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Daddy, I am praying for you

Victoria Belton 1

© Daddy, I Am Praying For You. Copyright 2021 by Victoria Belton.

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All Scriptures quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version

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Table of Contents Acknowledgments ......................................................................................... 5 Foreword ....................................................................................................... 7 A Letter from The Intercessor........................................................................ 9 The Abusive Dad .......................................................................................... 12 The Angry Dad ............................................................................................. 16 The Baby Boy Dad ........................................................................................ 19 The Careless Dad ......................................................................................... 22 The Coach Dad ............................................................................................. 24 The Couch Potato Dad ................................................................................. 27 The Fatherless Dad ...................................................................................... 29 The Drunken Dad ......................................................................................... 32 The Emotionless Dad ................................................................................... 36 The Gap Standing Dad ................................................................................. 38 The Grieving Dad ......................................................................................... 41 The Jail Dad .................................................................................................. 43 The Mentally ill Dad ..................................................................................... 48 The Military Dad .......................................................................................... 51 The No-relief Dad......................................................................................... 54 The Not Going to Church Dad ...................................................................... 56 The Non-Visiting Dad ................................................................................... 59 The Non-working/ Lazy Dad ........................................................................ 62 THE NON PAYING CHILD SUPPORT DAD ...................................................... 65 The Overlooking Dad ................................................................................... 67 The Prejudiced Dad...................................................................................... 70 The Perverse Dad ......................................................................................... 73 3

The Returning Dad ....................................................................................... 77 The Rich Dad ................................................................................................ 79 The Righteous Dad ....................................................................................... 81 The Rolling Stone Dad.................................................................................. 83 The Sick Dad................................................................................................. 85 The Shepherd Father ................................................................................... 88 The Spineless Dad ........................................................................................ 93 The Teenage Dad ......................................................................................... 95 The Unbelieving Dad.................................................................................... 97 The Unforgiving Dad .................................................................................... 99 The Unteachable Dad ................................................................................ 101

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Acknowledgments Pastor Robert and Katrina Wallace- Thank you for being wonderful leaders. You truly have a heart for God’s people. You desire to see us healed, whole, and lacking nothing. We are successful. period.

Elder Ida Jefferson- Thank you, for all your continuous prayers for me.

Elder Gwen Doss- for pushing me to do the things God has called me to do. You always know when you speak encouragement into my heart. I AM DREAMING BIG Elder Faye Mosby-Long- Thank you for giving me my first book on Intercessory Prayer. You are truly a great friend. May God continue to bless you and keep you.

Prophet Henry L. Logan- You know I call you what I know you are.

Some of the words you have spoken to me have come straight from the throne of God. Thank you for always being available to help me with any endeavor I am working on.

Bishop and Pastor Guestine Dunn- Thank you for being such great Godparents. Thank you, Bishop Dunn, for coming to my very first book signing and telling me that I had more books in me.

Apostle Tawana Spencer- Thank you for telling me that God wanted to use me as an intercessor and that I should study the gift.

Geraldine Maney- Thank you for being a Proverbs 31 woman. I know you don’t like to be called the family's matriarch, but when Madea passed away- you obtained the role, and you carry it well.

Madelon Wallace- Thank you for speaking belief into the believer.

YOU ROCK! Thank you, Pastor Robert Wallace, Pastor Marcus Mickles, and Rev. Kyle Schmidt, for reading over the book for me.

The Intercessor, Victoria

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This book is dedicated to my late father, Rev. Isadore Maney. You efficiently handled three daddy roles: The Gap Standing Dad, Shepherd Dad, and Righteous Dad. You are truly missed.

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Foreword

We need prayer warriors in our lives! People who will truly see what the spiritual nature of our oppression whether it is bondage to sin, despair in the face of grief and loss, or the general dread and disappointment we so often experience living in a fallen world. The God of the Bible instructs us to intercede for each other because we have a God who knows and cares about our needs. Not only that, but He has the power to help us, and He does! There is no greater need in our community than for men and women to intercede in prayer for each other’s needs faithfully. In this act, we go before the Father, through Jesus' blood, and ask Him to work His spiritual hand to open eyes and change lives from the inside out.

The subsequent book offered to us by Victoria Belton was born out of a desire to see fathers receive God’s comfort and love, with victory over problems too deep for a mere mortal to tread alone. Christ’s work of interceding on another’s behalf before the Father has been and will always be the source of the spiritual movement in the lives of our fellow man.

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He gave us this model for prayer and in following His commands to pray always, not giving up, and persisting in prayer for the needs of the brothers. We obey God and participate

in the coming of

God’s Kingdom.

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intercession and lament to thanksgiving, we have the Holy Scriptures given perfectly to us by God to guide us. Victoria Belton has taken her knowledge of God’s word and responded with beautiful, authentic, intercessory prayer. She fights the enemies with the armor of Christ, the only offense we have been given: God’s truth. This book offers a guide to praying for the real spiritual needs of others and gives us a resource for a powerful need in our community.

The spiritual health of the fathers changes the direction of families and communities where sickness and sin infect; there will be bondage and decay. But where the Spirit of life reigns, there will be lively prayer, preaching of God’s word for the building up of the Saints; the flourishing and growth of Christ’s people, His whole church to be a blessing, salt, and light in a dying world.

Rev. Kyle Schmidt

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A Letter from The Intercessor Greetings, After kicking and screaming about the assignment God had given me, I finally completed this book out of obedience to God. Thank you, God, for the assignment. I was thinking in my finite mind, “How can I do this?” But Your Word is true greater is He that is in You than He is in the world.

I pray if you are a Dad, and you find yourself in one of those prayers, that you will allow God's word to penetrate your heart and that pride will not keep you in the place you are currently in. I pray you will be free in Jesus’ name. I pray that you will be constant in caring for your seed. I pray that God will do a quick and complete work in you so that you can care for your seed properly. I pray you will start and keep the process going.

I also pray you become a good worker. I know God will complete the work in you.

I pray that if you have experienced one of the dads mentioned in this book as a child. I pray that You will meditate on the prayers and allow God to heal you in His matchless name. I 9

pray that you will walk in forgiveness toward the person that was supposed to love, protect, and provide for you, but hurt you instead. I pray you will not allow what happened in your childhood to ruin your adulthood. I pray you will forget all the things that were in the past, and push toward your future. I pray you will be healed of trauma, post-traumatic stress syndrome, or any obstacle that will hinder your healing. I pray against any forces that would try to prevent you from starting the healing process. I pray against future traumatic events that may try to push you back, or cause you to go backward from the healing process. My prayer is that you will keep praying and pushing in faith until your shift happens.

I pray that God turns everything the devil meant for your bad into good. I pray that God continues to give you strength, so that you can pray for yourself. I pray that you realize that you are more than a conqueror according to God’s word. I pray that you know and believe you have a bright future; that God is the author and finisher of your faith. I pray that you don’t give up on yourself, or give up on God because greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world. If you are an intercessor, praying these prayers for Dads all over the world, may God continue to cover you in His blood and use you mightily in His kingdom. I pray that you will continue to stand in the gap, and remain on the wall praying. I pray that if you get tired of praying, because it seems like your prayers are 10

going unanswered, God will continue to give you the encouragement you need to keep praying. I pray that God’s word will resonate in your spirit: that man ought to always pray. I pray that as you continue to intercede for other people because God is answering your prayers. May your prayers never be in vain.

I love you all, and I am praying for You. Be Blessed.

Elder Victoria –The Intercessor

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The Abusive Dad Fathers do not irritate and provoke Your children to anger (do not exasperate them to resentment) but rear them (tenderly) in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4

Lord, I pray that you will heal, deliver, and set the abusive dad free; whether he is physically or emotionally abusive deliver him from all works of evil. Lord, whatever has happened in his life that caused him to be abusive, You will pull it out of his mind, body, soul, and spirit. Break the yoke of bondage off his life. I pray You will go to the root of the problem: dig it up and pull it out. If he is abusive to his children because he was abused as a child, allow this cycle to be broken in Jesus’ name. Heal him of the childhood trauma he experienced. Don’t allow him to keep revisiting incidents and situations that caused him to be abusive. Lord don’t allow pride to prevent him from getting help. Let him know that he cannot do it by himself. Allow him to know that the cycle can and will be broken. I pray that he will receive Godly counseling.

Don’t allow him to abuse the girls because they are not boys. Don’t allow him to abuse the boys because they remind him of himself, or everything he is not. Don’t allow him to 12

abuse the girls because they remind him of his ex-wife, girlfriend, or mother that abused him. Lord, if he is emotionally abusive just because he does not like the child, or the child is not his own seed, speak to the father’s heart and allow him to love the child. Let him know that he does not have anything if he does not love. Give him a clean kind heart, and renew his mind, to be changed. Let people tell him that he will be judged for every word that comes out of his mouth, and let him take heed of the word. I pray the Abusive Dad will not provoke his children any longer.

Let the dad know this abuse will cause his child to lose heart and become discouraged. Let the dad’s words build up and not destroy. I pray he will not belittle them in private, or in front of family, or friends. He will not nag or complain about a task that he has given the child to do, which is not perfect.

Allow the dad to know he is not perfect, so why should he expect his child to be perfect? Let him know that the child did his best; that is all he can ask. Lord, I pray that the father will not continue to nag and nitpick at any chore the child does. I pray against him giving the child a task to do that he cannot complete because of the child's size or mental capacity.

Don’t allow him to say mean and evil things to him because he thinks this will provoke him to change. Allow him to talk to the child about his behavior if he is not happy with the way the child is behaving. If the child is going down the 13

wrong path, allow him to know that his words have power, and he needs to speak positive words to his seed.

Let him choose his words wisely. Allow the emotionally abusive Dad to bridle his tongue. Allow the emotionally abusive Dad not to have an accusing spirit against the child.

Allow the dad to stop speaking false words over the child's life.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, heal the child that has been emotionally and physically abused. Pull out every negative word that has been spoken over their lives; out of the atmosphere around them, their hearts, mind, soul, and spirits. Lord, I pray You will restore their soul. Please remove any form of accusation.

Lord, I pray the child does not continue to enter abusive relationships because the child in them is still yearning to please their father. Lord, place a firewall around the child and prevent them from entering abusive relationships because this was introduced to their spirit when they were young, and they think love must be abusive.

Allow their minds to be renewed. Cast down every thought from the enemy that will keep them bound. Lord, I pray the abuse will go into outer darkness. Lord, restore the child to being able to communicate with other people without hiding or holding their true feelings in because they think people will not like them. Let them be truthful with themselves 14

and with people. Lord, I pray that the child will not be so hard on themselves if they make a mistake because they are used to being judged for every little thing. Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus, that the emotionally abused child will not always try to please other people, while forsaking themselves. Remove the spirit from wanting to please people. Allow them the wisdom and grace to strive to please You. Lord, take away any sickness or illness that is going on in the child's body like irritable bowel syndrome as a result of emotional abuse. Lord, take away feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, intimidation, and self-doubt. Remove fear and doubt. Lord, allow them to know that they are victorious and that they are more than conquerors according to Your word.

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The Angry Dad Let all bitterness, wrath, and anger, clamor and slander be put away from You along with all malice. Ephesians 4:31

Lord, I pray You will speak to the father that is angry. Let him know that it is okay to be angry, but sin not. Lord, allow him to control his emotions rooted in anger. Lord, I pray that if the father is angry with society, a job, or a co-worker, that he will not take it out on his children. Replace the spirit of anger with the spirit of self-control, gentleness, and kindness. I pray that if the father is angry with himself about past mistakes and regrets, that he will get over it, and forgive himself, and move forward with his life. Don’t allow him to take his frustration out on his child.

Lord, allow the Angry Dad to give a gentle answer to a question that his child may have to keep the peace. Teach him how to deal with his anger, and not bottle his anger up, which may cause him to explode all at once, and the damage is not able to be reversed. Don’t let the dad do anything in his anger that will jeopardize his life or the life of his children.

Don’t let the dad continue to think about bad incidents that will keep him angry. Let him keep his mind stayed on You, so You 16

will keep him in perfect peace. Create in the Angry Dad a clean heart, so his decision-making will come from a place that is positive, and able to produce good choices when he is deciding. Allow him to know that he cannot be an angry man and make decisions for his family. Take away the stony places in the Angry Dad’s heart and give him a pliable heart. Give him an outlet to eliminate anger, frustrations, and/or disappointments. Let him do activities (not drugs or alcohol) to relieve stress, like play sports, walk, jog, or talk to a trusted friend. Let him be able to handle new situations that frustrate or make him angry.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray You will bless the child raised by an angry dad.

Build them up where they are hurting. Allow healing to take place for the child. Don’t allow them to have the same spirit of their earthly father but give them Your spirit of love. I pray they will get to know that you are not an angry dad. You are a gentle dad. Allow them to know that You are slow to anger.

Lord, I pray that everything the devil meant for their bad, You will turn it around for the good. Don’t allow the child to have a fear of getting to know You. Let them know they can receive Your unconditional love just because they are special to You.

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The Baby Boy Dad When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.

When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 1 Corinthians 13:11

This is for the Dad that is the last baby to be born in his family or the only boy in his family, and his mother, father, and or siblings have spoiled him rotten. This dad can do no wrong in his family’s eyesight. He was pampered, and they gave him everything he ever wanted, and some of his family is still spoiling him rotten. His family has been at his beck and call and has done everything for him. Even if it meant sacrificing their own well-being to please him. He is dependent on the love he receives from his family but does not know how to return the love. The Baby Boy Dad does not know what it means to love what he has created.

God don’t allow his family to help him out of trouble time and time again for the same mishaps or wrong choices that he has made. Allow the Baby Boy Dad to be responsible for his own actions, whether they are good, bad, or ugly.

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not self-seeking. Teach him that if he has not love, he does not have anything. Lord, help the Baby Boy Dad be unselfish.

Let him know the world does not revolve around him.

Let him not be self-centered as he is raising his children. Don’t allow him to keep spending money on expensive clothes or shoes, while his children suffer because he spends money on himself. Allow him to spend money on what his family needs, not what he wants. I pray that the Baby Boy Dad stops buying clothes, and doesn’t start to buy other expensive luxury items such as boats, cars, motorcycles and or golf clubs. Don’t let him continue to be a lover of himself.

Allow him to put his children's needs and desires before his wants and desires. Let him provide for his family. Allow him to realize that he is not a baby anymore, and he must be responsible. Allow him to put away childish things, stop this behavior, and let him become responsible.

If the Baby Boy Dad is still living at home, give the Baby Boy Dad’s mother and father the wisdom and knowledge to cut the apron strings. May they tell him that it is time for him to get his own place. Don’t allow division to take place between the mother and father of the Baby Boy Dad, if the mother continues to spoil her son. Redirect the course of the Baby Boy Dad’s life and let people speak to him about his behavior. Cause him to change and become responsible for his children. Even allow the family to treat him differently.

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Allow his family members to let the baby boy's dad grow up and put away childish things.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray for the child that was born to a daddy that is a baby boy. Lord, I pray that the children will not experience any lack as a result of their father's spending habits. Let the child be provided for, make provision for the child. Lord let the family member give the money to the father’s seed instead of giving it to the dad. Lord don’t allow the child to feel rejected, unloved due to his father not providing for him. Lord, restore the relationship between the parent and child if it was damaged due to him being selfish.

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The Careless Dad My son doesn’t lose sight of these keep sound wisdom and discretion. Proverbs 3:21

These are Careless Dads that are not paying attention to their children. These dads see their children going down the wrong way or know their kids have committed a crime, but these dads look the other way. The Careless Dad allows his children

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punishment. God, don’t allow the Careless Dad to say, “This is their life, and they can choose to live any way they want to live.”

If the child is hanging with a crowd of people doing bad things, allow him to talk to his seed about his behavior. Don’t allow the dad to turn a deaf ear and have blinded eyes where his children are concerned. Help the dad care about his children's behavior, safety, welfare, and well-being. Lord, I pray that You will help the Careless Dad care about his children. I pray he will take an active interest in his children's lives. If the dad ran the street and said, “I ran the street and committed crimes, but I turned out okay,” bind up the hand of the enemy that would allow the dad to have this attitude. Let 22

the Dad care about the safety of his child. Don’t allow him to let his child run the streets. Allow the Dad to teach his children how to respect authority. Allow the dad to listen to Godly advice regarding raising his children. I pray when he chooses to punish the children: that the punishment is not too harsh or harmful for the children.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray that the child is not already too far gone to receive instruction from his Dad. Lord, I pray that the child will not rebel against his father’s new attitude when he corrects the child when he is wrong. Let the child know that his father is correcting him because he loves him. Lord, I pray that the child will not become a part of a gang or cult, so they can feel they belong to something. Don’t allow them to keep committing crimes and getting into trouble to get attention.

Lord, I pray that the Careless Dad and child will be able to have a wonderful relationship together. Continue to teach both how to care and love one another. Don’t allow the child to be upset with his mom for stepping up when the father was not doing the right thing concerning his child.

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The Coach Dad Seek the Lord and his strength: seek his presence continually.

1 Chronicles 16:11

This is the Dad that is a Coach, and he coaches all kinds of sports, and he is very sports driven. I pray that the Coach Dad is not so sports-driven that he would do anything to win. Lord, give him strength, wisdom, and knowledge regarding when to participate in sports and when not to. Lord, if the Coach's Dad coaches his own child, don’t let the Coach Dad put undue pressure on his own kids to score the most points, or always be so driven to score and or to win. Let the coach know their team either wins or learns (words from Nelson Mandela.).

Give him wisdom not to go from baseball, to basketball, to football each season. If he needs to rest his mind and body, don’t allow him to enter another season of sports without taking time off so that he is physically and mentally ready to coach again. Let the Coach Dad allow his assistant to help him more or take over as the coach for a while. If the Coach Dad attends church, let him come to church when he can to get re-saturated with Your word.

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Don’t allow the coach's dad to forsake his family and or friends all the time for the love of the game. Lord, I pray that coach dad will not get involved in any sexual misconduct with the children he is coaching. I pray that no affairs and or sexual harassment take place between the referees and coaches. I pray that the Coach Dad’s wives can attend sporting events with their husbands, especially if they are going out of town for the weekend. Let the Coach Dad hide Your word in his heart so that he may not sin against You. Cover him in Your blood that he will not commit any sexual sin.

If the Coach Dad is a referee, help him to be fair to all the players, regardless of gender, color, and talent. Bless the Coach Dad not misappropriating any funds that are for the team. Give the Coach Dad extra money for traveling and helping the children who may not have funds for traveling. I pray that when the Coach Dad is out of town at the tournaments or different sports events, he will not become intoxicated or do anything that would allow him to be under the influence of drugs and or alcohol. I pray the Coach Dad will be a true chaperone for the children under his care. That he will have the children's safety and well-being in mind. Give the Coach Dad traveling mercies against all hurt, harm, and danger while traveling. I pray that You will let the Coach Dad realize even youth grow tired and weary. Allow the Coach Dad to teach the children sportsmanship, patience, and endurance 25

in the face of adversities. Give the Coach Dad discernment and wisdom on how to help any young men or young women who may be struggling with life difficulties.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Allow the youth not to forsake doing things in the church while they are young because they are so involved in sports. I pray that You will encourage them if they lose a game or don’t come in the first place, especially if they have done their very best. Lord, if the Coach’s children participate in sports, cover the children against team members that may want to hurt them. Protect them on the field against all hurt, harm, and danger. Lord, renew the young people's strength so that they can soar like eagles. Allow the children to continue to do well in sports and their academics. If they have their mind set on going pro, allow them to make it, but allow them to get their education first and foremost. Allow the school to give them a fair amount of money for their athletic scholarship. Cover them from getting involved with the wrong group of people. Don’t let anyone cross their path that will try to give them sports enhancing drugs like steroids. Allow them to remain humble throughout their career and not commit crimes thinking they are above the law. Lord, I pray that they will not become hurt from injuries preventing them from continuing to play throughout college and professionally.

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The Couch Potato Dad Give your eyes no sleep and your eyelids no slumber.

Proverbs 6:4

This is the Dad that goes to work, comes home and just sits and or lays on the couch and watches TV or plays with his PlayStation, and may eventually fall asleep. Lord, let him know that his children need him. Don’t continue to allow the dad to think his presence in the house is everything that they need. Let the Couch Potato Dad know he needs to take an active role in raising their children. Let the Couch Potato Dad have open communication with the children.

Dismiss this dad’s wrong thinking. Allow him to value his role as a dad and to take his role seriously. Let him know that his role is important to the development of his children.

Allow him to help the children with their homework and attend important school events.

I pray that You will help the Couch Potato Dad, get off the couch and start taking part in his child’s life, like attending extracurricular activities that the child may be a part of. Allow the Dad to know that he is blessed to have children, and that they grow up very fast. Allow him to go with his wife, or meet 27

the child’s mothers, at the school to find out about the progress of the child or children.

Let the Couch Potato Dad know he needs to exercise and not just sit on the couch for health reasons. At times, allow him to go outside with his child to play and walk with his child.

Lord, I pray the Couch Potato Dad will not end up with any diagnoses that are associated with a sedentary lifestyle such as diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, and/or heart problems. I pray that if his organs have already started to become affected, You will restore them.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray for the children of the Couch Potato Dad. I pray that You will redeem the time that was lost when their Dad was a Couch Potato. I pray that they will have a great relationship now that he is involved in their activities of daily living or other events that are important to them. Allow him to ask his seed about how their day went at school and or work.

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The Fatherless Dad Father of the fatherless and protector of the widows is God in his holy habitation? Psalm 68:5

These are the Dads that never had a relationship with their biological father because of abandonment, adoption, or death.

They have a desire to be a good father, but feel that because they did not have a father as an example, they cannot be a good father. These fathers are without a role model.

God, allow the fatherless Dad to know, You will teach him everything that he needs to know about being a great dad.

Allow him to know, You are a father to the fatherless. Allow him to know, he is Your son, that You are protecting and making provision for him as his Father. Also allow him to know, You are a Father to the fatherless.

Since the fatherless Dad does not have his father's presence in his life, allow him to feel Your presence in his life.

Allow them to know, believe, and understand that You are always with him--despite him not being able to see You physically. Allow him to communicate with You, and have a relationship with You. I pray that the fatherless Dad will have 29

a real relationship with You. I pray he will look to You, and will know You hear him when he communicates with You. I pray he will not be afraid to talk to You. I pray he will know that You will never leave, nor forsake him. Don't allow him to fear You, or reject You, because his natural father abandoned him.

Don’t let the fatherless Dad blame himself for the abandonment, adoption, or death of his father--no matter the circumstances behind his dad not being in his life. Allow him to reject the enemy’s voice that may be speaking ill will and lies to him.

If the fatherless Dad has a desire to meet his Dad; and he will never be able to meet his Dad due to death, sealed adoption records, or the mother just does not know who the father is due to a one-night stand; Lord, protect his heart from the spirit of abandonment and yearning to know his father.

Give him peace that surpasses all understanding. Give him peace in his heart from the adoption, abandonment and, or death. Don’t allow the dad to feel anger, sadness or rejection.

Allow the fatherless Dad to know that all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord, who are called according to Your purpose. Lord, if it is any way possible for him to meet his father, I pray You will allow this to take place.

If it is a desire of the fatherless Dad’s heart let their relationship and union be a good one.

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PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus that the fatherless Dad’s child will never have to experience what it’s like to be fatherless. I pray you will bind them together with love. Allow this generation of fathers to continue to always be able to experience a healthy father and son relationship. Don’t allow this family unit to be broken. Allow it to be a three-folded cord that is not easily broken.

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The Drunken Dad And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit.

Ephesians 5:18

Allow the Drunken Dad to want to be healed and delivered from alcoholism. Give him the desire to be free more than the desire for the taste of alcohol. Don’t allow him to continue to blame his childhood, family or friends for his drunkenness. Allow him not to blame his addiction on any hurts, pain, disappointment, or any misfortune that happened in childhood. Let him not continue to blame other people for his choice to keep drinking.

Allow him to know that in the name of Jesus, the enemy must flee. It is a spirit that should not be able to control him. Don’t allow him to make excuses for his habit. Lord, take the taste away from his mouth--take the desire away from his heart. I pray that he will be delivered, set free, and healed from whatever has caused him to be an alcoholic in the first place.

I pray You will cover him with Your blood as You are delivering him from alcohol. Take every negative word that has been spoken over his life, stating that he will be an alcoholic all his life and he will never stop drinking. Renew his mind with 32

positive words. Lord, when he is trying to get delivered from alcohol and the craving is getting worse, let him call on the name of Jesus repeatedly. In the name of Jesus demons have to flee. Allow him to know there is power in the name of Jesus to destroy the enemy. Cover him against seizures, falls, tremors, and any withdrawals that he may have from not drinking any alcohol. Bind up the hand of the enemy that will cause the drunken dad to fight with family and friends when he is not sober.

Lord, allow the Drunken Dad to see himself healed, whole and lacking nothing as deliverance is taking place.

Protect his mind when the enemy comes in like a flood, You raise up a standard against him. Allow him to stay free once he is delivered from the alcohol. Let him know what triggers him to drink and allow him to cast down the triggers. Let the Dad begin to call on the name of Jesus when his craving gets bad, especially during the time of the evening and in the latenight hours of the day. Let the Drunken Dad stand on 1 Corinthians 10:13, No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful: he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. Lord, I pray that if he attends church, that another brother in the church that may have been addicted to alcohol will be able to minister to him. Allow him to hold him accountable for 33

his actions whether they are good, bad, or ugly. Lord, I pray that the brother in Christ will tell the drunken dad how he depended on you for his sobriety. Whether or not they attend church they will not be ashamed or embarrassed for seeking medical treatment. Allow him to attend AA meetings to stay consistent with his walk, and so he can be around other people that had the same struggle he had.

I pray as You are healing him that You give him a new set of friends. Bind up the hand of the enemy from allowing him to drink during family gatherings. Bind up the hand of the enemy from telling him he can have at least one drink. Let the Dad not give up. Allow him to know that he must work at staying sober. Give him the desire to fight for his life of sobriety.

Let him know that greater is He that is in him than he that is in the world. I pray You will restore their bodies to the natural homeostasis it was prior to alcohol usage. Lord, I pray You will heal his body from the effects of the alcohol related issue like cirrhosis of the liver, tremors, Vitamin D deficiency, and problems with his stomach.

Lord, allow his family and friends not to become codependent on the Drunken Dad. Allow the family the ability to make the Drunken Dad be responsible for his choice. Allow the Drunken Dad to be open and honest when talking to family 34

and friends, or AA counselors when he is being counseled.

Don’t allow him to keep going around in circles about wanting to be delivered. Allow family and friends stand in the gap for him when he is too weak to stand and pray for himself. Allow him not to put his addictions ahead of his safety, his needs of having a place to stay, and taking care of his personal needs.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN I pray that You will bless the children of the Drunken Dad. I pray the children will be healed, delivered, and set free from any abuse that took place during the time when their Dad was an alcoholic. I pray that the curse is broken off their lives, and they will not become alcoholics. Stop the plans of the enemy. Lord don’t allow children to start drinking when adults are not around, and alcohol is in the home. Don’t allow them to pick up drinks after the adults, or have had a party and left liquor unattended in a glass or beer cans. Lord don’t let parents give their children alcohol as a special treat at parties.

Bind up the hand of the enemy from having liquor stores in the inner cities on every corner. Don’t allow adults to buy alcohol for them. Lord, I pray You will bless the father and children relationship. Allow the Dad to apologize for any hurtful things that he said, or did, because of him being drunk.

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The Emotionless Dad May the God of hope fill You with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Romans 15:13 ESV

Lord God, I pray in the name of Jesus, that You would help the Emotionless Dad. Keep the Emotionless Dad under Your wings. Lord, whatever has happened to him in the past that has left him emotionless, without feeling, or unattached from his feelings, help him deal with it. If he is suffering from damaged emotions, I pray You will heal the Dad’s emotions of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Let the Dad experience the love from You that he thinks that he is missing.

Feel him up with Your holy presence. Give him hope in You. Give him the garments of praise for the spirit of heaviness. Let him experience joy, peace, and love.

Replace his coldness, distance, and unwillingness to not communicate with his family with a willingness to talk to them with gladness, closeness, and expressions of love. Lord don’t let him father out of the emptiness of his soul, but out of a renewed mind. Let him be able to show love and experience love. Let him experience the love from You that thinks he is missing. Don’t simply just let the Dad believe that because he 36

provides food, shelter and or clothing, that the child feels love- and that should be okay for the child. Allow him to verbally tell his seeds that he loves them, and that he is proud of any accomplishments they have made.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray You will help the child that has been raised by the Emotionless Dad, to feel loved and special as You are healing them. When the enemy comes in like a flood, You raise up a standard against them. Lord, restore and replenish the child’s soul to normal, let them know that surely goodness and mercy will follow him all the days of their life. Allow the child to have healthy and normal emotions in all situations.

Lord, replace self-doubt with self-confidence; self-hate with self-love; replace anxiety with peace and joy from having an emotionless dad.

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The Gap Standing Dad Whoever receives and welcomes one child like this in my name receives Me. Matthew 18:5

I pray You will bless the father that is raising another man’s child from a previous relationship or marriage. Lord, I pray You will strengthen the Gap-Standing Dad’s heart. Let him know that what he has done to least of them he has done to You. Let the Gap-Standing Dad know that You love him, and whatever a man soweth that he will also reap. Let the Gap-Standing Dad show love, provide protection, and encouragement to the child. I pray that the Gap-Standing Dad will treat his stepchildren the same as his own seed. Don’t allow him to reject the child due to him/her not being his own seed. Bless him 100-fold for taking on an added responsibility.

Let goodness and mercy surely follow him all the days of his life. Lord, let the Gap-Standing Dad know that raising children that are not his own will not be in vain. That one day the child he cares for will give him great joy. Don’t let the Gap-Standing Dad be angry that he is taking care of another man's child that doesn’t belong to him.

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I pray that if the child's biological father has visitation rights, or when he calls the children that he will not put negative things in the child’s minds about the Gap-Standing Dad. I pray the Gap-Standing Dad will not get angry at the child if the child desires to have a relationship with his biological father. I pray the Gap-Standing Dad and biological dad will not fight and or argue. Let them both strive to be at peace with one another. Should bickering or arguing occur, I pray both men will discuss major issues that are concerning the child's life peaceably. Don’t let the Gap-Standing Dad be prideful and not compromise with the biology dad when situations arise concerning the child. Put a hedge of protection over the Gap-Standing Dad. Don’t allow the child to play one dad against the other. I pray the Gap-Standing Dad will not punish his stepchildren, without punishing his own biological children, when both have done wrong.

Don’t allow the Gap-Standing Dad to be jealous of the relationship that the mother has with her children that are not his children. Lord, allow him to know that she has enough love for him, her children, and his children. Lord don’t allow the Gap-Standing Dad to be accused of any form of abuse, simply because the kids may not like him or get along with him.

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PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN I pray that the child never feels rejected, ashamed or embarrassed because of being raised by their Gap-Standing Dad. I pray the child will be respectful to him as their father, and not disrespect him by saying he is not their Dad. If the Gap-Standing Dad has children from a past relationship, I pray all the children will get along. Bless their relationships, let them get along, and love each other--not just tolerate each other. I pray no form of abuse will take place. I pray that biological children from the Gap-Standing Dad will not hurt or harm their half stepbrothers or sisters in any shape, form of fashion. I pray You will bless the blended families.

Let the biological child of the father not be jealous, or think that the stepchildren have a better life than they do simply because they live with the Gap-Standing Dad. Don’t let the child be torn regarding loving his natural father, and feeling obligated to stay loyal to the Gap-Standing Dad that is feeding and providing for him. Don’t allow the child to feel like he must pick between two dads. Allow the child to freely love both fathers without guilt. I pray the child will know that they are loved and valued by both fathers.

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The Grieving Dad You, Lord, keep my lamp burning: my God turns my darkness into light. Psalms 18:28 NIV

Lord, I pray You will comfort the father's heart that has lost a child. I pray that You will allow him to grieve, but don’t let the grief paralyze him each day of his life for years to come.

Allow him to know that there is a time to mourn, and a time to dance. Allow him to be thankful for the time that You allowed the child to be here on Earth. Lord, I pray that he doesn’t suffer with guilt of things that may have been said or things that he did not say to their child prior to them passing. Give him peace in his heart and surround him with Your comfort. Let the Dad know to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.

Allow the Dad to weep and not be considered weak.

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toward you. Allow him to know that King David in the Bible worshipped you after he had lost his son.

Allow his family and friends to come to him and speak words of encouragement to him--especially on the child's birthday or anniversary of the child's death. Allow his family and friends to know that sometimes not saying anything is okay: just their spending time with him is good. Lord, allow them to know that You are God, and You don’t make mistakes. Allow the Grieving Dad to stay connected with You all the more, and if he does not know You, let him get to know You as his personal Savior.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Let the child talk to the Dad about how their sibling’s death has affected them, and allow them to grieve. Don’t let them be mad at the parents because of the child's death.

Open the lines of communication so they can freely talk about their sibling’s death. Don’t allow the sibling to fall into depression, or be so angry that they take things into their own hands. Cover the children with Your blood, against accidents, illnesses, danger, or death. Lord, I pray You will comfort them and give them peace that surpasses all understanding.

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The Jail Dad For the Lord hears the needy and does not despise his own people who are prisoners. Psalm 69:33

I pray that if the Dad is awaiting trial that he will be given a second chance. Let the judge have mercy. I pray the judge will give him house arrest, or probation for a non-violent crime, and first-time offense. I pray he will repent and truly change his life around. Don’t let him not take the opportunity to get right and stay right. Let his lawyer, warden or other cell mate speak life to him. Don’t allow him to turn a deaf ear to words that will help him. Allow the Jail Dad to believe he can do better.

I pray You will bless the Dad that is in jail. I pray that after the judge sentences the Jail Dad, he will serve his time peacefully. I pray that the Jail Dad does not commit suicide while in jail or prison. I pray against the spirit of hopelessness causing the Dad to want to commit suicide.

Connect him with Godly people as he is serving time.

I pray You will bless his mind to be transformed, let his character be changed. Allow him to walk in newness by his actions, words, and or deeds. God, I pray that if they are guilty 43

of committing the crime, and the Jail Dad has now been transferred to prison, he will repent and apologize to the victim (if they are still alive) and the victim's family for his behavior.

I pray that while he is in jail, that he will make some goals for himself: like complete school and/or learn a trade.

So, when he gets out, he will have some skills and obtain a job. I pray that when he is released, he will be able to function in society. He will no longer have the mentality that caused him to be in prison in the first place. Give him the ability to make good choices outside of the prison walls; choices that will not land him in jail anymore. Lord, help the Jail Dad after he has been released to seek Godly counsel. Lord, I pray You will bind up the hand of the enemy: that You will eliminate the different traps set out for him to return to jail. I bind and break every chain of destruction in his life. Lord, cut down and bind every curse that has been spoken over the Jail Dad’s life through family, friends and or society. Don’t let him return to prison. Allow his family and friends not to bring up the past in a negative way, especially if You have changed him. Open a door and allow the Ex- Jail Dad an opportunity to talk about having a second chance at life, and how their life has been changed.

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incarceration, and systems that do not allow those that should be on parole to be released on parole. Bind up the hands of the enemy from people desiring to continue to make money off people who are in the system.

I pray You will expose all types of criminal behavior.

Even if it’s the guards that are committing the crime and it is being covered up by the system; don’t allow it to continue without the people being punished. I pray that the prison warden will respect them and walk with integrity as he is doing his job. I pray that he will treat all the prisoners fairly.

Lord, continue to let Your laborers go inside the prison and minister to them on a weekly or monthly basis. Lord, give them the vision to help these men when they are released.

Keep the chaplains that are working in the prison system strong, and in the power of You might. Bind up the hand of the enemy that would try to discontinue the prison ministries, and want to close it down because it is helping the prisoners.

If the Dad is in prison due to a crime he did not commit, I pray that their case will be reopened due to someone just simply believing he is not guilty of the crime. I pray You will cause him to be released in Jesus’ name. I pray You will send a lawyer or some law students to work on his case pro bono.

I pray they will go back and be able to uncover new evidence, and the evidence will prove the dad’s innocence. Let the dad 45

have faith that he will be released. I pray the Jail Dad will know that all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord and who are called according to His purpose. Allow the dad to walk in forgiveness for serving time in jail when he was innocent. I pray he will be well compensated fairly.

If the Jail Dad has a sentence that gives him no possibility of parole, I pray that You will allow him to minister to his child during visiting hours. Allow him to realize that it’s not the quantity of time, but the quality. Let Your angels minister to him in the early morning hours. Especially if he feels like he is all alone, and when he feels depressed, and all hope is lost.

If he knew You before he went into prison, allow him to reconnect with You. Let there be people, guards and other prisoners who will speak life to him, witness to him and keep him encouraged.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, allow whoever is raising the child to be sensitive to the child if they are depressed, sad or feel rejected because their father is incarcerated. Remove depression from the child due to their father being in jail or prison. Don’t allow the child to feel responsible for their father's choices that landed him in jail. Don’t allow history to repeat itself, and the child ends up incarcerated, following in the footsteps of the Dad. Lord, I pray You will bind up the hand of the enemy from anyone 46

speaking ill about the Dad being in jail to the children. Don’t let the child be angry or bitter with the law or their father. Don’t let other children make fun of the child due to the father being in jail. Guard their hearts, Lord. If the Jail Dad is about to be released, allow the child to be open to a relationship with their father. Let the child have faith that their Dad will indeed be released if the Dad is scheduled to be released.

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The Mentally ill Dad For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7 KJV

Lord, I pray for the Dad that is mentality ill. Let him realize that he has a problem. I pray he will seek professional help. Lord, bind up the hand of the enemy that would keep him in bondage from getting the help he needs. If the Dad is part of an ethnic group that does not believe in seeking professional help, remove the stigma associated with people receiving help for mental illness. Once the father is healed, allow the father to do whatever he must do to maintain a stable mind.

If they are attending a church that does not believe in seeking professional help for the mind, don’t allow the pastor to belittle the Mentally Ill Dad. Lord, open the mind of the pastor and church leader’s minds. Let them see that You have people working in all types of fields for Your glory. Let them know that Luke, one of Your disciples, was a doctor.

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need is You. Allow the pastors to know that people go to the doctor for their body, so they can also go to the doctor for their minds. Let the pastor pray and have compassion on the Mentally Ill Dad. Let the pastor know that just because he may not have struggled with mental illness, this does not mean that some of the parishioners may not suffer from it.

Allow him to take his medications if he has been prescribed meds. Lord, I pray he will take his meds while You are healing him and setting him free. I pray against side effects making him gain weight, increase cholesterol, drowsiness, and constipation. Lord, allow him to look to You for healing of the mind. Let the mind that is in him be like the mind that is in Christ Jesus. Lord, stabilize his mind before he does something to hurt himself or his children. Don’t allow mental illness to play a part in the abuse of his child and people who know about the dad's sickness. Remove bi-polar disorder, anxiety, panic attacks, schizophrenia, depression, suicidal, and homicidal thoughts from the Dad. If he is hearing voices, speak to him about getting help before he does something to hurt his family. Lord don’t allow him to commit homicide, and then suicide. Allow people to see the warning signs. Don’t let him hurt his children, and people who know say it was something wrong with him.

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If the pastor is scared to minister, or face the Mentally Ill Dad’s problems because of his own issues with depression, bi-polar disorder, etc., don’t allow him to view himself as being weak. I pray You will take him to Your word and heal him privately, and speak to his mind. Don’t allow the pastor to live in fear of bondage to anything.

Once the father is healed,

allow the father to do whatever he must do to maintain a stable mind.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, bless the child that was born and raised by a Dad that was mentally ill. Lord, I pray that they will not have any of the disease from the Dad to be passed to the child. Lord breaks the generational curse of mental illness in the family.

Lord don’t allow people in their family to speak about the father. past. Lord, don’t allow family and friends to say, “You know their family was crazy.” and, “The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.”

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The Military Dad So do not fear, for I am with You do not be dismayed for I am Your God. I will strengthen You and help You. I will uphold You with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 41:10 NIV

Lord, I pray You will bless the Dad that is in the military: whether they are active duty, or if they participate in the reserves program. Lord, I pray You will cover them with Your blood against all hurt, harm and danger. During times of war, cover them against chemical agents or become a Prisoner of War. Give him a good lieutenant that will watch over him and protect him. Allow the Military Dad to stand for right. Don’t allow him to remain silent if his silence involves covering up a crime. Allow other people to stand with him and report the crime. I pray that they will treat their fellow soldiers with dignity and respect regardless of race or religion. I pray against the Military Dad getting together with other people in the military, drinking alcohol every day to pass the time because they are lonely. Allow them to do other activities like play ball or go golfing.

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to spend with his children when he is at home from active duty.

Allow the Dad to have effective communication with his seed through Facebook, Skype, texting, or writing.

Lord, if Dad must serve in the military during war time, I pray You will bring him back home without post-traumatic stress syndrome. I pray the Military Dad will not punish his children harshly because he is used to the military not having mercy on them doing training. Don’t allow him to hit his children in the face, or punch them in the chest. Don’t allow him to discipline his child when he is really angry about something that the child did or did not do. Once the Military Dad is out of the military, I pray that he will be able to find a job if that is what he chooses.

Don’t allow him to raise his children according to the military code of conduct or standard while he is in the military, or when he gets out of the military. When the whole family must move to a new location, I pray he will be sensitive to the child: they have to make new friends and go to another school if they are school age.

If he is hurt and must be on permanent disability, I pray the government will provide excellent disability care for him. Don’t allow him to have to fight with the government over benefits that he should be receiving. Cut through all the red tape that will hold up and or deny his benefits to go into effect after an 52

injury. Allow him to receive any special medical equipment or care from the military hospital. Allow the government not to disregard any injury or illness that is being reported by the Military Dad simply because the military does not believe it, or does not want to deal with the sickness.

Lord, allow the Military Dad to receive the money, benefits that the United States government promised him. I pray he will be shielded and protected by the military unit he is serving.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray You will bless the child that is being raised by the Military Dad or ex- Military Dad. Lord, allow them to adjust to being moved into a new city and or state. Cover the child against having depression, fear, and anxiety when it comes to moving from one location to another location due to them not wanting to move. Allow the child to be obedient to his mother especially when the Dad is out of town, or the country. Cover the Military Dad’s family against people breaking into their house.

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The No-relief Dad God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

God, I pray You will help the No Relief Dad. This is the Dad that did not know the significance of not planting his seed, and has produced many children from a lot of different women. If he is paying child support, I pray the judge will be fair to him and not take all his money for child support. I pray that his household will not be in lack due to him paying child support. Lord, allow him to receive wisdom and knowledge from You regarding his finances. Give him strength and encourage him to continue to pay child support. Lord, give this dad relief from anxiety, anger and or stress.

Don’t let the No Relief Dad resent the children due to having to pay child support. Allow the dad to realize that there’s relief at the end of the tunnel. Allow him to know that children do grow up extremely fast. I pray that this dad will be able to get promotions, raises, and on the job training that will allow him to make more money. Don’t allow him to give up, or give in to feeling sorry for himself. Encourage him to do the right thing at all times.

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Lord, I pray according to Proverbs 13:12 that You will give him a sudden good break to turn his life around. Don’t allow unrelenting disappointment to continue to come his way.

Don’t let him feel bad that because he does not have extra money, that he does not deserve to see his children. Allow the Dad to go to the park and throw balls, play catch, watch Little League games of his children that are being played. Lord, let the no Relief Dad know that time is best spent when he can spend it with his family. Don’t allow none of his baby mothers’ to be manipulative and go back to the judge to have more money taken from him in child support.

Don’t let his Baby Momma be unappreciative, uncooperative or inconsiderate due to the money she is receiving. Don’t let the child's mother have him pay child support on another man’s child simply because it is easier to get money out of him. I pray that if she claims another child as his, they will have to take a DNA test.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray for the father and child, that You will still encourage them and allow him to want to spend time with all his children. Lord, let the child have a caring heart toward their Dad and simply enjoy spending time with their father.

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The Not Going to Church Dad Not giving together as same are in the habit of doing but encouraging one another more as You see the day approaching.

Hebrews 10:25

Lord, bless the Dad that is not going to church to become inspired to go to church. Let him have an encounter with You like never before that will turn his heart toward You. If he has never received salvation, let laborers who are in Your vineyard witness to him about how Your son was born to redeem us from our sins. I pray that if the Dad is not going to church due to church hurt, You will heal his heart in Jesus’ name. Lord, I pray You will send him word by Your man of God that the wheat and tares grow together, but You will do the separating. I pray that he will not let the tricks of the enemy keep him from having fellowship with You. Lord, I pray he will walk in forgiveness of the person that hurt him and move forward. Allow him to know that You will take care of that person.

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words say about how kind and merciful You are. Let him know that he can turn away from his wrong and that You will restore him. Allow him to know that all have sin, and have fallen short of the glory of God. Remind him about how Your love for him covers a multitude of sins.

Lord, I pray once the father is in church or has returned to church after being

gone, expose every trick of the enemy

and scheme that would cause him to leave church again. Bind up the hand of the enemy. Lord release tenacity in the spirit of this Dad that he will stay the course and will not fall back into forsaking the assembly of the church. Give him a hunger and thirst for righteousness. Endow him with Your Holy Spirit.

Allow him to know that the Holy Spirit will lead and guide him into all truth. It will comfort him, and it will give him power to live right.

Reveal and cultivate his God given gifts and allow him to get busy in the church using his gifts for the kingdom. Let Your light so shines in his life, that Your glory will be manifested in him and through him. Allow the other men in the church to take him under their wings to fellowship and encourage him. Allow him to know that you began a good work in him and You will complete it.

Destroy every negative word that will go forth to make him think it is not important to pay tithes and or give an offering.

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Lord, allow him to be a cheerful giver. Let him know You love a cheerful giver. Let him know that You will supply all his needs according to Your riches in glory.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus for the child of the father that is not attending church. I pray that You will give the child strength to pray for their father and allow the child to continue to stand in the gap for their father. Lord, I pray especially for the child that is grown, and they are praying for their parents to know You in the pardoning of their sin. Lord, if You allow them to release a word to the father, may it be according to Your spirit. Let them speak when You say speak, and to be quiet when You are quiet. Lord don’t allow the child to lose hope of their father being saved. Lord, I pray that the child will not have a prideful spirit when it comes to them praying for their father. Allow them to continue to lift the name of Jesus, and let the child know, You will do the drawing. Don’t allow them to lose heart. Allow them to be reminded that with love and kindness You draw them.

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The Non-Visiting Dad Have not I commanded You? Be strong, vigorous, and courageous.

Be not afraid, neither be dismayed for the Lord Your God is with You wherever You go. Joshua 1:19

Lord, I pray You will bless the Non-Visiting Dad. He is the father that states he is going to visit his children, but he breaks his promises each and every time. Remind him how it feels to have someone break a promise to him. Allow him to feel the disappointment that the child feels when he does not show up. Allow him to see how important it is for him to visit his children. Give him the desire in his heart to visit his children. If he is working a lot, allow him time off to see his children. If he lives out of town, allow him to make frequent road trips to see his children.

Give him traveling mercies and bless him as he travels.

If the mother is upset with the Dad because he has moved on and is in another relationship, I pray she will move on and allow him to be at peace to live his life. Lord, I pray against wives or girlfriends blocking him from coming to visit his own seed. Allow them to have compassion, and put the needs of the child ahead of her desires or plans when the Dad will be visiting the child. Bind up the hand of the enemy that would 59

allow the father to get re-involved with the child’s mother again. The father will strictly deal with the child. Allow them to meet at a public location to drop off the children. I pray that the father will be consistent in his visits with his child. He will not start and stop seeing his child. If they are unable to visit face to face, allow them to make phone calls, facetime, etc in order to stay connected with their children. Lord, I pray that the child’s mother will not prevent the Dad from visiting his child due to the fact that he may not be paying child support.

Lord, bless the child that has been affected by the NonVisiting Dad. Remove hatred, pain, and disappointment. Let them give their father another opportunity to get it right during the time the father did not visit. Lord, I pray that You will shield and protect the child from all hurt, harm and danger if they go to visit their father at their father’s house and stay over-night.

Lord, I pray that the father will not keep the child past the agreed time for visitation. Give the mother peace with the fact that the child is visiting their Dad. Lord don’t allow the wife or girlfriend to be mean or any other family or friend abuse the child.

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communications with the Dad, and don’t allow hatred, pain, disappointment to re-enter their heart.

I pray that once the dad is visiting with his children the mother will not keep the child from visiting with his dad, due to her being jealous or her speaking negatively about the dad in the past. Keep the mom from putting pressure on her to tell his father that he has to take his siblings along, that's not the father’s child. If the father does find it in his heart, allow the mother to send money for the other child's expenses.

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The Non-working/ Lazy Dad Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. Proverbs 10:4 NASB

Lord, bind the hand of the enemy that has allowed society to say it is okay for a man not to work. That someone else should take care of him and his family. Lord, cancel the assignment of the enemy that has destroyed the role of the man and father as a provider in our society.

I pray You will help the Non-Working/lazy Dad be inspired to work and take care of his family. I pray that he will not try to be a part of any get - rich - quick scam: let him know that a fool will soon depart from his money. I pray he will not want to try to get rich by selling drugs. I pray he does not choose to sell drugs. Let him know that if he starts selling drugs, he may not want to pay the consequences of his actions if he gets caught. Let him know that he may lose his life, or be the cause of other family members losing their lives.

I pray that if the father has already started selling drugs, You will allow him to get out now. Please Jesus create a way of escape for him without any hurt or harm being done. When You create the way, I pray that he is sensitive to Your leading and he will leave for his family sake.

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Lord, let the Non-Working/Lazy Dad have a desire to make an honest living. I pray that he will not have the mindset that he does not want to work for minimum wage. I pray You will put in his spirit that if he is faithful over the small things, You will bless him with more. I pray he will have a strong work ethic. Teach him how to be on time and do the right things, not just when his boss is looking. I pray that his employer will give him a raise that will make a difference on his check. I pray the minimum wage will be raised across the board in all 50 states, and that health insurance will be affordable and accessible to everyone that is working a job.

Give the government empathy for people that are making less money than them. Don't let them decrease the minimum wage, instead allow them to raise it. Lord, I pray once he starts working, he will enjoy working. I pray that it will not take years for the minimum wage to be increased. Bind up the stingy, non-empathic government officials that will not raise the minimum wage. Loose empathic government officials that will quickly raise the minimum wage in order that people can have affordable housing.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray that you will allow the non-working lazy dad child to be lazy. Don’t allow him to take on the trait of begging like his father, Lord I pray that you will speak to their heart early in their life about the benefits of working. Don’t allow him to 63

follow in his dad's steps. Lord, allow his children to know that having a non-working lazy dad is not part of your plan. If they are in school, allow them to do their very best. Let them do their homework, study, and listen to their teachers. Allow him to do chores around the house without being asked. Let him go above and beyond at school and chores in the home.

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THE NON PAYING CHILD SUPPORT DAD Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Timothy 5:8 NIV

Lord, I pray You will allow the Not Paying Child Support Dad to pay child support. I pray he will pay what the courts want him to pay, regardless of whether or not he likes his exwife, ex-girlfriends or Baby Momma. I pray the Not Paying Child Support Dad does not quit his job, so he will not have to pay child support. I pray You will send Your word and let him know that if he does not support his children, he is worse than someone who does not believe in Your Word.

Don’t allow the father to make the child start feeling bad because he has to pay child support. Let him tell his seed that real men take care of their responsibility. Lord, once he starts to pay child support, don’t let there be any lack in his household due to him doing the right thing and paying child support. Don’t allow the mother to continue to go back for more child support every year just because she is angry because the dad has moved on or may be in another relationship. I pray that even though the Dad is paying child 65

support, he will still give extra money or gifts to his child to celebrate birthdays, graduations, and holidays.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Don’t allow the child to feel stressed or pressured due to any arguments or disagreements between the parents.

Keep peace in the hearts and minds of the children. Don’t allow the child to feel guilty about receiving child support from the father. Don’t let the mother spend the child support check on items for herself like shoes, purses, getting her hair done and nails, etc. Don’t let the mother call the father lazy, no good or trifling in front of the children.

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The Overlooking Dad In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, doing nothing from partiality. 1 Timothy 5:21

Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus for the father that has overlooked or rejected any of his children. Bind up the hand of the enemy that causes him to show favoritism to one child, while another child feels lonely, isolated and or rejected.

Let him recognize that all his children are important.

Lord, I pray that he will have a relationship and fellowship with all his children. He will not overlook or reject any of his children just because they don’t look like him or because they may have a different personality than what he is used to dealing with. I pray he will not pay more attention to the child that he has by the woman he loves the most. Allowing him to know that by not being a part of his child life, is like him rejecting his own self. Allow him to know that this is harming his child, because the child does not feel loved or receive validation from him. Don’t allow him to put other people before his children.

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Allow the father to have a place for all his children in his heart.

Allow the father to see the child the way You see them. If the child has any physical, emotional, and or mental disabilities, don’t allow the Dad to overlook the child. Allow him to have compassion for his own seed. Don’t allow him to be embarrassed or ashamed of the child due to the child's illness or disabilities. Allow him to learn how to deal with his child’s disabilities. Allow the Dad to have open communication with his wife, family, and friends regarding how to care for his child, and the future of his seed as they are getting older.

Allow the dad to know that just because he does not want to talk about it, does not mean it will go away. Allow him to go to support groups with the other parents that children have disabilities. Let him know that he is not by himself, and he is not the only parent with a child that has disabilities. Give the father wisdom about strengthening the child in areas where the child may be weak with confidence and assurance.

Give the Dad the knowledge to know that his child needs him.

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through Christ who strengthens them. Help the child not to enter into an abusive relationship that will hurt them again.

Allow them to trust their instincts; that if a situation doesn't feel right, it is usually not right. Don’t let them stay in a abusive relationship because they think they don’t deserve better, and it is their only option; this is what is normal to them. Bind up the hand of the enemy from allowing the child not to be able to have healthy normal relationships. I pray not only will they be able to obtain relationships, but they will last. Allow them to know that they are worthy of love and respect. Allow the child not to reject themselves or overlook taking care of themself.

Lord, I pray that the child will not be so hard on themself because they have had to fight to be loved by someone; where the love should have come naturally, but it did not.

Don’t allow the overlooked child to try to make people that don’t love them, love them. When the feelings of being overlooked try to spring back up in the mind, body, soul, and spirit let them see themself as You see them. Take away oppression, depression, or feelings of unworthiness. Allow them to know that they are worthy of blessings and happiness.

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The Prejudiced Dad In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels I charge you to keep these rules without prejudging, doing nothing from partiality. 1 Timothy 5:21

Lord, I pray You will help the Prejudiced Dad. Cause him not to be prejudiced against people because they are not the same race, creed, color, or gender. Allow him to treat all people fairly, and without judgement of any preconceived notions that he had when he was growing up. Allow him not to discriminate against women or girls calling them the weaker person. Don’t allow Dad to tell cruel jokes about other people.

Allow this dad not to be part of any hate groups that will harm the well-being, and livelihood of people. Do not allow him to call or refer to them the way society has referred to different ethnic groups. Lord, I pray the Prejudiced Dad will denounce any groups of hate that they became a part of. Replace Dad's hate with love and empathy toward all nationalities of people.

Remind him that the Constitution of the United States says that all men are created equal. Don’t let him think that one ethnic group is better than he is because he grew up privileged and or entitled to society's belief system. Don’t let this dad continue to believe their race or nationality is better 70

than any other race. Let them know that their race is not superior to other races.

If the Dad is prejudiced because something was done to him, or done to someone in his family by another ethnic group, allow him to know that all people are not like the person that hurt him or his family. Lord allows him to forgive the person, and not to continue to punish the ethnic group. Don’t allow him to call or refer to other ethnic groups using slang cruel words for these groups: Black (nigger); White (honky, cracker); Jewish (kike); Indian (red man); Muslim (towel head, Quran thumper, mudlime). Don’t allow the Prejudiced Dad to play into the stereotype of society; allow him to see people and not color. Allow him to have compassion and empathy for another race. Allow the Prejudiced Dad to not to feel threatened simply because other races are trying to provide their family with the basic needs of life.

Don’t allow the Prejudiced Dad to breed hate to his children, and allow them to hate people. Lord, I pray that if the Prejudiced Dad has a child that marries outside of their race, that the dad will not discriminate against his grandchildren by calling them out of their name. I pray that he will have a great relationship with his grandchildren. Speak to his heart concerning what the Bible states about being at peace with all men. Allow the Prejudiced Dad to get to know different races and nationalities. Allow him to have an open mind regarding 71

people. Allow him to realize people are different on the outside, but are the same on the inside. Allow the Dad to go to his family and friends and talk to them about how he was wrong and that fact that he has changed. Allow him to tell them that being prejudiced is a learned behavior that can be unlearned.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray that if the father has taught his child to hate people simply because of the color of their skin, creed, and gender that You will allow them to know this is wrong. Lord allows the child to not be called ‘mixed breed, half and half,’ or other racial slurs that will hurt the child emotionally. Let people see how it feels when they are calling others racial slurs. Let the child experience love and acceptance from all cultures. Allow them to embrace both sides of their culture without feeling ashamed or embarrassed.

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The Perverse Dad But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Ephesians 5:3 NIV

This is the Dad that is having a sexual relationship with his daughter, granddaughter, sons, or grandson.

Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus that You will heal and deliver the Perverse Dad. Lord, heal and deliver the Dad from sexual abuse if he was abused as a child. Lord, I pray that he will never be able to hurt another child as long as he lives.

Lord, cut this perverted seed at the root. Break the generational curse. Bind up the hand of the enemy. Lord heal and deliver this Dad from this mean and cruel act that is not right in Your sight. Lord, I pray that You will deal with his mind and remind him that this is wrong. Don’t allow his heart to continue to push it out of his mind. Remove the stony place in his heart, and give him a pliable heart that You can deal with the issue that is causing pain and turmoil in his life. Lord, I pray that the father will not impregnate any of the girls he is sleeping with.

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Return the Perverse Dad’s mind around where he will know and follow what Your word says about sex. Let him know that it is against Your law for a man to be with his child, grandchild, niece, or nephew. Bind up the hand of the enemy from hurting any child that may be visiting his children. Lord, remove the spirit of lust from the Perverse Dad. If the father refuses to get help and leaves the house, I pray he will be arrested. If the Perverse Dad happens to be arrested, I pray other family members will not hate the child or shun them due to their willingness to speak up against this abuse. Lord, help the mother, sister, brother, believe what is being said about the Perverse Dad. Don’t allow the Perverse Dad to play mind games on the child, like telling them this is their fault, or ‘all families do this’. Allow this not to be a dark subject in the church anymore. Allow Your people of God, be able to minister to dads about this. Allow the dad to get professional help. Don’t allow the dad to sell his child for any amount of money, fame or drugs.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Don’t allow them to think that this abuse is normal.

Allow them to tell someone until someone listens to them.

Allow the parents to heed warning signs if the child is too afraid to tell their Mom. Lord, if it is father or stepfather, allow the Mom to do something. Don’t allow her to ignore the child.

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Lord, help the child that has been violated by their father or grandfather in any way. Lord, I pray You will heal them from all hurt, pain, shame, and embarrassment. Remove the trauma of the child being abused. Lord, bind up the hand of depression, self-harm and suicidal thoughts and action.

Lord, let them realize that this is not their fault; that they did not do anything to cause this affliction to take place. Remove the feeling from the child that would cause them to feel ‘nasty.’

Renew their mind in Jesus’ name. Remove any residual side effects from the child being abused.

Lord, I pray that You will close up the portal, so no more abuse will take place in the child's life. Lord, bind the hands of the enemy. Cover them with Your blood in Jesus’ name. Give them back their innocence, and the natural desire for a sexual relationship according to Your word. Lord, bind up the hand of the enemy that will cause the child to harm another child.

Don’t allow this child to grow up and be a sexual predator.

Break the yoke of bondage with Your anointing. Prevent them from hurting anyone else. Break the curse. Allow them to receive help from Your people that You have put in place to help minister to them. Lord, bind up the hand of the enemy that would make the child that was abused be promiscuous with the spirit of masturbation and lust. Lord, I command in Your name, that You send the spirits of incubus and succubus to go to outer darkness. Lord, then fill the abused child up with 75

Your spirit. Lord, allow them to see themselves as whole again: don’t allow them to keep replaying the abuse in their mind repeatedly. Lord don’t allow what happened when the child was younger to continue to bother them in adulthood.

Lord, I pray that the child will be able to walk in forgiveness toward themself and the person that violated them.

Lord, stop the cycle of abuse. Allow the mother to choose the child over the husband or boyfriend. Lord, bind the hand of the enemy that would keep the adult from making the decision that will help the child--no matter if she is ridiculed or not. Don’t allow the mother to become paralyzed because the same thing happened to her. Don’t allow the grown up to turn a deaf ear, or say, “This is no big deal” because the same thing happened to them, and they were ‘okay’.

Lord, I pray that children will not ridicule or be mean to a child if they found out what happened to the child.

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The Returning Dad And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers lest fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction. Malachi 4:6

Lord God, help the Returning Dad to be patient with the child, after the Dad has been separated from the family that was either his fault or the Mom’s fault. God, let him even be patient with himself, and let him realize that it will take time to build a relationship with his child. Allow him to ask questions that will allow the child to express their feelings, desires, likes, and dislikes. God, give him the strength not to give up and separate from the child again even if they are grown. Allow him to continue to keep getting to know his offspring. Lord, let them realize that Dad’s matter--even if society has said and done differently. You’ve never intended for families to have Dads missing in action. Allow the Returning Dad to know that first the child may put up a front: like they don’t want to be bothered because they are still mad about him not being available in the first place. They may be shielding their hurt just in case they are afraid he will walk away again, or they may be dealing with how they handle their emotions of him returning.

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Lord, I pray for the Dad that is returning, and now his child is grown with a family of their own. Allow the Dad not to feel a sense of entitlement just because he is the child’s father, and the child has a successful career and a great family. Don’t let the Returning dad speak any negative talk about the past. Allow him to take responsibility for his actions.

Lord, Let the dad make the first step in making arrangements to meet his child.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Father God, help the child whose father comes into their life after being separated. Lord God, I pray in the name of Jesus that You will help the child to find forgiveness in their heart toward the absent parent. Lord, I pray that they will forgive the father that abandoned them, rejected them, and/or did not even acknowledge that they were the child's father.

Lord, I pray that any anger and resentment will be removed from their heart, and they will be able to let the past be in the past. Allow them to spend time together regardless of how old the child is or how many years have passed.

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The Rich Dad And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.

Hebrews 13:16 NIV

Lord, I pray in Your Son Jesus' name that You will continue to allow the Rich Dad to have money, so he can give it to people that need it. I pray that he is not stingy with his money. Allow the Rich Dad to share his information on how other people can obtain wealth. Let him use his wealth to help empower and influence other people about how to obtain and handle true riches. I pray that if he has acquired wealth by cheating people and from shady business deals, that he will repent and turn from his wicked ways. I pray once he has been delivered and set free, he will not be enticed again to commit any crimes. Lord, bind the hand of the enemy that would cause him to go down the same road again.

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work. He will teach them that money is simply a tool and not their whole life.

I pray that the Rich Dad will walk in integrity in his business and personal life. Don't allow the Rich Dad to be a womanizer. Allow the Rich Dad to know how to handle power, money, and sex. Don’t allow him to abuse his power and obtain sex by sexually harassing females or males on any level. Don’t allow him to promise women or men a job in exchange for promotion and/or money. I pray that the Rich Dad will have compassion for his employees if he owns a business; may he give them fair wages and increases, and bonus for the work they do.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN I pray that the children will not grow up to be spoiled, entitled, or privileged just because they are rich. If they get in trouble, I pray their parents will not act as if their child is above the law. I pray the Rich Dad will punish the child in some form.

I pray that if they commit a crime, that they will have to face the consequences of their actions.

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The Righteous Dad For the director of music. A psalm of David. In You, Lord, I have taken refuge: let me never be put to shame, deliver me in Your righteousness. Psalm 31:1 NIV

Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus that You will bless the Righteous Dad. Lord, although the Righteous Dad has been through some things even before he became a dad, he did not run away with his head tucked away like an ostrich, but he stood up to the pressure in the face of adversity. He remained faithful to doing the will of the Lord.

Since he is a father now, allow him to still stand on Your precepts, commandments, and promises in front of his children. Although his family, friends and children may not always understand him--they may even laugh at him at times-he is still standing strong. He also trusts in you, and he always acknowledges that You had his back. He stood still, and saw the salvation of the Lord. Let him continue to look to the hills from which cometh his help, and let him know that all his help comes from the Lord--who made Heaven and Earth.

Allow him to be steadfast and unmovable and always abiding in works of the Lord.

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Lord let the child stand with the Dad giving him the mindset like father, like son. Let the child want to learn and stand on the precepts, commandments and promises of God. Give the child strength and courage to do the right thing, even when it is not always popular with their peers. Let them know serving You will pay off and be a great blessing to them.

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The Rolling Stone Dad For all that is in the world- the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life - is not from the Father but is from the world. 1 John 2:16

The Temptations sang it best when singing about having a Dad that was a Rolling Stone; that wherever ‘he laid his hat was his home.’ Lord, I pray that the Rolling Stone Dad will not continue to be a Rolling Stone Dad. Lord, don’t allow him to commit sexual sins. Allow him to know that if he commits sexual sin, he is sinning against himself. Lord, don’t allow him to roll out of one relationship and into another relationship.

Lord, I pray the Rolling Stone Dad will not use women for sex, money, and a place to lie their head. They will acknowledge and respect all women: especially the mother of his children. I pray that the dad will teach his son not to follow his footsteps. Lord, allow the Rolling Stone Dad to talk about and get over any issues that they have with their mother, grandmother, or any other women which may have caused him not to be able to make a commitment to one woman.

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Teach him how to love his family and be content in his heart with the family You have given him. Renew his mind, allow him to have the mind of Christ, so that he will strengthen his family to leave a legacy that he was truly a good family man. Don’t let him abuse drugs, alcohol, or money. Teach him what it really means to be a family man.

I pray men will take their true place in society: they will be the provider, protector, and their child's biggest supporter.

They will have godly character and integrity. Lord, bind up the hand of the enemy because the Rolling Stone Dad may not have known any better: he is only doing what he saw other men in his family do as he was growing up; this behavior may have been common in his family. Don’t allow him to return to being the way he was. Allow him to know that greater is He that is in him, then he that is in the world. I pray that the dad will teach his son not to follow his footsteps.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray that if a child has a dad that is a Rolling Stone Dad, that the curse is broken with their dad. I pray that their dad will be the last Rolling Stone Dad in the family. Break every chain of this sin and bondage. I pray that both father and son will grow in wisdom and knowledge about how to treat women.

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The Sick Dad I shall not die, but I shall live and recount the deeds of the Lord. Psalm 118:17

Lord, I pray in the name of Jesus that You will heal the physically Sick Dad. Whatever the sickness or illness is, I pray You will heal him in Jesus’ name. I pray that he will call for the elders of the church, and if any sin has been committed it will be forgiven in Jesus’ name after the elders have prayed. I pray the Sick Dad will stand on the scriptures such as “I shall live and not die to declare the works of the Lord” (Psalm 118:17).

Lord, let the Sick Dad know You as the God that healeth thee.

Lord, I pray that the Sick’s Dad knows that healing is a process, You will allow him to have more strength and endurance. This way, he will be able to spend time with his family and do activities as he is healing. Allow him to seek Your face as he looks to You, the Author and Finisher of his faith.

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hydrated with water. Allow him to exercise to get healthier, and remain healthy. I pray that he will have adequate finances to maintain a healthy diet. If he is still taking meds (until his healing is completely manifested), I pray that the Sick Dad will not be stubborn and will keep his follow-up medical appointments. I pray that he will not be affected by side effects of his medication. I pray that if the father is still healing and not feeling well, he will not take his sickness or pain out on the children. Lord, I pray that the Sick Dad will be kind to his caregiver. Especially if they are taking care of them full-time.

Don’t allow him to say cruel and evil things to them because he is upset with his current situation. Don’t allow him to reject his family and friends when they are trying to take care of him.

Lord, I pray that the whole family will be involved in taking care of the Sick Dad until he receives his healing. Allow the children to split up the responsibility of caring for the Dad, especially if the children are grown. I pray once the dad is completely and totally healed, he will testify about how You healed him of the sickness or illness. Lord, bind the hand of the enemy against any retaliation due to him testifying about his healing.

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Lord, I pray for the children and father. May You continue to bless the relationship. Build up their relationship. Lord, redeem the time that was lost due to doctor appointments and medical visits.

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The Shepherd Father And I will give you shepherds after my own heart, who will feed you with knowledge and understanding. Jeremiah 3:15

Lord, I pray that the Shepherd Father will remain rooted and grounded in You. I pray that the enemy will not distract him with the love of money, lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. Lord, help them to be protected from all hurt, harm, and danger.

Lord, I pray that the Shepherd Dad’s household is holy and acceptable unto You. I pray he is living what he is preaching about--that it is not just a show. Lord, I pray if the Shepherd Dad has fallen by the wayside (either with women, gambling, drugs, sex, or old habits) that will cause him not to sin against You. I pray You will allow him space and time to repent and to get it right before it is too late. Allow him to know that he can repent; that a just man falleth seven times. Let the church leaders continue to stand in the gap for him, by praying for him that he will not fall. Send the Shepherd Dad some trusted colleagues that will give him words of encouragement.

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times get hard. Allow them not to get depressed and stressed out. Speak to them, Lord.

Lord, allow the Shepherd Dad to have a balance in his life. Don’t allow him to think that the doors of the church have to be open every day of the week for him to be a good, spiritual father. Let him be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Ghost about when to have programs and conferences, and even when to take engagements. Give him time to rest, rejuvenate and to spend time with his family. Lord, allow the Shepherd Dad to not be so heavenly minded until he is no earthly good.

Allow him to attend his child’s school activities, go to basketball games, and go to the movies. I pray that the father will be able to take time out to attend his children's school activities or other things that are dear to his children. I pray the church members will not be upset.

Lord, I pray that the Shepherd Dad will not have any lack in his household due to them giving cash to their parishioners and having to give more money in order to keep the ministry afloat.

Let his members be 100% tithe and

offering givers. Lord, I pray You will bless them to take care of their bodies by going to the doctor and dentist regularly. Allow them to make better eating choices when going out to eat when he has to do multiple services on Sundays. Allow him to take frequent vacations. Give him trusted leaders that can manage the church when he is out of town.

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Lord, I pray that if a member of the church comes and tells them anything negative about his children, that the Shepherd Dad will get the whole story from both parties before he punishes the child. Lord, I pray that if the Shepherd Dad has to use his kids as an example in the sermon, that it will not bring shame on the child. Lord, I pray that every example that is used, will be used for Your glory. Don’t allow the child to think they are not able to talk to their parents about growing up or what they are experiencing at different stages of their life because it will become an embarrassing example at church.

Lord, I pray that the Shepherd Dad will see the

spiritual gifts in his own child, he will nurture and cultivate them. Let him be sensitive to Your leading as to when to start training his seed, if they will be successors of their father’s church. Don’t let the father despise the child’s anointing because they may become more anointed than them. I pray You will allow this dad to have the same attitude towards his children that he has towards the other children that are anointed. Allow him to pray for his own seed. I pray that the shepherd’s seed will not reject the call they have on their life.

I pray that the church will begin to pay into a retirement fund for the Shepherd Dad, and pay for them to have medical insurance. Especially, if the Shepherd Dad pastors full-time.

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PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray that You will place a hedge of protection on and over these children. Lord, I pray the seed of righteous is saved. Lord, I pray that if the preacher taught one thing and did another, that they will realize all preachers are not like that.

Lord, I pray that the child will get to know You in the pardoning of their sin.

I pray that the Shepherd Dad will not punish his kids because of being angry with the church members. I pray that the Shepherd Dad is loving, encouraging, understanding, and forgiving other people's children, he will not forget about his own.

Lord, I pray no member will disrespect, disregard or be hateful to the children because they are angry with their parents. I pray they will not put undue pressure on the Shepherd Dad’s children by putting them under a microscope, judging, or condemning them for making mistakes that all children make. Allow them to treat them like children and allow them to treat them fair. If their relationship has been on shaky ground, and the relationship is starting over again, I pray that the relationship will be better and stronger. I pray that if the child went into another direction, other than what his father was hoping for, he will find forgiveness for his seed. What the enemy meant for bad, 91

You turn it around for the good. I pray the Shepherd Dad’s seed will not reject the call they have on their life, due to fear and seeing first-hand the hardship of their father leading Your people. Give them strength to know they can do whatever You have called them to do.

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The Spineless Dad Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD Your God who goes with You. He will not leave You or forsake You. Deuteronomy 31:6

Lord, I pray for the Spineless Dad. This is the Dad who has the truth and knowledge in his mouth, but because he is fearful of his wife, girlfriend, or mother, he is unable to do what he must do as a parent. Bless the Dad that is spineless with a spine, to be able to make decisions concerning his household and children. Let him not be afraid of an overbearing wife or women in his life who may stop him from taking the stance he needs to take. I pray You give the Spineless Dad the courage and confidence to stand up for the rights of his children. Stop the behavior of the Dad from being weak and jelly backed.

Lord, give him courage and not fear, to know that he can do all things through Christ who strengthens him. Lord don’t let him see himself as a grasshopper, but as a mighty man of valor. Lord, if the Spineless Dad is spineless because he is quiet by nature, or has a gentle nature or spirit, allow him to speak the truth when necessary.

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she is a praying woman, I pray she will pray for her spouse even more. Allow the Spineless Dad to take his rightful place in his household. I pray that the women in his life see that he has changed, and know that he is different. I pray that the Spineless Dad will not allow his child to be hurt by family members in any way and not do anything about it. Let the dad stand up for his children, and come to the defense of them if they have been sexually, verbally, or mentally abused by a family member or a respected friend. Allow him to speak up for his child no matter who has hurt them. Don’t allow him to be a respecter of persons when it comes to defending his child. If his father, uncle, or best friend has hurt his child, allow him to take necessary steps to make sure his child receives justice. Please give the Spineless Dad more wisdom, knowledge, and empathy to face and deal with any situation that may occur. I pray people will not hold a grudge against him, and remind him of his past. I pray that they will say encouraging words to him, so that he may continue to stand up and be a man.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN I pray You will allow the Spineless Dad’s child not to look at the man in that light anymore since he has been changed. Let the children obey their father, and honor him. Let the child know that by honoring his father, his days will be long upon this earth.

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The Teenage Dad When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 1 Corinthians 13:11

Lord, bless the Teenage Dad to know that although they are young, they can still be a responsible parent. Lord, I pray that the Teenage Dad will take responsibility for the life he has created, and not deny that he is the father, no matter how young he is.

Don’t let him abandon the Teenage Mom or arrange for the baby and or mom to be harmed. Don’t allow the baby to be aborted. In Jesus name. I pray he will not abuse the baby in any way. I pray that the father will be able to handle when the child is screaming and hollering. Especially, if the child is hollering excessively, due to the child being sick or spoiled.

Lord, give the Teenage Dad patience and wisdom. Lord, bind up the hand of the enemy that would cause him to shake the baby to death. Give him patience and long-suffering. Allow his parents to help with the baby when it is needed if they can. I pray he does not put the baby in harm’s way, by leaving it with people that are not safe or trustworthy to keep the child.

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Renew his mind. Let him know, taking care of a baby at his age is hard, but doable. Let him know that he can do all things through Christ who strengthens him. Lord, bind up the hand of the enemy, which would cause the father to hurt the baby while trying to show off on any type of social media. Let him realize that the baby is a human being that needs food, water, shelter, and oxygen to live this is not a toy. Don’t allow him to get any other girls pregnant again as a teenager.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, I pray You will cover the teenager’s baby with Your blood. Don’t allow any harm to come near the baby.

Lord, cover the child from feeling unwanted and feeling like they are a burden. Especially, when they get older. Don’t allow them to think they were a mistake. Lord, cover them against childhood death like Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (crib death). Cover them against accidents and incidents as they are growing. Cover them against any form of abuse as they are growing. Let them serve You in their youth.

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The Unbelieving Dad He fulfills the desire of those who fear him: he also hears their cry and saves them. Psalm 145:19

Lord, I pray that You will give faith to the father that is an Unbelieving Dad. Lord, let him have faith that You performed miracles, and wonders for other people. That You are more than willing to do miracles on his behalf, for him and his family.

Lord, I pray that if he is having trouble believing in You, because people have disappointed him or lied to him in the past, that You will let him know that nothing is impossible for You. Whatever the Unbelieving Dad is believing You for, I pray You will help him with his unbelief. Allow the Dad to begin to declare and decree over his life the things that You are speaking over his life. Allow the Unbelieving Dad to know that there is power of life and death in the tongue. Lord, allow his faith not to fail him. Allow him to know that if You take care of the lilies of the valley, and the fish in the sea, You will take care of him. Lord, if You give the Unbelieving Dad a promise, let him stand on what Your word says about Your word not returning to You void: it will accomplish what You sent it out 97

to do. Allow him to know the promises of God are ‘Yes’ and ‘Amen.’

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN: Lord, bless the child that is raised by the Unbelieving Dad. Let the child have faith to believe in God. Lord, when the father's faith starts to grow weary again, let something that the child states to his dad remind him that the promises of God are ‘Yes’ and ‘Amen.’ Allow the father to know that flesh and blood did not reveal this reminder: it comes from You. When the miracles happen, let both father and child rejoice and give You all the glory.

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The Unforgiving Dad For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also for you. Matthew 6:14

I pray for the Dad that is walking around in unforgiveness towards his children for any reason. I pray that he will be moved to forgive his children. Lord, let him realize that all, including him, have sinned, and fallen short of the glory of God. Let him realize that in order to get forgiveness, he must forgive others. Allow the Unforgiving Dad the ability to know that if he does not forgive, he will not receive forgiveness. Allow him to know that his unforgiveness may eventually cause sickness in his body, and cause his prayers to go unanswered and his blessings not to come. Allow the Dad to walk in forgiveness, even if the child chooses another path different than what the father wanted him to do. Allow him to be kind and merciful to his sons and daughters.

Bind up the hands of the enemy that would bring unforgiveness back into the Dad’s heart. Allow the Unforgiving Dad not to continue to think on incidents that will cause him to walk in unforgiveness again. Allow him to think about pleasant thoughts of the child and their relationship prior to the Dad walking in unforgiveness. Allow the Dad never to give up hope 99

on his child. Let him realize that hope believes all things, and love never fails. Let the Unforgiving Dad know love holds no record of wrong. Allow the Unforgiving Dad to forgive if the child made a mistake, or made a poor choice that completely changes the course of the child's life.

PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN I pray the child will have a humble spirit. I pray You will redeem the time that was lost during the time the father was walking in unforgiveness. Let the siblings all have a forgiving attitude towards each other. I pray that the child will walk in love and forgiveness toward his father. I pray that the child will know You are not an angry father, You are a gentle and loving father. I pray that if they make a mistake, they will repent to You quickly without hesitation and You will receive them back.

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The Unteachable Dad There is a way that seems right to man, but its end is the way to death. Proverbs 14:12

Lord, I pray that You will help the Unteachable/Untrainable Dad. This is the Dad that is not able to receive instruction, correction, or godly advice from anyone. Lord, please bless him to be teachable and trainable. Don’t allow him to turn a deaf ear to the knowledge that is being given. Allow him to be quick to hear, and slow to speak. Don’t allow complete destruction to take place before he heeds Your word.

Lord don’t allow him to be the way he was parented years ago. Lord don’t let him have the attitude that it is ‘his way or the highway’. Don’t let him father out of the tradition of man. Let him parent by using Your wisdom, knowledge, and skills.

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Give him a teachable spirit. Especially if You are grooming him for leadership in the church. Allow him to know that in order to lead, you must follow.

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PRAYERS FOR THE CHILDREN Lord, allow the child of the unteachable/untrainable dad to have a humble spirit. Don’t allow the child to have the dad’s mentality. Give them wisdom about how to handle situations no matter how old they are. If the children are forced to do something that is against the law or wrong, create a way of escape for them. Allow them to be respectful of everybody they come in contact with. Let them have respect for people that have authority over them.

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