group setting that I was operating as a researcher, a facilitator, and as a man who could identify with many elements of the other men’s story. There were many times during the interviewing process when I felt extremely honored to be welcomed into these narratives. I still hear Sid saying that he not only feels like a fish out of water but sometimes he wonders if he is fish at all. And the idea that his friends might be afraid of their own shadow but he was sometimes afraid that if he looked you would see that he didn't have a shadow. The profound struggle with his identity that Sid expressed and the anger the other men held for him still moves me to tears because of the power and love in that moment. I remember listening to Sid read his narrative and listening to the men responding thinking, "I'm watching the process of repair unfold in this moment." That is what our group was like. The emotional expression in the reading and the supportive, powerful, nonjudgmental response of the other men facilitated a shared experience of truth about our-selves as men. I saw that these men have the capacity to be
competitive, aggressive, and even violent; but they also have the capacity to be emotional, supportive, and nonjudgmental. We embodied Cory's description himself, “I have become a man who is a warrior and a hunter who wants love hanging in his meat house.” I'm still moved by the participant’s courage and resiliency. I think Dean would say that we collectively grew our emotional balls that day. As a therapist I believe that these men have taught me invaluable lessons about the process of recovery for men who been injured in their relationship with their fathers. First, it seems to me that the time has to be right for men to enter into therapy. Each man described some key circumstances that facilitated their entry into the therapeutic process. Further, as a
