THE FORGOTTEN FATHERS BY VICTORIA ROBINSON
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n my first book, They Lied to Us, I compiled stories from women who’d chosen abortion and how this fateful decision forever altered their lives. The first chapter in the book is my own personal story of choosing abortion over three decades ago. My second book, They Lied to Us Too, will be the stories I’ve compiled from men who participated in an abortion. It releases in early 2022. Let me take a moment to explain how and why I concluded that men are hurting from abortion too. When They Lied to Us was going to print fifteen years ago, I felt obligated to call the father of my aborted child to let him know the book would soon be released. Although I gave no identifying indicators of who he was in my story, somehow, I felt a responsibility to tell him. So, I picked up the phone. We hadn’t spoken since we had broken up over ten years prior. Nine out of ten times when an abortion occurs, couples don’t make it. Our relationship proved those facts when it ended not long after we chose to end our child’s life. Following an abortion decision, postabortive men and women report that their relationships began to deteriorate following their abortion decision. As abortion can be a very traumatic experience for the
couple, staying together is a constant reminder of what they’ve done; hence, couples often decide to part ways. Many times, couples don’t realize the part their choice played in fracturing the relationship until years later. The relationship between my boyfriend and me was never the same after our abortion. I never looked at him the same, and frankly, I don’t think he ever viewed me in the same way either. The abortion had changed us. Before our positive pregnancy test, we’d talked and planned how we would spend the rest of our lives together, but afterwards, our abortion became the elephant in the room we never discussed. However, it was always there sitting in the corner. After going through abortion healing, I decided to write my first book. I felt like he should know about it, so I decided to call him. I wanted to assure him there were no identifying factors to expose him. The decision to contact him was not an easy step, but it was something I knew was important. I also felt a sense from the Lord this was the right thing to do. Confident God was with me and would empower me to do it, I picked up the phone.
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