Finding Flow In
Motherhood By Tamara Stiller
AS I BEGIN WRITING THIS ARTICLE FROM MY HOMETOWN OF THE GOLD COAST, AUSTRALIA, I AM MESMERIZED BY THE SURFERS OUT IN THE OCEAN. WHAT A LESSON IN FINDING FLOW!
and unashamedly. Values affect our productivity and release us from the latest trend or from falling into the trap of comparison.
Know how to recharge effectively Do you recognise when you need to recharge throughout your day? When our mobile phone battery is getting flat we take action. We recharge that battery! But where do you recharge your battery on a daily basis? Come up with a handful of go-to activities that will recharge your battery at any given time. Could you use music to change your emotional state? Perhaps getting some movement into your day could make a difference. Try dancing to a track you enjoy or go for a 5-minute walk to give your mind and body a boost. Try stepping outside for some sun and fresh air where possible. Journaling may be up your alley or perhaps meditation could reenergise you.
Be flexible
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ach surfer finds their space and chooses the waves they will ride. These waves come in sets and each individual watches carefully. They are ready to ride the wave. They have learned to embrace the rhythms of the waves. When choosing to ride a wave they consider their skills, board, energy and experience! Finding flow in motherhood is very similar. When we know our skills, surroundings, resources and energy then we can choose which waves are ours! So how do we find that sweet spot? That place where the unexpected moments of motherhood don’t overwhelm or leave you completely
wiped out? Over my years of raising my six children, I have learned a few things I hope might benefit you.
Know Your Values Know what you truly value! I’m talking deep down. What drives you? What do you know that you know? Knowing your values is the greatest filter to the endless possibilities available to you. Too much choice can confuse you and leave you feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Narrow down your options and lessen the noise until you hear the beautiful symphony, the soundtrack perfectly suited to your life. Values empower us to say “Yes” enthusiastically and “No” confidently
Having plans and routines is commendable and can serve us to maintain a harmonious and relaxed home. It is also important to balance this out with the ability to be flexible and spontaneous. Over the years, some of my most precious and powerful parenting moments occurred when I remained flexible. You don’t want to miss those teachable moments or sweet times when there is an ease to things! No agenda. No routine. No discipline. Just being. Your presence and focus at any given moment. Don’t be so organised that you miss these special moments. These are moments you can never recreate.
Teamwork Whether you are a family of 2 or 10, teamwork is key! Imagine for a moment a football team who only focus on their individual skills? Without a coach, a gameplan or strategy, support and positions their game would be utter chaos! Our homes are energized by connection. Invest in your “team”. MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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