issue 9 - Relax Mumma
Maggie Dent Australia's
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Relaxation Why
is the Key to Intuitive Mothering
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LINDIE GUNSTON
LESBIAN, PSYCHIC AND SUCCESSFUL!
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MOTHERHOOD, IS THERE ANYTHING MORE REWARDING OR MORE CHALLENGING FOR A WOMAN TO EXPERIENCE?
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fter 12 years of being a mother to three wildlings (yes they are wild, confident and strongwilled) I still have yet to feel that I am getting it right.
There are so many changing and moving parts to motherhood, children who grow and go through different stages as do we. When you think you have got it sorted, something else emerges from the folds of life. It might be a traumatic experience, a birthing of new baby, a new relationship, ending of a relationship, illness, marriages, death, starting a new business, career or path in life and on it goes. Sometimes it can feel we can never keep up with it all. The beautiful and challenging thing about being a mother is that it is never the exact same for everyone yet we all try to be like one another and judge ourselves harshly if we
don’t meet the high and unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves. I love that this issue there are real mothers who share real stories and advice in an unassuming, nonjudgemental, I understand your pain and joy kind of way. This month we share with you Australia’s most loved parent educator, Maggie Dent. It was such a soul-soothing experience connecting with Maggie as she shared some really great advice that many in her world of parent educators would never share or admit to themselves. Then we have Salli Galvin, a world champion Polocrosse player who knows how important it is to focus and prioritise the mental wellbeing and resilience of ourselves and our children. There are so many beautiful women within this issue to support you
to find more space, inner peace and self-love for you, the beautiful woman who is doing it all plus some. It’s time to stop following the crowd, stop judging yourself and others, and find your way, your flow. It’s time to wreak havoc on the status quo and give yourself permission to be the woman, Mother and mumpreneur you genuinely are and give zero fucks to what others think. You deserve that as does your family and business. So be brave, beautiful woman and live your life your way and stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be the perfect Mother! Let yourself relax, enjoy it the best you can and surrender to the journey.
Much love, Tam x
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REDEFINING SUCCESS Elle Roberts
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MAGGIE’S SPIRITUAL SIDE SPEAKS TO THE HEARTS OF MOTHERS
TRAUMA VS RELAXATION Suellen Pike
Tammie Pike
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REMEMBERING ME
MUMPRENEUR Q&A
TUNE INTO YOUR BODY’S WISDOM
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Lindie Gunston
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December 2020, Issue 9 – Relax Mumma Publisher Empowered Publishing Chief Editor & CEO Tammie Pike Creative Director Naida Nunez Content Manager Sian Yewdall Advertising 0409 897 133
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5 MOST COMMON MARKETING MISTAKES SMALL BUSINESS OWNERS MAKE Sian Yewdall
20 USING PERMACULTURE PRINCIPLES FOR BUSINESS
39 WHY RELAXATION IS THE KEY TO INTUITIVE MOTHERING
22 LITTLE NIBBLES - A REFLECTION ON MOTHER’S GUILT
41 MUM LIFE - HOW TO EMBRACE SELF LOVE AND CARE
29 FINDING FLOW IN MOTHERHOOD
43 THE POWER OF EFT ONE’S MUMS STORY
Danielle Gardner
Anna Kristina
Tamara Stiller
32 MINDFIT KID Salli Galvin
34 MEDICAL MUMS SURVIVING DIAGNOSIS Elizabeth Clements
37 MY GREATEST ACCOMPLISMENT Haley Heilbronn
Contributors Elle Roberts Suellen Pike Donna Foakes Lindie Gunston Taryn Gaudin Shannon Dunn Danielle Gardner Anna Kristina Tamara Stiller Salli Galvin Elizabeth Clements Haley Heilbronn Sarah Yip Tash Alexander
Design Nebojsa Dolovacki
Sarah Yip
Tammie Pike
Tash Alexander
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redefining
success By Elle Roberts
I’M A BUSY MUM OF THREE KIDS. I RUN TWO BUSINESSES, ONE OF WHICH MEANS I HAVE THOUSANDS OF BALLS IN THE AIR AT ANY ONE TIME, WE HAVE TWO DOGS AND I USUALLY FORGET BOOK WEEK.
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ife is busy, to say the least, but I do not have the monopoly on busy.
I don’t know a mum, or a woman for that matter, who isn’t doing the work of at least three people, and trying hard to do it all with a smile on her face and patience to let the threeyear-old put his own shoes on. The only way this feels remotely manageable to me has been to set my own rules and my own expectations for work and family life.
Redefining Success has been crucial As the generation who were told we could do anything and be anything we want to be, accepting the changes that come with motherhood can be very difficult.
Our priorities shift and we find ourselves questioning our values and whether it’s more important to send off that last email or make it to the school assembly on time. Often we try desperately to do it all, so we can avoid having to re-evaluate anything, instead, we just add to an already endless list of priorities. We try and get all the emails done and make it to the assembly. It is my absolute opinion that young women can have it all but to do that, without damaging ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually, we need to have some tough conversations with ourselves and our families around what that means in our day to day life. I like Maya Angelou’s definition of Success “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” I have goals, plans, and financial targets for my business, I have dreams for my family that require a certain level of income - but none of that can come at the expense of the other values we have determined to mean our life is a successful one. I love working, but I also won’t take client calls after 4 pm on a weekday and I only work weekends when I feel inspired to. Those times are usually saved for family.
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The key is to set your own definition of what success means and get as specific as possible.
Building a business that allows me those boundaries are just as big a part of its success as the profit and loss statement at the end of the quarter. On the flip side, I am currently spending a weekend away, alone, leaving my partner to juggle the kids so I can work on my business. I love my kids and being a mum, but it also matters to me to do work that I am passionate about and to see my business thrive. I don’t share with you my boundary of “no client calls after 4 pm” to make you feel like that’s the thing you need to do to be a good mother or a successful business owner that’s just something that works for me and my family. What I do want you to hear and to understand is you can define for yourself and your family what success is and right now that might mean finding other childcare options so you can spend more time working.
Elle Roberts Elle Roberts runs Rare Seed Agency, an online business management and operations agency designed to enable business owners to thrive by providing strategic direction and operational support. Elle has been working in the online business space for over a decade and has helped hundreds of business owners through her coaching, courses and consulting.
It might just as much mean outsourcing more in your business so you can spend time with the kids, or looking after your health, or romancing your partner. The key is to set your own definition of what success means and get as specific as possible. Then do everything you can to empower yourself and your family to unlock that success and live it. How can you embody that success right now, and what do you need to do to work towards the other goals and values that will make YOU feel successful?
At Rare Seed Agency Elle and her team work with change makers, risk takers, creative entrepreneurs - the rare seeds - to help them regain control of their business. Elle also runs Artful Business Events which delivers a bi-annual business conference dedicated to supporting creative, mission-driven and out of the box businesses. Helping them sort out their money, marketing and planning without losing the special sauce that makes them the force they are in the world. Mum to 3 kids and 2 dogs, Elle is a busy, coffee-loving, joy-seeker.
Elle and her family
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TRAUMA v's RELAXATION DON’T WAIT UNTIL BURNOUT OR PHYSICAL INJURY BEFORE YOU TAKE THE TIME OUT TO RELAX.
By Suellen Pike
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rom a noticeably young age till now, I had always been in fight & flight or survival mode. As the years passed, I then became a loving mother to 5 wonderful, energetic children (who never slept), a FIFO wife and maintaining a very demanding job (I was on 24/7). Relaxation was not an option, and I quickly switched to auto piolet. It did not take long before I was completely exhausted, running on fumes, I became a ghost of my former self. I was tired ALL THE TIME! I needed to rest! I chose to avoid the issues and buried myself in exercise! “you need to burn energy to make energy” was a quote I lived by. It quickly shifted into more than that for me. As my world started to spiral out of control, I leant harder into exercise. It became my crutch, a form of release. Somewhere I was in control! So, I would push my body through horrendous limits. I was in masculine overdrive. I went to extremes! Instead of creating a form of calm and relax. I was punishing my body. I created burnout. I still did not stop… somehow, I managed to keep going till now, 39yrs young, not listening to my body and pushing the boundaries, until I broke my ankle.
I finally gave myself permission to relax! I fully embodied this experience for what it was, I started embracing my Feminine flow. Slowing the mind down, I started with guided meditation! Then progressed to reading, sitting in the sun and much more.
For the first time in my life I have had to be still! Learning a whole new way of being! I was not able to run, hide or switch off! I was now facing some home truths and seeing what I was avoiding.
After some time, I was able to reintroduce stretching (so much goodness right there), a little light walking (exercise that is gentle on your body) and some outdoor adventures, like going to the beach.
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Engaging all these amazing techniques of relaxation, it was like someone had sprinkled some magic dust over me. I was feeling less frustrated, less angry at things. This led to a very speedy recovery, smashing my goals! I have become clearer and more deepened in my positive mind set. Sleeping better than I ever have in years, feeling more energised! I am now in full awareness of the importance of practicing relaxation and how it benefits you.
Suellen Pike
So, I invite you to make relaxation an important part of your daily routine, be a healthier and happy version of you!
*slowing down the heart rate * manages stress levels * circulates the blood flow around the body creating more energy *less infections *helps the digestive system giving better absorption of nutrition from foods * lowering fatigue * reducing chronic pain and muscle tension *improving sleep and emotions/moods and much more. Here are a few techniques that I love and alter between in my allocated time out for me. This will also be incorporated into the base of our family fitness/wellness brand – FITFAM.CO: # breathe work # meditation # free movement (dance) # stretching # sun time # reading # yoga # regular exercise/ outdoor adventures. So, I invite you to make relaxation an important part of your daily routine, be a healthier and happy version of you! Whatever that may look like for you, it does not need to be perfect. You just need to start! make today your first day and get back on track x BIG LOVE
Suellen Pike came from a small country town! There grew her understanding/ values and importance of family. Spending most of her working career with children. She saw how families had become lost, disconnected, and unhealthy in mind, body and soul. In turn creating a vicious cycle, that was being integrated through to their children which needed to be stopped! This is where Suellen gained the insight that families were to come back to their core values. They needed to create lasting changes in their lives to find a healthier perception of themselves and strengthen their relationships between each other as well as self. To be shown how to achieve their success because she knows it to be possible. Having already a strong passion for fitness, and the knowledge of the benefits being fit holds over body, mind, and soul. Suellen then decided to make it her mission to make this positive transformation happen. Giving them confidence, strength, courage, tools, and healing that they required to get them back to a happier, healthier place. Only knowing to well what it is like, having experienced this firsthand. She knows how trauma/ forms of illness can affect a family’s well being and overall state. She then drew on her inner guidance, background knowledge, personal experience, and as a Personal Trainer, giving her the tools and opportunity to birth and bring forth FITFAM.CO! Suellen has further completed and trained in modalities including Reiki, sacred heart lomi lomi, Medical intuition 1,2 & 3. PT 3 & 4. and currently studying body beyond baby. It is Suellen’s dream to touch the lives of many families, bringing them back into a heart space. She is determined to take them on a journey to help reshape their lives, trusting themselves and each other to create a happier and healthier life together! It does not need to be perfect; it just needs to feel like home!
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Her Remembering
By Donna Fokes
IT WASN’T UNTIL I BECAME AN EMPTY NESTER IN MY 40’S THAT I REALISED THAT I HAD LOST MYSELF SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY.
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had given birth to my firstborn at the age of 17. My entire adult life was spent caring for children, partners, the home, and anything else that needed caring for. And, as was sadly too common for women of my age, I had put everyone and everything before my own needs. So, when my kids left to create their own lives, I had no idea who I was or what I wanted for my life. I did know, however, that I could no longer tolerate existing the way I was. I wanted to feel alive again. I wanted to feel me. So began my journey back to self.
I started my exploration and what I realised, was that I was disconnected from my soul, my intuition. And I had accepted the patriarchal narrative that as a woman, I was not valued. I went on a personal growth journey that would see me grow so much that I no longer recognise the woman I was. To start with, I began to meditate, journal, and practice gratitude. These daily practices taught me to become still and quietened my mind chatter. And it 12
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was during the stillness that I began to hear the whispers of my soul again.
It is never too late to make changes. And you are never too old to follow your dreams.
Donna Fokes Donna Maree is a self-love advocate, coach and messenger, and here to serve the women of the world.
I started to listen to and follow my soul whispers. I recognised that I was valuable, and I began to prioritise my own needs. I said no, more. I said yes to things that lit me up. I remembered the joy of playing and having fun. And I realised the importance of self-love. Prioritising yourself is an act of self-love. It is a muscle, and just like any other muscle, it requires strengthening. Here are seven simple steps that you can start implementing today to begin building up your self-love muscle. 1. Say no to anything that drains your energy 2. Say yes to things you want to do 3. Stop comparing yourself to others
4. Do something every day just for you 5. Rediscover what you love to do and do more of that 6. Delete the word ‘should’ from your vocabulary 7. Be mindful of your self-talk. Speak to yourself as you would a loved one or friend. At the age of 51, I realised my life’s purpose was to be of service to other women, so I followed my calling to become a life coach and mentor. It is never too late to make changes. And you are never too old to follow your dreams. You truly can be, do, and have everything you desire.
After leading herself on a healing journey from childhood trauma, abandonment, domestic violence, depression and anxiety, Donna is now a guide and mentor for other women on their journey home to self. Donna understands deeply, what it’s like to feel disconnected, lost and unfulfilled. She is passionate about empowering and supporting women to remember and reclaim their true essence and live a fulfilled life of connection, purpose and joy. Her wish is for all women to know, love and honour themselves as the sacred goddess they are.
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MUMPRENEUR Q& A
Lindie Gunston, P sych i c M e d i u m Meet
RELAX, GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE YOU! LOVE WHO YOU WANT TO LOVE, LIVE HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE TO FIND YOUR HAPPINESS Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: Who is Lindie Gunston? Lindie: I am a psychic, medium and teacher, born and raised in South Africa but now living in Australia. I’ve lived on four different continents and have just turned 45. Now more than ever I feel truly connected, inspired and at ease with myself and my place in the world. Growing up in South Africa was a very 14
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conservative experience, especially as my father was a minister, and we lived by the word of God. I grew up very fearful as I also experienced physical and emotional abuse at the hands of my father, and I was also sexually abused by two trusted family friends. At the age of 16 I moved out of home and gained my independence, I had enough of that shit! I finished school, and
then left South Africa to travel the world. Looking back I realised I have always been attracted to women, however due to the conditioning of society, I went down the route of having a husband and kids. It wasn’t until I realised how desperately unhappy I was, that I began to feel into the truth of who I really was. I have always been open minded and accepting of others, however perhaps not so open minded with myself! My coming out was gentle and gradual. I never made a massive announcement, it was what it was! I realise that I have been very fortunate in not experiencing a huge amount of discrimination because of my sexual orientation. I find that if I am open about who I am, it gives others permission to do the same. I love to walk in my truth and be as authentically me as I possibly can, I know that this inspires other to do the same, and why wouldn’t I want to inspire people to be the best versions of themselves? For too long society has pushed their expectations onto us, and the older I get, the more I realise is that we need to break through these expectations, because the only purpose these expectations have, is to keep us in a box! I don’t want to live in a box! Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: What has your journey been like as a Lesbian Mum in business? Lindie: I have had a very positive experience as a lesbian mum in business. I’m pretty open with my clients about who I am, if it comes up. I speak openly about my journey, and I definitely do attract LGBTQI clientele because of my openness. I’m also well connected to the LGBTQI network here in Geelong and within Victoria, so word of mouth travels this way. LGBTQI people want to know that they feel safe when having a reading, so it helps for them to come to me through referral. Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: What have been some of your challenges when it comes to society’s expectations and rules? Lindie: The challenges have actually been more internal than societies expectations and rules, although that certainly does play
a big part in it. My challenges have been, thinking that I’m not good enough, that being a psychic ,medium and teacher is not a viable career. However, when you know that you have made a massive difference in someone’s life through a reading, and can feel and see it, this thinking starts to shift. The joy I get from teaching others to open up to their innate gifts and abilities really makes me value and appreciate the skills and talents that I have. The challenges are the fact that the psychic and medium industry is not regulated, and quite honestly fraught with bullshit. Sometimes I do get lumped in the same category as fraudsters etc, but this is rare. I find people are quite curious about what I do for work, as I don’t seem like your typical psychic or medium. I swear like a trooper, enjoy a drink, meditate when I remember… My spirituality is an earthy spirituality. I’m very connected to the earth and nature, I’m not caught up in all the fluff of spiritual protection, evil spirits and the like. The most spiritual thing we can do for ourselves, is to love ourselves in all our flawed glory. We can’t be more spiritual, because we already are! So let’s just enjoy our human experience, be the best version of ourselves, by being kind to others and ourselves, and not giving a hoot of what other people think. Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: What has helped you to be the confident woman you are? Lindie: I’ve truly had to learn to
love myself and my body as I am. I believe ‘like attracts like’, and the universe has always provided the perfect opportunities for growth, even though it may not feel like it at the time. Through life’s experiences, I’ve taken the approach, of ‘’what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger’’ I’ve had a challenging life, but when I look back, I am grateful for ALL the challenges, as they have made me who I am, and it’s because of these challenges, that I am able to help others through my own experiences, that is such a gift, and gives me the confidence to move forward on my path, knowing that I am helping to raise the vibration of the planet, simply by being authentically me. Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: How can others, regardless of sexual preferences, learn to accept and be proud of who they are? Lindie: Never compare your journey to anyone else’s, your experiences are unique to you, and everything you have experienced to this point has shaped you into the person you are. Remember, no one has lived your life, only you. Be aware of what you are focusing on, and the story you tell yourself, about yourself. Change the narrative. Are you being kind to yourself? Are you telling yourself a negative story? Perspective is everything. If someone offers you a compliment about your uniqueness, accept it, and absorb it. We never see ourselves the way others do, and human conditioning steers us towards down playing ourselves. Seeing yourself from a different perspective allows for growth and
overcoming personal challenges. It’s about time that we accept ourselves as we are, in all our imperfect glory! I find that I have grown in leaps and bounds, simply by accepting myself as I am. Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: What organisations are there to help women who are confused, needing support or advice as a LGBTQ? Lindie: https://startout.org.au https://pridefoundation.org.au/ https://au.reachout.com/articles/ lgbtqi-support-services Mumpreneur Movement Magazine: Thank you so much Lindie you are amazing!
Lindie Gunston Lindie Gunston is a psychic, medium and teacher based in Geelong, Victoria, Australia. From an early age Lindie was able to sense spirit, however growing up in conservative South Africa with a father who was a minister, these spiritual experiences were passed off as evil. It wasn’t until her early 20’s that things really started to make sense, and in her early 30’s Lindie actively started developing her psychic and mediumistic abilities after experiencing the loss of her brother to cancer. Lindie decided early on that if this was a path she was to follow, then she was going to throw her entire heart and soul into it. Lindie is passionate about connecting ethically with her clients and students, inspiring them to reach for the stars in all they do. Lindie teaches psychic and mediumship development both online and in person, conducts private readings, group bookings, and audience readings worldwide.
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INTO YOUR BODY’S WISDOM By Taryn Gaudin
FROM PREGNANCY, TO BIRTH, TO MOTHERHOOD, OUR BODY, MIND AND SPIRIT UNDERGOES HUGE TRANSITIONS. OFTEN, WE DON’T TAKE THE TIME TO RECONNECT WITH OUR BODY AFTER SUCH A SIGNIFICANT TRANSFORMATION.
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ithout understanding our body’s unique language, we miss out on the precious gifts that our body offers us.
Our body is a powerful home that gives expression to our intuition, helps us to bring life to our creative visions, and connects us to our world. Being in deep connection with our body, and honouring its natural rhythm, empowers us with ways of creating a life that feels ease filled, inspired, curious, open and spacious. The deep core and pelvic floor is a space in our body that: • Undergoes big changes during pregnancy and birth • Many women feel disconnected with & ashamed of in some way • Holds powerful creative potential • We can sense our feminine energy • Can give us deep insight into our body’s wisdom
The following practice can help bring awareness to your body, in particular your deep core and pelvic floor. Try the below Deep Core Connection Practice at home.
With regular practice your body awareness will deepen.
DEEP CORE CONNECTION PRACTICE 1) Take your preferred lying position either: • Flat on your back with the legs slightly wider than hip distance.
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• On your back with the knees bent and feet resting flat. Take the feet wide and let the knees fall into one another. • Bring the soles of the feet to touch and let the knees fall wide into a butterfly position. Use pillows/rolled blankets/towels to support the knees if desired. 2) Close the eyes and bring your awareness to your breath, breathing in and out through your nose. • Begin to trace the breath as it enters the nose and travels down the back of your throat and into the lungs. • Notice the front, side and back of your rib cage as it expands with each inhale and relaxes with each exhale. • Stay here for a few moments 3) Bring your awareness to your belly. • Allow the belly to bulge with each inhale and feel the belly button drawing towards the spine with each exhale. • There is no need to force a contraction. Simply notice how your body moves with your breath. • If you have difficulty breathing into your belly, you may like to take one hand to rest over the abdomen and with each exhale use your hand to place a gentle pressure onto the abdomen. As you inhale, focus on breathing into your hand. As you draw the breath into your hand, allow the pressure to gently build and then release the hand - feeling a springing sensation within your abdomen. 4) Bring your awareness to your pelvic floor. • Sense the muscles of the pelvic floor – feeling from the pubic bone at the front of the pelvis, the coccyx/ tailbone at the back and the sit bones on the left and right.
• Breathe deep into the pelvic bowl, focusing your breath all the way into the perineal space that sits between the vagina and the anus. • As you breathe in, feel the muscles of the pelvic floor soften and relax. Sense how the pelvic floor muscles relax and allow space for the breath. As you exhale, sense the gentle movement of the pelvic floor as the muscles draw inwards and upwards. • Again, no particular effort is required to contract the muscles, simply notice how the body moves with the breath. As you tune into your body, take a moment ask some simple questions such as: • How am I feeling physically in my body? • How do I feel emotionally? • How do I feel energetically? • What would feel nourishing? With regular practice your body awareness will deepen. As you respond to your body’s needs you will notice that you create subtle changes in your life that, over time, profoundly impact how you move through your world.
Taryn Gaudin Taryn Gaudin is a mother of 2 (soon to be 3), lover of all types of movement & an outdoorsy adventurer. Taryn is a Women’s Physiotherapist & Whole Body Connection Guide who offers a unique approach that blends clinical evidence based physiotherapy with energy medicine - offering women practical guidance towards understanding their body in a physical & functional capacity, whilst honouring their desire for emotional & spiritual connection. Taryn’s work is rooted in a deep appreciation for the connectedness of the physical, emotional & spiritual body. She believes that you are the expert in your body, and that as you create a deep connection with your body in a way that honours your natural rhythm, your relationships flourish, your creativity explodes, your trust in your intuition deepens, and your connection to your soul work expands phenomenally. Taryn helps women to connect to their whole body, in particular their deep core, pelvic floor & pelvic bowl wisdom. She often works with women who have experienced sexual trauma, birth trauma, or medical/surgical trauma, helping them to unveil their own healing path. You can work with Taryn online, or face to face in Townsville, North Queensland.
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Most Common Marketing Mistakes
Small Business Owners Make By Sian Yewdall
MARKETING. MARKETING. MARKETING… ALL WE HEAR ABOUT THESE DAYS AS AN ENTREPRENEUR IS MARKETING!
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es, of course you understand the importance of marketing your business to make money, but when you sit down to write a powerful social media post, all you hear is the sound of the TV in the next room or see the laundry that needs folding. In other words, you avoid marketing like the plague. Blame being too tired. Too busy or more honestly, ‘I don’t know how’ so you give up and figure you’ll try again another day when you have more brain space. Should it really be that hard?! If you’re ready to declare, enough is enough, and tackle your marketing once and for all, here are the 5 most common marketing mistakes small business owners make at some stage (yes, I’m guilty of them too!)
MISTAKE 1: YOU WANT TO HELP ‘EVERYONE’ If you’re business is aimed at ‘helping everyone’ then I’m here to tell you, it will help no-one. #sorrynotsorry Does Apple sell to everyone? Does MacDonalds sell to everyone? No! While they are two powerful and well-known brands, they DO NOT appeal to everyone. They have a clearly defined target market and 18
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they know their customer brand parameters so intimately that they talk directly to them. In other words, not everyone is the same. We don’t all like the same things, value the same things or even want the same things. The most effective marketing occurs when it creates CONNECTION with the right audience. Have you ever heard someone say, “Even if I only make a difference to one person’s life, that’s all that matters.” You shouldbe thinking the same way about yourmarketing. Talk, write, blog and communicate as if you’re talking to one woman, man, child or dog and that person NEEDS your service because they believe in you and resonate with your message. If you focus on helping everyone, then your words lose power, your marketing because erratic and your message is too vague and wishy washy because you’re trying to please everyone. That my friends a recipe for disaster!
MISTAKE 2: YOU AVOID TAKING REAL ACTION Do any of these sound familiar? • You change your Facebook cover image three times with
different colours, fonts or links to your website to try and attract more people to click through to youroffer. • You re-write your website’s About Page every week trying tofigure out the best way to describe what it is you really do but never feel like what you write is goodenough. • You create a new offer but don’t promote it and only share it once on Facebook and wonder why noone signed-up forit. • You post pictures of you and your family on social media, talk about your products and how hard you worked on it, but no-one likes, comments or buys fromyou! Here’s the thing about marketing, it’s so easy to hide behind it and say ‘I’m doing everything I can’ but when you take a deeper look at how you’re spending your time, these minor tasks are actually meaningless to everyone BUT you. Taking real action is focusing on revenue generating activities that will sell your services, grow your audience and make the impact you dream of!
MISTAKE 3: YOU DON’T ASK FOR THE SALE Women (generally speaking of course) love avoiding anything to do with money. It’s common that
we don’t like talking about it; don’t like accepting it when it’s offered; and don’t like thinking someone else has to pay for their stuff because ‘it’s easy for me to do it.” Women in business - who start to “help others” - tend to believe that if someone really needs their help then they shouldn’t charge for it, and if they promote themselves then they are just ‘showing off’ or worse, ‘full of ourselves’. At what point do we forget that crap and stand tall behind ourselves and declare, “I’m really good at what I do and deserve to make money from it!” As little girls we are always told to be nice, quiet or accommodating. We’re not taught to me assertive, confident and empowered because that comes across as too threatening and bitchy. How does this impact your marketing? Because you’re scared to ask for the sale and directly come out and say, “I can change things for you. It costs $x and you need it.” Marketing is the conduit between a need or desire and a service or product that can fulfil it. That’s it. You’ve got something they need. You’ve got a solution to their problem. You can improve their life and genuinely help them. In this day and age, you can’t assume anyone will know what you offer. The difference is you’re selling a service you genuinely know can make their life better. Isn’t it a disservice NOT to tell them about it?
MISTAKE 4: YOU CUT YOUR PRICES If you are a Coach or Consultant, working in professional services, cutting your prices to secure clients never ends well. Reducing your hourly rate or constantly offering a sale impacts your brand more than how much your business brings in. It impacts your credibility, it reduces your position in the market and it deflates all the powerful, positive energy you’ve worked so hard to infuse in to your business. Plus once you drop a price to make others happy or secure the sale, your new client will expect to pay that price again and again. Think of it this way, if you
knew someone did the same job for half the fee, would you still be happy paying full price? Absolutely not! Don’t set yourself up for this downfall. The right client will be happy to be pay your fee because they understand the VALUE you bring them and the ultimate impact on their life and business.
MISTAKE 5: YOU AVOID VISIBILITY OR SELFPROMOTION Without a doubt, this one is definitely the one I work with my clients on the most. When I ask a client what they believe is sabotaging their marketing, their first response is usually, “I really don’t like talking about myself.” Or similarly, “I don’t like my photo” or “I don’t like my voice on video.” When you avoid visibility you’re telling the Universe, ‘I don’t believe I’m good enough. If I fail I didn’t really put myself out there anyway” Whatever the underlying belief is, this is a story you’re holding on to to protect you from achieving great things! It’s a tall tale stuck on repeat in your head that keeps you playing small and safe, that has you left wishing, hoping and dreaming that someone somewhere will notice you so your business can survive. When you deny your dreams and hide behind your laptop to avoid the haters, you are committing yourself and your business to a painful slow death. Harsh but true. Your mindset matters. Your ability to help others matters. Your business matters. Your message matters. Your story matters. Above all else, YOU matter. Just the way you are and we need you. I’m not saying you have to be on the front cover of every magazine to make a difference, but you do need to get out of your own way and show up for your audience so they can find you first and foremost, connect with you and communicate with you. That’s visibility. As I like to say, your business isn’t about you! It’s about the incredible life changing magic you bring to your clients. You’re simply the conduit between where they are and where they want to be.
Sian Yewdall Sian Yewdall is a Marketing & PR Coach for heart-driven ambitious women ready to harness their voice, carve their space in the market and make an impact in the world. As an award-winning Communications & Marketing specialist with 20 years experience in the sector, Sian has established vital awareness campaigns that set the national agenda; cultivated profitable sponsorship deals; managed public relations strategies for international companies and created awardwinning events that raised funds for not-forprofit organisations. In 2017 Sian established and grew a successful print and digital magazine, to inspire and support regional women in business across Australia before closing it down as a result of her family home being flooded by the monster monsoon that devastated North Queensland in February 2019. Today, she combines this personal experience with her professional accolades to support ambitious female entrepreneurs achieve their higher purpose.
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Using
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By Danielle Gardner WE CAN LEARN A LOT ABOUT CREATING A BUSINESS THAT NOURISHES OUR HEART AND SOUL BY STUDYING PERMACULTURE.
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f you’ve not come across the term permaculture, it’s essentially about looking at what already exists in your ecosystem, strengthening what’s working, avoiding waste, doing no harm and caring for people and the planet. There are 12 Permaculture Principles, and what I’d like to focus on in this article is the first one, ‘Observe and Interact’. When we take the time to properly observe our environment we are able to notice what’s already there and working. We get to see what we’ve been overlooking.
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For example, I love using my Squarespace Analytics App to see an overview of what activity is happening on my website. When I first started using this App a few years ago I noticed that one particular blog, one that I’d written months ago, was receiving a steady increase of views.
I continued monitoring this on a weekly basis for a few months while I simultaneously pondered what I could do to interact with these people who were finding me organically. Then a simple idea landed! I would create a class based around the theme of the blog which was called Building your business as a Human Design Generator. I’d written that blog to share my experience on following my Human Design strategy, and how that had turned the tide in my business. Next, I organised my knowledge on this topic and offered the class to my existing networks. After the class, I added to the blog a link where visitors could purchase the recording. Within a month or so people started purchasing that training with no promotion from me and no ads campaigns. It was all happening as a result of organic Google traffic. I’ve since upgraded that training to a short concise course and it generates on average $1300 per month—again without me doing much at all. When I first wrote this blog about 90% of my clients were coming as a result of my activity in Facebook Groups and on LinkedIn. Now 80% of my clients discover me through that blog, and the other 20% by word of mouth.
There is more than one way to create a sustainable income from sharing your gifts. Actually I’m sure there are hundreds of ways!
If I’d never paused to ‘observe’ what was actually happening, then I would have missed this opportunity of being discovered by new people on a weekly basis. It’s so easy to get caught up in marketing dogma and believing if we don’t show up online everywhere, every day—then we won’t make it in business.
See yourself as a mad scientist. Enjoy your creative expression. Break the rules—see what happens! And do your art.
So pause for a moment. Think about where your clients have discovered you. Was it through social media posts? In person events? Writing? Making videos? Word of mouth? Or something else? And ask yourself, “If I could be really me, how would I do this?” There is more than one way to create a sustainable income from sharing your gifts. Actually I’m sure there are hundreds of ways!
Danielle Gardner Danielle Gardner is a business mentor to self employed highly sensitive women. She helps them to articulate their message, market with quiet confidence, and have clients discover them without needing to spend so much time online.
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A Reflection on Mother’s Guilt By Anna Kristina WHEN TASKED WITH WRITING THIS ARTICLE I THOUGHT, ‘SURE! I’M A GOOD PSYCHOTHERAPIST, I CAN WRITE AMELIORATING WORDS AROUND THE SUBJECT OF MOTHER’S GUILT.” HOWEVER, A DAY BEFORE DEADLINE, I FIND MYSELF IN THE MUDDIEST QUAGMIRE OF MOTHER’S GUILT I HAVE, TO DATE, EXPERIENCED.
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ho am I to be giving advice? I feel awful. All due to an entirely avoidable incident between the family dog and the beloved guinea pig. Long story short. Bad dog. Guinea pig shrouded in flower sand buried. I knew the dog wasn’t trustworthy, I thought the secondhand hutch a tad dubious and when my child had a hunch to check on her piggie, I held her up with IDK... some inane, mumhassle nonsense. Who is responsible for this tragedy? Me. Guilty. Painfully guilty. Grief is so often coloured with washes of guilt. Like an awkward sister who’s been
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brought to the party, guilt hovers around those living with loss. Why? Because we’re human. We take part in regrettable things that, when we experience loss, we wish we could undo, wish we could change to alter the outcome. Sometimes, we just need someone to blame. That’s the way itis. So I wonder if it works the other way as well? Where mother’s guilt is present, is grief around too? There are the big, noticeable things… gone guinea pigs, lost trust, moving schools, Covid lockdowns, major incidents we need to navigate around. They’re obvious. There are those irrational, anticipated failures… if I’d been somehow better, they’d not be glued to Minecraft, gaming away their dreams of being a dentist… if I’d just kept it together I might not have shattered my illusions of living a flawless, outdoors-y Insta #freerange #mumlife. Then there are those little losses that perhaps we put aside… goodbye to tiny baby toes, milk teeth, toddler words, first day of school farewells, shrinking hugs, teenage disdain. Moments we missed or neglected to notice. Moments we couldn’t give enough time to because the days are short and filled with distraction. When in a film noir mood, motherhood’s like a lady spinning threads of good intentions while a choir of little losses hums along in background. Coulda, shoulda, woulda. If only….. then maybe.
We can recognise feelings of guilt and loss. Yep. We can acknowledge those feelings.
And I would posit, that with all the little losses comes an unacknowledged grief that feeds a mother’s guilt. Do incremental bereavements over dwindling influence and ever-presence nibble away at a mother’s mind? Earlier, I looked to my mother, in whose garden the guinea pig incident befell. I could see in her eyes a mother’s guilt never disappears. Even now, she feels the same way I feel tonight. “If I would have done something different, I could have spared my child this … this knotty experience of life.” My reply, “We can’t change chaos, Mum. We don’t control all the things.” We can recognise feelings of guilt and loss. Yep. We can acknowledge those feelings. I am so sorry. We can acknowledge our mistakes. I didn’t watch the dog. We can notice when guilt is irrational. I haven’t ruined my child. We can accept there are things beyond our design. Motherhood doesn’t come with a diarised schedule of life-defining moments. I won’t know it all. We can hold ourselves with selfcompassion. I do the best I can with the resources I have. I’ll learn, forgive and grow with kindness and grace. We expand our emotional intelligence this way. We stay in contact with the good times. We notice love with gratitude. Hands on heart.
Anna Kristina Anna Kristina is an intuitive healer, mud-pie maker, musician and mother of one. Her exboyfriend called her ‘blunt as a spoon’. And she is. She wrote a song about it. She’s a get-to-the-heartof-it kind of person. Upon putting a 20 year career in arts and events on hold to raise her child, she realised what a ridiculously tough gig motherhood was and promptly fell apart.... like, really.... In the process of putting herself back together she wrote lots of soul-searching articles and was published, became fascinated with the law of attraction and won a load of prizes. All fantastic, but didn’t fill all the gaps, so she went in search of more meaningful, longer term solutions. That’s when she discovered Processwork, a shamanic, Jungian dream-based modality of holistic counselling and psychotherapy which she trained in and now blends with her intuitive gifts and creativity to provide a mental wellbeing service that aims to make digging in the dirt much less like digging trenches and a bit more like digging for treasure. She wants you to know that therapy is awesome. She wishes she’d done it sooner. Honestly. Just do it.
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Maggie’s Spiritual Side Speaks to the Hearts of Mothers By Tammie Pike AN INTIMATE CHAT WITH THIS WAYSHOWER REVEALS THE INNER WORK NEEDED OF US AS MOTHERS IN ORDER TO CREATE THE OUTER CHANGE OUR CHILDREN REQUIRE IN THE WORLD.
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hink of Australia’s most popular parent educator and author, and Maggie Dent’s wise face might be the first to come to most of our minds. Her respected no-nonsense approach to life and parenting is a breath of fresh air for parents who constantly feel like they are failing. Maggie lovingly yet firmly encourages parents around the world not to give up. Her wise insights provide simple yet effective steps for those in the trenches of parenthood, to connect with their children and help them grow to be strong, resilient human beings. A highly successful Mumpreneur, and now Granpreneur, Maggie’s revered books, workshops and talks have seen her travel Australia and the globe to reach a broad audience. Her knowledge has been sought by millions of mothers and fathers worldwide. Yet even with all her success, Maggie remains grounded and doesn’t take herself or life too seriously. Maggie’s trademark is her quirky storytelling abilities, which often makes one laugh out loud. The combination of her humour and her excellent parenting advice is a feelgood experience, food for the weary parent’s soul. I personally finished such a conversation with Maggie recently, feeling inspired to never give up and to surrender to my inner-knowing. This may have you wonder, “Is Maggie a parent educator or a spiritual guru?” Well, get comfy and let me share a side to Maggie that many don’t get to see. What many may not know about this incredible woman, who has been educating children and parents for over 30 years now, is that she has been rebelling against a system and society that has been supressing and stressing children, teenagers and adults for decades. It took for Maggie to be brave enough to embark on her own personal, 24
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“I have a really weird spiritual side to me,” Maggie opened up. When Maggie shared this, I was surprised and delighted as I believe that many of the greatest and most successful women in the world have a deeper spiritual connection to themselves and the Universe. Further, that such changemakers tend to believe in a Higher Power, live by the highest good for themselves and others, and most importantly trust their intuition. This spiritual backbone has enabled Maggie to use her femininity to create a thriving business that flows and will leave a legacy for decades to come. It hasn’t been a simple path for Maggie who has overcome many challenges along her journey as a mother, grandmother and entrepreneur. She is quite honest when sharing, “There are stumbles along the way. If you’ve done your work, you’ll get back up, brush the dust off and go, ‘I’ve got this! I can,
I can do this!’” Maggie believes that being a persistent Have-a-Goer, a Never-Giver-Upper, is exactly the kind of attitude that will get you where you aspire to be. It’s evident Maggie has lived life and business by this philosophy. Fans may or may not know that Maggie was a teacher for many years. In 1998 she had, had enough of witnessing students fall apart under the stress, pressure and expectations placed on them by the society and schooling system. She was done with the structure that was failing her students. Maggie was already pushing boundaries within the educational system as a teacher, as she dared to teach differently and focused more on the student’s health and mental wellbeing. However, like so many teachers today, Maggie still felt too restricted. In a moment of clarity, Maggie knew she wanted more than anything to be able to do something that allowed her to be the most exceptional teacher. Three days later that something appeared in the form of an advert
promoting a Rotary Scholarship. Maggie’s journey from being a school teacher to a renowned parenting educator and author began in earnest. Despite doubting she would, Maggie won the Rotary Scholarship which took her to America to train under self-development mentor and author, Jack Canfield, for two weeks. “It was mind-blowing … for a girl born on a farm out in the bush of Western Australia!” Coming home from the training in the US, Maggie wasn’t just juggling being a single mother to four energetic boys. On top of full-time teaching, she was also working as a suicide prevention counsellor and a funeral celebrant who was constantly booked out. She was restless for change, and at that point, another of Maggie’s life-defining choices was about to be made. Maggie being the courageous changemaker and wayshower she was, left her secure job to go out on her own. She was passionate about helping children to thrive at whatever cost, despite her reluctant Photography: Rebecca Rosconi Photography
professional and spiritual journey, in order to impact millions of others around the world.
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there’s other days it’s just going to go crap. You’re not a useless human. You’re not a useless mother. You know, there’s just those days [that] turn up in life. It’s called the 20% day.” And so there it is; we all have bad days. Days where we want to give up, curl up in bed and never get out. There are days when we overreact, yell, scream, cry and hurt ourselves and maybe others with our actions. However, as Maggie reminds us, we are all just human, doing the best we can. The kindness, compassion and non-judgemental aura that emanates from Maggie is soothing and her wisdom is lived. If us mums could grant some of that grace towards ourselves and integrate Maggie’s wisdom into our own lives, imagine what that would look like for you. Personally, it would include being easier on myself, forgiving and loving myself more. We need to let go of the expectations and rules we as women and mothers have allowed to be placed on ourselves, so we can stop being stressed and living in fear of getting ‘it’ wrong. We need to start loving and caring for the woman we are and valuing the gift we give the world through ourselves, our businesses and our families.
accountant’s advice. However, in true Maggie fashion she put all of her resources into her new business and it wasn’t easy. In her first year, Maggie lost over $35,000. Not giving up and needing to feed her hungry boys, Maggie did what most would never do, she drew from her mortgage. Maggie kept persevering and it wasn’t long before teenagers and parents alike, were knocking loudly on her door for help. Like many women starting their own business, Maggie experienced the dreaded Imposter Syndrome, a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents or accomplishments and has a persistent internalised fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. This was financially draining for Maggie as she wasn’t charging what she rightfully deserved for her time and services. 26
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Tenaciously, Maggie kept going. She put one foot in front of the next and kept giving her business a good go and never gave up. Each step of the way, Maggie said she was supported by her Highest Self, her intuition and the support of ‘something more’. Maggie desperately wanted to share this message with all mums, “You’ve got to trust this silent, beautiful guide within you, your Highest Self, who is constantly giving you clues. It’s the same voice that the ego so desperately wants to shut down!” As a woman who isn’t afraid to break the rules, speak out against the status quo and social expectations, Maggie knows too well the pressures on modern mothers today. Mothers worldwide are juggling life, parenting and business. “It’s a juggling act and there is no perfect life balance. Every day is a different juggling act. And some days you’re going to nail it and
This won’t happen overnight. It is an ever-evolving journey as Maggie can attest to. She humorously shares, “As you get older, over 40, you start not caring as much about the stuff that you used to really care about. Over 50, man, it gets even easier and over 60, you just don’t give a shit at all.” Her openness and realness has Maggie endeared by the world. For me a mother, who is juggling it all, Maggie has given me a sense of spaciousness and curiosity that allows me to ask the important questions in my life: What isn’t working in my life right now? What stresses me and is it really a priority? What is my truth? What is my Highest Self telling me? Maggie’s work is much more than parenting advice. She is creating awareness about topics that society finds taboo, such as the effects of porn on
It is never too late to make changes. And you are never too old to follow your dreams.
young males; how to help boys cultivate healthy and intimate relationships; how to help them cope with failure and recover from the effects of a society that places unnecessary stress on them. Maggie is also currently focused on creating change in the education system which has not yet been met with open arms. However, she remains passionate about bringing awareness to Australia at large on the outdatedness of the current education system, and how it is currently failing our children. Make sure to connect with this incredible woman, who has been leading the way for many, for many years. Experience for yourself the ‘permission’ to not have to be perfect or get ‘it’ right all the time. Instead, be guided back to the reality of your humanness, your magic and the life you can create as a woman, mother and Business Owner!
Maggie Dent Commonly known as the “queen of common sense”, Maggie Dent has become one of Australia’s favourite parenting authors and educators, with a particular interest in the early years, adolescence and resilience. Maggie’s experience includes teaching, counselling, and working in palliative care/funeral services and suicide prevention. Maggie is an advocate for the healthy, common-sense raising of children in order to strengthen families and communities. She is a passionate, positive voice for children of all ages. Now an in-demand writer and speaker, Maggie is a regular contributor to Fairfax’s Essential Kids website and she can often be heard on commercial and ABC radio around the country including Nova 937. She also appears on national TV programs. Maggie is the host of the ABC’s Parental As Anything podcast. She is the author of six major books, including her bestselling 2018 release Mothering Our Boys. Maggie has also authored several smaller books and e-books, and is a prolific creator of resources for parents, adolescents, teachers, educators and others who are interested in quietly improving their lives. Maggie is the proud mother of four wonderful sons, and an enthusiastic and grateful grandmother. She lives in the South Coast region of NSW with her good bloke Steve Mountain and their dear little dog, Mr Hugo Walter Dent.
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FROM BOYS TO MEN: guiding our teen boys to grow into happy, healthy men
“As a child advocate and author in the United States, I’ve long admired Maggie’s work not just for her unmistakable wit but also her insights and practical strategies that resonate with both brain science and common sense… When Maggie speaks I love to listen!” – Dr Michael Gurian, New York Times bestselling author, including Saving Our Sons and The Stone Boys
Link: https://www.maggiedent.com/shop/books/from-boys-to-men/
Finding Flow In
Motherhood By Tamara Stiller
AS I BEGIN WRITING THIS ARTICLE FROM MY HOMETOWN OF THE GOLD COAST, AUSTRALIA, I AM MESMERIZED BY THE SURFERS OUT IN THE OCEAN. WHAT A LESSON IN FINDING FLOW!
and unashamedly. Values affect our productivity and release us from the latest trend or from falling into the trap of comparison.
Know how to recharge effectively Do you recognise when you need to recharge throughout your day? When our mobile phone battery is getting flat we take action. We recharge that battery! But where do you recharge your battery on a daily basis? Come up with a handful of go-to activities that will recharge your battery at any given time. Could you use music to change your emotional state? Perhaps getting some movement into your day could make a difference. Try dancing to a track you enjoy or go for a 5-minute walk to give your mind and body a boost. Try stepping outside for some sun and fresh air where possible. Journaling may be up your alley or perhaps meditation could reenergise you.
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ach surfer finds their space and chooses the waves they will ride. These waves come in sets and each individual watches carefully. They are ready to ride the wave. They have learned to embrace the rhythms of the waves. When choosing to ride a wave they consider their skills, board, energy and experience! Finding flow in motherhood is very similar. When we know our skills, surroundings, resources and energy then we can choose which waves are ours! So how do we find that sweet spot? That place where the unexpected moments of motherhood don’t overwhelm or leave you completely
wiped out? Over my years of raising my six children, I have learned a few things I hope might benefit you.
Know Your Values Know what you truly value! I’m talking deep down. What drives you? What do you know that you know? Knowing your values is the greatest filter to the endless possibilities available to you. Too much choice can confuse you and leave you feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Narrow down your options and lessen the noise until you hear the beautiful symphony, the soundtrack perfectly suited to your life. Values empower us to say “Yes” enthusiastically and “No” confidently
Having plans and routines is commendable and can serve us to maintain a harmonious and relaxed home. It is also important to balance this out with the ability to be flexible and spontaneous. Over the years, some of my most precious and powerful parenting moments occurred when I remained flexible. You don’t want to miss those teachable moments or sweet times when there is an ease to things! No agenda. No routine. No discipline. Just being. Your presence and focus at any given moment. Don’t be so organised that you miss these special moments. These are moments you can never recreate.
Teamwork Whether you are a family of 2 or 10, teamwork is key! Imagine for a moment a football team who only focus on their individual skills? Without a coach, a gameplan or strategy, support and positions their game would be utter chaos! Our homes are energized by connection. Invest in your “team”. MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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Accountability Over the past few years, I have discovered that by having a coach in my corner encouraging me I am in a far better space to continue being a great mum. Think about it, businesses have coaches to guide their business decisions. Athletes have coaches to train and champion them to victory! And yet few mothers have the support of someone who can be their cheerleader! Having an accredited neutral party to speak into your life is a sure way to remain in a state of flow and harmony as a mother. Teach them. Coach them. Value them and enjoy the winning game!
Know the season These days the internet exposes us to a myriad of opinions. There is advice on how to parent, how to clean your home, what to feed your child, how to dress your child, which developmental activities your child needs to live a full life, the programme you must buy to learn advanced parenting techniques...Goodness! I’m exhausted just thinking about it! Here in Australia, when it’s summer it’s typically the time to get to the beach, enjoy iceblocks and long walks in the evening. However, in winter, jumpers and scarves are more appropriate attire, winter soups are on the menu and nights snuggled up by the fireplace with a good book are a must! As a mother, you will experience all the seasons of life. Perhaps you are currently enjoying summer. But the seasons will change and winter will come. There is beauty in each season. Discerning what you need specifically for the season you are in is a valuable skill to have. Choosing the resources, activities and people you need to invest in at any given time will help you to maintain peace in your heart and in your home.
Switch up good for great Invest in things that truly light you up and align with your values. If you are saying yes to someone else’s vision but feel depleted, frustrated and are no longer in a flow state it’s time to 30
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say no to good things so that you can say yes to great things! You will show up as a more energetic, calm and happy mother. Of course, there will always be things we don’t feel like doing but we see the greater purpose and are intentional about these decisions as each one arises..
Find clarity around what matters most to you. From this place, you will be able to narrow down the important habits, traditions and routines that bring you peace and enjoyment.
Practice Relaxation Many of us have learned how to remain in a state of stress. We have practised the art of worry until it is our norm. Practice mindfulness, prayer, meditation and slowing down to retrain your brain to function differently. Learn to be present and practise relaxation so you can access this state quickly and effectively when you need to recharge.
Own your strengths I have a friend who is amazing with meal preparation. In fact, her love of creating nutritious restaurant-quality meals has resulted in her having a business around selling kitchen products. She has merged her passion, values and desire to have her own business around cooking. I, on the other hand, am quite happy to spend 15 minutes grilling some chicken and stir-frying some vegetables so I can be out of the kitchen as quickly as possible. Of course, I appreciate a beautiful meal but I would much rather be doing other things and my skills in the kitchen could use some improvement. Work with your abilities and the things that bring you pleasure. Your home will be more relaxed and at ease as you work with and own your strengths.
Tamara Stiller Tamara is a Mum-Life Coach who champions women to redefine motherhood and find purpose and passion in their important but often undervalued role as a mum! From the homemaker to the working mum Tamara’s heart is to see mums thriving and to truly love the years of raising children. As a mum of six, business owner and life coach, Tamara understands the importance of having someone on your team. Someone to encourage and cheer you on, someone without judgement who understands the challenges, chaos and confusion that can overwhelm. Tamara’s heart is to see women operating from their strengths and not their fears and to overcome each challenge with confidence, grace and fulfilment.
MindFit KIDS ACADEMY COURSE
A story-based program that will take your child on a journey to learn the basic fundamentals of how the mind works, and how we can use it to be the best humans we can be. Building resilience, overcoming fears and conquering anxiety to be grounded, balanced, well-adjust children and reach their full potential.
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT MADE EASY AND DIGESTIBLE FOR CHILDREN OF ALL AGES. THERE ARE 5 LEVELS: Bronze - Mind Mastery Silver - You Mastery Gold - Self Mastery Emerald - Dream Mastery Diamond - Mastering you Fears
With 5-7 stories within each level and some bonuses.
Each level needs to be passed before continuing onto the next, with a quick quiz and a certificate of achievement.
ONCE YOUR MINDFIT KID HAS ACHIEVED ALL 5 LEVELS THEY WILL RECEIVE A PRIZE FROM US IN THE MAIL.
“We are all one” that is the way a MindFit kid views the world By Salli Galvin
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child that is encouraged to honour and express their own uniqueness is a child that understands they are a gift to this world. When children learn to understand that being unique is a powerful contribution to humanity, they then recognise that we are all human; we are all one. There is no division of colour or gender or social status. We are all one. A MindFit kid knows that one person’s gifts are not better or worse than another’s because we are all one in our uniqueness. A MindFit generation is raised to believe that in order to thrive - and not just survive – they need to be surrounded by all types of people with all types of gifts. As parents, care givers and educators, we are responsible for moulding and shaping the minds of our children who are the next generation of leaders in our society. We need them to be kind, compassionate but powerful in order for them to help humanity find and create peace in the world.
WHAT IS A MINDFIT KID? IT’S A CHILD WITH A STRONG, FLEXIBLE, FIT, AND HEALTHY MIND. IT’S A CHILD THAT HAS DEVELOPED ENORMOUS SELF-CONFIDENCE AND POWERFUL SELFESTEEM. A MINDFIT KID IS AN EMPOWERED CHILD. 32
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Our current education system – in fact, the entire current social system in the western world – has let us down as a collective humanity. There are serious holes in this system where children are not taught the basic fundamentals of how to generate a healthy self-esteem and courageous self-worth. Sadly, so many children live their lives in disempowered states where they have been taught to play the victim and not take responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings and actions. This structure of learning has left a vast number of children to incorrectly believe they are not enough, and unable to understand the power of their own uniqueness or recognise the gift that they are and what they have to contribute to the world.
I understand that many adults (or most likely more than we would like to imagine) don’t fully comprehend the power of each individual human’s uniqueness and, therefore, they do not have the capacity to lead by example to teach our children. That is why I developed The MindFit Kids Academy. It is a program that teaches children, aged 6-12 years, five incredibly powerful aspects of social and emotional development through the power of story. These five key points are:
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Mind Mastery uses neuroscience to teach the basic fundamentals of how the mind works so that every MindFit kid is able to understand how to use their powerful mind to achieve and enjoy the life they want to live.
You Mastery teaches our children that they possess the power within themselves to challenge their happiness model. By understanding that everything is a choice, children recognise it is up to them to choose how they respond to any given situation.
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Dream Mastery harnesses the power of vision to reach a goal. It uses techniques such as visualisation, affirmation, gratitude and the Reticular Activating System and the Universal Law of Attraction to achieve whatever it is in life a child sets out to accomplish. Self Mastery is aimed at helping children understand who they are and to embrace the unique and special gift they are to humanity. This module is about developing soaring self-esteem and powerful selfconfidence. Mastering our Fears is simply learning how to overcome adversity or the fear that we each have inside. Mastering our Fears builds deep levels of resilience.
Every individual child is different – just as every individual adult is different - and humanity needs to embrace this concept and encourage uniqueness rather than shame, blame or attacking what is different. We were all made different for a reason. If we could all trust in that, then the world would be a kinder place.
A MindFit kid knows that one person’s gifts are not better or worse than another’s because we are all one in our uniqueness.
Salli Galvin A woman of action. Salli is passionate about creating grounded resilient well adjusted children reach their full potential. She believes it is easier to grow and shape a strong child with a FIT MIND, than fix a broken man. Salli has always been curious of the human mind and how it operates from a scientific perspective. The reason she is so intrigued about this come from her story. She grew up on a sheep and wheat farm in WA and her perfect country life was shattered when her father committed suicide. She was the oldest of four girls at 8 her little sisters are 4, 2 and 6 months old. Why a perfectly good man with everything to live for chose to take his life is one of Salli’s greatest mysteries. Her lifelong journey has lead her around the world to four continents investigating Mindfulness and Mindfitness. She has created programs and companies that help children and parents alike to harness the power of their minds.
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Medical Mums,
surviving diagnosis with strength beyond your expectations By Elizabeth Clements WHILE EXPECTING OUR FOURTH CHILD, MY HUSBAND AND I RECEIVED THE DIFFICULT NEWS THAT OUR SON HAD AN INCURABLE AND LIFE-ALTERING MEDICAL CONDITION. EVERY PERFECT EXPECTATION I HAD HAD FOR MY FAMILY’S LIVES, WAS SHATTERED WHEN WE RECEIVED HIS DIAGNOSIS.
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nstantly we joined the unofficial group of other medical families with diagnoses. A group of families that you only appreciate exist, once you become one of them. Within these families, we may all have different diseases, but we all share similar emotions and challenges. Sometimes the difficulties of being a family living with challenging medical conditions can be utterly heartbreaking. Some days we simply survive, other days we thrive. Something felt oddly familiar, like I had been here before. Not as a mum, but as a sibling. Going through the motions with life the way we knew it changed forever. I had now gone from stalwart sibling to indomitable mother. I do not pity our journey, I know I have been prepared for this. I am not always sure how I persevere, but I always know I can. Watching your child battle the challenges of chronic illness, allows you to bear witness to the immeasurable strength and resilience they possess and teach you time and time again. Mama, you’re stronger than you know, your story isn't in silence. Keep going; you are a warrior. Take deep healing breaths. Allow your tears to fall, then be reassured knowing this isolating journey is not yours alone; let me walk with you. In these families, one partner might frequently find their other-half tired and overwhelmed; left with little energy for them at the end of the day. To these
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partners, please know you are not unnoticed. Your endless support is vital, even when the words are not spoken out loud. Step into the shoes of the predominant carer, and feel the weight that they bear. To the siblings of our children with unique diagnoses; know you are beyond tough and patient. It is likely you have built up an armour of empathy and compassion, often required to selflessly hold your family up, as you quietly go and do, at times without being acknowledged. Know you are seen. You are loved beyond measure. Then there are the incredible women who bear us mums up in their own power; who carry us when we feel weak, knowing that our strength is in the moments of vulnerability. They see it as exactly that, not weakness, but instead as courage and resilience. You are our tribe, our crown fixers, and we could not do it without you. At times, my heart feels broken. Words I cannot say aloud; if I do, I
might fall in a heap, never quite getting up. So I keep going; strong, exhausted and more determined than ever. With a smile on my face, because how else do I convince myself we’ll be okay? It aches to see my child’s struggle, knowing nothing I do will make it vanish. I have prayed for this countless times before, pleading on my knees, eyes heavenward, “Keep my baby safe and strong, let me take his burdens on, as You know so well”.
What I would not give to thrust this challenge from our lives. Heartbreaking, mind-aching, we wade through. Brain on fire, bodies against us, when they should be by our side. Have you betrayed me? Temple of our Souls, Keeper of Lives? Yet, we continue to carry the burden of the physical body and its unavoidable imperfections. It aches, yet there is joy, smiles through the pain. Triumphs we cling to. I promise to find joy, the happy moments. I refuse not to.
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I muster the courage to speak the truth when my child asks. Somehow the right words fall from my mouth, helping him understand what this disease means for him. My boy, I will fight my way through the dark, continually in awe of your strength. Reminding you how worthwhile life is, and how incredible you are. Enduring sleepless nights; endless invasive procedures. Telling your story to doctor after doctor, person after person. My tears fall quietly as I hold you close during another frightening assessment; traversing the cords, tubes and wires, so I can hug you tight. Stroking your head after yet another episode. Your beautiful brain on fire, lost for a moment in time; seconds never felt so long, and I will find the brave inside us both. Because my boy, I am her, I am the one. Mother, Nurse, Educator, Carer, Liaison, Advocate; and I've got you.
My tears fall quietly as I hold you close during another frightening assessment; traversing the cords, tubes and wires, so I can hug you tight.
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Elizabeth Clements Elizabeth is a devoted mother of three earthside and one angel in heaven, who is inspired by the potential and possibility for good in those around her. She has worked in aged care and supporting children with chronic illness and special needs. Qualified as an enrolled nurse, carer, and currently studying to be a breastfeeding counsellor and educator, Elizabeth has always had a love for learning and teaching. She volunteers her time at Riding for the Disabled, and Days for Girls where she has been involved in preparing and distributing reusable menstrual kits, educating women and girls on menstrual hygiene and personal care in Australia and Africa. She was also privileged to raise money for the Catherine Hamlin Fistula Hospital in Ethiopia, where she visited and ran the 10km Great Ethiopian Run in promotion of the hospital and the empowerment of girls to become leaders. Elizabeth loves poetry and enjoys writing, she is proactive, hardworking, and empathic. Her supportive nature means that you will never stand alone in a just cause. Along with all she does for others, she still makes time for impromptu dance parties, rock or tree climbing, and cooking that she sometimes cannot live down.
My Greatest I
Accomplisment By Haley Heilbronn
I AM A SUPPORTIVE WIFE TO A FOCUSED, INDUSTRY-DRIVEN HUSBAND AND BUSINESS PARTNER. I AM A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN IN BUSINESS. I AM AN UNSUCCESSFUL WOMAN IN BUSINESS.
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am a perfectionist. I am a perfectionist that continually moves the goal post. I am a serial overachiever. I was diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder. I am a student. I have social issues along with self-confidence issues. Above everything, I enjoy my own company. Enter Motherhood …WTAF?!?! My son is 12 years old. The night he was born, when my husband and my mum left the hospital, and I was alone with this tiny, tiny creation of perfectly pink skinned beauty, I cried my heart out. I cried tears of love, bewilderment, protection, honour, sacrifice, physical pain, and FEAR. I was a wreck. I had no idea what I was up for. The excitement and thought of having a baby with the man I loved, the journey of building this tiny human inside of me and being totally in awe of the female anatomy and physiology in the process of this creation, soon turned to dread. I was not ready to have this baby. I mean, I loved him, and I would do everything in my power to protect him, but I was not prepared for motherhood at all. I put my son in a box – metaphorically speaking. I wanted him to be the most perfect baby/child/son/adult/ boyfriend/husband. I wanted him to be nothing like me. Why did I think that? My self-worth was so limited. I had people-pleased all my life and constantly felt judged and felt I was a repressed failure at everything, especially at motherhood. I would have these anxious thoughts when I would take my son out in public. I would worry he would not be socially accepted, that he would say or do the “wrong” thing. I would constantly make excuses for his actions or give him the eyes and snarl at him. All the while knowing in my heart through my deeply rooted, feminine, ancestral mama-tigress heart that he was a beautiful soul that was naturally embracing life, just like he should. No no no! My over critical, judgment fuelled, devil on my shoulder kept saying “he has to be perfect; he is never going to get anywhere in life if he is not perfect!”. Hang on a minute, was I worried about people judging him, or was I worried about people judging me as a mother? It was both. MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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Through the rituals of self-love and acceptance, by leading a holistic healthy lifestyle with my family, I embrace motherhood and all its unique experiences that it has to offer.
After a catastrophic business failure and a panic attack that lasted over 72 hours, my perception on life changed. My perception on motherhood changed. I realised that my “go-hard-or-go-home”, people pleasing, perfectionism had been thrusted upon my 7-year-old son. My son was holding my hand and comforting me when I was taken to emergency at 3am when I suffered a severe panic attack. He will never unsee that. It is without doubt my biggest regret.
acceptance, by leading a holistic healthy lifestyle with my family, I embrace motherhood and all its unique experiences that it has to offer. But most importantly, I embrace my son, in all his faults and glories. I find solace in his quirkiness and his hate on pollution and his love for animals and our environment. I love that we can do boxing training together and we can talk about femininity and masculinity and how he is accepting and caring to people of all walks of life.
Today our lives are different. Through the rituals of self-love and
He is without doubt my greatest accomplishment.
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Haley Heilbronn Haley is a passionate holistic wellness advocate and a student to Ayurvedic tradition. After her personal struggles with motherhood, a mental illness and operating a fast paced business, Haley has found restitude in the ancient teachings of Ayurveda and her connection with nature. Whilst she is analysing her studies she is preparing to open her own practice offering services to the community with a strong support around nutrition, psychology and counseling, daily routines and body work therapies. She is infectiously passionate to collaborate with other like minded professionals to provide holistic support services to individuals who wish to become the best version of themselves. Haley lives with her family on her farm in Agnes Waters and will be the first in her local area to offer these holistic services through her practice.
Why
Relaxation
is the Key to Intuitive Mothering By Sarah Yip RELAXATION IS THE KEY TO INTUITION – CONNECTING WITH YOUR INNER-TUITION AND TEACHER. AS A MOTHER, THE MORE CONNECTED YOU ARE TO YOUR INTERNAL VOICE, THE LESS YOU WILL DOUBT YOUR OUTER ACHIEVEMENTS. SELF-TRUST IS A GIFT THAT IS PASSED TO YOUR CHILDREN, BOTH ENERGETICALLY AND MENTALLY, SPEAKING.
as practicing yoga and meditation, lifting weights with a PT, taking supplements like magnesium and zinc and changing my beliefs around what a ‘good child’ looks and sounds like, I have become someone who can handle the chattiness of toddlers without losing my cool (at least most days). After educating myself on pregnancy, mediumship, and babies, I also learned that children come here not to sleep, but to wake us up, on every level. I discovered that my lifelong pattern of light sleeping was a great advantage for parenting as I was used to napping and keeping
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hen your family see you pausing before a big decision and checking with yourself, they learn to not rush in life. They develop self-compassion instead of self-doubt. When you take time to restore your energy and rest, instead of running on empty, you also give others permission to say ‘no, I’m at capacity’, instead of pretending to be okay. There is no question that to be a mother is to be a leader – an anagram of the word ‘dealer’. To me, a dealer is someone who not only distributes good/s, but who ‘deals’ with life’s problems on behalf of themselves and others. Until my mid-30’s, I doubted my ability to become a parent, to the point that I developed an eating disorder and stayed in toxic relationships – two strategies which prevented me from falling pregnant. I had the idea that I could never cope with children because I am noisesensitive and used to need 10hrs of sleep a night. After completing a lot of personal growth courses and moving into my psychic career, I realised that my uncertainty was inherited and did not have to be my truth any longer. Through simple steps such MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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The word Mother looks like a bird’s beak opening next to the word ‘other’. Becoming a parent is a challenging choice to make but does not have to be a debilitating one.
my senses on. By removing difficult people from my life and surrounding myself with a loving husband, friends, and clients, I also found I did not need to sleep as much because there was less to ‘detox’ and avoid.
or not, even if he was at day-care or out of sight. Over time, these experiences have rewired my brain and attachment style to be more secure and at ease with the ups and downs of parenting.
As a result, I can honestly say I am a relaxed mother, who truly believes that her children have chosen her, that they are protected at all times by a team of Spirit Guides and who doesn’t feel overwhelmed by the challenges of parenting. Yes, I still hesitate over on decisions like their diet and schooling, but I have learned to ask for help from people who are non-judgemental and have real-world experience. I have purposely created an ecosystem of support and wise elders.
I encourage you to see your children as full Souls, who have possibly had even more lifetimes on Earth than you. Please, listen to their dreams and nurture their passions – so many of the new generation will know their life purpose before they even reach high school.
Many times, I have instantly known when my children needed me, even as newborns. I would feel the urge to run into the bedroom and soccerdive as my son was falling off the bed. I would catch him just as he was about to put something sharp in his mouth. I could tell if he was happy 40
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At the same time, feed yourself first. The word Mother looks like a bird’s beak opening next to the word ‘other’. Becoming a parent is a challenging choice to make but does not have to be a debilitating one. The more you follow your path, the more your children will be willing to follow theirs. Remember to always put the chicken (or Golden goose) before the egg, and you will do wonders for your future Self and all those who are watching you live and learn.
To learn more about the new generation of children (born 2000-), see Why Your Child Chose You, my family numerology webinar available for download at https://sarahyip.com/ products/ I also have classes for developing your intuition and releasing money and business blocks on this page.
Sarah Yip Sarah is a professional psychic from the Gold Coast, Australia who specialises in conscious parenting, 11:11 numerology, palmistry and spiritual education.
Mum Life: W Learning to Embrace Self-Love and Care
By Tammie Pike AS MOTHERS, OUR NATURAL INSTINCT IS TO NURTURE THOSE AROUND US AND WATCH THEM BLOSSOM INTO THEIR BEST SELVES. BUT THERE COMES A TIME, PERHAPS AS WE GET OLDER AND BECOME MORE REFLECTIVE, WHERE WE EXAMINE OUR LIVES WITH GREATER ATTENTION.
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hat we often find is while we’ve dedicated so much of ourselves to helping others grow and mature, we’ve neglected our own
If this description hits a little too close to home, don’t be sorry! Now that you’ve conquered the world and watched others succeed, it’s time to reach your full potential. Here are some easy-to-follow steps that mothers can use to become the woman they’ve always known they could be!
It Doesn’t Have to Be a Holiday to Reward Yourself As mums, we’re not used to being pampered. Instead, we’re wrangling the kids, taking care of business and planning our next day. But listen, mums, we need to embrace self-love to grow and expand into the best version of ourselves. In the following weeks and months, we have a homework assignment for you. Don’t worry: we’re not asking you to solve math questions! Instead, we want you to infuse some holistic practices into your busy lifestyle. Here are a few self-love ideas to consider when planning your day: MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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Spa Day Meditation Acupuncture Naturopath/homeopath/holistic nuturitionist appointment • Aromatherapy • A day out in nature
Once you’ve got a respectable amount saved, spend it on you! Yes, we know this may be challenging at first because you’re a natural giver. But when you learn to reward yourself for being a good mother and healer, your quality of life improves tenfold.
Start a ‘Fun’ Fund
Be Gentle With Yourself
When was the last time you splurged and spent a bit of money on yourself? As any mother knows, when you get a bit of extra cash in your pocket, your first inclination is to spend it on the kids or a family member. While this goes to illustrate what a beautiful soul you are, it can be taken to an extreme.
Finally, we want to encourage mothers out in the world to be easy on themselves. You’ve seen the ups and downs of life, and you’ve learned how to adapt and succeed in the face of setbacks and obstacles, but sometimes you need to rest and rejuvenate.
Instead, we want you to throw a few dollars into your savings account from time to time. While a few dollars here and there won’t seem like much, as the weeks turn into months, this amount will grow exponentially.
Forgive yourself and let go of past mistakes so that you can make room for blessings in the future.
As a mother, the idea of taking time for self-care and healing doesn’t come naturally. We’re so involved in our children’s lives and assisting them with problems that we fail to heal our own. Forgive yourself and let go of past mistakes so that you can make room for blessings in the future.
Tammie Pike "CEO & Creator of Empowered Publishing, Mumpreneur Movement & Loved by Gaia, Tammie has collaborated and worked with the likes of Elizabeth Gilbert, Lisa Messenger, Denise Duffield-Thomas and in March 2021 at the Ultimate Girls Week Away in Vietnam, Gabrielle Bernstein. Since 2015 Tammie has been inspiring the lives of hundreds of thousands of others from around the world on & offline through her coaching, mentoring, courses, retreats, resources & events. Tammie believes that the new way to achieve sustainable success is through priortising self-care, self-belief, collaboration and empowering oneself that enables you to climb unimaginable heights whilst staying grounding and positively influencing those around you. Tammie is here to support others to step into their power by igniting their purpose, awakening their belief and recognising their potential to empower others through sharing their story and lived experiences.
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THE HEALING POWER OF
EFT
Tapping reduces both physical and emotional pain, stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD- any unwanted emotion. It can also be used to improved performance and motivation.
EFT HEALED MY ANXIETY AND MUM GUILT So when I was tapping with an EFT Practitioner about my work stress, weird thoughts about my brother’s suicide came up. I never allowed myself to think about him, it wasn’t
One Mum’s story
By Tash Alexander RUNNING A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS COMES WITH A WHOLE LOT OF STRESS AND MUM GUILT.
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um Guilt is real. It is the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by Mothers when they worry they are falling short of expectations in some way, and it is often worse in working mums. Being a working Mum is a daily juggle. As a Mum, it is hard to put your self-care first, but I discovered a magic wand. Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). EFT has made me feel more present for my family, confident I can run a successful business, grateful for all that I have and my guilt and anxiety is gone. I was just an ordinary stressed out Mum, with a supportive husband and two young teenage boys. That was five years ago. My life was about organising people, working in a management position in a hospital, a business coach, a physiotherapist, running on adrenaline and getting upset with people who were unable to work as efficiently as me. Yes, I was very anxious. My friend suggested I try Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). EFT has the nickname Tapping because it involves using 2 or 3 fingers to tap on acupuncture points on the body, primarily on the head, face and chest in a particular sequence whilst focussing on the issue. MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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• Easily learned • Easily applied to yourself
EFT IS A SELFMANAGEMENT TOOL Once my “big stuff” was cleared, I use EFT to ease the stress of juggling work, family and life. The best thing is, my self care only takes me 10 minutes. I have tapped for feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, stressed about my family, mother’s guilt, plus the self doubt and sabotage that was preventing my business from being everything it can be. And I continue to tap. You too can feel better about having a family and a career and it’s OK to look after yourself. You can even tap on the guilt you feel looking after yourself. Release all the stress and emotional pain stored in your body and become a more successful version of you.
safe. He died when I was 15, and I’m now 48. We realised his suicide was the origins of my anxiety. Through tapping and talking about the abandonment I felt, my anxiety and anger was released, gone in just 2 sessions, and my expectations on others was able to be put in check.
COUNSELLING DIDN’T WORK FOR ME Imagine if I’d discovered a way to release the pain of this trauma when I was 15. I have been off and on anti-depressants and suffered postnatal depression. I’ve had ongoing headaches, muscle tension and feeling on edge. It’s now all gone. This led me down the path of becoming an accredited EFT Practitioner because it not only transformed my life, but also my
family’s. My sons tap for their stress as they need it and our family is closer than ever before. Working with clients both face-toface and online on their anxiety, depression and trauma is incredibly powerful. I help women achieve their goals by clearing those unseen blocks to success.
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Rapid, long lasting results It is a gentle technique No side effects No needles Only you tap on yourself No surgical procedures No Pills or Chemicals No drawn out ‘Tell me your life story’
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Tash Alexander Tash Alexander is an EFT International Accredited Practitioner. She is married and a mother of 2 teenage boys. With a background in Physiotherapy and Medical Education, the research evidence supporting EFT is very important to her. Tash is the owner of The Tapping Room and specialises in trauma, PTSD, anxiety and depression. Tash’s clients get exceptional results either in her Private Practice in Coffs Harbour or remotely via Zoom. Tash is a highly experienced workshop presenter, educating professionals and the community in how to manage their stress effectively and build resilience.
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