four for four: A Message to Those Fighting for Love
BY KARIMA McKENZIE
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’ve reflected on the tumultuous roller coaster ride that comes with merging two adult lives. Being married, I have always been asked, “How’s married life?” My answers would vary from “pretty cool,” “interesting,” “great,” etc. But if I’m being honest with myself, I’d say marriage is the most rewarding yet most challenging experience in life. It’s rewarding for the lifelong companionship, the dates, laughter, intimacy, wedding day, etc. The challenge, however, is in the vows, when things get difficult (and they will) will you remember the rewards? Will you come to your senses before it goes too far? If you’ve truly made a commitment to your relationship or marriage, then there’s always a road back to recovery. It requires having
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the things in life that most people struggle with: Humility, Transparency, and Patience. In my 4 years of being married, I’ve identified 4 things that will contribute to the success of any relationship or marriage. 1. Respect Respect the vows that you took and their true meaning. Respect one another’s feelings. Too often we dismiss our partner’s feelings because we can’t identify with them. And while we may not understand the place from which their feelings come from, it is important to honor them by being receptive to them. Respect each other’s individual growth! They will change, you will change, and
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