Anger and stress control
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Anger comes from disappointment. When the difference of the value person gives to himself and the value others give to him is getting bigger the level of anger increases. Loosing previous power is a strong anger factor. The definition of Turkish Language Society says; aggression reaction under detainment, offence or intimidation, furiousness, rage, fury
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Anger is a masked depression. Sometimes people who have depression lives with the depression become introverted or attack to other people. Usually men and macho culture try to hide depression with aggressive behaviour.
In general anger is an emotional reaction given to unsaturated desires, unwanted outcomes and unmet expectations. Just like other emotions, when anger expressed universal and healthy it’s a positive and can recover communications between people. However, anger has the potential to transform extremely destroying reactions and aggression when it is not controlled and reflects to behaviours. Today we see uncontrolled anger emotions reaction in family violence, child harassment and abuse, terrorism, street fights and in traffic. Usually, instead of asking for help people suppress anger and similar feelings, deny and ignore their feelings.
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Anger Dance Psychotherapist Doctor Harriett Lerner (USA) In Anger Dance, Doctor Harriet Lerner says when anger happens there is something wrong in relationship. According to him anger is not the real problem but basis of anger is. When a situation is uncomfortable acting better than the condition or hate don’t solve the problem. For example ignoring the problem may mean being malleable, easy going and passive. When anger is lived like this it means anger is stored with increasing dosage.
At the end ineffective outbreak or emotional distance occurs. He argues that when anger outbreaks it is not effective and dangerous. The results are lower self-esteem, inability to communicate and blame.
A- What are the symptoms? Anger has many dimensions from a small reaction to rage. Anger is felt just like other feelings; with physiologically and biologically changes. If you know to rest, our body gives us signals that we are angry. Physical Signs of Anger; • Stimulus activates the sense • Stress and anger starts • Increased secretion of adrenaline increases energy • Breathing is more frequent • Fast heartbeats • Blood pressure increases • Body and mind is ready for war or run reaction
