RENA & LAURENCE “...Be understanding of each other’s perspectives regardless of the situation. Keep your business ... with youll!! Love unconditionally ... no one is perfect, but someone is perfect for you“ Q. How did you and your spouse meet? A. We originally met in West Elementary school. However, I was smart and he was a class clown LOL. We met as adults on Facebook, he would like all my pics, comments, flirt through messenger and then my fat butt was being greedy when he posted a steak he was cooking, and I commented. Lawd!! LOL, We engaged more via messenger, I finally gave him my number. I had to do some deep research and investigating because of the name and because it was clear he was kind of a male whore, LOL. but now My Husband. Q. What made you realize that this was the person you wanted to marry, and this was the one you wanted to be with for the rest of your life? A. I knew he was My husband when I took him through all the aka test women take their guy through lol. We talked about our future together. He was gentle and kind. He just fit in my life and we went through some test while I was going through a divorce ... he didn’t flinch!! No one or nothing could come in between us and he made that clear back then and still to this day, he makes that clear to me. That alone meant the world. I remember finally going out with him and I was like I don’t have people coming over my house or meeting my kids. He was like “okay’, I respect it “... I was like okay to myself LoL. I remember I was on a girl’s date with coworkers who became
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friends for restaurant week... I was trying to duck him because I was afraid if getting attached to any man and was on my “hell with men” regime lol. He was consistent with communication... followed up with text ... I swear we was just supposed to be each other’s booty call lol. I gave in and was like I don’t feel like going out it’s late I’m already out so you can come over ... I’ll sneak you in. He was like ok ... of course he was with it ... he was a man lol. He came over and never left ... and we built a friendship and relationship that turned into a marriage that we work at every day! Q. What was one of the hardest experiences that you and your spouse had to go through? How did it make the relationship stronger? A. We have a few breaking trust with other women where I had to realize I needed to be more open about how I felt with certain things. My husband is a very charming man. He communicate his feelings and also take kind of a stand and let it be known what is and isn’t acceptable. I also had to take into consideration my husband never had a “real” relationship that requires the things I required from a man. The different topic we have been dealing with 1. baby daddy and baby mamma drama yes! Both of them are equally crazy lol ... one is just more bitter than
the other so it’s a constant annoyance 2. Dealing with mother in-law drama ... I think that was the worst because I’ve never had to deal with that with any man’s family let alone mother, so it was all new and strain on me but my husband not only verbally assured me he was my husband 1st he demonstrates that .. he kept me protected and still does.it bothered me for a while but after I heard her excuse for the nonsense I literally fell out on the floor laughing and at that moment I was reassured that it was definitely all her and had nothing to personally do with me .... and with all of that ... we navigated our way through the past. We learned that you have to acknowledge it, address it , determine if it’s worth our peace as a couple and family. We work through it by talking and sometimes not determining if it’s worth us being apart , can we be apart , do we want to be apart , who are the foxes
