing with Penny at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. For ages 6-9 from 10am-Noon (11:30 performance) & $10.25 fee.

16 & 17

Pioneer Days

701-282-2822

www.bonanzaville.org

Big parade, kid games and more at Bonanzaville. Admission is $8 for adults, $4 for kids 6-16 and free for those 5 & under.

18

Manga/Anime Club for Teens

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Hey Teens, come and discuss new and favorite manga and anime series at the Dr. James Carlson Library at 4pm. Call the teen librarian at 476-5978 or e-mail bschmidt@cityoffargo.com for details.

“Mothers of teenagers know why animals eat their young”

18

Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

18-22

Penny and Pals Workshop

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Every kid loves Penny and her musical pals, Rocking Robot and Bernie the Bear! Come wiggle, giggle and sing with Penny at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. For ages 8-10 from 9am-Noon (11:30 performance August 23 at the Island Park Show) & $64.55 fee.

19

Park it!

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

The Excellent Art Teacher will be coming to a neighborhood near you for an afternoon full of arts, crafts and fun! All supplies needed to paint, draw, glue or color an art project will be supplied. FREE at Rabanus Park. Adult supervision required. Groups of 10+ should call ahead.

19 & 20

Moorhead Library

Preschool Storytime

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

Let’s get Down on the Farm! It’s storytime at the library for your preschooler. 6:30pm on the 19th (Family Craft Night to follow) and 10:30am on the 20th.

20 & 21

FM RedHawks

701-235-6161

www.fmredhawks.com

FM RedHawks take on Kansas City at Newman Outdoor Field. 7pm start each day.

21

My Sister’s FarmIndoor Market

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s My Sister’s Farm Indoor Market. No mosiqutos and air conditioning!

21

Third Thursdays

Outdoor Concert

www.fmdowntown.com

The Shalers will perform from 6pm-10pm. Free admission & don’t forget your lawn chair.

21

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at FM Ambulance.

1:30pm-5:30pm.

22

Fargo Library’s Friday Movie

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Free movie at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Showing “Oklahome!” (G) at 1:30pm. Free popcorn.

22 & 23

Barnsville Potato Days

800-525-4901

www.potatodays.com

Lots of fun for the whole family. Parade, games, contests and don’t forget… Mashed Potato Wrestling!

22 & 23

Midwest Waterfowl Fest

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Mark your calendar for the Annual Midwest Waterfowl Fest located in the Scheel’s parking lot. Events for youth and adults alike. Open Noon-8:30pm on the 22nd and 9am-6pm the 23rd. FREE event.

All event listings displayed within OTMOM are carefully selected to provide diverse options for families. It is always a good idea to call ahead to confirm the information provided. Although it is not possible to list every event happening in the FM area it is encouraged organizations submit events for consideration to info@onthemindsofmoms.com

22-24

FM RedHawks

701-235-6161

www.fmredhawks.com

FM RedHawks take on Schaumburg at Newman Outdoor Field. 7pm start on the 22nd, 6pm on the 23rd and 1pm on the 24th.

23 & 24

Island Park Show

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Spend a day at Island Park shopping in the shade! Come to the beautiful park for a two-day festival of original fine arts and unique crafts. Open 10am-5pm.

23 & 24

Dog Days of Summer

701-227-9240

www.redriverzoo.org

Learn more about “Man’s Best Friend” at the Red River Zoo.

25

Manga/Anime Club for Teens

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Hey Teens, come and discuss new and favorite manga and anime series at the Dr. James Carlson Library at 4pm. Call the teen librarian at 476-5978 or e-mail bschmidt@cityoffargo.com for details.

25

Pediatric First Aid Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

This course covers basic first aid of children. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $35 fee. Register online.

25

Back to School West Fargo

701-356-2000

www.west-fargo.k12.nd.us

West Fargo Schools’ 2008-2009 year begins.

25

Back to School Park Christian

218-236-0500

www.parkchristianschool.org

Park Christian Schools’ 2008-2009 year begins.

25

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at Luther Family Buick Pntiac GMC. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

26

Johnny Lang

701-239-8385

www.fargotheatre.org

Get the girlfriends together and see Johnny Lang at the Fargo Theatre. Doors open at 6:30pm and tickets are $45.

26 & 27

Moorhead Library

PreschoolStorytime

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

Splish, Splash…it’s storytime about the bath! 6:30pm on the 26th (Family Craft Night to follow) and 10:30am on the 27th.

26-28

FM RedHawks

701-235-6161

www.fmredhawks.com

FM RedHawks take on Winnipeg at Newman Outdoor Field. 7pm start on the 26th and 27th. 12:30pm start on the 28th.

27

Back to School Oak Grove

701-237-0212

www.oakgrovelutheran.com

Oak Grove Schools’ 2008-2009 year begins.

28

Moorhead Library LEGO Club

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

Everybody loves LEGOs! 6pm

28

Back to School Fargo

701-446-1000

www.fargo.k12.nd.us

Fargo Public Schools’ 2008-2009 year begins.

28

Back to School Fargo Catholic Schools Network

701-893-3200

www.fcsn.k12.nd.us

Fargo Catholic School Network’s 20082009 year begins.

29

Fargo Library’s Friday Movie

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Free movie at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Showing “Swing Kids” (PG-13) at 1:30pm. Free popcorn.

september events

2 Back to School Moorhead

218-284-3300

www.moorhead.k12.mn.us

Moorhead Schools’ 2008-2009 year begins.

2 Sports Sampler

701-241-1353

www.fargoparks.com

This program provides an opportunity for child to “sample sports to determine which, if any, spark an interest. This is a five week program for ages 4-6 and is limited to the first 30 registrants in each class. Registration will be taken on a first come first serve basis until program is full. $35.85 fee.

4 Accelerated Artist

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Start date of Accelerated Artist.Try a more challenging art class at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Learn new techniques and strengthen your knowledge of art in these fun, creative workshops. For Ages 9-12, classes every Thursday, Sept. 4-Oct. 9 from 6:30pm-8pm. $42.45 fee.

8

YMCA Fall Program Session 1 Begins

701-293-9622

www.fmymca.org

Don’t miss your session 1 programs starting today. Call or go online for more information.

8 Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

8

Artmania

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Start date of Artmania at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center! In Artmania, children will learn about the basics of art through hands on activities and get a chance to explore their creative side. For Ages 6-8, classes every Monday, Sept. 8-Oct. 13 from 6:30pm-8pm. $42.45 fee.

8

Youth Lacrosse

701-241-1356

www.fargoparks.com

This six week recreational league will teach the basic skills for the fastest growing sport in the country. For ages 8-14, practices Mondays & games Thursdays. Coaches will be local collegiate players from MSUM and NDSU. $42 fee.

10

Junior Artists

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Experience a variety of theme related projects as you and your child explore the world of art at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Help your child learn to use paint, paintbrushes, glue, chalk, and many other creative materials. Ages 3-5, adult supervision required. All classes will be held on Wednesday afternoons 1pm2:30pm. Dress for a mess! $10.60 fee.

Kindermusik with Heidi Sue

Heidi Koepplin ∙ Licensed Kindermusik Educator

Phone: 701-238-0451

E-mail: kindermusikwithheidisue@yahoo.com

Home Page: http://heidisue.kindermusik.net

11

Chocolate Fantasy & Chili too!

701-232-3449

www.ywcacassclay.org

Chocolate, chili and a silent auction. Suport the YWCA at the Holiday Inn from 11am-7pm. Contact Nicole at 2323449 for more info.

12

Ice Skating

Registration Deadline

701-241-1353

www.fargoparks.com

Deadline to register for the 1st session of Ice Skating, which starts September 15. $34.75 fee.

13

Fargo Library

Preschool Storytime

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Storytime at the Dr. James Carlson Library starting at 10:30am.

13

Art from Around the Word

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Your child will spend the morning at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center pretending they’re in a country far away! Kids will learn about the art and culture of Norway and take home a fun project. For ages 4-8, open 10am-11:30am & $10.40 fee.

14

Awesome Art Afternoon

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Come and spend an afternoon creating fun and exciting art projects at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Children will be able to create a variety of art projects to take home. Adult supervision required. 1pm-3pm.

15

Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

15

Courts Plus Jamboree

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Get your family, friends and neighbors and join a celebration at the new Courts Plus Southwest Express location. There will be face painting, inflatable games, music, open indoor skating, prizes and more. Free hot dogs and Pepsi products while supplies last. Southwest Youth Ice Arena, 5pm-8pm.

18

Gate City Bank Theatre presents Chicago

701-241-9100

www.fargodome.com

See the sultry and alluring Broadway musical hit CHICAGO at the FARGODOME. Tickets range from $26.50$51.50 & show starts at 7:30pm.

18

My Sister’s FarmIndoor Market

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s My Sister’s Farm Indoor Market. No mosiqutos and air conditioning!

18

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at FM Ambulance. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

20 & 21 Fall Festival

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Get involved in the fun fall events at Rheault Farm! Get active by enjoying the carnival games, concessions, barrel train rides, Clay County 4-H farm animals, straw bale maze and musical performances. Open 10am-5pm on the 20th and Noon-5pm on the 21st. Free Admission, wristbands for games & rides cost $5.50.

22

Pediatric First Aid Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

This course covers basic first aid of children. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $35 fee. Register online.

22

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at Luther Family Buick Pntiac GMC. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

23

4th & 5th Grade Girls Volleyball

701-241-1353

www.fargoparks.com

Registration deadline for 4th & 5th Grade Girls Volleyball. 9-week session (Monday, Tuesday & Thursday) at Clara Barton starting October 6th. $45.75 fee.

25

Moorhead Library Cookbook Club

218-233-7594

www.larl.org/branch/moorhead

Vegetarian Mock Duck with Deb Jenkins. Starts at 7pm.

27

Penny and Pals Mini Workshop

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Every kid loves Penny and her musical pals, Rocking Robot and Bernie the Bear! Come wiggle, giggle and sing with Penny at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. For ages 4-5 from 10am-Noon (11:30 performance) & $10.25 fee.

27 & 28

Fall Festival

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Get involved in the fun fall events at Rheault Farm! Get active by enjoying the carnival games, concessions, barrel train rides, Clay County 4-H farm animals, straw bale maze and musical performances. Open 10am-5pm on the 27st and Noon-5pm on the 28nd. Free Admission, wristbands for games & rides cost $5.50.

october events

4

Kid Crawl: Rembrandt

Etch-n-Sketch

701-232-382

www.plainsart.org

Do you like to draw? Get inspired by Rembrandt at the Plains Art Museum and execute fun drawing and printmaking projects while mom and dad do the Studio Crawl. $12 fee and open 1pm-3pm.

4

Intro to Mixed Media

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Learn about the different medias as you explore the world of art at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Students will create unique projects during this creative class. 10am-11:30am, $13.30 fee.

4 & 5 Craft Show

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s Fall Craft Show.

Open 10am-5:30pm on the 4th & Noon5pm on the 5th.

5

Kid Crawl: Clay Innovations

701-232-3821

www.plainsart.org

Tour the Innovation & Change exhibition at the Plains Art Museum and create your own innovations using modeling clay. A great opportunity to play with clay while mom and dad do the Studio Crawl! $12 fee and open 1pm-3pm.

8 Junior Artists

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Experience a variety of theme related projects as you and your child explore the world of art at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Help your child learn to use paint, paintbrushes, glue, chalk, and many other creative materials. Ages 3-5, adult supervision required. All classes will be held on Wednesday afternoons 1pm-2:30pm. Dress for a mess! $10.60 fee.

11

Fargo Library

Preschool Storytime

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Storytime at the Dr. James Carlson Library starting at 10:30am.

11

Art From Around the World

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Your child will spend the morning pretending they’re in a country far away at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center! Kids will learn about the art and culture of China and take home a fun project. Ages 4-8, 10am-11:30am & $10.40 fee.

13

YMCA Fall Program

Session 2 Begins

701-293-9622

www.fmymca.org

Don’t miss your session 2 programs starting today. Call or go online for more information.

13

Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

15-17

Octoberfest Sidewalk Sale

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Deals! Deals! Deals! Don’t miss the Moorhead Center Mall Octoberfest Sidewalk Sale.

16

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at FM Ambulance. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

19

Awesome Art Afternoon

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Come and spend an afternoon creating fun and exciting art projects at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Children will be able to create a variety of art projects to take home. Adult supervision required. 1pm-3pm.

20

Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

23

Penny and Pals Workshop

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Every kid loves Penny and her musical pals, Rocking Robot and Bernie the Bear! Come wiggle, giggle and sing with Penny at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. For ages 6-9 from 9am-3pm, $35 fee.

25

Woman’s Showcase

www.fmshowcase.com

Exhibitors, seminars & Supernanny, Jo Frost at the FARGODOME. Open 9am-5pm.

“Any child can tell you that the sole purpose of a middle name is so he can tell when he’s really in trouble ”

—Dennis Fakes

25

Freaky Fright Night

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

For ages 6-12 at the Fargo Youth Commission, vampires, ghosts and skeletons welcome. All participants are encouraged to wear a costume and monster mash the night away. 6:30pm-9pm & $3 fee.

25 & 26

Antique & Collectible Show

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s Fall Antique & Collectible Show. Open 10am-5:30pm on the 25th & Noon-5pm on the 26th.

25 & 26

Night Eyes Halloween Event

701-227-9240

www.redriverzoo.org

Come in costume & enjoy trick-ortreating through the Red River Zoo along with other spooky activities from Noon – 7:00pm.

27

Pediatric First Aid Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

This course covers basic first aid of children. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $35 fee. Register online.

27

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at Luther Family Buick Pntiac GMC. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

30

Fargo Library Adult

Halloween Program

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

An evening of ghost stories for adults at the Dr. James Carlson Library. Costumes are encouraged; refreshments will be served. Not a children’s program and is not recommended for children under 12. Starts at 7pm. For information, contact Karen at 241-1472.

30

Art-Spook Halloween Party 2008

701-232-3821

www.plainsart.org

Get ready for Halloween at the Plains Art Museum! Enjoy treats and, with the guidance of local artists Magda Szeitz and Chelsea Odden, create your costume and be the most inspired ghoul on the block. FREE event.

31

Trick or Treat

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Bring the kids out to the indoor comfort of candy gathering at the Moorhead Center Mall’s Trick or Treating from 5pm-7pm.

31

Ice Skating Registration Deadline

701-241-1353

www.fargoparks.com

Deadline to register for the 2nd session of Ice Skating, which starts November 3. $34.75 fee.

november events

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7 & 8

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15

Intro to Painting

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

This class is great for anyone who likes to paint. Students will learn the basics of painting at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. 10am-11:30am, $13.30 fee.

4 VOTE

Don’t just sit there! Let your voice be heard and get out and VOTE!

4 Youth Curling League Registartion Deadline

701-241-1353

www.fargoparks.com

Leagues will be formed with instruction, coaching and matches to be scheduled. Practices will be scheduled once during the week (depending on coach). Matches will be held Sunday afternoons from 1pm-5pm at the FM Curling Club. For ages 10-18 & $50 fee.

Used Book Sale

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

AAUW used bood sale at the Moorhead Center Mall. Open 9am-9pm on the 7th and 9am-5:30pm on the 8th

8

Fargo Library Preschool

Storytime

701-476-4040

www.fargolibrary.org

Storytime at the Dr. James Carlson Library starting at 10:30am.

10

Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

Junior Artists

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Experience a variety of theme related projects as you and your child explore the world of art at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Help your child learn to use paint, paintbrushes, glue, chalk, and many other creative materials. Ages 3-5, adult supervision required. All classes will be held on Wednesday afternoons 1pm2:30pm. Dress for a mess! $10.60 fee.

15

Babe Ruth Baseball

Registration Deadline

701-232-9225

www.fargobaberuth.org

Cal Ripken (ages 8-12) & Babe Ruth (ages 13-15 & 16-18) Baseball provides youth with supervised, competitive baseball games. Games are played throughout the tri-city beginning in mid-May.

Awesome Art Afternoon

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Come and spend an afternoon creating fun and exciting art projects at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center. Children will be able to create a variety of art projects to take home. Adult supervision required. 1pm-3pm.

15 & 16

Church Bazaar

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s Chruch Bazaar is open 10am-5:30pm on the 15th and Noon-5pm on the 16th.

17

YMCA Fall Program Session

3 Begins

701-293-9622

www.fmymca.org

Don’t miss your session 3 programs starting today. Call or go online for more information.

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Heartsaver CPR Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

The Heartsaver CPR course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $30 fee. Register online.

17

Art From Around the World

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Your child will spend the morning pretending they’re in a country far away at the Robert D. Johnson Rec Center! Kids will learn about the art and culture of Mexico and take home a fun project. Ages 4-8, 10am-11:30am & $10.40 fee.

20

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at FM Ambulance. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

22 & 23

Antique & Collectible Show

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s Fall Antique & Collectible Show.

24

Pediatric First Aid Course

701-364-1704

www.fmambulance.com

This course covers basic first aid of children. Located at Merigen Medical, 3148 Fiechtner Dr. South in Fargo starting at 7pm. $35 fee. Register online.

24

Car Seat Safety Check

701-234-5570

Is your car seat installed correctly? Don’t chance it! Make an appointment to check it out at Luther Family Buick Pntiac GMC. 1:30pm-5:30pm.

25

Holiday Lights Parade

701-241-1570

www.fmdowntown.com

Kick off the holiday season with the Downtown Holiday Lights Parade.

27

Thanksgiving

Be thankful everyday, but I’m thankful turkey, potatoes, stuffing and pie isn’t everyday!

28 & 29

Craft Show

218-233-6117

www.moorheadcentermall.com

Moorhead Center Mall’s Fall Craft Show. Open 10am-9pm on the 28th & 10am9pm on the 29th.

29

Santa Village Opens

701-241-8160

www.fargoparks.com

Santa & Mrs. Claus make their way to Rheault Farm for the holiday season.

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linda kaye & tara lyn photographic artists

linda kaye & tara lyn photographic artists

memories forever photography

memories forever photography

rialee photography

mompreneurs

photography by | rialee photography

Pout Baby Boutique

Holly Malheim and Kris Noonan have been friends for nearly ten years and have been together through college graduation, jobs, boyfriends, break ups, marriages, and most recently, BABIES. After having their adorable little girls, Isabelle and Lucy, Holly and Kris decided it was time to follow their dreams and be examples for their daughters that women really can have it all. Both being obsessive shoppers (yes, they know they have a problem), they realized the need for a boutique that can provide unique accessories and clothing with that personal touch necessary when shopping for the most important little ones in your life. They strive to provide quality items that are both functional and fun and also feature an entire “eco-friendly” section to help do their part to make the Earth happy.

What is the inspiration behind POUT?

Both of us have always LOVED shopping, and when we were pregnant with our girls, we realized that Fargo-Moorhead was missing a place to buy unique clothing and accessories for baby. Because Kris traveled a lot for work during her pregnancy, she shopped at a lot of baby boutiques in other cities where she was able to find a lot of really great stuff. We realized that there was definitely a need for a store like Pout and so began our journey.

Prior to the decision to open Pout, what were you both doing before?

Holly was a head teacher in the infant room at the YWCA shelter. Kris was a sales manager for the Fargo-Moorhead Convention and Visitor Bureau.

How do you balance family with a new business?

The only way we are able to manage is with lots of love and support from our families. Holly’s husband Luke and Kris’ parents Dave and Marilyn have helped tremendously with not only the store itself but with our girls.

What has been the biggest challenge in starting the business?

FINDING A LOCATION! We naively thought that if we had the money to spend, anyone would rent to us. It didn’t take us long to find out that wasn’t the case. We ran into a lot of problems, not only with property owners wanting record high rent but even had a property that wasn’t willing to rent to us at all because we were a small start up business without a lot of money behind us. It is really disappointing that more property owners in Fargo-Moorhead don’t embrace new businesses and see the full picture and economic potential for our community.

Did you have business guidance and support through the opening process?

We have been lucky to surround ourselves with some amazing people during this process. So many people have helped guide us through this journey, and we wouldn’t have made it this far without them. We have some great friends and family that are business owners themselves who have provided not only great advice but referrals to other great people who have now become part of the Pout family.

How did you come up with the name POUT?

We actually kept a list for MONTHS with every name that popped into our heads. One day, the word “pout” showed up in a baby article we were going through, and it just jumped out at us. We knew it was the one. It’s playful and has a sense of humor which is exactly what we were looking for.

What advice would you give budding mompreneurs?

Go for it! This all still feels very surreal for us, and although it has been stressful and terrifying, it is also a dream come true for both of us. Don’t rule anything out—research and ask lots of questions—and as cliché as it sounds—follow your dreams.

Open date?

We hope to be up and running by the end of July.

4325 13th Ave S #6

Fargo, ND 58103

701.552.1664

Hours: Monday - Thursday : 10am - 8pm

Friday & Saturday : 10am - 6pm

Sunday : 12pm - 6pm

Pout Baby Boutique

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having trouble staying on top of your bills?

Who isn’t in today’s world of $4.00 a gallon gas and rising grocery prices? How are families in our community able to pinch pennies yet still provide? It is possible, but will take some effort. The first step is to realistically and honestly assess your finances.

List your income. Include everything: take home pay, money you make doing odd jobs, child support and alimony.

Track your expenses. Keep a record of all your expenses for at least one month. Start by listing the obvious ones: rent or mortgage payments, tuition, utility costs, cable TV, phone bills and credit cards. It’s also very important to record your daily purchases, for example: what you spend on groceries, renting a movie, your morning coffee, gas and dry cleaning.

Develop a budget. After listing your income and expenses, use the information to create a budget. A budget is a schedule of income and expenses, typically broken up into monthly intervals and usually covering a one-year period. Simply put, a budget helps you track where your money is going.

Come up with a plan. If you find that you have more expenses than income, look at ways to lower your expenses or boost your income.

1. ing a lunch instead of eating out.

Make small lifestyle changes such as pack-

story by | Penny Ripplinger—RDA Financial Advisors, LLC

Budgeting and tracking your expenses gives you a strong sense of where your money goes. It can help you reach your financial goals, whether you are saving for a down payment on a house, starting a college fund for your kids, buying a new car, planning for retirement, paying off credit cards, or saving for that trip to Aruba. A budget doesn’t mean financial handcuffs but a means to achieve financial success.

If all of this is overwhelming and you don’t know where to start, consider seeing someone who can assist you. Look for a business that does Budget Management without a huge fee. Sometimes a spouse or relative is not always the most objective person to look to for help. In economic times like ours, everyone needs a financial partner, just like an exercise partner, to listen, encourage, and assist you until your goals become a reality.

At RDA Financial Advisors, we provide investment planning and financial guidance for the long and short term. For more information on financial support or to schedule a consultation call 701.277.8105, email ross.almlie@rdafinancial.com or visit our website at www.rdafinancial.com

2.

Take stock of your communication and

entertainment costs. Consider how you use your cell phone, cable, and Internet. Buying a package that bundles multiple services could save you money.

Evaluate your insurance policies. You can

3. lower your insurance premiums by raising your deductibles.

4733 Amber Valley Parkway Fargo, ND

Lemonade Stands...

More Then Just a Way to Fill a Piggy Bank

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Asuresign the ‘dog days of summer’ have arrived in the F-M area is the appearance of the neighborhood lemonade stand. As young entrepreneurs set up shop, sometimes parents can forget what a great activity this really is for their child. It is much more than a way to start a college fund; it is a chance to work on some very important developmental skills. With a little planning and help from you, your child can have a successful lemonade stand and at the same time work on motor, language, cognitive and sensory skills.

Motor Skills are basically the way we move. We have Gross motor skills that use our large muscles for tasks such as running while Fine motor skills give us the ability to manipulate small objects, transfer objects from hand to hand, and perform various hand-eye coordination tasks. Our lemonade stand allows for development of motor skills through constructing the stand and signs, mixing the lemonade, cutting the lemons (with help or supervision), squeezing the lemons and picking up and transferring coins and bills.

Language Skills aren’t just about talking. It’s also about reading, writing and listening. Your child’s stand allows for development of these skills through making their sign, social interaction with customers specifically conversing with customers, making eye contact and taking direction.

Cognitive Skills are those that make it possible for us to learn. The lemonade stand tests your child’s cognitive abilities through measuring and shopping for ingredients, following a plan to construct and run the stand, identifying different coins and bills as well as providing proper change to customers.

Sensory Skills involve seeing, hearing, touching, smelling, tasting, balancing, and body awareness. Your child will be utilizing these skills by tasting and smelling their product as well as recognizing the textures they are working with such as the sticky lemon juice or the granular sugar.

Every good lemonade stand starts with location, location, location! Pick a safe, high traffic spot where lots of thirsty customers will swing by. Make your supply list and go shopping with your child. Help your child construct a sturdy stand, make signs and lastly prepare the liquid gold… lemonade! Be sure to have some change on hand—both bills and coins. Open your stand and have fun! Don’t forget to have your child help with clean up at closing time. Depending on the age and maturity of your child, they will need different levels of supervision for these activities. This process, as simple as it sounds, is a great way to work on and learn skills your child will need to be successful in everyday life.

At Pediatric Therapy Partners, we provide outpatient Physical, Occupational, and Speech-Language Therapy as well as other associated programming for the F-M area. If your child would struggle with any of the above activities, a therapy evaluation or screening may be appropriate. For more information about therapy or to schedule a free screening call 701. 232.234 or visit our website at www.PediatricTherapyPartners.com

3003 32nd Avenue South Suite E Fargo, ND 58103 (Across from Innovis Health)

by | Janette Venaas - Gilbraith –MS, CCC-S/LP–Pediatric Therapy Partners

we’re voting! this year,

MAKE A CHOICE. MAKE A DIFFERENCE. VOTE.

Tuesday - November 4th 2008

too often, women decide not to vote.

we’re busy, or sometimes we think we don’t know enough information.

but this year, there’s too much going on to sit back and let someone else decide what’s best for you and your family’s future.

THINK about what’s important to you.

then talk to your family, friends and if you need more information look online at www.cnnpolitics.com to find out which candidate is right for you.

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married dad of 2

photography by | rialee photography

David Dietz

age 34

personnel

fargo

if my kids could describe me in 3 words, they would be…

Teasing, Physical & Snuggly

my wife looks amazing when…

I am, of course, biased. And perhaps I am a lucky man because my wife looks good all the time. Whether we are camping, dressed for a formal event, at the beach or in pajamas. She looks great!

the celebrity dad I can relate most to is…

I don’t keep up with celebrities. I heard Arnold Schwartrzeneger is a committed family man. If this is true, I can relate to him and am inspired by him because it shows that it is possible to advance in your career while still prioritizing your family.

my best dad quality is…

A teacher. I believe in teaching my kids “life skills”. Of course, Taylor and Christian are still young, though we must remember kids are very smart. Responsibility and being aware of how one treats other people are key in our house. Oh, and just recently, how to bait a worm on a hook!

something I have allowed my kids to do that my wife still doesn’t know about is… I don’t hide anything. Misty and I talk frequently about how we parent. Our styles are mostly congruent. Our small differences are probably me approaching parenting with a bit more relaxed style. Our kids definitely know our family has rules. Though, at the same time, it seems our kids have more freedom to play, explore and make mistakes than other kids their respective ages.

other things you should know about me… I am truly an active hands-on father. Balancing this way of life with career responsibilities means you do fewer other things with other people. It’s what I choose.

a piece of advice I would give other dads or advice I received that has served me well as a dad is…

Do the best you can to give your kids the ultimate gift… self esteem. Little things such as getting your kids involved in helping out with chores. Even at a young age kids like to feel like they are contributing to the family unit. Support them with little challenges of their own. This creates opportunities for them to prove to themselves that “they can do it!” Praise. Tell them you love them before they fall asleep every night.

Do the best you can to give your kids the ultimate gift… self esteem

gettingthroughit getsetforschool

Summer is nearing an end, and the fi rst day of school will be here before you know it. Those fi rst days back to school can be just as nerve racking for parents as they are for kids. Here are some tips to get through those fi rst days back at school and help you plan ahead for a stress free successful year.

story by | laura sokolofsky

tipsforastressfreefirstdaybackatschool

Routines, Rules & Attention

Any type of change is stressful, but it is especially hard on children. Sometimes children will act out or behave differently when adjusting to change or a new situation. Routines, rules and attention are ways to help your child deal with any change including going back to school.

Keep as many things the same as possible each day to help children feel safe, happy and in control. Teachers will spend most of the first week of school establishing routines and procedures with their students. Routines at home are also important. For example, the 5 B’s at bedtime: bath, brush teeth, bathroom, books, and bed. Once in bed, it is important to wind down with a soothing activity such as saying a prayer, back scratching, or whatever works for your child. Morning routines are also important to establish the process of getting ready for school. Be sure to begin practicing these routines weeks prior to school.

It’s important to discuss rules and consequences when it comes to your child’s role in getting ready for school and your expectations regarding their behavior. A child’s responsibilities can include making sure the backpack is ready with the previous night’s homework, lunch is packed, and breakfast dishes are cleared. School behavioral expectations include being polite, paying attention, following classroom rules, and listening to the teacher. Children want to please their parents and teachers, and you are outlining the ‘how-to’ for them.

Once at school, it’s important to have a routine and give your child some needed attention and reassurance. Kindergarten seems to be the toughest (on parents especially). From a teacher’s perspective, it is best to keep your good-byes short, sweet and consistent each day. It is confusing to your child if on the first day of school you stay and sit next to them for an hour and the rest of the week you drop him/her off at the door. Start day one with your drop off and pick up plan, but of course add some picture taking to mark the occasion.

Tell them “I love you, and I’ll pick you up at the door” or give them a hug and whisper, “Have a good day” or “Be a good listener”, whatever you think they need to hear that day. My daughter wants a kiss blown through the window – it is a small thing, but it matters to her. A good book to help with this topic is The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn. Lastly, I know it is easier said than done but don’t feel guilty for leaving your crying child. Usually within minutes, teachers can calm them down.

Back to School Night

Take your time. The top things children will worry about are, “Where are the bathrooms?”, “How does lunch work?”, “Will I know anyone in my class?”, and for older students “Will I get lost, be late or be embarrassed?”, or “Will I be able to open my lock on my locker?” Take your time and walk through all the fears and questions they have. Teachers see self-sufficiency as the top skill children need help with to be ready for school.

Empower Your Child

Children are masters at getting us to do things for them. We think we are helping, but in reality we are making them dependant on us. Empower your child. Practice shoe tying, buttoning, zipping, writing letters and their name, listening to you read an entire book without interrupting, counting, naming colors, etc. Also, let your child be a part of buying school supplies, putting their name on them, and putting them away in their desk or locker. If they need help with any of these tasks, talk out the steps, show the steps, and then have them do the steps themselves. Another common stressor is the lunchroom. Ways to help them feel more confident is to practice their lunch number, go to a buffet, let them use tongs to practice dishing onto a tray and practice opening milk cartons.

Get Involved and Know the Teacher

Parental involvement is a huge factor in a child’s success in school. Being a room parent, joining the PTA, or volunteering at an event will keep you connected to the happenings of your child’s school life. Also, get your child’s daily school schedule and ask the teacher about their expectations or for advice on how you should help with homework. Some teachers may just want you to check the planner and sign off on the work being done while others might have work for you and your child to do together each night.

All of these ideas will help both you and your child ease into the ‘back to school’ transition. If you have an extra-sensitive-to-change-child, you may want to try further coping strategies to help calm and relax. Try an earlier bedtime, listen to music, walk to school together, take deep breaths, practice thinking about their ‘happy place’ or send a family picture or stuffed animal in their

backpack for comfort. After school, fi nd out about their day. Ask open ended questions like “Tell me about your favorite part of the day?” In the car or at dinner have everyone share something good or bad about their day. This helps kids understand we all have difficult days and allows your family to work together to create solutions.

Your belief in your child, your ability to talk to them about their fears, and your resolve to get them to school each day will make all the difference. Teachers, principals, paraprofessionals, and counselors are ready to help any child who needs a little more reassurance or TLC to feel safe those fi rst days. Together, we will all get through it!

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Surrounded by 37,000 others at the start of the 2005 New York City Marathon, Kathleen Wrigley was overtaken by emotion. All different sizes, shapes and abilities, but one common goal; to finish. Everyone had a story. And for the first 14 miles of the 26.2 total, she cried and thought about her story. Her brother, her husband, her kids and with every breath and every step the pounding of her necklace reminding her of the chapter recently finished and the ones yet to be written…

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Upon entering her South Fargo home, it was her shirt that first caught my eye. It said: be kind. And only seconds later, after a very warm welcome, I believed she was truly a reflection of those words on her pink shirt. Kathleen Wrigley is the wife of US Attorney Drew Wrigley and mom to 7 year old Quinn, 5 ½ year old Patrick and 4 month old Harper. She has had a hectic week of shuffling kids to activities, sleepless nights, and the challenges of parenting while her husband is away in Washington D.C. for work, but you wouldn’t know it, and she definitely doesn’t look it. Kathleen’s closet could have many be shirts representing the type of woman, daughter, sister, mother, wife, and friend she is.

be an advocate. Kathleen is passionate about lending a voice to those who need it, but the events that led her to a career in victim advocacy are heartbreaking. Seventeen years ago, Kath-

leen was called out of class at Penn State to hear something she couldn’t imagine. Her brother, Philadelphia Police Officer Danny Boyle, was shot and killed in the line of duty at the young age of 21. At the time of the crime, Danny’s murderer should have been in prison. Due to overcrowding, he was released early as he was deemed not violent enough. His release occurred just weeks prior to Danny’s death.

Danny’s murderer was convicted and is currently on death row in Pennsylvania. “It was through that experience that I learned what a courtroom was,” recalled Kathleen. At that time, victim advocacy services were less common, and it was then that she decided to direct her emotions in a positive way. “I wanted to help others and be of service with my own experience. So I thought victim advocacy was for me.” This led her to pursue a master’s degree in social work at Temple University and then onto a career in the Philadelphia District Attorney’s office. It was there that the girl, “born and raised in Philly,” became “good buddies” with native North Dakotan Drew Wrigley.

“he made me laugh harder than anyone had ever made me laugh in my life”

be loved. Drew Wrigley was a hard working assistant district attorney who kept to himself. Keeping to himself, however, became a little more difficult upon meeting Kathleen. It wasn’t uncommon for Drew to hear about his weekend from coworkers upon entering the elevator Monday morning. Everyone knew what movie they saw, where they went for dinner, and what they ordered. “He made me laugh harder than anyone had ever made me laugh in my life,” Kathleen chuckled.

The prosecutor from North Dakota wanted to return to his home state after gaining invaluable experience in Philadelphia. So, four months into their marriage Drew and Kathleen moved to Bismarck and began their life together. She worked as a forensic investigator and child psychotherapist; again an advocate, but this time for children. The work was tough and emotionally draining so Kathleen used her love of writing to become a speech writer for Nancy Schafer, North Dakota’s first lady at the time. Starting fresh in North Dakota, Kathleen spoke of this time as “an awesome adventure. We looked at it like, we are

doing this together, and we’re going to see where it brings us.” Drew added, “Public service and hard work are blessings in their own right, but, in my case, they are made more so by having a great wife to share ideas, goals, and a vision for what’s to come and the impact we can make together.”

be grateful. Four years ago, with 3 year old Quinn and 1 ½ year old Patrick in tow, Kathleen was heading out the door to teach aerobics when the phone rang. It was a phone call that would change her life. Kathleen had been having some mild numbness in her face and although she was active and healthy, she and Drew suspected multiple sclerosis. Advocating for herself this time, she decided to share their fears with the doctor, which led to a precautionary MRI. Then, the phone call. The voice on the other line was the neurologist. Kathleen recalled the conversation vividly. “This is the exact quote. I will never forget it. It is etched in my brain. ‘The good news is you don’t have MS, and the bad news is you have a very large brain aneurysm and need surgery right away. It doesn’t appear to be bleeding right now,

but it is very large.’ I didn’t know anyone that survived that.” Standing there with her babies in her arms she could only ask, “Am I going to die?” Dropping to her knees, sobbing and hyperventilating, she summoned Drew out of a meeting, and they began yet another journey together.

The aneurysm, which was thought to measure 7mm, but actually turned out to be a stunning 11mm, was in a location that made it accessible for a procedure available in Minneapolis called Coiling. The procedure involves packing the aneurysm with platinum coils to form a ball. The aneurysm isn’t removed; it is repaired. The week between diagnosis and surgery, Kathleen and Drew “were pretty much wrapped around each other.” The conversations they were forced to have were not typical of a young couple with two small children. “First you go into mommy mode. You take care of things.” The reality was always present, Kathleen said, “I felt like I had a ticking time bomb in my head.”

Leaving for surgery in Minneapolis meant saying goodbye to Quinn and Patrick. “I remember I rocked both the kids, which I don’t do, but I rocked them completely to sleep and just prayed over them that this was not going to be it, “ Kathleen remembered, with tears in her eyes and her voice quivering. Upon their departure, Drew recalled, “I watched in silence as Kathleen lifted our young children, kissed them and said ‘good-bye, I will see you in a couple of days.’ She believed—she knew—she would come home to them, and I was reminded how much I admire Kathleen. Anyone who knows Kathleen will tell you that she is kind, loving, fun, and giving. And then, when they know her well, they will add this: she is strong and she has great faith.”

Reflecting on the previous year and all they had been through, Drew had a necklace made for Kathleen to celebrate the anniversary of her successful surgery. It is a beautiful platinum ball on a thin chain. “We walk humbly, we are

reminded of the fragility of life, and we are in awe of the gifts that God has given mankind to heal and repair”, stated Drew. “It’s that simple. In that little space there was the potential for death, but through that precious little wad of platinum, there was healing by the human hand that God created. It’s a hopeful and happy reminder.” Tugging at the chain, Kathleen explained, “I haven’t taken this off at all. “I wear it with everything. I can’t ever take it off. It is a constant reminder of how precious life is.”

be supportive. That year post surgery was not only difficult because of the emotions of such a life altering event; it was also the height of the highly publicized Dru Sjodin case. Drew, was the prosecutor in what would be North Dakota’s first capital murder case. Kathleen attended the trial about 90% of the time. “I know that meant a lot to him to know that I completely supported him being there and doing what he needed to do at the time.”

Despite Drew’s high profile career, Kathleen feels that “it is no more important than so many other careers. With young families we are all in the same boat.” Throughout the trial Kathleen made it clear to Drew he didn’t need to worry about balancing his time at that particular moment in their life. She stated, “His place was there. He needed to put every single ounce of soul and heart into that, because that is what Dru Sjodin deserved. As a person who went through that, I knew that her family deserved him and his attention more than we did at the time. So I just let him go do it and encouraged him to and not to feel bad for not being here.”

be strong. Kathleen’s doctors told her to live her life exactly how she wants to. “I will never forget that”, said Kathleen. “I’m going to live life. Watch me do it!” She took that advice--and ran the New York City marathon—18 months after her surgery. Kathleen’s mother, Nancy recalled, “Her father and I were scared that this was something that maybe she should not have tackled.” Kathleen

persevered once again. “In my mind, I was meant to push the limits because that is what life is about. Pushing it and being in it and doing what you want to do.” She ran in honor of her brother raising $5000 for the Daniel Boyle Scholarship Foundation. And she ran while wearing her special necklace, the pounding of the platinum ball and the cuts on her neck from 26.2 miles of the chain rubbing her skin, another reminder of all she has overcome. Kathleen’s entire family was affected that day. Her mother Nancy stated, “The feeling of her completing that was overwhelming for all of us. She continues to amaze us with her zest for life and her accomplishments as a wife and mother.” Kathleen said that experience taught her to “just go for it” and hopes to teach her children the same. “If you have the will, you can do it.” She has since run the Fargo Marathon twice in addition to several other races and is preparing for the Walt Disney World marathon in January.

be you. Kathleen has lived and when asked what advice she has for area moms, her response again reflects her sincerity and realism; so much a part of whom she is. “I have three kids but, I don’t feel like I’m any more prepared to give advice than anyone else, but I think a couple of things. First, take a deep breath and enjoy because it is so fleeting. We’re all rushed in this day and age; just take a deep breath and try. The other thing is, do your own thing and try not to compare yourself. I never realized until I got to this stage how we compare and contrast. ‘Is my schedule right? Am I disciplining right? Am I volunteering enough?’ Who cares! Do what you do! Learn from other people, but try not to compare. This stage of our lives is, sadly, one of the most judgmental because

our kids are a direct reflection of ourselves; and they’re going to be kids. If you are not humbled by parenthood, there is no chance of humility at all, ever. So, try not to judge other parents. Be open and learn from each other. We all have a story. Be open to learning other people’s stories and really listening.”

“Kathleen has tremendous character and she expects the same from our kids”, Drew stated. “She also knows how to have fun and to make life rich with laughter and great moments. Kathleen is the very best influence our kids could ever hope to have in their lives—I can’t help but smile thinking about the amazing life she makes for Quinn, Patrick, Harper and me.”

be inspired. Through the events in her life, Kathleen has learned that living life means just that: living life. The events that have shaped her life provide a perspective that is enviable. We all have challenges, from something as profound as the unexpected death of a sibling or a medical emergency to those everyday parenting struggles we all deal with. Even Kathleen, who has faced difficult challenges, struggles with those parenting issues we can all relate to, such as: a son who tries for some Root Beer on the sly, knowing his mom is busy; a daughter who begs for a dollar for the ice cream truck because that ice cream tastes so much better than the ice cream in the freezer at home; or an infant who leaves her ‘mark’ on the be kind shirt. Facing challenges, whether big or small, with the poise and perspective of Kathleen Wrigley will inspire you to appreciate, enjoy and live life. Kathleen’s mother summed it up best, “I’m sure we will continue to be surprised at whatever else she has in store for us.”

kathleen has learned that living life means just that: living life.

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ingredients

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1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese

1/2 cup brown sugar

Stir together the cream cheese, brown sugar, and vanilla extract until the sugar has dissolved and the mixture is smooth. Cut up some apples and enjoy! And don’t be afraid to get creative! Add some peanut butter, nuts or chocolate sauce, or try using strawberry flavored cream cheese.

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FM Dads 2nd and 4th Monday of each month at 6:30pm. For dads seeking parenting skills - Call for location an details 701.237.0359

Eating Disorders Group Every Monday at 5pm. For family and friends of loved ones with eating disorders. Eating Disorder Institute 701.234.4111

DivorceCare for Kids 13 week session for kids ages 5 to 12 from 6:30pm to 8:30pm at Hope Lutheran South Campus – Call for session dates 701.235.6629

Moms Of Multiples 2nd Tuesday of each month from 6:30pm to 9:00pm in Community Room at West Acres 701.235.4772

La Leche League of Fargo-Moorhead 3rd Tuesday of each month at 6:30pm. Call for directions 701.793.3458

Moms Night Out 3rd Thursday of each month at 7pm. For moms of kids with diabetes. West Acres Food Court. For more information visit www.jdrf.org/Minnesota.com

MOMS Club 3rd Friday of each month at 10am. Activities for moms and their kids at Peace Lutheran Church 701.277.0415

MOMS Club 701.799.7206

Child Asperger Support Group Every Tuesday from 12:00pm to 1:00pm at Southeast Human Service Center. For additional information visit www.rrvasperger.org

Asperger Family and Friends Support Group 2nd Saturday of each month from 9:00am to 10:30pm at St. Anne and Joachim Catholic Church. For additional information visit www.rrvasperger.org

Fargo-Moorhead Home Schoolers Christian home schooling Moms who want to network ideas and provide support to homeschooling families For more information contact Karen - jkisgrig@msn.com or call 701.967.8990

Breastfeeding Support Group Meets once a month from 6pm to 7pm at Innovis Health. Call 701.364.8100 or visit www.innovishealth.com for more information and other support group opportunities.

MOPS Mothers of Preschoolers in FM Area:

Atonement Lutheran Church Every other Tuesday from 8:45am to 11:00am. For more information call 701.280.1447

Bethel Evangelical Free Church Meets every other Tuesday at 8:45am to 11:00am. For more information contact 701.232.4476

Calvary Baptist Church 2nd and 4th Tuesday of each month starting at 6:30pm at Calvary Baptist Church 701.232.6010

First Assembly of God 2nd and 4th Tuesday of each month from 9:00 to11:00 am. For more information call 701.232.0003

First Lutheran Church 1st and 3rd Tuesday from 9:00 to11:00 am. For more information call 701.235.7389

First United Methodist 1st and 3rd Thursday of each month from 9:15am to11:15am. Moms of children newborn through kindergarten are invited as well. Contact Jessica 701.364.9570.

Grace Evangelical Lutheran Church 2nd Sunday of each month from 2:00 to 4:00 pm. For more information call 701.232.1516

Hope Lutheran Church South Campus 3rd Saturday of each month from 9am to 11am. Contact Amy 293.3279 (Begins September 20th)

Olivet Lutheran Church 1st and 3rd Thursday of each month at 9:00 to 11:15 am. For more information call. 701.235.6603

Riding On Angels’ Wings Therapeutic horseback riding for children with disabilities. Volunteers are always welcome. Contact Bette Shipley - Felton, MN 701.793.5153 or www.ridingonangelswings.org

Make-A-Wish Foundation of ND Nations largest wish granting organization. Ways to help: volunteer, donate, sponsor or refer a child. Contact ND Chapter in Fargo 701.280.9474 or visit www.ndwish.org

Ronald McDonald House of RRV A home-awayfrom-home for families when a child is ill. Support or Volunteer. Call 701.232.3980 or visit www.rmhcfargo.org

YWCA of Cass Clay Provide services and programs for women of all ages. Support, volunteer, donate. Call 701.232.3449 or visit www.ywcacassclay.org

United Way Work to make our community a better place to live, work and raise our families. To give, advocate, volunteer. Call 701.237.5050 or visit www.uwcc.net

Rape & Abuse Crisis Center Crisis intervention, advocacy, and counseling services to all persons who have been victims of domestic violence or sexual abuse. Volunteer or donate. Call 701.293.7273 or visit www. raccfm.com

Special Olympics Provides year-round sports training for all kids and adults with intellectual disabilities. Volunteer Contact Laura 701.730.0926 or visit www.specialolympics.org

Camp Fire USA Builds caring, confident youth and future leaders. Contact Myrna Johnson 218. 236.1090 or visit www.campfire.org

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Quiz: What’s Your Child’s Ideal Learning Environment?

Questions:

In thinking about your child’s temperament, 1. which describes you child most of the time?

Answers:

Question 1

Adaptable and outgoing

b. Cautious and slow to warm up c. Feisty and energetic d.

2. High activity level

How active is your child?

Low activity level b. How social is your child?

3. Very social

Moderately social

How does your child deal with change? 4. Very tolerant

Less tolerant

Your child is flexible, at ease in new sur- a. roundings, and comfortable with new people. Look for a large group setting that provides social interactions and new experiences.

Your child is thoughtful and tends to be b. cautions with new people and settings. Look for a small group setting that is less overwhelming.

5. Finds things to look at; read books, stares a. out the window, watches people Hums or talks to self b. Fidgets and moves c.

When bored or idle, your child

Your child is passionate and opinionated and c. may have difficulty controlling strong feelings. Your child needs a teacher who knows and understands him. Look for a program where each child has a constant primary teacher – rather than classed with different teachers for different activities – and little staff turnover.

Question 2

Your child is always on the go. Look for an a. individualized approach, safe exploration opportunities, and increased physical play.

Your child explores through her eyes

b. and ears. She often chooses to sit quietly, absorbed in an activity. Look for a teacher who engages the child in sensory rich activities.

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Question 3

Your child enjoys meeting new people and a. is happiest when interacting with others. Look for large amounts of time spent in interactive, group activities.

Your child is reserved around strangers

b. and needs extra time to feel comfortable with new people. Look for a teacher who allows the child to initiate play with others at their own pace.

Question 4

Your child is highly adaptable and copes

a. well with frustration. Look for a mixed age setting that offers frequent challenges and adequate stimulation.

b. is disrupted and is easily frustrated. Look for same age settings with consistent routine.

Your child gets upset when daily routine

Question 5

Your child has a visual learning style and

a. learns by seeing and looking. Look for a program with lots of illustrated book reading and make sure your child sits at the front of the class with a clear view of the teacher.

Your child has an auditory learning style

b. and learns by hearing and listening. Look for reading about story times and help your child remember a lesson by telling you about it or repeating instructions.

Your child has a kinesthetic learning

c. style and needs to take frequent breaks. Look for programs with manipulative and work stations where work can be done standing.

Ages

grow ready, set

Sleep…the five letter word that has a different meaning for us than for our kids. For us moms, a nap is luxurious and getting to bed early, a miracle! For our kids, it can be in the same realm as torture and a major waste of time. Regardless of our differing views, we know what is best, and our kids need sleep.

So, what is sleep? Simply, sleep is food for the brain. Sleep is just as important as food and air. There are two alternating states of sleep:

NREM (Non-Rapid Eye Movement) – sometimes called quiet sleep,

• during NREM blood supply increases to the muscles, tissue repair and growth occur, hormones impacting growth and development are released and energy is restored.

REM (Rapid Eye Movement) – called active sleep, during REM our

• brains are active and dreaming occurs. Our bodies become immobile and our breathing and heart rate is irregular.

So, we know what it is, and that they need it. Here are some facts, tips and general info on sleep for our kids as they grow.

Asleeping baby will bring out ooo’s and ahhh’s in the coldest of hearts. Initially, newborns will sleep around the clock and wake to be fed, changed, or just to get some nurturing. Most will sleep 10.5 to 20 hours a day. By six months of age, many (not all) babies will sleep through the night. They will also take more structured naps. Naps can occur one to four times a day and range from 30 minutes to two hours each. By 18 months of age, your wee one will need about 12–14 hours of sleep a night and will probably take one nap lasting around 1–3 hours.

wee ones (0–18 months)

All Through the Night

Remember, your baby’s ability (or inability) to sleep through the night isn’t a reflection of your parenting. A baby who sleeps through the night at 8 weeks isn’t the offspring of superhero parents. Our wee ones are as unique as us crazy moms. So, relax. You can do your best to encourage a longer night’s sleep with the following: Get a schedule. Our wee ones are creatures • of habit. As they get older, encourage activity during the day and establish nap times. At night create a consistent routine that allows baby to wind down. A happy baby is one who knows what’s coming next.

Consider a nuk, binky, pacy, or whatever you • call it. A pacifier may help your baby sooth herself. Also, using a pacifier at night is believed to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome.

Babies will wiggle, squirm and twitch. No

need to run to the nursery with every squawk or grunt. Babies may fuss as they settle down. It’s OK to wait a few minutes to see what happens.

Not the C Word

With regard to newborns, you will notice we didn’t talk about colic, that nasty diagnosis when nothing works, and you’re sure your baby will soon re-enact the scene from the Exorcist. When an otherwise healthy baby cries for more than 3 hours per day, more than 3 days per week for at least 3 weeks, it is considered colic. It usually starts between the 3rd and 6th week and ends when the baby is about 3 months old. While crying is a part of colic, there are some issues that require a call to the doctor:

• reflex and good appetite. If your baby isn’t eating well or doesn’t have a strong sucking reflex, call your doctor.

Colicky babies should have a healthy sucking

If your colicky baby is vomiting, not just spit- • ting up, and/or losing weight, call your doctor.

If your colicky baby has diarrhea or blood in • his/her stool, call your doctor.

parents typically lose 400-750 hours of sleep in their baby’s first year.

Our tots are cuddly, sweet little munchkins, but they can also be a ticking tantrum time bomb only intensified by a lack of sleep. In a 24 hour period your tot will sleep approximately 12–14 hours. A nap may still be needed, but remember that nap time plays into the total hours of sleep needed for the day.

tots

The Big Bed

There is no magic, ideal age to transition from the crib to a regular or toddler bed, but many make the move between the ages of 1½ and 3½. Two common reasons for making the switch are the impending arrival of a sibling, or the little monkey can climb out of the crib! Regardless of the reason, there are things you can do to make the transition as smooth as possible.

If a new baby is coming, make the switch

1. at least 6–8 weeks before you are due. You want your tot settled before he sees the baby taking over ‘his’ crib.

Make it a big deal! Make the transition an

2. exciting time. If you are buying a new bed, let your tot come with. You can also choose bedding featuring your tot’s favorite character. Encourage your tot to show visitors his ‘big boy bed’.

Keep it safe. If you transition right to a

3. regular bed, consider installing siderails that fit under the mattress. They can provide added security.

Keep the routine. Continue the bedtime

4. routines in the same order as when your tot was sleeping in a crib. The more consistency you can create at bedtime, the less anxious your tot will be moving into a new bed.

Room for One

Your snuggly tot might be fun to lie with at bedtime, but it’s not a good habit to start. If you lie with your tot until she falls asleep, you may prevent her from establishing good long term sleep patterns. Falling asleep independently is important for the times you aren’t around. A routine that requires you being there for your tot to go to sleep will be difficult for both of you and unfair to your tot if you start leaving before she is asleep.

(18 months – 3 years)

by the age of two, your tot will have spent 40% of his time sleeping.

Theinfant cries transition into pleas of not going to sleep, and then once all seems settled, there is the all too common small voice coming down the hall proclaiming, ‘I need a drink’. Your preschooler will sleep about 11–13 hours. While many preschoolers won’t nap because they tend to be very active running, playing, and just plain exploring, it’s a good idea to give them some quiet time (even if they don’t actually sleep).

Preschooler (3–5 years)

Scared or SCARED!

Nightmares and Night Terrors can be scary for both you and your preschooler. So what’s the difference?

Night Terrors

Happen during deep non-REM sleep. •

Typically occur about 2 or 3 hours after a • child falls asleep.

Child wakes suddenly and may sit upright in • bed and yell or scream in distress.

Child might sweat, thrash around, and act • upset and scared.

• down and returns to sleep.

Child cannot be comforted and simply calms

Child won’t have memory of night terror.

Nightmares

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Occur during REM sleep.

Happen in the later hours of sleep.

Child awakes scared or upset.

Child can be comforted.

• of nightmare.

Child will be able to remember at least parts

Over-arousal of the central nervous system (CNS) during sleep, which can be a result of a maturing CNS, is the cause of night terrors. Not being able to comfort or sooth your child is the very frustrating part for parents, but the best way to handle a night terror is to be patient and wait for your child to settle down. Make sure he doesn’t hurt himself. Remember that it should only last a few minutes, and your child will return to sleep. There’s no treatment for night terrors, but you can help prevent them:

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Reduce your child’s stress.

• simple and relaxing.

Establish a consistent bedtime routine that’s

• isn’t overtired.

Make sure your child gets enough rest and

night terrors occur in 3–6% of kids and are typically more common in boys.

Days at school along with activities and homework after are all the more reason for big kids to get their shuteye. Approximately 10 hours will do the trick.

Big Kids (6–9 years)

Set the Stage

A proper sleep environment can help your big kid get the quality sleep they need. Here are things to consider:

Noise – Children are generally insensitive to 1. extreme noise levels, but you and dad talking or the TV on can interfere with your big kid falling asleep. Be sensitive to the amount of noise you are creating.

Technology – Keep the TV and computers out 4. of the bedroom. Both can over stimulate your big kid and make falling asleep difficult.

Keep It Dry

Temperature – Most sleep scientists believe

2. a slightly cool room provides the best sleeping environment. This is because naturally our body’s internal temperature drops to its lowest level while we sleep. Keep this in mind when choosing pj’s and bedding for your big kid. Their room should be at a temperature that you are comfortable in when lightly clothed.

Slumber parties and sleepovers are a rite of passage for our big kids, but for bedwetters, it can put a real damper on things, literally! Bladder control is a complex process, and in most cases, your big kid will outgrow the problem. If bedwetting continues beyond the age of 6 or 7 or suddenly occurs out of nowhere, it is a good idea to mention it to your doctor and rule out any underlying condition such as obstruction of the urinary tract.

What can you

do? Be

Light – Sleep patterns are regulated by light

3. and darkness. We are sleepy when it’s dark and awake when it is light. Make sure your big kid’s room is sensitive to this. Another important thing to remember is keeping light exposure to a minimum when your big kid wakes up in the middle of the night. So, get yourself a nightlight!

supportive. Bedwetting isn’t any fun for your big kid, and they aren’t doing it on purpose. Let your big kid know it’s a normal part of growing up and won’t last forever. Also, have them help change the sheets when bedwetting occurs. Make it clear that it isn’t punishment, but rather a part of the process. Helping may also make your big kid feel better. Lastly, remind your big kid to use the bathroom one last time before going to sleep.

most bedwetters have a relative who did too as it runs in families. so, if you and dad wet the bed when you were young, it’s very likely your big kid will too.

Thosetweeners…still our kids, but rushing to grow-up. Our tweeners should be getting around nine hours of sleep a night. Days at school, along with after school activities and homework are all the more reason for tweeners to get their shuteye.

Tweeners (10–12 years)

Tweener Tips

Sleep problems and disorders are all too common for tweeners. Poor or inadequate sleep can contribute behavioral problems such as hyperactivity and cognitive problems, which can affect the ability to learn in school. Here are 3 ways to help your tweener get the sleep he needs:

Just like the previous stages, continue to 1. emphasize a consistent bedtime routine and sleep schedule.

2.

No TV or computers in the bedroom.

3. caffeinated beverages.

Cut out the soda or other

Good to Know

Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a common condition that begins in childhood and may persist into adulthood. Kids with ADHD typically have trouble sitting still, staying focused, and/or controlling their behavior and emotions. Studies have found that ADHD is linked with a variety of sleep problems such as a higher rate of daytime sleepiness and signs of sleep disordered breathing. Restless legs

syndrome and periodic leg movement syndrome were also common. Treating sleep problems may improve ADHD symptoms and quality of life.

1.5 million children in the US receive medication for ADHD.

School, dances and zits are major components of the teen life. Eight to 9.5 hours of sleep is recommended for our teens, but one study found that only 15% reported getting 8.5 hours of sleep on a school night. Throw in irregular sleep patterns throughout the week and our teens can experience sleep deprivation which can be very dangerous.

Teens (13–18 years)

Serious Sleep

An abundance of activities, social events, homework and the everyday stresses of being a teen, all contribute to not getting enough sleep. Research has shown that more than 20% of high school students fall asleep in class. Lost sleep affects your teen’s ability to concentrate and even slows reaction time. This can be life threatening when behind the wheel. The National Highway Safety Traffic Administration estimates 1,500 people are killed every year in crashes caused by drivers between the ages of 15 and 24 who are simply tired. The best thing you can do is get your teen to follow a consistent sleep schedule. The magnitude of the many teen stresses can be lessened with a good night’s sleep.

Can’t Argue Biology

Having trouble getting your teen out of bed in the morning? You’re not alone, and it may be attributed to your teen’s biology. Naturally we experience different levels of sleepiness throughout the day. Our need to sleep is controlled by two body systems called sleep/ wake homeostasis and the circadian biological clock. Sleep/wake homeostasis creates a drive to balance sleep and wakefulness. Our circadian biological clock regulates the timing of our sleepiness and wakefulness throughout the day. Circadian rhythm dips result in being sleepier, but this sleepiness will be less intense if we have had sufficient sleep.

Sources: www.theparentreport.com

www.kidshealth.org

www.sleepfoundation.org

www.babycenter.com

Teens experience a shift in the circadian rhythm. This causes them to naturally feel awake later at night and makes falling asleep before 11pm difficult. Teens experience the strongest circadian rhythm dips between 3–7am and 2–5pm, but throw in not getting enough sleep to begin with, and the morning dip can last until 10am. So, biology can be a factor in your teen not being a morning person! OTMOM

sleep deprivation can lead to decreased attentiveness, decreased short-term memory, inconsistent performance and delayed response time.

story by | Jodie Harvala

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We start the day wearing the mom hat getting the kids and Hubby ready for the day. Then in a mad rush we make ourselves presentable for the day and flip on the taxi driver hat and head out the door. Drop everyone off where they belong and quick, get the employee hat. Eight hours later it’s back to the taxi driver hat. Pick up the kids and hurry back home. Grab the chef hat and get a meal on the table before there is a meltdown. The Hubby gets home. Slip into the wife hat and catch-up on his day while the kids are trying to slam on the mom hat because they want to playyyyyy outside in the diiiirrrrrttt!

If you’re lucky, Hubby takes them out to play in the dirt. You, very reluctantly, force on the maid hat and do a quick pick up of the disaster area you call your house. The bugs come out…the kids come in, and it’s back on with the mom hat for baths, jammies and snacks, (if your kids are like mine they eat constantly). FINALLY, its bedtime. You don the storyteller hat and enjoy a few minutes of quiet calm before the kids are off to sleepy time. Now must be your time, you think, but you head downstairs to find Hubby with the lover hat in hand… You have got to be kidding!

says “remember the woman behind the mom”

If your day looks anything like mine, you are the woman of many hats. Does this sound familiar…

Ok Ladies, your day may not be exactly like that, but I know you wear just as many hats! Of all the hats you wear how many are just for you and you alone? I see it all the time. Women give and give and give and have no idea how to receive. We forget that receiving is an important part of the circle of life! So, what about you? What if you took time to fill yourself up? And what if filling yourself up gave you more energy so you could continue to give back AND feel happy and inspired while doing so?

How do you do that?

It starts slowly and requires commitment. And, yes, you are worth it. Taking time for you could range from spending 5 minutes in quiet solitude

each day, to buying yourself flowers, to taking a walk or bubble bath. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it fills your tank.

We have been trained that it is not ok to take care of our own needs. Somehow it is selfish. Here’s the thing. Ladies, if we don’t take time for ourselves and give back to ourselves, we will end up tired, bitter and resentful! You need to fill yourself up before you can give to others.

In the hustle of our busy lifestyles we forget that we have permission to give ourselves self care. In my experience I think it’s how we start to lose who we are. We start putting off those fun things we enjoy because of the ‘have to’s’ the ‘should’s’

and the ‘I really need to’s’. It’s time to stop “shoulding ” on you! Think of it this way, if you take the time to do good things for yourself and take care of yourself, you are teaching your sons and daughters to do just that! You want them to grow up and be happy and fulfilled, right? For that to happen they need to see you being just that!

So the moral of this story is to find those things you enjoy and find a way to do it! For example, get together with friends. Recently, some friends and I planned an evening together. We hired a babysitter to watch the kids while we grilled out. We had such a great night. We felt spoiled and enjoyed every second! Another example is my stay-at-

home-supermom friend who plans something for herself one weekend a month. She does it without guilt. She is a great mom that enjoys herself when she is with her kids because she knows she gets her tank filled regularly!

I am putting out a challenge to all of you! In the next 90 days fill your tank regularly. Find something you enjoy and do it. Be conscious of how you feel and know that being a happy woman, a fulfilled woman translates into being a better mom.

I want to hear from you and the plans you have made to be selfish for yourself! Write me at Jodie@corepassion.com. Stop shoulding on yourselves, Ladies, and just do it!

Jacobson, Jennifer Arends, JoAnne Borg, Natalie Johnson and Tammy Askew